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 Author Thread: Strawberries!
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Strawberries!
Posted: 4/12/2008 5:52:02 PM
If the strawberries are really ripe, I drizzle a little balsamic vinegar over them and let them sit at room temp for a while. The sugars break down and it gets all soft and sweet - like pie filling with a bite to it! If your strawberries aren't perfectly ripe though, or if you don' t have high-quality vinegar, just add a little sugar and stir it all up before letting it rest. (I use 1-2 tablespoons of sugar for 3 baskets of strawberries.)
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 98 (view)
 
Checking out your rack, turn on or turn off?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:24:51 AM
Frankly, my chest, while not freakishly-botched-plastic-surgery-ginormous, is definitely not small, and men almost always look, regardless of what I'm wearing. I figure the initial glance is pretty much par for the course, and it doesn't bother me. But if you start talking to them, I might give them names and introduce them.

Actually, I have to say, I had a friend in college who was a dance major and happened to be VERY well-endowed. There were several guys from the wrestling team who used to hang around the studio and hit on every girl in a leotard - it was extremely annoying, and they were extremely pushy and aggressive about it. One day my friend and I were coming back to the studio after lunch when one of the guys literally stepped directly into my friend's path, blocking her way, looked straight at her chest (with no pretense of looking at anything else), and said, "Hi, I'm so-and-so, and you're cute." My friend didn't miss a beat. She bent down until she was eye-level with his crotch and loudly said, "Hi so-and-so, I'm Dani! And mine are bigger than yours!" and she walked into class. His buddies and I all cracked up, and he didn't come around a whole lot after that.

All I'm saying is . . . be careful with the staring. You never know who will call you on it.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 149 (view)
 
Do You Consider Yourself a Feminist?
Posted: 3/20/2007 4:46:01 PM

I don't understand the battle really. What is it the feminist movement wants different specifically than what is now?

Honestly? I'd like the word to be redefined, or rather re-redefined, as I've gone into in more detail in other posts, so I won't here. :)

But I have to wonder: if we have everything we could possibly want, why is the Equal Rights Amendment still not ratified? We put laws on the books stating that discrimination based on color and religion is illegal, but we have none for gender. Frankly that throws up all kinds of red flags for me, if only as a symbolic representation of our national values.

The Equal Rights Amendment was written by Alice Paul in 1923 and the entire text is as follows:

Section 1. Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any state on account of sex.
Section 2. The Congress shall have the power to enforce, by appropriate legislation, the provisions of this article.
Section 3. This amendment shall take effect two years after the date of ratification.

To date, 35 states have ratified it. In order to pass into law, 3 more need to ratify it. Eighty-four years after it was written, it still hasn't been ratified. What is THAT about? And although there are many areas in which one could argue that we don't "need" it anymore, there is a certain psychological impact to realizing that as a nation, we haven't stood up and said, "This is important."

Can you imagine the hue and cry that would have resulted among the civil rights movement if the government had said, "Well, we'll fix a lot of the problems encountered by minority groups, but we're not going to put anything on the books about it." People would have been outraged, and rightly so. Should those laws now be repealed because they're not "needed" anymore? It's the same principle, really.


The things stated seem more based on history... what about the future? What is the movement moving toward?

Fair question. And I don't know if there's an answer. (Well, except the Equal Rights Amendment, but that's JMO.) But the idea that we should get rid of the term or the movement altogether seems to me sort of like suggesting that we get rid of the civil rights movement. There are a lot of places in the country where discrimination is significantly less than it was, but some people live in areas where it's still rampant. Geez, I live in liberal California, and I was told a couple of times in school, "You don't need to be good at math, because you're a girl." And it was TEACHERS telling me that!! LOL, my mother had something to say to the school board about that, lemme tell ya. So I think it's still needed - maybe we need it in different ways than we used to, but I don't think we've moved past needing SOMETHING.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 141 (view)
 
Do You Consider Yourself a Feminist?
Posted: 3/19/2007 8:24:05 PM

Take a few college courses in women's studies.

You know, I usually agree with what you have to say, Smith, but I have to admit that I took a LOT of womens' studies courses in college, and the ones that spewed the man-hating agenda were definitely the minority, and generally not even supported by the assigned reading, but rather were manifestations of the individual teachers' bias. Maybe you stumbled across some bad teachers??

I'm a feminist, who is appalled by two things: 1) that so many see a once-proud word as something unfeminine and anti-male, and 2) the reason many feel exactly that way — because extremism in a movement that has forgotten the concept of equality.

