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bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Men ignoring their own kids but taking on the responsibility of another mans children. Posted: 4/16/2007 6:22:11 AM
Maybe its not all the mans fault. I got divorced three years ago and only get to see my kids every other weekend. As much as I try when we are together there seems to be less and less that we have in common. I no longer know any of their friends, the kids have little to say about their week, they want to be with their friends. Weekends that we are suppose to be together get canceled because my children have events that are more important to them such as friends birthday parties, recitals, trips, visits to relatives etc and I would rather let them do the things that they feel are important then have them obligated to spend time with me. My ex wanted me out of her life and the courts decided that my time with the kids should only be with me two weekends a month so keeping those bonds has been difficult. I love my kids a lot. They will always be my children but the little time we spend together tends to break those bonds. It is like a good friend that you have lost touch with; there will always be fond memories.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Single (never married at all) men over 45 Posted: 4/14/2007 8:28:10 PM
I wonder if putting divorced makes you look like damaged goods? Personnally I think single and divorced are one and the same.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Retirement: Do we need to be on the same page? Posted: 4/8/2007 10:12:37 AM
Geez, now you got me thinking... I am still working though I been thinking about retiring. I'll probably work at least another 5 years or until they let me go. Definately we need to be on the same page, my problem is I don't know what page I am on. I enjoy working but my next job will be just for the joy of it. Travel someplace helping in some meaningful project that will make a difference in someone else's life. Most important she will have to be a partner.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Dating over 50 Posted: 4/1/2007 8:10:38 PM
I think dating not easy at any age. I wish I had more dates as a teenager. I wish the relationships lasted longer. I was envious of thoses who always seemed to have someone on their arm. I had no idea what I wanted. Now that I am older I have a much better idea what I am looking for. Yes my first attraction would probably be toward a younger girl, eye candy, and I suspect first looks would be the same for most of the women. But someone who takes my heart now will be someone near my age. It may not happen still I continue the search.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Changes in our life time Posted: 2/25/2007 3:46:36 PM
I dislike how every town and city has become so homogenized. Now it seems that they all are so similar, having the same chain stores, the same chain restaurants and similar architecture. Once a long time ago you could travel to a different town and find a whole new world with its own set of adventures.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Over 50 Posted: 2/10/2007 5:04:25 PM
Me, I got cold feet but a warm heart. Guess I'll continue my walk alone. Relationships seem to take a lot longer to develop at my age. though the freindships are more enduring. Best of wishes to finding your ideal mate.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Does anyone else feel lousy after stopping smoking? Posted: 12/2/2006 5:54:20 AM
I am quitting startng today. Hopefully this is the last of many previous attempts. Good luck KathH and congratulations.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What life is really about Posted: 11/27/2006 4:47:36 PM
What a great way to look at life. I want to marry this girl... (even her profile is sweet)

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Fear Posted: 11/20/2006 4:38:29 PM
I would much rather meet in person. I have a hard time decphering profiles. Yeah, it probably my fears more than anything.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Pre-Nuptial Agreement? Posted: 11/17/2006 3:45:01 PM
I am all for pre nuptials. I would want one when I marry again. But knowing my thinking I will let my heart lead and pass on getting one. I think I know the mistakes I made so next time it will be forever and then the pre-nup wouldn't have mattered.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Why do we rate photos so harshly? Posted: 11/11/2006 6:46:50 PM
I have always been confused by rating pictures and maybe I don't know what the reason for rating them is. Sometimes when I am bored or just phishing I will rate pictures but my reason for rating them has changed. The first few times I rated pictures it was to find fishies that were appealing to me. If she wasn't what I found appealing to me they didn't score high. But now when I do take the time to rate pictures I do it for a different reason. Now it is "Is this persons picture one that I think shows the best that that person can be?" There are picture that just are not good on any level, that don't show the person in the best light or are just plain stupid. Pictures of a group of people, blurry pictures, sad or angry pictures. These get a low vote from me regardless of how appealing the person is to me. So I guess my question is which is the correct reason for rating pictures? Thats my take on it.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What do women look for in a man after 40? Posted: 10/24/2006 5:20:39 PM
Send me the catalog I need to order up a few of these women.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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The sexual revolution of the 60's Posted: 10/22/2006 7:21:54 PM
You are sounding like Rush Linbaugh. Birth control made "free and easy" sex possible but don't blame it on the man. From my experience it takes two to have sex. As for Feminism, I think most women should be proud and supportive of much of what they espoused and the ideals they stood for. But like any ideal some people take things to extremes. I am finding your thinking very closed minded.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What fashion trend would you like to see make a comeback? Posted: 10/8/2006 6:45:38 AM
Nice hats like they wore in the 30-40s before my time. Definately more class than baseball caps.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Thought of the day - makes me think what life is about Posted: 9/22/2006 5:06:01 PM
What a great message, or bunch of messages. I have my resentments which I find hard to let go of but I find those that I most like being with are those that can make the best of the situation they are in. You posted some good words of wisdom. they must be a reflection of your heart.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Dating vs. Long Term? Posted: 8/25/2006 5:05:47 PM
I definately like long term. Always look forward to a second date

