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stevelfun

Joined: 10/23/2005

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Why do hot women date ugly men and visa versa? Posted: 4/4/2013 9:08:56 AM
Ah.... there is hope for me yet!!!

stevelfun

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Finally, the Bacon Condom Has Arrived Posted: 4/1/2013 2:46:00 AM
'porking' 'kosher' LMAO I heard about this. Who doesn't like bacon??? I've tasted cherry and strawberry flavored condoms before. Now, if they could make egg scent and coffee flavor - you'ld have yourself 'the most important meal of the day'. LOL

stevelfun

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How to shake the feeling... Posted: 1/23/2010 5:01:32 AM
Personally, I think the best thing to do - is to be preemptive. Spot these 'playuhs' early and just walk away. I mean - if a guy takes you out and he knows every other woman in the place - safe bet he is a player and, unless you want that, just walk away. As for dealing with it after the fact, just know that it likely had nothing to do with you personally per se. Any woman he were with would be just 'another notch in the bed post'. Does not matter whether it is you, your friend or the woman behind door number three. I just do not know why women even bother with these guys. There obviously must be something there to draw them. Whatever - guess both parties are just 'filling a void'. Best, Steve

stevelfun

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Dealing with Ex's Death Posted: 11/2/2009 9:46:10 AM
You will 'move on' when your mind/heart tells you that it is okay. When my wife passed away - I hung on to everything feeling that - if I got rid of it (no matter what it was) I was loosing 'something' never to have it again. As time passed, I would go through these things from time to time - parting with more and more of it 'til now - it all fits pretty much in a small box slightly larger than a shoe box. The one thing that I can tell you is that you will always have their spirit, soul or memories with you - call it what you will. These things will never be lost.

stevelfun

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What is the strangest way you were told it was over Posted: 10/13/2009 11:09:20 AM
I got an email saying that she had changed her mind.

stevelfun

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Death and the age of 50.... Posted: 10/13/2009 11:01:43 AM
I chalk it up to all the 'processed' food and ingredients.

stevelfun

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FWB: Mans view vs. a Womans Posted: 10/13/2009 10:33:13 AM
Hey Happy..... Try not to speak for all males would you please.... ('Men I affirm....') You and I are NOT alike. K? And trust me - I do not think like you. I am not forever wandering and looking for anything that will move and be willing to feck me. A FWB relationship is just that. If you are good friends you can talk and share more than a 'feck and run'. If not, that is fine as too. It is 'mutual' thing - just like the sexual fulfillment that they both seek. Here is the one thing about most 'men that I affirm' - they are selfish, immature and just want to get their rocks off. Most do not know what the definition of the word 'mutual' is. All they are thinking goes into what the 'little head' is telling them. So - a FWB situation appeals to them on the surface. I can hear the voices in guys heads now... "SEX. Count me in!!!" Now, when you grow up and mature. You will realize that even if the other person only wants sex as well - it is MUTUAL. They typically are not there to please you okay. They are there to 'get theirs' as well. Whether you realize it or not, a FWB situation is a RELATIONSHIP albeit a different type of one. Just because you have a cawk between your legs doesn't mean you are a man.

stevelfun

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Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up? Posted: 10/13/2009 8:52:26 AM
I know that I have asked that same question about the women on this site. Seems that 'dating' has become a new 'hobby' for everyone. People need to list it with all their other hobbies "Photography, cooking, gardening and dating. Yes, as many people as possible. Don't want to get to know you or have a relationship or anything. Just dating. ....." I feel like no one wants anything that might lead to something resembling a relationship. Yeesh. Used to be the 'M' word freaked some people out. Now. The 'R' word is the old 'M' word. Yes, that is right - R E L A T I O N S H I P. Heaven forbid you have a good time, get to know someone, maybe even like them and (OMG) spend part of your life with them as partners in life - exclusively. LMAO.... People are just plain wierd.

