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rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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What is wrong with me or is it him [ladys help] Posted: 5/3/2009 8:25:01 PM
I can relate with you.......One thing I've learned is there is definetly a cycle with this. We did look for the wrong men. It's not so easy though to say to look for someone who is not your usual type either. I think now that I just desperatly did not want to be alone. So I made bad choices. Maybe you did too......

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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I am noticing a trend in women over 30 Posted: 4/27/2009 10:50:20 AM
SEVEN.....you said it perfectly girl...:-)

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 367 (view)

I am noticing a trend in women over 30 Posted: 4/27/2009 10:42:25 AM
I don't know if I agree with this thread in the first place.....My mother went for a man considered to be quite older. My father was 8 years older then her. And then there's me. I tend to look at younger men...There's something very weird to me about being with someone older. To me it's almost like being with my father and that's just wrong!!!!! lol

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Well I have an interesting situation Posted: 8/20/2007 6:41:31 PM
My first guess would be that you're her comfort zone. But I think what's more important is that you know how you feel about her. If you guys are such great friends you should probably talk about it instead of guessing.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

Law enforces Payment of Child Support but they are not your children Posted: 7/15/2007 6:41:05 PM
I think it's all ridiculous, however there are cases where the men should pay. Such as having been in a relationship with someone for a very long time and then seperating. I mean if you are the guy and your with a woman for say ten years or more and you have been father to a small child. You've been the only father and they look up to you and seek comfort from you and the security that only a father can bring. Would you then make it your duty to take care of the child, out of love???? If it were me , I tell ya I would make sure I stayed in there lives and was there for them and would help all that I could. In the case of the article above, no he shouldn't have to pay. But I did not like what the wife wrote in the last line. I mean, what if that child was his or the child felt in his heart that it was his. It would be his duty to put shoes on all the children wouldn't it???

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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what came first the thought or the feeling? Posted: 7/15/2007 6:27:02 PM
Hi, I think my dear that some in here may be laughing at you. lol I think yer alright sphinx-fire, so don't let'em get you down. I do believe you are right about what you are saying. You said: "In either case it is always one of the most delicious moments of (painful? - ecstatic discoveries) it can entirely change your life forever". You are so right. Whether it turns out bad in the end or it's wonderful and never ends, the moment it happens and you know it with all of your being, it's the most amazing yet, heart paining moment anyone can ever have. Has anyone ever noticed that when you realize that your in love, and I mean the real deal that your heart actually hurts?? I have felt it for real just once, well....maybe twice and I know it will never happen again. Crappy part is I felt that hurt in my heart just as strong when it was over. Sigh..............................................

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Am I doing something wrong? Posted: 7/15/2007 8:12:20 AM
I think alot people use this site and others to find the so called "perfect" person. They don't exist however. The site can make a shallow person even more shallow. Sad!!!! For example if a very attractive man messages a a very attractive woman, she may believe that he just doesn't look as good as what she feels she deserves. Big problem, because she may be missing out on the one.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 46 (view)

this so called baggage Posted: 7/15/2007 7:53:55 AM
So, I can see that the meaning of baggage has been well said in here. I feel though that without any baggage a person would not grow. I've learned well, from the baggage I carry and if someone doesn't see that I am who I am from what I carry and see that I am a better person because of it then they aren't worth my time and they would never appreciate the true me.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Got a fake diamond ring from fiance, he lied and said it was a 3 carat, 30,000 dollar ring! Posted: 7/9/2007 5:13:56 PM
Wow,,, I didn't read the whole thread but just from reading the first page it's obvious what the men in here think. And I have to say I'm not surprised. Just because the story was about the cost of the ring doesn't mean that that's what the problem is here. C'mom guys,,, do you honestly think what he did was ok??? The point isn't the size of the ring and what it cost. The point is that he actually had someone put in a peice of glass and gave it to the woman he say's he loves and wants to marry. That is a slap in the face!!! He thinks nothing of her if he could do that. I swear.....men can be real jerks.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

Msg: 47 (view)

Canadian Girls....Is it just me... Posted: 5/29/2007 5:29:16 AM
Because are winters are so damn long, we spend that time working on our hottness!!! Oh yaaaa!! Look out summer, I'm gettin the bikini on........