Ezzzzz-ackly. :D
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Pampering anyone?
Posted: 3/19/2007 8:08:03 PM
I think Elzeothis said it pretty well. My take on it is that regardless of gender, every once in a while, we want someone else to put our needs first. Not all the time - we call those people "doormats," - but every once in a while, it's nice.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
If a gay man
Posted: 3/19/2007 8:02:35 PM
Um, yeah, I hate to break it to you, but if the fact that the guy who made your pizza was gay bothers you, that's homophobic. But, look at it as a good thing: it gives you an opportunity to reexamine your opinions and belief systems. ;)
Oh, and this

NO i wouldnt feel weird, its not like hes making it with his sexual organs!!

was freakin' hysterical!!!
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Do you like emails from guys that are not interested?
Posted: 3/19/2007 7:59:39 PM
It's definitely nice. But it does take considerable pressure off if they lead with something like, "You're too far away for me to date [or whatever], but I wanted to tell you [x]." Takes all the pressure off and leaves me to make a new friend! Woo-hoo! :D
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
men and chatting
Posted: 3/19/2007 7:42:08 PM
Yeah, even though there are options for "friends" and options like "Not Single/Not Looking," it is primarily a dating site, and for that reason it's pretty understandable that men would assume you're interested if you haven't specifically said otherwise.

Of course, that cuts both ways: I often send a response along the lines of "I'm always up for new friends but I'm really serious about not dating anyone right now" and sometimes they write back, accusing me of being presumptuous for thinking they were interested! LOL, can't win for losing. But at least that way all the cards are on the table up front.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Do You Consider Yourself a Feminist?
Posted: 3/17/2007 7:40:31 AM
First off - NaturalEnergy, post 69 - great post - very well said! :D

It's not really that funny. If you asked a "man" the same questions he would also answer yes... he is not a feminist either.

I would beg to differ. If you look up "feminism" in a dictionary, you will find that most, if not all of the entries say something like (as NaturalEnergy said), "Belief in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes." And I DO think it's funny, in a tragic way. The "original" feminists were women who simply believed that women were just as valuable (not more than) as men: women like Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Susan B. Anthony, Lucy Stone, Alice Paul and Lucy Burns worked tirelessly to give us the vote. Mary Church Terell, Josephine St. Pierre Ruffin and Anna Julia Cooper worked for the advancement of African-American women. Margaret Sanger fought for our right to birth control. Eleanor Roosevelt was committed to full recognition by and full participation in American politics for women. None of these women were man-haters; in fact most, if not all of them were married.

What I think is sad and funny is the way that we have taken a powerful word, based on a great principle, and made a mockery of it. It has been misappropriated and been used to say that women are BETTER (which we aren't, any more than men are) - it has been used to grant special dispensations (which defeats the whole purpose, IMO) - it has been used to browbeat women who make a choice to stay home with their children (when the whole point of the movement was to HAVE the choice). We have come to believe that feminism means to hate men, or to think we are better, when nothing could be further from the truth; nothing could be further from the original intention behind the word.

I for one am tired of believing what I am told - that feminism is bad, mean, whatever. I am not blind; I see how the word is used, and I understand the backlash against it. I think the men's movements that are springing up around the country are great, because what they are rightly revolting against is the idea that women are BETTER. It's ironic that it's the same thing women revolted against 150 years ago.

But I want my word back.

Speaking only for myself, if I say, "I'm not a feminist," I feel as though I am throwing decades of sacrifice back in the long-dead faces of the women who worked so hard to get me where I am. And why? Because I'm afraid of what others will think of me? Because people might look askance at me? There is no courage or honor there. And in my experience, courage and honor is usually what it takes to be truly ourselves, no matter what our gender, color, religion, etc.

I would like to believe that I would have marched for suffrage (though I don't know that I would have - I AM worried about what others think of me, much to my dismay). I would like to believe that I would have worked for birth control and the right to own property and to divorce my husband if he beat me. But even if I never know whether or not I have that level of fortitude, I do know that if I lack the courage to do something as small as reclaim a word - to take back something that was grossly misappropriated - well, I don't like what it says about me. The definition was changed. We can change it back.

And for that reason:
I am (still) a feminist.

And just for the record:

I think the best way to make changes in the world for the better is to raise our kids better. Sometimes we get so into the "big picture" we forget about our own circle of influence that we may be neglecting.

I COMPLETELY agree. :D
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Do You Consider Yourself a Feminist?
Posted: 3/15/2007 5:41:29 PM
It's funny - I read an article recently about how if you ask a woman "Are you a feminist?" most women will say no because they perceive feminism as being synonymous with man-hating. But if you ask those same women questions like, "Do you believe a woman doing the same job as a man should be paid the same?" "Do you believe that girls should be able to play sports in school?" "Do you believe in an equitable division of labor in the household?" - most women answer in the affirmative.

The point of the article was that most women ARE feminists, at least in the true sense of the term, but that we as a society have managed to imbue the word with such negative connotations that no one wants to be associated with it anymore. Interesting stuff.