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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After 45 do you feel threatened by the opposite sex? Posted: 7/26/2006 7:48:54 PM
Well I think I feel more threatened. To me women seem to have more hidden agendas, more requirements and I feel like I have less and less ability to meet those requirements. Maybe the difference is searching online verses meeting them in person. There is more time to contemplate responses online. I definately feel that online chat and emails end quicker. Maybe its my own pickness. Oh well I can keep dreaming. I never had much success understanding women though it hasn't made me any less wanting to share my time with them.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What do you look forward to? Posted: 7/18/2006 8:41:36 PM
HorseLady, I just live your posts. I can't say I have had any great desire to have a bunch of horses, but I could be persuaded. What really intrigues me is the depth of your questions and the feeling you put in your posts… but back to the question… I was infatuated with my wife, love at first sight and a three year courtship. While I am bitter about how it ended. I do want to say that she is basically a good person even though I no longer want anything to do with her. So what do I want? I want someone to spend time with, doing things together, I want someone who does not want to constantly change me, I want to share secrets without being judged, someone I trust completely, I want to laugh, I want someone who believes they can make a difference in the world, I want too much.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Revolving doors Posted: 6/27/2006 7:50:34 PM
when approaching a revolving door with a woman what is the proper thing to do? Should I go first or should I let the lady go first? I have asked three people and have gotten three different answers. Help me ms. manners, pleaz.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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I don't date because my hair is so thin.... Posted: 6/26/2006 8:27:23 PM
CrystalHeart, My first thought was that you probably notice it more than your date would. Our eyes tend to magnify our own shortcommings. If you are self conscious about it then by all means wear a hat or wig. After all you want to have fun and be comfortable. Your consideration of others is to be commended. Seeing your picture on line I would be a bit shocked if I noticed all the thinning on our first date. It might cause me to be a little more reserved. However I would hope that I knew enough about the lady that you are, the lady within, prior to our date that I would not care. I hope I am not sounding to harsh, if I do my apologies.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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little blue pills Posted: 6/25/2006 6:23:03 PM
For myself, Over the last 4 years I have noticed my erections are not as often or as long lasting as they use to be. I haven't reached the point where I need these pills but I can see that going that way. I have thought about getting a prescription however I personnaly don't like taking any medicines, even asprin. While sex is fun and always seems to become part of my relationships I find that a woman that is a true friend, whose mind and feeling feel like they are my own is much more desirable. She becomes much more beautiful and "love" more fufilling.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Why hasn't it gotten any esier. Posted: 6/21/2006 8:18:07 PM
I really don't feel any "chemistry" I am feeling the same way. I got to admit I only been out of a relationship for a few years, but I am having a hard time finding that chemistry. Many beautiful women, one I have had the pleasure of 'dating' for a few months but I don't have that tingling feeling. Is it just me on the rebound or something else. I wish I could just grab a few of the women I see here, wrap my arms around them, and dance in the sand under the moonlight. God would that feel good.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What do women look for in a man after 40? Posted: 6/16/2006 7:50:07 PM
Wow I think I know where to find that perfect man. Now lets see... 1 from column A, 2 from column B, A little from that post up there... Yup. He is out there alright. Now if I could only find a way to put the pieces together.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Men reaching age 50 + Posted: 6/12/2006 4:53:40 PM
Didn't understand a word of it.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Window Shopping Posted: 6/9/2006 3:57:32 PM
I've got my bags packed. Which town?

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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I can act like a man - You make me feel like a man Posted: 6/7/2006 9:00:18 PM
I was talking tonight during dinner with a friend about love and relationships when this realization came over me. I can act like a man. But when I am with a woman, I feel like a man. I am not talking about the sexual part. It is the feeling I have about my self. Things like greater confidence, the way our minds connect, and the thought that are shared, validation, and support and balance it offers. Does this make any sense? Do any others feel the same way? Do any of the ladies have similar feelings?

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What happened to the desire? Posted: 6/6/2006 7:03:37 PM
Nice thoughts there lady

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Dolls on the Horizon? Posted: 6/4/2006 9:48:28 AM
I wouldn't pay $10 for one. A real person is much more entertaining.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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How long does it take to fall in love? Posted: 6/3/2006 7:39:37 AM
I use to fall in love real quick. Now, as much as I want to, it never seems to happen. Such is life.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Have you really ever felt really lonely? Posted: 6/3/2006 7:27:56 AM
Being single I feel alone. It is nice to share experiences and deep thoughts with someone. But the time I felt loneliest was the last 5 years of my marrige. It was as much my fault as hers and I plan to never let that happen again. A relationship requires constant attention.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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So is this I'll show you mine.......? Posted: 6/1/2006 10:19:01 PM
There are a few things I think you could do. Get rid of the first few lines. I think it makes you sound too boring. Also you mention finding someon with similar interests but up to that point I don't think you described your interest. I would elaborate on them a bit first. I have seen a lot of your post on the forums and think you will succeed. I think you should add another picture, maybe one more casual or with the theater marquee in the background to spice it up a bit. Best of luck.-Tim

