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dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Leaving Posted: 3/3/2009 8:56:01 PM
Surely after one date, she can't be an ex. She isn't worth the time or effort to grieve the loss of a relationship. She isn't worth spit and one day she will regret saying those words. If it was a message you received a few days later, I'm also inclined to believe it was the nefarious work of an outsider. Regardless, you can do better than that. Keep the faith and come back alive.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 105 (view)

How can anyone feel comfortable enough to have sex? Posted: 11/5/2008 9:17:45 AM
For OP..Ok, if sex isn't allowed just for pleasure's sake then I hereby inform you that you are no longer allowed to enjoy basketball games, football games, hockey games, tennis matches, christmas dinner at your mom's place with all the roast turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, apple pie; driving in a beautiful new sportscar that is bought and paid for, watching the sunset and rise, watching the first snowflakes of the season fall and ANYTHING ELSE THAT YOU HAPPEN TO ENJOY DOING just because it is a fun thing to do and it brings you joy and pleasure. Sit at home, in the corner of your room, in the dark, eating your chocolate covered worms. You have the right to your opinion, you don't have the right to criticize and chastise those of us who do enjoy sex, not just for procreation but for the shear pleasure and intimacy of it. Sex with someone you care about is the most beautiful thing in the world. If one is just whoring around, jumping into a different bed every night, then you MIGHT be right.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 97 (view)

How can anyone feel comfortable enough to have sex? Posted: 11/4/2008 8:52:00 PM
Or the OP could be 1) 1 cheerio short of a full bowl 2) not the sharpest knife in the drawer 3) the lights are on but nobody's home 4) the wheel is spinning but the hampster is dead 5) face caught on fire and somebody put it out with a dumba$$ stick 6) fell out of the nimrod tree and hit every branch on the way down 7) dumber than a box of hair 8) not quite as smart as a sack full of hammers

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 97 (view)

why do people commit suicide in general? Posted: 11/4/2008 5:52:11 PM
Demonic69 - you make some good points, Think of it this way...she fought the cancer for 5 years and never gave up. That in itself should tell you something about courage, determination, will to live. She may have died a painful death, but think about the tremendous amount of strength she gave to those around her! Just by fighting like hell. I look at it another way; If I ever get jumped by a gang of punks in a dark alley, I'll probably lose the fight but THEY WILL KNOW, especially after I've choke-slammed a few of them on a dumpster, that I gave them a helluva fight. Sliding slightly off topic here, I don't believe in gay marriage or adoption but if I saw a gay person getting the crap beat out of them, I would definately step up and risk my life to protect them as best I could. If I was severely injured or died in the attempt, then so be it. I will have proved to them, God and everyone else that I believe in the value of a human life (except for rapists and serial killers) and that I was willing to make the ultimate sacrifice. The bottom line here is this: if life is treating you harshly, recognize that it is a problem and turn to someone for help. Don't ever try and go it alone.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 71 (view)

In Love with my wife, but finances are killing me, Posted: 11/4/2008 5:27:55 PM
The OP might be single, but the problem STILL EXISTS for a ton of people out there. Leaving the thread up can offer good advice to those who need it.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

Oral on first date.... Posted: 11/2/2008 10:56:05 AM
Any guy who asks for sex, Oral or otherwise, on a first date is a whore..Any girl who gives sex, Oral or otherwise on a first date is A SLUT..It's that simple.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 105 (view)

i want out of this alcoholic nightmare Posted: 11/2/2008 10:46:57 AM
The most important person in your life right now should be YOUR SON. You protect him at all costs. If it means moving across the country, then do it. Cut of all contact between her/her daughter and you and your son. He may hate you for awhile, but as long as he is legally your responsibility, he must abide by your rules. To do anytihng less, would be criminal.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 48 (view)