Oh, and by the way: I'm a feminist.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Wines? Does anyone drink that Arbor Mist crap?
Posted: 3/15/2007 5:28:04 PM

If you can't drink it.. cook with it.

Yup. Actually the Boone's farm Strawberry wine is a GREAT marinade for chicken. And although I'm a wine snob, I'll drink the Arbor Mist over ice in the summer, especially at a brunch or something where I'm trying to avoid a buzz. I don't really think of it as wine, though; more like a fruit drink or Kool-Aid, LOL. If I was in the mood for a glass of "real" wine, I wouldn't reach for the Arbor Mist.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Straight from the Horse Doctor's Mouth - or - Weird Home Remedies
Posted: 3/15/2007 5:21:47 PM
For a head cold or even an upper-respiratory flu, warm 2 shots of blackberry brandy in a pan (not the microwave) and drink it down. In the morning you'll feel light-years better. (But be forewarned - it's NASTY.)

That one came down from my great-great-grandmother - it always seemed to work, and I always wondered why it did (aside from the alcohol making you sleep - LOL). Then about 6 months ago there was an article in the Los Angeles Times that mentioned this remedy - apparently, heating the brandy in a saucepan (not the microwave) causes the blackberry juice to release certain chemicals that really do help your body fight viruses. Weird.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Saying Sexy, in the first contact, creepy or complimentary?
Posted: 3/12/2007 6:19:59 PM
In my experience, someone who calls me "sexy" in a first email just wants to get in my pants. And even if he DOESN'T want to get in my pants, I just think it's tacky. If someone wants to pay me a compliment in a first contact email, he'll get a lot further with cute, pretty, beautiful, etc.

JMO.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Sex In A Bottle
Posted: 3/11/2007 8:18:28 PM
I love Obsession for Men. I'm not crazy about the women's version, but the men's one . . . ::::sigh::::

Yeah, I'd call that "sex in a bottle."
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Seeing the same faces?
Posted: 3/11/2007 7:31:38 AM

Actually I haven't really been using the internet to meet single people as much as I used to, which was about a year ago, though I occasionally send out an emial, but mostly I've been dabbling in real world activities, like hiking and outdoor groups, paintball, building Social Capital.

How do you know she's not doing the same kind of thing?

I've been on here for more than a year, but honestly, more often than not, I'm not really looking. I like the forums, I like the friends I've made, but after a month or two I get burned out on the fact that most of the mail I get is fairly brain-dead ("damn you hawt gurl" is a recent example), and I'll stop looking - sometimes for several months. So I'd guess that of the year-plus I've been here, I've only been "available" online for about 4-6 months, total.

So I see the same faces too, but there are a lot of people I haven't talked to. (And there are people I WOULD have been interested in, if the initial contact hadn't been something like "damn you hawt gurl," or even better: "Do you have webcam?" Honestly, if turning those guys down is being "too picky," I'd rather be single.)
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Can anyone recommend some good books to read?
Posted: 3/10/2007 8:38:51 AM
Anything by Christopher Moore, but especially:
"Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal."
My all-time favorite, right there. :)

Also, "A People's History of the United States" by Howard Zinn. Something every American should read, to balance out the textbooks you read in school (although this is more interestingly written).
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Mirror Pics... N to the O
Posted: 3/9/2007 5:06:33 PM
I'd have to say that I'd rather see a mirror picture than a picture of someone holding the camera toward themselves. At least in a mirror picture, the person's torso and shoulders don't look half deformed from trying to hold the camera at an odd angle.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Favourite Quotes from Anywhere
Posted: 3/4/2007 9:13:11 AM
Another Winston Churchill one:

A woman approached him at a party and giggled,
"I just bet my friend that I could get you to say more than 3 words to me."

Churchill looked at her and replied,
"You lose."

That man is my HERO!!!
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Favourite Quotes from Anywhere
Posted: 3/3/2007 8:30:02 PM
The only difference between reality and fiction is that fiction must be credible.
- Mark Twain -
(I might have slightly misquoted that, but it's the general idea.)
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Favourite Quotes from Anywhere
Posted: 2/25/2007 11:06:29 PM
Principles are only principles if you stick by them when it's inconvenient.
- Joan Allen, in "The Contender" -

Everyone should believe 6 impossible things before breakfast.
- Lewis Carroll's Queen, from "Alice in Wonderland" -

(And I think someone said this one already, but it was great, so I'm saying it again:)
I'm the guy who does his job. You must be the other guy.
- Mark Wahlberg in "The Departed" -
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 16 (view)
 
marrige vows
Posted: 2/21/2007 6:39:10 PM
WHEN I marry it is for lifetime .

