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MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

This woman leaves me confuzzled Posted: 10/23/2009 1:57:40 PM
Oh you're that guy... Skeptical about everything that is totally not even a major point. You know some of the most potent drugs come PRESCRIBED to people? Most of the time people pay no attention when a doctor gives them a prescription, and a lot of times even if you are hooked a good number of doctors will keep writing the prescriptions. There was an older man in his mid 70s that attended the same treatment center as I did. Well his wife is really sick, in incredible pain, and bed ridden. I guess she really knew how to get on his nerves and made his life hell. But he found out if he took a vicodin or 2, that he had a bit of an easier time dealing with her. And after all it was prescribed to him by his doctor, what harm could it do? 2 became 4, then 6. Then you forget when you last took it etc. By the time you're a full blown junky the only thing you can do is spend the rest of your life fighting it. There is no cure. It's a progressive and surely fatal disease if it's not treated ASAP.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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This woman leaves me confuzzled Posted: 10/23/2009 1:26:13 PM
Snarky, grizzilda hit it on the head, also it's the house she grew up in, she's doing just fine financially, and her parents weren't doing so well, so she bought the house from them. I don't know why you are so stuck on her not owning the house. And her mother is rather christian and very judgmental, so basically pops realizes she's 32 years old and is probably going to have sex in her own house sometime. Her dad is ok aside from the awkward conversation, it was mostly make sure your mother doesn't find out. Not a huge problem as we are all adults, but kind of gross because it was her dad. She turned pale when he mentioned, seemed embarassed. Now look at this picture http://pics.plentyoffish.com/dating/65/50/Evanston_singles_67356749-2.jpg and wonder why she wouldn't want to have a guy like me around her parents.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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This woman leaves me confuzzled Posted: 10/23/2009 12:49:50 PM
Well I talked to her. I guess she seems to be having quite the time trying to read me. She was afraid that I wasn't really into her, and that she was attracted to me. Communication got discombobulated somewhere along the way. So, things got cleared up, I like her just fine, she likes me a good bit, and we'll see where it goes. I guess the canadian guy with the money had set up for them to meet in switzerland, but she passed it up to be with me. Kind of nice for my tiny fragile man ego haha. So I guess we'll see how things will turn out. Going to go off to her place tonight and get xBox Live action going. Lotta worry for nothing, but such is the nature of my anxiety. It's good I didn't really freak out, I just couldn't get out of my own head.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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This woman leaves me confuzzled Posted: 10/23/2009 9:46:28 AM
she does indeed own the house. And a sweet DE .50. I'm hoping to take to the range and kill some paper people. and 4 yeard old? i think yure givin me too much credit. im tired and cranky and have a ton of acupuncture needles in me.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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This woman leaves me confuzzled Posted: 10/23/2009 9:46:05 AM
she does indeed own the house. And a sweet DE .50. I'm hoping to take to the range and kill some paper people. and 4 yeard old? i think yure givin me too much credit. im tired and cranky and have a ton of acupuncture needles in me.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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This woman leaves me confuzzled Posted: 10/23/2009 8:39:42 AM
Ok, some clarification here. She has a massive hernia so her stomach is going to be cut open anyway, and some of the muscle wall being rebuilt and reinforced. It's like going to the car wash and saying, "what the hell, throw a coat of wax on it". As far as her breasts go, this gal doesn't need more breast action going on, but consider this, breasts can be very heavy and cause back problems. So that could be a tad compounded by the fact that she broke her C4,C5,C6 (IIRC) vertebrae, I believe she has a reduction, she has chronic back pain from her accident. She mentioned something about breast cancer being particularly common in her family as well, I'm not totally sure what that has to do with artificial breasts, I guess removing a significant amount of tissue may decrease the risk. I do know that living with having to take high dosage vicoden and opiate based pain killers only masks the symptoms, it doesn't solve the problem. Form follows function in this case. And from talking to her friends, she hasn't dated really since she had her kid, but that's here nor there. I'm not one to judge someone on their past. If that were the case I would probably be shot on the street. And yes she has a child, she an adorable girl who like arts n crafts, which is great seeing as my previous background in the arts. The gal herself is going back to the Art Institute of Chicago where she wants to pursue a career in special effects makeup and costume design. Which is another thing we have in common, except that my effects work was all digital. The two of us could probably make some killer shit. And no she is not living with her parents, her parents are living with her. She owns the house. Her mother is a drug addict and probably doesn't have much time left, and once she's gone her dad will probably go live with his brother. Although she's considering selling the house and getting a place for just her and her daughter. She is currently working as a financial adviser. And red, I find it ironic you complain about the length of my post when you probably read the entire thing. Twice. Then came back with nothing that couldn't even be considered close to useful let aloned filled with shit that would make a teenager shake their head in shame gawd!. It's a good thing your face doesn't match that nasty attitude. Anyway you have shitty attitude, are rude, and just all around totally useless. Congrats! You failed at being mediocre!

