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MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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One way relationship... Posted: 3/13/2009 9:30:39 AM
i did.. i was more distant last night and didn't initiate contact and she kept asking whats wrong... usually at night i would send her a text saying goodnight, last night i didn't... this morning there are a few texts asking whats wrong and if I'm alive... still havent answered... as for not chasing her... yah i know the trick of playing hard toget... but i hate head games .. if i like someone i wanna be able to say "hey i like you, i wanna be with you" and if the other person feels the same then we go from there... hate all these, oh don't call for 5 hours then send one text, then when she calls be cold and cool... like **** man it shouldn't feel like "work" to be with a girl that apparently likes u too she said if someone ever ignores her or plays hard to get she won't chase... don't know if that's true or not...

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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One way relationship... Posted: 3/13/2009 1:25:37 AM
yah i do spoil my girls to extreme levels... in HER defense she never asks for anything and i have to drag stuff out of herabout what bills she has or if she needs something... as for communication... we text VERY regularly and she is always within reach... i just don't see much of her :( and yah, i know exactly how you people feel when you say if she liked you she would put in the effort... and there is no effort but the same time she wont let me go that easily... soooo I'm confused... cause she wont let me go and says how noone has ever been so nice to her and stuff... but then again she goes out tonight and wont be able to come see me on my only day off of the week... man i guess i gotta have a chat with her when she comes over next.. whenever the hell that's gonna be... lol

mad_max333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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One way relationship... Posted: 3/12/2009 10:58:04 PM
Thank you for taking time to type that reply... I appreciate it :) well PDA she hates... Which is fine, I barely see her as is, much less have time to spend with her in public... And in private if I make re first move she won't hesitate and is sweet enough... But both of us being shy doesn't help... Ahahahah I was hoping to see her tomorrow to talk to her about stuff but guess that's off... As for me not caring about her school... Hahaahaah I use to work 4 days a week... Since she had money problems and exams too and I didn't want her to waste time working, I took two more days of work and give the money to her to help with bills and stuff so she can take time to study... So no, I do care..

mad_max333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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One way relationship... Posted: 3/12/2009 10:26:50 PM
Yah she did say she just came out of one and can't get into another right away which is totally understandable... She told me " if u can wait it out a bit till my break up is not so recent"... Which I don't mind ... I can wait for her, but that don't mean I should still be the only one showing any affection... We don't need to be bf and gf and write eachother poems but a little effort is not too much to ask for. :(

mad_max333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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One way relationship... Posted: 3/12/2009 10:15:59 PM
No I hear u... Logic tells me the same thing... Heart is being a **** though and I can't seem to quit her... I want it to work so bad cause she is such a good girl... If when I would say I wanna stop pursuing u, she wouldn't freak out atleast it would be easier... Other times I ask if we wants me I go back to being just friends and she says no... So it's the mixed msges that really confuse me...

mad_max333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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One way relationship... Posted: 3/12/2009 10:05:44 PM
Oh her parents recently started dictating her life a bit... Her grades started slipping abit ( she was high 90s now she missed a couple of tests) so her dad is cracking down on partying... They are actually pretty lax parents... Letting her ex sleep over all the time and stuff... As for under age... No I'm 24 and she Is turning 21

mad_max333

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One way relationship... Posted: 3/12/2009 9:58:54 PM
No, when she is in an exclusive relationship she is pretty affectinonate and spends all her free time with her bf... I don't wanna change her, I know she cares but we are both pretty shy and she a bit more than me...

