Sorry but not everyone fits into your square peg.

I have ZERO and I mean ZERO drama in my life. No psycho exs, no job stress, no financial issues (not rich, just not broke or in heavy debt either!). Life is awesome because I've made it that way (with help from God, of course!).

What would Freud say? He'd say "Dude, you really have your stuff together!!!"

Not every guy over 30 has issues. Some of us are quite capable of eliminating drama and stress in our lives, and that includes not getting attached to significant others who feed off it.

Some women would categorize men in my situation as a tad "boring" because I lack the drama. And that suits me just fine :)

I enjoy reading profiles. But there are sooo many men's profiles that talk about walks on moonlit beaches, cuddling, snuggling, holding hands and gazing into her eyes while reciting poetry..there is just no way all of them have congregated onto POF. It's like a the John Keats Society has flocked here.

Are you guys serious when you post that? Or have you written that in hope of drawing a woman to you?

Do you find women go for that?

And ladies-are you attracted to that?

I'm not being sarcastic-I am genuinely curious about this. I know some men like affection, it just seems odd to me to see it boldly displayed in that way

Why is she in such denial?

Many, many men have honed these skills, but from speaking to women who have been married for years, their spouses normally do not deal well with emotions. Instead, the woman is left to have other avenues (family, friends) be there for her emotional support. I don't think that is bad, but I still want my partner to be the one I can lean on, for everything. Am I stupid, or what?

I have just found that I tend to be the one to come up feeling empty sometimes, and normally it is due to emotions, and the man's lack of being able to relate, deal with, empathize, and express them. I feel like I am the lone ranger and well, I know I can find another man, but what if I truly love this one? Do I stay and later accept the fact that emotionally, I will be beating a dead horse, forever?

I have a very good man, but sadly, most of the time, he just doesn't get me. I don't want to change who he is, I just want to feel less like I am from another planet. I have tried and I just cannot understand how he just has no clue how to relate to my emotions. I am NOT a drama queen. I do not rant and rave or whine and complain. I am normal, and am most always upbeat, happy and content. But life throws curveballs to all of us at some point and we have to deal with them.

One more question and please guys, I KNOW all men are not like this, but some are, just as some women are.
Do some people subconsciously shun emotional confrontations, even when it's not a relationship issue, because they do not the capacity to empathize? Or is it selfishness......and just a bother so they tend to be able to ignore it?

I been single for quite some time. There is a woman I used to work with and remained great friends with as well after i felt that Job. She's married and has children, and as far as i can tell has a great family life. She's now telling me how much she loves me. Thats fine, I feel deeply for her as well, but I think her love includes sexual lust as well (in fact I'm sure of it).
how should I proceed? Is this friendship now doomed?

This is just a thread to find out how people think of this arrangement. My niece who is 23 told me about this one. First of all I told her does the teenager have brain damage. What on earth would an 18 year old see in a 40 year old man. Do you not think that she is cutting her adolescent life short. Will she not miss the oppurtunity of Post Secondary when she becomes older. Will she not feel that she missed out on the horrible dating sceen of your late teens and early 20's. Now my ego would become larger if an 18 year old was interested in myself but on the same token I would feel that she would be cutting her single life short. What do you think?[/quote}

Seemed to work pretty well for Mariah Carey, Charo and Anna Nicole during her heyday.

Doesn't quite do as much for me as when a women sticks her elbow in her ear. That's pretty hard to resist.

Whenever I see "divorced" I think to myself "damaged goods" and have no interest in anything longterm with the person. If the individual has kids, that's a 100% no-no and turn-off.

If the divorced person is older, it's more understandable if after a long time they called off the marriage. When it's a younger person who has already been divorced, it's like a red flag that says this person doesn't know what they want or are a poor judge of character, or don't take marriage seriously. A young woman with a kid is completely 'ruined' in my eyes. Only a minority of men are seriously going to raise another man's kid.

im talking about seriously investing yourself into a relationship with more than one

OK all when can you claim to be single after the divorce? How long do you have to wait if you can go back to the single status?

I think its because shes a control freak.