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KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

Children Learn what they live Posted: 7/27/2009 4:02:48 PM
I didn't say always end up hostile and bitter, but they do face the world in all of it's ugliness. And the sad fact the effects of this can be devastating to how a child will grow up and see the world.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Children Learn what they live Posted: 7/27/2009 4:51:51 AM
ConsciousSoul: Don't imply that I wrote a parent should be abusive simply because the rest of the world is. I have never, and would never, treat my children unkindly. But no, I don't think this world is a 'nice place in which to live', and I don't intend on growing my children up sheltered from that reality. They will run into 'bad' people the rest of their life, and they should be made aware that these people are out there, and terrible things do happen. Sad and hopeless is the way of the world, not my way. And true to that, it has been proven more times than it has been proven not. Children do not necessarily become bitter and hostile just because their parents are. I am hardly bitter, but I am a realist and I see the world for what it is. I choose not to walk with my head in the clouds or rose colored glasses pulled over my eyes. Sometimes life forces you to view the world in another perspective. Your movie might be moving, but I have never claimed in anything I wrote that love and hope can't be found in even the most drastic situations. But the fact of the matter is, those situations exist. And there isn't always a happy ending.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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trust issues after divorce Posted: 7/26/2009 4:26:46 PM
I don't necessarily think trust issues are developed from divorce... I myself got divorced because he was a drug abuser. Trust issues can develop as a child, or be the result of someone betraying you in any relationship. Be it a friend or significant other.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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What is your favorite beer ? Posted: 7/26/2009 4:24:24 PM
I don't drink beer. The very taste of it reminds me of my father's kisses.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Children Learn what they live Posted: 7/26/2009 4:23:40 PM
I like this poem. I do. I can remember reading it when I was small at the doctor's office. But I also feel as if no matter how you might practice these notions in the home, the world despite your friendliness is not a nice place to live. A child who lives in poverty, no matter how kind and loving the parent, will still face ridicule and shame, and will learn bitterness and hostility.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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making new friends Posted: 7/26/2009 4:16:38 PM
Surely you have lady friends? I still go out with my married girlfriends, and that didn't change when I got divorced. Perhaps you might have luck with some coworkers?

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Date Advice anyone? Posted: 7/26/2009 4:12:45 PM
If he was into you, he'll let you know. And disregard the insults on acting 12. This is why we date, to feel young and have fun.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Change Your Type-! Posted: 7/26/2009 4:09:02 PM
Are you implying only bigger girls can dance? Jeez.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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forumeer to forumeer Posted: 7/26/2009 4:07:26 PM
Contact a forumeer?! I would never think of it!

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Dating a guy with a kid? Posted: 7/21/2009 5:26:32 PM
You're calling kids package. It's obviously your issue.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Rant about girls photos... Posted: 7/21/2009 5:25:25 PM
You caught me. I added those pictures right before I ate all those triple Whoppers. Damnit.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Women That Wear Thongs... Posted: 7/21/2009 5:21:17 PM
I switched to thongs in my teenage years, and found them extremely comfortable and sexy. But funny, how boyshorts and fullbacks are making their way back to the top of the list. Maybe it's because my a$s isn't as perky as it was when I was 17. ;)

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Nipples! Posted: 7/21/2009 5:12:08 PM
Oh, you're not alone. It's instant aching between my legs with nipple play. =]

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Do all women fall asleep when they orgasm? Posted: 7/21/2009 5:09:45 PM
I'm frikkin starving. All I want is a damn sandwich when it's all said and done.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Attracted to the same sex..... Posted: 7/21/2009 5:08:44 PM
I just had a dream this gorgeous girl was into me. She persuaded me to mess around. She was a terrible kisser and then when I went to touch her breasts, there wasn't any underneath all the padding. Terrible. I'm sticking to men.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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How/when should I ask her out? Posted: 7/20/2009 7:19:31 PM
I love stalkers, they make you feel all giddy inside. ;)

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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The Y chromozone is dissapearing = homosexuality Posted: 7/20/2009 7:06:04 PM
You know what it's all about, hmmm Incubus?

