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Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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new friends and old friends Posted: 11/30/2005 9:44:01 PM
Gonna miss you rainbow. Congratulations though and I wish you all the best! =)

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Intelligent Superiority in a relationship? Posted: 11/23/2005 12:56:13 AM
ricka, This is actually a pretty good thread. :-) Here is my position. One day I was meditating and in a moment of complete stillness and neutrality within. I had come to realize something profound unto myself. In all things I am somewhere between one and six point three billion (est) people on this earth. Yet in one thing I am something that those six point three billion could never be. To me it matters not what an individuals level of intelligence is as much as, it matters about who they are as people. We don't need to hold our ego's out for anyone and I'm not contending that you or anyone else is either. I am just saying that to me it isn't that big of a deal if I happened to be smarter or (more likely) considerably less intelligent then my partner. No person has that power to define me. I do that by my beliefs, actions and accumulated experience here on earth. For me to consider the idea that I would know enough about you, your beliefs and your experience to make an assumption of intellect or intelligence would be ludicris. But hey, thats just me :-)

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Where are the smart guys? Posted: 11/22/2005 11:32:17 PM
Where are the smart guys? I'm not very smart, but you know what? I am dumb enough to read the rules of these forums before I go posting and PROMOTING other websites. I would give you more then a couple sentences of response, but so far. You prove to me that there is just no way you can be real. Even if you were real it would be so unimaginably hard to gain back your credibility now that you should just leave and not come back. Unfortunately it is your choice though. On the off chance that you are real. I encourage you to go read the rules of this site and when your done ask yourself how much that degree really taught you. Cripes lady, you couldn't even follow simple instructions. They say a mind is a terrible thing to waste. I guess then so is a degree. PS- There are no semi-decent men left in the world. They were all killed by stupid people like you that couldn't read directions.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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This could be fun - How would you fair? Posted: 11/22/2005 7:11:28 PM
e.g., confidently/independently/consistently (equavilent to an A), demonstrates whatever it is (B), with support, is learning/beginning to (C/D). I need and F/I section please ... lol does not get along or play well with others (F/I)

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Would you consider swapping your wisdom for your youth? Posted: 11/18/2005 1:20:11 PM
If it meant going back to the 80's ... I might just do it.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Emotional attachment Posted: 11/17/2005 3:06:32 PM
I have to disagree some what with the statement. This has more to do with the state of mind of the individual and not so much whether the individual is male or female. IMHO

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Should I? Posted: 11/16/2005 11:26:01 AM
YamIhere, I think your rules are right the hell on!

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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A horrible and awkward situation. I'm really stuck here. Posted: 11/16/2005 10:55:31 AM
Obviously this person does not know what they want in a relationship or they could just be having a hard time with being honest with them self. The main thing and Numero-Uno for you though is the number one principle in love and war and that is to protect yourself. You can't change anyone's mind and you especially don't want to influence someone that is having difficulty figuring it out for themselves. You'll only be the cause of more confussion for them and yourself. I'm not saying give up entirely, but I think for you it would be good to shut that door for now. Then take some time to re-think your needs and wants for your future relationships. Very often we don't want to do what needs to be done because we think it will be the end. When in fact it just means a new beginning for ourselves. Always give yourself the best chance for your own happiness :-)

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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can women be bad in bed? Posted: 11/12/2005 6:48:57 AM
Did you realize that first you asked the question and then you answered it yourself? Then, some where in the middle you want to hear about other peoples "bad lays". Thats kinda sad when you think about it.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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The trouble with friends can be... Posted: 11/12/2005 4:21:44 AM
The trouble with friends can be... that they are players. You have to remember that old saying ... "Don't hate the player, hate the game". Sucks yea, but whaddagunnado?

