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neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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It's official, Bush is out Obama is in, will it change anything? Posted: 1/21/2009 2:11:47 PM
Thats darned scary though Monkeyface. Time will tell. Oh what a world.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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It's official, Bush is out, Obama is in, will it change anything? Posted: 1/20/2009 9:07:15 PM
Music N Me, your comment "So much of the world's hope placed on one man's shoulders..." I think is a dangerous thought for people to have if there is going to be positive change. Obama may be the figurehead, but the world's hope does not rest on his shoulders alone. Thinking this way is a set up for failure. He is not going to fix the worlds problems. If he is going to do anything, he is going to lead the American people and the people of this world to fixing the problems themselves. If change does not happen and if Obama's words are true, the failure won't be his, it will be a failure shared by everybody. It won't be his fault, it will be the fault of every individual who doesn't step up to the plate. It will be the fault of all who put their faith in him, without putting any faith in themselves. How many people are involved in the hype of this great situation? I can't foresee change not happening without thought, dedication, sacrifice and action. In the end, it is up to every individual, not Obama.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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It's official, Bush is out, Obama is in, will it change anything? Posted: 1/20/2009 8:50:35 PM
Tyeee, I wouldn't care if I heard that Timbuktu recently elected a new mayor. If I had the feeling (s)he was morally just, I wouldn't complain or find dissappointment in the fact it isn't "our" PM who isn't in the spotlight for being right. Hope is hope, and I'll accept it whenever I can. This is one world, like it or not. Canada is a great country, but one of many that make up the whole. The heart is no more important than the lungs or the brain, if one isn't working properly, the effects are sure to be felt throughout the rest of the body.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Recession turns to Depression; Relationships? Posted: 1/20/2009 4:32:41 PM
I am aware the changes are happening, but have yet to really feel the impact. I don't know why this is. I live our current way of life and hope to learn and develop skills that enable me to rely on myself for survival. If the time does come for me to run off into the bush, I hope to be prepared. Any thoughts as to if and when fleeing society might be necessary? I don't want to run off sooner than I need too, but also don't want to be too late.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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$200,000+ to save a hollow tree! Posted: 1/20/2009 4:14:51 PM
The only thing constant is change. Living things die. Let it die in peace already. This mentality of saving the tree can be applied to prolonging the "life" of an elder in the hospital, even when they are ready and willing to go. Im a tree hugger, and sure this tree is part of the city's history. If the tree hugger really respected the tree, then they would let it fulfill its purpose by decomposing and nourishing the ground beneath it. If they want to remember history, take a picture, make a plaque.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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It's official, Bush is out, Obama is in, will it change anything? Posted: 1/20/2009 4:05:04 PM
Oh yeah, maybe he did change some of his policies from the beginning of his campaign up until now, but in any successful relationship, comprimise is necessary. If there is no compromise, there is great risk that all can be lost. Obama is a smart man.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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It's official, Bush is out, Obama is in, will it change anything? Posted: 1/20/2009 4:01:43 PM
I had teary eyes as I listened to Obama's speech. It has only been a few years since I started to become aware of the world outside of my self and ever since, I sometimes wish I could revert back to ignorance. His speech today was the first inspiring world event that I have witnessed. He is one man. I think he has what it takes to be a good leader and like he has said, it is up to individuals themselves to make the changes necessary. We as human beings are all equal and share this experience together. What happens in one country impacts another, despite the man made borders. Sure there are powers at work in this world greater than Obama, but he is still a positive step. He may not be able to solve everything in his time as president, but he sure can inspire people to head in the right direction. There is no such thing as a quick and easy fix. Our world is complicated and messed up. Lets keep our eye on the prize and take the necessary baby steps.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Tried and true natural health methods/remedies you use? Posted: 1/18/2009 1:57:16 PM
Hello all, It is my belief that the body and the natural world has been designed perfectly. When we cut ourselves, our bodies know how to repair the wound, when we break a leg the bone has the ability to fuse back together (sometimes possible without medical attention)...I have also met a woman who claims she was able to avoid bowel surgery by engaging in breathwork and meditation. While evidence of this last example are scarce in our society, her methods are thousands of years older than our western technology and sometimes harmful medications. I am nearly certain we can all have healthy, disease free lives through proper nutrition, excercise and stress management. As we all know however, too many people want the quick fix and the easy way out, avoiding opprotunities to make seemingly difficult but ultimately beneficial positive changes. The choice to live a healthy lifestyle can predetermine where and how you spend the last of your living years. Day to day, I am active from yoga (breathwork) to swimming to running. I try to get 6 to 8 hours sleep a night. I try to avoid processed foods and medications, two to six servings of fruits and veggies per day. I think these methods help limit the times I get sick (maybe a two to five day bout, twice a year). Sometimes, my body can't hold up and I need to call in the reserve remedies. When I apply these, my ailments don't last long and I am never sidelined. At the very early onset of a cold (usually an irritated throat for me) I take Echinacea liquid as directed, and Ech. tea. I also increase my already high garlic intake (Hhhhiii, Hhhhow are yooouu?). If the cold persists and gets stronger, I stop the echinacea and bring out the oil of oregano, as directed. This is the heavy hitter that usually kicks the cold to the curb before getting sidelined. I am a fan of these foods because it is possible to grow this stuff yourself and not have to rely on the questionable pharmaceutical companies. I can't bring myself to trust them because of how freely chemically engineered medications are dispensed and not followed up. Im sure it is possible to have adverse effects from natural products and food, but nature can't help the fool who can't moderate their diet or learn from their mistakes. As for allergies, who knows why, but if its how you were designed, let me know how when you figure out how to successfully alter your genetics. I strongly believe prevention is the key (and if you are under fifty and use cigarettes and/or alcohol as a form of coping, ummm, I'll keep my mouth shut...but feel free to read my mind). Sometimes we just fall out of balance, so.... What are the claims you use to maintain a healthy life style? What are some unfortunate reactions to natural or chemically engineered medications you have experienced? Cheers to good health!!!

