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 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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should i have hit on her
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:34:31 AM
You did the right thing ..you thought of someone else other than yourself .....and you were fine with it. Its only now that you're thinking that maybe you didn't get anything out of it ..

I would commend you on being respectful ..
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:29:33 AM
Okay ..turn on any single dating show on tv. You know what I mean ..the Rock of love, The bachelor ..you name it.

Now ..watch the sorts of girls that the men pick although keep in mind some is obviously for ratings but still.
The really quiet girl who might have a ton to offer but doesn't flounce it around in a blatant manner is always the first to go. The ones with a little bit of drama usually stay. The half naked supposedly "hot girls" who are catty and ****y and lack a few brain cells are usually the ones kept around till the end.

Now flash forward ....and find the guy asking why he only gets the hot girls who are catty and ****y and can't discuss current events .....

hmm ..nope ..no idea ..
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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When do you use makeup and to what extent
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:25:57 AM
I honestly, rarely wear makeup. I occasionally will put it on as a little ego boost or because I'm going somewhere where I might want to "look a bit better" but most of the time I just don't really care that much about it.
I long ago decided that reality is much better than fantasy on so many levels ...I'd rather have a guy like me with all my flaws than to be constantly worried that he'll run if he finds out who I am ...
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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What should I do
Posted: 1/10/2009 10:52:05 AM
Of all the things I have struggled with and learned ..... you absolutely cannot change anyone or force them to act in a manner they aren't ready to act in.
I have been in this situation before and honestly I've just basically decided that ultimately if that person wants me ..then they'd be out there showing that they want me.
If I get turned down by someone twice then I let them know that I won't be asking again and that if they want to ask me then they are more than welcome to ... If I'm still available I will consider their request.

:-)
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Portage theater May 3rd - This is Spinal Tap
Posted: 4/27/2008 7:57:05 AM
Spinal Tap is the best movie ever .....LOVED THAT MOVIE
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Does she like me or just being nice
Posted: 4/26/2008 8:56:47 PM
she asked if you were dating anyone ......I venture to guess she's interested
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Okay I think I need to advise/trying to get back on the horse.
Posted: 4/26/2008 7:12:21 AM
OUCH!
Thats a rough patch of relationships to have to deal with. So I think the first is just taking things slow. I have always been a firm believer in trusting your gut instinct. It's always the best judge of a situation. Once you start analyzing what your gut said and trying to talk yourself out of what you thought ..well time to move on and remember you were supposed to trust your gut instinct.
That aside ....some people are mean...some people are mean without intending to be. Relationships are hard work and the hardest part is making yourself vulnerable especially when you've been hurt several times already. The catch is ..you can't have true love if you don't put yourself in that position.
The ex getting married part is probably what brings this up now. It's always hard when you go through a break up and its always way harder when your ex ends up happy and you're still at the starting point wondering where to go. Take it a day at a time though ....look for lots of friendships and girls you like ..go on dates..don't get so serious about it right away. Just enjoy the first steps ...you'll know when to take it to something more.
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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What is wrong with this woman??
Posted: 4/26/2008 7:03:55 AM
It sounds like she had some baggage going on that she hadn't dealt with. It honestly doesn't seem like it had anything at all to do with you. She wants to keep contact because someday she hopes you might be better able to handle it. What you have to remember is ..contact in that context is more like .....a once a year ..hello ..or perhaps just letting her know when you move or change your number.
I know it sounds harsh but its a great lesson in realizing that just because you are perfectly happy and doing all the right things ..it doesn't mean the other person can't have issues. She more than likely decided in her head that she wasn't right for you ..you dont' really get a choice in that matter once she decided it. Sometimes people are just so stuck living in their heads that they can't see all the good things around them.
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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I NEED HELP
Posted: 4/25/2008 5:27:57 PM
suggest hanging out sometime ..grab a bite, grab coffee, go for a walk, .....see what her response is. Be respectful if she declines ....and let her know that you are interested but that you will let her decide if and when she wants to meet up.
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Whipping it out on the first date?
Posted: 4/25/2008 5:25:34 PM
I will never understand why a guy would act like this on a first date ....I mean, okay maybe 1 out of 10 times you get some action. The rest of the time you go home alone.
Now ..if you just waited and remained a respectful person for a few dates ..you might actually get some action ....that would continue for months to come.

