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3b83

Joined: 9/1/2008

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Can a man get over his X after being with her for 20 years and fall in love again?? Posted: 9/8/2008 9:42:47 PM
It does'nt matter how long you were together. If you are open to love then it will come again. There are billions of peolpe out there, BILLIONS. So there has to be more then one Mr. Right out there.

3b83

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Trying to understand this Posted: 9/8/2008 9:40:21 PM
I'm a woman, and I'd have to say it depends on the situation. If you are just getting out of a bad relationship. I would'nt advise it, because it's easy to slip in to the whole " hero syndrome" thing. That's when you get out of a relationship ends and you find someone really quick and they make you feel better so you take that as being love rather then seeing it for what it is " the honeymoon phase" were everything is peaches and cream. But if you are just looking for one thing, them by all means, have at it. You don't have to wash their clothes, cook for them, listen to their bull, or any of that. They just deliver the "package" and their work there is done. You roll over, they see themselves out and your done with it

3b83

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what makes you lose respect for your partner? Posted: 9/7/2008 9:00:59 PM
lyra, With my last relationship I lost respect for him because he had none for me. He was married and I never knew. I was going along and living my life. Then one day I see this woman and shes acting all weird. Im like why do you keep staring at me? Shes like you dont know me? I said hell no, now why are you staring at me like that. She tells me that her and her husband had recently "taken a break" from each other and that the man that I was living with, that I was building a life with and had a kid with was the same man. And thats just how she said it. I didnt know what to do. I didnt know what to say. But believe me I lost all respect for him that day. and we broke up four months later because he wouldnt divorce her.

3b83

Joined: 9/1/2008

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Is It Cheating If Its Only Online???? Posted: 9/6/2008 11:16:45 PM
I think its cheating too. That is a horrible thing to do. How would they feel if they were being done like that? I think that its only a matter of time until the online thing wont be enough and meetings and hookups will start happening. Its like smoking. You start off with a few a day until you have a 4 pack a day habit

3b83

Joined: 9/1/2008

Msg: 188 (view)

When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?. Posted: 9/6/2008 11:14:31 PM
Little things do add up. Maybe that was the icing on the cake for her. You have to look at it from her standpoint too. Maybe to her that was inconsiderate. Or maybe she felt like you didnt care because you knew she didnt like that but you did it anyway. I think that little gadget would have solved that problem but its the underlying problems that would have killed the relationship in the end. But I understand where you come from when you say if you lift it she can too. I personally hate touching the toilet seat. So I bought one of those peddle things you step on. Step on: lid goes up Step off: lid goes down. Just a thought

3b83

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What's up with all the misogyny and misandry here? Posted: 9/6/2008 11:07:24 PM
you cant say all about anything. Like they say theres always exceptions to the rules

3b83

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Calling Kids baggage Posted: 9/6/2008 11:04:37 PM
Yashnaa I think you are wrong. Achild is never baggage a child is a peson. A living breathing person with a mind and a heart and a soul. People who call them baggage are idiots. Ok so they dont have kids, but if they did would they be so quick to call them that? It is derogatory. If you are not intrested then say Im not intrested because you have kids. And Im with her if someone called my smart, beautiful, loving, caring little girl baggage Id be p!ssed too. And Id tell him where he could go promtly

3b83

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Do you see divorced people as damaged goods? Posted: 9/6/2008 10:49:24 PM
Ive replied to one of your posts before. Im starting to think you're a d!ck. Young people who have been divoced are not damaged goods. They just married before they knew who they were and when they grew up, they realized they were bad for each other. You cant say all divorced people are damaged goods. If anything the majority of them are more ready to be in a relationship because they know what is that they want and dont want. And as far as a woman with a kid being ruined in your eyes. Thats great cause who needs a d!ck like you raising their kids. This coming from a single parent of one. And the "minority" isnt the men who would raise another mans child, because couples adopt, men remarry, and women get sperm doners, the "minority" of men are men like you who are not men at all. Because weather or not the child is yours children need love, and affection. And if you are too stupid to know that, then who needs you anyway.

3b83

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-MIRRORS ALWAYS REFLECT IN REVERSE- Posted: 9/6/2008 10:32:50 PM
Sounds like my ex too. He would continuosly accuse me of sleeping around. I never understood why until reading this. Thanks for putting a name with the face so to speak.

