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thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Does it change Posted: 11/8/2009 8:30:34 PM
For me it does. But in a million different ways. Sometimes it makes you closer. Sometimes it pushes you further away. Sometimes it pushes you from figuring out where you're going to knowing exactly where you want to be (and then sometimes thats in a relationship, or sometimes that means nothing but a sex thing). Really though, every thing you do changes things, even if it's just in a minuscule way, right?

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned? Posted: 11/8/2009 8:05:47 PM
uhm, i think it was a joke chances.

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Impatient in meeting Posted: 11/8/2009 7:59:41 PM
to the OP: Its one of my biggest pet peeves about online dating. I need at least a few emails and then at least a couple IMs or texts and then at least a couple good phone calls before I'll agree to meet with someone. I'm just not comfortable otherwise. I'm not talking delaying it weeks, but I'm not rushing into going out with a stranger. Sure, some consider it a waste of time. And I do think that in the end, this may harm me, because I know men who online date have a tendancy to be more immediate or they move on... but I'd much rather "waste time" by a few extra days of emails that take a minute or two to write each, than to go out right away and "waste time" by getting all dolled up and going OUT with a total weirdo because I didn't go through my whole weeding out process! We're all different!

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What should I do about this....? Posted: 11/8/2009 7:49:24 PM
Call him, tell him you heard, and how sorry you are for his loss. He'll let you know whether he wants to have you join him or not. And if the answer is not, and you show up uninvited, you'll never see him again.

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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I'm so confused! Posted: 11/8/2009 7:47:34 PM
If you haven't met either one, you're rushing. Why can't you go out with both? That's how you'll figure out which, if either, are right for you. If you have met them both, I'm grossed out that your whole final decision seems to be coming down to their jobs... class act!

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Chemistry/Attraction Posted: 11/8/2009 7:43:23 PM
For me, I need to have instant chemistry. It doesn't need to be "love" at first sight or anything, but I need to have a "spark" of some sense, both mentally and physically. Every time I've "given him a chance" and gone out a second time when I initially wasn't excited about him, I've regretted it. Usually because he turned out to be a freak :-)

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What is next? what does it mean? Posted: 11/8/2009 7:37:50 PM
Man up and ask her out! :-) If she says yes, you'll know. If not you'll move on! It could mean she's not into you, but not necessarily. I'm admittedly terrible about email. Sometimes I take days or longer to return someone that I really am excited to talk to. I don't know why I do it, I just do. It's no bearing on my interest, I just hate email unless I'm in the mood to sit and write them! Good luck :-)

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned? Posted: 11/8/2009 5:26:40 PM
Does anyone else find it hysterical that it seems to be the people who brag about how much younger they look are usually the ones who look like old foagies? just sayin...

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Dinner With the Wicked Witch of the West Posted: 12/21/2006 3:25:09 PM
^^^^ hahaha and fyi OP, you keep claiming to "enjoy" this so much and to not care what anyone else thinks of you, but clearly thats not the case, if you feel the need to have posted in the first place and keep coming back to defend yourself.

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Dinner With the Wicked Witch of the West Posted: 12/21/2006 8:16:20 AM
i bet you give your nail tech the creeps. can you imagine having to paint on this guys acryllics???? AAAH

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Dinner With the Wicked Witch of the West Posted: 12/20/2006 2:35:36 PM
To the OPer @ # 107: 1.) What you described IS cross dressing. LOL. sorry to disapoint you 2.) If you "enjoy the interaction" dressing in such a way invites, WTF do you have to complain about??? If you dress out of the box, you're gonna get all kinds of reactions!!! You're inviting it, you're asking for it. get a grip. 3.) I guarantee you dont' get more women who want serious relationships with you because you wear stillettos, earrings, and acryllic nails. i dont' know how to prove it, but i'd bet money on it if i could figure out a way. 4.) SERIOUSLY-- troll right? where are the pictures? come oooon, just one. pleeeease???

thejamiecat

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Dinner With the Wicked Witch of the West Posted: 12/20/2006 4:15:33 AM
please show us pictures of you OP, preferably in this getup. PLEASE. omg i can't take it.

thejamiecat

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Dinner With the Wicked Witch of the West Posted: 12/19/2006 8:23:28 PM
has this thing been outed as a joke yet or what? I would have made fun of you too there buddy. Do people like this really exist?? OY... and maybe since you "give as good as you get" thats why it kept getting worse! if you had just killed her with kindness after the first comment or two, she may have stopped. if you kept egging her on you can bet she's going to keep at it. No wonder you gf or whoever she is to you didn't stick up for you. you were probablly humiliating her, not only with your outfit but your childish fighting

thejamiecat

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Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 12/11/2006 3:58:22 AM
^^^ BUT HE WANTED ME TO HAVE A 3 SOME AND HAVE SEX ALOT, CAUSE I LIKE SEX. = the best part

thejamiecat

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How many of you would date a man with no car or license??? Posted: 12/10/2006 4:08:37 PM
there's a difference between not having a license and not having a CAR.