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 78 (view)

Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him? Posted: 10/23/2009 7:49:17 AM
I actually have a ton of respect for women who work and take care of kids as well. I got a taste of it when I was with my ex fiancee (RIP). She had 2 children, neither of them were mine. But when she became really ill toward the end of her life, I pretty was doing most of the housework, cooking, laundry, took the kids to school and picked them up, took care of her and all her doctor's visits and much of her in home medical and that's about it. Oh and I was a full time student and a full time intern doing 40 hours a week, no weekends on. So monday to friday was pretty much bust ass until I passed out, or kept going. I found out that after a few stiff drinks I could manage the stress a lot better. I also found out that I'm an alcoholic. Awesome! So yeah, and woman who can manage a job and kids, especially on their own without incredible drug or alcohol abuse, my hats off to ya! And as far as myself, I don't really consider a woman's earning potential when I decide if I would like to date them/love/marry etc. The only thing that I'm really concerned about money, is that you have to worry about all the damn time. Thankfully if the next couple years go my way, I'll be able to have an incredible career doing something that's respectable, beneficial to society, and I think personally rewarding in and of itself (I'm hopefully going to med school to become a surgeon). Not a lot of people become medical doctors for the pay. Although the pay is very good, I wouldn't even know what to do with that kind of money. Send my niece to college or something.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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This woman leaves me confuzzled Posted: 10/23/2009 6:07:16 AM
So I was just goofin around on facebook, and figured I would join up on z00sk or whatever the ** it's called. I got a hit a few days later, having already forgotten I had signed up (sometimes I join out of boredom, sometimes I join up to write the most ridiculous profile possible and see what happens I had a great zombie on here for a while.) So this site makes you pay money to "unlock" the conversation, and they block out words like facebook and AIM and all that. So I just put my first and last name, and figured that if should couldn't figure out how to find me, then she's wasn't my kind of gal. So we got to talking and I jokingly asked if she was prepared for the impending zombie apocalypse, ends up she is into zombies and horror flicks as much, if not more that myself. She was a Fangoria Girl for one of their calendars. I knew we were going to hit it off. So we agreed to meet, went and saw zombieland and parted ways after sitting in her car for 4 hours talking. So it went well IMO. We went on a couple of other dates, movies and such, and things were going splendid, she has a child that's very close to the age of my niece, so I hit it off with the kid and her parents. And well, we both have a similar situation, but kind of reversed. I had kind of checked out of life so to speak about 15 months ago when my fiancee died, it was a very stressful situation, and I'm not sure exactly what I was thinking, but I became content with idea of just drinking myself to death. Anyway, I went to rehab and happy to say that in a few days I'll be 11 months sober. She also has a history of addiction, but it was to pain meds because she flew through the windshield of a car and broke several of her cervical vertebrae, and had obviously a lot of pain. So we have that in common, and it brought us pretty close pretty fast. She owns the house she grew up in, and her parents live with her. I live at home because my insane drinking and grieving didn't leave room for a job, and my parents were worried about me. I took this time to do an intensive rehab program, lots of head doctors and time to think about what I was going to do with my life after April's death... I decided med school sounded like fun, so I'm working on getting my pre reqs completed (don't study much science in art school). So it's actually kind of funny she's sneaking me into the house through the window because she's worried her parents will catch us having sex, meanwhile her dad is asking me if I have condoms and all that awkward shit. So things have been a ton of fun, but there seems to be a few issues. She's a full figured gal, petite does not go with 6'2". She's not really fat, but she's got some junk in her trunk. So she's having a ton of plastic surgery, but most of it is to fix some stuff,she figured she would get boobs, lipo, tummy tuck etc while