Am I correct in guessing then, that you have never been married? Are you then basing your experience in the world you see around you? I get that, it's easy to do, but I'd argue that if you haven't lived in the other person's shoes, you don't really know what's going on. If you haven't been married at all (I haven't, either), you don't even really know what marriage is like. As much as it seems impossible, there is almost certainly at least ONE set of circumstances that would cause you to leave someone. Those circumstances are different for everyone, but we all have at least one set. (Some people have lots of sets, LOL.)

And obviously, even if you HAVE been married, you only really know about your OWN marriage - you don't really know anyone else's from the inside. And in that case, an absolute statement like,

the vows today mean nothing .

is pretty ballsy, IMO.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 2228 (view)
 
Black Lab: Keep Myself Awake
Posted: 2/15/2007 8:55:53 PM
Oddly appropriate for me at the moment . . .

I hate to talk like this,
I hate to act as if there's something wrong.
But I can say I have this dream at night, almost every night,
I've been dreaming it forever,
It's easy to remember:
It's always cold,
Always day,
Always here,
Always say,
I'm all right, I'll be okay
If I can keep myself awake (keep myself awake...).

I get up early and look around me,
And can't help but wonder what you mean.
But I'm sleeping, I'm so deep in,
So much more real to me, closer than reality.
It's always cold,
Always day,
Always here,
Always say,
I'm all right, I'll be okay
If I can keep myself awake (keep myself awake...).

I get up early and look around me,
I'm buying coffee by the pound.
But I'm sleeping, so deep in it,
I can't keep myself awake (keep myself awake...).
 runs with squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Is old fashioned courtin out of date?
Posted: 2/14/2007 9:25:35 AM
Let's take stock of just what old fashioned courtship actually was. Ever seen the Godfather? When Michael goes to Sicily, he courts a young woman in the traditional sense: The courting is largely done under the supervision of the woman's family, it isn't a long period and it ends in marriage soon there after and usually involved a dowry. It wasn't some long, protracted ordeal where you got to know someone that in turn set the foundation for a good marriage.

Yup. Most of my father's family is ultra-conservative Catholic, and most of my cousins court or are courted. Two of the girls were married that way (with more to come - everyone is fairly young on that side of the family), and it works pretty much like Yami listed here. When my cousins were being courted, the young man would come over to the house to have dinner with the family and to be interrogated by them. That was the FIRST "date."

Subsequent dates happened either in his parents' house, or her parents' house, always with supervision. If they went out, they had to take a parent or a very young (too young to cover for them) sibling with them, and they were only allowed daytime dates. At no time were they allowed to see each other alone after dark: "The flesh is weak" and all that.

Also, the first "date" was the interview to see if the kids got along (not LOVED each other - just "got along"), and if the families approved. Everything after that was intended to lead to marriage - which it did, in fairly short order.

So. No, I wouldn't want to be "courted." Ever. At all. I like dating. It may be an imperfect system, but I'll take it over courting any day of the frickin' week.

JMO
 runs with squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 105 (view)
 
Does no one care about grammar and spelling on here?
Posted: 2/13/2007 2:34:54 PM
yes i car abot gramar and speling alot becuz it drivs me nutz to sea bad gramar staring me in the fase.

Sorry. Couldn't resist. But yes, it does make me nuts when someone writes me something that looks like that. LOL
 runs with squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Artistic People and Relationships
Posted: 2/13/2007 11:00:00 AM
Well, I'm definitely an artsy person, and for myself, I find the best relationships are the ones that split the difference. I don't tend to mesh well with people who are not artsy at all, but as an actor, I find that dating other actors is also a recipe for disaster. So I split the difference and date people who are involved in the arts, but usually a little more down-to-earth than I am: guys who work crew and technical positions on movies (instead of actors), art gallery owners (instead of artists), etc. That way they're involved in the creative process, so we understand each other, but we're different enough that we mesh a little better.

I do tend to get along well with musicians and dancers, though - I don't know why them and not others, but that's how it's worked out so far.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 2191 (view)
 
Johnny Cash: Give My Love to Rose
Posted: 2/10/2007 11:16:30 AM
I found him by the railroad track this morning
I could see that he was nearly dead
I knelt down beside him and I listened
Just to hear the words the dying fellow said

He said they let me out of prison down in Frisco
For ten long years I've paid for what I've done
I was trying to get back to Louisiana
To see my Rose and get to know my son

[Chorus:]
Give my love to Rose please won't you mister
Take her all my money, tell her to buy some pretty clothes
Tell my boy his daddy's so proud of him
And don't forget to give my love to Rose

Tell them I said thanks for waiting for me
Tell my boy to help his mom at home
Tell my Rose to try to find another
For it ain't right that she should live alone

Mister here's a bag with all my money
It won't last them long the way it goes
God bless you for finding me this morning
And don't forget to give my love to Rose

[Chorus:]
Give my love to Rose please won't you mister
Take her all my money, tell her to buy some pretty clothes
Tell my boy his daddy's so proud of him
And don't forget to give my love to Rose
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 2190 (view)
 
Soul Asylum: Runaway Train
Posted: 2/10/2007 11:13:02 AM
Call you up in the middle of the night,
Like a firefly without a light.
You were there like a blowtorch burning,
I was a key that could use a little turning.