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Men - Mere fashion accessories Posted: 12/9/2006 7:15:14 AM
OP- i think you're being super dramatic and over sensitive here. some people have a preference for height. sorry that you're short and that gives you a complex. i'm sure there are things you have a preference for. it has nothing to do with wanting someone to look good on your (or my) arm, its just what you like. stop being a baby!

thejamiecat

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is it normal for ladies' legs to get cramp during sex Posted: 12/9/2006 7:11:54 AM
OP- are you guys size compatable? maybe she gets muscle spasms from tensing up (tensing in a good way). sometimes my hip with pop out of place in missionary if my legs are out too far. it kills. if anyone is having cramping INSIDE during sex, that is NOT normal and its a symptom of several different female types of cancer, so go to the doc's! better safe than sorry.

thejamiecat

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How many of you would date a man with no car or license??? Posted: 12/9/2006 7:06:27 AM
for me, its not an issue of not wanting to drive them or be their "mother" (though i don't want to be anyone's mother either but that's not really a car related thing, i find if thats a problem its a problem in lots of areas...) Anyway-- and i'm sorry if i offend anyone here-- to me, no license indicates "issues" of some sort, and i dont' want to get involved in that. i really can't think of any reason for someone not to have their license that is something i'd want to get myself involved with! lost it from a DUI? nope. That intense of a phobia of cars? nope. etc... I suppose maybe if it were a medical thing, like a heart condition that made them faint or occasional seizures or something and they didn't have it intentionally to keep other drivers safe (no accidents meaning) then that might be something i'd be ok with but like others said they'd have to be self sufficient about it- i'd drive if we were together but if he can't take care of himself that's another "issue" to add that i won't get involved with! That being said... sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with, so you never know.

thejamiecat

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Girlfriend Honks Posted: 12/7/2006 6:39:08 PM
I agree. TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM clickit

thejamiecat

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offended by this Posted: 12/7/2006 10:04:49 AM
you just told him you were offended?? ^^^^ you still dated him???

thejamiecat

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Girlfriend Honks Posted: 12/7/2006 10:02:34 AM
LOL clickit i bet you'd have an incredibly bizarre story to tell about what a freak he is and everyone would freak out about it for 10 pages. only yours would be true... wouldn't that be ironic

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Girlfriend Honks Posted: 12/7/2006 4:03:04 AM
His stupid story is on page one, i've successfully avoided that. I just like to try and spread the good word. You know, maybe if i tell people what morons they're being, one will eventually say YOU'RE RIGHT! THANK YOU!! and move on to better places. here's hoping!

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Girlfriend Honks Posted: 12/6/2006 7:28:56 PM
exactly! the first oh, 37 or so versions of his freakish date stories may have been slightly amusing, but now that we're on story number 213.5 it seems to have lost its thrill...

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Girlfriend Honks Posted: 12/6/2006 2:01:20 PM
Lol you're very right click it! And I find it kind of sad that this is all he has to do with his spare time... get a hobby buddy. And I find it sad this THIS crap is what people consititute as humor! haha and that if we dont' find it funny we should move along. His BS is every where, believe me i'd like to but its hard to avoid!

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Girlfriend Honks Posted: 12/6/2006 8:21:49 AM
he's kidding people (i know, i know, jokes are supposed to be funny) he's making it up. he makes all of it up. he thinks he's hysterical and the handful of people that think he's clever egg him on and he keeps going. none of the crap he says is real, stop encouraging him!

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Etiquettes and consideration Posted: 12/5/2006 4:49:31 PM
i completely 100% agree with you bikeman, its not right. people downright suck sometimes. but... that's life. spending that life analyzing and stressing and being sad about other people's behavior doesn't change it. no one who is callous and shallow enough to behave in such a way is going to read the POF forums and say, wooow, these people are smart. i think i'll start being sweeter and more considerate and stop thinking of only my selfishass self from now on! i just think its better to shrug it off and move on! when a good one comes you'll know it and in the mean time you learn from the bad. you're only responsible for your own actions and how YOU react to the actions of others.