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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men email other men on POF Posted: 11/11/2005 9:39:13 PM
Pfffffffffffff... You ladies have no idea. Of course we email each other. I actually had to make an apology once and then I have had a few inquiries to posts that I have made. Plus, I even have made a few guys friends that are cool people. So, we do talk, but about what though. Hmmmm

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Best friend's mom, sis, etc. Is she off limits? Posted: 11/11/2005 3:21:48 PM
No one can tell you if what you did was wrong or right? Honestly though, if it was my mom and I found out about it ... you may or may not find yourself short a few teeth or with a bloody nose. A family is a circle and when someone trusts you enough to share that with you it needs to be respected. If it isn't then you deserve whatever you get my friend. I will point out something you stated "I was put in situations" ... I am just not sure I'd buy that if I was your friend. You should probably re-think your justification process.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Politics and Relationships - Is it a detirmining factor of success? Posted: 11/11/2005 10:37:04 AM
I have been reading the forums now for around a month. It has been very noticeable that while many people here could care less (too say the least, LOL) about their partners political alignment. Some still feel that it is an important factor and maybe even a (deal-breaker) determining one. I have been on the prowl to find a test that I best feel represents the whole political spectrum, but not just a left-wing and right-wing orientation. So I found one that included economic dimension and a social dimension as well. I know, it is NOT perfect, but one of the best I have found. Plus, it's fun and you might learn something about yourself that you didn't already know and that always a good thing ... I think So, the question is .. "Do you think politics can be a determining factor in the success of a relationship?" Now, take the test and please post your results. =) No registration or any personal details are required to take this test. http://www.politicalcompass.org/ My political compass Economic Left/Right: -6.25 Social Libertarian/Authoritarian: -4.36 Basically put me somewhere between Nelson Mandella and The Dalai Lama, but then I tend to be a bit idealistic. Not to mention a little diluted.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Just how far will women go? Posted: 11/10/2005 12:59:54 PM
Aaah, the sacrifices of beauty. I guess someone has to do it. Better them then me? Right? LMAO OT: essene "Could you imagine us all walking down the street with shrinky dink heads?" Will this mean I will be prettier then I already are? I mean if there is hope just tell me. "We need to make this happen..." Dammit, I am trying but I can't get my arm through the zipper.

Wikster

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Can you deal with it? Posted: 11/10/2005 12:43:02 PM
I have no real coping skillz in life so it would be difficult for me as I'm sure you can imagine. Of course, I would do everything in my power (manipulation, deceit, self-aggrandizement) to run ruin all of my partners’ friendships, male or female. I would just do my best to monopolize all of my partners time with a menial list of "honeydews". That are to sure too keep him captivated in my little web of control. Then I have a tendency to delude myself into thinking I'm actually more important than I really am. It's a sickness, I know. I am trying to get the help I need, but Aaaah ... such is the way of life.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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attraction versus personality? and source of jealousy? Posted: 11/10/2005 11:54:28 AM
In my mind, it would seem that all my relationships start off as a mutual attraction. She finds me good looking and I find her good looking. ""Personality doesn't seem to matter in the beginning"". See, there you go answering your own question. What a dilemma ... tsk, tsk. Would you be willing to tolerate certain unattractive personality quirks of a person because he/she is hot as hell? For those who have the privildge of knowing me and including my other five personalites. We have come to surmise that I am shallow as hell and would probably tolerate anything in terms of personality traits or defective charaters for the all mighty arm-trophy. Can I get a hell yea!! Then again, I tend to be a victim of my own delusional thinking to so, there ya go. And guys! A question for you! Lets pretend you were this guy. Doesn't it bother you when you date a woman who is more attractive than you? Do you think you would be more jealous in a relationship with a woman that was really attractive versus being with a woman that was not as attractive? You know. Back when I was really into dating models and women of tremedous beauty. I would find myself so jealous because all of the attention was on my "hot chick" of a date and not on me. Eventually that just wasn't enough for my ego. I had to have the spotlight on me, but eventually I just settled to the idea that it would be ok for me to sacrifice a little of my own ego. If I were able to just hangout in the limelight of hers. You know like that Timmy Arnold guy did with Rosannebofanna. It would seem to me that jealousy stems from insecurity about one's personal view of self beauty. What do you guys think? true or false? Without all the pretentious sarcasim like in my previous comments... You may be on to something here.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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wanting what you can't have Posted: 11/10/2005 11:12:48 AM
is it true that satisfaction is the death of desire? moist definitely! I've found often people want something really badly until they get it... then for some reason they change their mind. Anyone have any thoughts on this? It is very difficult to satisfy the human ego. Especially if it's own heart knows none. Now that we have heard about another conquered country can we please move on to the next! Next please!! OT: Nice kill essene and Jas. You guys should consider going into Professional Wrestling?

