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Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/23/2009 5:27:08 PM
I am with you sue, I love a big ol bear hug. I think we all need to disassociate affection from sex. Not that I am not into giving plenty of affection to a partner. Affection should be shown to all the close people we have in our lives. Heck I have even been able to give a big ol man hug to some of my male friends. This world would be a better place if we started to think about others more and not so much of ourselves. Give and show love through affection..

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/23/2009 5:13:54 PM
I would say that the statistics may be somewhat accurate, but what they don't account for is the emotional problems between partners. When you are having problems in that department you go to the doc and get a pill, it may or may not work. If it doesn't work my opinion is that a lot of the time you just don't want to do it with the ol lady that is causing so much misery in your life or you have a serious medical problem. With a loving partner it can come back and be great with or without the pill. Cialis worked so well for me it overcame the mental block.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 11/22/2009 10:59:49 AM
We are going to meet again. When you spend 8 hours with someone on a first date and don't want to chew your arm off at some point to get away, I look at it as a good sign. I decline to get into this childish debate on who pays, yadda yadda...

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 11/21/2009 8:47:15 PM
Just went on a first date to a local bar for burgers and fries. She sent her grandson up to pay before I had chance to. Does that make me a cheapskate or is she a jewel.. I did thank her.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

Msg: 66 (view)

Birth Control for Men???? Posted: 11/12/2009 7:49:07 PM
Had a vasectomy about ten years ago. Some say not too bad a deal but was a definite drop in virility for a year or two. Besides I think you should have the number of kids you want right away and then quit. There are too many people on this planet as it is and there are certainly some people who are not qualified to be parents anyway. There should be a test to qualify you for parenthood that is harder than a driver's license test for sure..

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

Msg: 121 (view)

The most important virtue over 60...for women and men. Posted: 11/11/2009 6:22:31 PM
Honesty and a sense of humor which overcomes the lack of any of the other virtues...

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Is kissing more or less important to you in a relationship as you get older? Posted: 8/9/2009 4:57:18 PM
I have done more kissing in the last three weeks with the new gf than in the last three years of my defunct marriage. It is wonderful. I can't get enough of it. Good kissing is definitely better than bad sex.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Tan lines. Hot or not? Posted: 6/25/2009 6:50:16 PM
Don't care about the tan LINES, I like the white parts..

Uncle Grumpy

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Why are the Good Ones so far away??? Posted: 6/16/2009 3:39:55 PM
The last two women that I dated more than twice, were both an hour away. Is that long distance? I don't think so, but sure it was inconvenient. That is what I see from a lot of fish here. They want convenient, with every little requirement all lined up. If you really want to find what you are looking for you are just going to have to make the effort. The rest are satisfied to come on the forums as jokers and naysayers. In the area I just moved to my matches look like this. Within 25 miles 6 matches. Within 50 miles 8 more. Within 75 miles another 60 but only half have been online in the last 30 days. So it is obvious to me that if I am going to find the one I am looking for, I'm going to have to consider long distance, whatever that is. Another statistic.. my town of 900 has 12% single, widowed or divorced. Estimate 6% female, that's 54. Now how many of those would be in my age range of 47-62 and still interested maybe 2. Wonder where they are? So it looks like the odds are not in my favor, but I am still trying

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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The Funniest Joke In The World! Seriously! Posted: 6/15/2009 7:32:58 PM
Way back to the original joke.. Two hunters were out hunting and one accidentally shot the other. In the emergency room the hunter asks the doc, " do you think he will make it." the doc says "he would have if you hadn't gutted him first"

