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Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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woman more open minded Posted: 3/8/2009 11:17:19 PM
Being open-minded is good. As long as your mind isn't soooo open, Your brain is falling out!!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Confused man, please help Posted: 3/8/2009 11:14:57 PM
Communication skills are a factor here for sure! (or lack of..) She's obviously playing the " damned if you do...damned if you don't game! " Solution: Say Bye Bye to Sybil & move on....

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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He hits on other girls on dates Posted: 3/7/2009 12:21:22 PM
Get RID of Him Pronto. He has no respect & isn't worth your tears!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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A mental picture that is life long. Posted: 3/7/2009 12:19:53 PM
I've got this mental image you look like "Shrek"! by the way you are describing this situation. What women are you meeting? I can't say I agree or think that way! And by the way, SHREK grew on me after awhile, & I did love his personality!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Drain or Gain? Posted: 3/2/2009 6:56:16 PM
Cool Title! Drain or Gain? That is a good way maybe to evaluate a person we meet, after knowing them somewhat.... are they a "Drain" to us or are they a "Gain" ? I might start using that in my decision making. Sometimes I connect with a man who maybe has endured similar situations, but usually its not the base line. I connect more in the "today focus" what we have in common as far as interests, goals or personalities. Some people haven't healed from their "war wounds" & carry them with themselves into new relationships which become a drain. The last thing I want to hear from a date is about all their hard times, their former marriage, (where its not finished for them in their head), or for them to expect me to play counselor or mommy to them. Scrw that!! It's time now for me! To live a little, not go backwards into that pile of sit!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Just curious whats going through this guys head Posted: 3/2/2009 5:39:48 PM
Hello RobertKoi: Just some food for thought! Returning cell phone calls/ txt msgs. within 1-2 minutes no matter what a person may be doing seems very unreasonable to me. Are you aware that in Canada (I see your from Sweden?) it is illegal to talk on a cell phone while driving a car & if one happens to be on a busy highway like the 401 or QEW in Toronto for instance.... they are not going to worry about responding to a call within a few minutes... highly unlikely... nevertheless... even without driving... if you literally mean what you said, Unless the person is literally dying your expectations are way off the map.. good luck in your search!

Miss New Year

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Just curious whats going through this guys head Posted: 3/2/2009 4:56:41 PM
Hi Livinggirl.... I like your UK accent! Funny how we can pick that up in the writing! He had his phone switched off, period. I wouldn't read too much into it. Who knows what could of come up for him, or why he didn't answer. I think you may be Over Reacting as you asked... Plus he's a fulltime dad. That alone is a busy job so he probably doesn't have much time to waste, when it comes down to it. You left a msg. now let him respond. See if he does / doesn't... Its no Biggy!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Do any of you in your 40s ever feel like a fish out of water in the dating scene? Posted: 3/2/2009 4:40:13 PM
Yes! I can relate to what you are saying. It certainly isn't the same as it was for me, like 25+ yrs. ago... A Fish out of Water feeling happens to me when I am around a dating scene where people (socially) are living as if they were still 25 but have no ambition, not much goin for them but the ongoing dating/bar scenes & some are sleeping with everyone in their circuit! Then they have the nerve to comment to me (negatively) cause I don't Play/Swim their way! WTF.... I don't call that Having a Life! It isn't what I'm about or want at this stage in my life. But when doing my own thing... I am most content, meeting a new person, conversation, enjoying ourselves with mutual interests, etc. So it hasn't turned me right off the dating scene.... just a little more picky of who I spend time around.

