ETA: I tried to message the OP privately about the bar he met his date at, but I wasn't allowed to because I'm too old-lol. OP, maybe if you dated women your own age these things wouldn't happen to you.

I hope not. If so, we're all in trouble. There's no other way to die - even if you kill someone at the same time, chances are you won't go the same route.

Um. Are you aware that Dr. Amen has been made a Fellow of the APA? And that your 'Quackwatch' article was written by one guy? Now, let's see - who's better qualified to assess Dr. Amen's work - the APA or one skeptic?

I suggest you try a little more critical assessment of your sources, Tiger. A first-year university student would get an F on a paper if he turned in as lousy a 'source' as that to back up his theory.

@TigerWoods0924
Sigh. I guess you don't 'believe' in diabetes or cancer, either. Tell ya what. Go look up Dr. Amen's research. People didn't give him credit for a long time but now he's an accepted authority Why? Because he started doing brain scans on normal people and people with conditions and he found that you can see differences in brain function between normal people and people with different mental ailments.

If you go to his site, you'll see how the ADD brain differs from the regular brain. On a brain scan.

There's no 'belief' about it. It's fact.

Excerpt from: http://www.quackwatch.org/06ResearchProjects/amen.html
For about four years (2002 to 2006), the The Amen Clinic's home page stated:

Everything starts and ends in your Brain-Soul connection.

How your brain and soul work together determines how happy you feel, how successful you become, and how well you connect with others. The brain-soul connection is vastly more powerful than your conscious will. Will power falters when the physical functioning of the brain and the health of your soul fail to support your desires, as seen by illogical behaviors like overeating, smoking, drug and alcohol abuse, and compulsive spending.

It is the aim of The Amen Clinics to provide instructional programs and materials, evaluations and medical treatment where necessary to help you to understand and direct your mind to enhance your relationships, your work, and your health!

The site currently (2007) states:

SPECT . . . . basically tells us three things: areas of the brain that work well, areas of the brain that work too hard and areas of the brain that do not work hard enough. Once we know how the brain works, the goal of treatment is to balance brain function, such as calm the overactive areas and enhance the underactive ones.

SPECT creates a colored picture representing blood flow or chemical reactions in different areas of the brain. It requires the injection of a radioactive material. Areas of low blood flow show up as apparent “holes” on colored pictures of the brain, giving a moth-eaten appearance. Amen says that when patients improve clinically, the appearance of their follow-up scan typically improves. For example, patients using marijuana had areas of low activity in the temporal lobes compared to patients not using the drug. Dr. Amen says he can literally show his patients “this is what your brain looks like on drugs.” In one case he reported, a patient with attention deficit disorder, obsessive thinking, anger outbursts, and depression had demonstrable defects on the initial scan which were visibly improved after three years of clomipramine therapy. Dr. Amen says that this kind of graphic demonstration can help persuade patients that their problem is physical or physiological and might be helped with medication or other treatments.

The Amen Clinics charge $3,250 for a "comprehensive evaluation," which included the patient's history, two SPECT scans (concentration scan and baseline scan), a physician consultation, and a 30-minute treatment follow-up appointment. Follow-up scans after treatment are $795 each.

Key Questions
The key question in evaluating a diagnostic test is whether or not its findings are useful in determining what treatment the patient should have. SPECT is a research tool useful for exploring how the brain functions, but the findings are nonspecific, and uses related to treatment of emotional or behavioral problems should be considered experimental. Dr. Amen has vast clinical experience and says he has performed and interpreted more than 35,000 scans. However, I do not believe he has demonstrated that specific scan patterns reliably reflect specific clinical problems and how they should be treated. Even when he is able to show a correlation between a diagnosis and an area of low perfusion (blood flow), he has not shown what this really means and how it could aid clinical treatment. Is low perfusion an indication of the primary pathology or perhaps just a secondary brain response to the symptoms? His published research comprises “preliminary studies,” and most psychiatrists believe it is premature to use SPECT clinically. In fact, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) has issued two skeptical reports, one pertaining to children and adolescents and the other pertaining to adults. [...]

Wake up at 8 and eat breakfast wife made. Have fun with kids before heading to work.
9-5 Work.
5:00 Comes home tired and kicks back on the couch because the game is on. Throws his socks next to the couch.
7:00 Joins family for dinner.
7:30 Walks past sink full of dirty dishes and pretends they aren't there.
8:00 Retreats to the man-cave or go out to see his friends because he knows this is usually the time when wife goes looking for him to help out.
10:30 Comes home and gets into bed.

Get up at 6 am to wash/dress herself
7 gets breakfast on table and packs lunches for everyone.
Gets kids/husband ready.
She drives kids to school/daycare.