stevelfun

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Seriously Why would you give head on a first date then ignore calls the day after. Posted: 10/13/2009 6:20:45 AM
Hey, some women just like to give head. Some guys 'date' women looking to get laid. What is the difference???? Live and learn. It takes all sorts to make the world go round. Like it or not.

stevelfun

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Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar? Posted: 10/13/2009 6:15:50 AM
Unfortunately, it is pretty individual with each. The one thing that I will tell you - unless they are treated and/or medicated - an 'event' will come and, depending on the person, heaven help you. It is a downward spiral to a place where NOTHING will bring them anything remotely resembling happiness. That includes you. Relationships often end for a bi-polar during one of these 'events' at their choosing. They are clutching at straws. They feel as though everything in their life is causing these feelings - and they 'purge' all of that from their lives at these times. Changing everything that they can. A new hair do. New clothes. Job. Relationship. Maybe a treated and medicated bi-polar MIGHT be able to weather these episodes. But for those that don't fully take ownership of being bi-polar and seek to do something about it - they will let it stear their lives.

stevelfun

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Broken Up With For The Strangest Reasons Posted: 10/13/2009 6:07:39 AM
I agree with someone else here.... She was just not that into you. Plain and simple. She was looking for reasons to diss you. If they realy WERE truly issues for her - then follow these instructions closely - do not deveate from them in the least 1) Turn around 2) Run Away 3) Run Faster 4) Never look back People that have these types of things as 'issues' HAVE issues. They are not fit for a relationship - even one with a gold fish. Run Forrest! Run!!

stevelfun

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what's up with this? Posted: 9/21/2009 11:55:01 AM
I dated a woman for 4+ years on again, off again, on, off, over and over... She was like that. I would call her up or stop by every day - I would always ask 'how was your day?' In four plus years, she might have asked me that twice. And likely after I mentioned it to her that I was curious why she never asked me how my day was. They are self-involved 'all about me' types. Unless that is what you are interested - run away, fast and far.

stevelfun

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Verbal Rejection vs Silence Posted: 9/11/2009 7:48:38 AM
Neither is optimal, however I would rather hear from someone. Try this one on for size...... You hear from someone - they are all interested - wanting to get to know you, find out all about you, etc.. You share with them that you have had cancer - surgery, treatments, etc... AND they seemingly fall off the face of the earth never to be heard from again. Walk a mile in those shoes.

stevelfun

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The Four favourite questions guys love to ask.... Posted: 8/26/2009 6:21:58 AM
I figure the answers to all/most of those questions will get answered the 'first time' you are together.

stevelfun

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Health issues and finding a partner at our age Posted: 8/8/2009 6:10:30 AM
cats - if the hormone level ain't there - all the kegels in the world won't help yes - part of it indeed is blood circulation, HOWEVER if you were to understand the male anatomy and 'how it works' - the problem typically with ED is that the blood is not retained were it needs to be to maintain an erection. Kegels will not help resolve this problem. Just as in women - blood circulation, hormone levels and muscle tone all play into the 'functioning' They have meds that 'tweek' the nervous connection between the brain and certain body organs. One example is a med that chemo patients are given - EMEND - if I recall. It blocks the nervous systems connection between the brain and stomach that will cause one to vomit. Imagine if you would if they could 'tweek' the nervous connection between the brain and ones sexual organs - causing one to become aroused. I am sure that day will come. All of these things for both men and women enter into it - the brain/body connection causing arousal, the hormones, the blood circulation, the muscle tone.

stevelfun

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Does facial hair on men over 45 make them look older or younger? Posted: 8/8/2009 5:53:57 AM
I wear a beard in the coldest of the winter months. I run outside every day - rain, shine, blizzard, etc - it really does go some to keeping warmer. I can put a hat on my bald head, but not much I can do about my face. So I grow the beard when/if it turns really cold. The grey - initially looks nice, but eventually it becomes to prevalent. Then one tends to look old. ONCE, a woman in my office encouraged me to cover my grey in my beard with some over the counter product that her husband used. I tried it. I really liked the look, however I started to itch that evening. Then worse and worse. By the end of the next day I had to shave off my beard. My whole face where my beard was had broken out. I was allergic to whatever was in the dye. It took the better part of three weeks for my face to clear up. Be careful with that dye stuff guys. I wish women were as accepting of grey on men as men are of grey on women.