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Simple Question...Complex Answer? Posted: 7/20/2009 7:02:43 PM
My ego's plenty boosted already. I'm here for a good time.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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How/when should I ask her out? Posted: 7/20/2009 6:59:29 PM
Patience. I keep hearing about all these failed interactions on here, and I'm inclined to blame it on the fact that people rush to a face to face too soon.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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sweetest thing anyone has ever done for you? Posted: 7/20/2009 6:57:17 PM
He scooped me back up real fast when I started to gag. That was really thoughtful of him.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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The Y chromozone is dissapearing = homosexuality Posted: 7/20/2009 6:53:06 PM
As a woman, I'll tell you I hardly find myself concerned when my lover wants anal play. I am all for it. I seriously doubt this makes a man gay, rather that he wants to feel a good.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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What a Tangled Web I've Woven Posted: 7/20/2009 6:31:20 PM
Interesting futureshock. When I got pregnant, it was I angry for my own carelessness, and I who had no interest in having a child so young. In fact, it took me almost the whole pregnancy to adjust to the idea. I knew having a child meant no more partying and I certainly wasn't ready to give that up. Let's just say I diodn't want to grow up. =] Naturally, I did because I know what's right. But in fact, he was 5 yrs older, and wanted a baby. It was he who insisted we have it and it'd be great. I swear sometimes he planned it... ;) Nonetheless, it was I who did the right thing and him who faltered on the path of life.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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What a Tangled Web I've Woven Posted: 7/20/2009 4:58:24 PM
Hmmm, sometimes I question if I did really love him. I found myself involved with a man during my 'let's get high and not give a damn' days, but when that life dissipates, what really is left of a connection? I was with child, and having grown up with strong family values, I thought it only proper to marry the father of my child and try to create a family. I suppose I grew to love him through the years, but it faded fast when anger took over. But yes, it does amaze me the power of drugs and the weakness people have for them. I can't imagine forsaking my children for the 'high' of a drug. I honestly can't.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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What a Tangled Web I've Woven Posted: 7/20/2009 4:42:56 PM
Bosoxfan: I suppose in great part this may have been my own undoing. I was 19 when I got pregnant by him, and we were very caught up in the alcohol/drug scene. But a pregnancy for me meant it was time to grow up and live properly. And that meant no more getting high. He didn't give it up so easily. He stopped most everything, but still kept his Friday nights out with the boys doing whatever he pleased. I really didn't push the issue. He was working and keeping his partying to that one night a week. He lost his job at some point and that's when he started spinning out of control. It went from one night to two, three, four. He denied vehemently I was being 'dramatic', until I was marking the calendar with red x's every day he did drugs... and the time went by the calendar was mostly red. There was no saving him. it went from street drugs to pharmaceuticals, prescribed for his 'bad back'. And so on so forth. I tried and tried, but there was no getting through. And so it was the worst kind of living for a long time. Eventually, you let go. But I always say to myself, that the man I married was the man I left. The signs were there that he would never give it up. I had convinced myself otherwise for the sake of having the 'family'. Still, I have no regrets and you just have to press forward. And, the boys are kick a$$ little kids, I can't imagine the world without em. =D

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Mall good for a first date? Posted: 7/19/2009 5:58:30 AM
If a man suggested the mall to me for a first date, I'd probably tell him to get lost. I can't stand the frikkin mall. I guess it's proper for teenagers, haha.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Has anybody had any experience with an actual dating service? Posted: 7/19/2009 5:56:14 AM
Maybe it's because I'm poor and value keeping my money in my damn pocket, but I just don't understand why people pay to date? This is a free thing, and I don't need a frikkin matchmaker telling me who's right for me. What ever happened to the old fashioned way of meeting people?

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Does anyone feel like this? Posted: 7/19/2009 5:51:48 AM
I would hardly call it a candy store. Have you seen the selection? More like a low budget yard sale. You know you really don't need it, but its cheap enough you take it home. ;)

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Happy Single Parents? Posted: 7/19/2009 5:45:03 AM
I love being a single mother. No one to argue with on how to raise the damn kids. It's my way and my way only! This works for me. But that isn't to say the partnership in parenting isn't a nice thing to have. There will always be times being a single mother isn't great. Who do you talk to late at night about worries and concerns about your children, or have a laugh over something silly the kids did? Who do you tell about what your child did that made you so proud, after all, no one shares the love you have for your children, like another parent could.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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What a Tangled Web I've Woven Posted: 7/19/2009 5:41:12 AM
There are always exceptions. I am a mother of two sons who haven't seen their father in over four years. I was married to their father and he developed a terrible addiction. So bad he completely stopped working, and started wasting away right before my eyes. I was holding down a night job and caring for my small sons during the day, while he blew all our money on his addiction. I tried to no avail to get him to clean up his act. Sometimes you can't save someone, but you can save yourself and the small children depending on you. It was the day after Christmas when I packed his things and escorted him out of my home. I made efforts for six months afterwards for him to maintain some sort of relationship to my sons, ages 3 and 8 mos. at the time. I was broke and left with amassing bills and rent past due, but I still went out and bought food so he could feed the boys when he took them for the day or night. I was so concerned with my sons having a relationship with him, that I made that mistake. He emotionally twisted my oldest son up, was abusive to the little one, and continued to do drugs and put my children in danger. I showed up one Saturday, he was down to two days visitation a month, and he was high as a fukkin kite and ready to unbuckle my son from his seat. I took one look at him and told him to get fukked. He called for a while after, and I told him when he cleaned up his act he could see his children. That was over four years ago. My sons are six and nine now, and very healthy, happy, emotionally adjusted little boys. And while a father might have been a great thing in their life, it wasn't what they were meant to have. They are better off not seeing him. He is a waste of a man and still screwed up on drugs, out there, sad to say,reproducing more babies to screw up. But I have what's worth anything, and I'd not change walking away and I'll never feel guilty for removing the negativity from my children's world.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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What is the wierdest date you've ever had? Posted: 7/19/2009 5:28:17 AM
I met up with a dude and to my dismay found his pictures had hidden some very undesirable features. Like his snaggletooth and crossed eyes. I knew I wasn't going to be able to look at his ugly face across a dinner table, so I changed the plans quickly. Told him i wasn't hungry, let's catch a movie. He agreed. When we were walking into the movies, he told me how badly he wanted to kiss me. I said simply, 'Don't.' He chuckled, apparently under the impression I was playing a sort of game. He says, 'What if I just do it?' I turn around point blank, and tell him if he comes anywhere near me and my pretty lips, I'm going to kick him so hard he's gonna cry. That date sucked.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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What the H*LL is up with all these women jumpin' out of planes! Posted: 7/19/2009 5:23:52 AM
Ha. I wouldn't even jump out of a plane on fire. Screw that.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Kissing in the Morning Posted: 7/19/2009 5:22:38 AM
I'm not interested in a tongue probing my mouth first thing in the am. Just get me a damn coffee and be gone!