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Describe that 'YOU WILL JUST KNOW' feeling Posted: 5/27/2007 3:12:09 PM
You will know it when you feel it. It is indescribable.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Gender roles and expectations in the future Posted: 5/27/2007 10:51:02 AM
Ok so we don't have enough people already playing God, now you come up with yet another ridiculous idea,,,,like we don't have enough already. It is a fallisy you are proposing and nothing more.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Cheater getting cheated on Posted: 5/24/2007 4:12:53 PM
I can't stop laughing!!! My sides hurt!! OMG Has the OP even been back? I'm sure he read but won't dare respond. What a moron. I can't believe he lives in the same city as me.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Lets Get Racial! Posted: 5/24/2007 3:58:34 PM
"Sort of drifting off focus, but I have seen some children that were little demons from hell! There are PLENTY of children that I will never accept as part of a relationship. It's one thing to date a single mother, quite another to date a single mother with some really bad ass kids. " What if you were the one with the demon child??? You'd be ok with never having a woman in your life cuz they can't handle your kid? Please...kids are kids and they are tons of work and responsibility. Seems to me your just one of the guys not up to the challenge. And by the way if you don't accept the kids then you aren't part of the relationship. Women with kids are a package deal. I'd tell ya to hit the road.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Lets Get Racial! Posted: 5/24/2007 4:55:02 AM
Any man who cannot accept your child, no matter what the race is not worth the air your daughter breaths. I will admit that it takes a strong man to bring someones child into there lives. But what other kind would you want?

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Cheater getting cheated on Posted: 5/23/2007 1:19:46 PM
OMG,,,I just looked at his profile and he lives in the same city as me!!!!!! Buddy you are 39 years old and you have posted the most imature question I have ever seen. I know there's not much to do here, but really give yer head a shake!!!!!!

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Cheater getting cheated on Posted: 5/23/2007 1:16:52 PM
There really isn't anything left to say in here is there?

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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when someone you love has deep problems Posted: 5/22/2007 6:17:53 AM
"many people suffer from bipolar disorder;" This sounds right on the money though I do not profess to be a doctor. My mother suffers from this disorder and I have seen a lot of what you speak of. When he is up he is way up and when he is down he is wayyyyyy down. You said it is very likely that the next time you see hime he will talk down what you were speaking about the last time you saw each other. From what I've see that's not unusual. But, the point everyone is so trying to get accros to you is that no matter how much you love him you are not going to be the one to help him in the fashion that he needs. Loved ones end up being the enabler and we don't even realize it and we can't help it because we do love them. It's a viscious circle.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Males disapproving of women having male friends Posted: 5/16/2007 7:08:09 AM
This is all total bullshite. It's not about wether your friends are male or female. Basically you think men should have male friends and women should have female friends. That is riduculous and imature. I have many friends of both sexes and feel equally the same about both. A good relationship is the bond that holds a couple together. If you are content and trusting of your relationship then it shouldn't hurt your partner to have friends of the opposite sex. That's it and that's all.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Possibly What Higher Love Looks Like Posted: 5/16/2007 6:59:13 AM
Hey great read!! Only had to read it once. hehehe. These words are basically where I am at in my life now. When young many of us enter relationships thinking we can change the other or that now we belong to each other only. It's ridiculous and we are doomed with that kind of thinking. To love unconditionally is real tue honest love.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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making a laptop go wireless internet Posted: 5/15/2007 6:23:14 AM
PCMIA is your side card slot. Looks like the size of a credit card. That can be your wireless. You'll have to purchase an external wireless card of that sort( PCMIA .) If you had internal wireless in device manager under network adaptors you would see something other then the (PCMIA) stating a wireless driver. That slot can be used for other devices along with wireless. You can also go with a usb adaptor. But the card slot is the way to go if you move your notebook around alot. Less apt to get damaged.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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pc automatically restarting Posted: 5/15/2007 6:11:24 AM
You could try a system restore in safemode. Tap f8 to get to safemode and go to last known good configuration. When you get to the desktop go to start-all programs-acceseries-system tools and then system restore. Choose a date just before the problem started happening and see if that stops it. I know that a bad motherboard can be the cause but not always. need to determine wether it is a software or hardware problem. If it won't restore then you have to look at other things. See if it shuts down in bios. On boot up tap F2 repeatedly until you get to utility menu. Make sure all components are recognized under the main tab. Let it sit for awhile to see if it shuts down.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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A question about Vista.... Posted: 5/15/2007 6:04:08 AM
It's sopposed to update that often. That's how you know it's actually staying on top of new virus definitions. Just the way it is.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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what to do Posted: 5/2/2007 6:40:06 AM
If it were me I'd tell your childs friend to come to your house, but would never , ever let my kid over there. You can not be too protective here. Also I'd be watching for certain behaviour from this child and if you have a gut feeling that there is abuse then do something about it. Mom's have a keen sense for these things and it is your duty to intervene if a child is being hurt. I don't think I could live with myself otherwise.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Than you Internet, you ruined my marriage. Posted: 5/2/2007 6:34:27 AM
I'm wondering if it ever occured to you that maybe the reason your wife and you grew apart was because you spent all your time chatting on the internet with other women?? I think it's sad when people use the internet as a reason to leave there spouse. I have never been naive to the fact that cheating comes in all kinds of forms and I do believe you crossed the line. I don't blame the internet , I blame the person.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Pages come up really slowly and it's tedious. Posted: 5/2/2007 6:06:48 AM
Yes yaya, ...I have tried it. My point was that if you aren't doing anything else windowwasher takes seconds. Sometimes you should put your chatting aside for a moment to clean your system properly. I don't see how seconds should annoy anyone. Then you can turn window washer off. It does not need to run in the background steady, no need for that. I would agree though that if you have an older system it would prbably slow ya down. Also this program can delete files with a bleach setting permanetly. So if you want files off the HDD forever it will do that. Most people think clearing cache files means it's gone and can't be found, but they can. You can use this program with the bleach setting for example when you want to give your pc away and you want your personal files taken off. They truly are gone forever and not hiding out for people to find. Saves you from having to reload windows.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Once you've 'believed' and you were wrong... Posted: 5/1/2007 4:58:46 PM
I've had only 1 realy true love and I know that now more than ever. After we split I had a couple more relationships. The one, I thought I was so in love with and he hurt me deeply.. I haven't been the same and do not believe that feeling of sparks and butterflys could ever happen again. I am so bitter towards men and I know it but I can't help feeling that they can't be trusted. I always have in the back of my mind that I will get hurt. Don't think I could stand another scar on my heart.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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love and weight gain Posted: 5/1/2007 4:49:11 PM
"If I marry a woman, and over time decide I hate working and just decide I'm not going to do it anymore, and let my career go to waste, she is supposed to love me the same?" Hmmmmmm....I thought we were talking about weight gain and not somebody becoming lazy and not given a crap about there career. Got news for ya. Plenty of people gain weight and still work hard. They are not the same thing. Like comparing apples to oranges I think.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Abusive relationships... Posted: 5/1/2007 10:53:31 AM
"judypatudy" Ya...what she said. FITANDHIP......you're an idiot!!!!!!