How can anyone feel comfortable enough to have sex? Posted: 11/2/2008 10:28:44 AM
If God didn't want us to have sex, he wouldn't have given us penis's and vagina's...and in some cases, both..(man, that would suck) Seriously, a bigger crime would be to deny yourself the pleasure derived from a healthy sexual experience with someone you love. Personally speaking, one night stands are not cool, at least not for me. If I am going to give that most intimate of embraces to a woman, I'm gonna be damn sure it's something we both want, that we both care about each other enough to make the commitment, and should she get pregnant, that we are both mature and responsible enough to handle raising a child. If you don't get yourself into some therapy and quick, you are going to die alone and probably a virgin..unless you find yourself a skanky hooker(after you've had a fifth of whisky) There is nothing wrong with expressing yourself in a healthy sexual way before marriage. How will you know you'll be compatible? It would totally suck(pun intended ) if you went to the trouble of getting married and then found out you and she were not compatible. I see nothing wrong with pre-marital sex as long as it's between a man and a woman who love each other and are responsible enough to do it in a healthy way.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 95 (view)

Waiting for Marriage for SEX... Posted: 11/2/2008 9:52:08 AM
Jeez, you sound really bitter, self-absorbed and whiney. Don't blame God because your wife is a tramp. If she loved you, she wouldn't be screwing around on you. It's pathetic when life isn't going right, people blame God for it. When things go right, they tend to forget him. If she wants to slut around, maybe you should kick her ass to the curb and find a woman who will appreciate you. Breakfast83 - excellent post. I couldn't have said it better myself.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 58 (view)

In Love with my wife, but finances are killing me, Posted: 11/1/2008 4:25:00 PM
Love is a two-way street. If SHE TRULY LOVED YOU, she'd admit there was a problem and would reign in her spending. You need TO WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE, the pot is dry and the coffeemaker is about to go up in flames. Sounds like its time for an ultimatum for her. Either she reigns it in immediately, or she can leave and not let the door hit her on the way out. If the two of you come to an understanding, the first thing you need to do is make a complete list of all creditors. Secondly, look at your income coming in and after you've paid the basics (mortgage/insurance) allocate 10-15% of whats left to each creditor. Credit companies aren't stupid; they realize some money is better than no money. If you can afford to pay $15 a month to the phone company, then stick to that. Pay extra when you can. Eventually the late pmt/past due notices will stop. If your creditors decide to threaten a lawsuit, 99% of the time, it's all BS. Unless you owe them a gazillion dollars, they are smart enough to realize it ain't worth it to sue over a few grand. When you've made your list of whats owed and to who, notify them and tell them up front, that there is some money issues and you are working on resolving it. Don't BS them and don't ignore them. That is the WORST thing you can do. I find it convenient to record each payment on a calendar along with when you get paid. I do my banking online, it's very easy to track your bills this way. If they do take you to court, no judge in the land will rule against you as long as you are making a conscious and consistent effort in re-paying the loan/bill. You can also pare down your expenses to the bare minimum. Stop eating out(pack your lunch for work); stop drinking expensive starbucks(over-rated in my op). Instead of buying bread, buy yourself a bread maker and make your own. If you smoke, QUIT. If you drink, QUIT. It also helps to cut all your credit cards AND hers, into shreds. Notify the credit card companies you have done so and not to re-issue replacements to you OR her for any reason. If you have over-draft at your bank, lower the limit so you aren't tempted to spend what isn't yours. Car-pool. If you have two cars, sell one. IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN NOW!!!!!! Either she does it now, or she can pack her bags and get out. You need to chalk it up to experience. Sure it may be tough, because you say you love her, but she is USING YOU. You need to issue the ultimatum or END the relationship. It's that simple.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

Brunch.... who pays? Posted: 10/31/2008 10:22:41 AM
I agree with SlowDad. We pay and we open doors for the lady "not because she is a lady, but because WE are gentlemen". It is important though, to know if we are being taken advantage of by a free-loader. If we are, we need to kick her to the curb.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 89 (view)

why do people commit suicide in general? Posted: 10/31/2008 10:16:56 AM
Getting a bit off topic here, but maybe population control is not a bad thing..people in third world countries breed like rabbits, punch out a zillion kids, then they put them on TV and make it seem like it's our fault (the western countries) that they are starving and why don't we support them by sending our money? Give me a r$%^^^&^%%break! I agree with the nursing home bit. Every year, around Christmas time, I make the rounds of the nursing homes where I live, (I bring my dogs, all 6 of them) and we go visiting. Some residents don't like dogs, but I pre-screen those. For the vast majority, they are quite happy for the company. In my opinion, there is never a good reason for ending your life. Depending on the level of your religeous upbringing(if any), I believe that I will either have the strength to deal with the illness OR I will die quickly. But I refuse to hasten the ack of dying..there is too much stuff I want to do before I go.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 114 (view)