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Is there THAT many bad people in the world? Posted: 3/2/2009 4:18:23 PM
It would of been easier to read, if you used paragraphs....but I did read all of it. We dated for about 2 months total and he just lost intrest, Maybe it takes a little bit of time, to discover...."who the jerk really is!" they can only hide their spots for a short time before as yu stated, I know in my gut something was wrong ....Your gut is your higher self, telling you something/s but are you listening? 1st guy: met in person...he was in awe of me and it just felt right. 2nd guy: he swept me off my feet. He just couldn't get enough of me, always calling, texting, making plans....it was really going great 3rd guy: He was so into me and my life, so interested in me and it felt great So you see any common themes with these 3 guys & how they immediately come into your life & make you feel sooooo good? They are called: PLAYERS, WOMANIZERS, & are very good at what they do!! CON Women! How do you know, HE"S one: the answer is below (the silent voice calling you, from deep inside yourself): I got that gut feeling again, that bad feeling. Some of us, have been there as well, so I don't see this as an isolated case, but LEARN to Listen to what your gut is telling you! I'll take my own advice as well, ok... Good Luck!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Would you date someone who is separated? Posted: 3/2/2009 3:54:30 PM
Sometimes Divorces take a looong time in the courts, with lawyers fighting for each client's fair (or greed) share, so it depends on the situation with the separated person. But to play devil's advocate for a second: When a date says they are divorced, how do we really know they are? Do we ask to see their divorce papers? I think most women can get a sense of where a man is at, in his head, when it comes to the ex, or is he still hung up on her, wanting her back, resentful toward her, feels taken to the cleaners, or really maybe is glad it's over. Takes a few conversations to see just what is what. Even it means he is just out there soughing some oats, & not really looking for a relationship, etc. Women are Smart!! well most anyway. But then there are the smart, manipulative liars who can outsmart us, maybe for a bit, but the truth shows itself eventually... just my take on your topic

Miss New Year

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Is finding someone your priority? Posted: 3/2/2009 2:17:26 PM
I am my first priority! "It's all about me, now!" (kiddin...not really though). I spent years focused on 'others' & now I need to be top priority! Finding someone? I see it more as meeting people, & see what happens but not losing myself in a relationship. Dating helps with meeting new men & taking my time (to enjoy life also) without it becoming a "need" or "must have".... I dont know... this site is a tool to opportunities to meet others I may not otherwise meet or have known. Life is Good anyway!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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How can i tell this really love? Posted: 3/1/2009 8:23:48 PM
You didn't say how long you two have been together? Maybe you just really care about him, as you stated & only time, can answer the question of Love & he has "most of the qualities you look for in a guy". Well that's really something good. I don't think we ever get "all" the qualities we look for or wish for. Guess it depends on what we are looking for right! So TIME is my answer.

Miss New Year

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what is wrong with me Posted: 3/1/2009 8:17:59 PM
Sounds similar to the song, ' I Put Your Picture Away' by Kid Rock & Cheryl Crow! People change when they are ready & want to, period! How many chances are in your Deal Breaker codes?? I think the guy is doing what he knows he can do, based on you constantly "believing" he'll change (for you!). so now im stuck between a rock and a hard place . You're only Stuck if you choose to be stuck! Soooo, I'm still curious though, why you labelled your title what is wrong with me . I think you already have the answers somewhere inside yourself, & just hesitating for some reason to do what you need to do?

Miss New Year

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dilemma - what to do Posted: 3/1/2009 11:16:47 AM
He can't stand the fact u "found him out"! That he's been playing a little game on the side, he calls entertainment for him but I'm sure you weren't entertained by what you discovered unexpectedly on his computer. Also that he has to put in a dating site profile the exact opposite of what he really thinks and is, etc shows he is lieing again, to others. I'd say 'be done with him'. He had one good point though, " life is to short " so take that advise & kick him to the curb!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Am I Tripping? Posted: 3/1/2009 11:08:44 AM
Sounds like this is "normal" (not) behavior for these 3 people? Lack of boundaries comes to mind not to mention disrespect! What was the point of them coming into the bedroom anyway? Is that their social area when visitors are there? Your b/f should of respected you & especially when you asked they leave the room. I'd say No to anymore between the sheets time, at this guy's place, that is unless you can put up with drop-ins pulling up a pillow without any thought??

Miss New Year

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Trust Issues Posted: 2/28/2009 5:16:03 PM
P.S. IF you've already had this conversations with her several times & nothin changes...then nothin changes, right! I say do what you need to do... sounds like she gets her way doin what she wants to do?

Miss New Year

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Trust Issues Posted: 2/28/2009 5:15:49 PM
Not Fair! What's good for the Goose....u know what I'm saying. Can't have it both ways... soooo you're right, she's got jealousy issues & trust stuff goin on. Unless you want to be controlled & have it all her way- then I say... either stay home or move on...or you will end up resenting her double-standard.

