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seymourbush

Joined: 10/20/2005

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POF help please? Posted: 11/16/2009 10:46:23 PM
Radar and Elvis in Georgia - now there's a shipwreck!! lol Let's fire up that pink Volvo Elvis... I'm game if you're game. LOL

seymourbush

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POF help please? Posted: 11/16/2009 8:10:41 PM
She is a Phili girl from Decater Georgia - a place I would like to visit. Unfortuately I can not contact her because I do not live in the USA. If she reads this there is a button above the event listings for each state. It is called add a new event or something to that effect. It takes a day or so to get posted to the events as an events moderator must do it. That is the easiest way to do it. There are directions on what needs to be done right there.

seymourbush

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POF help please? Posted: 11/16/2009 8:03:57 PM
I have almost blocked people by accident on PoF. I find where the button is located to be quite confusing and it is where I expect the reply button to be located. There have been a number where if I didn't read the button I would have blocked people in error and not even realized it. This is something they should consider fixing. Just my two bits worth of comments.

seymourbush

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RANCHMANS IN BETWEEN PARTY NOVEMBER 21/09 Posted: 11/16/2009 2:35:05 PM
I am sure you will remind me Jestie, if I do go (I still haven't firmed up my Saturday night plans yet) as you requested when we last saw each other this past weekend I have you slated in for at least one dance. If I do not go it will be the next time we see each other.

seymourbush

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Do you read the profile? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:39:49 PM
I'm just waiting for the topless photos of me on a Smart Car to get developed. Let a playa play. My retinas... OMG my retinas. They are a burning!!!!

seymourbush

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Do you read the profile? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:35:01 PM
Probably far too long. Good call. I know you are usually pretty good at catching me on these things K. I should have proof-read that first. On edit: And just in time too.

seymourbush

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Do you read the profile? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:17:59 PM
I wouldn't know that, because of course 1.) I don't spend a lot of time looking at profiles in the first place, and 2.) I certainly do not spend much time looking at profiles of guys.

seymourbush

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Do you read the profile? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:05:01 PM
Jason has a very good point and I have not read this forum to see if someone has said the same thing - oh well. There is definately a statisically significant number of women who have short profiles with very little information to work with. Then they wonder why guys contacting them say whatever they say that they take exception to. The other thing I have noticed is that often many women (in fact I would say most) have very stringent restrictions on who can contact them. I understand why the restrictions are there, so I am not complaining, but if you are a friend of that person and need to send them a message and they have these restriction it is just not going to happen. I know that sometimes the right person might very well be someone you are not originally looking for and as an example the one I met on PoF a few years back (and whom I am no longer with) certainly fit that profile. Here is a good example of an actual profile. I did not look very hard to find this one. I clicked on two random profiles that were on the bar above my inbox. This was the second I one I looked at and I have intentionally deleted her contact name because it doesn't matter. This could be any number of profiles by a woman, with individual variations: I am an independent, intelligent and creative lady who is looking for a relationship, strong in trust, honesty and respect. I am looking for a kind, considerate and thoughtful man. A man who can challenge me intellectually and make me laugh out loud. Someone to enjoy life with! Good Luck with your search! :) First Date - go for coffee. Mail Settings (To message ________ you MUST meet the following criteria.) Male Age between 37 and 45 Live in Canada Live within 75 miles. Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex. Must not do drugs Must not be married Must not smoke So what is there to work with given what is above. Isn't that what everyone wants to a greater or lesser extent (except for maybe the restrictions).

seymourbush

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potluck supper this Saturday night - November 14th Posted: 11/14/2009 11:21:04 AM
So I guess this thing is off. It is a good thing Friendly Widow sent me a message or I would have never known. I probably would have figured it out later this afternoon when I would have signed in to find the address Kitty sent me. I guess I better figure out what I will do tonight now that my supper plans appear to be cancelled. It is a good thing there is still the rest of the night.

seymourbush

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Cancelled XMAS parties Posted: 11/14/2009 11:15:15 AM
You mean to say you like that? Some are so politically correct they can pull it off, but I have never been successful so have given up trying! I usually get along with most people. Most people like me too. I deal with so many different people during the course of the day, it is never an issue. I go to a lot of social events so it is no big deal for me, it is usually just another day at the office. If anyone needs an escort for the evening to their company Christmas send me a message, if I am free I will go. I won't embarass you either - although I may come up in conversation on the Monday. There might even be a good chance I might even know your boss' spouse or the boss. If it is a big company there is a pretty good likelihood I will know someone or a few people that are attending.

