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Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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what else are you doing to meet people beside online? Posted: 11/3/2009 7:10:59 PM
do what I do.Go to the corner store and stand there with a big bag of chips and offer wimen,or in your case,men some chips.Youd be surprised how many people say yes to chips. Now that's just awesome! I'm picking up a bag of chips tomorrow, methinks. At the moment I'm not doing much else. I'd love to go out to bars, and what not, but I'd rather go with a group of friends. People or someone to hang out with early in the evening. However since I went back to college I've found lack of funds keep me from doing much else (not to mention heaps of homework). Most of the single people I know are in my course and in the same boat.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Advise for a newbie? Posted: 11/3/2009 7:06:33 PM
When I see someone who's profile basically says "Ask me, he he" I just close it and move on. Looks WILL get me into a profile, but there has to be some content in there to warrant a message.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Happy Canada Day !!! Posted: 7/2/2009 3:55:04 PM
I do love living in Canada even though I hate the cold. I love how almost everyone has a story of when and how their family came from and where they came from (Like I'm German, Irish, and Scottish). It feels like the true lane of Multiculturalism. Also I love our history (even though some people STILL don't think we have anything exciting in our past). Also I love our continued ties to the British Empire/Commonwealth, I've always believed the British colonization of North America was an important part of our heritage and I'm glad we didn't cut ours ties like the Yanks did 233 years ago.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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What operating system are you using? Posted: 7/2/2009 3:43:04 PM
Vista. I tried to get Mandrake 10.0 going at one point but couldn't, for the life of me, get Wine to work so half of my programs couldn't be used. Although, it DID introduce me to Open Office which I use faithfully now.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Looking for me Geek.. here is why!! Posted: 7/2/2009 3:04:11 PM
I thought I'd add one of my personal favourite songs. It's Great to be a Nerd by the Arrogant Worms (GO GO GADGET CANADIANA!) It's great to be a nerd, It's great to be a nerd The only light we ever see is from our moniter We argue about comic books and Internet connections The biggest highlight of the year is the Star Trek Convention Our town's not big enough to sign up any stars But we once met a red shirt who was phasered by a Borg (Man, he knew Mr. Sulu!) (What?) It's great to be a nerd, It's great to be a nerd We wear our Star Trek uniforms and talk like Captain Kirk We have our own heroes who we try to emulate I dream of one day being as sexy as Bill Gates We hate watching sports 'cause we're reading Carl Sagan But we'd watch the Olympics if they played Dungeons and Dragons (I'm a Hobbitt! Ha ha ha ha!) It's great to be a nerd, It's great to be a nerd We think Tolkein was a genius and Shakespeare was a turd We rarely get a date or get talked to by a girl Unless they're having trouble with their algebra homework We're emotionally bereft and we're sexually frustrated But we can download photographs of Agent Scully naked It's great to be a nerd, It's great to be a nerd We know the truth is out there but we'd have to leave our room We are the nerds in your neighbourhood Polyester's a fashion statement But there's more room on the beach for you 'Cause we're locked in our basement It's great to be a nerd, It's great to be a nerd We like to wear colours that do not appear in nature It's great to be a Poorly-dressed fashionless Star trekking roleplaying Ninety pound when wet down Pasty skinned pop drinking Underfed genius Yes, it's great to be a nerd

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Looking for me Geek.. here is why!! Posted: 7/2/2009 2:50:26 PM
This is why it truly is great to be a geek! Although it DOES make it harder to meet women in the real world for some reason. But online, we thrive

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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FOR THE HORDE! Posted: 7/2/2009 2:45:55 PM
I haven't played in a few months and I'm still debating if I want to restart my account at some point or not, but I have an 80 UD Warrior tank, 72ish BElf Healadin, 70 Human Warlock. As much as I liked the WotLK content it didn't suck me in as much as TBC did for some reason. Even though WotLK IS better.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Songs to strip to,,, Posted: 6/18/2009 7:07:19 PM
I've always wanted a girl to do a strip tease to the theme from Mighty Mouse (thanks to Kevin Smith's Mallrats)