So weird.
I do like some of the previous responses though ..and will add them to my collection of responses.
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Does this girl like me?
Posted: 4/25/2008 5:17:51 PM
I say you ask for her phone number or suggest hanging out together sometime. You'll get an idea of what she thinks from her response ..and go from there.
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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How early do women start there periods.
Posted: 4/25/2008 5:15:30 PM
9 isn't really that early anymore to at least be aware of what might start going on. I think that was the age that I started learning about the whole process. As for when she'll get hers. It can't really be predicted as far as I know but you can get a better idea based on family history etc.
If other women who are related to her started early ..then she might as well.

I wouldn't run her off to the doctor about it though ..If there isn't a woman around who can talk with her about it ..I'd suggest buying her some books on the topic of puberty and the changes her body will go through. I would also suggest buying a package of pads to have in the closet just in case so when it does happen she can handle it without having to panic.

Women really only need to go to the doctor if they have problems with it ..or once they start to become sexually active or thinking about that .which hopefully you've got plenty of time on still ....
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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The Conundrum!
Posted: 4/25/2008 5:11:08 PM
probably option 2 .... unless I had something better to do.
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Friday nights
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:41:07 PM



1) write a note
2) string it to a brick
3) throw it at his head


LOLOLOL ..I love it ....
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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When should I reveal what I do for a living?
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:36:12 PM
Well ....look at it at this way ...be as honest as possible about who you are and what you do.

You'll weed out the people who aren't a good match for you fairly easily you just have to listen to your gut instinct a bit more.
You can tell if a woman is talking to you because you're a doctor ..or because you're a great human being. If a women is freaked because you're a obgyn ....well I doubt that will change so you might as well be up front about it and get rid of the ones who panic over it.
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Would you marry a man if he wanted you to sign a pre-nup?
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:33:29 PM
It would depend on what the pre-nup said and the reasons behind it.

I think if both people love and respect each other then you should both be able to come to terms on a pre-nup together. I do think there is an aspect of preparing for the worst involved which sucks ....but its way better than not preparing at all.
I'm not entirely convinced that I'm interested in a marriage ...I am interested in a quality relationship based on mutual respect. I am also interested in being with someone who is honest and genuine in their intentions and with respect to their feelings and mine. Sometimes relationships fall apart or deals are broken. It's really how you handle that whole concept that truly matters.
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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80's hairbands/ metalbands.......
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:25:04 PM
Hey westend ..I was going to email you about Whitesnake but you've got me blocked cause I live in the US ....

interesting cause your profile says you only want people who live in Canada due to citizenship .....I'm a Canadian ..just happen to be living here for a bit ...... hmmmm ;-)

Anyway, let me know what you think of the CD when you hear it!
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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need girl advice BIG TIME
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:16:24 PM
She's lonely ..she wants attention and comfort which you will provide ...but she's not really interested in anything more with you or is unable to handle a relationship at this time ..

sorry
 todreamandbelieve
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Longest sexual performance. Is it better quick or lasting?
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:11:24 PM
I think sex is best when it changes up. There is absolutely nothing worse than knowing what to expect and when to expect it. This includes how long it will be, where it happens, etc etc etc.
Sex should be spontaneous. Sometimes its quick and sometimes it lasts longer.
I actually have made love with someone all night. It involved about 8 hours of touching, feeling, experimenting, with several orgasms for both of us over the duration. It was amazing.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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80's hairbands/ metalbands.......
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:55:48 AM
hmm ...well realistically ..if you have eclectic taste in music ..and are open to all sorts of music ...you might just have a list like that ...
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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How do you feel about the goo goo dolls?
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:46:53 AM
They are awesome!
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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80's hairbands/ metalbands.......
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:44:55 AM
did you get Whitesnakes new cd that came out Tuesday? Bad to be good ....its pretty awesome. Doug Aldrich did an amazing job capturing some of the old Whitesnake sound with some new stuff!
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:37:50 AM
She needs therapy ......honestly. I'm not saying it in a mean way but if she is that insecure there is nothing you can do to convince her otherwise. You can help her along but only a therapist can really help her see how she is hurting herself by her actions.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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too old to have kids?
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:31:54 AM
Is there really an age for a man that is too old to have kids? ....