seymourbush

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Cancelled XMAS parties Posted: 11/14/2009 11:00:19 AM
When I used to work for larger companies that had annual Christmas parties, I would always attend. I always thought they were great. What was great was getting to meet the people that are important in your co-worker's lives. That was always the best part about the Christmas parties for me. Yes people would sometimes do stupid stuff, but that is half the fun of it. I miss them quite a bit. Last year I went to a large company function and it was awesome I met a couple great people and it turned out one of the people at our table (my ex-girlfriend's boss) was someone I went to junior high and high school with.

seymourbush

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Tough economic times Posted: 11/13/2009 12:03:42 AM
I might actually have to take the guitar down to the ave and throw the hat down .. I can't play but maybe some one will feel for me and pay for lessons or at least coffee money to go on a date .... OMG, what a brilliant idea. I might just consider doing that outside my office since it is on the +15... maybe someone will stop in and give me some business or give me enough money to keep me in wine for the day. Either way it is a win.

seymourbush

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Cancelled XMAS parties Posted: 11/12/2009 9:37:06 PM
That is so messed up Elvis it is almost perfect... for Edmonton radio!!!!

seymourbush

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potluck supper this Saturday night - November 14th Posted: 11/12/2009 9:26:17 PM
oh yee of little faith...I'm still working my feminine wiles. And so am I... but it appears to not be working very well. LOL

seymourbush

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Cancelled XMAS parties Posted: 11/12/2009 9:24:40 PM
Dude, now you really understand what "ho ho ho" means. Indeed!!! LOL

seymourbush

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Cancelled XMAS parties Posted: 11/12/2009 9:16:02 PM
^^^Well Kitten, why is it also so career damaging when I show up with a crack ho wearing a Santa Cap? Is that because that is all she is wearing???

seymourbush

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potluck supper this Saturday night - November 14th Posted: 11/12/2009 6:34:11 PM
Be very scared of those powers... HEHEHE!!! I think all the information is listed above. I copied from you kittycat. If it is not correct, you have no one to blame but yourself. LOL

seymourbush

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potluck supper this Saturday night - November 14th Posted: 11/12/2009 6:30:27 PM
I am trying to get this moved to the events listings. It might not happen, because of the numbers who can attend and it is at a private residence. So if this gets moved, you will know where to find it.

seymourbush

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Cancelled XMAS parties Posted: 11/12/2009 5:12:56 PM
My favourite person in the world is my boss. I like to kiss his ass all the time. That is why he likes me so much...

seymourbush

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potluck supper this Saturday night - November 14th Posted: 11/12/2009 4:55:25 PM
Here is what is coming already. I will now turn it over to my friend Kittycat to take from here: Sign up is as follows: 1) friendlywidow - ??? 2) SeymourBush - zuccini bread 3) kittencat2903 - poppyseed dressing green salad 4) castaline - spiced grapes 5) Peter Pan's Wendy - appetizer 6) Hold ur horses - ambrosia salad 7) 8) 9) 10) 11) 12) 13) 14) 15)

seymourbush

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potluck supper this Saturday night - November 14th Posted: 11/12/2009 4:52:33 PM
There is a potluck party planned for this Saturday which Kittycat (or whatever her name is) has planned. I am starting a new thread for her. She needs more warm bodies. Here is the info. Sign up time for the event is now Max: 15 people Start time: Saturday, November 14 @ 7 pm Those who sign up will be given the address by private email. Housekeeping o BYOB o ALLERGY ALERT - cat friendly home o smoking friendly o adults only (no exceptions) Sign up sheet o appies o main courses o salads o desserts

seymourbush

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Homemade Christmas Presents Posted: 11/12/2009 4:49:20 PM
Hmmmm... broken hockey stick frames? Send me your contact info. Please.

seymourbush

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Event Interest - Cooking Class Posted: 11/11/2009 9:07:46 PM
OK now I need to know who Friendly Widow is. I cannot see his/her profile and I cannot contact him/her. Send me a message. I am curious now.