stevelfun

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Health issues and finding a partner at our age Posted: 8/7/2009 5:50:44 AM
I do not think that anyone needs 'cancer' to get them to 'look in the mirror' nor gain a better appreciation for all that one is. My point was that we all have our own characteristics that someone else might well view as a 'shortcoming'. I really don't 'fault' anyone for viewing someone having/had cancer as such, however I wish it weren't so popular a viewpoint. Basically, I view it as any other 'characteristic' - age, body type, geographic location, color of eyes, career, income, religion, hair color, hair and on and on and on. These are all things that we 'evaluate' the viability of a potential mate. What is the difference with this??? I didn't have a choice in my hair receeding either - so it isn't 'choice'. I think that many people tend to focus on the 'negative' rather than the positive. In life, in general, I try to look at the negative and find a positive aspect to it. Like with the cancer - the fact that it has made me so much more (or at least re-iterated to me) than I was (or realized) before. Being widowed, I view it as the gods blessed me to bring my wife to me for the remainder of her life in this world. If you look - you will always find negative things about anything/anyone. It is much better to look at positive things people. As for people sending me emails, I have tried to remove any/all restrictions. Age is not a restriction by the way. More likely the 'intimate encounters' thing. Something that has been on there since forever and always been a problem. Don't know how it got there - must have been a selection I didn't pay attention to when I was creating my profile here years ago. I have tried to change this, but I think that they do not allow that. Such is life. Besides - this site isn't and the people on it are of a different mindset than I believe I will find someone that will fit for me. Best to all.

stevelfun

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Health issues and finding a partner at our age Posted: 8/6/2009 9:40:22 AM
karat, it is all part and parcel of the person - having the issue and trying to begin a relationship or having a relationship and then someone developing an 'issue'. Just as you lumped emotional and physical issues together. There is an old expression 'warts and all'. To me, if I cared for the person - I cared for the person. That is it. I would be with them regardless. catsmeow, I wish that you were correct. Unfortunately, most women do not want such (e.g. someone who has had cancer, say) in their life. It is a reality. I used to not have it in my profile and would tell them about it in the first or second communication. However, after most all of them doing the disappearing act after hearing that - I decided to put it in my profile. Now, unfortunately, I get so few people interested in even talking. Ah well, it is what it is. Hence the comical pic of the cat. The 'forums' are the only thing of any value on this site, and the word 'value' is very loosely interpretted in this context. My guess is that it will take a woman that gets to know me to discover who I am and how insignificant my having had cancer is. In other words, not a venue like a dating site. Someone that meets me in real life, knows and likes me for who they discover that I am. To all the others out there who's thinking is at the other end of the spectrum. Your loss. Ciao

stevelfun

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ED in some form or another Posted: 8/5/2009 6:45:40 PM
Unfortunately people, Mother Nature designed it that way. Mom Nature would rather the 'young virile' go around fertilizing the females than the older less viable males. Part of natural selection if you will. Ladies, I certainly hope that you are as open minded and receptive to this line of thinking should it befall you that you reach 'the change' and all of the sudden you libido drops to zero or you suffer 'dryness'. People need to be a tad bit more open minded. No wonder it is so difficult for people to meet. Just look at all these forums full of post about all the trials and tribulations of dating. Come on people - you are human, I am human. Yeesh.