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Would you date someone from the USA Posted: 6/18/2009 6:59:07 PM
I would date a woman from the states, under the condition that if it got serious she'd move up here. I've no intention of becoming an American.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Do you prefer hints or just to be told straight up? Posted: 6/18/2009 6:38:15 PM
I'm horrible at picking up on hints. I like to be told straight up. For example: Staying at a friends place out of town and I get the "stay as long as you want" offer. I tell them to kick me out if I come close to overstaying my welcome. Don't hint at it just say "alright, I'm kicking ya out now." It's always worked well for me that way.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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When is it cheating? Posted: 6/18/2009 6:34:01 PM
Anything that makes the "cheater" feel guilty and hide their behavior. Otherwise it's negotiable. "exclusive" does not equate to "I know everything, regarding my interactions with people, that will piss you off." Some people don't feel guilty, which sucks. Personally I feel kissing with tongue or beyond is cheating. That's just my view though, everyone's different. I had an ex who got jealous because a female friend of mine and I held hands for a high school play, she came close to feeling cheated on by that. So everyone's limits are different.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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How can you make conversation from this? Posted: 6/18/2009 6:19:16 PM
I've always taken one line replies (usually from friends) to mean completey disinterest. I'd take it as read-deleted like someone above said. That message could go from crap to mediocre just by adding "how about you?" on the end.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Is he just not that into me? Posted: 6/18/2009 6:16:40 PM
You could be completely blunt and ask him, that alone may send some guys running but it's better than sitting there wondering.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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So why are u single we all have our storys!?!?! Posted: 6/18/2009 5:35:54 PM
I'm single because my ex and I moved in together, roughly an hour from where we grew up, so I could go back to college and work full time. She got mad that I expected her to clean up after herself (considering I was at a full time college course and full time employment I didn't think that was too much to ask). We lived together for a year, then she cheated on me and moved to Ottawa with the other guy (who I thought was a friend of mine up until he did that). That was after nearly 6 years together. Also I find it incredibly hard to meet new people. Online I don't get responses and I'm one of the shy ones that's really bad at talking to new people in the "real world"

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Feature Chemistry Posted: 6/18/2009 5:33:31 PM
I've looked at matches in the Chemistry section and it seems pretty useless. Most of them are the complete opposite of my type and I of theirs.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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are girls into bi men and man on man action Posted: 6/18/2009 5:27:26 PM
One thing I can point out, since history was brought into this discussion: In early days of the Roman Empire almost every male was bi. In the Greek Empire ,when the armies were out on campaign, they had sex with each other since their wives were back in their home city-state. Single Greek men would also have phyiscal relationships with each other to keep the women "pure." So male bisexuality isn't a new thing, it was mainly something repressed by the Catholic Church after the Council of Nicea finally set that religion into stone.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Going for a movie on first date. Posted: 4/8/2009 5:36:50 PM
Awesome valid points there. Really. Personally I'd perfer to talk to someone and get to know them better on a first date to see if we have enough common ground to even consider a second date. However, I wouldn't object to the movie date idea.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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How open are you REALLY to discuss why you're still single? Posted: 4/8/2009 5:34:14 PM
I know exactly why I'm single. I'm shy and have trouble meeting new people. I hate going places alone and I'm in a city where I don't know more than a couple people and the ones I do know are homebodies and don't like going out places. Aside from that I'd assume the fact that I consider myself a hardcore nerd comes into play (although, minus the mental image of the sweaty, overweight, 40+ year old guy living in his parents basement, some other stereotype images may apply).

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Not a good question, very weird,but here goes? Posted: 4/8/2009 5:26:39 PM
Cripes! for a minute there I thought you were talking about "the pretty ones" I thought someone would think that. That's why I quoted the line I was replying to in my post >_<