Things that will most likley get you read/deleted after only one message... Posted: 10/31/2008 10:03:22 AM
I agree with the last 3 posters..100%

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 103 (view)

Would you give up custody of your kids and move away just to be with a new partner? Posted: 10/30/2008 10:40:40 AM
ANY PERSON (SORRY FOR SHOUTING HERE) WHO WOULD GIVE UP THEIR CHILDREN FOR A NEW LOVE, IS TOTALLY FRICKIN RETARDED and sure as hell doesn't deserve the right to be happy. That is totally un-forgivable and that woman will REGRET it. You absolutely did the right thing..It's too bad she wasn't smart enough to get back with you. You sound like a really decent guy. In the end, you did the right thing and THATS ALL THAT MATTERS.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 110 (view)

Things that will most likley get you read/deleted after only one message... Posted: 10/30/2008 10:30:41 AM
Jammers63074 said it best, out of everyone on this thread. I agree - Let people know what you look like, put some thought into your profile, don't get overly wordy in your first emails/messages. If a person offers up a phone number or email address, don't be so quick to delete - it could mean nothing at all. If they pester you for your phone number, then you may have room for concern. I firmly believe that it is better to not try to fake people out with "pretty boy" type pictures, phoney-sounding descriptions and saying things I wouldn't say to my mother. As far as the women who are so shallow that they'll delete my message without getting to know me; it'll be their loss..I can deal with that. One day they'll be old and alone, just like Lola at the Copa Cabana. Respond to messages/start your friendship with an open mind but keep your guard up until you feel safe to let it down. By just deleting someone, you may be running the risk of losing the greatest person you will ever know. I put alot of thought into my profile; everything I wrote is 100% accurate and from the heart. I believe the vast majority of women just want someone to love and protect them. To treat them like a queen, to put them first and in return they will give their heart freely and without reservation. I may not have MarkWalberg abs but I have something that I think very few guys have and that I think alot of women would desire in a mate. It's up to the ladies to decide if they want to take a chance-I will say this, it'll be the best decision they'll ever make.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 320 (view)

oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 10/30/2008 9:53:22 AM
I wonder if any of the contestants on FEAR FACTOR swallow cum? They swallow everything else//blended rat, reindeer balls, rancid bug juice......

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 25 (view)

Brunch.... who pays? Posted: 10/29/2008 9:32:29 AM
I tend to agree with most people here - whoever brings it up/does the inviting, should pay the tab. If the person you're with is a free-loader, you'll know soon enough not to invite them to lunch again - and if they invite you, expecting you to pay the whole bill, you'll hopefully be smart enough to blow them off. Just make sure you don't go to that Harvey's in Ontario - that made over 200 people sick with E Coli. Big lawsuit in the works....

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 51 (view)

How do you keep your chin up when it seems hopeless? Posted: 10/29/2008 9:23:46 AM
For BB - Maybe if you took the time to spell corrrectly and HAD trust in people, you'd find somebody to love. It doesn't just happen...you have to make it happen..and work at it to happen. That means investing some energy into the whole thing. If you show pride in yourself, maybe, others will notice it.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 25 (view)

Getting fired what did you do? how did you deal with it? Posted: 10/29/2008 9:14:43 AM
I wasn't suggesting he begged for the coat-check job, to get it back I mean. I was making a comment in general for whoever reads this post. Any job that pays an honest wage means that person is a contributing member of society - a helluva lot better than some lowlife living of the government, collecting welfare checks because he is too damn lazy to get off his a$$ and get a job.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 72 (view)

why do people commit suicide in general? Posted: 10/29/2008 9:08:10 AM
For Glendakins...Wish you were successful at what? Life? Career? A suicide attempt? If it's the latter, please tell me your not serious cuz if you are, there are people that care and there is help available. I don't know you - but life is WORTH living, no matter what you've gone through. I care...

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

once a cheater always a cheater?????????? Posted: 10/29/2008 9:02:40 AM
Uhhhhhh, try over 6 BILLION. There's like a billion+ in China alone..