stevelfun

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Health issues and finding a partner at our age Posted: 8/5/2009 6:34:16 PM
Let me play devil's advocate here for a second..... Two people meet, hit it off, financially, spiritually, healthwise - they are both on the same plain. They become a couple. THEN.... A year or two or three.... one of the two becomes ill and has health issues. What do you do?????? Bail? 'Sorry, I didn't expect this.' Hmm..... Let's hear it. I hope that everyone here is fortunate enough to not become 'ill' and have to be on the receiving end of the shortsightedness of some. Let he that be free of sin, cast the first stone..... Similarly, someone that is free from 'illness' can say something. MAYBE. I CAN NOT tell you how many women I have met that have 'mental health issues'. OMG Yet, they will be the first one's to point out your 'flaws'. LOL I think everyone here should take a good long look in the mirror. Ladies: you have more than one guy in your life tell you that you are a 'biotch'???? Guys: you have more than one woman tell you that you are a 'prick'????? Why do you suppose that is???? Coincidence??? Maybe not. Take a long look in the mirror people.

stevelfun

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Are all women nuts?/Where are all the good ones at? Posted: 8/5/2009 6:16:57 PM
...seems like every woman I meet is either nuts or has alot of deep emotional and psycological issues... WELCOME TO A LITTLE SLICE OF MY WORLD!!!! LOL

stevelfun

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Early Ultimatum Posted: 7/24/2009 4:21:53 AM
You sure she just wasn't looking for the 'possibility' of a marriage. I know that there are some who 'will never get married again' and that some might view that as 'deal breaker'. If that is the case - one party is dead set against and the other must have it, well, then that would be an issue.

stevelfun

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Flabbergasted By Friend Posted: 7/24/2009 4:16:48 AM
I don't think that there is any particular ONE thing that segregates how one gender or another views 'friendships'. However, one thing that is different commonly is that the females are typically more emotive and will more redily get into situations involving that. I have had several close 'friends' in the last year look to me for support in tough times. One, a friend who admittedly has a drinking problem broke up with his gf because of something that stemmed from that and was looking for guests for his 'pity party'. Another - a woman that just refuses to get over her past lover a LONG time after the relationship has ended. There are many things that I view as being productive. Having a 'pity-party' isn't one of them. In both instances - I have given all that I can in being supportive. I basically could not do it anymore. You have to be willing to help yourself before you should look to others for help. I am more than glad to be there to support a friend, but they have to try to help themselves. Having someone that constant requires emotional support just drains you. I don't have any more to give. I just don't. I have been sucked dry. Trust me - I know how important friends and family are when you are going through some 'stuff'. It is clearly different when you are swimming in the middle of it rather than viewing it from the outside looking in. However, as with all problems in life, they will not solve themselves. You need to take an action to solve/resolve them. And 'inaction' is not an action.

stevelfun

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Single Guys With No Kids Suck!!! Posted: 7/23/2009 3:22:49 AM
Future, I agree that there might be some men who look at a single mom and all they can 'see' is another man's family. However, I tend to 'see' a single mom as an incredible woman that does all that moms and dads do for their family. I respect most single moms. However, there are those like the OP who feel people such as myself (no kids) are something less than others. My thoughts with regard to her would not be positive.

stevelfun

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Single Guys With No Kids Suck!!! Posted: 7/21/2009 5:04:51 AM
To your post dear OP, I would reply - people that start a thread that is entitled 'Single guys with no kids suck!!!' - er uh - aren't very nice. I could slam you as well, but won't. I am single w/o kids - think that many single mom's rock. I am responsible, tender. Can carry a great conversation. Too, I love kids. So - don't go slamming all men that aren't parents. Just because you have made some poor choices and not met any decent one's does not mean that all of them 'suck'.

stevelfun

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Are you trusting, optimistic, or both? Posted: 7/20/2009 12:06:15 PM
Too darn trusting for my own good.

stevelfun

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whack jobs! are they on the increase? Posted: 7/16/2009 4:46:35 AM
I think that 'whack jobs' are on the rise. I believe that society says "It is okay to carry around your problem with you, never deal with it and make it a problem for all those around you. you stay the same and don't deal with it. we will let society change and fix 'your' problem. after all - we wouldn't want you to have to do anything. " I for one am really sick of this attitude. Assume responsibility for yourself and your issues! Step up and address them. No - it is not easy. What? Is sweeping it under the carpet a 'better' solution?!?!?! It is yours - you own it - deal with it.