Miss New Year

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When down and out who are your true friends? Posted: 2/28/2009 4:28:29 PM
Yes... Real Friends.... I'm looking for a few new ones!! Time for new people, out with a few older friends, who showed me their true colors.

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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When down and out who are your true friends? Posted: 2/28/2009 4:28:07 PM
Real Friends are there for you or should be when your down & out! Fake friends are a dime a dozen & when the goin gets rough, is sometimes when you see, that one or two friends you thought were real friends, are really fakes! That's when I make a decision, & let them go.... out of my life. I'd rather have one real friend than ten or more, phoney "here only for the goodtimes" friends.

Miss New Year

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Post-rejection friendship Posted: 2/23/2009 10:12:06 PM
Did you tell her you had a crush on her? Is she not worth even being friends worth? Doesn't necessarily mean: I don't deserve to be her boyfriend just maybe the timing or whatever. If you liked her then why not be her friend? Sometimes platonic friends can be very good to have as well. And, you never know where this new dating thing, she's began, may go? Try not to feel Rejected, & see what happens? ( or not ) your choice!

Miss New Year

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How do you weed out? Posted: 2/23/2009 9:40:41 PM
My Mother has always told me that most of the reason I end up with some complication with another person is because: " I'm too Nice!" She was/is so Right! There are those types who take advantage & others who have serious mental problems I'm having trouble cutting the contact when I start to feel uncomfortable Gottcha! Me too at times but I have been through so much bullsht in this past year with very serious issues that have exhausted my patience, I won't do it anymore! Period! If it's a new acquaintance & I experience this. They may get a first time but never again, a second time! I'm not doing this anymore. Personally, I don't give a sht what they think of me afterwards. They are the one who are being inappropriate, disrespectful, & by geez getting on my last nerve! Take a stand.... Get rid of them! You are the better person, & believe me.... staying connected to these types won't make you feel better, just worse. Love yourself, or like yourself, just enough, to say & know " I deserve better than this!" And be done with it. That's the way I role these days. It's called: Self- Preservation!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Getting even or holding a grudge... which would you do? Posted: 2/23/2009 9:30:40 PM
Ohhh...psssst: I can soooo relate! I am guilty of spending some long hours thinking up ways to get even.... thinking it'd make me feel better, but low & behold, because of aging, etc. (knowing better now..lol) I didn't follow through. Years ago, I would if I had a way to get even & think that made all the difference. Today, although it pi$$es me off Bigtime! I know that somewhere I'm hurting from the incident... & pray that Karma takes care of them! lol Good topic...

Miss New Year

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Would you Marry the ONE you Love or Love the ONE you Marry? Posted: 2/23/2009 9:25:19 PM
I had an older female friend over 25 yrs. ago who said, You marry the man who doesn't send you into tail-spins emotionally. Because in the long-run, they are consistent, not the intense type that you fall for in the beginning & it fades out quickly. Don't get me wrong... I'm still talking about LOVE here, just not the bells & whistles that used to woo me in the younger years. So Someone who is there through thick & thin, you Love, but not the major highs & lows.... I disagreed then, thought it was boring! Today, I stand corrected, & see the sense this woman was making. By the way she's still married, after 30+ yrs. & their relsp. is respectful, mature, & compatible. So who knows really? Just thought I'd add my two cents for what it's worth.

Miss New Year

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Advice for a coworker Posted: 2/23/2009 7:05:11 PM
My oh my! coworkers can't stand her anymore and are laughing at how stupid/dumb she is Well as Forrest Gump would say: " Stupid is what Stupid Does..." and sounds like she's living in La La Land to pull that move. I see no reason why she can't or shouldn't do her usual job at like what? few wks. pregnant. If it's an issue she better get a Dr. note to advise management she can no longer do.....whatever! Now I know Where Red Foreman got the term " DumbA$$! Some people just don't want to deal with the matters at hand (divorce/reality) so jump on the next person who comes along to escape their own reality. She'll pay the price for this, Im sure... & most likely as a single mom too.