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Abusive relationships... Posted: 5/1/2007 10:49:29 AM
Wow,.....are ya kidding me? Girl, run as fast as you can in the other direction!! That boy needs help and you are not the one to give it to him. The fact that he seems so sweet right now is normal for men of his abusive type. He will suck you in and you will be his next victum. Run for the hills!!!!!

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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love and weight gain Posted: 5/1/2007 8:50:23 AM
Obviously you haven't read all the posts. Some people who gain weight didn't just let themselves go. There are other reasons, some even just being plain old genetics. Good luck on meeting that perfect woman. You're gonna need it along with many other men in here. No wonder us women can't find a great guy. They are rare. Thank god I have one who would love me no matter what. I struggle with weight all the time. I am always dieting and exercising but I still struggle. My man loves me at any weight.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Pages come up really slowly and it's tedious. Posted: 5/1/2007 8:29:11 AM
I'm sorry but I have to disagree here. Freeware does not work as well. Oh and by the way windowwasher takes seconds to use and then the problem is gone.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Start Up !!! Posted: 5/1/2007 8:26:54 AM
Actually if the problem is too bad, installing protection after the fact probably won't help. I've seen it a thousand times, literally.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Pages come up really slowly and it's tedious. Posted: 4/30/2007 4:13:08 AM
You need a good program like window washer to delete your cache files. Just deleting cookies and temporary internet files isn't enough. When you go to a website often this can happen.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Start Up !!! Posted: 4/30/2007 4:07:11 AM
I think you're forgetting that the average user comes here to ask questions. What you've just said may have been chinese.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Internet Connection Problems Posted: 4/29/2007 4:28:43 PM
Time to reload. If it's not renewing the ip address it is a software problem. You have a build up of spyware I suspect. It's definetly corruption.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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A question about reformatting windows XP Posted: 4/29/2007 5:32:19 AM
hehehehheheh It's difficult when non techies ask questions isn't it? I struggle everyday with customers who just don't get it. I figure most of it just goes over there head and all they realy care is that there PC works without issues. Problem is ,...they are usually the issue. lol

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Start Up !!! Posted: 4/29/2007 5:22:13 AM
If avg isn't getting rid of the problem then you must reload windows. If you continue to shut down improperly then you continue to go through scan disk. That is a precaution and you can't avoid it unless you are shutting down properly. It's too late to install other spyware protection. Reload and keep avg but also install spysweeper. It's always best to have a seperate spyware protection besides your anivirus. Those all in one programs just aren't cutting it.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Vista meltdown Posted: 4/28/2007 5:14:22 PM
Do you by any chance work for microsoft? Honestly there is no reason to create a new OS. Instead we should just be able to keep updating and making what we have better. The reason vista is faster for you is because you happen to have a tweaked out system. I've seen you on here before and you always pump up vista. New OS's are created for profit and profit only. The PC companies and microsoft are in cohoots obviously. And what happens? Everybody has to run out and by a new sytem that will run vista just to have the newest thing. Whatever...............

