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Msg: 94 (view)

He needs some space Posted: 11/24/2008 5:18:00 PM
Good to hear OP. See..... not everyone that needs space is looking for a way out. I need space from time to time during relationships. I have to have some time to myself, especially if we live together. I need time to be alone with me... no friends, no phone, nobody at all. It's just the way I am. I don't mean I disappear for a week or something, A day or so to myself at least once a month, whether I need it or not.

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Does anyone make LOVE anymore????? Posted: 11/23/2008 11:53:36 AM
Lot's of people make love, they just don't call it that much anymore.

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Events Posted: 11/23/2008 11:35:56 AM
I've been to a few events and they have been quite fun. It's nice to meet the people you talk to on the forums. For the most part, POF events always landed on nights I have to work.

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Did he respect me Posted: 11/23/2008 11:33:02 AM
Don't waste your time worrying about stuff like that. People who get that bent out of shape over trivial things aren't worth the effort of worry.

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It's not you... It's me Posted: 11/23/2008 11:27:25 AM
Actually, I would say that line is completely true, and one of the most truthful statements you can make. Think about it. If someone doesn't want to be with you anymore, than the probably truly resides with that person.

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Question about an encounter Posted: 11/23/2008 11:23:36 AM
That reminds me of a nasty joke. A young guy meets a hot woman in her fifties at a bar and takes her home for the night. As they are having sex, he is sucking on her nipples and some fluid comes out. Thinking it was breast milk he keeps on sucking for more, savoring the flavor. When they are finished he says," I hope you don't take offense to this, but I thought you would be too old to produce breast milk." She says, " well I am, but I am afraid I'm not too old to have cancer."

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Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs? Posted: 11/23/2008 11:12:29 AM
There's nothing wrong with a man who considers no oral sex to be a deal breaker for him anymore than a womans refusal to perform oral sex, and vice versa. Just don't get into a relationship with the person in the first place. That's called communication. And to Ninki: That's a pretty broad generalization for the male species there Ninki. I can categorically say that it is absolutely not true in my case, and probably doesn't even apply to half the male population. I like oral sex because a) it feels so good when preformed correctly and b) it is a great relief to not have to do all the work. No matter how much moving around a woman does during sex, we men do perform the lions share of the work because of the mechanics of sex. We just happen to be the ones with the pole, so of course we are the ones that have to work it. It feels great to be able to sit back once in a while and enjoy the feelings without having to exert ourselves or worry about pleasing our women.

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Perpetually Bad Breath & Morning Sex Posted: 11/23/2008 11:06:16 AM
I don't think brushing your teeth before bed does much to combat bad breath in the morning. At night when your saliva stops working and the bacteria that are normal to your mouth start to multiply and then you have morning breath. Just keep some gum or breath mints handy for the morning so you don't have to worry about spoiling the mood by getting out of bed to brush.

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He broke if off because it was to physical??? Posted: 11/23/2008 10:54:50 AM
I would say he was intimidated by your sexuality and aggressiveness during sex. probably because he has a self-esteem,/confidence issue. Don't let it trouble you. It's not the first time I have heard it from people. IMO, a confident women excites me and I do like her to be aggressive from time to time. It's good to have balance as it gets tiring as a man to always be the aggressor.

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Women and Dogs Posted: 11/23/2008 10:45:37 AM
What about men and their choices of dog? I'd love to get a chuckle out of that :)

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SNOW!!! Posted: 11/23/2008 10:43:15 AM
Not a big fan of the snow. Don't mind a little around Christmas but it's mostly just a big pain. The city does a crappy job clearing the streets and it gets worse every year because of the budget. I think we're in for a lot of it so might as well get ready for it!

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the disgusting cruel season Posted: 5/29/2008 9:16:00 AM
I think all of those that are complaining about the seal hunt that aren't strict vegans or strict vegetarians are total hypocrites. You better not wear fur, or leather either. Have no animal by-products in your home or lives whatsoever. Have you ever visited a kill floor in a meat processing plant? Not a pretty sight and no more or less humane than clubbing or shooting seals in the head. The pigs or cows are corralled and run through a maze a fencing to keep them in line. As soon as they get in there they can smell the death that awaits them and get upset... you can hear them. They stand in a long line while someone on a catwalk come us to the first animal in line, presses a pneumatic gun which uses air to propel a 3 inch spike though their skull. Then they hang them on a hook and slit their throats to bleed them out before being taken to processing. Repeat. All day every day. I am a meat eater like most of you and the only way to feed our huge population is to process large amounts of animals in this manner. It isn't fair, and it isn't pretty but it is a fact of life. Throwing a live lobster into a boiling pot of water is not nice either but since the lobster isn't "cute", no one really cares.

