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Joined: 10/14/2005

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First date/meet. Need help please! Posted: 8/30/2009 2:08:33 PM
Remember "eye of the beholder" and your own prejudgements... You ARE good-looking. Look at just the person in the mirror and say it 5 times (and mean it) Every morning. But you're way too young to be in such a tizzy about dating just ONE person. Now after 80 times and this is still happening, come back here and tell us about it. stop trying so hard and they will flock to you, formerly Alaskan

Joined: 10/14/2005

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why bother lying Posted: 1/23/2006 1:43:18 PM
>>>I would rather tell the truth and have someone like me for me then a false image of me.>> I agree with you; doing otherwise will only get you and give others heart ache. That is not why we are here. Good luck to all Snowy

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I thought I found love and ended up with pain. Posted: 12/13/2005 8:46:29 PM
Offroadchef, I think you are doing the right thing, Schedule time for yourself! Don't force things, but take some control. Good luck, Merry X-mas, Hang in there...

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How do you mend a broken heart? Posted: 12/11/2005 12:25:53 PM
Dear Fellow Canadian-born, Such a beautiful young lady need not worry about the closed door. A nice quote I try to live by when I feel sorry for myself: Don't spend so much time looking at the closed door that you miss the open one behind you. Bless you

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perfect match lives too far away..or does he.. Posted: 12/9/2005 11:20:22 PM
I am taking a trip, plans are flexible, but plans are for things I enjoy. If he comes the rest of the way and we meet and still like each other, maybe? But I will be enjoying myself either way I believe. Everyone needs a vacation once in a while.

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Ever been dramatically changed in a relationship? Posted: 12/9/2005 11:08:54 PM
Honestly, Reading your post made me think about consulting with a counselor again. I thought I had the understanding of my situation under control from one day to the next, but lately I cannot stop thinking about why my ex husband of 20 years changed so drastically. I think 1) he was never true to himself so could not be true to others 2) thought he needed someone to replace his warped mother[-figure and that didn't work out for obvious reasons 3) he simply "stopped" loving me (if he ever really did, for any of the above reasons). Would you mind letting me know if you think I should talk to someone? or just forget about it all and get on with my life... though it is hard to go a day without thinking about him. There was only the occasional self abuse (him) during this relationship. I am planning what I hope will be a wonderful two weeks into the southern hemisphere, Australia/NZ!! Maybe that will go a long way to take my mind off the changed man. I myself do not want to change any more than necessary, learning from having been in this relationship. Your future e-mail buddy? Denise

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Class action against Yahoo Personals and Match.com for fraud Posted: 11/21/2005 10:21:09 PM
I definately had this issue with True.com. Even up here where the "odds are good, but the goods are odd", I was getting many winks. I was unreasonably skeptical, but seems rightly so.

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what do women really want Posted: 11/15/2005 10:33:15 PM
"chemistry is elusive sometimes and you just CAN'T EXPLAIN IT!" Excellent analysis Paul. I have a degree in Chemistry, but it hasn't helped so far. Maybe cuz it is the wrong kind. haha. Love all these responses. Keep it going and don't try to emulate tv relationships.!! Read a good book called Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships by Chip Ingram! At the risk of being preachy, I must say that I learned alot in the discussion group for this book with the couples involved. The ones raising young girls had new perspectives on how they viewed the subject! Enough, have fun, but don't take anyone too seriously until your heart says to.

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what's the best way to forget someone? Posted: 10/18/2005 6:00:55 AM
"i know somebody, somewhere may just be going through the same thing right now... " Keep that thought in mind, always. You are an adorable looking young man and though you don't deserve to get hurt, it happens. Nearly a year ago, my ex told me he had met someone else, after 20 years of marriage. This will probably take at least 4 or 5 years to get over completely, but the main thing is remember there will be bad days AND good days. Have a backup plan when the bad days come and ENJOY the good days. Other wise there is always just to think of them as dead. I love this phrase... "He/She's just not that into you" As an aside, if you love music, pour yourself into it. Be all you can be If you are ever in Fairbanks, AK, visit Ivory Jack's. They have a great audience nearly every night! All the best, Denise

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