Just wondering
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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can you help
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:18:51 AM
I think the question can't be generalized ..and I think some of the profile options don't leave you room to explain why you chose the answer you did. Send off an email ....explain your concern ...but your interest ..and let them tell you where they stand.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Men and cooking
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:17:27 AM
I don't think it matters that much. I've dated guys that cannot cook at all. I've dated men who can cook amazing and I've dated men who think they are incredible chefs but are sadly not.
I think if he can be helpful in a kitchen ..thats the most important part. Can he get something out of the top cupboard for me. Can he grab the milk from the fridge or set the table? Can he help me clean up at the end of the day? ...sooooo much more attractive!
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Why do this if you don't have the time?
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:14:30 AM
It could go any way really ..I've had people email me the very first time asking me to date them and giving me their phone number. I sorta get a bit freaked out by that. I figure a few interesting emails is reasonable to start getting to know each other. Then you can continue with a few emails or move to phone conversations. It may also have to do with the date locations. I do think though, that if the woman is comfortable enough meeting you and wanting to meet you ..she'll meet you.
I think the first cancellation can be accepted ..because things do absolutely happen ..the second one (I'm with syl who posted earlier) you should give up trying ..cause its not going to work.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Looking too Young
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:10:38 AM
It's so interesting isn't it ...you can look young for your age and hate it ..but as you get older ..you'll be sooo much happier than you look young rather than rode hard and put away wet.

You're not too much younger than me ...just try searching for people who are your exact same age. It's shocking sometimes. I find people who look like my father (who's in his late 60's) and I find people who look like me or younger.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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In general, do women still want a man to make the 1st move?
Posted: 3/28/2008 5:54:56 PM
The hardest part is knowing what is a move and what isn't. I mean, really ..is buying someone dinner showing interest? is accepting the dinner invitation showing interest? Is talking showing interest?
I think there are too many questions and not nearly enough answers sometimes. I think we should all just be better about voicing things and it would avoid most of the confusion.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Are women on the East coast more difficult to approach than other areas of the country?
Posted: 3/28/2008 5:52:53 PM
I would venture to say that every region has their own sort of idea of what is good.
I moved from the North to the South and then out East ... people in the East are a lot more stuck up than they were in the North or the South. I think though, there is always an opportunity to find a little place where you can fit it ..no matter where you are ..
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Intimacy and dildos
Posted: 5/3/2007 3:14:20 PM
I do have to have feelings for the guy ....

if its a dildo ...then I'm usually thinking about a guy that I have feelings for ...

sex can happen without feelings ..but its so much better with feelings ...
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Your Opinions
Posted: 5/3/2007 2:25:08 PM

Unfortunately as much as women say otherwise,its how you look and what you own that completely dominates their thinking as to who to date.


wow ..I guess I'm completely going about this the wrong way then because if we look at my last 3 boyfriends ..
1) 55 years old, bald, divorced, slightly overweight and 5'2" (we dated a year)
2) 30 years old, lived at home, was jobless for at least 6 months that we dated, slightly overweight (we dated 2 years)
3) 38 yeard old, struggling musician, slightly overweight and extremely insecure (we dated a year)

Dammit....I knew I was doing this wrong ...guess I'll try to be more like that ideal woman you guys seem to complain about and go for the rich and amazingly handsome guys ... .....the problem is ..I thought all of these guys was handsome in his own personal way and with the exception of the 2nd one I had no problem with the amount or lack of money they made (the only reason I got disgruntled with the 2nd was simply that he could have taken any job but he prefered to live off mom and dad)
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Is It That She Just Isn't Into Me?
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:42:04 AM
I would say she's interesting but very cautious or not ready for more ...which is what she said. Now the question really is - are you comfortable with the slow pace or are you desperetely wanting more?
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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F*%K Buddy Question
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:37:14 AM
He likes you but won't admit it. It's time for a long and serious conversation as to where you both stand. If he does like you and you are not wanting a relationship - then you both need to step back from the FWB situation. At least for a while. It's no longer FWB if someone stands to get hurt. If he's introducing you to his mom there is potential that he wants you around in his life for a while. That isn't too bad but if he's getting possessive of you as well ...He's wanting more than what you already have. He wants some of the strings attached.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Used dating as a revenge?
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:31:24 AM
So ..I'm thinking this guy had issues. He didn't want to be alone. He was willing to be in any relationship possible but he didn't trust anyone because he had been cheated on. He made accusations, without proof. He was bad at communicating.

I would tell your friend to thank her lucky stars that she's not stuck with him ...
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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OK. let's hear the lyrics
Posted: 4/30/2007 4:20:08 AM
Okay ..I'll put them in here ..but no jumps on me please ..I was listening to some Paul Gilbert the other day ....and this song got stuck in my head because it cracks me up ..... I think you have to hear it to get the full effect though ..it sounds like this little love song...which is kinda is....in a twisted Paul Gilbert way ..