So tired that I couldnt even sleep,
So many secrets I couldnt keep,
I promised myself I wouldnt weep.
One more promise I couldnt keep.

It seems no one can help me now,
Im in too deep; theres no way out.
This time I have really led myself astray.

Runaway train, never going back,
Wrong way on a one-way track,
Seems like I should be getting somewhere,
Somehow I'm neither here nor there.

Can you help me remember how to smile,
Make it somehow all seem worthwhile?
How on earth did I get so jaded?
Lifes mystery seems so faded.

I can go where no one else can go,
I know what no one else knows.
Here I am just a-drownin in the rain,
With a ticket for a runaway train.

And everything seems cut and dried,
Day and night, earth and sky,
Somehow I just dont believe it.

Runaway train, never going back,
Wrong way on a one-way track,
Seems like I should be getting somewhere,
Somehow Im neither here nor there.

Bought a ticket for a runaway train,
Like a madman laughing at the rain.
A little out of touch, a little insane,
Its just easier than dealing with the pain.

Runaway train, never going back,
Wrong way on a one-way track,
Seems like I should be getting somewhere,
Somehow Im neither here nor there.

Runaway train, never coming back,
Runaway train, tearing up the track,
Runaway train, burning in my veins,
I run away but it always seems the same.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Ear licking....Turn on or turn off?
Posted: 2/7/2007 7:19:17 PM
Yeesh. No, thanks. Unless your idea of romance is me wiping my ear off with my hand, while laughing because it tickled and hollering, "Not the ears, not the ears!"

If that does it for you, then be my guest.

Oh, no, wait. Even if that DOES do it for you, don't do it. Because I think it's gross.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
whats wrong with hating V-Day
Posted: 2/5/2007 8:54:31 PM

How did it go from a guy that got brutally killed to chocolates and roses???

Thank you. That's always my question. "Hey, this guy was brutally murdered in a horrific and barbaric way! Isn't it romantic? Let's have some chocolate to celebrate!" The mind reels. :P

(I hate Valentine's Day. But somehow I always end up with GUYS who want to celebrate it! LOL, I'd think they'd be grateful not to have to worry about it, but nope. I get the romantic guys who think I'm just being shy or modest when I say I'm not romantic! Little do they know! Ha!)
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Party etiquette
Posted: 2/5/2007 5:26:36 PM

Shoot, I'd go simply cause they way people act online isn't always the way they act in person---being as I'm the ballsy, fearless sort, I think it'd be very interesting to see the difference

Oo, I hadn't thought about that - that WOULD be fun!!! OP, I definitely think you should go!! LOL
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Do You Have Time For A Relationship
Posted: 2/5/2007 5:17:44 PM
Nope, I don't really have time. So I deal with that by keeping my dating insanely local - like "20 minutes or less" local. If someone lives more than 20 minutes away, I already know that because of my schedule I'll be lucky to see him twice a month, and I'm really not interested in that. The only way I'll really bend that rule is if he lives in or near an area I commute to regularly anyway. It's not very romantic, but it's practical. And it means we get to see each other more often.

I have to say though,

JMO but if you can't make yourself available for Sat. night having a relationship isn't a priority.

If I met somebody who only had his kids every other weekend but was willing to ditch them every time he had them because he wanted to go on a date every Saturday night . . . I wouldn't think very highly of his "priorities." In fact, I would pretty much think he was a jackass. JMO
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Party etiquette
Posted: 2/5/2007 4:38:06 PM
Appropriate? Sure. There's nothing in the etiquette book that says it's rude or inappropriate to go just because some of the people there don't like you. It would be rude to go and have loud (or even quiet) confrontations with them, but as long as you're polite if you run into them, it's all good. That's not to say that THEY might not be rude though.

I'd go. Be polite if you run into them, spend most of your time with people other than them, and call it a day.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 130 (view)
 
Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 2/3/2007 8:53:50 AM
Men can be "just friends" but that doesn't negate that there is not an attraction there....I have female friends and find most of them attractive...I have told them that.....for other reasons I choose not to cross lines or place myself in tempting situations with them.......

Alot of times for men the friendship is much more valuable then allowing intimacy to develop that could ruin that friendship especially if we know long term it won't work out. Yet our minds still may be having those lustful temptations.