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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What to do when kids are killing? Posted: 1/17/2009 1:30:04 PM
Baby steps, it took a while to get to this point, but it doesn't have to take as long to get out. I don't think these people are completely to blame for their violent behaviour. Genetics may play a huge role (if one parent has undealt with issues and donates their genes to a new human being, those issues pass on and are amplified as the original issues remain undealt with--in theory). Of course any hope for change will greatly be impacted in the home. Less tv, more conversation about thoughts and feelings-happy or sad-more interaction between family members. LEARN TO COMMUNICATE PEOPLE!!! Children aren't creatures that know nothing, they have thoughts feelings and questions. Society indirectly encourages this unsettling behaviour by alienating people that don't quite fit into the mainstream. Some people aren't purposefully alienated, but it is a by product of other people doing what they can to "fit in" and other people not wanting to "fit in." These people probobly want to be accepted for who they are, but have no way to express themselves and feel appreciated. I think this type of violence is a by product of society on a whole being made up of selfish people doing what they can to provide the best life for themselves and loved ones, while neglecting strangers. After all, the welfare of a stranger is nobody's responsibility, right? Well you would sure feel the effects of that stranger's alienated soul when it decides to lash out on your seemingly innocent loved one. A healthy step to preventing these sad occurences would be to acknowledge the fact that every single person on this planet is connected. By taking steps to ensure every single soul on this earth FEELS connected and welcome, despite our differences we are doing the right thing. Lets spend less time talking about what is in People magazine or on last nights episode of Celebrity Rehab and try acknowledging and maybe even problem solving the depressing realities we face as a world wide society. By ignoring the issues nobody enjoys talking about, by saying "oh, thats so sad" and then taking no action to change our behaviour, we are then responsible for promoting more acts of violence. Soon it will be our own fingers pulling the trigger if we choose to get home "on time" rather than slowing down to help someone in need. Smile at strangers passing by, even the scary, odd looking ones, strike up a light conversation with the stressed out lady behind you in the grocery store... But I can understand if people don't want to change though. We have more important issues to look into, like the lives of Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston (they are soooooo shiny....giggle giggle, I like sparkly things), or who won the Canucks game (because it makes sense to watch a bunch of millionaires playing a game, when that money could be directed towards education and righting the worlds problems). Let take those blinders off people.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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What about cats?!? Posted: 1/16/2009 8:04:49 PM
If the girl thinks it weird for a guy to like cats, thats her problem for copying what society thinks is "right." Who cares? She's a follower. Cats are great, they're fun to watch and how can you not enjoy when they're hangin' out purring away. I may not be an ex-marine or football player...Im actually a nurse (which Im not sure helps the argument) and yes, I like cats.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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What is your favorite saying? Posted: 1/16/2009 7:58:56 PM
Never, never, never give up. Do or Do Not, there is No Try--Yoda If I were dumb, Id think that too. If I could I would, but Im not Jesus. and now my fav is...."Im all over that like government money on a bad idea" -hahah, thanks Fluffy Cuffs