stevelfun

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What kind of man/woman do you think you attract? Posted: 7/16/2009 4:40:17 AM
Not just POF, but I attract the 'wrong' type.... Always. In the process of trying to - er uh - break that chain. Tough to do that when you don't know exactly what it is that attracts this 'wrong' type. I mean - not like I change my cologne and all of the sudden I will get a different type of women responding.

stevelfun

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LADIIES NEEDHELP! aghhhh Should I be player hatin? Posted: 7/16/2009 4:34:21 AM
I wont tell your boyfriend if you wanna do something Geee.... What a good friend he is to do that for his buddy!!!! LOL Huney - you go after that - you deserve whatever you get from it.... An ended relationship with the bf.... an STD from this player guy.... tossed aside and hurt by this player guy when he tires of you.... I say - "GO FOR IT!!!" You are thinking about it. That speaks volumes.

stevelfun

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why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers? Posted: 7/7/2009 6:03:53 AM
For the same reason women judge men by their number of past lovers. I personally believe that neither party in a relationship should share the 'number' of partners they have had. Why? What good comes of it??? It only serves as fodder and fuel for hard feelings and/or an arguement. Do NOT go there. You might think that you are sharing this information for the reasons of being open or honest. That is BS. You are doing it to stroke your own ego and seeking to impress. If that is what you think others 'value' in a relationship - your relationship is destined to fail.

stevelfun

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Women with Harleys Posted: 7/6/2009 12:44:02 PM
I have a great idea. Either ride '****' or get a bike. LOL Seriously, if you are not interested in bikes and bikers - you shouldn't feel like you have to. I think that you are making more out of this than you should. I think people attatch a stigma to 'bikes' and people that ride them. Think of us as being 'green' - my bike gets about 45mpg.

stevelfun

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are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man? Posted: 7/6/2009 12:33:18 PM
Yes. Absolutely. Definitely. Without a doubt. Certainly. I am jaded.

stevelfun

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Why, why, why Posted: 7/6/2009 12:30:04 PM
Minimally, he is not 'done' with her. You can do what you want with that information, however keep in mind - he will do what HE will do with it as well. Likely what the two of you do with it will be different.

stevelfun

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Lower Standards For Free Dating Sites? Posted: 7/3/2009 9:38:55 AM
ABSOLUTELY!!!! I haven't lowered my standard, but the new 'norm' is pretty low IMO.

stevelfun

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Hey do ya personally know any happily married people in real life? Posted: 7/3/2009 9:37:03 AM
When I was married (widowed) - I was completely happy.

stevelfun

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HOW TO CUT IT SHORT??? Posted: 7/1/2009 1:10:12 PM
Maybe what people should do is that which was done to me recently...... I was asked to do a 'walk by'. She was going to be camped out nearby as walked into the coffee shop. If she liked me - she would join me. If not.... The thing I do not get is - why tell me that she was going to do this? She could have done that and I not been any the wiser. Whatever. Too, she was the one without a picture. Nor would she send one. ??? And no - I did not go, did not call, did not email. I look VERY much like my pics - for better or worse. LOL This 'dating' has become something very much 'rude' for lack of better words if you ask me.

stevelfun

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My hormones are killing my relationships... can u help?! Posted: 7/1/2009 12:27:19 PM
Many people think that sex and money are where it is at. Sad, yet true. Eventually, everyone hopefully with come to grips with this. People, it is not what you have in your hands that matters when you leave this world - it is what you have in your heart. An engaged partner can learn to be better in bed. People can make more money or hit the lottery. Similarly, someone can loose their job and virtually be homeless in days. Or you can loose your health and risk loosing much more than shelter. People - it is clear to me that the sources for all these problems are misplaced priorities. What is important? What can weather any of these problems? What could possibly be one consistent stablizing factor in your life no matter the situation? That would be the love of another that you are given... One is free to choose and do whatever they want, however I suggest you just give what I said a moments thought.