Most times we will leave intimate thoughts unspoken because in the long run we know it would hurt our female friend. I did have a close friend in college and I knew she really liked me and wanted to pursue past the friendship. Many times I was tempted physically by her and pondered intimate thoughts with her. I just knew she was not "the one" for me long term because other things didn't add up to make it a successful relationship. My friendship with her was far more important and I never allowed myself to succumb to those temptations.


I'd say the above is often true of both men AND women. It is a great definition / explanation of how men and women can be friends, and why there is no need to abandon old friends for new relationships: it's called integrity.

Nicely done.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 2130 (view)
 
Cowboy Junkies - Walking After Midnight
Posted: 1/31/2007 10:03:24 PM
I was walking after midnight
Yeah, out in the moonlight
The way we used to do
Im always walking after midnight
Searching for you.
Im always walking after midnight
Searching for you.

I stop to see a weeping willow
Crying on his pillow,
Maybe hes a-crying for me.
And as the skys turn gloomy,
The night winds whisper to me,
Im lonesome as I can be.
Im always walking after midnight
Searching for you.

I walk for miles along the highway.
Well thats just my way
Of saying i love you.
Im always walking after midnight
Searching for you,
I walk for miles along the highway
Searching for you,

Im always walking after midnight,
Yeah, out in the moonlight,
Hoping you may be
Somewhere a-walking after midnight
Searching for me.
I'm always walking after midnight
Searching for you.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 2129 (view)
 
Gaelic Storm - Heart of the Ocean
Posted: 1/31/2007 10:00:06 PM
Candlelight dies at the window
And the night wind blows soft from the sea
Though I lie in your arms, I'm a thousand miles away
On the waves sailing fast, sailing free

Now I'm bound for the heart of the ocean
I'm riding the sea in my soul
In the dark and the deep
She will rock me to sleep
Down below... where the black waters roll

When the sea birds cry out in the morning
And the sun lays its kiss on the sand
I'll be drawn to the shore
Like so many times before
As I long to be far from the land.

Now I'm bound for the heart of the ocean
I'm riding the sea in my soul
In the dark and the deep
She will rock me to sleep
Down below... where the black waters roll

I can still hear your voice on the trade winds
I can still taste your tears on the foam
But the lure of the tide that I'm feeling inside
Will not rest till my heart finds its home

Now my heart is the heart of the ocean
There are storms from the sea in my soul
I'm restless and deep
And before I can sleep
I must go... where the black waters roll

Where the black waters roll
Where the black waters roll
Where the black waters roll . . .
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 223 (view)
 
Woman or Man who is most powerful creature
Posted: 1/29/2007 9:15:03 PM
Ooooo, this is tough: women or men, women or men, women or men???

Oh, wait! I know! It's a trick question! The answer is ME! ME, I tell you! I AM MASTER OF ALL I SURVEY (and even what I don't)!!!! MUAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA!

Sorry. Couldn't resist. (But I really do think it's me. )
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 2114 (view)
 
Poe - Fly Away
Posted: 1/29/2007 8:48:02 PM
It makes sense that it should happen this way
That the sky should break, and the earth should shake
As if to say: Sure it all matters but in such an
unimportant way
As if to say:

Fly away, sweet bird of prey
Fly fly away
Nothing can stand in your way
Sweet bird, if you knew the words
I know you'd say: fly, fly away

It makes sense that it should hurt in this way
That my heart should break, and my hands should shake
As if to say: Sure it don't matter except in the most
important way
As if to say:

Fly away, sweet bird of prey
Fly fly away
I won't stand in your way
Sweet bird, if you knew the words
I know that you'd say: fly, fly away

It makes sense that it should feel just this way
That you slowly fade and yet still remain
As if to say: Everything matters in such an invisible way
As if to say: It's O.K.
Fly...away

[ Spoken words at the end : ]

Goodbye, Bye, Goodbye
I'm baaaaaaaack.
(Am I gonna get sued for saying that?)
Call Me later
See ya, I love you, bye
I'm gone
Okay
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 1/29/2007 5:11:06 PM
My .02:


So what I have read is the majority of the women believe that it is perfectly fine to keep their male friends(not specified if they were single) the base reasons are to keep their male friends is that they were there for them in some kind of crises in their life and that women don't wish to give up that security just in case their relationship fails

Yes, I keep my friends because they have seen me through many crises ("crises" plural, as opposed to "crisis," singular), and will be around when I go through more. And I have seen them through many crises, and will see them through more. But the bit about "just in case their relationship fails" doesn't have anything to do with it. If my relationship fails, am I going to get together with a guy friend just because he's THERE? Because he's CONVENIENT? Not likely. And frankly, the implication is a little insulting. I'm just saying.