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Who pays for a cancelled LD trip? Posted: 6/14/2009 6:26:07 PM
I don't understand why you did not pay for the ticket in the first place. You say you have a credit card.. Would be a big flag to me if I were the woman. And now you want to be reimbursed? Sounds like there was not the connection to begin with. Take your lumps and go home.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Funny, but real names... Posted: 6/13/2009 6:40:03 PM
knew a guy named Hazel. Also one who's last name was Daylong. We called him Night Short. Pissed him off and he used to chase us.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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First POF dating experience Posted: 6/13/2009 2:09:50 PM
My first experience with dating was when I was quite naive about the process. Went to a nice restaurant for first date. I did notice she didn't look a lot like her photo and was a lot heavier than I thought she would be. After 3 dates I decided to investigate and found she was quite older than depicted. She had the chance to tell me but didn't and I ended it. The next was quite a ways away and after 3 dates again, she asks me what I am looking for and I tell her a committed exclusive relationship. She says she is not ready for that and proceeds to explore my tonsils. Two down and to go. The third got the nice restaurant treatment and the next day invites me to stay over. Third and ten. The next was a great gal. Went for the coffee thing this time. We talked for almost three hours. We dated twice and talked often. Turns out she was also dating another. He got the nod. A couple months later she shows back up and we try a couple more dates and she just isn't interested. We are still friends The last one lasted 3 months, with numerous dates, trips and me making a lot of effort. Turns out that she has some property for sale out of state and when the money comes in she is off to play with her girlfriends and I am out the door... Even with all the piss poor results, you have to keep trying. If not it is something that you really don't want.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that? Posted: 6/12/2009 6:32:13 PM
Dear Op, I did not read this entire thread but I have another take on this. My problem seems to be finding somebody OUR age able to keep up with me. I can walk ten miles in the mountains and I seem to have problems finding someone who can walk around the block. So many are so out of shape. No wonder some are having problems and needing chemical enhancements. Don't need it myself. I am not interested in the youngsters. Give me a mature woman with some fire and some spunk any day.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

Msg: 347 (view)

Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND? Posted: 6/11/2009 5:19:25 PM
Sure did in my wild and younger years. Not interested now in my wise? and older years. Although have had the opportunity. Looking for ms right and she will get the goods.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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What would it take for two weeks of Ecstasy? Posted: 6/11/2009 4:42:09 PM
Heck yes two weeks of ecstasy. Why not. Have been in love a few times . All were great while they lasted. Who knows how long it will last. Living in the present is what counts. Filly I am really happy for you. Hope it lasts longer than two weeks.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Is it too late to dream? Posted: 4/26/2009 5:20:12 PM
Never too late to dream. My success with property has not been that good. But my brother bought two old houses, rents one and went all out with off the grid. He researched, got the local authorities to approve a code for straw buildings and insulated his house with straw bales covered with stucco. Then he set up a wood burner in the basement. And now is producing bio diesel from recycled cooking oil. He runs his vehicle on it and has a small stove that burns it. The next is to get off the electric grid. It can be done. Dream on.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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percentage lying about age Posted: 4/11/2009 4:31:35 PM
Of the dozen or so women I have met in the last year only one (that I know of) She also had an old photo. I don't see the need or the point. I don't lie about that or anything else. Have a good friend that plays the game and dates women a lot younger. It only works for a little while.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Am I doing this correctly? Posted: 4/11/2009 3:26:39 PM
I too have found that most look better than their pictures. At least the ones that their picture is current!

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

Msg: 529 (view)

Why would anyone want to date you? Posted: 4/9/2009 7:18:54 PM
Sweet a great guy a nice guy a gentleman chivalrous fun funny Hasn't gotten me anywhere

Uncle Grumpy

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Thin fella's and bigger women!! Whats the deal ?? Posted: 4/9/2009 5:04:26 PM
I am 6' 1" and weigh about 155. I have been the same weight since high school. I can't gain any more weight even when I try. It is mostly muscle and yea I do have bony hips. What I want in a woman is that she can get out and move and at least try to keep up with me. I will wait if you are out of breath. Although I have always been attracted to petite women I don't care what size you are. A reasonable amount of fitness and a brain and a big heart are a lot more important.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Wishing to Reconnect with Lovers from our Youth Posted: 4/9/2009 3:05:16 PM
An interesting set of stories. Mine are a couple of years ago I called an old girlfriend from my late 20's on a whim. She instantly called me by my full name and we had a very nice conversation. She has two sons, is happily married and rides her own Harley. I couldn't have been more happy for her. I haven't called since. She was the right one at the wrong time. I see my old high school sweetheart every once in a while in my hometown. Happily married too. She still looks hot. Have only one other that I would like to see but it has been 35 years and why ruin a good memory.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Are You Just As Foolish As Ever? Posted: 4/9/2009 2:38:00 PM
I don't think I was that foolish BM (before marriage) but now fools rush in and and get played. SO that makes me for ever? Hope not.

Uncle Grumpy

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Get that dog off the bed! Posted: 4/8/2009 8:18:15 PM
All of the women I have met in the last year have had dogs, every one of them. So it looks like the odds are into doggie snuggles. LOL. Doesn't bother me unless I am the one kicked out.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Maturity and Honesty?? Posted: 4/5/2009 9:04:34 PM
I am afraid that you do not know what a Professional rock chucker is capable of. We can send them skipping into hyperspace. Live long and prosper.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Maturity and Honesty?? Posted: 4/5/2009 5:38:31 PM
Op if you email me I will definitely return it. Heck I even have a new philosophy of returning an email to all who view me. I mean they can turn that off so maybe they are shy. Have plenty of time being unemployed so what does it hurt. Not likely that we are going to find mr/ms right anyway. It is kind of fun and eye opening.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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re: Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met Posted: 4/1/2009 6:16:12 PM
The last person I dated off of here, the first thing she said was " well you do look like your pictures". Unfortunately that was the high light. The first one told me I needed to gain about 30 lbs. I refrained from telling her she could stand to loose 30.