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 8 (view)

What am I doing WRONG? Posted: 10/28/2008 9:52:46 PM
The only thing creepy are all the freakin emoticons in your message. Post a PICTURE of yourself. Nobody will respond to a blank space..

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 7 (view)

Why am I no one's favorite? Posted: 10/28/2008 9:49:19 PM
There is nothing wrong with being religeous. Just don't make it prominent on your profile. For most people, bringing religeon up first thing is a huge turn-off. So is no description profiles, BAD SPELLING, please people, take the time to run spell check! Also, put some thought into your profile..invest the time and you should see some rewards. Personally, I bypass all profiles who don't make the effort, or who aren't smiling, or, who don't post pictures.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 68 (view)

why do people commit suicide in general? Posted: 10/28/2008 9:42:36 PM
for myothercarisaferrari, pleaseeeee, give me a break. You can't blame women for men killing themselves. That's like blaming Bush because sales of broccoli went south when he made that comment about eating broccoli. But then again, whooo, stepping out on a huge limb here, if the Catholic church allowed priests to marry, then maybe we wouldn't have diocese's all over America going bankrupt because some pervert priests can't keep their hands to themselves. Not saying allowing priests to marry would end the problems of child abuse in the Church, just that it would most likely prevent alot of abuse from happening in the first place.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 55 (view)

advice or obvious criticism please Posted: 10/28/2008 9:33:31 PM
If you are accepting ANYTHING from him, cuddles, kisses or whatever, it makes you a tramp..because you ARE the other woman, you ARE stepping into someone-elses turf. Put yourself in his gf's shoes. Would you have a problem if the roles were reversed? If you say no, you are only kidding yourself and are headed into a VERY dangerous, one-way road. Steer clear of this guy and gives your's 100%.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 79 (view)

Waiting for Marriage for SEX... Posted: 10/28/2008 9:16:13 PM
There is nothing wrong with waiting. Just because you were raised in a Christian home, doesen't mean you will leave that home with the same morals intact. God won't condemn you for it. Christ didn't condemn Mary Magdeline and she was SLUT. He said it best; basically, you sinned, get over it and sin no more. SO what do you do now, you ask? Decide what is right for you, accept you made a bad choice in the past and let it go...move forward. Life is too important to be worriying about something so trivial. The only time God is going to condemn you for something like this, is if you do it time and time again, with no thought or care for your safety or the safety of others; intentionally hurting someone; IE rape. Then, you'll be going to hell.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

Getting fired what did you do? how did you deal with it? Posted: 10/28/2008 8:57:37 PM
Never, ever stoop to the level of begging for your job back. Devote your energies to finding something that pays better, something that you enjoy doing. Donald Trump says if you don't enjoy doing what you are doing, you will never succeed at it. There is NOTHING wrong with the coat check job. It is not a crap job. It is honest employment - you were perhaps just not very good at it. There is nothing wrong with that.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 13 (view)

once a cheater always a cheater?????????? Posted: 10/28/2008 8:52:05 PM
I agree with the others. Your doing yourself and the kids a huge dis-service by staying with him. If you want a positive role model in their lives, what about another male family member or perhaps Big Brother's/Big Sister's? Surely you must have a chapter in your town.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

Life sucks bad. Posted: 10/28/2008 8:34:59 PM
Case in point..look at Jennifer Hudson. A relative nobody prior to American Idol, she won the contest, an oscar and now she is grieving for a mother, a brother and a 7 year old nephew. all MURDERED by a sick MOfO who got dumped by his wife. OP, I'd say you are living on easy street compared to her. Stop whining and get on with your life. Just remember no matter how hard you think you may have it, there is ALWAYS somebody else who is worse off than you.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

Bond movie trivia Posted: 10/28/2008 8:29:24 PM
Bond's cologne is called Floris No.89. Also a favorite of Ian Fleming himself, Inspector Gadget and Kim Jong IL(N. Korea)

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 4 (view)

Bond movie trivia Posted: 10/28/2008 8:11:45 PM
OMG, that is cool. I wonder if Bond ever ate broccoli? PS - What is rabe?