Miss New Year

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How would you behave if someone rejected you under these circumstances? Posted: 2/23/2009 6:52:33 PM
Not sure what the age gap was but nevertheless, he disappeared & I'd be saying: Addious I'm a Ghost to him.... If I were him, which I'm not so really can't say or know what his thoughts were, he might just be looking for women his own age based on the situation & what you are saying. Maybe he's busy emailing others now so hasn't had the time for you?

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Should I run for the hills? Posted: 2/23/2009 6:43:40 PM
You remind her of her Ex! Run Baby Run..... she said the next time we get together she wants me to use a knife during foreplay... Holey macironi lackofagoodname, that's some heavy stuff that could be...??? what do you think? If this step is beyond CRAZY to you... then most likely it's going to be more than a wild ride! Sees her Ex in yu, Knives...Kinky...wow...Good Luck with that one!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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SINCE YOU'VE BEEN GONE POEM Posted: 2/23/2009 6:10:20 PM
Since You’ve Been Gone It’s been a long tough road getting home once more Back to familiar things and treasures I adore Suffering in silence trying to live alone All my dreams I cherished will forever be unknown Waiting, waiting, for something that feels right The days grew long and I dreamed of you every night Tears have dried up and emotions gone away You’re not coming back again, and that’s not okay Driving through town on my way back home I swore you were standing there but I was alone Why’d you have to leave me and go away I didn’t get to see you or have any last words to say Left broken and shattered to suffer endlessly That wasn’t the plan that was laid out for you and me They say don’t worry time heals all wounds I’m scarred and have been left in ruins You betrayed me and shattered my heart How can I forgive or find a brand new start Secluded, away, is where I prefer to be Because these past years are haunting me All of my hopes that I once had No longer matter and that makes me sad I need to let you go and say good-bye for good Let things unfold as they should Painful things can happen to anyone alive It happened to me and I still strive To move on and live my life once more I need to let go and close this door (Dedicated to my partner who passed on March 2006) Written by Miss New Year pof

Miss New Year

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Ghosts of Past Posted: 2/23/2009 6:03:51 PM
Since You’ve Been Gone It’s been a long tough road getting home once more Back to familiar things and treasures I adore Suffering in silence trying to live alone All my dreams I cherished will forever be unknown Waiting, waiting, for something that feels right The days grew long and I dreamed of you every night Tears have dried up and emotions gone away You’re not coming back again, and that’s not okay Driving through town on my way back home I swore you were standing there but I was alone Why’d you have to leave me and go away I didn’t get to see you or have any last words to say Left broken and shattered to suffer endlessly That wasn’t the plan that was laid out for you and me They say don’t worry time heals all wounds I’m scarred and have been left in ruins You betrayed me and shattered my heart How can I forgive or find a brand new start Secluded, away, is where I prefer to be Because these past years are haunting me All of my hopes that I once had No longer matter and that makes me sad I need to let you go and say good-bye for good Let things unfold as they should Painful things can happen to anyone alive It happened to me and I still strive To move on and live my life once more I need to let go and close this door (Dedicated to my partner who passed on March 2006) Written by Miss New Year pof

Miss New Year

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SLOW THIS HORSE DOWN POEM Posted: 2/23/2009 5:55:48 PM
Slow This Horse Down! To sit & cry, just know, you are alone in this world that has become abox Nothing seems to change the fact that you want to jump ship Things just keep rolling on and feels like you took up residence in Fort Knox Keeps moving through you, getting shakier, soon you’re gonna fall, gonna slip Just can’t get a hold of the reins to this out-of –control mustang horse Holding on for the wild ride & hope the gallop will slow down to a trot or slower pace I want to this stop, can’t sit in this saddle any longer, won’t last the course Can’t focus, can’t function like this, sooner or later, I’m sure I’ll fall on my face I didn’t sign up for any of this, didn’t even want to be a contestant in this race But on and on it goes, up & down, moving too quickly round the track I gotta slow this mustang down now… but I’ll hold on anyhow, just in case Missing is the Patience, the tolerance, & energy I lack No time to sit and think, or catch my breath again, just trying to survive somehow Through all this stuff, that’s come upon me & threw me into a spin Shake it off now, get a grip, take control of this horse now Can’t for the life of me, understand why all this is happening? The ride’s been a long, ferocious one, like never before Can’t stay here, do this, hold on much longer It’s taken too much outta me, I’m tired now & sore Won’t bounce back, ride this again, can’t get stronger What’s coming up ahead there, where’s this ride taking me? No answers, no solutions, just confusion, just questions & a little hope The cold wind still blows through my soul & that’s not how it should be It’s challenging me, pushing me, overtaking me, where I can no longer cope (Written by Miss New Year on POF)