they are diggin in around there. I get the feeling she doesn't take my commitment to her seriously. It's almost like she thinks I'm just keeping her around until I find something better.... This is not the case whatsoever. I'm into this woman because she's ing awesome, honestly the only reason I would care about her weight is if it was unhealthy for her. But it's her decision, so I support whatever she does. So, the other night we slept together for the first time. As we were laying there post mayhem she brought up that there are a couple of guys interested in her. One being canadian, and apparently wealthy, and they had been friends for 7 or so years. The other is a guy she accepted a date from before her and I even met. She asked me what I thought about her going out with them. In the back of my mind I thought "hell no, I don't share". But decided to break out some logic and think before I said something stupid. So I told her I really liked her, would prefer it if we kept things exclusive but it's not like we were boyfriend/girlfriend (she had pointed this out earlier in the day), and that she is a person not an object and that I had no right to tell her what she can or cannot do, and if she felt that she wanted to see what all is out there, then by all means go exploring (she has a 3 year old daughter and I'm the first person she had been with in about 4 years or so). I was pretty sure this was as close to acting like an adult I get. She pointed out this was not the response she was hoping for (she wanted the " no, you're mine" answer), but my response was acceptable. It turns out that she likes being properly asked to be someone's girlfriend. I had never even heard of this, I'm used to dating a girl for a while and unless something specifically came up saying we weren't exclusive then it was mutually understood that we were in a relationship. So, I'm a bit of a shy person, mostly I am not good at initiating things, but with her once I get going to I am totally open and honest with her. But I'm also a sarcastic jackass and goofy when I'm nervous. I asked her and she didn't take seriously, but I was laying it on pretty thick. It just felt awkward and silly to me. But I manned up and asked her politely and made my intentions clear. So it all became official a few days ago. Wednesday night we went and played on some swings and drove around, a nice quiet evening with not much going on. Last night we just hung out at her place. Everything seemed fine, excuse my crudeness but he expressed the desire to have me ** her in the ass while she got down on some vagina action with her manless penis (this however did not occur despite finding it the best idea she's had thus far). Usually I assume that's an expression of endearment? Well she called me on my drive home and said I need to set aside some time because we need to talk on the phone. She wouldn't say what about, and that she didn't want to get into it right then and needed some time to get everything right so she doesn't say the wrong thing..... What the hell? Out of nowhere at 2am. And before you come blazin' in with the "the sex was bad" this girl is pretty upfront and would have openly mocked me about it if that were true. Plus she's a squirter, so it's pretty obvious I'm getting the job done. Ok, I doubt anyone will read that ridiculous wall of text that probably could have been summed up in a few words. But I seriously can't figure out what she could be angry about, and minutes before I left her place we were talking about going to vegas for my cousin's wedding, and then to Miami for the Winter Music Conference and the Ultra Music Festival...... Should I have been zigging when I was zagging? Does she want a good recipe for a steak marinade? Needless to say I haven't slept tonight, and it's not really much the thought of losing her (we haven't been together all that long, I do like her a lot and would not enjoy breaking things off, I'd like to take it further or at least get to know each other better and have some fun), it's the cryptic "we need to have a talk, but I'm not going to tell you what about or even give you a hint if it's good or bad, now go home where you'll have all the time in the world to try and figure it out".....

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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how do you get someone... Posted: 7/17/2009 9:44:12 PM
First and only thing I would do is replace every thought you have about your own happiness with your kid's happiness and well being. And that's it........ When they are of legal age and move out and start their own lives, then you can go back to thinking about your own happiness. Welcome to parenthood!