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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POF may morph into ... Posted: 1/16/2009 7:51:23 PM
Im here 'cause its free and adds another option to networking. Like Trulio, I have more important things to spend money on. I do appreciate the site though. I think its fantastic that it has remained free for so long and has no doubt impacted countless lives, hopefully for the better.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Why do I always anticipate them to walk.. Posted: 1/15/2009 9:03:40 PM
At least you can acknowledge the negative thinking. It may be tough to get read 0f if there is 2 years worth of programming in your head. Try focusing on the positives in your day. Not necessarily on the guy, but on the things you find positive about yourself and your day. Whether the guy stays or goes, that is out of your control. But if you are worried he is going to walk, there is a stronger chance this will happen. Focus on the positives, it'll make you more attractive to him and others.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Any recovering Roman Catholics have issues with false guilt? Posted: 1/14/2009 9:24:01 PM
Cassago, you single handedly the futures of Albanian children?!!!Shame!! Rogerrabbitrr, Im getting sooo dizzy...Ill have to keep in mind its a sin to feel excessively guilty, haha.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Ambulance workers, makes decision to let man die, could this be happening in Canada? Posted: 1/14/2009 6:26:05 PM
Regarding the original post, if the medics neglected the disabled guy due to housekeeping issues, obviously they should be grilled, but something tells me theres more to their decision. The old lady in the hallway: Im a fairly patient person, but it is tough and exhausting trying to comfort a lady with dementia who doesn't understand her situation. Even after you explain it to her and spend time to help her relax, two minutes later she forgets. How many times can you expect a sane person to repeat the exact same conversation. Sure it would be nice to have somebody sit with her constantly, but at the expense of other duties, no. Its tough and sad to see elders in this position, but thats our society, mixed with a bit of bad luck. To the transplant issues: Obviously if somebody isn't willing to change the behaviour that provoked the need, they should not be granted somebody else's organ. You don't reward a child before the work is done, do you? As for the repeat organ donations, how many times is too many? As many as it takes for the patient to experience the life she wants? If the organs were readily available, great. But as far as I know, there are more people in need than the amount of available organs. As for the Save a Life at nearly all costs motto, I think society needs to reassess this. Issues can range from medication use, to surgery to vent therapy. I don't think anybody really wants to make the call or front the seriousness of our mentality. I think more discussion on the idea of death, and quality vs quantitiy of life would greatly benefit our health care system, not to mention how we approach our daily lives as individuals. I also wish that people who critique health care workers would take a few years of their lives and work within the field. It is not in a pretty state and the people working within it are human too. Interesting post Wildman. Halokitty, you know your stuff.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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What constitutes Intelligence? Posted: 1/14/2009 10:56:52 AM
I think basic intelligence is having the abililty to sustain yourself in whatever situation you may find. Relying on others to sustain us is not an act of intelligence (ie: supporting Walmart to supply our packaged food as opposed to supporting and learning from the farmers who know how to grow real food). Basic intelligence mixed with a desire to improve leads to possibilities of education, trades, inventions... Lack of basic intelligence is not being able to recognize mistakes. I don't know if my fear is justified because I can see society going in many different directions. I don't think we are as intelligent as our grandparents/pioneers. I fear as a society, we consume more than we replenish. We rely too much on others, even though we can financially afford to. What happens if you have money, but there is nothing left to buy? You can't eat the money to sustain yourself. I fear we have allowed our drive to consume take over. If we do not make changes as a whole, we are going to wipe ourselves and other innocents off the face of the planet. This would not be an example of intelligence.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Lack of Communication Posted: 1/13/2009 5:14:01 PM
Ive been in the same spot as you OP. I felt so uncomfortable with the lack of communication, I pushed and pushed and eventually this led to pushing her away. If you really want the relationship to last, stop pushing. You can only have so many deep conversations before all is said by at least one person. Understandable you miss him, but pushing is likely going to not only miss, but lose him. Enjoy your me time. Find a hobby. Look forward to when you see eachother again.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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no sex = no dating? Posted: 1/13/2009 11:09:01 AM
Yes, the vast majority of men have sex on the brain (maybe its social programming or natural...), but theres a good reason why you won't be marrying the vast majority of men, right? Stick to your priorities and be patient. Be upfront, and if there uncomfortable pressure from him, get rid of him (no second chances) and if you are feeling the pressure yourself, then reassess your priorities. All the best with your goals.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Is it socially unacceptable to jump out and scare people? Posted: 1/12/2009 9:44:53 PM
ya Wildman, I know the fairy (and please see annoying people thread for reasoning) and 5 year old postings seems a bit suspicious, but Ive spent the last few years analyzing way too much and Im kinda getting back into taking life a bit more lightly. What it comes down to is when Im an old geezer, I think Ill have preferred to have lived my life acting a bit abnormal than trying to fit in and keep a straight face like most strangers seem to....and when make a living doing what I do, it helps to be a bit odd when I can afford to. Otherwise, I look forward to the day I get my paybacks