3b83

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Does the size of the ring matter ? Posted: 9/6/2008 10:26:08 PM
I think the size of the ring depends on the woman. I am a woman and I would like a nice ring, but not gawdy, I like delicate intricate things. And I like alexandrite and saphire more then I like diamonds. I ilke diamonds but I love colored stones so Id want a coored stone with little diamonds rather then a big rock

3b83

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I have a boyfriend, but i am attracted to someone i work with!? Posted: 9/6/2008 10:21:38 PM
Kissandtell, Ithink you should weigh your options. 1.Will this person love and know you like the present bf? 2. Will it be all its cracked up to be? 3. Are you both intrested? 4.Are you willing to give what you have. and so on and so forth. These questions will help you make the right I hope. Good luck

3b83

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what if your soul mate is NOT financial stable Posted: 9/6/2008 10:11:55 PM
I am not being holy or preachy, but I feel like this. When God made Eve, Adam already had a place to live( the garden) A job(tending the garden and the animals) and she wouldnt ever go hungry( you may eat from all these trees except from the tree of good and evil) Enough said. If God did it like that who are we to argue?

3b83

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Prenuptial - maintaining physique - is it reasonable? Posted: 9/6/2008 10:06:24 PM
Well Gapeman. There are a lot of reasons that a body can change. I figure that you mean gainig weight, because you said let themselves go. But what if the person lost an arm or leg? Would that be justified? I mean it is a physical change, isnt it? What if they got burned in a fire, or had a stroke, those would change the physical appearance too, right? So, would you divorce? So what if she gained some weight, are you sure having kids or dealing with an azzhole husband that would put weight gain in the prenup, arent the reason it happened? My grandfather lost his the use of his legs and couldnt have sex anymore do you know that my granny never once talked divorce. Thats a marrige. But I dont figure, with love like that, that they would sign a prenup anyway. Oh and just a thought, if the man I was with put that in the prenup, trust and believe that there would be a line about erectile dysfunction. "Better Keep it up" Or youll be the one getting the ax. And I believe dealing with a limp noodle deserves half of everything "LADIES"

3b83

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Pick one: Love or respect Posted: 9/6/2008 9:46:08 PM
I would have to say respect. Without respect there cant be love anyway. Because a man must respect you if he is to love you, otherwise you are no more then a booty call. Respect says " I will value her opinions, I will respect her boundries, I will fight for her honor, an I will protect her. Even a healthy sexual relationship has to based on respect. You have to respect each others likes and dislikes, you have to be open to feedback and opinions, and you must respect them. So Id say RESPECT, hands down

3b83

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Quality versus quantity. Posted: 9/6/2008 12:21:56 AM
"QUALITY" Theres nothing worse then getting a quickie as they are called and not cumming. Id rather take time to hear him moan and see his face.

3b83

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She just came out and said it. Posted: 9/6/2008 12:17:57 AM
Im a pretty out spoken person now. And a lot of people find it rather amusing not because Im rude or anything just because i have a strange way of looking at things Hey at least she didnt show you her new twins

3b83

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Why do professional athletes always have hot wifes. Posted: 9/6/2008 12:09:19 AM
You know why they have " hot" wives? Because they can afford to keep them hot thats why. I remeber my ex used to say " why dont you be like her, she keeps her hair done she always has her make up on." and blah blah blah. So I told him You get me a hair dresser and make up artist to keep me looking like that and a maid and chef to cook while im getting worked on. Also i need a good cosmetic surgeon to do nips and tucks. When you have enough money to supply me with those things Ill be more then obliged to look like her, but until then " SHUT YOUR BROKE AZZ UP"

3b83

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Who gets more nervous?? Posted: 9/5/2008 11:58:40 PM
I am a woman and I think that men probably have more of a rough time then women. It takes a lot for a woman to be a bad lover but the man has to worry about, did she cum does she like it will I satisfy her and all that stuff. All we have to do the first time is lay back and enjoy. Now when it comes to the oral (because i dont do that the first time) We get uptight. But Im confident with my skills now so I dont think that I would be so scared now

3b83

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Do women really get wet panties without getting physical? Posted: 9/5/2008 11:46:47 PM
Yes, I remember my ex called me at work and started telling me what he was gonna do to me and i got so "moist" Ill say that i had to take them off . I had to go all the way till lunch comando under my dress I was so embarased

3b83

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Do women enjoy masterbation and being watched? Posted: 9/5/2008 11:40:26 PM
I used to love for my ex to watch me. I would set a chair right at the foot of the bed and light a million candles. Then Id let him watch and Id do it over and over and over until he jumped on me like a mad man. Thats why I love being a woman the Possibilities" are endless. And I sure took advantage of that

3b83

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Ladies, how do you let your partner know you're in the mood? Posted: 9/5/2008 11:37:10 PM
I usually put on something next to nothing and a pair of really hot shoe. And walk around for a while an if tha doesnt work I unzip his pants with my teeth It works every time

3b83

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woman bad in bed? Posted: 9/5/2008 11:32:19 PM
I am a woman and for a long time I was afraid to let go and moan, scream or even move. My ex always would ask why I was so uptight so on night I got really drunk and the next day he told me that I was so much fun last night that he wanted to get me drunk every night. What he didnt know was that I was pretty wated but not as wasted as he thought I was so from then on I just started loosening up. So from that I would say, a fridgid girl makes a bad lover.