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Could someone please explain ... Posted: 7/17/2009 9:32:38 PM
I've been on some dates lately, get to date #2 or #3 and after getting close (and I don't mean sex), kissing/cuddling etc and sharing, I get a text saying "Oh just thought I'd let you know I'm dating someone else as well" or "Hope you understand but I'm not looking for anything long-term at the moment". I am sooooooooooo sick of it. As a single Mum for 7.5 years, I didn't date for the first 7 years, but my goodness, how times have changed since I dated prior to getting married!!! Is it the norm these days to "date" more than one at a time? It seems so anyway. Maybe the problem is me, and I just need to play the "game" the same way the guys seem to. Some male insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks heaps :) Ali You're pretty smokin there babe. Instead of trying to figure out how to play the game, find yourself a classy guy and make him earn some of your lovin'. Just because you didn't date for those 7 years doesn't mean you need to make up for it all at once. Slow things down, be sure, and find something good. Don't settle, be selective (you do have choices), get what you want, not just what's available. Or send me a plane ticket, I'll hang out with you for sure :)

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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you would think Posted: 7/17/2009 9:20:04 PM
You're not in any different type of situation than any other single parent. You created lives, and it is your duty to protect and provide for them. They don't need to understand your situation, you need to concede everything in your life that stands in the way of their well being. Don't like it? You were man enough to put your penis in a vagina, now be man enough to raise your kids. You act like you're doing some great feat that fell upon your shoulders and you should be respected for it. If you bust your ass to do everything you can for your children you have simply achieved mediocrity. You have done your job. Sounds harsh, but that's the job you signed up for when you created lives. You owe them everything.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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she made first contact copy and pasted the email Posted: 7/17/2009 7:50:34 PM
I know all these words, but when you put them together like that, they make no sense.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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So i met this girl.. Posted: 7/17/2009 6:43:02 PM
I can help here. first she is a women ask about her shoes, hair, clothes, anything about her women like that. second, Indian women wear a red dot on the forehead can you ask her if that is like a scratch ticket if you scratch the dot is their a prize underneath,. thanks Brilliant!

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Casual but different birthday gift ideas? Posted: 7/17/2009 5:25:02 PM
Was just curious if anyone had any other ideas. I directly asked her if she liked chocolates, so it just didn't seem to have the surprise factor. But the guy is amazing, I'm not a big chocolate fan and I I'll munch on his candies, so I guess it should go over well with someone who loves chocolate. But looks like my good old childish charm went over well. Thanks for the votes of confidence, hopefully I won't do anything retarded and blow it. My simple and childish charm in action aha. Me: oh my you my friend, are adorable Her: :D:D tnx! :):) Me: Has nothing to do with me ****, it's all your fault I'm afraid you'll just have to live with it Her: haha u just know what to say to make me smile!:) Me: I am known to be charming. Careful Her: i c that!:)