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Not a good question, very weird,but here goes? Posted: 4/8/2009 4:52:06 PM
And how about those squeeze bottles ketchup comes in? You can't get that last bit of ketchup out. It's wasted. At least you can use a kitchen knife to cut them open and get that last bit out, unlike the glass bottles, THOSE are annoying.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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is it true?... Posted: 4/8/2009 4:39:16 PM
It can take me a while too. Maybe this is just my somewhat jaded opinion but it seems women are more hung up on first impressions (which I honestly find odd). They know if they'll like a guy right away, but in all honesty what do they know about this guy? He could show up in a tux, be gentlemanly and chivalrous, and turn out to be an axe murdering psycho. Personally I like to get to know the person, make sure there's common interests, make sure she doesn't morph into a controlling psycho (no offense to all you controlling psyhos out there). Basically I like to make sure there's a real connection and not base the entire relationship off of looks and manners in the first 30 seconds of a meeting.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Do guys really want just one girl????? Posted: 4/8/2009 4:34:44 PM
I haven't read all of the replies yet since I'd rather give my opinion completely unbiased. I mean if a guy was in a relationaship with a girl he says he loves but had the opportunity to cheat knowing she will never find out..will he more likley do it?? No. No more than a women would be likely to do it. I can say I've never cheated on any of my past girlfriends, but I have been cheated on more than a couple times. I also know guys that have cheated on their SOs many times. So it's just as likely no matter what the gender, it'd be more based on personality. Also do most guys really want three somes, or think they want to have sex with their wifes or girlfriends best friends? I'd just LOVE the opportunity to disappoint two women simultaneously. Seriously though, I can't give a good answer to that one, most men do fantasize about that it's true. But on the other hand some are completely turned off by the concept. I don't think it's normally about wanting to sleep with your SOs best friend, I think it's usually bragging rights and epeen. a man will be in love with his wife but he can't help the desire to watch porn when she is not around My opinion on this topic: Women, according to studies, are able to fantasize better then men especially when the need to masturbate arrises. Men are more visual. Personally, I wouldn't expect an SO to be ready to rock at my beck and call so sometimes it has to be taken care of yourself. This is more blunt than I like to be but I'm not sure how else to put it. The choices are: be ready for sex anytime (AFTER the relationship has become sexual), make your own pictures for your man, or accept that he will use pornography. On the other hand ... bad pun alert ... a lot of women use vibrators and dildos which are physical items rather than pixels on a computer screen or ink dots in a magazine, how is that different? he can't help but wonder what it would be like to have sex with her..is that true?? No. Well, not entirely. I'll look when a pretty girl walks by, and I know many women who look when a hot guy walks by. Even though, as a species, we've decided to be monogamous the animal instincts from yesteryear are still embedded in our DNA. It's only natural for BOTH men and women to look. Although, women are more discreet about checking someone out. I don't consciously think about what it's like to sleep with her when I look, I just look because it's pleasing to the eyes. Can a guy really love his wife or girlfriend and at the same time think sexual thoughts about many other woman? Yes. Thoughts are just thoughts. I could think about a bank robbery but I can't be charged for it. Considering how much we know about the workings of the human brains we may not have as much control over our thoughts as we think. I would get upset that they talked sexual about another girl or say they are hot in front of me!!! You have every right to get upset in this situation. Thoughts are one thing, vocalizing it to your Significant Other is another thing all together. I agree, it is very rude and disrespectful. In general, these questions apply to both men and women. And as for the comment, brought up again, about watching porn. I don't see that as disrespectful, would you rather your SO demand sex everytime the mood strikes. Most countries that oppress women (like the middle east) are against the use of pornography so there's a new law (in Afghanistan) making it perfectly legal for a man to effectively rape his wife. I don't know your thoughts, but I think a hand a pornography is a better solution than that.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Not a good question, very weird,but here goes? Posted: 4/8/2009 4:15:36 PM