3b83

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How many times a day can you handle havin sex??!!! Posted: 9/5/2008 11:24:09 PM
Now thats what Im talking about. Dont get me wrong, I can go like the energizer bunny but a good long screw beats short "alright screws any day

3b83

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Women making overt moves to initiate sex Posted: 9/5/2008 11:09:25 PM
We like it as much as you guys do. So we do things like bending over in your face or sliding our nice soft hineys across your lap when standing in a tight space. Ive evengone so far as to let my ex " accidently" see me lathering up my naughty bits in the shower. He really liked that. I acted as if i didnt see him looking and made sure to spend a little extra time on them too. So I would have to say yeah we try to ambush you all sometimes. But all is fair in love and war

3b83

Joined: 9/1/2008

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Why do men fall for the crazy, neurotic types? Posted: 9/5/2008 11:01:01 PM
Thats right sister We are more unpredictable too. You walk in to our house and get you clothes torn off. But when we love we love hard

3b83

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Does your weight affect your sex life?! Posted: 9/5/2008 12:15:07 AM
I am a healthy woman and my weight never affects me sexually. I see it like this, when you walked over here and talked to me you saw that i wasnt a size two. So if you continued to talk to me there must be something you like. Im not going to go home, take my clothes off and uncover a small body no, I was fat in my clothes and Ill be fat out of them. I say dont be ashamed and if the reason you are ahamed is because of someone else dump em. Easier said then done but I dont know why cause if they dont love you enough to cultivate you and love you for who you are they dont deserve you. Plus whose to say being in that bad relationship isnt the reason you started to gain te weight anyway?

3b83

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If asked...would you tell a current partner the truth about their skills compared to an ex? Posted: 9/5/2008 12:06:45 AM
I say dont ask a ? you dont want to know the answer to. I asked my ex that and he told me it was somebody else. I was pissed I jumped out of bed and told him he could have the B*TCH. We faught all night long about it Then he asked if he could make it up to me by giving me some good loving I allowed him to have sex with me but I never looked at him the same. We stayed together for about another year and then I broke it off. So I say dont ask or dont tell 9 if it isnt that person)

3b83

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What's wrong with a little biting? Posted: 9/4/2008 11:56:38 PM
Im with you Theres nothing better then having doggy with a guy and having him bite like an animal. I love that it whips me into a frenzy Im like the devil

3b83

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Your s.o. having pictures of previous lovers Posted: 9/4/2008 11:48:30 PM
I dealt with it and was pissed. If I am here what do you need those for I told him its me or them What if he would have said them

3b83

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in the pink and in the stink.. does this really work for you? Posted: 9/4/2008 11:46:08 PM
I love it I just dont know how to ask my boyfreind to do it for me. He did it once before and I wasnt expecting it but I really liked it . bUT HE NEVER DID IT AGAIN Maybe me squirting all down his leg wasnt enough of a give away

3b83

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Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex Posted: 9/4/2008 11:42:28 PM
I would. I dont really care for it, if I could cum from it I might feel different. I really havent had that much experience either Ive only been with one man and he sucked. So I really didnt like it. I would rater have him finger me then fill up the holes then for him to give me oral. Freak of nature I guess

3b83

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What the hell are you doing? oh my god dont stop. Posted: 9/4/2008 11:33:34 PM
My ex and I were doing it doggy style when he slid he thumb into my naughty place at first i didnt know what to do because I had never had it that way before, but he always would say that it looked like I was opening up as he went deep. At first I was going to make him stop But the little bit of pain made it better he didnt go in and out he just put it in and left it there. Needless to say I squirted all down his thighs and the lady that lived upstairs was beating on the floor so hard that the ceiling almost fell in but I really liked it. Now if I only knew how to ask him for that withoutfeeling like a tramp