mad_max333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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One way relationship... Posted: 3/12/2009 9:46:17 PM
Anyone ever been in a relationship where you put in most of the effort to see ur partner? I'm in an early relationship sort of deal... Known OF her for 3 years and a couple of months ago I noticed her and started talking to her alot... She had just come out of a relationship so I didn't push it... Anyway we made out one night and after that became closer and such... Anyway, she is a full time student and I work alot... Problem is that I'm the only one who says any affectionate words or acts as if they miss the other person... Only rare times I get to see her is all my idea and it's for short periods... I would definitly drop anything to go and see her but I don't get the feeling that she would do even half that... Odd thing is once or twice I got fed up so I said to her that maybe I should stop pursuing her and stuff, and she freak out and got so depressed and stuff... Because of this and other rare rare kind words and stuff I know she cares and doesn't wanna stop... But I'm getting so burned out... I just wanna see her or spend time with her and don't see her making much effort. Tonight I asked her if she is coming over tomorrow, she said she can't cause she is going out tonight and her parents won't let her go out again since it's close to exam time and she needs to study. So after a week of not seeing her she had time to go out tonight at the expense of not being able to go out and see me.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Can you be to wet? Posted: 12/5/2008 4:25:20 PM
yes you can be too wet and i don't really like it... i don't want her to be dry or anything but i also dislike hearing sounds that sound like a guy punching a tub of water.... besides that, with TOO much wetness, you lose all sensation...

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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sleeping around on vacation... Posted: 12/4/2008 2:32:18 PM
welll.... not the best when ti comes to women and dating... the ones i went on vacation with are all bouncers from my club... so i wasn't shocked... but i also see this among good decent people as well. what do you guys think happens in mardi gras? or in cancun during school breaks? its like an orgy

MAD_MAX333

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sleeping around on vacation... Posted: 12/4/2008 2:28:00 PM
lol sorry, i was judging by the action of my friends... i personally don't like sleeping around with anyone except the person i'm dating...

MAD_MAX333

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sleeping around on vacation... Posted: 12/4/2008 2:04:10 PM
oh it happens ALLLOTTTTT more than you think... i have two jobs and one is being a bouncer at a major club here in toronto so you can imagine the types of guys i work with and what moral limits they have. and i understand single people can do whatever they want, i guess the fact that you can so easily sleep around with people you have met a couple of hours before is just alien to me. about those cheating rules... oh boy, my friend of 3 years has never had a serious gf that i knew about.. so finally he got one now and he really likes her and i can tell... but he has already cheated on her once... blamed it on booze... but you should listen to his "ok to cheat" list... going to any city outside of ours (even if its 20 minutes away) is ok.. on vacation? its cool then... is she on vacation? then its cool for you to do stuff at home... you had a major arguement ? for that night, you are free.... annnddddd so on...

MAD_MAX333

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sleeping around on vacation... Posted: 12/4/2008 12:11:08 PM
ok i know us guys are pigs and will jump at any chance to have sex... but i see a BAD trend in the fact that people going on vacation ( mostly all inclusive resorts, cancun etc etc) almost %100 expect to sleep around when they are there... usually with more than one person they meet there... even more disturbingly i see people in relationships saying its ok to do this since the partner is not there and it is harmless fun... and if they are not in a relationship then its a given. anyone else see this trend ? anyone else thinks it ok? i honestly don't feel that confortable with this and don't see myself doing it, just wanted to see what others think, since my buddies all think it is ok but i don't.

MAD_MAX333

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Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs? Posted: 12/1/2008 7:02:26 PM
Well I always assumed I could never stay with someone who would deny me a bj but I guess I proved myself wrong. Recently I met a great girl, we started dating and did the dirty after a few dates. Problem is she was sexually abused when she was younger and now she will not perform oral anymore. Not only that but she is uncomfortable if I even hug her or kiss her too much since she said it brings back bad memories. I try to understand her side, and that is why I can't blame her at all but it's starting to bother me. I'm not breaking up with her over the no bj thing, but her somewhat emotionless, no touching and no kissing is really starting to get to me since I like to show I care about the person physically

