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 Author Thread: I believed his every word...now I'm left with a broken heart
 brooklyntree
Joined: 9/15/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
I believed his every word...now I'm left with a broken heart
Posted: 6/25/2009 9:49:01 AM
Absolutely! So glad there is such a thing as this forum so people can support one another and prevent others from being hurt as well. Nobody should have to be so insecure and desperate inside that she is prompted to lend money to a stranger. If you see a street musician who really plays great, or a poet who writes a great poem, and you WANT to help at that point, to show your admiration, that's another issue. And, only if you can do so without jeopardizing your own needs. (Don't skip any meals, I mean.)

Gosh. I look for signs sometimes, and as much as I hate to admit it, any signs that someone wants you to skip the niceties I get really lost. How do people feel about the "coffee-thing?" Or the "nothing-thing?" I wonder if the next question is a request for a "loan," but then I guess that's jumping to conclusions.

I went out with one guy who was late meeting me cos he bumped his elbow in the subway and wanted to sit with me at a pizza shop outdoor place and not order anything till I suggested he get a cup of ice for his elbow, and that was it. It was actually ok with me cos I can't eat pizza (white flour allergies) and soda pop doesn't work for me, either. We sat there for ten minutes while he explained why he felt he should never get a divorce from his estranged wife. "It was too impractical," he explained. Then he proceeded to ask me how he could get his hands on fifty thousand dollars.

I gently explained to him that he probably did not wish to commit a crime, so that also was "impractical." I told him to play the Lotto, and if he really wanted to be a playwright he should write a play and offer it up at a Backer's Audition and try to raise capital for it that way.

I guess we just have to try and keep a sense of humor about these episodes.
 brooklyntree
Joined: 9/15/2008
Msg: 235 (view)
 
why do people stay on POF after meeting someone?
Posted: 6/25/2009 9:23:26 AM
I really like the honesty of Diros in his description of his feelings. I have found that the people who are more shy and reserved, even disinterested in the whole romantic thing are sometimes the truest people of all. For the simple reason that romance by itself is very rare and almost impossible to find for real, and those who come on strong all at once and profess all sorts of passionate intent when they haven't even met you or spoken to you yet are a little strange. They just seem strange to me, anyhow. I can't identify with this approach, and therefore it wards me off. It sounds almost like they are "in" the relationship all on their own already, even without you being there yet. I like Diros' attitude and calm nature. A Friend is someone you can believe. All the other "over-the-top" stuff is too goofy for me.
 
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