I Am Satan

Hey Judy
Do you remember how we met
You say you'll never forget
'Cause you love me

Well I love you too
And I'm good for you
But I'm afraid to ruin our plans
When you find out who I am

I am satan
I rule darkness and fight off the day
I am satan
You may wanna run
But I hope you will stay
I am satan
This year's king of the underworld
But there's nothing I can do
And I'd feel oh so blue without you

Hey Judy
Can you imagine how I feel
Can't we try to make a deal
'Cause you love me

And I love you too
I'm so good for you
But will you condemn me to hell
When you know why I dance so well

I am satan
I rule darkness and fight off the day
I am satan
You may wanna run
But I hope you will stay
I am satan
This year's king of the underworld
But there's nothing I can do
And I'd feel oh so blue without you

You run as fast as you could go
You need not fear me I won't follow
You'll always have respect from me
Now what do I see
You're walking back to me

I am satan
I rule darkness and fight off the day
I am satan
You may wanna run
But I hope you will stay
I am satan
This year's king of the underworld
And there's so much we can do
So let's go to Disneyland together
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Rik Emmett, under-rated, under apreciated guitarist?
Posted: 4/29/2007 5:57:58 AM
Rik is friggen awesome. He's playing in New York soon with Gary Hoey and I'm really hoping I can get out to that show. Rik and Gary ..WOOHOOO
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 49 (view)
 
why do women say no pic no reply
Posted: 4/28/2007 7:40:53 PM
That is an interesting way to put it Alex....and absolutely not everyone wants to be judged 100% on a picture. I know that I don't. I also don't believe that everyone is going to be attracted to me or that I will be attracted to everyone. I figure the best way to show exactly what I look like is to put a picture up. Those who aren't attracted to me can quite easily move on ..so as to not bother wasting their time if they aren't remotely attracted to me.

Having said that ..attraction at that level is only one aspect. Most of my ex's are people that I initially met through conversation. I had an idea via a picture or brief encounter as to what they looked like. Through the conversations and interactions I found that they became even more good looking than I had initially thought. There is always something incredibly attractive when you can be with someone and see all the aspects of their features ....the way their eyes light up when they laugh or the way they raise their eyebrowns when saying certain words ...or anything to that fact.

People absolutely can send or use fake pictures ..... and those people will eventually end up getting burned ..because if you start out with a lie like that ..and want to meet in person ..then eventually you'll have to admit it was a lie. I am always amazed at how people are so willing to throw out shallowness as an excuse to not have a picture or to complain about others who demand a picture. Attraction is attraction. We all have our quirks and what is hot to one person is not hot to another. It has nothing to do with shallowness ..it has everything to do with what our eye finds appealing. If it was simply shallowness there would be no reason at all to bother will filling out the rest of the profile or talking in a forum.

I stand by the fact that I don't like excuses. If there is a bonafide situation - such as my camera died or I lost my hard drive - then I expect a reasonable attempt to find a way to get a picture up. I have spoken to people who do not have pictures on here and many other places .... I will admit though that if they are unwilling to provide a picture promptly (as has happened on more than one occasion due to "excuses") then chances are I doubt them. In this day and age .... anyone who is crusing in an online dating site ...has access to getting a picture up on a computer to forward or post.

I guess my stance is similar to that whole quest about why overweight people put up face only pictures .... Perhaps they aren't comfortable with who they are ..and I understand that. I just reason though ...that if you dont' want them to see what you look like at the beginning ... you're simply setting yourself up for anxiety once you do supply a picture. I've been down that road too many times where I liked someone and once I sent a full body shot ...they ran as fast as they could. I may not always be proud of what I look like ...but I willingly put up full pictures and current pictures .... I'd rather wait for someone who accepts me for who I am .....than to hide and hope I can trick them later.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Facebook, Myspace and Attention Seeking Personalities - How to spot them ..
Posted: 4/28/2007 4:51:28 PM
I've been on my space for about 3 years. It's just an amusing way to show some of my personality and to stay in touch with friends. There are people who use it as a popularity contest ..but I think you just need to follow your gut instinct. I have quite a few friends on there but many are bands that I worked with or am a fan of. The page itself is just little bits and pieces of my life to share with others .....
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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why do women say no pic no reply
Posted: 4/28/2007 4:42:10 PM
no pic no reply is pretty normal these days. I don't really accept the whole excuse of not having a picture, not having a camera, not being able to upload the computer. If you were able to find plenty of fish ...chances are you can find a camera, a friend to upload your picture and a friend to take one .....