stevelfun

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My hormones are killing my relationships... can u help?! Posted: 6/28/2009 9:21:06 AM
RE: effed in the head..... LOL Truly RE: players I will define them. They are the guys that come up to you, say all the right things, look wonderful and sound good to your friend. HOWEVER, strange - never been married before. They get you into bed. Eventually, tell you that they love you. You eat it up. THEN two weeks, two months, two years later - Oooops! He sleeps with someone else. Go figure. I am shocked. Then tells you some story to make you feel like it was all your fault. You are shattered. RE: nice decent guy He goes on a date with this same woman six weeks after her gettting dissed. The guy has no idea that she is still hung up on the ex. Eventually, it all comes out. He is the crying towel - being nice, supportive 'cause he really likes her by this time. However, nothing will ever come of this because 'She's not there'. He eventually walks away, shaking his head thinking 'not another one - yeesh'. It is a numbers game and us nice guys are losing. One player can destroy ten woman in year. Us decent guys can only be the crying towel for maybe one in that period time. The players are winning. Too, I will acknowledge my complicity in it all. The women read my profile and know - 'nice guy'. They are drawn to it thinking - 'oh i have had enough of the ricco suavey types'. Yet - they are not really interested - they just want someone to help them heal. And I - let this happen. I am an 'enabler'. I am enabling these women to do this over and over again. I would rather deal with someone with a crack habit. At least they know they are an addict and will admit to it. These victims of players - just continue on their paths. There - hope that clarified things for you Ms. C. BTW - i have learned and am not going to get sucked into that again (fingers crossed). The question is - will little Ms. Player's victim. I think we ALL KNOW the answer to that one.

stevelfun

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Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 6/27/2009 7:21:15 PM
BTW - as an addendum to my prior post, I have had my fill of being the 'decent' guy. I have lowered myself to new lows to accomodate an ever lowering standard in 'dating'. Last week - I was asked to do a 'walk by'. I was told by the woman that I was meeting for coffee that she would observe as I went into the coffee place and that she would join me if she felt like it after seeing me. WTF And I am the one with the pics on my profile and she wasn't. LOL All this bs is just too dang much. This decent guy is going elsewhere. The answer to the original question - we are not dating any more because of cr@p like this that we are supposed to put up with.

stevelfun

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do you look like your pictures? Posted: 6/27/2009 7:14:03 PM
Unfortunately, yes - I look just like my pictures. LOL

stevelfun

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When someone points out that you're old.. Posted: 6/27/2009 6:10:17 PM
Just tell them to go to their room or they will get a spanking.

stevelfun

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Why don't men and women -- by and large -- like male-pattern baldness? Posted: 6/27/2009 6:02:30 PM
I do not think that this is true. Maybe when it is en vogue, maybe as opposed to a bad comb-over or such, but I don't think it is true. Just read a profile not two minutes ago that read And I can't be friends with Bald Men... LOL So - yes - there are some out there that are 'okay' with it - however, the majority want a full head of hair.

stevelfun

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My hormones are killing my relationships... can u help?! Posted: 6/27/2009 5:56:46 PM
LMAO.... This is exactly what I have told people - women love the players, but won't touch a decent guy with a ten foot pole. I think ALL of the women out there that do this will eventually figure it out. Maybe when they are 40, maybe 50, maybe not 'til they are 60, but they will eventually figure it out. Can I help??? Yes, stop looking at what ever it is you see in these players and focus on the positive attributes that a decent guy has. Not until you do that will you be ready for a decent man.