Miss New Year

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DREAM POEM Posted: 2/23/2009 5:45:51 PM
Dream People say I’m a Dreamer looking for diamonds in the ruff Passion like the rivers run too deep I don’t believe in any of their stuff Just search for love & peace, go on take that giant leap What’s wrong with wanting special experiences each day Finding treasure hidden in one’s soul Just waiting to be found, taking grey skies away Filling someone’s empty hole Where are the pirates, they’ve all disappeared somewhere No longer searching for their prize Wake up people, why doesn’t anyone no longer care Reach out , before all our creation dies People say it can no longer be that way in life Stay silent, don’t speak up to change Take everything you can and guard it with your life No wonder this world is becoming deranged I want to be that dreamer and hold onto faith To see the good that dwells within all that there is Against all odds, I’ll believe it just in case Special things can happen, this I don’t want to miss (WRITTEN BY: MISS NEW YEAR - POF)

Miss New Year

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TO SUFFER IS TO GROW POEM Posted: 2/23/2009 5:36:03 PM
To Suffer is To Grow! ∞ To Suffer – is to grow, to know, to show…..strength, wisdom & success Poison leaking inside a once unscathed soul Changes you, harms you, never would you of guessed To what degree there would be a gaping hole No longer who you were once… not even sure who you are now It keeps flooding into your wounded, now different being Is this real? Possible ? And if so, How ? It wasn’t planned, welcomed or something you we’re seeing It just plotted it’s course, came at full speed Before you could get a grip or even retaliate… Like a plant grown from a tiny seed that grew & would cultivate Even though it was naked to the eye, it would feed It was there, the writing on the wall – but gave no notice Showed up, in multiple form Like being hit with a closed fist Something unexpected, right out of the norm No time to react, attack, get yourself in defense mode Sneaked up, & took you, shook you, broke you in two Carried, over time, quite a huge load, buckled you, warped you Took away any strength, left you in the cold Brought you to your knees…. Like being in the eye of the storm, when the waves are choking No matter what you do, God didn’t give mercy or hear your pleas Once shiny new, useful, but now, cracked at the seams & broken (Written by Miss New Year pof)

Miss New Year

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To Suffer is To Grow POEM Posted: 2/23/2009 5:32:34 PM
To Suffer is To Grow! ∞ To Suffer – is to grow, to know, to show…..strength, wisdom & success Poison leaking inside a once unscathed soul Changes you, harms you, never would you of guessed To what degree there would be a gaping hole No longer who you were once… not even sure who you are now It keeps flooding into your wounded, now different being Is this real? Possible ? And if so, How ? It wasn’t planned, welcomed or something you we’re seeing It just plotted it’s course, came at full speed Before you could get a grip or even retaliate… Like a plant grown from a tiny seed that grew & would cultivate Even though it was naked to the eye, it would feed It was there, the writing on the wall – but gave no notice Showed up, in multiple form Like being hit with a closed fist Something unexpected, right out of the norm No time to react, attack, get yourself in defense mode Sneaked up, & took you, shook you, broke you in two Carried, over time, quite a huge load, buckled you, warped you Took away any strength, left you in the cold Brought you to your knees…. Like being in the eye of the storm, when the waves are choking No matter what you do, God didn’t give mercy or hear your pleas Once shiny new, useful, but now, cracked at the seams & broken (Written by Miss New Year pof)

Miss New Year

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BUSY PEOPLE POEM Posted: 2/23/2009 5:20:03 PM
Thank you Mandrake Appreciate the welcome