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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How would you respond to this???? Posted: 12/5/2006 4:38:41 PM
moon thats completely idiotic. thats like when someone makes a homophobic statement and then defends it by saying "but i have gay friends" OP, obviously he wasnt the man for you. move on to another freakish fish ;-) good luck!!!

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Etiquettes and consideration Posted: 12/5/2006 4:32:32 PM
Good for you OP, I think its great that you're just moving on and not dwelling. I think you're handling it wisely! It makes me sad when i see women overanalyzing lost relationships (especially ones that never even really started!) its over, it didn't work, he wasn't good enough for you, just move on to the next one! people get so hung up trying to figure everything out and i think that leads them to often believe there is something wrong with themselves!

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Why is everyone so negative? Posted: 12/5/2006 4:27:06 PM
hmmm... aren't you really just complaining about people complainging OP? kind of redundant or something, not sure what the word for it would be. I actually agree with a lot of what you said (like that we're only as happy as we choose to be, and why is everyone here if all they're gonna do is whine about it) but not all of it it and in general i think this was a pretty pointless post... so, good job.

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Etiquettes and consideration Posted: 12/4/2006 8:49:41 AM
he's just not that into you. sorry for the cliche, but pretty much sums it up.

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Girlfriend Honks Posted: 12/4/2006 8:43:17 AM
oh for the love of god, not another one. don't you have anything better to do???

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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offended by this Posted: 12/3/2006 3:48:08 PM
for me, when i talk to someone online i forget a lot about them- their names and details about their life, even if i'm really interested in the person. i dont' know why but i need to see the person to really remember it. once i meet someone i have a fantastic memory. i wouldnt' take it to personally OP, but that's just me. i would tend to tease them about it actually... but if it bothers you it bothers you. you decide what's important to you!

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Would you let someone you met on the web stay at your place if they traveled far? Posted: 12/2/2006 5:31:09 AM
I definitely agree with you there^^^^^^ I think people overlook the fact that a stranger is a stranger... just because you know someone who knows him through their third cousin's uncle's sister's stripper at his bachelor party does not mean you would be ANY safer than if you had picked him up on the internet.

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Womans Tolerance / Mens Audacity - Which is worse? Posted: 12/2/2006 5:25:00 AM
I don't really get it either. I'm not sure what women put up with it but it's certainly not me. I just ignore it... is there something I'm supposed to do other than that? my favorites are when I get a very brief email saying something lame and gross that is supposed to attract me or something, then i look at their profile and they're the exact opposite of what i specified i was looking for... so i delete it (responding usually only makes it worse). and two days later i get an angry message calling me names for deleting them without a reply and how they don't understand how i couldn't be interested in all that studmuffin... riiiight. here's one tipe guys: at the VERY LEAST start your emails with some version of HELLO. just sayin

thejamiecat

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Married women Posted: 12/1/2006 4:59:13 PM
right, only women cheat.... sarcasm i get sooo grossed out by the emails on here and things where men openly admit they're married and looking for sometihng "discreet" on the side. WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE

thejamiecat

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Giving pof site info to someone else. Posted: 12/1/2006 4:57:22 PM
why would you be beating yourself up about it and feeling stupid?? 1.) he's an idiot for telling you that if its true, and he's probablly lying anyway. 2.) you hadn't even met, he's free to do as he pleases (though its courtesy not to share that with other potential dates i feel!) 3.) who cares? he sounds like an idiot. be grateful he showed his true colors and move on.

thejamiecat

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the fixer uppper Posted: 12/1/2006 4:30:26 AM
I think it depends on the level of "fixing" you're talking about. If she wants you to a throw a sweater on over your wife beater tank top the day you finally meet her parents, and you freak out that she's trying to change who you are- you might be over reacting... If after you've developed a relationship, she decides your career isn't lucritive enough for her and starts brining home applications, you might have a problem. IMO people are either over or under dramatic about this subject. a little change is good and sometimes neccessary. it keeps life interesting. changing the fundamental parts in life that a person LIKES about themself is where it gets messy. OP- if all your girls are trying to change you, maybe you're going for the wrong girls...