If you don't have a picture .>I usually venture into thinking you're hiding something and I don't have time for games. As for sending a picture and then not getting a response ....Maybe they weren't interested and didn't know what to say ..maybe they didn't think your description matched your picture ...who knows.

Just put a picture up ..then people know who they are talking to right away ..and it will eliminate you wondering ...
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Very strange question for the ladies tonight. :]
Posted: 4/28/2007 4:37:58 PM
I think its adorable ..but I would request a slightly larger house should we have a family.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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a reply from Mecheng001's casual GF (so is that what you're calling me now? )
Posted: 4/27/2007 8:52:14 AM
SweetCheeks ...You're not a crazy cat lady ..and any and all pet lovers know that.

My cats are the same age ...and I completely agree with you. I got them both when they were really young and they've lived with me the entire time. It's a commitment.
Realistically .... your family might not like your boyfriend either ..are you just going to dump him outside? no ....not anymore than you'll dump the cats outside. Commitment is Commitment.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Don Ho will be missed
Posted: 4/27/2007 8:22:06 AM
I made everyone sing Tiny Bubbles that day he died ....no one should forget Tiny Bubbles ...
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Journey
Posted: 4/27/2007 8:19:59 AM
awesome band ...and Jeff Scott Soto is amazing with them now ...
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 76 (view)
 
What is it with women & animals?
Posted: 4/27/2007 8:11:24 AM
Actually you can train a 15 year old cat .....Just like you can train a 40 year old man ...

 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Do woman (or men) get intimidated by another POF member's profile or looks?
Posted: 4/27/2007 6:14:34 AM
Thats low self esteem talking. Seriously, I met one of my ex's online several years ago. I saw his profile and was like ..wow .he's awesome but he's out of my league. My friend convinced me to talk to him anyway. I did and we went on a date. We dated on and off for a year ..and quite frankly ..I remember saying at the end of it ...Wow ..I was too good for him!

Don't let people intimidate you with that whole good or too good or whatever. Everyone is different ..and if someone wants to get to know you ..go for it. Don't sell yourself short by thinking or saying that you're not good enough.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
The Challenge
Posted: 4/27/2007 6:12:09 AM
If you suddenly want to marry me, can't stop saying I'm hot or telling me love poems ..in the first few emails ..then yeah ..too much!!

I think everyone wants a bit of a challenge in a relationship ..it keeps things interesting. Those little debates about things ..like toliet paper over or under. It livens up things and gives you that shot of adrenaline. I don't enjoy fighting for someone though ..either you like me or you don't. Thats really all there is to it. It also works the same way ..either I like you or I don't.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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What is it with women & animals?
Posted: 4/27/2007 6:07:06 AM
My pets don't really crap and pee all over the floor ..I know some children that have done that though ..perhaps you should bring up these issues as well for future planning.

If it comes down to it ..I will not leave my pets. Its just not happening. I adopted them and took them in and promised I would take care of them. We are a package deal. I grew up with animals and I got my first cat when I went off to college. There were many a night that I was glad i had that cat to snuggle up with at the end of the day. There is a bond that develops with pets if you allow it to develop. I think you have been raised differently. You kept your animals away in a limited environment. You saw them when you felt like it. That limits the bond that you girlfriend has with them. This is where you see if you can perfect the art of compromise.

Now, if the problem is just cats in your bedroom or your kitchen or whatever ..you can make certain rooms off limits to the cats. It will be rough but they do adjust to that. My mom had a specific room that our cat was not allowed in. You would actually see the cat sitting just outside the room ..desperate to go in ..but she never did it because she knew better. It's called training.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Where do women go..........
Posted: 4/26/2007 8:40:35 AM
Usually I just hang out where I'm going to have fun ...... Bars and the pick up scene are obvious .......if someone tries to flirt or pick me up at a charity event ...then I know he actually might have an interest beyond that evening.
 cdnokie
Joined: 10/17/2005
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How long does it take to respond to a message?
Posted: 4/26/2007 8:39:33 AM
Pretty simple really. If you're excited by the person, the message or whatever you usually find the immediate time to respond. If it's something you're not as interested in but figure you'll test the waters in ..it might take a few days. If you're not remotely interested or they have offended you in some way ....probably never.
 
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