Miss New Year

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BUSY PEOPLE POEM Posted: 2/23/2009 5:13:21 PM
BUSY PEOPLE Busy people runnin round Chasing dreams of more Never happy, never still Acquiring more material things Forgetting about the poor Selfish actions, cell phones galore Blackberries, credit cards & internet Flashy cars & designer clothes But always wanting more Busy people with empty lives People, places & things Just don’t fill them up Misery is what it really brings And the Devil smiles Doing his favorite job Cause he has so many guests And their souls, he did rob. (Written by Miss New Year on POF)

Miss New Year

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The Best of Music! POEM Posted: 2/23/2009 5:12:01 PM
The Best of Music! Why’d all those great singers we had, have to go, have to leave Too early for them to disappear, such a young age too And all those people out there, their fans, were left to grieve Like Hendrix, Joplin, Morrison, and Marley too Gone are the good ones, who left this world too soon Such talent & style, each possessed such a drive Just made people want to listen, & chill with them on an afternoon Their music touched us, made individuals feel alive The Best of Music! Nobody can replace them or take their place Even years later now, there’s no musicians out there Who could ignite fans & bring that same smile to their face The music still plays & musicians of the same, are very rare So much has changed since those greats left suddenly New styles & genres of music, trying to appease But really, it’s not the same, not of the same quality Rock Stars trying to get famous who are finished in a breeze Not the same or capable of the talent like our past heroes But they still live on in all those, who kept them in their hearts Still missed for the uniqueness, the look, the depth of their souls They’ll always be remembered by people, music & the arts. (Written by Miss New Year on POF)

Miss New Year

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EAGLE POEM Posted: 2/23/2009 4:27:50 PM
EAGLE KNOWS… Eagle flies up high above the clouds, almost floating Watching, alert to what’s beneath that blue sky Soaring higher toward the warmth of the sun so bright Alive, and all is well, peaceful, in harmony up so high Eagle is keen to everything up, down and all around Full of grace characterized by a magnificent eye Vision directed to what’s waiting on the ground Sacred for many & to the spirit in the sky Eagle heals from beyond the levels of the horizon Helps you to find the wings of your soul Teaches to learn is to look higher than you’ve ever done To take flight & soar, connect to the universe once more Eagle brings lessons for our spirits to learn To reclaim personal power through all the highs & lows Conquer the fear, reconnect & to yourself return Take flight like an eagle to freedom and to where love grows (written by Miss New Year on POF)

Miss New Year

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Question? Posted: 2/23/2009 4:13:54 PM
she said shes no longer in love with me because she knows who i am now. WTF? I'm not sure what that exactly means & I certainly don't know you but did something happen that made her want to get away from you? Plus, yu state: she could never date me again and could never like me again My guess is that something went down that wasn't too pretty & now you want to change? I'd say she was clear with what she didn't want! You!

Miss New Year

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Does hard working mean rich? Posted: 2/23/2009 3:39:56 PM
not looking for a lazy baztard. someone who'll get their a$$ off the couch exactly bakedbrie, lol, that's what I meant to say... thank you. I like your version better than mine

Miss New Year

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JFK survived Dallas and is living in Switzerland with Marilyn Monroe Posted: 2/23/2009 1:58:25 PM
How Do You Get on the Island? lol.... my bags are packed too... waiting for the SS Minnow...Hey Gilligan If you find out how to get there...Let me know....I'd be in Paradise!!

Miss New Year

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How can i tell this really love? Posted: 2/23/2009 1:53:09 PM
(how can I really tell if I love him or just another bf that I'm infactuated with) TIME! The beginnings of relationships are, to me , an infatuation phase but without really knowing a man long enough, the good, bad, & ugly sides (lol), we may just be seeing what we want to see which is clouded by ( the pink clouds ) feelings. Time is our best indicator of Truth or what will transpire between you both (or not)..

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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How to Distinguish Love and Codependency? Posted: 2/23/2009 1:39:04 PM
(where does one end and the other start?) There are so many definitions of Codependency that it can be confusing. The initial label was coined for those partners of Alcoholics/Addicts, & has evolved since then. The Best meaning I've heard is: Loss of Self! So in answer to your question, as to "where does one end & the other start?" If we lose ourselves by being in a relationship with another, that's a problem. It should be like 3 entities, (a rlsp.) You, the Other Person, & (3) the Relationship. So you are not emeshed, or without the person, Lost, not whole! There are some very good books written about Codependency by Melodie Beattie you could read to get more insight.