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woman sues airline for passenger shooting semen in her hair Posted: 3/22/2008 4:14:08 PM
Another frivolous lawsuit. The airline is hardly at fault but they would be the only ones with the money in this case. Some stupid judge will probably grant her the judgement and perpetuate the cycle of suing companies or people for personal gain. What I want to know is if he already shot the supposed load in her hair, why was he still flogging the bishop. Most people put their toys away afterwards. It smells like a bullsh!t story to me.

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GWB...it just keeps getting better eh! Posted: 3/22/2008 10:52:21 AM
Once you figure out that Bush is just a figurehead, installed by others with an agenda, and that the election is rigged, you will start to realize what kind of trouble the US is in. And us with it. However, there is not much that can be done about it so might as well enjoy your life as much as possible before the whole thing falls apart. If the american economy goes belly us like it looks like it will, it's gonna get a little rough up here.

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Am I wrong? Posted: 2/16/2008 12:28:49 PM
I would relax until he comes back from his trip. Your getting wound up over nothing.

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RIP sweet angel (Karissa Boudreau ) Posted: 2/16/2008 12:18:18 PM
There saying it is an isolated incident because they probably have a good idea who it is. I'm betting on the mom or the boyfriend. It's almost always someone close, look at the statistics. Do you really think she had a fight with mom and just happened to get killed by a random stranger? Sad as hell.

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From POF to Facebook....tracking you down Posted: 2/10/2008 11:21:51 AM
I use facebook about as much as I come on POF. Not a big fan of facebook really. At least POF has forums like this and you don't get a million invites a week for dumb little apps like Zombies or stupid events you never want to go to.

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Talking on cell phones while driving .... New Legislation Posted: 2/10/2008 11:17:06 AM
Do you know who I see driving with a cellphone stuck to their ear most often? The police. Seems like every time I see a cop they are talking on the phone. How does he drive his car, deal with his computer, radio, radar, AND watch for crime on the street while chatting away on a phone?

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It's been a while Posted: 2/4/2008 12:07:25 AM
Ten years is an awful long time to go without sex. Were you in a coma or something? That's the first question I would ask. It's a little on the odd side so you may want to have some sort of explanation planned.

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long first post...Need Advice, incredibly infatuated with a taken girl and need to snap out of it.. Posted: 1/31/2008 12:35:55 AM
Time to move along. A long time ago. You're in the friend zone and that's where you'll remain. That's also about the longest story I have ever read on here.

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Is there sex after prostrate cancer? Posted: 8/21/2007 4:24:29 PM
I have friend in his 50s and his still works. Not surgery though... I believe they just did radiation therapy and chemo. Let this be a warning to all men... 1 in 3 will have some type of prostrate issue or another. make sure you keep that sucker used and well massaged.:)

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ELVIS PRESLEY Posted: 8/16/2007 3:50:33 PM
Elvis is dead. Give it up You're talking about an entertainer who changed the dynamics of music, movies and entertainment as a whole. Nobody else has had the influence and power to affect all those genre's at once...like he did. The possible reason some people are still emotionally distraught is because his influence probably had some sort of connection and/or memory from the past. I remember a friend of mine who would play elvis music constantly as we drove to hockey tournaments. It became sickening at the time but, it was because of Elvis' music and popularity that make those memories such a fun thing to laugh about now. I was never a big elvis fan but, I sure have a lot of fun memories thinking about the times many of us shared while listening to Elvis sing or watching all those elvis movies. In part, I think, as well, it has to do with his sudden and unexpected death... he left the entertainment world with a huge gap to fill... they still haven't filled it. I'm not saying Elvis didn't change the entertainment world because he did. To be shedding tears 30 years later about it is just messed up. There are many more people who have done far greater things for mankind than Elvis ever did and I don't see multitudes of people crying in their coffee on the anniversary of their deaths decades later. It's just celebrity hysteria.

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Pit Bulls Posted: 8/16/2007 2:43:02 PM
Nice post Tianna. Very well said. As the owner of 3 pitbulls I am appalled at the prospect of BSL. Complete and utter crap. Media fear-mongering and typical knee-jerk political reactions. Alcohol kills thousands each year and no one bans booze. So do cars. More people die or get injured crossing the street than they do in dog attacks. Those dogs didn't attack people, they killed small animals. So do cats. Everyday. Truth be told, the owner of the dogs is responsible for the actions of his dogs and if they killed animals and cost somebody $$ from the death of livestock then they should be fined and held accountable. I think putting them to death was an overreaction. If they were labs they would still be alive. I have been a little busy and missed in the news where they are talking about BSL. If someone can give me some more information I would love to be there to support the cause in any way I can.