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Girlfriend or best friend??? Posted: 7/19/2009 5:19:59 AM
Well said, packagedeal. You should always take care of what you have before worrying or pursuing about the next.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Best cities/states for single ladies/men to find someone in. Posted: 7/19/2009 5:18:21 AM
You left out Boston girls, Piano4te...

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Should I just forget it? Posted: 7/18/2009 9:12:59 PM
LMAO, lone hawk. Nice job.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Boxers or Briefs or Boxer Briefs? Posted: 7/18/2009 9:11:28 PM
And on your actual question... I have two sons whom I buy underwear for since they don't have jobs yet. And I buy them boxer briefs. So that must be my preference?

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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haven't heard from her in 2 days. Posted: 7/18/2009 9:10:07 PM
You're obsessing. A needy man is a turn off.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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So how do you do this without sounding like a freak?? Posted: 7/18/2009 9:07:25 PM
Have you tried craigslist? The listings on there are insane. Why do all photographers need naked women for their 'portfolio'? Hmmmmm.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Boxers or Briefs or Boxer Briefs? Posted: 7/18/2009 9:06:13 PM
I personally prefer my men with one solid good character. =P

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Why are single moms so open to having additional children by another man? Posted: 7/18/2009 8:50:55 PM
I have spent much time in my own head with this topic!

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions? Posted: 7/18/2009 8:48:48 PM
It actually annoys me they add that to my profile. But um, I am who I say I am so I suppose it doesn't matter?

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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stood up! Posted: 7/18/2009 8:47:48 PM
Stupid man. Take care of yourself tonight, sweetie. You need it!

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Are we allowed to do creative (sexual) writing? Posted: 7/18/2009 8:46:22 PM
Oh, you can write sexually charged things without ever using a word POF would censor. I close my eyes and feel.... feel so lost in the ecstasy of your touch... You slide your fingers out slowly... run them back up my belly...over my breasts... I take your fingers in my mouth... Licking...Tasting my sweetness dripping on your fingers... I suck the taste of honey from you.... And pull you close and kiss you hard... Sharing with you the taste of my desire...

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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I got a question about confirmation in an email? Posted: 7/18/2009 8:41:16 PM
Hard to say, at first glance I thought a little crazy... But the fact you've known her for a few years, and have already met up, leads me to give her the benefit of the doubt that perhaps you weren't completely clear in telling her not to come.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Best cities/states for single ladies/men to find someone in. Posted: 7/18/2009 8:38:37 PM
I have no idea about dating in other states, since typically, I don't drive hundreds of miles to pick up a man at a bar. ;) But realistically, I'd think they're all pretty much the damn same. People trying to meet someone who makes them feel good, gets their blood racing, and pouts a smile on their frikkin face.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Blind Dates Posted: 7/18/2009 8:35:59 PM
I don't agree with the other comments. I say if it isn't comfortable for you, then no, your friends shouldn't continue to do so.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Why are single moms so open to having additional children by another man? Posted: 7/18/2009 8:32:22 PM
Depends on the situation, but more on the mother. If she's a decent mother, she won't be with a man that hasn't already accepted and loves her children from the previous marriage. That stable relationship must be built before any other can begin. If she is a great mother, her children will already be completely secure in her love, that they won't feel threatened by the birth of a new baby. It's all about balance.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Why are single moms so open to having additional children by another man? Posted: 7/18/2009 7:40:54 PM
Between children there isn't a huge difference. I explained that in my comment. I have half siblings, one who grew up under the same roof and two who came years later and did not. And we are all extremely close, despite the difference of parents. And OP wasn't referring to the child born out of an affair, he was speaking of women having children from different fathers. I was speaking as a mother and my statements were referring to if I were to remarry and bear more children.

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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How long before you talk about your past? Posted: 7/18/2009 5:39:18 PM
You are really over-analyzing this relationship thing, huh? Perhaps just let go and try to feel good?

KylieKyote

Joined: 9/24/2008

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Underwear - The New Relationship Indicator? Posted: 7/18/2009 5:36:38 PM
The man I dated that didn't wear em, was the man most like me. It was a disaster. Please put them on.

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