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stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

Msg: 39 (view)

If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor? Posted: 10/15/2008 7:20:45 PM
You are pretty selfish man. It is not "taking" if you are giving. It is recieving. Big difference. You don't give oral because you want it in return. That would almost be "taking" if you ask me. You give her oral....you want oral back....hmmm.....Indian giving? Or Taking? Either way....give oral if you want to give it to her. If she wants to give it back to you.....cool...if not....who f'n cares man. Besides, are you going to be more turned on by it if she does it on her own or if you pressure her into it?

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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having a little trouble.. Posted: 10/9/2008 2:03:51 PM
Another situation where you need to relax and try not to worry about it. Which is extremely difficult in your situation. I had a similar situation a couple years ago. After a 8 year relationship when I started dating again. I think it has something to do with the new person just being different and not what you are use to. Along with the pressure to perform with someone different. It took me several tries to get it working properly. And a few people have good idea....try oral. You and her. I would just keep doing that until you get more use to her and settle down. It will come around.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Wild Monkey Sex? Posted: 10/9/2008 10:05:56 AM
I am thinking it is just a term for gettting in on pretty good. Kind of like fking like rabbits would be doing it all the time. So you have it made if your having wild monkey sex like rabbits I guess. Either that or you are doing something horribly wrong....haha

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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What should I do? Posted: 10/8/2008 9:58:18 PM
Well, based on your description of how you feel, It sounds like a case of obsession to me. I am just curious as to what degree of attention you are giving to him. Are you calling him all the time? Constantly asking him to come over or you go over there? Basically are you smothering him and forcing him to back away and not want to be close to you because you might be making him feel smothered?

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Do you like to Tweek? Posted: 10/8/2008 9:59:13 AM
If the guy was some sort of "computer geek"....it could also have been related to that. To tweak....would be to modify or change slightly to get different outcomes...and is usually related to computers. If not a "computer geek" .... definatly a "tweaker" by using meth.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Question about shapes and sizes... Posted: 10/8/2008 9:49:37 AM
I'm in shape.....round is a shape! It is also one of the better shapes if I might add....

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Question about shapes and sizes... Posted: 10/8/2008 9:42:19 AM
If there is a will there is a way!!! If for some reason there is a problem that causes a position not to be used there must be two others that will work just as well. Just need to be creative. If your really into a person it doesn't matter, well it shouldn't any way. Well said JJ. And as far as the insecurities go....I do not think many guys are going to be turned off by any physical imperfections. At that point it is pretty much the point of no return. It reminds me of something Katt Williams said about stretch marks and real men once they are already at that point and see some... Not real sure if the wording is exact....."real men dont care about stretch marks....we know they came from one of two things....you were big and got small or you were small and got big.....either way we're fking"

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Can't get it up???........ Posted: 10/7/2008 5:05:24 PM
You have to try and suck start it! And don't talk about it not getting up and just do it and see what happens. You have to relieve the stress and mental pressure to perform first. He has to relax. If that doesn't work....then it isn't gonna happen right then.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Woman that talk dirty during sex ? Posted: 10/6/2008 2:47:38 PM
Well allrightythen, I guess my public appearance score is all shot to heck then! Well....doesn't effect your public appearance score , if not used in public...lol....sorry.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Woman that talk dirty during sex ? Posted: 10/6/2008 2:29:33 PM
It's nice to hear so many of you men don't judge us ladies if we are less than lady like between the sheets haha....we always judge. Just the profanity and some of the phrases used .....the ones that would lower your public appearance score.....well....they make your "between the sheets" score much higher.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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a guy not being able to get off Posted: 10/6/2008 9:59:03 AM
Read message 3....I am 99.99% sure he has the perfect answer on this one. And just give it time and let him get use to you and the things you do. And if he gets you off. You are good to go.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Space- HELP! Posted: 10/6/2008 8:39:40 AM
I say talk to him and let him know your situation. I think maybe part of the reason you want to see him so much might be because you DO NOT have a life. Let him know as soon as he needs some space, not to hesitate in telling you. I think it is best to open up about it. You do not want to crowd him but at the same time you do not want to avoid him too much and leave him wondering what the heck happened. I am thinking you should both know what is going on here and figure something out. If anything, I assume he is from around there. He might be able to give you some ideas on whats around that you might enjoy doing with your time away from him. Good Luck

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Do you lose respect for a woman.... Posted: 10/5/2008 10:43:12 PM
Ok. I read your profile. You are married, a mother, a pot head and are looking for intimate encounter. I don't think I can even say anything else here.....