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Cell Phones as a Stalking tool? Posted: 7/17/2009 3:57:16 PM
I don't think that really true at all. I find people to be pretty self absorbed these days. Yes that's a pretty broad generalization, but I would say it's just as likely that a lot people don't value other people's time and attention. If a woman really needs to text during a date, she can feel free to text away, I'll find something else to do, in fact I would appreciate it if she just canceled the date instead of wasting my time. Unless she's a doctor on call, she should have the courtesy of focusing her attention on her date. If the date sucks, be an adult and say so. Otherwise you look immature and childish.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Casual but different birthday gift ideas? Posted: 7/17/2009 3:51:45 PM
During a study break I decided to piss away some time on facebook. A very attractive and pleasant woman I met a month or two ago logged on, and I sent a casual "hi how are you". I've met her in person once on a group outing where a bunch of friends and I went bowling. I talked to her a little bit, and then went off and played pool because I couldn't bowl due to shoulder issues. She was very nice and extremely attractive. Anyway, said hi, and she replied, we got to talking about art and she asked me what I'm doing tomorrow night. I said i wasn't sure and she invited me out to a club night. I told her I couldn't think of any reason to turn down the request of such a lovely woman, she called me sweet blah blah, after some light flirting we agreed to meet before the event and hang out. She gave me her number. And we set a time. Anyway, it's her birthday party. She's quite lovely, has great manners and I want to make a good effort into finding out if her personality matches the pretty face and attitude. I was just curious if anyone had any ideas for an appropriate gift for someone I don't really know but would like to show interest in. She loves chocolate and there is a really nice candy shop with a guy that trained in Belgium, so the obvious choice would be a nice mixed box and a card, we're both into art so I figured I would make the card by hand. Anyway, any ladies have any ideas for something perhaps a bit less obvious but still thoughtful? She's a really nice woman and I'd like to show some interest but keep it light and appropriate for someone I don't know all that well. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Nothing wrong with the candy and card, just seeing if someone can help me be a bit more creative. Thanks.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Why does she do this??? Posted: 7/17/2009 3:29:55 PM
Why would you spend a lot of time hanging out with someone that annoys you so much. Anyway, sounds like she just wants to get a reaction out of you, she wants to see how you'll respond. Try this: do nothing. Nothing at all, don't answer her question, don't argue, just act like it didn't happen. Because whatever the problem is, it's her problem, let her figure it out. It's not your job to figure out other people's problems.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Say they want a good guy Posted: 7/17/2009 1:07:56 PM
What's wrong with cooking and massages? Anyway, I think manwich has a good guy and a **** confused.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

What is your criteria for rating men's pictures? (I'm a 3) Posted: 7/17/2009 12:56:44 PM
Wings4AnAngel is #1 in my book!