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How far would you go to please your partner sexually??? Posted: 8/16/2007 2:05:50 PM
I'm pretty much up for anything that doesn't get people hurt, killed, jailed, or playing with human waste products.

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ELVIS PRESLEY Posted: 8/16/2007 2:01:23 PM
I think it's kind of pathetic. He died like 30 years ago. I doubt any of those people crying ever met the guy or even seen him in person. To top it off, how many of them do you think are still crying after 30 years of a friend or a family member has died. Elvis is dead. Give it up.

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why do men like cyber sex and exchanging dirty pics?? Posted: 8/15/2007 4:06:32 PM
Cybersex is well... yawn. If they want to exchange naughty pics, if she offers em up I won't say no, but if I'm that interested I'd rather see the real thing. Self pics usually aren't done all that well.

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Blowing it on the womans face?? Good or bad Posted: 8/15/2007 3:58:30 PM
I knew a girl that loved it on her face. It was her "thing". I'm sure there are more men that want to put it there than there are women that want it there but who am I to judge or ask questions. Fire away! I'd rather keep it inside myself. Feels better that way for me anyhow.

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Good Baggage maybe luggage Posted: 8/15/2007 3:53:51 PM
Is that why I always have the desire to stuff them in suitcases? Who? The kids?

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If your lover/girlfriend says she'll never give you BJ's...EVER, would you stay with her? Posted: 8/15/2007 10:42:42 AM
Never been with one that didn't and yes it's a deal breaker. Not just because it means not getting a part of my sex life that I love , but also because that would mean she's pretty close-minded. I need an open-minded girl to match me.

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Good Baggage maybe luggage Posted: 8/15/2007 8:30:05 AM
Everyone has baggage of one sort or another. The key to a decent relationship is to find someone whose baggage doesn't contrast harshly with your baggage. At one point in time I think the term baggage was also used to describe children.

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From Nigeria, With Love Posted: 8/14/2007 7:43:56 AM
You'd think the Nigerian government would do a little more to combat the scammery that is their nation. Then again it probably is responsible for 1/2 of their GDP.

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Compliment or insult? Posted: 8/13/2007 12:14:14 PM
I think the only reason people feel offended when someone who is contacting them compliments their appearance is because a) they either aren't attracted to the person making the compliment or b) for whatever reason if someone here says someone else looks good then they must just be looking for sex. It's not like someones profile can give you actual insight into their sunny disposition and magnetic personality. It's the picture and the sense of physical attraction that draws them in... getting to know them is the hard part Why deny the attraction? Stupidity.

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Serial/Multiple Dating??? Posted: 8/13/2007 11:45:35 AM
Serial dating... hmmm. As long as that person is not having sex with every person that he/she is dating, I don't think it really matters. Once it gets down to sex there should be a discussion about it and what is expected at that point. I personally don't like to date multiple people. Too confusing and how can you possibly get a feel for one person if you have 5 going at the same time.

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The shock factor? Posted: 8/13/2007 11:41:02 AM
I always respond the way I would want someone to respond to me. Politely. Too many rude people in this world and I refuse to be one of them.

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Asking too much?! Posted: 8/11/2007 9:45:49 AM
Some are just looking for friends or activity partners, some are looking for friends with benefits. Others just don't know which box to check.

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Is it too forward to give your cell number after only 1 or 2 emails? Posted: 8/11/2007 9:13:17 AM
Personally, I would rather move to phone asap if I am interested because emails are too impersonal and a bit of a time waster. Go for it!

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Has a girl ever tried to stick a finger in u? Posted: 8/11/2007 9:05:57 AM
It can be a great experience but it really needs to be mentioned before plunging knuckles deep without lube and sharp fingernails. And that goes both ways.

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ILL CALL YA.....WHY????? Posted: 8/11/2007 9:02:59 AM
Perhaps the "I'll call ya" line is used to avoid potential confrontation. Some people get extremely upset and even aggressive when they are rejected... women included. They want to know all the reasons why you won't be coming back and sometimes you just don't feel like telling them that they weigh 80 lbs heavier than their 10 year old profile picture shows, or they have the personality of a brass doorknob. I had a date with a girl that would not accept the simple " Thanks for the date, but you aren't the one for me " and wanted the nitty gritty. So I told her what she didn't want to hear and was harrassed for 3 weeks by phone and email.