Uncle Grumpy

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Dating while unemployed Posted: 3/31/2009 8:53:31 PM
Was dating someone and it was going well. About a month in lost my job and all of a sudden it changed. I think that a lot of it was her fear of my leaving and abandonment issues. But anyway she did end it lately. We got along fabulously and had dated for almost three months. I was ready to change my area of work in order to stay here but now I will need to go elsewhere. I emailed all of my recent viewed you people today and put it in there that I was unemployed. I was surprised to hear from some that it didn't matter but they all seemed to be from far away. So I don't know what the answer is and that we had all better try to be open minded and take care of each other.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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What are the odds? Posted: 3/28/2009 6:48:21 PM
Yeah, I get these from young Russian girls. Sounds and looks pretty good at first, then I sober up. 000000000000000

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Stepping out of the box Posted: 3/28/2009 6:11:44 PM
There are a lot of us in that same boat. Am unemployed for the first time in my life and everything is in a turmoil. Don't panic and remain true to yourself. This too will pass. You are a nice looking lady, you will survive. Good luck to you.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Calling All Divorcees Posted: 3/27/2009 3:40:10 PM
Wow what a lot of sad stories. Makes me wonder why any of us on here are looking to go through it again. Divorce #1 she cheated less than a year in and I moved out and on. But she filed. #2 was after 19 years and was as much my fault as hers. She was in constant need of validation from emotional abuse from her father growing up. I was unable to give her the emotional support she needed. Got to the point that we could not meet each others needs and she filed, changed her mind and filed again. We get along and try our best to meet the needs of our children.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Sex for men: conquest vs the act? Posted: 3/23/2009 4:23:44 PM
Shirley, Even though I am fairly new to the dating scene, I have turned down a couple. Was kind of a shock especially on a first date. Back in my younger days it would have never happened but values and needs change. Am looking more for a connection first these days. Ah the good old days. Not.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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WHAT IS THIS SPARK PEOPLE ARE SEARCHING FOR? Posted: 3/16/2009 9:12:56 AM
I used to think that the spark was something that developed over time. Recently I met someone that for the first time ever, a physical shock that felt like an electrical shock hit me in the first five seconds. Really unexpected. The important thing is find out if there is any fire under that spark, and that takes time.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Have all the really older guys given up? Posted: 3/15/2009 7:29:05 PM
No not ready to give up and never will. We have a lot to give if we are willing to go there and not worry about it. Have been dumped a few times lately but not ready to roll over and play dead. Life is to be lived in the now, the past is to be forgotten about and the future is not here yet. And I am not a really older guy.

Uncle Grumpy

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old dogs learning new tricks Posted: 3/15/2009 6:49:15 PM
Took me 19 years from start to finish to get my degree. Best thing I ever did. My ex father in law got his degree at 60. Now I am thinking this ol dog is going to learn some new tricks. It is never too late.

Uncle Grumpy

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Does Our Choice of Pet Reflect Who We Date? Posted: 3/15/2009 5:25:20 PM
Over the last few months every one of my dating people have had dogs. And every one of them, I mean the dogs, have liked me. I miss them, I mean the dogs. My Lab is having withdrawals from her friends going away.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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What was I thinking? Posted: 3/15/2009 1:04:34 PM
After thinking about this thread, it took me quite a while to start thinking at all. Hitchhiked and picked up hitchhikers. Drove fast cars very fast including 100 mph on gravel! Drove around Mexico with a backpack full of weed and got stopped at a road block. Went home with women I didn't know. Ventured 10 miles off shore in a 12ft. inflatable boat at Cabo. And probably a few more that I can't think of. Come to THINK of it, life seems kind of boring these days.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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I Like them Firm. How about you? Posted: 3/10/2009 7:13:02 PM
Shook hands with a lineman for the San Francisco Giants one time . My hand hurt for 2 months.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Positive influences Posted: 3/5/2009 8:32:22 PM
My grandparents, both sides homesteaders in Nebraska for the influence of hard work and appreciation of the simple life. Neal Donald Walsch for Conversations with God that allowed me to overcome the fear and retribution of a Catholic upbringing Eckhart Tolle for showing me a way of living in the now and giving up on fear of the future and regret for the past.