But I believe if you Male friends are as good as you say they are they will be there for you whatever circumstance and understand some concerns of your partner

Well, just because my male friends UNDERSTAND that someone is jealous doesn't mean they should automatically head for the hills. They can be understanding about it to a point, but if I'm dating someone who can't handle that I have male friends, that person won't be around very long. Which brings me to the second part of that statement:

for that to be said also I don't understand why anyone would put friendship infront of your partner, the person you are suppose to care about

This is tricky. I won't say that I put my friendships above my relationship, but neither do I put my relationship above my friendships. They are equally important to me. The bottom line is that statistically speaking, my friends are more likely to be around for a long time than any relationship is. Now of course, we all hope to have a relationship that lasts forever, or at least for many years, but from a STATISTICAL standpoint, any given "relationship" is less likely to work out than any given friendship. So, yes, my friends are important to me. And frankly, if a partner said to me, "Choose between me or them," then as far as I'm concerned, he's just demonstrated that he cares about me LESS than my friends do, and I'll show him the door. Why? Because if he loves me, he wants me happy, just like I want him happy. My friends make me happy.


I personally don't understand why it would be necessary to have male friends in the first place, my reasoning of have friends is having people to socialize with because you don't have a partner to spend time with isn't that fact or I could be wrong.

I can't speak for anyone else, but that's NOT why I have friends. Using that logic, as soon as I was in a relationship, I'd cut off all contact with all my friends, both male and female, so I could spend every single solitary waking minute with my partner. Yeesh. I like having a life. If I have a life, and he has a life, then we always have new stuff to talk about! Yay for that! My friends are NOT a poor-man's substitute for a relationship. Besides, what kind of a person would that make me? The kind who will ditch people the minute something better comes along. You really want to date someone like that? I don't. Someone who ditches their friends for you will eventually ditch you for someone else. It's just something to think about.


I also reognize the trust issue but some people just can't handle certain situations and some times you just can't push it on them

Nobody is pushing anything on anyone. You can handle the fact that I have guy friends or you can't. If you can't, you might as well keep looking, because I'm not your girl. I've had more guy friends than girl friends most of my life, so the idea that I'm not going to continue to have guy friends is pretty unrealistic for me.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 2108 (view)
 
Ingram Hill: Will I Ever Make It Home
Posted: 1/29/2007 4:29:06 PM
I woke up from my sleep to the sound of that voice;
From the words that I heard I had no choice.
They told me I had to turn around;
My assurance slowly faded down.
And I wonder,

Will I ever make it home?
Will I ever leave the ground?
Leave this place so far behind . . .

The plans that I had were quickly destroyed,
The problem was one I couldn't avoid.
They welcomed me to stay overnight,
I'm too tired to complain so i just might.
And I wonder,

Will I ever make it home
To the place I recognize?
Far from here and where I've been
And all the places that I've been shown.
Will I ever make it home?
Can they keep me here for good?
Where I hardly know a soul
And my fear keeps going on.

My weariness keeps growing inside.
My patience is starting to subside,
And I hope I'll be there soon.
It can't be long or I'll fall through.

Will I ever make it home?
Will I ever leave the ground?
Leave this place so far behind
Till there is no turning back.
Will I ever make it home?
Get to where I wanna be?
Find the ones who wait for me?
To the place where I belong . . .
Will I ever make it home?
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
All-night happy hour at Sushi Roku in Pasadena. Great food, great drinks, great prices, new friends
Posted: 1/29/2007 4:15:37 PM
Well, I'm afraid I won't make it after all. I'm not feeling well, and was hoping I'd perk up by the late afternoon, but it's not happening. ::::sigh:::: Everybody eat some sushi for me!!
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
All-night happy hour at Sushi Roku in Pasadena. Great food, great drinks, great prices, new friends
Posted: 1/27/2007 3:27:56 PM
Sure, what the h*ll? Hey, if worse comes to worst, we make some new friends and eat sushi! Woo-hoo! LOL

Now all I have to do is remember to be there . . . ::::shakes head:::: Sometimes I have the attention span of a gnat! Ha!
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Is there such a thing as talking to too many?
Posted: 1/26/2007 6:45:51 PM
Wow, I would HOPE someone who had just started talking to me was still talking to other people. Otherwise it would reek of weird obsession. And how was he supposed to know they knew each other?

Wouldn't bother me a bit. Although I would be a little weirded out about my roomate talking to him. One of us would have to back off, lest both of us like him - now THAT would be a bad scene. But if he were talking to people I didn't know - no worries.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
A Mix Tape/CD For a First Gift
Posted: 1/21/2007 3:34:04 PM
That seems like an awful lot of effort to put in for a first date. Personally, it'd creep me out a little; it'd make it seem like you were coming on too strong.