Wikster

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List three things you are grateful for today.... Posted: 11/9/2005 6:49:01 PM
1) God 2) The gift of life 3) The gift of love

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Friends? Posted: 11/9/2005 6:12:33 PM
My perspective is that everyone builds their own lives and develops each aspect according to how they see fit. A persons job, vocation, friends, interests, hobbies, etc, etc are all apart of that persons life that they have built. When we meet someone special who we want to dedicate time and energy too. We don't give up our lives that we have built, but rather we share what we have with each other. I have been single and not looking for close to five years now. I have been developing some great new friendships during that time, but also maintain four of five of my old school friendships as well. If I did happen to find a romantic interest she would just need to accept those thing as a "part" of my life. If per chance she couldn't or was unable to accept those things then thats just not the kind of relationship that I would want in my life. Does that mean I am closed off to compromise or unwilling to change things for my new interest? No, I doesn't mean that at all and in fact quite the opposite. I am willing to change and rearrange things as needed, but give them up entirely? No, I don't think so. My experience has been that if a partner is unwilling to accept my life as it currently exists, then they will probably have an even more difficult time down the road and that won't be good at all. Compromise is king, but don't give up your dignity for anyone.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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SHOULD A FIRST DATE BE SUPPER IN A NICE RESTAURANT? Posted: 11/8/2005 12:21:59 PM
It should be where ever and doing whatever you are comfortable with. If you just openly commincate that to your date and he will either respect that or he won't, but either way. You'll find out a lot about him by his action or reaction to your request or preference. Me, I prefer a walk before I invest anything into a new prospect. After all if you can't walk a path with someone and have a reasonable discussion what is the point of going further? Thats just how I operate and by no means do I think that everyone else should do the same. BUT, I feel that having a strategy is important in dating and going for a walk an a quick bite will generally tell me everything I need to know about that person. Kindest regards,

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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guy was too materialistic Posted: 11/7/2005 9:10:56 PM
Welcome to the raging male ego? Which by no means excuses the behavior, but unfortunately only explains it. He was obviously rapped a little to tight around his Porshe or SSS.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Women at Pubs by Themselves Posted: 11/7/2005 8:46:09 PM
I spent most of my life in somebody's category. No more.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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would u date a 28 year old guy who lives at home still Posted: 11/7/2005 8:21:36 PM
I'm 37 and I live at home with my mom for 4 years now. Back in Aug 01 I was in an altercation at a bar with a guy. It was stupid in itself because all that happened was that the bar was crowded and we bumped shoulders going by each other. He just went off and got in my face all big and stuff. So, we took it outside and well, one of his buddies didn't like the fact that I was pounding the shit out of his bro. He decided it would be ok to hit me in the back of the head with a steel plumbing pipe. I woke out of a coma four days later in the hospital with a triple fracture, one big hole and 5 magnesium plates in my head. It has taken me these last 3.5 years to recover physically, mentally and emotionally. I currently being treated for PTSD because if a mouse farts I react like a shotgun had gone off next to my head. I have made a complete physical recovery now and have all my motor skills complete and intact. I just have the worst short term memory and some balance issues. One of the other bad things was that this happened to me while I was on break from contracting/consulting and didn't have insurance coverage at the time. The bills from the incident came to over 67,000.00 in total. Since no one will testify in court as to what happened I can’t even sue the **stards. I did get some help from the state victim advocates fund, but they will only do what there funding will allow. I guess the obvious point is that there are exceptions to everything. I am just grateful to my mom and family who have completely supported me without a question through this whole ordeal. I am not looking for pity, sympathy or anything like that. I guess I just thought it would better that people realize there are some exceptions. Now, where did I put that thing-a-ma-jig?