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 67 (view)

why do people commit suicide in general? Posted: 10/28/2008 5:55:22 PM
I think the main reason is because of some kind of mental affliction. Sane, happy people don't kill themselves. It is a cowards way out - not only do they not care about themselves, but they don't give a damn about their loved ones. What pi$$es me off just as bad are the people who say, "Oh, if only they talked to me" or "why couldn't I see the signs"? People like that make me sick. They don't see the signs because they are too damn busy too care. They are hypocrites. Just like the music industry in the states. Years before he died, Johnny Cash was black-balled by the music industry for criticizing them for not playing enough of the old time artists; ignoring them in favor of people like Alan Jackson. After Cash died, they were all over him, inducting him into the Hall of Fame, doing tv specials etc, etc.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 1 (view)

Bond movie trivia Posted: 10/28/2008 5:28:22 PM
With the new James Bond movie coming, I thought I would share some interesting Bond Trivia with you all. There were 6 Official James Bonds and in order, they were Sean Connery, George Lazenby, Roger Moore, Timothy Dalton, Pierce Brosnan and Daniel Craig. Technically, there were 7(the actor who played Inspector Closeau in the Pink Panther-what was his name??) starred in the original Casino Royale, which was a spy spoof movie. Roger Moore, from my understanding, is the only truly ENGLISH actor to play Bond. George Lazenby starred in only one Bond Film, (On Her Majesty's Secret Service). Interestingly enough, Timothy Dalton read for the role of James Bond in this film also, as a 22 year old actor. 20 years TO THE DAY from reading for this part, he was named the new James Bond in "Living Daylights". Pierce Brosnan was fired from James Bond for bad-mouthing the franchise. Incidently, the highest selling and most successful movie franchise of all time. He found out he was fired after Daniel Craig came up to him at a meet n' greet function and asked him for advice on playing Bond. D'ohhhh! Sean Connery did a re-make of Thunderball (which he originally starred in), called Never Say Never Again for a rival studio. Apparently there was a big dust-up over the franchise, lawsuits were filed etc, etc. My all time favorite Bond was Sean Connery. The man may be 187, but he's still got IT. If I was a woman, I'd be chasing after him. My least favorite was Pierce Brosnan, mainly because he is an arrogant prick. The most under-rated was George Lazenby, I don't understand why he didn't make more Bond Films. My favorite Bond Nemesis has to be the bad guy from Thunderball; second fav-the guy played by Robert Davi in License to kill. Fav henchman has to be the one and only Jaws(aka Richard Kiel); who happens to have a twin brother. Ouch, I'd hate to see his parents grocery bill growing up. Follow this up with the big blond mother (Gotz Otto)from Tomorrow never dies. Fav henchwoman, Grace Jones, handsdown. Close second, Barbara Carrera from Never Say Never Again. Favorite Bond Girl, Ursula Andress from Dr. No. (wayyyyy hotter than Halle Berry ) Least favorite - the chick from For your eyes only. Fav Bond song-Thunderball, Second Fav-View to a kill(by Duran Duran). Funny anecdote here..the lead guitarist for Duran Duran got drunk at a party and staggered over to the producer's of the Bond Films and made a wiseass comment about decent soundtracks for the next Bond Film. DD was prompty hired to do View to a Kill. One of the Bond Girls in the film For your eyes only, was actually a MAN. (character Naomi-from that film). Jaws spoke only 4 words in the 2 films he did. ("Well, here's to Us") in Moonraker. And my number one bit of Bond Trivia also happens to be the number one Movie Quote of All time; (Bond to Goldfinger) "Do you expect me to talk , Goldfinger? No, Mr Bond, I expect you to die!" Second favorite quote, (Big blond guy in Tomorrow never Dies-right before he got fragged by the blast of that nuke); "I owe you an un-pleasant death, Mr. Bond". Hope you guys like this post. Does anyone have any Bond trivia they'd like to add? And no, I'm not a loser who lives in my parents basement...I work full time..just enjoy my movies Ohhh, almost forgot..the coolest Bond car..has to be the 1964 Astin Martin from Thunderball(same car in the new Casino Royale). Second favorite car-the one from Goldeneye. Speaking of which, Tina Turner, who is now Un-Retiring and getting ready for a world tour, sang the theme song for Goldeneye. at the end of the song/video, it is her eye that blinks. Coolest Bond Movie intro, from the newest Bond film Casino Royale.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 29 (view)

once trust is lost can it be won back? Posted: 10/28/2008 4:31:44 PM
If it's on YOUR computer, you have every right to read it. He lost his rights to privacy by leaving it on another person's computer. What if it had been top-secret military plans, an email from Osamabinladen or kiddie porn? Who would have been liable then? YOU, thats who. He has no right to question your trust/ethics.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 6 (view)