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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the little blue pill Posted: 11/26/2008 6:21:55 PM
Ok, wow so many replies, I need to clarify things even further. 1- before taking any pill I research the help out of it for possible side effects and problems. Stuff you guys mentioned ( some get headaches, some stuffy nose, in very very rare cases vision problems) won't happen with my other drugs and obviously I'm not taking any nitro based drugs. I WILL however double check with a phamacist more when I pick up the pills. 2- alot of you seem to think she would hate me for not being hard for a month. Nothing like that. She would probably be very understanding and it's alot more a matter of my ego and insecurities than anything else. 3- why get a prescription for something and pay a huge amount per pill when I can get them for free and later pickup the underground generic version for 2 bux or so( before anyone asks, yes I can trust the source as my buddies buy from him and use the stuff he sells without issues) 4- to the couple of people saying this is for attention, it's not. Nothing much to show off here except my need to remedy my insecurities with drugs LOL. And to who ever said I was showing off cause I was saying my gf is "randy", I have no idea what the duck that means but doesn't sound good. My gf is pretty shy when it comes to anything sexual and the only time I can say she is crazy is when we have intercourse, and by crazy I mean she only likes it rough and fast, to me it's a little wierd since I like all kinds of sex but she only enjoys that kind, hence why i said she us crazy. Not trying to show off or anything since three is nothing to show off about our sex life. Thanks again for the replies

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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It's been 4 months and now the holidays are here... Posted: 11/25/2008 1:28:48 AM
all I can say is hang tough. I also came out a 5 year relationship about a few months ago and dread the holidays since it was her fav time of the year but I guess I'll take it a day at a time.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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the little blue pill Posted: 11/25/2008 12:50:51 AM
ok, see you just brought up the second issue. We are a new couple so we do like our fun. Howeve fun to her is mostly straight intercourse, where as I love oral sex, I would love to go down on her but she says she is too shy ( I can convince her otherwise just will take time :p) and love recurving it too, intact no matter how bad the pills affect me, I know some bj will make me rock hard, sadly she hates giving oral and ever since she told me I never pressed the issue because I don't want her to do anything she doesn't like. So that leaves me pretty much with straight sex. Although I will be picking up a viberator for her this weekend :)

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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the little blue pill Posted: 11/25/2008 12:33:20 AM
gonebatty, thanks for your post :) sadly that particular side effect is an almost %100 type of deal. And I don't know if my gf will have a problem with it, my guess is no, but if I can't perform in bed it will affect my self esteem ( trust me I know myself) and bum me out in general. And couple that with the fact that I only get to be intimate with her once a week or so, and you sort of make a do or die situation ( ok it's not that bad but I like sex)

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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the little blue pill Posted: 11/25/2008 12:27:49 AM
how exactly am I looking to get attention? By advertising the fact that I'll have a weak boner for a month? Oh yah I'm a real stud. I'm simply asking what reaction, expeiemces and issues people have had with sex drugs when taken with out having a real need for them. Ok I need to clarify some issues... One, although my buddy gave me these, I can just as easily buy em in the black market so it's not a huge deal. Secondly, I know the drugs I'm going to be taking will not be bad if mixed with Viagra, further more I don't do drugs , I don't smoke and very very rarely do I drink so I'm in decent shape medically.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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the little blue pill Posted: 11/24/2008 10:47:14 PM
hey ladies and gents I'm about to go medication that will pretty much bum me out sexually for a month. Probably will be harder to get and maintain erections and last a bit less. Now my girl is a little crazy and wants it super hard and fast all the time and normally with all my self control I can last maybe 15-35 minutes. So you see the problem: crazy hot gf+ my boner weakening meds= boring sex life for a month. So to remedy the issue, I got 10 Viagra pills from my buddy and planning on taking a half dose this weekend to test it out. Question being, has any one else experienced Viagra when they don't really have a problem? Sort of like a party drug almost? Ladies your input is also welcome

