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screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 68 (view)

Second (or Third or. . . ) Time Around Posted: 10/31/2009 3:12:37 PM
Third time??! Perish the thought! The first time may be a "no brainer", but the second time around should require the utmost thought and soul searching and with effort, it could work out. But, three times is an addiction.......find a less damaging hobby. "Chemistry" should be effortless.....RELATIONSHIP requires WORK.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 783 (view)

Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married? Posted: 10/31/2009 3:03:56 PM
Perhaps some feel desperate because they haven't had children yet...or have never been married...? Thankfully, I married in my twenties and had my children. To get married now, we would have to be "head over heels" in love and very good for each other in every way. No one has ever tempted me again, although, you never know about the future.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 195 (view)

Health issues and finding a partner at our age Posted: 10/31/2009 2:47:48 PM
I am in remarkable health for my age, or any age, for that matter. I take no drugs of any kind, have no physical impairments and never feel pain, unless I bump my toe...lol. I would have a problem becoming involved with someone who wasn't healthy. I cared for my mother for the last two years of her life (the only bad ones she ever had)........a task that I thank God I was able to do for her (she died at 95) and also cared for her father (my grandfather, who died at 101) for 3 months at the end of his life. I also cared for an elderly aunt for a few months during her recovery from an operation, and an uncle for several months after 5 strokes. I can tell you, "been there, done that", and I don't ever want to have to do it again. I've "paid my dues", as the saying goes.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 138 (view)

Dance of the sexes................... Posted: 1/6/2009 6:02:16 PM
If I "have to make the first move", I am no longer interested in them as men or romantic possibilities. To me there is something SO masculine when a man pursues....and something SO unfeminine when she has to initiate! Shy, disinterested or unsure men are SO boring and unappealing! ....lol!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 410 (view)

Is dressing for comfort instead of style and fashion really a crime? Posted: 1/6/2009 5:40:49 PM
Gee...I don't know....!? If I'm going to be "comfortable",then, I'm probably going to be stylishly and fashionably dressed! I'm VERY uncomfortable when I'm not well dressed!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 187 (view)

What really excites your date after 45 Posted: 1/6/2009 5:36:37 PM
I agree. I'm not looking for "excitement" on an initial date. I'm looking for information, intellectual connection. If I want to see him, or he me, for a second date, then, that's "excitement" enough!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 107 (view)

Smart, beautiful, women over 45; foolish choices - what we do for love. Posted: 1/6/2009 5:30:04 PM
If you MUST marry, then, I have a "formula" that didn't fail me.........for, at least, 24 years! lol! To me it is rational and reasonable criteria, whether you marry or live together....... 1)marry your intellectual and financial equal (or as close as you can) 2)marry your spiritual equal (no drugs, no mental problems, no personality disorders) 3)marry your physical equal (can he or she "keep up with you"?) and make sure he has : 1)a loving, rational family 2)a manageable credit card debt 3)no police record 4)a stable job or income I'm afraid that even after following such good advice, it doesn't mean that life won't deal you the blow that you didn't expect, but, you narrow the chances of things going wrong later, rather than sooner!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 202 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/5/2008 7:57:03 PM
Well, I'm not impressed with this new feature. Out of the seven picks listed for me, two were married and none had anything I was looking for. I won't check that feature again!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

From friends to a relationship Posted: 11/17/2008 7:00:01 PM
Call me crazy, but that doesn't sound like such a dilema to me! Finding someone I loved AND considered a friend would be a real achievement in my book.......

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 102 (view)

My fiance went with a hooker before he met me Posted: 11/17/2008 6:41:58 PM
You should really let it go and move on. What he did 10 years ago is history and should not affect you. He was honest with you, loves you and you're happy with him. Don't think of useless ways to defeat success in your life.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 72 (view)

Do you prefer someone complicated, or someone simple? Posted: 11/17/2008 5:08:17 PM
I prefer someone interesting, with depth of character, complex, but NOT complicated! I detest people who try to complicate my life and bring unwanted drama to my stable existence! Crazy "drama" is SO boring! I have better things to do with my time than entertain complicated people.................