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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~ Let's Have Some Fun ~ Posted: 11/7/2005 3:18:54 PM
WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE THE OPPOSITE SEX FOR AN HOUR? I'd place a dinning room chair with it's back against the wall. I'd stand facing the wall at arms length. Lean forward from the waist until my forehead touched the wall. Then I would grab the chair as close to the seat as possible. Then stand up strait while still holding the weight of the chair. Men can't do this as it is physiologically impossible for us. Women on the other hand can do it quite easily.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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New things Posted: 11/7/2005 2:57:45 PM
Sheeet! I thought I was doing good with hanging two wet bath towels LMAO What will they think of next

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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women Posted: 11/7/2005 8:54:29 AM
Your 49 years old and your asking this question?

Wikster

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I always scratch my head at this one Posted: 11/7/2005 8:38:57 AM
ok, I misunderstood him and withdrawl my comments, lol Peace

Wikster

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Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out. Posted: 11/6/2005 9:50:12 PM
Personally, I like them. Generally they are very soft and have a pretty cool texture to them. When my ex an I were togather and intimate I would kiss them and kiss them. I would think, what a sacrifice she made (mother of my two) and it would just compell me to acknowledge that. Its like a brand of a true woman ;-) not to say your not a true woman if you don't have them. I'm just wierd that way.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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ok- so what's next? Posted: 11/6/2005 9:39:38 PM
Are you asking this because at age 22 you are in this place? I would definitely consider some self discovery and realization. Re-evalute what direction you want to head in future relationships. This "maturity" didn't happen for me much later in life, so it suprises me a little that a guy your age would be. Be safe,

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Whats A Gloryhole ? Posted: 11/6/2005 9:14:04 PM
Well, I know this because the area I'm from has lot's of mining going on. Let me just say that in a "Glory Hole" you better have a 2x4 tied to your ass and a rope around you waist. Hopefully you can figure out the rest.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Cooking Together.. Posted: 11/6/2005 8:40:30 PM
It is my estimation that this is indeed one of the most rightous forms of intimacy ON THE PLANET =)

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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will your next relationship be with someone street smart or book smart? Posted: 11/6/2005 8:32:50 PM
I like this thread RF. You present some interesting questions. I like that =) Heres my totally unrealistic breakdown ... 51% - Common sense (The stuff ya came with) 26% - Street Smarts (The stuff ya learned the hard way) 13% - Geekness (The stuff that makes you creative, yes, the little things about you) 10% - Book Smarts (The stuff you sponged off of someone else) Throw in some pretty feet, some Franks hotsauce and look the hell out!! LOL

Wikster

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When someone passes on... Posted: 11/6/2005 3:57:24 PM
Brazen, I am very sorry for your loss.

Wikster

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For those so persistant re grammar & spelling in forums: Posted: 11/6/2005 1:30:10 PM
There was actually a study done about that, very interesting stuff.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Ass to pussy....is this a No No Posted: 11/6/2005 12:30:48 PM
Yep, it's a shitty deal, but it is a fact.

Wikster

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Commitmentphobia, disease or excuse?? Posted: 11/6/2005 11:28:04 AM
You know. Any fear that one doesn't face and deal with rationally is bound to cause side effects in your life. As it is with every human other emotion. It can manifest itself in 1000 different forms my friend. So, Yes it is a disease (actually I prefer, disorder) of the mind and it effects the spirit in such a profound way. It is very sad really because most people who don't have a grasp on this basic premise don't even see how it is effecting their life as a whole. We begin to develop pattern and pretty soon they are habits and then they become ingrained in us and the viscous cycle continues. Reliving itself over and over again. The person asks themselves "why can't I keep a girl more then 30 or 90 days" ... Then they have become a victim of their own circumstances and hopelessness is their lot. It's horrible and sad to see such a waste of the human spirit. Fear is the enemy. Anger is it's ally. Resentment is the keeper. Rage is its rationalization. Love, is the only answer.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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More men are being born. Posted: 11/6/2005 10:37:40 AM
More men are being born. hmmmm Funny thing i was thinking yes, it is funny now that I 'think" about it. Am I the only one that sees the irony here? Just having some fun with ya jaad