Life sucks bad. Posted: 10/28/2008 4:22:56 PM
So tell me why Hemmingway blew his brains out with a shotgun?? That takes real courage? It's a coward's way out.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

once a cheater always a cheater?????????? Posted: 10/28/2008 4:20:15 PM
ABSOLUTELY...go with your gut and kick the jerk to the curb. If they cheat once, they'll do it again. If you take him back, you'll have DOORMAT branded on your forehead for the rest of your life. (this applies to guys too)

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Getting fired what did you do? how did you deal with it? Posted: 10/28/2008 4:03:32 PM
A Part-time, non-thinknig job? How about a government employee? Seriously though, there is never any excuse for being rude to customers, drunk or not. Sally Jesse Raphael was fired 18 times before she landed her talk show. Chalk it up to just another experience, say to yourself, "it was THEIR loss" and whatever you do, don't be stupid enough to put the job on your resume. That is just a baddddd move..

dntwnt2misathng

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Msg: 233 (view)

Double Penetration Posted: 10/28/2008 3:55:37 PM
FOr MaryLeggs I was at a Christmas Party last year...we were all feeling Mary and when she left, we all jumped for Joy

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Msg: 10 (view)

forums not posting Posted: 10/27/2008 10:21:59 PM
I was finally able to post it..thanks for responding.

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Msg: 108 (view)

Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down? Posted: 10/27/2008 10:18:21 PM
You have no reason to ask her for forgiveness..that's bs. People should change, because they want to, not because someone is trying to make them change. If you want to change someone, (you) become the person you want them to be. In other words, if you really dig her, go to her church, you may find you like it. I have never really liked going to church; most times, there has always been some alternate agenda. Church, your relationship with God, is something you have in here(points at heart). Christ never spent ANY time in ANY church; except for the time when he was kicking a$$ on those money-changers. If you make the effort, she may come around; but if she is putting ultimatums on you becoming a born-again bible-thumper, then maybe you should kick her to the curb and find someone else who is worthy of your love. Christian or not, nobody should put ultimatums on anyone, for any reason. Love is a 2way street. Christ didn't condemn Mary Magdelene; why should your lady friend condemn you for not being a church-goer?

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 50 (view)

How do you keep your chin up when it seems hopeless? Posted: 10/27/2008 9:52:38 PM
You are a beautiful and obviously goal-oriented woman. If only I lived in New York....Keep positive, stay focused and NEVER, EVER, COMPROMISE YOUR VALUES OR WHO YOU ARE FOR ANYBODY. True love will hit you in the most un-likely of places and in-opportune times. Just be ready to roll with it; but stay true to yourself

dntwnt2misathng

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Msg: 8 (view)

single and pregnant Posted: 10/27/2008 9:34:56 PM
I think pregnant women are incredibly beautiful. (remember Demi Moore in "the Seventh Sign"? She was 9 months pregnant when she did that movie. My god, she was hot in the shower scene.... As far as positions with an extremely pregnant woman, spooning and doggie style are probably the safest, and will still provide maximum pleasure for both parties.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 7 (view)

Two and One ....an erotic story Posted: 10/27/2008 8:53:58 PM
I thought it was hot...