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 66 (view)

What is being successful with one's life? Posted: 11/6/2008 4:35:16 PM
It depends what you mean by "professional". MY professional life was being a good wife and mother. I did an EXCELLENT job of my kids....proud of them all. And, all I can say about the wife aspect of it is..........enough was enough, and I opted OUT! He sure wishes now that it was still ME and not wife #2! LOL! And, I have that opinion "from the horse's mouth"! Life is complicated, isn't it? lol!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 62 (view)

Haven't dated in awhile...problem??? Posted: 11/6/2008 4:23:37 PM
I've never in my life felt the need to "keep up with the Jones's", whatever the issue may be. I am who and what I am, and comfortable in my own skin. I date if I'm intrigued, and don't if I'm not.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 60 (view)

Over 45 and happy to stay single for the rest of your life? Posted: 11/6/2008 4:19:05 PM
I am well over 45 and happy to stay single if I don't find a good "fit" in a man. There is much to be recommended for "single and happy" to "involved and miserable"!!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 687 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 11/6/2008 4:12:50 PM
Yes, money is important......not, necessarily, millions!........but I never had millions at any point in time, anyway. I DO expect to pay bills, live comfortably and without massive debt. I would NEVER consider anyone who couldn't live comfortably and economically WITH me. I NEVER pay someone else's bills! And, I take care of my own.................!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 149 (view)

Who Pays What When Your Cohabiting??? Posted: 10/28/2008 5:33:37 PM
Goodness! Isn't cohabiting COMPLICATED!?...... .. ..... .... .... ....

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 1361 (view)

Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met? Posted: 10/28/2008 5:24:38 PM
Not for me! I might be attracted to someone online, or enjoy chatting with them and value their friendship, but "falling in love" is difficult enough in person and over a long period of time at that! "There's nothing like the real thing, baby"!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

once trust is lost can it be won back? Posted: 10/28/2008 5:07:40 PM
The fault is not yours, girlfriend. The guy wanted an "out", so he leaves incriminating evidence behind for you to easily find, then blames YOU for finding it! Say "good riddance"! If only they were all as easy to get rid of!.......lol. Consider yourself fortunate.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 240 (view)

Worst place you ever been? Posted: 10/6/2008 1:27:35 PM
I've read all 10 pages of this thread and agree with most of the posts where I have been, and believe the posts about the places I have not been. My dream is to see Portugal and I didn't read anything bad about it. I do love the English and French countryside....never had a disappointing vacation there. I lived in London, England, and although not perfect, I always felt at home there.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 55 (view)

She's/He's been on PoF for 2 years..! It that a red-herring? Run or Stay? Posted: 10/6/2008 10:52:15 AM
2 yrs, 5yrs, 10yrs......who cares how long? This site and dating is supposed to be an enjoyable pastime, at least, it is for me. I'm not so desperate to find someone, although it would be nice to meet a special man. In the meantime, I'm not dropping in and out of numerous "relationships" in a pressured attempt to "close the deal" on love and romance. Taking one's time to find the right person is NOT time wasted. One divorce was enough for me!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 15 (view)

Phone calls from the Ex-bf.. Posted: 10/4/2008 10:36:52 PM
You be careful.....obsessive ex's can be dangerous. They prey and depend on your niceness. Consider carefully how much that money he owes you is worth, for it may be less "expensive" for you to cut him off completely and to forget about the money.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 116 (view)

Would you stay with someone who cant communicate or bores you? Posted: 10/4/2008 10:10:51 PM
..........no I wouldn't.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 62 (view)

Would you put a partner you aren't married to on your checking account? Posted: 10/3/2008 9:53:48 AM
I won't have anyone else's name on any of my accounts, my property or my credit cards.......period!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 81 (view)

Naked Pictures on The Internet? Ok or Not Ok? Posted: 10/3/2008 9:09:13 AM
Post naked pics on the internet?? You must be joking.....