Some men will abuse the pretty girls (mentally and/or phsysically) as a menthod of breaking down their self esteem and using that to control them. Commonly known as Battered Wife Syndrome (which still applies even if they aren't married). The most common reason they're left standing alone at the bars while the more "plain" ones get picked up is mainly an issue of fear to some extent. Most people feel the pretter the girl the more likely they are to be rejected. The Belt Notchers also have the impression that the more plain, or uglier girls are more "desperate" and therefor less work to get with for a night, week, or however long they need to get that next notch. Some guys will think "What do I have to offer her that's better than anyone else?" especially those of us that are the nerdier and/or shy type expect to be either rejected or ignored based on past experiences. Honestly, I should never mistreat another person in this way, whether they're, what society would call, "ugly" or "pretty." No one deserves to get treated like that. And no one deserves to live alone the rest of their lives (unless that's their choice). I've also found that my tastes in physical appearance are quite broad ... not a pun >_< ... and when it comes to online dating I'll message almost anyone whether their "gorgeous" or "plain" since there's no harm in trying. Now just so that I don't look shallow it IS more based on the contents of the profile, when I see someone who's stunning beautiful and the profile says "I dunno, ask me. he he" I pass it by, no matter how good the pictures are. I hope that helps answer the question. Or at least give one perspective.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Canada's Military Historical Involvement Posted: 4/8/2009 4:01:02 PM
Forewarning: This turned into something more akin to a essay as I was writing it. <div class="quote"> But...we, as Canadians, go about the job, do it, with our usual quiet efficiency, and we don't "wave our flag" and "brag about our accomplishments". I agree, this is the big reason you don't hear about our accomplishments as much. But it was Canadians that took Vimy with new ways of thinking and an attack that was completed before sunset (while British forces and, if I'm not mistaken, American forces has been working at the ridge for months on end). We were there at Passchendale and The Somme, and highly effective on both of those battles. Eventually the Germans pushed allied lines back, the Americans were overwhelmed and fell back, the British were overwhelmed and fell back, the ANZAC were overwhelmed and fell back, the Canadians were avoided at all costs. German soldiers were terrified of coming face to face with a Canadian on the muddy fields of Europe in the first world war. They called us Stormtroopers (long before Stormtroopers were clones in gleaming white armour). The German military leaders figured if they attacked Canadian held locations they'd lose more men than the objective was "worth" if not all of their men. We may not be known world wide for some of our military accomplishments but we're always known to our enemy, and our enemy is the only one that needs to know how good our military can be. Stories of Canadians trouncing the Kaiser's men even carried over to World War II and Canadians were feared by the Nazis from the get go. Yes, we fought with the Commonwealth, as did numerous others like the ANZAC and the Newfoundland Regiments (as they hadn't joined Confederation yet). You can also go back to events prior to Confederation, such as the Seven Years War, the War of 1812 (which ended with the British/Canadian Colonial Militias holding more "enemy land" at the end of the war), and the men that snuck aboard ships against out goverments wishes to fight alongside the British in the Boer War. One other advantage we've always enjoyed is a volunteer army. No draft, no conscription, no government endorsed coerced entry. We all know about the infamous American Conscription during most wars, made well known during Vietnam, but we don't hear much about the British Army. This information dates back to the Napoleonic era but there's evidence to support it continued through to the second world war. Press Gangs from the Navy would kidnap people who would wake up, on a ship, and are now members of the Royal Navy. People found guilty of a crime were given the option to enlist, hang, or go to Australia (when it was a penal colony), most criminals chose death as it was the most humane option. The government would have a woman plant an item of hers into an innocent man's pocket so that he could get arrested and then "volunteer" into the army. There was also the trick of placing the King's Shilling in the bottom of a stein, once you touch it you've accepted payment from the King to join his army and off you're carted (that's where "bottoms up" came from, check for that shilling before drinking). So unlike some other countries our men were all there because they either believed in the cause they were fighting for or believed in their country, not because they were tricked or coerced. Yes, we're full of some great military accomplishments, but we don't toot our won horns. We also don't show up in the last 5 minutes of a war and claim to have won it for the world. Yes, a slight jab at our neighbours to the south, in all honesty yes, the Americans helped win, but the other Allied forces were at least as influential in the outcome. One line from a Tanglefoot song I always liked was "There's women and men Canadians all of every rank and station, to stand an guard and keep us free from Yankee domination." It was about Laura Secord's contribution to the Battle of Beaver Dams in Hamilton 1813, but the term "Yankee" can be replaced with almost any enemy and still apply.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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How did you come up with your screen name? Posted: 4/8/2009 3:12:19 PM
It's a fairly obscure reference to a TV show that shows my inner nerd. Basically if you know where the name came from, you're at least somewhat nerdy as well. If you don't know where the name came from, odds are it won't sound familiar, it won't get googled, and you'll never know.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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18 to 22 screw you??? (belive it or not this isn't an offensive thread) Posted: 4/8/2009 2:48:35 PM
I don't think that's true. In that age bracket my relationships were from the age of 18-20 and then from 20-26