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Could you please review my profile... Posted: 6/1/2006 10:02:58 PM
From reading your profile profile I get the impression you are looking for one night stand rather than a date. "liberal girl" & "head off on an adventure through the night...". My guess is it turns more women off. Add some more sentences and break your curent sentence into two or three. Just my thoughts.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Hey Check this Canadian girls profile out! tell me what you think!!!!! Posted: 6/1/2006 9:45:56 PM
Cara. First I like your pics. I think you should take out some of the hahah's. The puncuation is a bit off but I think it fits your style so I wouldn't change it. If I was 30 years younger you would have gotten my interest. I hope you find what you are looking for.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Please rate my profile... Posted: 6/1/2006 9:34:21 PM
For what its worth I thought its pretty good. Good luck.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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check me out!! Posted: 6/1/2006 9:29:45 PM
I liked your writing a lot. I wish I could write like that. But like the previous post said, I think it is a little long for my tastes. I think you should shorten it a bit.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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how do you like me now? Posted: 6/1/2006 9:22:38 PM
You should start by fixing the spelling. If you don't have a spell check program there are free online ones where you can cut and paste the text you want to check. Try typing "spell checker" in google to find one. You also might want to give some ideas on what interest you. What are your hobbies? Hope this helps.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent? Posted: 5/27/2006 11:35:13 AM
I am taking care of my mom now. I can understand someone not wishing to start a relationship in this situation as takes away a lot of free time. It is also hard to give the needed attention to developing a relationship.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Am I beyond help? Posted: 5/26/2006 9:39:57 PM
Check my profile. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks. -Tim

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Does this site really work Posted: 5/26/2006 9:22:22 PM
I met a wonderful lady online and dated for 4 months or so. So I think this works. Distance becomes a problem though. Its hard to get serious when someone is 1,000 miles away. Still many interesting people on Pof.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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please rate my pics and profile (honestly) Posted: 5/23/2006 7:38:19 PM
I'll give it a shot, but I don't get much response to my profile either so my advice probably doesn't mean much. 1) Correct your spelling. First impressions count and poor spelling can turn off some people. 2) Get rid of "I have alot of interests that we can try out later." What does that mean? Why not let someone know what some of those interests are instead. 3) Whats with all the mail settings. Seems like you have eliminated 99 out of 100 possible people. For men especially the less the better. Limit your criteria to 3. If you start getting too many responses, or the wrong type then start adding to it. Hope this helps.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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A NSA affair Posted: 5/23/2006 6:22:29 PM
I think you would be stupid to lie and cheat like that. You should either get a divorce or at least a separation before you start fooling around. If you are unhappy with your present situation and don't want to make it better, then you better call it quits. One more thought. Are you truely sharing the responsibility of bringing up your kids. Maybe your wife is overwhelmed and exhausted. Try helping her more. That will take some of the stress off of her and maybe bring the relationship back to where you want it.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Ladies & motorbikes Posted: 5/20/2006 4:59:42 AM
I saw your picture and if the driver is half as cute as the bike then I am in love.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Introducing, me! Posted: 5/6/2006 5:50:47 PM
Name is Tim, 52, looking for a long term relationship, someone with a great smile, to share adventures with.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Things You've Learned and Advice You'd Pass On Now That You're Over 40 Posted: 2/9/2006 8:53:00 PM
Don't laugh with you mouth full

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What is unconditional love to you? Posted: 2/6/2006 8:16:53 PM
Unconditional love to me is acceptance. Accepting their faults. Forgiving mistakes. But in return you shouldn't be ignored or treated badly. If you are its time to leave.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Guys who stay rather than being alone???? Posted: 1/28/2006 7:21:00 AM
I stayed in my marrige because I loved my ex. I hoped that she would change. Maybe it was expectations or thoughts that what once had brought us together would return. Anyways we stayed together longer than we should have. Lesson learned - you can't change people and we all continue to evolve. Though she will always be in my heart she will never be part of my life. Hope was my reason.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 12/26/2005 6:10:18 AM
Damn, I thought we are all emotionally challenged.

bluesky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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divorce after longterm marriage Posted: 12/26/2005 5:38:57 AM
Dog Mommy got the most important thing right.

BlueSky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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kissing on the first date? Posted: 12/5/2005 8:21:12 PM
"we women aren't really that complicated." .... now thats funny!

BlueSky02

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What have you learned from your failed relationships? Posted: 12/5/2005 7:03:12 PM
I just ended a 16 year marriage. For me I was smittened the moment I met her and married after 3 years of dating. She spent the next years trying to change me and I tried my best to become the person she wanted. Anyways you can't spend all you time trying to change someone. So What have I learned? Don't spend all your energy trying to please others. Please yourself first. Don't stop talking. Don't talk in anger. Make time to be together.

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