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drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 764 (view)

Introduce Yourself Here.... Posted: 2/28/2009 4:44:49 PM
Andrew from Vancouver here.

drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

When down and out who are your true friends? Posted: 2/28/2009 4:42:32 PM
True friends...are true friends.

drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

How about this one... Posted: 2/28/2009 4:36:47 PM
Just give it up and move on. If she calls you back - then you have something to discuss. No offence, but she's probably blowing you off. Leave it up to her to call you if she's interested...the ball's in her court now. Try going at this whole pof thing without any expectations, and understand that it really is a game of numbers...for both men and women. If you let go and just accept this - you'll have a better time and probably better results.

drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 176 (view)

WHO ATTRACTS YOU MOST ? Posted: 2/28/2009 4:25:37 PM
Women who are pretty, nice, inteilligent, open-minded, nurturing, and into me too. Personality is equally important as looks.

drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 39 (view)

2 yrs not 1 message and every sent message unread deleted Posted: 2/21/2009 11:14:17 PM
Ok, assuming that you're genuinely interested in constructive criticsm towards your profile...here goes: 1. I still like some "metal" and listen to it myself. Shhh...don't tell too many women that though. Lol. There aren't many "metal-heads" on pof...especially not of the female persuasion. I play drums and can appreciate where you're coming from, but I would suggest that you tone it down a little. For example, change your intro where you identify yourself as "metal in a cowboy hat" to a nickname or abreviated name and number. Also, some women don't like country and might misconstrue what you mean - and most won't understand what "metal in a cowboy hat" means either. I'm not suggesting deleting everything - just add some other genres of music in there as well. Do you like any: classic rock, rock, blues, jazz, etc? If so, include them because you will appear more diverse...and that is key in creating more interest. Diversity is good! 2. It takes courage to create this post and ask for help. That's huge in my book brother. Good on you for humbling yourself enough to do it. I'm impressed. That being said, I strongly advise you to glean as much information from this experience as you possibly can. There have been some really good suggestions that have been made thus far and you'd be wise to utilize them. My next suggestion is for you to completely start from scratch. That's right - delete it all and start anew. What have you got to lose? As you've put it, you're not getting any responses right. So just take your profile off for a day or two and re-create it and yourself. It's like building a solid foundation for a house. If the foundation isn't solid...the whole house comes tumbling down. You'll need some more pictures as well. Different pictures, wearing different things, and different poses and looks. Remember - diversity is the key. 3. There are some things that are stacked against you, and unfortunately that's just the way the world is. It can be cruel and judgmental - but that's just how it is. So it's best that we try to work towards our strengths as opposed to weaknesses. No offence, but you are shorter than average, have poor quality pictures, come across as a complete head banger...and are a heavy smoker. These are things that most women do not look for in a man. In other words, you create more challenges for yourself by not overcoming these issues. If you can quit smoking - that'd be huge! If you can get some nice pics with various looks - that'd be huge too! And just as important - modify your entire profile. Trust me, you'll see a difference. 4. For some strange reason I'd like to help you. Maybe it's the kindred spirit shit between to musicians? Who knows? Not to brag, but take a look at my profile to get an idea of what might work better for you. I get a tremendous amount of positive feedback from women, and most say they had a good laugh. If nothing else, life has taught me a valuable lesson - that women love to laugh...and laughter is good! Good luck Metal-hat. I'm here if you need me. Hope it all works out for you. Drew PS: I totally dig the reality homicide show "The first 48" and dig serial killer books and movies as well. I just don't include it in my profile. Bwwaaaaaaaa....evil.....lol

drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 659 (view)