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Stupid, stupid, stupid Posted: 10/5/2008 9:33:35 PM
Sigh, wanting to crawl in a hole somewhere right now!!! feeling like an idiot!!! Nah...your not the idiot. Seems to me, he is the idiot. You obviously were doing the things you thought would make him happy. And obviously he did things he knew would make you unhappy. Not only that....possible heatlh issues. Looks like an idiot, sounds like an idiot, acts like an idiot.....well...probably is an idiot. Cheer up!

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Stupid, stupid, stupid Posted: 10/5/2008 6:05:35 PM
Thank you all. You are so right. Not sure how it's going to go, but I will make my feelings clear tomorrow. If he doesn't behave like a decent human being, then I want no part of a relationship with him. I know he's been alone for some time - maybe he watched too many porno films. Don't guys get it - that some of that stuff is made up? Not all!! but some of the stuff like going from the back door to the front door is just plain unhealthy. Too bad, the rest of the relationship was good, and the sex up until now, was great. Thanks again for your support!!! Jojo Yes, guys do know that stuff is made up. And any man that is having sex, especially anal sex, should know that it is not healthy to go from "stink to the pink". Sorry for the wording of it ladies....but that is how guys usually refer to it. And it is refered to as bad. I would seriously be surprised if he did not know the risks involved. I also do not believe it was a heat of the moment thing either. I can understand being in the heat of the moment and not wanting to stop. It is not like he did not stop, he completely pulled out and switched. That is not a heat of the moment issue. That was definatly something done intentionally with complete disreguard to you and your body.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Was it wrong to bang her friend so soon? Posted: 10/5/2008 5:01:31 PM
Man. She was married. Once something like that happens. The unwritten rulebook is thrown out. Friend or not....do not even worry about what her opinion is. If her friend did it. That's on her to deal with. But, you did nothing wrong.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Women who like to dress Men as Women Posted: 10/5/2008 2:13:43 PM
OK. I am baffled. Are you saying you want to be dressed as a woman?

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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is it rude to pre-empt a text message/call Posted: 10/5/2008 11:54:56 AM
Well, I'll be darned. This forum actually helps people too! WTG OP

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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What is your definition of Posted: 10/5/2008 9:13:51 AM
Other than children. I do not think there is any reason where you would HAVE to be linked. Maybe if you work together?

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Stupid, stupid, stupid Posted: 10/5/2008 8:27:44 AM
Cut him off from anal. Then no worries about him doing it again. Explain to him he took advantage of your trust in him ,by doing that when you asked him not to, and you have no choice. You do not want to risk getting sick or infections.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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What was he thinking? Posted: 10/4/2008 10:18:26 PM
OP. I looked at your profile. You are right. He was reffering to his aging body. He definatly could not be talking about yours. I am thinking he probably has not aged as well as you have. Still though, he obviously was not thinking at all.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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How to grap a girls attension in the first few line Posted: 10/4/2008 8:09:17 PM
psignosis: uh...dude....were you molested by your mother or what? That kind of garbage is sparked by some odd event in your life. Anyways....OP.... yep, be yourself. If it doesn't work, it wasn't meant to be man. That's all part of it. Just don't give up. And the last thing you wanna do is try to let someone else put words in your mouth to get a response. Then it is fake and your only lying to both of you. Good luck man, hang in there!