seymourbush

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Event Interest - Cooking Class Posted: 11/11/2009 5:26:37 PM
OK I will plan to attend, and as I stated to kittycat by email I will not be able to stay as I have other plans that same night for later. I will be coming directly from work and so will bring something that needs to be prepared in advance. I will plan to bring some fresh zucchini bread I will make either tomorrow or Friday night.

seymourbush

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Bye Bye Tories Posted: 11/8/2009 11:59:49 PM
One thing I do have is an interest in politics. Without commenting on the current political party in power, I can state with pretty much absolute certainty that what is curious about Alberta politics is that typically whichever party is governing is usually given what someone else has called "undeserved majorities" until they piss off enough people. Then a new party gets an "undeserved majority" until they do the same. It is a dynasty driven political environment and is a bit of an odddity and a curiosity of sorts. The outgoing party then usually goes into political obscurity and eventual decline - for the most part (except for the hardcore oldtimers who dream that the party will return to its former glory). For the most part Alberta politics has little to no effective opposition until a new party is elected - usually with a clean sweep. Then the cycle starts all over again. It has been like this for about 100 years, so why change now. Antidate can read the political tea leaves quite well. She is a smart cookie. In this case she is dead on the mark. No need to read anything more into it than what she said.

seymourbush

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Favorite 80s music Posted: 11/5/2009 11:50:29 PM
Gotta include a few of my personal favs: - Buggles (what defined the decade more than Video Killed the Radio Star - the first song played on MTV) - Depeche Mode - Duran Duran - The Specials - The Bangles - The Cars - B-52s (so good they named a drink after them) LOL - The Cure - Talking Heads - The Culture Club - Boomtown Rats - DEVO - Elvis Costello - Madonna - The Police - The Smiths - Phil Collins - Motorhead (they never died - they just kept on going) - Metallica - Van Halen

seymourbush

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Dating Advice Posted: 11/5/2009 3:17:26 AM
Yeah I would agree tall-n-curvy. I don't look at a lot of profiles - I just don't have enough time, but I did look at your original one and your updated one. I do like the new look much better. Good job and good luck.

seymourbush

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Dating Advice Posted: 11/3/2009 9:25:16 PM
Well said Anti-Elvis. This and other sites like it help connect people together that we might normally never cross paths with. I have always found that the so called dates that come from these sites are generally lame. The forums are where it is at and the events are even better. It is there where we see the person for who they are without the pressure of a one on one. Some people do well in that one-on-one environment and others not so much. As an illustration only - I met a wonderful person on this site, and that is why I am back here. We had never talked by email before we met in person at an event through a mutual acquantance. She was great for me (and I would like to think I was for her too). If it was not for the PoF forums and events that relationship would never have happened. She probably would not have crossed my radar screen in my searches for people at that time. Her age was out of the range I was looking for when I met her, but she was a better person for me than anyone I went on a coffee date with at that time. It just goes to prove you never know who you will meet or where. My point - don't give up hope. It will happen when you least expect it.

seymourbush

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Dating Advice Posted: 11/3/2009 8:50:38 PM
I am sure it is the same numbers game for men too edmcherub. The only difference is most men will not comment about it (or they are not looking for the one good one, but rather one of ten ones that will do). LOL Gotta go!!! My feeling is this one should create a reaction. LOL

seymourbush

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76.8 Million Hits .... Posted: 11/2/2009 10:26:31 PM
Absolutely!!! Good for him. I totally agree with you dddiesel.

seymourbush

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RANCHMANS IN BETWEEN PARTY NOVEMBER 21/09 Posted: 10/29/2009 9:26:33 PM
Oh baby... you know how I like that Lux!!! I can't get enough of that from you. LOL

seymourbush

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RANCHMANS IN BETWEEN PARTY NOVEMBER 21/09 Posted: 10/29/2009 7:15:35 PM
I'll match that ass grab Sambo... and raise you a boobie grab!!! LMAO Now whether I go to Ranchman's is another question altogether. LOL

seymourbush

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Good Karma/Bad Karma Posted: 10/21/2009 11:07:01 PM
The more I see about karma both good and bad, I have come to the conclusion the universe is sorta indifferent on that one. Sometimes the good or bad karma comes back to either reward or bite you and then other times not so much either way. I guess I learned the golden rule - treat others as you yourself would like to be treated, and that rule of reciprocity as being vitally important in all aspects of life. In the end each person has to live with their own decisions and it makes it easier to go to sleep knowing that you have treated others fairly and with decency.