3b83

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having sex with 2 guys at the same time!! Posted: 9/4/2008 11:26:25 PM
I always thought about it but I never did it. I guess the same reason why men think its so great to be with two women is the same reason I think it would be great to be with two men. Just think what is better then d*ck? Two of them. I guess I just couldnt get past the rep. Girls who do things like that are considered nasty, and i dont want to be looked at like that. Pluss, if you do that with your guy how will he feel about you afterwards. Will he think of you as less then or will he start thinking, Hummm, I wonder if she liked him mre then me. Cause thats what I would be thinking if I was the guy

3b83

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Guys that don't get off from Oral sex Posted: 9/4/2008 11:21:53 PM
Where have you been all my life? I love to give orally but it really p!sses me off when he cums before I even get any So I wouldnt have a problem with you not cumming from me giving you oral. Id love it. My ex would always do that, Id please him and then hed roll over and tell me Ill give you some in the morning. Id want to kick him out the bed But if you cant cum, dont push yourself just enjoy it when it happens and then give it to your girl Im sure she would appreciate it:

3b83

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Best position for BBw Posted: 9/4/2008 11:16:35 PM
I kinda like doggy myself but Im very limber so I really like missionary too. There is one though that all big women should try. Its called the huckle buck, if you can bend like that DO IT! Any way the man puts your feet under his armpits or you can out your feet together in front of his chest then he leans forward on them and gives it to you this way. My ex wasnt all that well indowed but He felt like a horse when we did ti like that!

3b83

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I hate it when men do this during lovemaking Posted: 9/4/2008 11:12:02 PM
I say you get a strap on and give him some real anal I havent ever had this happen and so I cant really say what Id do. But about the not fresh comment Thats what the shared shower is for. that way you know hes clean "back there" Or you can go to the drug store and buy some finger condoms. They are for people in the food prep. business so cuts are covered but Im sure they would work for you

3b83

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Your first time:Was it memorable or forgetable? Posted: 9/4/2008 11:07:18 PM
My first time was ok. It could have been better, The guy was older and was scared he was going to hurt me rather then jsut doing what felt right. But he was gentle and I guess thats what matters

3b83

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One for the girls.... Oral sex after intercourse Posted: 9/4/2008 11:05:23 PM
I love this, my ex told me that I was the first girl to do that to him and as soon as my mouth touched him he almost exploded. I dont really think it is nasty cause I know where Ive been and know how clean I am. So I dont have any problem doing it and after seeing his response to it I did it all the time just to see his eyes roll in the back of his head About the taste, I dont know about you girls but Id rather taste mine then his any day

3b83

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Are women as visually stimulated as men? Posted: 9/4/2008 11:00:56 PM
I would have to say women are visual creatures too. Nothing is better then seeing your man just getting out of the shower dripping wet and naked as a jay bird. Especially if he looked like you But we are not going to play out a whole sex scene in our minds like some men have tendecies of doing. But yesss we love to look too

3b83

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Ladies That hate recieving oral sex Posted: 9/4/2008 10:48:36 PM
I wont say I hate it, Id just would rather have him give me fingers and me give him oral. Nothing like making a man scream like a banchee I guess its because i just cant cum like that it feels good dont get me wrong I would just rather have him inside me rather then licking around down there. Like I said it feels good and all I just like penetration better.

3b83

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foot fetish Posted: 9/4/2008 10:43:46 PM
As I posted before. I love a man with a foot fetish. I keep my toes done nicely and I dont care where i am I can spot them out everywhere. Just someting for you to think about. I have long toes, no corns or bunions. My toe nails are Hot pink with little pink and turquiose jewels on them and i have a toe ring on each foot. One gold one silver. Think of me tonight!

3b83

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If you could be the opposite sex for a day...... Posted: 9/4/2008 10:20:53 PM
If I could be a guy for one day. I would pee and write my name in the snow. Then I would find a cutie and gie it to her real good. Being that I was a woman before I would know when i was doing it right. Then I would have to get a Bj . just to see what the hype was all about. Then Id probably just wack off the rest of the day

3b83

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Clothes on or Clothes Off Posted: 9/4/2008 10:16:29 PM
Heck no. I dont want there to be anything in the way, if he wants a nipp. I dont want a shirt or anything to be in his way!!!

3b83

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footfetish Posted: 9/4/2008 10:13:18 PM
Well I think that you just havent met the right girl. I keep my toes done just so I can meet the foot lovers. I remeber one time I was in the elevater on the way to an interview and this guy looked down and saw my hot pink toe nails with the light pink hearts, then saw the gold toe ring and I saw him put the folders in front of hi buldge. Needless to say I was lmao. But I really liked it.

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