9 she gets to work. Interrupted 4-5 times to cater to kids who call her (not dad) at work to complain they are sick/got lunchmoney stolen etc.) Manages to still do her job well.
Lunch she runs to drycleaners to drop of hubby's suit.
5 She gets off, picks up stuff from drycleaners.
5:30 Frantically drives to pick kids up from after school program/daycare.
6:00 drives home with kids, starts to cook dinner.
6:30 Dinner ready.

7:00 Cleans up dinner. Washes dishes.
7:30 Rifles through mail to see what bills are due, takes out family check book and pays them off.
8:00 Drives to grocery store and picks up provisions for the week.
9:00 Gets home, has to unpack groceries and do laundry.

So using your logic:
A sociopath who has a defective mind allows themselves to kill.
A depressed person who has lost it all allows themselves to commit suicide.

A cleptomaniac allows themselves to steal.
An agoraphobic allow themselves to fear the outdoors.
A paranoid person allows themselves to think the world is plotting against them

A bi-polar allows themselves to have major mood swings.
An alzheimers sufferer allows themselves to forget things.
A Parkinsons sufferer allows themselves to shake rattle and roll.

A 50 year old who recognizes symptoms of 40 years of endless ADHD combined with attending 15 schools in 9 years in 4 countries allows himself to lose jobs, relationships, and family.

TuffLuv posted:
1.) All these 'reasons' guys are listing on here for why they don't want to get married are BULL CRAP. If they met the love of their life, their dream girl, someone they couldn't live without... they'd get married. Oh yes they would, simply for the fact it would make HER happy and HER happiness is their priority. In fact, marriage would BE their idea...

2.) Having only one foot in... is the same as having one foot out. You're not in love if you have a 'back door' open for escape.

3.) Sure there are shitty marriages. Doesn't mean every marriage is shitty. Just because you got into a lemon once upon a time doesn't mean every car is not quality.

4.) If you stick around a guy who says 'he doesn't believe in marriage' you are only keeping away from guys who do... when he says something like that... just add the words "to you." Because that is what he really means. And you deserve better than that.

5.) You won't change their mind. Drop them like a bad habit. They do not love you if they are making you unhappy! Its so simple. Yet so many women don't do it. Bad guys are spoiled by women who put up with shit that only fuels their low self esteem. You deserve better.

7.) No matter how traumatic a divorce was that he was exposed to in some way... if he loved you truly, he would be so over it. When he says something like that to you... he has weighed the pros and cons... and you are in the con pile and his freedom/money/independence/status are more worthwhile than you being his wife. You deserve better.

8.) Why even have the label of boyfriend/girlfriend? Why live together? Why should he remember your birthday? Why should he call you when he says he will? Why... why... why.. why... See, this never ends. ALL OF IT is just signs he is not as into you as you are into him. There is no equality there... these guys on this forum just want the 'upper hand' but a healthy loving relationship ... IS NOT A BATTLE!

tiger,
i didn't realize that cave drawings were mass produced and available to every teenager.

so go ahead and promote the virtues of porn.......

prior to the invention of the printing press and video, owning pornographic literature was rare.

internet porn is all new to the human experience and personally i don't think its a good idea.

once it becomes acceptable to a man or a woman to objectify the opposite sex in a sexual fashion, the deviance expands and will usually be a problem in that individuals relationships.

porn and cyber sex are both a relatively new phenomenon if you look at the grand scale of human sexuality. are they healthy? do they support relationships and the emotional well being of a family? or have they managed to contribute to the increased divorce rates?

[...]As a man gets older, he sees marriage for what it is: a business contract. It doesn't increase love (that should already be there 100%). It does not increase the likelihood of staying together (nor does having children). Heck, it doesn't even give tax advantages anymore. It's also primarily run by the state, which has no business whatsoever in marriage.

There's no clear-cut reason to do it anymore, as our traditional moral code is all but non-existent nowadays. The only arguments I could imagine now is that it's just a codification of love. [...]

Fully 22% of American bachelors aged 25–34 have resolved never to marry. 53% more say they are not interested in marrying any time soon. That's 75% all told who are not all that keen on marriage.

Why do you think women consistantly report a massive man "shortage", even as single men outnumber single women by a large margin (at least 20%)?

LadyLinda posted:
I can totally relate. I ended up married to someone whom I was not physically attracted to thinking that with more time it would happen ( because he was perfect on paper) For the 14 years we were married , it never changed.
At this point, the physical desire has to be there from the beginning.

[...]I want to write a book and for now this and another blog and face book are my playgrounds.[...]

[...]Men I affirm are wired, in deep DNA roots that go all the way back to monkey shit that makes them want to wander[...]