Miss New Year

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What would you Do? Posted: 2/23/2009 1:27:30 PM
you have a friend who is sick. Not the flu..not something that is going to get better real soon. I find when friends are very ill, they are not themselves & can be less fun. Depends on their ailment, they may not get better! I'd try to be there for them for sure but if it became too much for me at times, I'd take a small break. I think that's when they'd need their friends more than ever though. Sometimes friendship isn't always 'fun' but there are times, to share tears, fill the lonliness for them, etc. I believe real friends need to be there in the best & in the worst of times, for each other.

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Does hard working mean rich? Posted: 2/23/2009 1:11:40 PM
Some say that we need to "work smarter" , not necessarily "harder". Some people work less hours (not 9-5r's) & make good money! Some work long hours & barely get-by. But one thing I do know.... most women want a man who works (not lazy) not meaning labour intensive job but desire to work & not be a couch potato!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Do musicians get a bad wrap... Posted: 2/23/2009 11:51:12 AM
There are Musicians & then there are musicians! I find them Interesting, Talented, & very Entertaining (I'm not the groupie-type) just appreciate good music/talent. A woman can get a sense of the musician (but not know him) how he conducts himself on stage & off stage whether he is a scum bag or the opposite of stereotypical 80's types. e.g. Does his EGO demand girls hanging off him, during breaks performing at the club, Is he groping women? What is he commenting into the microphone toward the audience, etc. But my interest is really about the MUSIC, is it good? Am I Liking or not

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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Ladies: Alpha male vs. Sensitive... Posted: 2/23/2009 11:38:06 AM
Can you let me know what "parts of the month" that is? which 1/2 ?

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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JFK survived Dallas and is living in Switzerland with Marilyn Monroe Posted: 2/23/2009 11:30:31 AM
Right! Sooo, let's see, Marilyn & Kennedy, Jim Morrison, Elvis, Janice & Hendrix, Bob Marley, Kurt Cobain, & all the rest have a Secret Island where they go to live in secret, in order to be remembered Young, & not as Seniors, because..... They can't DIE.... impossible! Thank God for Pychiatrists who know to treat people with this " They're still alive Syndrome "

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

loving music one extreme to the other Posted: 2/22/2009 10:12:01 PM
Give Me the MUSIC to Soothe My Soul..... (you know what I'm saying here, right)

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

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are musicians prophets? Posted: 2/22/2009 10:07:40 PM
There are Musicians/Artists that Touch People's Soul's & Take them to Nirvana, so to speak! Some Musicians have come & gone, some flopped, passes on, had their time to be in the limelight but still around..... What matters is they impact people's lives, (I'm not gettin into the negative theories on this topic here, put that on another forum topic). The words, lyrics, etc..... touch individual people for what ever reasons..... but most of all, they are inspired, written & brought to life, by the musicians out there, to express what others connect to in so many personal ways. Without them (Musicians) this would be a very dull world!! (for me anyway)! SHINE ON...to all those creative, unique, talented musicians who make MUSIC!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Alcoholics wasters. Posted: 2/22/2009 9:53:46 PM
I am speaking out in regard to the Person with a serious Drinking problem! Whether we call it Alcoholic, Substance Abuse, Disease, Problem Drinker, etc.... The people whose lives have become seriously unmanageable do to their drinking (patterns/short-term or long-term) & has caused serious consequences in their life by way of family, financial, employment, criminal, friendships, etc... They know who they are whether they deny it or not! The fact being, that they need HELP! (SOS) Cause they are going down..... to places they don't want to go...... I'm not hung up on the Labels or Experts here! I"ve seen many people taken by the drink (drug, which I won't even get into here, another topic) so I'm not NEW!!

Miss New Year

Joined: 9/12/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

are musicians prophets? Posted: 2/22/2009 2:49:44 PM
I'd say pretty dang close! lol John Lennon, Bob Marley, Elvis, James Brown, to name a few. Prophets maybe, but not God! lol You Don't Have to Believe in God....just know, You r not Him(Her/It)!

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