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Do you feel that you are going to have to settle for less than you had or could have had? Posted: 11/11/2008 7:37:51 PM
yup, my ex ****ed me over in the end but before that she was really perfect for me for the most part. I am seeing this great girl now but I too keep comparing the two and my ex keeps winning. Slowly trying to forget her but it's hard and even the time I spend with the other girl sometimes reminds me of the good old times. It's getting better slowly though

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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What do you think when a man continues to be a flirt when you're in a relationship with him Posted: 11/11/2008 6:57:59 PM
WTF? I can't believe most of you thnk this is some innocent thing and she is just insecure. F that, I would also be mega pissed if my partner was flirting with guys left right and center. Anything you wouldn't do with the opposit sex infront of your Lover is considered to be cheating in my book, and this idiot actually did it infront of his gf. Good thing u ended it sweetheart, **** him, go find someone that deserves and respects you.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Men Shaved??? Posted: 11/10/2008 10:06:42 PM
Meh I use to shave my chest and stomach ( all lazered now) so I would do my privates too so they would match LOL. And my ex loved it and I aim to please

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Freaking out (I'm an idiot) Posted: 11/10/2008 10:03:01 PM
can I have the right to this? Would make a great sitcom, or atleast an episode of family guy In all seriousness I don't think you should follow up on this. If things go wrong you'll have to fond a new nurse and all that.

mad_max333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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I think i found the way to feel better after a bad break up Posted: 10/15/2008 10:25:45 PM
dwwew, the endorphins you get from working out make you happy for a while so even if I skipped a day of gym, I would still be fine. It is also about keeping busy, I wake up everyday, eat breakfast then head right out for 2 hours of gym and the to work. Friday and Saturday which I have off I also hit the gym. It's something to do. To the other lady who keeps relocating to avoid an ex, in my exprience it has never worked. My first long term gf went to my high school and lived 10 doors down from me. After we broke up( bad break up too, caught her cheating red handed and then got attacked by 4 of her guy friends) I ran into her in college. Everysingle class. And now, 5 years later, I run into her at my building, turns out she lives there now. My last gf lives right next door to my work so I pass by her house every single night and feels so weird. I think no among of distance would allow me to forget them, it would have to come from within.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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dont you hate it! Posted: 10/11/2008 7:02:00 PM
the guy seems to still be in love with his ex and kept you around as a rebound/backup option....you don't deserve him... move on

MAD_MAX333

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I think i found the way to feel better after a bad break up Posted: 10/11/2008 6:53:27 PM
doesn't having sex with a random jsut make you miss doing it with your ex more? i always though it would... its been a little while now so i'm not that bad but still i rather get into a relationship and have sex. i get ENOUGH chances to have meaningless sex at work and i never take it anywhere... it's not me.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Xbox 360 to get Blu-Ray drives. Posted: 10/11/2008 6:44:15 PM
lol xbox, what a joke... a computer in a box... anyway they tried to deal with sony before to get BD out there but sony shut them down.... don't know how this deal will work out... i hope it doesn't. and yes, i am a PS3 fan boy... sue me.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana. Posted: 10/11/2008 6:41:24 PM
nah not a bad mom... but could be a bad example? don't know but if i was ever into drugs i would NEVER bring it up infront of my kids or EVER encourage them to do it... my brother did weed for fun and now he is probably close to death thanks to his meth addiction... don't really care, to me weed is a gateway drug and anyone telling kids and youngsters that it is not a bad things and that they should try it is just not thinking hard enough.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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HOW to travel alone Posted: 10/11/2008 6:34:52 PM
yah travelling alone seems very alien to me... my last 7 vacations to tropical locations and such were with my ex and those were the only vacations i have taken.... it is going to feel VERY WEIRD to go there alone... however i am going to cuba next week with 25 friends... should kill any lonely feelings i might get...