seymourbush

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Too poor to date? Posted: 10/19/2009 4:59:18 PM
Oh ya and clothes can be overrated:) That would be why some of us advocate dates as best being clothing optional. HEHEHEHEHE!!!

seymourbush

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Who's hot ? Posted: 10/14/2009 10:17:20 PM
I work downtown and see hotness all the time around me. Personally I find what is inside that makes the person hotter. Mind you there is this waitress in the restuarant in my building; a couple old girlfriends of mine (just because it didn't work out doesn't mean that aren't attractive or hot) ; a few regular posters on PoF and a number of friends on my facebook are too; Susan on Desperate Housewives is too; almost every red-head I see; I guess I go for the plain ones that are beautiful but often don't think they are. That might be why they are so attractive. It is when they open their mouth that the beauty comes through. I guess I find beauty and attractiveness all around me.

seymourbush

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Event Interest - Cooking Class Posted: 10/14/2009 1:51:03 AM
If this guy is mildly amusing and studying at the Cordon Bleu - I might be interested. It might help me expand my rather rudimentary culinary skills which is little more than opening up a can of soup, adding the appropriate amount of water and boiling it. Maybe I might even find out why the soup always seems to boil dry too. LOL I am not so interested in the guy, but he might be good for a chuckle or two (probably at my expense).

seymourbush

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PoF thanks for the great times! Posted: 10/5/2009 11:15:56 PM
Oh, wait... I think you have... he was kinda hot tho! That red head sure had the moves... By popular demand I decided to make a guest appearance. I figure it is time, since I haven't been on her (oops Freudian slip there) for months now. LOL Thanks for hosting this TCPL, it was good to get out and party it up again.

seymourbush

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Rosebud School of the Arts - Man of La Mancha - Friday, July 17 Posted: 6/19/2009 4:17:59 AM
Pretty much everything in life costs something, even at the so called free pub events. You go to the pub or restuarant and although the event may not have a cover charge, presumably you will buy a drink or have a meal - or both. An event such as this might be of interest to someone else who may not go to a pub event but is looking to attend a cultural event with a few other like minded and single people, but may feel more comfortable in a group situation instead of either attending alone or not at all. In the end this event might cost as much as a so called free event with the difference being the up-front cost to attend may be all in. It is a tough call.

seymourbush

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reasons for ending friendships Posted: 6/13/2009 12:14:44 PM
It is so true minako, what you said at the end. The golden rule of reciprocity is there for a reason, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." It is all about karma.

seymourbush

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If you won the lottery...would you share with your ex (exes)???? Posted: 6/13/2009 10:51:59 AM
I probably would give them something if I am still in touch and friendly with them. If I maintained a relationship with them for any length of time, there is something intrinsically good about them as people. I generally make reasonably good choices in girlfriends. Even though we went our separate ways and it may not have been meant to be, doesn't make them any less of a person and I harbour no ill will toward any of them. If I can make their life easier I will. At the very least I might offer to do, as an ex-girlfriend of mine has recently offered to do for me, which is to take them out for dinner (in a European city or other city of their choice).

seymourbush

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Is Spelling Important? Posted: 5/26/2009 2:06:10 PM
Quite frankly I have not read the forum and I am now shooting off my opinion that may or may not have been covered previously. Spelling does matter, as does grammer. The world is getting dumber and dumberer (just like a movie) and good spelling and grammer shows a lot of good attributes that I find very appealing. What is more interesting is when someone who knows how to spell and has good grammer puts a curveball into the conversation or text. That is particularly appealing to me and I always admire someone who can pull it off sucessfully. To do it successfully, one needs to know the rules. A good example is a sexual inuendo in the middle of serious conversation on a completely different topic - that actually fits. It never fails to cause me to bust a gut when it happens. I get a completely different appreciation for the person that is able to do it well.

