Losing a loved one to death chat & forums.

Posted In Forum:

Home

MyForums

Show ALL Forums

Author

Thread: Losing a loved one to death

alone_2_soon

Joined: 9/25/2008

Msg: 250 (view)

Losing a loved one to death Posted: 12/8/2008 11:40:25 AM
I didn't lose my wife to accident, it was a history of poor health. Shortly after she passed, I wrote this poem and put it on her grave. Perhaps someone will be able to relate and find some value ... … for Margarita The grass is always green here, fed by my lonely tears. The agonizing seconds pass slowly, but have added up to years. You were taken far too early and left me here behind, A broken heart and empty life is now all I claim as mine. Though many came to love you, so few could understand The gift you had that touched my soul, each time you held my hand. This life was hard and so unfair to one so kind and true God felt your pain, called out your name and kept His promise to you. My arms still reach to hold you and draw you oh so near My heart has died and love is dead but the grass is always green here.

alone_2_soon

Joined: 9/25/2008

Msg: 249 (view)

Losing a loved one to death Posted: 12/8/2008 11:32:04 AM
Gene, That is such a heartbreaking story. You have my sincere condolences but I realize that is of little help right now. There are no words that can take the pain and the loss away. I know how my life changed in the blink of an eye. Shock, numbness, emptiness, depression and loneliness became my companions. You always hear that time will help. Believe me, I didn't want to hear such a simplistic response while I was hurting so badly. But, you will find eventually that it's true. The ragged edge of your loss will slowly fade and you'll find the days easier to take. For me, 6 months was my first noticeable improvement but the 1 year mark is when I felt ready to move forward with my new life. It's been over 6 years now - I still love her and I still talk to her - but my heart has been free for some time to love completely again, if God so blesses me. With Christ, I know my loss is just a temporary - albeit painful - thing. Without Him - there would be nothing but emptiness and a lifetime of regret. I am so sorry for your loss, and that of your children.

alone_2_soon

Joined: 9/25/2008

Msg: 111 (view)

my wife has left me and I cant move on Posted: 10/4/2008 10:20:13 PM
It's OK to compliment her - but NOT TOO MUCH??? lol Are you kidding me? Buddy, a loving wife is a gift from God. She deserves to be treated with all the respect, love and appreciation you can find. You can't possibly compliment her too much. Here's a little quiz for you. I wrote this for my daughter because I felt she was trying to build a relationship with the wrong man. My late wife could answer yes to each and every one of these about me, and I for her. I can't imagine marrying a woman for whom that didn't hold true. Does he love you? 1. Do you feel truly appreciated? 2. Do you feel truly respected personally and intellectually? 3. Do you feel truly free to practice your faith? 4. Do your needs come before his? 5. Do your feelings come before his? 6. Does your happiness come before his? 7. Does he sacrifice for you? 8. Does he speak well of you to others? 9. Does he show sincere affection in front of others? 10. Does he want you with him most of the time? 11. Do you trust him to be faithful when you leave town? 12. Do you believe he would be faithful if sex became impossible for you? 13. Do you believe he would part with his most prized possession for you? 14. Do you believe he would care for you in terminal illness? 15. Do you believe he would donate a kidney to save your life? 16. Do you trust that under no circumstance would he ever strike you? 17. Do you trust he would never curse you in anger? 18. Are you positive he would never withhold or take away anything to control you? 19. Can you say he would never take any action intended to punish you? 20. If you asked your closest friends to answer these questions about your partner on your behalf, would they answer yes to each of them? Finally - If your partner took this test about you, could he honestly answer yes to all the above?

alone_2_soon

Joined: 9/25/2008

Msg: 169 (view)

Gun Enthusiast - Should I worry? Posted: 10/3/2008 11:22:49 AM
Is this a serious question? Do you fear men who exercise their first amendment rights? I suppose you realize, our framers put the right to bear arms in the second position for a reason. Specifically, if the first is denied, the second is the course of action to regain your freedom and liberty. It has absolutely nothing expressly to do with a right to hunt or other such nonsense - although that is a side benefit. Good grief. No wonder America is in such trouble.

alone_2_soon

Joined: 9/25/2008

Msg: 106 (view)

my wife has left me and I cant move on Posted: 10/1/2008 9:29:59 PM
My heart goes out to you. I wrote this a little while back and thought it would fit nicely into this thread. My Heart's Mirror In my own heart's mirror it seemed we were so much nearer The sound of your voice and the touch of your hand Planted peace in my soul made me feel such a man The gaps in my life from the love I had longed Were filled and overflowed because with you, I belonged We faced our troubles you came with scars too But we beat them back together as lovers should always do In every touch and every act I wanted you to see Your feelings and your needs were the most important thing to me One day we found that mountain the one that's just too high We should have helped each other climb but chose to stop and die It's then the light shone clearly and my mind began to see I had been alone all along there wasn't us - just me The love I thought we had shared and the souls that had grown nearer Had only been my love for you reflecting back, from my own heart's mirror.

alone_2_soon

Joined: 9/25/2008

Msg: 243 (view)

Losing a loved one to death Posted: 9/29/2008 8:51:00 AM
Juliet, I don't want us to become contentious over this issue. Just know that God loves you and He NEVER fails. The paramedics were not playing God - they were just doing their job like the rest of us do every day.

alone_2_soon

Joined: 9/25/2008

Msg: 241 (view)

Losing a loved one to death Posted: 9/29/2008 7:40:59 AM
Juliet, God didn't take your husband, your anger with Him is misplaced. Being born human is a fatal condition. We will all, except those still living at the time of the rapture, face death. I'm sorry for your loss but I encourage you to not turn your back on the only one who can truly help ... God. Through Him/Jesus we can face and overcome the hardships of this very brief existence. You have carried this bitterness long enough. Watching my wife being brutalized by paramedics in an attempt to save her life was certainly no picnic. It never occurred to me to be mad at God because he was generous enough to have shared her with me in the first place. I know she is happy with Him now and I am grateful to have been so blessed.

alone_2_soon

Joined: 9/25/2008

Msg: 239 (view)

Losing a loved one to death Posted: 9/28/2008 7:12:38 PM
Before posting - I confess to not having readh through all the pages of this forum. I do know that many here are suffering from the loss of someone special. I lost my wife 6 years ago. She was only 44 and had fought many health battles throughout her short life. I learned so much by her example of courage and unending compassion for others - even when she wrestled her own challenges and fears. To those of you who know the Lord Jesus Christ - death has no victory. Yes, we hurt like everyone else when we lose someone but we also rejoice that they are not lost to us forever. In my wife's passing, she didn't die - she was healed. I know that she and I will be best friends for all eternity. Honestly, without Christ, I don't know people cope with the thought of losing someone to nothingness.

Show ALL Forums