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Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 349 (view)

My Weight and My Boyfriend Posted: 10/21/2008 11:24:45 AM
I agree with most everyone on this thread - DUMP HIM. As far as losing weight is concerned, you need to remember you didn't put the weight on overnight, and it's not coming off overnight either. I'd like to offer this advice from experience: when I started my soulmate journey, it began at my doctor's office. In December of 2007, when I had my physical, I weigt 330pounds. My doctor basically said, lose it or die. So, he gave me a prescription for Meridia(appetite suppressant-works VERY well) and he hooked my up with a dietician at the local hospital, who gave me a copy of the Canada Food Guide and told me, healthy weight loss for me would be eating 2000-2400 calories per day. She said, write down what you eat. Which I did and now, in October 2008 I weigh 274 pounds. I haven't been on the Meridia since July of this year because it is quite expensive. Even though I'm not taking it, I'm still losing weight; not as fast but it is a loss nevertheless. The trick is to STAY AWAY FROM DIETING/YO-YO FADS and diet books. Record everything you eat and when you see it written down, you know you have to eat more protein/less carbs, whatever. Check out www.fitday.com for a very helpful calorie counting/weight loss plan. I use it every day, it's free and it WORKS. 2milk servings/2meat servings/6-8grain servings/8-12fruit servings per day is a good place to start. Getting moderate exercise, still eating what you want, but controling the amount is key.(drink lots of water) The best thing for you to do is distance yourself from this jerk. If he really cared about you, he'd respect your feelings. To him, your nothing more than a bootycall, and you DESERVE BETTER.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 25 (view)

When do you tell someone you are in a recovery program? Posted: 10/20/2008 12:49:07 PM
And in response to the originator of this thread, it is not always necessary to come out first thing. Maybe the other person has the same issue? I would wait a few dates before you bring it up though. There are some very creative ways to broach the subject. For example, at the second or third date, go for coffee and bring up the issue like this: Ask them, "what are your thoughts on youth of today, why are so many in trouble, with the law/their families. It might have something to do with peer-pressure, perhaps they have deep-seated mental health issues". Just by their response, you can guage if you want to tell them right away about your recovery or not. If they say something like, "I think they should lock those crazy little f$%#rs up and throw away the key", then you know they most likely won't be able to handle dealing with you. If they say, "yeah, it's a real shame..I guess not enough love from their parents, might be a good explanation - I guess maybe more therapy options/love and understanding would be in order", chances are good that they will be receptive. OR, consider this>>>if you have mental issues/alcohol recover issues etc, why not VOLUNTEER with your local mental health/AA chapter. You may find that by helping others, you are helping/healing yourself. That way, on your third date you can say, 100%honestly, that you volunteer with AA because you know what those people are going through, because YOU are experienceing the same issues. Being honest is ALWAYS the best policy, but sometimes being honest up front can hurt you more than help you. Dear Abby gave this advice to someone once and I think considering the source, it is very GOOD advice. Hope mine helps...PM me if you want to talk more.. Rob

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

When do you tell someone you are in a recovery program? Posted: 10/20/2008 12:33:17 PM
This is in response to sweetbabeblues...why in the hell would you be so ignorant to make this first comment? Jeez..talk about low-brow and no-class..sister, you got it in spades..

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 8 (view)

forums not posting Posted: 10/20/2008 12:24:57 PM
I am trying to post a NEW thread, and it isn't working. It's being put in the right forum, but after all my typing, I hit the post button....and nothing. Also, same problem with other forums. I can post to some, but not others. I know those threads aren't closed yet because I go back the next day and see new posts from other people. Whats going on? Somebody please message or email me.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 113 (view)

Asked For Photo, Got Handed My Hat Posted: 10/20/2008 12:12:05 PM
Anyone, Man or woman, who doesn't have a picture on their profile or refuses to send one, has SOMETHING TO HIDE..and should be avoided at all costs.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 362 (view)

all guys wants from me is sex.. but not a relationship... why is that? Posted: 10/16/2008 11:38:08 AM
You deserve better, absolutely...Just remember this: NEVER COMPROMISE YOUR VALUES FOR ANYBODY. Just remember that not all guys are jerks, like these three idiots. There are some decent guys left, we are just really hard to find. Keep the faith and your prince will find you one day.

dntwnt2misathng

Joined: 9/23/2008

Msg: 51 (view)

Am I Broken? Posted: 10/14/2008 8:52:23 PM
OMG, he finally woke up and smelled the coffee. I honestly believe nobody was trying to hurt GizmoDaddy; merely help. Its not always easy to admit mistakes and I commend him for realizing that perhaps his need for advice/help rests more on a professional level. GD is not the only person who has ever experienced loss or heartache and his bowing out of this thread without personally attacking every person who is trying to help him is to be commended.

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