MAD_MAX333

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I think i found the way to feel better after a bad break up Posted: 10/11/2008 6:27:03 PM
This won't be a suprise to many people who have researched this but i hope i can help others who don't know about the benefits of this. I won't get into detail but I was with my gf for 5 years... no fights or breaks ever, thought she was the one... she apparently had issues that she "hinted at" but never sat me down to say it really mattered to her... she suddenly and abruptly broke things off and even though I said I could change all the things she wanted right away, it was over. I felt she was using them as an excuse to break up. Also hints of another guy but since I don't have concrete proof I never accused her. Anyway, point being... when we first broke up I was a MESS... I skipped a week of work and almost got fired for it, I stopped eating and sleeping completely... went from 210 pounds to 180 in 2 weeks and just felt like shit... couldn't do ANYTHING... Then I FORCED myself to get back into gym... 2 hours a day... man, the difference was like night and day for me and made me feel SO much better about myself. I could function again and slowly started getting my life back together.... now, a week and a half ago, I caught a cold, so for 4 days I skipped gym and the depression hit me like a ton of bricks AGAIN... now back in gym and i'm Mr happy again. In conclusion, to those who just went through something devastating, try working out... when you work out, your body releases endorphins and that makes you happy. Good luck to all the broken hearted people.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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I'm a ex convict, should I tell the people I date Posted: 10/11/2008 6:14:58 PM
i'd say yes.... even though personally i would try to avoid a hard timer... i would still have the upmost respect for them for being upfront about it and not keeping me in the dark... and who knows if we click well enough i rather have a ex con who is totally honest with me than a regular girl who lies about everything.

MAD_MAX333

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can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers? Posted: 10/11/2008 6:09:16 PM
i definitly cannot handle someone who does drugs to have fun... my dad was/is a drug addict and my brother who lives with him started with weed and now is addicted to meth... i am also going for law enforcement and can't associate with druggies so all signs point to no for me.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Couples fighting Posted: 10/11/2008 6:00:48 PM
^^^^^ find someone you click with and you won't have to fight all the time.

MAD_MAX333

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Birthday coming up Posted: 10/11/2008 5:56:07 PM
if i REALLY liked a girl i would love to have an oppertunity to show how much i am interested in her and her birthday would be a perfect occassion. i wouldn't go out and buy crazy gifts, but would make sure i take her out to somewhere fun and buy her a dinner and a slice of cake... i would make me happy to know she is happy and she would probably enjoy it too.... win win

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Hooking up is the same as looking 4 longterm? Posted: 10/11/2008 5:49:40 PM
hooking up to me is bootycall.... don't know it just sounds like something a teen would say... i would assume a mature man looking for a long term gf would not say "when we hooking up yo?" it would be more along the lines of "hey i would love to take you on a date sometime" or something.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Would you leave the dating sites if you got in a serious relationship? Posted: 10/11/2008 5:47:03 PM
i wouldn't look for anyone anymore, i would put in my profile that i have found someone and stuff... i would only stick around for the forums.. good time killer

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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yes or no? Friends with benefits! Posted: 10/11/2008 5:44:39 PM
was never my thing... i rather be in a commited relationship than to sleep with randoms... and trust me, based on my job i get ENOUGH chances every single week.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Couples fighting Posted: 10/11/2008 5:43:05 PM
meh, my last relationship was a 5 year long one and we never had a "fight" or took a "Break", just little arguements... and we still broke up... she had issues that she apparently hitned at but never seriously brought up and start a fight over and they bottled up... so although i think its best to be so compatible that you dont have to fight and take breaks, i am also starting to think maybe the couples who have a fight every once a while are up to something. for now i am still looking for someone that i dont have to fight with.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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Pubic Hair on Guys Posted: 10/11/2008 4:59:47 PM
I shave it... don't know, i enjoy it better.

MAD_MAX333

Joined: 9/19/2008

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When is flirting cheating? Posted: 10/11/2008 4:50:18 PM
simple.... would you be okay flirting with the girls if your gf was standing behind you watching? if not then it is cheating... that is my definition of flirting+cheating

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