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Is it socially unacceptable to jump out and scare people? Posted: 1/12/2009 4:43:27 PM
I can see how this could be creepy if I was a 45 year old man doing it...especially if it made me pee my pants like when I was a kid. What if you know the person? I had a roommate and no scaring was one of the rules because he would never be able to completely relax if the threat of me jumping out at any time existed. Understandable. But does everybody dislike this feeling. I personally don't mind it, and nothing makes me laugh harder.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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What is your biggest obstacle to committing to a relationship? Posted: 1/12/2009 11:02:13 AM
Apparently its timing and compatibility. People are constantly changing though. Who we are compatible with today may change in 4 years. Must share activities, values, and have the ability to accept differences. Unless there really is a perfect match for everyone. Apparently, you "just know" when you meet that person. If that feeling isn't felt, then something isn't right. It may be timing, it may be the person. Either way, "doubt means no." Good luck to all.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Lack of Communication Posted: 1/12/2009 10:47:26 AM
If you still have fun when you are together, great. Be careful not to crowd him if he gets pissed that you continue to press the issue. He actually may be trying to focus on his school life and conversations aren't always the best way to spend your down time. Try not to worry too much. Focus on your own school work. Get a hobby instead of wanting to spend 2 hours a night on the phone. You could use that time more productively. Save the chats and fun for when you can BOTH enjoy eachother's company. This distance relationship may or may not work. You'll get your answer sooner or later. But if you force things, they'll likely break. Respect his frustration. Give him space. If he comes back, it was meant to be. If he doesn't, be thankful for what you did have and move on. One step at a time. Communication works two ways and you can't force somebody to communicate, unless you agree with torture and that isn't what love is about.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Question about a Guy's opinion.... Posted: 1/12/2009 10:33:02 AM
-You might be feeling self conscious about it because you regret getting it yourself (same boat here). -The guy may be very respectful but, if this tatoo bothers him that much, he may be a perfectionist or shallow. If he can get over it, accept it, and not let it define who you are as a person (as you don't), then all is well. If he can't get over it, thats his problem, his loss.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Lack of Communication Posted: 1/12/2009 10:27:06 AM
I lived with a girl and noticed the conversations eventually dwindled, even though I still felt there was more information yet to be revealed. Now we don't live together. We don't talk at all. This is probobly best. Do his (re)actions appear to be those of somebody who has time for you? When you do get together, is it stress free or stressful? Do you have fun or do you analyze? Chin up and don't give away too much of your energy if you aren't getting what you deserve.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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The 'Who can appear less needy wins competition' we all play Posted: 1/11/2009 9:59:12 PM
oh yeah, there may be also the fools rush in defense mechanism.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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The 'Who can appear less needy wins competition' we all play Posted: 1/11/2009 9:58:05 PM
I know I don't have time right now to date or have a relationship. However I do come on here and converse so that I have some kind of social contact with people (sad, I know, haha). However, when I am ready, I don't want games, but know they exist. It seemed so much more productive in the days of our grandparents when they worked together like a team. Nowadays, it feels like a chess game, where there is only one winner. When I like someone, I tend to express myself fairly quickly, but am getting the impression this isn't the social norm and that I may be mistakenly viewed as needy. Im not needy, I just think honest communication is the only way to make something work. What an unnecessarily confusing world we live in. A lot of cowards afraid to show who they are to a stranger. Or maybe Im just not the catch I think I am...haha...only a matter of time.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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People who are annoying Posted: 1/11/2009 9:40:15 PM
m728...there is no such thing as Santa or the Easter Bunny, or tooth fairy...its a lie and those people are just following their own values, until you as a "believer in fairy tales" confuses the children by promoting the idea that it is ok to lie to the people you love...as long as everybody else is in on it...ie: the government (just ask them what they really did with all the money you gave 'em).