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Starting a relationship with a woman who has a ??????????? Posted: 12/1/2006 4:25:20 AM
To answer the OP, that depends if you're racist or not. being that i am not a white man, nor a racist, i suppose i can't answer your question. sorry!

thejamiecat

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Dating a woman who has been abused in the past Posted: 12/1/2006 4:22:37 AM
I'm not really sure what the OP's question is but its definitely a case by case basis. I wouldn't rule out all women who've been in bad relationships or even abused :-( Some heal better than others i guess

thejamiecat

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Why do more women say in their profiles Posted: 12/1/2006 4:10:39 AM
i think it comes down to two reasons: 1) women get a lot more responses than men typically, so they can "afford" to be more selective. if we don't want to talk to you without a picture, we certainly don't have to. men on the other hand may have to email profiles without them and ask for them later, cross their fingers, do a rain dance- whatever it is you do to just hope the person is what you're looking for. 2) men on here can be creepy. that's pretty much it. we have to deal with a lot of shady faceless emails who usually turn out to be married men, child molester, etc, etc... requiring a picture is a good starting point to weed them out.

thejamiecat

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Younger women hitting on older men Posted: 12/1/2006 4:05:09 AM
are you ATTRACTIVE?? i'm 23 and there are some men twice my age i'd love to date, having NOTHING to do with money. you know, we're not all gold diggers, some of us actually do have good heads on our shoulders, but thanks to all of you who like to perpetuate stereotypes. she just may be out to get your money but you know what they say about assumption...

thejamiecat

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Why do men lose the nerve? Posted: 12/1/2006 4:01:41 AM
maybe its the fact that you're responding to emails telling you you're sexy? do you get any that say anything else? i don't respond to that crap, if you can't take the time out to pick something out of my profile to discuss with me other than how hot you thought one of my pictures was, you're not worth my time. maybe you need to go for a higher quality of men...

thejamiecat

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How many of you would date a man with no car or license??? Posted: 11/30/2006 6:31:58 PM
No I would not (granted sometimes you just never know who you'll fall for, but i wouldn't intentionally date someone without a licence) I can't think of any reason for someone NOT to have a license that I would be willing to get myself involved in.

thejamiecat

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What do women think of guys who dont drink?? Posted: 11/30/2006 3:35:49 AM
To answer the OP, I'd prefer to date someone who drinks socially. I'm 23 and like to go out once or twice a week to bars and meet up with friends, have wine with dinner, etc. I don't NEED to drink to have fun and have plenty of fun without it too, but I enjoy it and have it very much under control. I've dated people who drank TOO much, and thats no fun. I've dated barely recovering alcoholics also and thats not fun (i'm the "healer" type of person, and it was hard for me not to be able to just help him, plus he had a lot of other emotional/psych issues).

thejamiecat

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Excited or stalker material? Posted: 11/30/2006 3:31:55 AM
in the first place, i dont' think that's normal at all and i reccomend you running far, far away. but even if he were behaving in some "normal" way, and you felt the need to come post on a message board asking if his behavior was acceptable... i'd say break up with him. IMO in that case you're just looking for an excuse! If there's no problem, there's no problem.

thejamiecat

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Why would a guy brag about other women? Posted: 11/29/2006 3:18:36 AM
Its definitely insecurities. he thinks he's going to impress you with his powers of studliness and persuasion, or that he's going to see how jealous you are and make you want him even more

thejamiecat

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will women date men who use steroids? Posted: 11/29/2006 3:15:48 AM
i wouldn't choose either of you, and it has nothing to do with looks.

thejamiecat

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Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 11/27/2006 6:22:41 PM
I was broken up with over IM on Valentine's day. I was shocked, but my response was laughter (and sadness) and I told him that if THAT is how he handles problems, he's not the man I thought he was anyway and I'm glad that was his decision. lmao, loser. who does that?

thejamiecat

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What do you think? Posted: 11/27/2006 6:20:24 PM
I won't often make the first move to call a man. I like to see how interested he is, maybe its insecuriteis, maybe its the thrill of the chase, who knows. I'd just rather give my number and have them make the first call. After the first call i'm totally comfortable calling back though, even if i miss the first call and need to return it.

thejamiecat

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Threw back a fish...and regretted it! Posted: 11/27/2006 6:16:06 PM
right, she said it was because of her own actions and i got that. i never said TO blame someone else, but beating HERSELF up does no good. I simply meant that he's over it, she needs to get over it too. Simmer down and stop reading more than people meant into things. i've noticed you're often combative for the fun of it and it's lame.

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