Uncle Grumpy

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Advice on a sudden overdriven libido Posted: 3/5/2009 8:21:00 PM
I agree we don't have a clue on this one either. That's why we sometimes have problems. We try to have a clue but it is hopeless. So you all have to help us out. We need it. I wish you the best and good luck.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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what do u do better than any1? Posted: 3/5/2009 7:15:20 PM
I can put my hands between my legs and on the floor in front of my toes and hop like a bunny, forwards and backwards. Try it if you dare.

Uncle Grumpy

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Advice on a sudden overdriven libido Posted: 3/5/2009 5:00:53 PM
Hey fellas watch out the hormones are a ragin, and you know what that means for us, Trouble. It will be our fault somehow. Young or old or in between it is always a hormonal thing. If you all can get it under control the better for us all. Hopefully we can all balance it out and get along.

Uncle Grumpy

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Romance without Finance is a Nuisance Posted: 2/24/2009 5:53:48 PM
Without the finance is a temporary thing. I just became unemployed for the first time in my life. Wouldn't you know it I have found a very special lady. She has had employment issues also but she is very supportive. So it depends on the situation and how you handle it. We are going fishing tomorrow and I can't wait to see her. Like the old high school reading, "It was the best of times and it was the worst of times." If you are on the same page, it will work out, if not it won't. Good luck.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

Msg: 67 (view)

Age difference too much? Posted: 2/20/2009 10:19:55 PM
Well, well been there did that. At 37 married my wife of 24. We lasted 19 years and then she reverted to the soccer mom interested in the younger boys. Sure it can work but I would not recommend it with my experience. People's expectations and interests change as we grow older. If there is too much of an age difference, it can become a problem. Go there with caution.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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TOO MUCH TOO FAST Posted: 2/20/2009 10:04:20 PM
Every one's too fast too soon is personal. My personal belief is that you can know that this person is the one fairly soon. You have to be totally honest with yourself. I have found someone that I knew she was the one right away. She is taking a little longer to decide. That is ok with me. If he is not willing to go by your time table there is a problem. It is up to you to decide what that time table is. Do not compromise your expectations. After two months of corresponding and another two months of regular dating we are growing closer every day. It does take time, commitment and effort. If both parties are not willing to do that, it will likely not work. Good Luck

Uncle Grumpy

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Just friends Posted: 2/8/2009 8:26:18 PM
Thank you all for your support and advice. Jm0405 go take your bitter pill. Things have been worked out and I am glad I kept faith in this girl. We talked it out and I understand where she was coming from. And, we had the exclusive talk as well. We will be taking it slow but we like each others company and are going to be spending time together.

Uncle Grumpy

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Just friends Posted: 2/7/2009 7:46:24 AM
Drama queen, the only one I see is here with your negativity. Her father is disabled and she is his guardian. She has been trying to sell the property since August through a realtor. Has your head been in the sand? Lenders are not lending. The property was her fathers. She has never lived in Tucson. Good luck with offering your advice in the future.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Just friends Posted: 2/7/2009 12:57:33 AM
No I don''t think there is an hidden agenda here. She and her dad owned a property in Tucson that they were trying to sell. They were to move there to avoid double expenses. They got an offer to sell the weekend we first were together which I took to be a sign. There has been numerous opportunities for her to go there and she has declined. She has family here. This woman has a heart of gold and has told me about her dating experiences. We both have had numerous stops and starts. The biggest problem seems to be that I have been without a relationship for three years and she for only one. I am confidant that I will be employed soon. I have told her that I am willing to go onward at her pace but it seems that the pace has slowed when it should be going forward.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Just friends Posted: 2/7/2009 12:31:42 AM
Well, she doesn't have a cat, just a dog and hers and mine get along great. We both have read Eckhart Tolle and are into the now. I think she is afraid of giving again and getting hurt. She is a giving person to a fault and was taken advantage of. She takes care of her father in her home and works as a senior care giver. I hope she is not thinking of our job situation. She has been recently unemployed too so I understand the apprehension. Thanks for your input.

Uncle Grumpy

Joined: 9/4/2008

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Would you seek medical attention for an erection lasting more than 4 hours? Posted: 2/7/2009 12:17:15 AM
A lot of non serious reply's. But I would like to give a referral to cialis. When the ex and I had problems due to our "problems" I found that it was the only way I could get it on. Don't have that problem now but It was a great help. I also found that it had a euphoria effect, don't ask me why. It worked for me.

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