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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People who are annoying Posted: 1/11/2009 9:34:19 PM
-People that pray to Jesus to save them, but don't do any work themselves. -People who collect wel-fare when they could just quit smoking, drinking and using other peoples money to exist in society, and maybe ummm, get a f**** job or go live in the woods, far, far away. -People who don't respect the wishes of a dying person by not allowing them to die (ie:selfish children with unresolved issues). -people who talk behind other people's backs. -People who agree hockey players should be paid millions of dollars to play a damn game ( a fun game sure, but its a f** game!!!). -People that move into another group of people's way of life, force them to change that way of life and abolish any culture they had, just because they can. -People who know this world could be functioning better than it does, but choose to dedicate more time to playing Halo 2 than actually trying to make a f***** difference. I don't know if I find the above mentioned people to be annoying or I just really dislike them...either way, I wish they'd change or find some way to just not exist. Thanks.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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What is the best way to let go? Posted: 1/11/2009 9:16:09 PM
although Im too "controlled" to do those things, the two previous posts by IRRISIST and HEARTTUNE got me laughing. Thanks.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Any recovering Roman Catholics have issues with false guilt? Posted: 1/11/2009 9:01:57 PM
Thanks all...the fuzzy feeling is nice but now Im going to have some explaining to do when I go to work.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Any recovering Roman Catholics have issues with false guilt? Posted: 1/10/2009 9:13:44 PM
Mona, your understanding is welcome...I can believe in the concept of a soul that wills my body to do its bidding. I do not believe I have Adam and Eve's blood in my veins. I don't know them. I didn't bite a forbidden fruit (as far as I know). All I know is I was born into this body, in '78. It is very likely my soul will leave my physical body at some point in the future. If Jesus came at some point to save me of sins, I didn't see him. The whole story is just too complicated and far fetched. I just wish I could turn my brain off sometimes.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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How often should I let her win? Posted: 1/9/2009 8:20:38 PM
When playing pool, wrestling or whatever, how often should I let the girl win? Sure sometimes I get beat, but I would think if I allowed myself to get beat too much, she'd think less of me. If I win all the time, then it won't be fun for her.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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at what age was sex the best? Posted: 1/9/2009 3:41:14 PM
Ive had good and bad in the past 10 years (I started late), but I'm an optimist and going with 31 and up...the best is yet to come...can't wait for the years when she's got dentures...well yeah, I guess I can wait (has anybody seen YES Man?).