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 10/4/2008 7:54:08 PM
cortchubby: I think maybe you need to climb back into that bottle of jack you climbed out of. Just curious here, how many lonely nights have you finished up that bottle and used it as a sperm receptacle?? No offense...I am just curious. And your "what do you think a vagina is for?"...that's a little off topic from the question here....most people swallow stuff that goes in their mouth.....maybe you can swallow with your vagina...IDK

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Nipples Posted: 10/4/2008 5:26:46 PM
I consider myself the Will Rogers of breasts (never met a pair I didn't like :), though I tend to prefer quality to quantity Wow, I thought breasts always came in the same quanity. And for me, I have never actually seen someone do it. But, I guess it would depend on the context in which is was done. I know I do like when she plays with them while I am going down on her. I have no clue why...but I like it. Great! Now , I'm hungry!

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

Msg: 48 (view)

oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 10/4/2008 3:32:47 PM
I have only been with 1 person, for a long time. She never spat, always swallowed. Nothing turned me on more than her swallowing. She even said she loved the taste of my cum.. Nothing turned you on more?? OK. Let me ask you this. She gives you a BJ. You get off. She swallows your cum. You already got off....what difference does it make if it turns you on or not. Is it gonna last till next time. Or are you one of the guys that cums first, then gets busy?? IDK...to me, usually if I get a BJ it is gonna be followed by intercourse. But if not, I don't care what happens to the cum once it leaves my body. Seems irrelevant. Sorry, but there a lot of other things that a woman can do that trun me on way more then swallowing. Like the BJ itself...

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Most Wild Place You Had sex! Posted: 10/4/2008 2:56:45 PM
You might wanna quit trying to get them to shake your hand then. I don't think that is much of a turn on for a woman. IDK....I could be wrong.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Re: Most Wild Place You Had sex! Posted: 10/4/2008 2:12:04 PM
One of the craziest ones was when I was 16 or 17...at a picnic for my mom's work. With her boss' daughter. To answer if we got cought or not. Neither her or I were allowed at any more of the picnics.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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red head cocks Posted: 10/4/2008 12:19:48 PM
You really do hear something new everyday. WTF?? Never heard of red headed tip disorder??? And yes, if it is red...go to the doctor....definatly do not....and i repeat......DO NOT be proud of that. Keep it a secret man.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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wut famous place would you have sex at that you cant Posted: 10/3/2008 11:48:41 PM
Sotherby's while being auctioned off I bid $1,000.00 SOLD! How about the Virgin Islands. Only with legit natives though.

stv728

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 10/3/2008 4:46:52 PM
maybe there are some men out there that need to "swallow" so they can see what it's like. women are not sperm receptacles.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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wut famous place would you have sex at that you cant Posted: 10/3/2008 4:44:34 PM
Sotheby's while being auctioned off.

stv728

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 10/3/2008 4:38:09 PM
I try not to worry about if they swallow or not. Just be glad your getting a BJ.

stv728

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Honest feedback please! Posted: 10/2/2008 7:25:09 PM
Thanks. I am going to work on it.

stv728

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Date Preparation. Posted: 10/2/2008 7:09:16 PM
Definatly don't wanna forget that....if you actually bring a real date home, you wouldn't want her to see that lying around So tell us, stv728.... has this happened to you before????? If so, do tell, do tell...and don't spare us the details!!! Sorry, no details on that. It has never happened to me....I ALWAYS put mine away.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Date Preparation. Posted: 10/2/2008 5:43:04 PM
Well...supposedly pineapple juice is one of the things you can drink to help insure that you are your ejaculatory best.! errr....tastewise I have never heard of that. Does anyone actually know from experience if that is true or not?? If so, what if I use a lot of tabasco?? Is that bad? haha One last thing.. After all that prep and you are finally done with your date make sure to deflate her, fold her back up carefully and slide her back under the bed until next time efg Definatly don't wanna forget that....if you actually bring a real date home, you wouldn't want her to see that lying around.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Honest feedback please! Posted: 10/2/2008 10:32:38 AM
Please review my profile and leave 100% honest feedback. Don't worry about offending or hurting my feelings. I think I am a big boy now and can deal with honesty. Oh yeah, did I mention to please be honest?? HAHA