stevelfun

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Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 6/27/2009 5:48:56 PM
No - we are not all taken or gay. Where are we - busy being a 'crying towel', a nice guy with absorbent shoulders - effectively - a 'girl friend' with a penis. That is what we do. Women don't feel we are worthy of their love. We are there for them to suck emotional support from so they can move on to the next guy that will play them. THEN, when it happens YET AGAIN - they fall back and come to us YET AGAIN for their 'girl friend' with a penis. The sympathetic ear. The crying towel. That is where we are. 'Nough said.

stevelfun

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GF kissed another guy... what do i do? Posted: 6/27/2009 5:45:01 PM
Bottom Line: Who would do that if they were 'in love' with another???? If they would do that, then they are not in love with you. SIMPLE.

stevelfun

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Is red hot romance possible after 50? Posted: 6/24/2009 6:45:22 PM
ABSOLUTELY!!!

stevelfun

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How far would you travel for a love affair? Posted: 6/24/2009 6:43:35 PM
I flew from Massachusetts to Texas for the mere possibility that there might be something special there (and I am not talking about sex). If I felt the woman 'could be it' - I would travel round the globe.

stevelfun

Joined: 10/23/2005

Msg: 287 (view)

Hottest Movie Scenes Posted: 6/24/2009 6:29:30 PM
Body Heat - where she is in the house smouldering and he outside looking at her - he throws the chair through the window..... WoW!

stevelfun

Joined: 10/23/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

relationships and being widowed Posted: 6/24/2009 6:23:30 PM
I am really sick of the bashing that everyone does on widow/ers. Yes, you enter into a relationship with anyone that isn't over their past relationship - it is doomed. DUH!!!! H E L L O !!!!! What is it with people? There is one substantial difference between being widowed and choosing a split - in one case - the relationship was most likely 'good' and they did not choose it to end - and in the other the relationship was likely 'bad' and they chose to end it. They both have their pit falls and require time to heal the wounds. Seriously- we all know of instances where someone dates someone too soon after a split (by choice) and the person was not 'emotionally available'. So - take that line of thinking and stuff it. Next, lets look at yourselves. Are you 'afraid'??? You - multiple divorces maybe - entering into a relationship with someone who has never had a failed marriage. Afraid that it will fail and you will have to look at yourself - yet again - and see the source of the failure???? Or is it that you are merely self-centered and can not put another before yourself? Look at the words that people choose - 'compete' with their lost loved one. Yes- you said it yourself - you are afraid that you can't compete. Who here hasn't had a relationship where we weren't dealing widow/ers and we were concerned about 'stacking up' in one way or another with their ex??? Come on people. I am widowed and I say that 'I have in all in a very good place'. I know that I do. Another fundamental difference between the two scenarios is - you can see/talk to your ex - likely you don't want to, but when you see them with someone else - kinda tough to ignore that. Widow/ers - do not have that luxury. They can never talk to/see them again (at least in this world). They are let to deal with all their emotions on their own - no conversations, no answers - good or bad. Thus making closure more difficult. You widow/er bashers need to get a clue. Don't enter into a relationship with someone that isn't ready - widowed or no. I have this little trick I employ. First date, ask them about thier ex. If they avoid the topic skillfully or they start talking incesantly with many four letter words - viens popping out of the head and neck , safe bet that they aren't over the ex. LOL No - I will never stop loving my wife. However - that does not mean that I can not love another. Do parents only love one child and no others???? No - you wouldn't have that expectation. Why do you have that here? Look into your own self for the answer on that one - I think if you are honest with yourself - you will find the answer. And not have to lay it off on the widow/er by bashing them.

stevelfun

Joined: 10/23/2005

Msg: 75 (view)

Men in speedo's , HOT or YUCKY..................LOL Posted: 6/21/2009 3:53:59 PM
Speedo's are great, but for one thing - swimming in a swimming pool (e.g. doing laps, etc) I don't wear my Speedo to the beach nor my swim goggles..... Actually, my swim 'trunks' are the brand Speedo - yes, they make them too. So - don't ditch 'em - just save them for the pool.

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