But then . . . I have no sense of romance. LOL
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Roses
Posted: 1/20/2007 9:07:33 PM

I sent one to myself so I could see what it was before I sent it to someone else.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who did this!!! LOL

As far as the link goes . . . frankly the mod link isn't very good. It looks VERY different in the POF email system: it's a much bigger pic, and it's in full color. It's a little overwhelming, actually. Let's just say I won't be using mine. LOL
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Molestation dilemma
Posted: 1/20/2007 9:01:56 PM
Get a lawyer. Get a lawyer. Get a lawyer. Get a lawyer. Get a lawyer.

Shall I say it just once more?

Get a lawyer - BEFORE you say anything to anyone. The bottom line is that you're emotionally invested in this, and that means you are NOT objective, and therefore not in a position to make the decision yourself.

We as forum posters are ALSO NOT objective, because we only hear the story as you present it to us. While I'm not denying that failure to protect her children is reprehensible, unless you were in the job interview, you don't know what she did or didn't tell them. And if you are at all mistaken in your beliefs, you might open yourself up for a slander suit when you open your mouth.

As far as what is MORALLY right versus LEGALLY right . . . that's the whole point of "Judge not lest ye be judged." YOUR job isn't to go talk to her employers - your job is to let some sort of authority know and let the legal system handle it from there, if in fact there is anything to be handled.

Additionally, I can't help but notice that since she did not molest the children herself, and assuming that she's not planning on adopting any of the children she's teaching, she is not a danger to them. And in THAT case, she might very well be able to bring a slander case against you if she lost her job.

So. Do the right thing: see a lawyer.


Can someone fill me in on the abbrev. OP. Am I guessing correctly O = Opinion & P = Provider??

Original Poster. :)
 runs with squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Define clingy
Posted: 1/18/2007 3:52:50 PM
Wow, I think Rune hit the nail on the head:


Clingy" is just the name we call people who want more of us, our time and our affection that we want to give. It's not quantifiable and even varies for an individual compared with who they are relating to.

But I will say that my personal experience has been that some people seek out romantic interests who seem strong enough to carry both parties in the relationship. Of course in the end, few if any people want to HAVE to carry both parties, and the relationship disintegrates. But oftentimes in those cases, the "stronger" person will describe the other person as "clingy."

And as a general rule, based entirely on my own experience, when women are looking for someone "to take care of me," or when men write that "I'm looking for my reason for living," it's a pretty good bet they're going to be more clingy than not.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Meminest or Must not do drugs
Posted: 1/17/2007 8:08:48 PM

Plus...it's Meminist awareness month for fack's sake

Hey . . . I thought LAST month was Meminist awareness month!! I smell an old, dirty chair-whore here somewhere . . .
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 163 (view)
 
would you share your toothbrush??
Posted: 1/17/2007 7:37:40 PM
H*LL no! Yech. As Ophelia said on the very first page:

Swapping spit might be okay, but sucking down someone else's food debris and bacteria dug out from under their gums -- no way. Love only goes so far.

Couldn't have said it better if I tried.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 44 (view)
 
When it comes to relationships I think most people are ruined by freedom.
Posted: 1/16/2007 7:48:23 AM
Yes, we do want june cleaver.

::::snort:::: Yeah, and I want a Prince Freakin'-Charming who looks like George Clooney, but guess what? That doesn't exist, either.

Seriously, most families were not like that even during the 50s. I mean sure, the women stayed home and took care of the kids and all that . . . but did you know there were massive doses of Valium being prescribed to housewives? Please. Women had to medicate themselves just to keep from going nuts. There was a reason "The Feminine Mystique" became a best-seller.

And since we're dealing in media stereotypes, let's not forget that the 50s and 60s also gave rise to the stereotype of the bored housewife who got herself trashed every afternoon at the kitchen table because she couldn't deal with her life. I'm just sayin' . . .

As far as the choices go . . . there is definitely truth to the idea that at a certain point, our choices become so many and so varied that a psychological paralysis takes place. (That's often given as a reason for so many young adults taking so long to figure out what they want to do in life: paralysis of choice.) So although I don't agree that people don't know what they want (we all want love, acceptance, someone to come home to), I will concede that we don't know what FORM we want it in (do I stay home and raise kids? Go to work? Get married? Stay single and date? Get married and work but not have kids? Get married and work AND have kids? Get married and work and let him raise the kids? ARGH!). And not knowing HOW we want to get to the end result obviously means that we're sort of wandering blind, and running into a lot of walls.

But . . . I'll take learning to deal with life as it is now over going back to the 50s.
 Runs With Squirrels
Joined: 10/21/2005
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Now is this the right attitude
Posted: 1/16/2007 7:33:02 AM
Oops, double post. :P
 
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