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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would you marry for money? Posted: 1/9/2009 3:24:33 PM
Ive been making my own way and close to getting to my goal. I wouldn't trade the possiblity of meeting somebody for love, nor sell my soul, just to have an easier life. Being able to laugh on a mattress on the floor is more important than taking a trip with somebody that can't even make you crack a smile.

neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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help relationship advice please. i don't know who to talk to Posted: 1/9/2009 3:14:12 PM
GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL HAVE TIME!!!!! Unless you enjoy feeling this unsettled after only one week. She's in it for herself, get out.

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Positives we learned from past relationships Posted: 1/9/2009 11:10:06 AM
Oh yeah, and think before I speak...still workin' on that one.

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Positives we learned from past relationships Posted: 1/9/2009 11:08:41 AM
OP, I think we've learned some similar lessons. Lately Ive learned: - I can't change others. I needed to learn acceptance of people and situations. - jealousy is really a guide to what Id like for myself. -not to take everything so seriously...sometimes girls have to fart too!!

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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INSTANT Turnons Posted: 1/9/2009 11:02:11 AM
Physically: the body of a fit girl, ankle bracelets, the look that says she wants it. Personality: quietness in public but expressive and commanding when one on one.

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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What are your fave movie quotes? Posted: 1/9/2009 10:46:24 AM
Yoda: "Do or do not, there is no try." V for Vendetta: "People shouldn't fear their governments, governments should fear their people." Yes Man: "Ask me to throw this rock through that window."

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Any recovering Roman Catholics have issues with false guilt? Posted: 1/9/2009 10:15:46 AM
Vancer, I can understand the 3 Rs...so simple!!! Mona...How am I supposed to know God had granted me life in eternal paradise. If this is true, why stick around here on planet earth? This is a belief that can create suicide (bombers). Suicide might be a better option than sticking around here (not my choice, but at times...). Some individuals can be coaxed by people who claim to have a greater connection to God, programming them to become suicide bombers through "teaching" that there is a better life than this one we live in now. To me, the truth appears to be that suicide bombers or people that commit suicide as an escape don't believe this life is good enough..."there's something better on the other side of that door..." No other human being is going to tell me what I should be doing with my life. Sure Im open to other people's perspectives, but come on, eternal life in paradise...what about TRYING to make this life and earth paradise. If God wants me to do something, I would think he/she/it/whatever wouldn't make things so difficult to hear him. I think he has the ability to bypass the middle man and the only voice I hear inside my head is the same one...unless I choose to imitate another voice (haha). I believe that all things came from a source will, but all the stuff from the beginning to now is a toss up. I have been created in "God's" image, I have the ability to create love or hate. I can witness this in my own life. Id like to think I am perfect, but time usually corrects me at some point. If there is some ultimate being that judges me when I leave this life, I hope I made it happy by using the life it gave me well. Im not going to "be good" out of fear that I displeased something. I am going to be as good as I can be because it just seems right. To me, it doesn't matter the teacher or the book, its the lesson that is important.

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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What is the best way to let go? Posted: 1/7/2009 6:36:00 PM
So just to let you all know, things are great. Being single has allowed me to focus more time and energy towards two goals Ive had for the past 3.5 years...achievement should take place by June at the latest. Swimming and running have become more useful now more than ever. I started hot yoga...what a workout. Ill be going to Costa Rica in June. I will start school full time in the fall. Even though family and most friends are far away, I feel their support. Im enjoying life on my own and damn this is going to be a great year!!! Thanks all, Neil ps--Ill remember that time she discouraged me from buying the Cinnamon Toast Crunch (among other things of course) for as long as it takes.

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Any recovering Roman Catholics have issues with false guilt? Posted: 1/7/2009 12:21:46 PM
forallintents....hahahaha

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Any recovering Roman Catholics have issues with false guilt? Posted: 1/7/2009 12:19:21 PM
I find logic and reason to be great tools, however I realize I often let my emotions cloud the truth. I agree with pushing my envelope and stepping outside of my comfort zone, however sometimes my impatience allows me to totally disregard the fact that I am enveloped, then I get into a state of stress and then I get lost in a chain reaction. I have a lot of emotion and I believe my way is the right way, but that is probobly what Hitler and Darth Vader thought too. I need to accept my current reality, change what I can, accept what I can't. Be aware of when I am becoming impatient and take a break. Do all emotions have the same root source within us or does each emotion have its own source? Is it possible that our perspective changes what emotion we experience? Can we control the intensity of any emotion we experience? Im thinking emotions are something we can control rather letting them control us. If we do not stay aware, it might be easy for an emotion to throw us out of balance (BPDs). Im sure this topic has been discussed before, but I might just be getting a better understanding of it.