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Favourites Lists Posted: 3/25/2009 12:23:54 AM
Just like feeding the wildlife?

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Favourites Lists Posted: 3/25/2009 12:05:02 AM
I'm not sure I worded the intial question correctly, I'm not trying to complain, mainly trying to find out if most of those people are active competition, so to speak, or if there's a lot of guys out there that add women to their favourites and never contact them. Basically I'm trying to establish if that number is an accurate representation of the number of messages they get, roughly. No complaints.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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My First Form Letter! Posted: 3/25/2009 12:02:09 AM
In the vast majority of cases, women's profiles are so content free that it's frustrating to try to write something personal You mean like the ones that say "I don't know, ask me.........." continuing the ellipses until the minimum character limit is reached? I wouldn't even send a form letter out to those ones, to be honest.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Favourites Lists Posted: 3/24/2009 11:57:24 PM
Oh I can see where it'd be a great ego booster to have a big number there. I am on 0 (zero...it looks like on o for some reason) favourite lists, I'm an aquired taste with no luck on dating sites in general, so I'm not ashamed of it.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Favourites Lists Posted: 3/24/2009 11:48:23 PM
I'm mainly asking about the people who have added you, that's the number we see on the profile. Maybe it should show the other way around "User XXX has X users on their favourite list." Thanks for the feedback though. Very enlightening

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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What does read and not deleted really mean? and more Posted: 3/24/2009 11:27:25 PM
I know it's a redundant thread, but it's always something I've wondered too. I know the question came up asking why not hit delete instead of back. Generally I delete a read message unless there's ongoing communication, but when I want to go to the previous page I just hit backspace since I keyboard most things when I expect to be typing and there's no way I'm tabbing through the links to delete it. One oddity I noticed, on this subject, I was once contacted by someone who said they wanted to chat, blah, blah, blah, the usual and asked if I had MSN. I replied with my MSN address and a brief e-mail. The next day the e-mail was Read, but not deleted, so I left it there. A few weeks pass and I've heard nothing back, since I'm not one to pester with continuous messages I deleted the messages I sent and the one in my inbox. Low and behold, the very next day she adds me to her MSN. Almost makes me think it's a sort of numbers game. I could be way off base here, but maybe some of them just like looking at all the e-mails they get to make them feel important. Who knows?

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Favourites Lists Posted: 3/24/2009 11:20:52 PM
I'm curious about something. I see many women on this site who appear on many favourites lists (I think the highest I've seen is nearly 300), do many of you edit who has you on their list? I was wondering because I know when I see someone has been favourited many times I'm usually more hesitant to message them, mainly because it looks like the competition is fierce. Is it common for women to be on tons of peoples favourites without hearing from a single one of them?

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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My First Form Letter! Posted: 3/24/2009 11:04:58 PM
I'd have to agree with post two. I'll never get to the form letter point, but sometimes it feels like a waste of time dropping so much time into a long e-mail based around the other persons profile just to see Read/Deleted the next day. Especially when they have a long profile so you reply with a long message and not a thing sent back. It gets frustrating by about the 50th sent message or so.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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I know my profile is bad... Posted: 3/24/2009 10:45:55 PM
I'm definitely an acquired taste. I've always been pretty sure of that. Thanks for the support

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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I know my profile is bad... Posted: 3/24/2009 10:02:58 PM
I remember the last one from a while back. And yes, the e-mails are being sent out, more than I care to count to be honest, but the replies aren't coming back. That's why I came back for another review

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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I know my profile is bad... Posted: 3/24/2009 9:48:02 PM
Thanks, I'll remove those paragraphs, and fix the typo. I always felt Rubber Soul was the start of their transition into psychedelia, Revolver and so on getting further into it. I mainly seem to remember some songs from Robber Soul that were similar in style to Revolver.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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I know my profile is bad... Posted: 3/24/2009 8:53:22 PM
Okay, so I made it non-list and more paragraph...ish... Thanks for the help so far Any more advice out there?

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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I know my profile is bad... Posted: 3/22/2009 11:50:15 PM
I know my profile isn't all that great and I could really use some constructive advice, anything that could help make it better. Thanks in advance. Apparently this thing isn't quite 200 letters long. So I guess to ask for a profile review I have to ramble slightly. Ah well, that should be enough rambling.

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Could use a review Posted: 12/9/2008 12:08:55 AM
Okay, those changes have been made. The headline will change soon, it generally changes every week or so. Thanks for the advice so far

Koloth

Joined: 9/8/2008

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Could use a review Posted: 12/8/2008 11:24:13 PM
I seem to be having absolutely no luck here and was just wondering if anyone would mind reviewing my profile and offering some advice. I've had a few friends go over it and help me tweak it slightly, I've also been through a few different formats with varying amounts of information and still no luck. Please be brutally honest. Thanks in advance

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