Wikster

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Why do so many women just want sex?? Posted: 11/6/2005 10:25:16 AM
Hmmm, you got me man... I would just throw myself off the bridge with those types of problems. Your obviously in a desperate condition and in need of serious toung gaurd. Have you seen a doctor yet because if your condition goes untreated you could end up with a permenantly stained and icky brown nose ass well. Doooood, just go now, don't wait another moment you CAN stop this viscous cycle. There IS hope, don't give up!!!!

Wikster

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just wanna have fun Posted: 11/6/2005 10:03:54 AM
"just wanna have fun" "Why cant dudes just say they want to have fun without it being a negative?" "Girls just wanna have fun" ... as in 80's the song ... need I say more. Girly-man, lmao, jk

Wikster

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Geeky tendencies, turn on or off? Posted: 11/6/2005 2:27:19 AM
If a girl has some geekness then she is my weakness! AND ... Lord Ozric challenges you to a quest ... MUAUhauAHuahA!! @@@Headboss - Did u do that rendering If so, very nice work my man! Your my hero!

Wikster

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oral sex... with different cultures... Posted: 11/6/2005 1:46:44 AM
curious to know how different cultures view oral sex.... I'm NAI and can tell you I would much rather get/do it then view it. I'm sure the headhunters in Borneo see it differently, but they are always pissed about something.

Wikster

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What do you think about during sex?:) Posted: 11/6/2005 1:35:28 AM
I'm thinking ... "Daaaaaamn good to be here!"

Wikster

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Catch a great guy and keep him !!!!!! Posted: 11/5/2005 11:47:56 PM
Your guitarded! Funnin ya a bit man =)

Wikster

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Things to Never Say to a Man Posted: 11/5/2005 11:41:19 PM
Things to never say to a women .... Ever consider posting your topic in the correct location?

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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EXIT SIGNS ............ Posted: 11/5/2005 11:14:02 PM
sorry, for the DP, wierd happenings here at POF tonight.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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EXIT SIGNS ............ Posted: 11/5/2005 11:13:41 PM
Oooooooh .uuhuuh.. Ooooooh uhuuuh.. Oooh, Roy!!!!!! only you name isn't Roy

Wikster

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I want a keeper Posted: 11/5/2005 10:53:43 PM
*first sorry, lol

Wikster

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I want a keeper Posted: 11/5/2005 10:13:21 PM
Fisrt my friend... get a real fishing pole (#5 or #6 Fly pole) and quit drowning that damn worm and put some work into it. Work that fly over the water and switch it up from time to time. Learn a good pattern and try different techniques =) and wcth more Outdoor Life Channel dammit, LMAO .. just funnin ya bud =) Good luck, Wikster psst- Stay out of the ponds and stagnet water ;-)

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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NEED SOME ADVICE Posted: 11/5/2005 10:03:56 PM
I wouldn't invest your time in anyone who was dispondant and unwilling to discuss an issue they might have. If you honestly feel that you have done nothing wrong then why force the issue. She is no longer interested in you my friend. It is a harsh reality, but probably the most appropriate to accept.

Wikster

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Is it us? Posted: 11/5/2005 11:25:40 AM
You make some good questions there in your post. I think OTB hit it on the head somewhat as well. What I see happening in relationships is that often both people are like ships in the harbor of familiarity and they gain a certain security from that. The truth though is that everything in the universe is in constant change, as well as, the closed world around us. You would think that we would be more conscious about that and be adapted and better suited for changes in our environmets and in ourselves, but often it isn't so. What we sometimes find instead is that the port of familiarity we once sought as security has now turned into the stagnet and "taken for granted" pool of stench, lol, for lack of a better word. Familiararity does sometimes breed contempt. Especially so if there is no fresh water flowing into the port we choose to dock. Peace and good luck, Wikster

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