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when you find yourself alone , and decide to date , after 40 Posted: 8/11/2007 8:47:40 AM
It seems like your in a bit of a rut there mate. After your marriage or LTR fell apart you slid into a bit of a groove and now it's become a rut. It's hard to break out of being a couch potato for so long. The way I see it you have two choices. Break out of the rut or find a girl in the same rut. Personally, the healthy choice for both mind and body is to dig yourself out. Perhaps finding a partner will provide the stimulation you need to get going, but you will be far better off if you do it yourself for your own reasons. If you ever need some friendly advise, just ask.

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girly girls Posted: 8/10/2007 1:00:22 PM
I like a girl that can be feminine, as well as go riding in the dirt with me once in a while. As long as she's comfortable in doing what she does it's all good with me.

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Ex-Gf wants to be friends, I want more. What do I do?! Posted: 8/10/2007 12:54:39 PM
You need to listen to all of these other people that say "RUN AWAY". You need to forget about that little lassie and move on to bigger and better things. The more you think about her, the more harm you are doing to yourself.

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Past adultery Posted: 8/10/2007 12:50:14 PM
I think full disclosure would be in order. If you are stressing about it now, you will continue to do so. it may eventually be your undoing. The truth will set YOU free. Whatever the issues with your ex, your affair was your doing. If you had problems with him then you should have dealt with them instead of hiding in the arms of some sweet-talking man. Suck it up princess.

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The Natural Triangle Posted: 8/10/2007 12:45:03 PM
I'd better put on the nomex suit for wading in here and saying this. First off, I agree with the posters that say if a person is in a LTR, they really have no need to be hanging around singles of the opposite sex. End of story. It's just a problem looking for a place to happen. I have a theory on why there is so much infidelity, divorce and other relationship issues. We can blame women's lib for much of it. In the push for instant equality between men and women, the roles of the two sexes have been drastically altered and with it, relationships. Now we have women in workplaces that were male only for a long time and we have men and women working and playing together. Temptation is all around and in all honesty, I think more than half the people out there lack the willpower to resist that temptation. Genetics and instinct do not change at the same pace as modern society. Not too long ago we had men going to work, and the women staying at home. Men had male friends, had male co-workers and socialized with other males almost exclusively. The same could be said of women. Now it's co-ed everything. It's really no wonder that LTR relationships are falling apart and marriage is not what it once was. How can it be? As a disclaimer for those that will probably think this was a stab at womens equality... it isn't. The world needed a change and women weren't getting a fair shake in our male dominated society and power structure. Human beings are just animals, albiet relatively intelligent ones, but introducing such a massive change in group dynamics takes a long time to adapt to. Perhaps generations. I'm sure we will get it right a few decades or centuries down the road. In the meantime, we'll just have lots of affairs and broken marriages.

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Little Boxes Posted: 7/29/2007 10:54:47 AM
The solution is simple. Run away in the other direction or prepare to get hurt. No good will come of this. He won't change no matter how hard you try to make him or you will pretend you can accept being in one of those boxes and be miserable.

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Further Down the Downward Spiral Posted: 7/23/2007 9:22:14 AM
Well, I would have to agree with the OP, especially on opening statement. Modern society is going to hell. Most people of become so self-centered and egocentrical it borders on ridiculous. Few will lift a finger to help their fellow man/woman and for the most part seem to take delight in their misery or even kicking them when they are down. Morals are going out the window as is any shred of common decency. I partly blame our media souces because they encourage it and the sheep that comprise 2/3 of our population will follow anything the media tells them blindly. The rest of the blame goes to the crappy side of our own human nature. The internet isn'y helping either. It discourages actual socialization and communication and encourages people to act out because they are somewhat anonymous.

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Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19 Posted: 5/26/2007 2:12:56 PM
Hell.Yes. Nuff said.

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Bikes cruiser or rice rocket which has more sex appeal Posted: 5/26/2007 2:11:40 PM
Both have appeal to different groups of people. I like and have had both cruisers and sportbikes.. but never a Harley and never will. Hate the bad attittude towards non-Harley riders that many owners have and won't contribute to the delusion. Overpriced ego machines.

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why do guys use women Posted: 5/26/2007 2:06:48 PM
Waaaaah. No one can use you unless YOU let them. Suck it up princess and move on.

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why cant they give head properly? Posted: 5/26/2007 2:02:07 PM
I'm not sure if the OP realizes that wet is the vagina's natural state when aroused... or it should be. She should just bung that dry old snapper with sand and cement and be done with it. Not worth a single tongue wag.

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The truth about Pheremones... Posted: 5/16/2007 1:29:06 PM
Pheremone perfume in various shapes and forms have been around for a long time. It may work to a small degree for some people but if it was the amazing sex guarantee they always purport to be then it would be in every cologne/perfume/body spray/soap that is on the shelves and way more ugly people would be getting laid. Rubbish. Only booze does that.

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