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Why can't I let myself loose weight? Posted: 12/9/2008 4:14:17 PM
Ok, I don't mean to be nitpicky, but if you are asking for support and advice, and then once you get it, you turn around and eat/drink things that are detrimental to your goals (like chocolate)... and then ask for people to "let you have it"? I used to have an addiction ... and did not go to rehab because I wanted to do it on my own. You can too. What is more important to you? Chocolate or your goals? That very brief moment of satisfaction or your overall happiness and well-being? You will just have to get tough with yourself... very tough. Change is hard, even when we want it. You CAN do it. It is hard, but worth it. Good luck.

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Where is your spot? Posted: 12/8/2008 1:33:36 PM
When the man in my life comes up behind me and lightly kisses the nape of my neck . That gives me chills and starts the fire at the same time HELLO!! heh heh I second that!

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Why can't I let myself loose weight? Posted: 12/8/2008 1:20:01 PM
sigh My .02 is that you are rewarding yourself with food. DO NOT DO THAT. Is food the only thing in your life that makes you happy? Probably not, but it may be the most convenient reward - easily accessible, no one to stop you, right? Break the cycle - reward yourself with new clothes because you've lost weight - plan a trip someplace you will have to wear a bathing suit - think positive I'm tired of all people who order a diet-whatever and a big meal... eat a package of 100-calorie chocolates... and then COMPLAIN about not being able to lose weight. If you have a legitimate medical problem that prevents you from losing weight normally, then I have sympathy for you. Otherwise, your last post suggests that no matter how much support and encouragement you receive (from strangers no less), you will continue your path of poor diet and self-pity. EDIT: I wanted to add that I used to be YOU. Except, I lost 70lbs in a year doing what? Drinking beer, eating whatever I wanted, no gym exercise... I was tired of diets, I wanted to LIVE.

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SECRETS... Posted: 12/7/2008 7:18:23 AM
I am quite handy at throwing knives... since I was a teenager.

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Worst thing you/someone else said after sex?? Posted: 12/5/2008 6:45:20 AM
To me: * Shhh, I think my mom's listening at the door... maybe you should sleep under the bed * Your ass is tighter than your pssy So do you think (other girls' name) likes me? * Wow, you left an assprint on the hood of my Camaro... cool. By me: * And so ends another game of "you suck in bed". Sorry I don't have any consolation prizes for you, I think I deserve them.

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REVISED PROFILE ** Build me up or tear me down! Review Me! Posted: 12/4/2008 11:28:18 AM
Have another look and let me know if this is better/more approachable...

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Build me up or tear me down! Review Me! Posted: 12/4/2008 4:58:21 AM
Wow, most guys look at only the pictures? Good thing I'm having some nudes done this month, heh heh (too bad they're not getting posted on here!) Yeah, I agree I should scale it down, and paragraph it up... thanks all!

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Build me up or tear me down! Review Me! Posted: 12/3/2008 1:55:18 PM
All suggestions noted! I honestly don't think I have any flattering pix... I always think I look evil or sarcastic or bored.... My profile prior to what you see now had paragraph structure, but I was getting less views then. That's why I went with the list. However, I asked for critiques, and I'm glad to have them, good or bad.

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Build me up or tear me down! Review Me! Posted: 12/3/2008 12:43:09 PM
LOL - awesome! Thank you. EDIT: Do you have any suggestions for change?

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Build me up or tear me down! Review Me! Posted: 12/3/2008 12:30:03 PM
I notice that I have a LOT of lookyloos, but few messages. Is there not enough, too much? I want to preface your potential review by saying I'm anti-"two sentence", few interest profiles. Thanks to all ~ I'm thick-skinned, go for it!

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breaking up over email, acceptable or not? Posted: 12/3/2008 12:16:39 PM
Dating etiquette should be common sense by now... If you talk online but have never met in person, it is acceptable to end the relationship electronically. Same goes for phone and text "relationships". If you have only had one date in person, I think it's acceptable to end the relationship with a phone call, email or text. It's just nicer if they do it by phone, even if it's a voicemail message (they made the effort to call). If you are seeing/dating someone on an ongoing basis, it would be nice if they met you for coffee, looked in your eyes and told you the truth, whatever that may be. Unfortunately, some people lack the confidence and honesty required to just be a HUMAN BEING. I'm not saying you have to tell them exactly why you don't want to date them anymore (if your reasons are shallow or not), but just to be told in person shows respect and decency, if nothing else.

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Spot tightening after weight loss Posted: 12/3/2008 10:59:56 AM
To piscescoda: You are correct... there is fat covering my abs. That's the reason for my thread. The problem is, if I consume less calories than I'm currently ingesting, I would be dead in a week. To oceanfront220: I'm not suffering from excess skin. This was a bit o' pudge that existed in the same spot before I started gaining weight. It was there when I was 118 lbs and it was there (but more pronounced) when I was 215 lbs. Hopefully, I'll have a better idea of what to do when I've lost the last 20... see how it looks then.