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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A question about reformatting windows XP Posted: 4/28/2007 5:02:32 PM
This is called a medialess system. Just a new way of reloading. Alot of pc companies stopped sending the discs when they created these partioned systems. If the partition is intact it is real easy to reload. One way you can determine if you have this is to tap F11 after the logo goes by on startup and see if it takes you to recovery options. I reccomend wiping everything out. This will ensure a proper reload. You should never choose quik format on xp. It usually messes up. "Scheherrazade " you're a real smart cookie. "Your memory is empty? That sounds serious." I hope that means she still has plenty of memory. lol

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Start Up !!! Posted: 4/28/2007 4:47:00 PM
Ya ......the shutting down thing to. I didn't mention it because I figured that no one does a hard shut down unless they have to.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Login Issues. Posted: 4/28/2007 4:44:31 PM
Seems like some of you are timing out and others have proxy setting issues. All in all they are software related issues. It's not your PC. If you don't know how to do it yourself get someone to do a fresh install of windows for you and I bet all your problems are solved.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Start Up !!! Posted: 4/28/2007 4:35:28 PM
I need a little info here. Do you have more then 1 hard drive? Or do you have other hardware plugged in such as an xbox? And do you cancel the check or does it cancel automatically? It's possible that you could have an HDD that is on it's way out, but can't be sure without more info. When windows loads are you having any problems? Anything weird at all?

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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On Boot Error Posted: 4/28/2007 4:23:24 PM
Wow..no kidding. None of your drivers would have worked correctly. I didn't realize you used your old HDD. Of course it wasn't the ram in this case anyway. But the speed your ram runs at according to the specs of the system is very important.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Vista meltdown Posted: 4/28/2007 4:17:36 PM
Tuche................

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Internet Connection Problems Posted: 4/28/2007 4:14:55 PM
You poor girl. This can be so frustrating I know. Just wanted to say to the ISP person on here that I wasn't crapping on you per say. You sound knowledgeable. I do tech support so what I say stands for the people who do my job as well. You know as well as I do that some tech support people have just come off the street and had very little training and then get on the phones to help people. You know, the NEWBS? There's plenty of people that work with me who's calls are of no help to the customer. Then my phone rings and I have to fix other agents mistakes all the time. Sooooo...please don't take it personally. Poster I am on the edge of my seat to hear your results.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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love and weight gain Posted: 4/28/2007 3:44:45 PM
" Get over it allready. People make choices, like drugs and alcohol, or behavioural shifts like infidelity and abuse. All of them are reasons to leave a relationship because the fundamentals the relationship were built on have changed and therefore the relationship as a whole can be fairly re-evaluated and people can choose without being judged whether they can live in the "new" relationship or not." That's just bullshit!!!! If 1 of your fundamentals was how thin she is then you never realy loved her in the first place. That's the problem with this world now. Divorce is way too easy. Relationships are hard and with everybody just running away when they don't like something it has just left a ton of broken people everywhere. People who leave due to reasons such as weight gain are nothing but cowards. If you ask me true love is rare and people with those views such as my quotation show me how selfish the world has become.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Internet Connection Problems Posted: 4/27/2007 7:40:28 PM
I love it when people say they didn't have a problem till a couple days ago. I get a good chuckle over that one. Sorry POF, I'm not laughing at you. It's just that that's the way it happens. And it's only going to get worse. If your antivirus and spyware protection aren't cleaning it up and it is a virus then you'll have no choice but to reload windows. You need to ask your isp if there are any issues for one even though sometimes those guys just completly suck and have almost no education on the subject, but still you should have them test your connection. Are you connecting wirelessly? May be a router issue if so. Your router manufacturer can help you with that. May be as simple as changing the channel. I do tech support and I can tell you that 9 times out of 10 if you have intermittent connection problems then it is software related whether it be a confliction somewhere, possibly with your firewall or a virus or spyware. You can in the end just reload windows and be done with it.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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Vista meltdown Posted: 4/27/2007 7:27:13 PM
Ok.. I've said it once and I'll say it again. You gotta wait longer then a month or so to install a new OS. At least wait for service pack 1. Keep using spysweeper though. Great peice of software but it's not perfect just like all of them. You have a medialess system. Use your F11 option and do a recovery. I know all you guys think it's a pain in the ass and takes too long but doesn't take as long as it can take to figure out the isues. Keep looking for updated drivers too. That search can never stop.

rainy37

Joined: 10/16/2005

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love and weight gain Posted: 4/27/2007 7:14:08 PM
I thought love was sopposed to be blind? lol If you truly love somebody you don't fall out of love due to weight gain. You may not necesarily like it but you are in love with the person. I would like to think that my soul mate didn't choose to be with me for my looks alone. Wouldn't you?

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