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 66 (view)

Why do adults need to live on their own? Posted: 10/1/2008 3:23:34 PM
I grew up in a one parent household. My father died when I was a baby and I "sponged" off my mother until I married. After 9 years of marriage, my elderly mother moved in with me and "sponged" off me for longer than I lived with her. Her father, who lived to be 100, became my responsiblity also. I considered it a privilege. She was a blessing to my life, my ex-husband and her grandchildren, as was her father. Recently, my youngest son declared that I would always find a home with him and his wife, should I need it. In my family, we take care of our own. Of course, we are easy to live with......I'm lucky, I know.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 554 (view)

Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat? Posted: 10/1/2008 3:07:44 PM
I quit smoking for ME!!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 253 (view)

is sex everything in a relationship? Posted: 10/1/2008 3:02:05 PM
Read: crutch or "peg leg".......be creative! lol!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 252 (view)

is sex everything in a relationship? Posted: 10/1/2008 3:00:16 PM
Good sex isn't EVERYTHING..............! It's like the importance of your left (or right) leg when walking......not ESSENTIAL.....but nice to have!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 37 (view)

Going from Hi to bed?????? Posted: 10/1/2008 2:57:04 PM
Getting to know someone well is still relevant, Tibia.....if they don't think so, just kick 'em to the curb!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 68 (view)

Naked Pictures on The Internet? Ok or Not Ok? Posted: 10/1/2008 2:54:33 PM
Internet nakedness is for the crazies.....

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 291 (view)

Do you see divorced people as damaged goods? Posted: 10/1/2008 2:52:05 PM
Three times and you're OUT! LOL!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 132 (view)

October 4, Saturday, Jacksonville/Orange Park- Party at Mercury Moon! Posted: 10/1/2008 2:47:27 PM
.....and I'm stuck up north because of the gas shortage!!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

is moving in before saying the big L a good idea? Posted: 4/18/2008 4:18:16 PM
I know I wouldn't dream of it..........unless he had his own bedroom and was paying me rent.........lol. I told my daughter "if you love and want to marry him, don't EVER live with him first"! Most of the time it goes SOUR QUICKLY after moving day.............!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 183 (view)

Pre-Nups before Marriage --- good or bad ? Posted: 4/18/2008 4:13:35 PM
I think if you're both young, and starting life and career together, no pre-nup is necessary. Most state laws split things 50-50, as is fair, if you built what you have together. Children are provided for until 18, anyway. A young wife with children that get child support can always train for a future job. If you're both of a mature age, and both "come to the table" with financial stability and possessions, then I would have a pre-nup to ensure that you leave the marriage, if need be, with what you came in with...........but SHARE everything you worked for and accumulated DURING the marriage.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 188 (view)

Attraction in your 50's Posted: 2/20/2008 3:49:50 PM
Well, I do state my correct age, and post recent photos, but I believe that I show up in few searches at my age.......such is life!.........Lol! It would be great to find someone healthy, vibrant and attractive in my age group, but not very likely. Nevertheless, I would feel very uncomfortable lying about my age.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 47 (view)

Teeth/Kissing as we age Posted: 7/1/2007 12:31:15 PM
I thought this an interesting thread, coming from "this side of the pond"! We have the best dentistry available here in this country. If you want to see "gross dentition", just spend some time in Great Britain, like I did! Crooked, bad, dirty teeth cross all generations and social classes there!.......I could never understand it....?.....because for the most part, they're friendly, smart and fun to be with. AND, they have good doctors (at least, if you PAY for them). So, what's up with their dentists??

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 228 (view)

Is kissing more or less important to you in a relationship as you get older? Posted: 6/19/2007 8:39:48 PM
I still love long, slow, probing, heart-stopping, butterflies in the stomach, catch my breath kissing! Mmmmm....