Why do Babes dig ugly guys? Posted: 1/15/2009 12:22:51 AM
Article from Yahoo: 28 What's this PARIS (AFP) - Women with high levels of a key sex hormone are judged more attractive by themselves and others, and may be more inclined to cheat on their partners, according to a study published Wednesday. University of Texas psychologists Kristina Durante and Norman Li found that women with high concentrations of the hormone oestradiol were likelier to flirt, kiss and have a serious affair outside an established relationship. In a study published in the British journal Biology Letters, the duo described the behaviour as "opportunistic serial monogamy" and not related to one-night stands. Instead, they suggested, such women were more probably being prompted to trade up in their relationships -- to find a better partner. Other studies of oestradiol have shown that higher levels of the hormone are closely linked to enhanced fertility among women. As a result, say some researchers, men have an evolved response that prompts them to pick up on telltale signs of the hormone's presence. High concentrations of oestradiol are associated with big breasts, facial attractiveness and low waist-to-hip ratio, with the result that men solicit such women. Durante and Li measured hormone levels at two different stages of the menstrual cycle among 52 women aged 17 to 30 who were not taking the pill. The women were asked to rate their own attractiveness and sexiness "compared to other women," their satisfaction with current partners, their willingness to engage in uncommitted sex and about their past relationships. Separately, a panel of men and women unaware of the experiments evaluated photos of the women, rating them for attractiveness. The women with the highest levels of oestradiol scored the highest across the board, and reported a greater likelihood of having a serious affair. They also reported a greater number of long-term relationships in the past. The study says that oestradiol-related attractiveness provides opportunities in the sexual hunting ground. Men are keen to find a sexier woman and women want to find a partner who is a better provider and looker. "Women have to trade off between having a long-term mate who provides continual material resources, and more physically attractive, short-term sexual partners with good genetic resources," write Durante and Li. Women with higher oestradiol levels "may have fewer reasons to be committed to any particular partner if higher quality potential mates are available," they concluded.

drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 658 (view)

Why do Babes dig ugly guys? Posted: 1/14/2009 4:20:05 PM
This is thread is hilarious! Doesn't anyone pay attention to the myriad research\data concerning men & women, relationships, and or marriage? For example: Men and women do think differently, at least where the anatomy of the brain is concerned, according to new studies. We are different...and for many reasons. The brain is made primarily of two different types of tissue, called gray matter and white matter. This new research reveals that men think more with their gray matter, and women think more with white. Researchers stressed that just because the two sexes think differently, this does not affect intellectual performance. We (men & women) excel in different areas, like math and languages. Another example: The male sex drive is uncomplicated and honest. Men are visual. The hot-blooded sexual response to the sight of a good-looking young woman has been hard-wired into the male brain thanks to millions of years of evolution -- the average guy can no more stop ogling, lusting and urging to merge than he can stop eating or sleeping. But what about women? Just what do they find attractive about men? Read any typical survey and you'll be informed that what really turns them on is a sense of humor, confidence, consideration of others, etc. In other words, according to women, all you have to do is to be a nice guy and they'll come running. LOL. Reality check time ;) Never listen to what a woman says -- always pay attention to what she actually does instead. The two are quite frequently worlds apart, because women are masters at self-deceit and equally adept at lying to themselves about their own behavior. Cross-cultural evidence from different societies consistently reveals that what women really want from men are economic resources. Studies with college coeds show that when shown photographs of men dressed in high-status uniforms (suits, ties, expensive watches, etc.) and low-status uniforms, these women would be significantly more willing to enter into relationships with the more expensively-attired males regardless of the man's physical appearance . To a woman, attraction is simple: green is very good-looking. And these same studies found that college men were convinced that magnifying their status (implying greater earning power) would lead to increased sexual activity. Thus men were forced to rely on such attraction tactics as driving expensive cars, bragging about accomplishments, and emphasizing present or future earning power, while women, on the other hand, packaged themselves as commodities with make-up, jewelry, hairstyles, and shape-revealing clothing. Evolution has brought us from the attraction factor being a large, strong man who can hunt and gather and a woman who cook and breed...to smaller & weaker men who earn a good living and women who comprise 85% of all consumer spending. And oh by the way, studies show that women cheat more then men - by as much as 8%. So when women claim that "all me are dogs," it's a form of deflection from the fact that women are better liars than me. Think about it men, it 's virtually impossible for us to lie to women and get away with it...but boy are they good. I also find it extremely disingenuous when women incessantly bring up how horrible men are with cheating when my earliest memories are of women cheating on, and hurting me. It happened with my first 3 girlfriends. I learned how to be a player after those experiences and became hardened towards trusting women again. So what does all of this mean now? I actually do have good realtionships with women...just never been married to one. Lol. I genuinely do appreciate women and their differences...but am fully aware of what those differences are. I'm not in denial about the differences. I accept women and their differences in the sense that I know what to expect. I also know that men can be jerks as well, so I do not profess to be perefect...far from it. Let me put it like this - we've ALL been dumpers & dumpees at some point in our life. As far as the "ugly guy & babe" thing goes...it's the exception...not the norm! Who cares? Everyone needs a little love. I'll be waiting for the histrionic and vitriolic slams on my post. Let the fun begin.

drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 378 (view)

How many dates are people actually going on from this site? Posted: 10/25/2008 9:36:49 PM
I have to absolutely agree with MeloFelo - criticizing POF is like standing still in a grocery store and wondering why your shopping cart isn't being filled. It's also like people who complain about not being employed - but who never send a resume out and wonder why everyone else is getting jobs. I've only been on the site less than a month now, and I've had a really good time. Oh sure, there were points of frustration, insecurity, and self-doubt - but that's to be expected with any new adventure. I'm not God's gift to women, but I've certainly faired pretty well. And I attribute that to taking my time, researching the lay of the land, and putting my best foot forward. I selected my best pics (based upon what women had to say) and thought long and hard about writing my profile. It really just goes back to getting that dream job in life... you have to have a really strong resume... and interviewing skills as well. It takes time, research, and effort to bring these things to fruition. It's like the saying goes: "you get back what you put out." Oh yeah, for those of you who have no pictures on your profile and are complaining, you really can't complain in good faith can you? No picture - no response, as the saying goes. It's kind of silly to question why you're not receiving replies. And finally, when I was a lad and went we had to try all kinds of: different bait, lures, line, and holes in order to catch the fish. It takes time and patience and understanding... which it seems some here are either lacking - or are not prepared to learn. But I guess in a sarcastic kind of way... better for guys like me ... less competition.

drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 100 (view)

Why the pics with other women in them? Posted: 10/24/2008 12:25:43 AM
Oh yeah, check out the chicks in my pics. I'm an angel - really.

drewscott13

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 99 (view)

Why the pics with other women in them? Posted: 10/24/2008 12:22:34 AM
Is it just me or is this a one-sided question and or topic that really isn't fairly weighed or debated? Firstly, I (as a man) have personally witnessed a plethora of women who have men hanging on them and kissing them in their pictures. I've also observed numerous women who have practically positioned the camera down their bras for their profile pictures. Other women who are practically nude in some of their shots - or extremely revealing to say the least. Additionally, I've observed many women who claim to be nice, kind, and considerate... but who don't even reply with a simple thank you when receiving a compliment. No reply at all. I on the other hand do reply to ALL initial messages or inquiries and thank anyone who pays me a compliment... whether I am attracted or not. It's just good manners and the mature thing to do. Let's get real, women can be just as loose, cheesy, and hurtful as men... and that's a simple part of the human experience. In fact in a recent study, women responded to cheating more and lying more in first year relationships and beat men in these categories by up to 8%. So much for "men are all dogs" and all that other happy crap. I prefer to debate issues academically. An old professor of mine with double Phd's (physics & engineering) taught me a very valuable lesson which was - always keep the bead in the middle... never let it go far to the left nor too far to the right... just right in the middle. In other words, both men and women can be equally guilty of the same thing. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

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