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Any recovering Roman Catholics have issues with false guilt? Posted: 1/6/2009 10:42:55 PM
I am thankful for what I have been given. I do feel I have found myself, but it just seems too simple. I like waking up in the morning and playing the day out. Im happy to lay down at the end of it and say "I accomplished a lot today." I do prefer to do things that make me feel good as opposed to other alternatives. I sometimes wonder though, what if there is more to life than just being happy? Haha, this sounds like a foolish question, however I do prefer happiness to pain and sadness...BUT what if we are "supposed" to be focusing on more than our own happiness? With all the information out there in sooooo many different forms, how do you know what is true or false. I don't want to be manipulated. Maybe I have just found the outer layer of myself. Ive been told in the past "If you don't go within, you go without" Time to give it a shot. What methods have people used to "find their self?" Thanks for the replies so far.

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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Any recovering Roman Catholics have issues with false guilt? Posted: 1/6/2009 12:58:46 PM
Hi. Im Neil and Im a recovering Roman Catholic. How does one get over false guilt? The type of guilt that occurs when you have a desire to go for something you want and does not have a direct impact on another. Doesn't seem too hard. Problem is, if I look deeply enough, many desires eventually have a negative impact somewhere. I want to be able to feel attracted to a hot girl without feeling like I am doing something wrong. I want to enjoy an overpriced chicken and rib dinner while the homeless guy and African children are still looking for yesterday's breakfast. I want to help people, but I don't want to feel the need to have all the world's problems solved before I can enjoy my life.... The answer seems to be ignorance is bliss. Focus on the good and ignore the bad. This doesn't help me or future generations in the long run. How do you justify being born fortunate?

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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How do you get a guy to not just want you for sex??? Posted: 1/6/2009 12:30:02 PM
Its tough though because sex is a pretty powerful force, and being good looking is a blessing and a curse. I think this is why so many hot girls give the appearance they are a b*** when in certain scenarios. If you are bubbly and talkative, it makes it easier for guys to approach you. This is does not mean you should turn into a b*** because that might prevent an honestly good guy from approaching you. Continue to be yourself and get used to saying no. You've got it made being friendly and hot, but it means you've got to do more weeding. Keep in mind where and how you met the guy. Don't rush. If he's only looking for sex and you hold out, he probobly won't last long.

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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When a relationship problem arises, how do you decide... Posted: 1/6/2009 12:19:51 PM
to move on or work through it? It seems so easy just to be able to leave a relationship when things go wrong in order to find a new one. It is also very tempting to see what else is out there. If things aren't going smoothly, why not leave? How much should one put up with before they call it quits? What are the arguments for staying together and working things out? Moving on to something new?

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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OK, do I think to much, or analyze to much? Posted: 1/6/2009 12:09:43 PM
LonesomeRick---I guess you have the proof you need to continue to ask questions. When the questions stop, then you know.

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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What is the best way to let go? Posted: 1/6/2009 11:55:05 AM
Wow, again, thanks all for the support. It is awesome to see strangers helping strangers. Its also nice to hear there weren't too many people promoting the rebound girl. While this sounds tempting, it really seems like a bandaid...or is it a useful distraction that allows the wound to heal less painfully. I guess if I am distracted, I may not pick up on the lessons Id like to learn. Peace

Neil29

Joined: 9/20/2008

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If work is a priority, are women willing to date? Posted: 1/5/2009 1:52:47 PM
Thanks for the perspectives all. A choice is a choice I suppose. I just need to stay focused on my current priorities. BTW, what does OP and FWB stand for?

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