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Spot tightening after weight loss Posted: 11/27/2008 6:02:53 PM
These are all good suggestions... I have tried healthy lower-carb options in the past and although it seemed to work initially, I just could not subsist that way long-term. I understand that I may have to increase protein and fresh vegetables to compensate, and support the additional physical work required to work that specific area. I did not do any "exercise" during the entire time I have been losing weight to this point. I will definitely try something that is only good for me!

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Spot tightening after weight loss Posted: 11/26/2008 9:48:56 AM
Holy feck... 400-500?! Crazy, lol. Will that really help if my muscles are already tight underneath?

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Spot tightening after weight loss Posted: 11/26/2008 9:13:09 AM
I have about 20 lbs to go, but I'm in no hurry. The only concern I have is the bit of chub under my ribcage/around my belly button (it was there before I gained the weight). How do I take this off/spot tighten? I feel my abs suffocating under there (lol) and they're really hard already...

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Body Modification after major weight loss Posted: 11/26/2008 9:10:49 AM
No stretch marks, no extra skin, no surgery, no pills, no diet, no gym, no starving. Noticed on the scale first, then the inches caught up and kept pace. Sep 07 215 lbs (approx) Oct 08 145 lbs Goal 130-140 by Dec 2008

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Weight Loss that has worked for me (personal experience) Posted: 11/26/2008 8:59:30 AM
Congrats on taking control of your health... it must have been hard for you to be trying all those years, with little to no result and people with little to no sympathy for your physical situation. Personally, I have never been a toothpick. In fact, I was probably found on the doorstep, I am so unlike my relatives (in MANY ways, lol). I am short and curvy, they are all tall and thin. Good luck to you in your quest for better health!

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If someone stands you up, should you make a stand? Posted: 11/23/2008 9:42:34 AM
Every life experience should be treated as a unique moment, with no prejudgment. The first person I met off a dating site many years ago, it was our first date and my friend's dad died. I made a decision to go to my friend, but I still called to let my date know I wouldn't be coming. My date sent me flowers the next day. This shows he is genuinely interested in me. I met someone on POF and we had a really bad first date (really don't want to go into it), but afterwards he said he had a really great time and wanted to see me again. Two weeks later he gets a girlfriend. I wish him luck and go on my merry way. He breaks up with his girlfriend and asks to see me again. Against my better judgment, I give him a second chance. He stood me up. The next day he apologizes by email, with a laundry list of excuses. Whether or not his excuses are real, he cannot possibly be interested in me as much as he claims. Actions speak louder than words.

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Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..? Posted: 11/22/2008 9:00:54 AM
Someone who cheats is a coward and immature, plain and simple. I have never cheated because I can be honest with myself and the person I have a relationship with, that it isn't working and we both need to move on. Case closed.

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Best Pickup Lines for Women to Use Posted: 11/22/2008 7:39:57 AM
I'm cold... take off your pants. I need you to check me for cancer... everywhere. Want to play a game? It's called "you suck in bed". LMAO... I have NEVER used a pick up line in my life. Feel free to use these and let me know if they work. Women don't need pick up lines... they just have to be breathing (sometimes).

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why do men think they can use women for sex? Posted: 11/22/2008 7:35:08 AM
Did you want to have sex with him? That's your answer. If he doesn't call or acknowedge your existence, that's just him. Go out there, be yourself, do not let bad experiences sour you, and always make decisions you take responsibility for.

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Can women like sex, just for the thing itself? Posted: 11/22/2008 7:30:32 AM
HELL YES. I know many different women; different ages, backgrounds and life experiences. They all approach sex in different ways: - a dirty secret or shameful to enjoy - so prudish they can only manage missionary or "vanilla" sex play - some will experiment only if their significant other initiates - aggressive, know what they want, hold you down on the bed/against the kitchen counter and take it-types Some women attach a deep emotional connection with sharing a most intimate act. Others do not. Women are all different. The point is to know what YOU like.

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Do Women go for submissive men? Posted: 11/22/2008 7:21:21 AM
It all depends. I believe people should be looking for an EQUAL, a partner. Unless you like being controlled, mommied/daddied, and sink into a shell of yourself. I want a man who is just as aggressive as I am... GRRR! lol

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Songs of the lovemaking variety? Posted: 11/22/2008 7:16:46 AM
Anything aggressive and LOUD (cause I am ;) and the neighbours already think a serial killer lives downstairs) Air Supply, REO Speedwagon, Lionel Ritchie etc is BANNED from my iPod

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 11/22/2008 7:11:53 AM
Sir, you cannot generalize all women's habits. Did you ever consider that perhaps your cum is not as delicious as you imagine? Next time you are "meditating", why don't you give it a try and swallow? Personally, it is a case by case basis. And other times, I will aim it at his face... for grabbing my ears.

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What is your biggest obstacle to committing to a relationship? Posted: 11/22/2008 7:04:58 AM
Jealousy. It seems like every man I date wants to keep me all to himself... then again, I am pretty great ;) I need to find someone completely secure. That no matter how I dress or who I talk to or hang out with, I am his.

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