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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confused Posted: 10/2/2008 10:16:08 AM
This question does not have an answer. The only one that KNOWS for sure, what he wants, is him. The only thing you can do is let him know your situation. Be honest and let him know you are not ready and wont be until you know it is not just gonna be a filing. If he wants more, he will wait. If he doesn't , more than likely, you wont be hearing from him if you hold out too long. And just pay attention to him when you go out. Does he actually seem like he is having fun and attentive when you do things other than physical contact?Or does he act eager to be done and get in a situation to go for it?

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Why did he get mad when I never agreed? Posted: 10/2/2008 10:05:10 AM
No. I would not have been mad. If the guy wanted to and you didn't. Big deal. He obviously doesn't have the attention span of a person old enough to be having sex anyways. It seems to me , if he did, he would have already known not to expect it until YOU were ready. When you are honest, upfront and blunt about it...he has no right to get pissed.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Date Preparation. Posted: 10/2/2008 9:53:08 AM
What about shaving around the nether regions? I mean if you expect the female to do it..........then why not. I have a question about that. How short do women prefer a guys to be? Trimmed, gone...doesnt matter??

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Is it Fair to Dump Someone That Has Herpes... Posted: 10/2/2008 8:07:20 AM
Yep, sounds like "Mr.PoisonDick" there doesn't care about anything but getting his. I would say it is more than fair for her to tell him to take a hike. Not only fair....recommended in my opinion.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Date Preparation. Posted: 10/2/2008 7:55:54 AM
And I ended up texting back and forth with a girl I met on POF. Are you saying that on a 1st date you were TXTing with someone else? Man, talk about having NO CLASS! Even if it was just friends it shows an utter lack of respect to the other person, and its even worse if its another date! Don't you think ANY date deserves the hour or two of your full attention, even if there wasnt an initial click or spark? Although you got a nice prep list going, go back to Dating 101 to learn about CLASS! Trust me, I have class. I leave my phone in the truck. I "ended" up texting back and forth....as in at the "end"...when it was over...the date didn't work out...after it was over ...that is what I "ended" up doing. You do make a very valid point to anyone that does that though.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Date Preparation. Posted: 10/1/2008 10:16:57 PM
Ok. Back from the date. And yes I washed and cleaned the vehicle out first. I learned that one in high school. lol. I always have gum and mints anyways. The condom thing...I get em as I need em. But always have at least one handy for spur of the moment things like this. And I do keep them in the glovebox. Not in my wallet. No, I did not have any expectations at all. But, I definatly like to be prepared just in case. Just because you never know. As far as the getting my home prepared first. I never bring a woman to my house on a first date. Its either her place or I get a nice hotel room somehwhere. Not into bringing people to my house that early. lol. And I know everyone is gonna wonder....no, I did not get any......no I did not meet her on POF. I actually met here a while back and she just recently called me. She is extremely good looking. Just not a whole lot there on the character end. And I ended up texting back and forth with a girl I met on POF. Go fricking figure.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Date Preparation. Posted: 10/1/2008 5:59:00 PM
OK. After seeing some of the threads on here over the last couple days, I could not help but think of these things while getting ready for a date. So, I am going to give my checklist here....if anyone would like to add to it or impove it, please do. 1.) Stayed away from garlic, onions and ,of coarse, bacon strips all day. 2.) Picked out the clothes I wanted to wear and inspected them for stains or foul smells. Especially my boxers. And they are all white...so hard to miss. 3.)Shaved. Because no woman wants to be kissing on sand paper. And you never know when there might be some "clitoris stimulation" going on. 4.) "let my monkey know he was a bad boy" because its been a while and I don't want to have any "quick" disappointments for either or us. (for those that didn't catch it, spanked him) 5.) Showered. Made sure to clean every square inch of my body. Even the round and cylinder inches got cleaned. 6.) Got dressed. Thanks to this forum, again inspected all my clothing as I put it on. Just in case. I don't need anyone telling me I need to take a shower. 7.) Cologne.....Not too much but just enough to smell it. (and an extra spray on my lower end...thanks to this forum) 8.) Did my hair. Brushed my teeth. Cleaned my glass eye and shaved my butt. ( just kidding.....i do that in the mornings...lol) Ok, if I missed anything.....or if anybody wants to share their date preparation checklist....please do....I am curious. And I hope no one forgets the clean undies part.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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girlfriend flashing at parties Posted: 10/1/2008 4:56:03 PM
If you have talked to her about it and she says it is just fun. And if you would be fine with it if someone told you that was all in good fun for her. Then it probably is not a big deal. This is just a situation where your trust for one another kicks in. If you can trust her and believe what she tells you....and your fine with the situation , then don't worry about it. Just let he know it bothers you and keep it to a minimum or something. That is really the only thing you can do if you are going to accept it either way as long as she is commited to you and only you.

