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Joined: 9/9/2008

Msg: 54 (view)

What would you say to her if you were her close friend? Posted: 10/28/2008 11:24:27 PM
[He has not gotten around to the divorce, it isn’t a priority, was his response when she first asked him about it.] Based on the above statement IMHO another relationship may not be a priority for him either. In essence if all the strings are not cut on the existing relationship, a new one is just adding another person to the mix, not an ideal situation...to me anyway. Kind of like the elephant in the room that no one sees or talks about. Bottom line if she's okay with it, great...that's her choice. If not she can opt out.

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Do I tell my friend.... Posted: 10/26/2008 6:20:17 PM
I would tell her about the dating site, and she can decide what to do from there. Sticky situation, a sad thing to have to tell your friend. Good luck to all.

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Can I date while my ex still lives with me? Posted: 10/26/2008 5:17:04 PM
Well, if the situation were reversed, how would you feel about it?

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What next? Move on or hang in there? Posted: 10/18/2008 11:48:10 AM
Well, OP it appears this man is being honest with you, and I think you have to take him at his word. It's up to you now to decide if this works for you. I don't think ruminating on whether he has committment issues, or if he will change his mind later will best serve you. All the best.

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Would you open you marriage to save it? Posted: 9/26/2008 4:18:05 PM
[Would you open your marriage (with strict rules and conditions) in order to save it? Imagine you really love your marriage partner but for whatever reason the marriage was not working. ] If the marriage wasn't working, I would get out of the marriage. For me an open marriage would not be an option. That being said we all have different opinions and standards that we choose to live by, and if the parties involved both agree then more power to them.

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The Ultimate Dilemma Posted: 9/19/2008 11:30:12 PM
Ouch, sorry your having to go through that...and yes if moving out and extricating yourself from the situation is what you feel you need to do then you should.

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question for anyone Posted: 9/19/2008 6:53:26 PM
"I have been having a relationship with someone who has a girlfriend for about a year." That was your first mistake...being in a relationship with someone that's already in a relationship. "Is it immature to contact in a very adult way and tell her?" That would be your second mistake...if you want to be and adult about this move on, sever your relationship, learn from your mistake, and don't do anything remotely like this again.

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What is I need space? Posted: 9/17/2008 4:50:04 PM
So being a soft spoken man.. wanting no confrontation.. needing space IMO is a dump. Or lacking in character, not being honest, not enough integrity or consideration of your feelings .... Am I safe to assume this is correct and girl should let go and move on now even if guy phones or makes advances to the 2 day relationship? Yes.

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What is I need space? Posted: 9/17/2008 4:35:18 PM
Well first off I agree with Bucsgirl. Secondly, the lack of communication this far into a relationship doesn't sit well. So if you issue the ultimatum all or nothing, and he comes back with all - are you sure you would still want to do that? Perhaps you need the "space" and time to sort your own feelings out.

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I need an excuse to get out of it.... Posted: 9/14/2008 10:16:01 PM
Oh jeez, quit whining /slamming her to justify your behavior and apparent lack of character.

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What do you do with this?? Posted: 9/14/2008 1:57:44 PM
I agree with your inclination to just let it run it's course. Taking action may only add fuel to the fire - so to speak.

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Should I let her beat me? Posted: 9/14/2008 1:44:38 PM
Yes. Soundly and repeatededly.... with a wet noodle.

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Ugly Guys Posted: 9/14/2008 12:07:29 PM
SingleGuy4912 There's no magic going on. Your friend has confidence and a sense of humour, two qualities which women usually find attractive. ------------------------ Absolutely - in a nut shell. What he said OP.

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Is it wrong nowdays to wait for sex? Posted: 9/14/2008 11:56:32 AM
Recent thread - Why bother waiting for sex. I think this thread is on page 2. Many OP's there too.

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Why Bother Waiting for Sex? Posted: 9/13/2008 8:15:25 PM
Well said HP - I'll drink to that! Sexual intimacy and enjoyment of said act (in my mind anyway) comes from a certain comfort level of knowing the person I'm with - 1 or 2 dates doesn't get me there.

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i haven't posted a photo-does this deter you? Posted: 9/12/2008 6:37:56 PM
Well, if your just here for the forums - I would think it doesn't matter. If on the other hand your looking to meet someone, a photo would probably increase your chances of contact.

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