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 84 (view)

Orgasms make you live longer? Posted: 5/24/2007 3:01:11 PM
To the extent that positive experiences promote good health, and detrimental and painful events shorten your life span, I believe orgasms prolong life.....a natural and basic thread in the fabric of a successful, energetic and long lived existence.....just be very careful where and with who you partake!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 88 (view)

You're not what I'm looking for. Posted: 8/30/2006 8:42:02 AM
Friendship is a vital and necessary part of any relationship, whatever type of relationship it might be.......but joining this, or any other dating site, so I can make "friends" that are married, in relationships, for "intimate activities", or for "benefits", at least to me, is not only a repulsive thought but ultimately BORING! Everyone should have a standard of what they want and can accept. "Dreamer" is NOT a control freak, in my mind.....the guy she's involved with is the control freak! Wise up girl! Stop dreaming! Kick that jerk to the curb, girl!!!!! I'm sure you deserve better than that......

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 298 (view)

Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time? Posted: 10/21/2005 5:36:18 PM
Did Ms. Picky know they wrote a song about her, on the radio now, a new song, called "Tequila Makes Her Clothes Fall Off". It's country, and you may not like country. But the song is a hoot. She'd get a kick out of it. I don't know who sang it, but next time I hear it, gonna think of her!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 293 (view)

Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time? Posted: 10/21/2005 5:24:18 PM
I didn't mean to scare you Love269. The good part is that when they're grown you develop a totally different relationship with them. They become your friends that you share things with, not just your babies, who you couldn't share a lot with. And, thank you Leafslady for your kind thoughts. I pray for him everyday!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 289 (view)

Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time? Posted: 10/21/2005 5:13:48 PM
I saw that Iluvmonkeys2 has a son going into the Marines. My youngest boy is a 1st Lt in the Marines in Iraq right now. They do grow very quickly!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 288 (view)

Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time? Posted: 10/21/2005 5:10:56 PM
Thank you. I like parties.

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 285 (view)

Quadragenerians 'n up- friendship? love? or just making it one day at a time? Posted: 10/21/2005 5:03:41 PM
Hi everybody! I'm new to POF. I fit the profile (Quad N' then some!) and you all sounded like a friendly bunch. Mind if I join you?

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 166 (view)

Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military? Posted: 10/17/2005 11:08:48 AM
God bless you ,smile in your eyes!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 164 (view)

Would u date at guy or marry guy who is in the military? Posted: 10/17/2005 10:58:37 AM
Sorry Smile in your eyes. My heart breaks everytime I hear of another fallen soldier! Especially with my own son in Iraq right now. But not just the ones from my own country, I think about the Brits and the Aussies too. All that youthful waste because of a handful of fanatical savages. Life's not fair, is it?

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 246 (view)

Instant Messenger Help. Posted: 10/17/2005 10:31:12 AM
I'm new at this site, so I'm sorry if I'm in the wrong place, but I tried to delete the Admin's Matches of the week from my inbox and instead deleted all the messages that I did want to keep!! I can't understand how that happened. Where did they go???My intention was to answer the ones that Had contacted me, not the matches you suggest that have Not contacted me. Any suggestions?

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 158 (view)

Marrying men in the military Posted: 10/17/2005 10:19:56 AM
I spent a long time reading from the beginning. I read enough to know how I felt about it all!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 155 (view)

Marrying men in the military Posted: 10/17/2005 8:52:41 AM
Thanks, Steve. I wasn't going to let an inane comment like that go unpunished; as though there weren't any trigger happy killer types running around Canada......and probably NOT in their military!!!

screenangel

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 8 (view)

i am 25 is it bad that i like older women? is there any older women out there that likes younger guy Posted: 10/17/2005 8:05:19 AM
I thought you might like the perspective of a REALLY older woman who seems to mainly attract only younger men. My feeling was, if I was attracted to him, and didn't look silly with him, you know (like, "What would your son like to drink?"), then nothing lost. I find younger men not as angry or as bitter as the ones my age or older. They're more vulnerable and act more like gentlemen. There's also the issue that I am still very healthy and strong and don't want to be putting some old gent into bed early because he can't keep up with me! 16hr road trips in car might tire me, but dancing at a club for 3 hrs is not going to kill me!

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