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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girlfriend flashing at parties Posted: 10/1/2008 4:37:31 PM
Wow. That's a tough one man. That could go either way. Really though, if she is doing that at parties...what type of impression do you think she is giving. Yeah, some may not care what others think. Do you? If it does not bother you then it probably is not harmless. If it does bother you , it can be very harmful to you. Especially if you have talked to her about it and she continues to do it. That is not something that would occur in , what I would call, a healthy relationship. Definatly not something of that nature. Maybe drinking more than you would like her to or something along those lines would not be harmful. It comes down to you and your take on it. If you don't like it. Which I would not like it either. You let her know that if she respects you at all she won't do it. That is not a minor problem or a pet peeve. That is serious. Let me ask you something....when you guys hang out...are you always partying and drunk? If not...how is the relationship sober?

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Woman has all the power. Woman have what men want. Posted: 10/1/2008 4:23:16 PM
Well said Steve728!! One must give respect to get it. If more people followed your advice, the world would be a better place Thanks. And how do I change my user name. I keep being called Steve...lol. It is actually my initials....haha.

stv728

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Woman has all the power. Woman have what men want. Posted: 10/1/2008 4:00:00 PM
Interestingly enough my guy is sitting beside me and I asked him what he thought. He said women have more sexual power because that is how society is set up. Women can get sex anytime they want.. it's there for them to pick and choose. Men can not, or do not have the same opportunities. I agree. Unless your in a relationship. Then neither should have more power than the other when it comes to manipulating someone to do something you wanna do. Sex should not be used as negative reinforcement. Positive reinforcement to some degree...maybe. And honestly, if I was in a relationship with someone and she told me I had to do something or couldn't do something, or I wasn't gonna get any. Then, I would probably go ahead and disobey just to try and prove the point that there should not be any type of punishment for disobeying. It boils down to respect. If you respect the one your with, then you do what you can to make them happy. Sex or not

stv728

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How do you stimulate the clitoris? Posted: 10/1/2008 2:38:50 PM
Thanks Ms.Extreme 2c. Noun An old, unattractive gay man who hits on young men, and cannot seem to understand that they want nothing to do with him. This is the use in this case then? ...lol....Im kidding....It just seemed too easy....sorry With a pair of jumper cables!!! LMAO!!! Squirt...he wants to stimulate not defibrillate it....haha

stv728

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How do you stimulate the clitoris? Posted: 10/1/2008 2:27:40 PM
Haha...ok...wtf? Not single...not looking...with another guy maybe? And never been with a woman? If your straight and have been with a woman then it is very hard to believe your 31. Or saving yourself for some reason. Maybe, saving her from a huge disappointment?? Either way, have you ever heard the expression "knock the little guy out of the boat" Well.....whatever it takes....try to knock his little arse outta the dang boat!!! And what the heck is a troll?

stv728

Joined: 9/26/2008

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Would you have sex with someone for the first time if they were wearing dirty underwear? Posted: 10/1/2008 11:52:15 AM
How do you keep running into this person? Is she stalking you or what? I know I would be a little concerned if I kept running into her.

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