seymourbush

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MAY 24th POF Meet & Greet at O’Sullivan's Restaurant and Bar Posted: 5/17/2009 11:04:36 AM
I figure that it is time I will finally make it out to a POF event in a very long time. I will be out of town on business but plan to make it back as early as possible. I look forward to seeing what fishies I remember are still around from back in the day and meeting new ones.

seymourbush

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B.C. man fights off cougar, walks away unhurt Posted: 5/15/2009 4:57:12 PM
I thought this was a bar story instead of a wildlife story instead.

seymourbush

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Any artists around here in Edmonton? Posted: 5/14/2009 6:37:53 PM
I know there is a very good artistic scene in Edmonton just as there is in Calgary. It is really hard to find and break into as most people you presumably will want to connect with if you are ambitious, spend time in the studios, not entertaining a first year student.

seymourbush

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what do you think is tougher to dump or to be dumped Posted: 5/12/2009 8:39:10 PM
Point taken. As I said earlier it is all about perspective.

seymourbush

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what do you think is tougher to dump or to be dumped Posted: 5/12/2009 4:29:16 PM
Regarding your comments about the first person who gives up loses, my comments were more indicating it was an interesting perspective. I am not indicating agreement or disagreement, but rather feeling it is something worth thinking about. As to your comments about failures. Any relationship that ends is a failure of sorts. Something between the two people involved did not work out - therefore it must be a seen as a failure. A relationship ending means that one must re-evaluate what went wrong. It does not matter if one broke it off or the other person did. If we look at it this way and continually strive for self-improvement through objective and critical self-analysis - success will be reached. A good example of this is Thomas Edison's numerous experiments to make a lightbulb, where there were many failures along the way, but ultimately a success in the end. I guess as in everything it is all perspective. I do not see your comments as being right or wrong, as I do with every person who posts, but rather as a perspective worthy of consideration and exploration.

seymourbush

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what do you think is tougher to dump or to be dumped Posted: 5/12/2009 12:05:07 PM
i dont mind being dumped, its less stressful and its alot easier to move on knowing that you departed the relationship because you drove the other person up the wall first i guess i just dont like to give up . plus , the first person to give up .............. loses That is an interesting take. Sad, but interesting nevertheless. I do think some people stay longer than they should because its hard to dump someone...especially the emotionally unstable drama whores that make you want to run away. Its hard finding a good time to dump....because really most of the time they are so fragile and needy you feel like its never a good time. That is always the crux of any relationship ending. There is never a good time, and I think everyone has stayed in a relationship longer than they should even if it is only a very short relationship. I think we all want to believe the best in others and give the other person involved the benefit of the doubt. No matter how you cut it ending a relationship for both parties means they failed in some way. It is often difficult to face and accept one's own responsibilities in facilitating and enabling that relationship failure through ones own actions, words or deeds. I know with all my relationships I have been involved in, I accept my part in why they ended. Sometimes it was a significant part. It is my hope that each relationship is a learning experience, and that I take away some lessons learned to make me a better lover and my next relationship better.

seymourbush

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what do you think is tougher to dump or to be dumped Posted: 5/11/2009 9:17:00 AM
Good call on the rejection part - that is a tough one to deal with at any time in one's life. It never gets easier to accept rejection.

seymourbush

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what do you think is tougher to dump or to be dumped Posted: 5/11/2009 5:09:23 AM
I am not so convinced of that anymore. I have been on both sides more often that I would prefer. I guess it all depends on the circumstances and matters of the heart are always hard to measure empirically. There is the pain that both the dumpor and dumpee share of of knowing it is over. But then add to that the knowledge of the pain the one dumping will cause or has caused the other person to endure. Did you do everything you could to salvage the relationship, is it the wrong time, the planning needed to minimize stresses in the other persons life, what impact will this cause the other person, all those things we do to second guess ourselves once it is over. Maybe I am wrong, but I still wonder. No wonder some stay in relationships where the best before date has long past. Discuss?

seymourbush

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what do you think is tougher to dump or to be dumped Posted: 5/10/2009 11:49:45 PM
I have no idea whether this has been discussed before or not, and I do not feel like searching to find out. What is tougher. I am curious about this one, because what I originally thought might not necessarily be the case and I would like other people's feedback on this.

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