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Describe your soul~ Posted: 7/17/2009 7:07:28 AM
My soul? It's big, green, slimy, covered in tentacles and very hungry.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Idk what 2 make of her? Posted: 7/17/2009 6:27:59 AM
The reality is she probably didn't think much about the situation at all, if she was really paying attention. Most likely you were nervous and had some anxiety which cause you to be a little self conscience. You thought she was cute and you wanted to make a good impression, and you wanted her to pay real close attention to you. But people that work in stores like that see hundreds of people a day. It's not like you were doing anything absurd like walking around with a severed head under your arm. She probably forgot you the second you walked out the door the last time.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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what should i do next?? Posted: 7/17/2009 5:15:02 AM
Wow, I think her sending you texts about another guy is kind of hurtful, even if she doesn't intend it that way. I would just move on, it's not like you guys were committed or anything. And don't lie to yourself, you like her, you'll never get that out of your mind no matter how much you pretend to be friends with her. It's always going to be in the back of your mind that you want to date her, and it's going to end up with you getting hurt feelings or awkward situations.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Celebrity one-nighter Posted: 7/17/2009 4:58:33 AM
Zooey Deschanel. I wouldn't have to think twice. She's super cute, and sometimes cute is the way to go.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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This is a loaded question but alot of people wonder about this Posted: 7/17/2009 4:41:32 AM
I don't think anyone that isn't a predator, molester, or otherwise sexually charged criminal can ever understand what these types of people get out of it. You can't figure out why they think it's satisfying or "good" because you think it's horrible, immoral, wrong, and evil. And with good cause. Dunno anything about cheating as I've never done it, although my mind has wandered here and there. Grass is always greener type thinking maybe? I've never really been into sex as a strictly recreational thing, so the whole player attitude is beyond me. I'm a romantic I guess.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Women Don't Always Cum Posted: 7/17/2009 4:29:58 AM
Eh, my partner getting off is what gets me off. My fiance almost never got off from straight vaginal penetration. She said that's how it always was for her, regardless of guy. It didn't mean that she didn't enjoy it, she just didn't orgasm from it. So vaginal just became part of the whole picture instead of the focus. There was anal,oral, rubbing etc which always did the trick. She was big into anal, so a lot of times there was no vaginal at all, because as any responsible couple (hopefully) knows, once you go there you can't go back without some pretty nasty consequences, or at least the risk.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Question for guys Posted: 7/17/2009 3:30:06 AM
Meet new people and try new things. Get outside my comfort zone and learn something new about myself and work on being a better person. Work on some personal artwork, continue my road to medical school, and perhaps maybe meet a woman that I'd like to share my life with and settle down. Oh and hang out with my kitty girls and my niece, they are a sassy lot. They are good people.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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How can i loose mi Virginity Posted: 7/17/2009 3:02:31 AM
How about looking for a quality woman and not worrying? It will happen when the time is right, you can't rush perfection!. +1 to GamerDude's post, sex without love just isn't as good. I can barely even remember the gal I lost mine to. That's how insignificant it was.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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What do you think about cougars? Posted: 7/17/2009 2:58:12 AM
Cougars are a fantastic gift to the world. There is this 48 year old woman that attends a lot of social events I go to. She always gives me a kiss and flirts with me whenever I run into her. She's married, so it's all kind of a friendly joke, but she's my personal cougar. She must have been a real beauty back in the day, even at her age she's very attractive. Her husband is kind of a douche, but whatever.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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how long did the great sex last with your lover before you broke it off? Posted: 7/17/2009 2:53:22 AM
Ack, sorry for the double post. But that's awesome Dave. My lady donated her organs as well, she was blessed with a donated organ, and was very adamant about giving back. But I can totally relate, although we weren't together in an intimate level for as long you and your partner, but we knew each other almost as long. It does take a long time to feel "right" with someone else, especially since it's not like you broke up, or had a bad fight, or fell out of love, it ended for reasons outside of anyone's control. My condolences for your loss, no matter how much time passes there is always a little bit of an empty space.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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how long did the great sex last with your lover before you broke it off? Posted: 7/17/2009 2:49:22 AM
About a year, and then her sickness took over and she was in no shape to have sex. It didn't get broken off, she passed away. She told me to move on when she became really sick, but I chose to stay by her side until the day she died. I have many fond memories of her. Our time together as lovers was short, but she was a lifelong friend.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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why did he.... Posted: 7/17/2009 2:42:02 AM
What a shame, such an attractive gal, but you're really lacking some common sense here. Suck it up and learn from your mistakes. Then be grateful that the worst you get is verbally beat on over the internet. Seriously, this is not a small deal, a bad mistake with a situation like this could cost you everything. AIDs, STDs, an unwanted pregnancy.. All sorts of things that could end or seriously disrupt your life/mental health. If you're going to show guys that they can treat you poorly and still get what they want out of you, don't be surprised when they take the easy way out and treat you poorly. Demand proper treatment and respect! Nobody will respect you if you don't respect yourself. You're a sexy gal, it shouldn't be too hard to make a classy guy put in some time and effort for some lovin'. You can't change what's already happened, so don't dwell on it, but now would be a good time to think how and why you got into this, and make sure it doesn't happen again. Harsh? Maybe, but having your mistakes pointed out is really not all that bad in comparison to what could have been.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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Sending a Rose, good or bad? Posted: 7/17/2009 1:34:53 AM
People really put too much thought into a picture of a flower, one that is more than likely plastic. People seem to over think a lot of stuff here.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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A bit comfused Posted: 7/17/2009 12:24:42 AM
Perhaps English isn't the poster's first language? Anyway, sounds like she wasn't 100% certain she had made the right choice in breaking off the relationship, and wanted to see you one last time to see if there was still some feelings. Anyway, if that's the case, just accept it for what it is and realize that there is a chance it's not going to last. Relationships don't tend to be very steady or work very well when people are confused, or can't make a decision. And it can be especially painful if the other person has made up their mind. But yeah, work a little better at getting your ideas across. It's hard for people to help when they aren't even sure what you are asking. Best of luck.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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what do guys have against tomboys? Posted: 7/15/2009 5:39:07 PM
Nothing wrong with tomboys.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

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FOR THE HORDE! Posted: 7/12/2009 1:29:02 AM
I have an 80 warrior. Don't really play too much anymore. School takes up all my time.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 62 (view)

Previous Abuse and Its Effect on Intimacy Posted: 7/12/2009 12:47:13 AM
Eh. Um, my ex fiance (RIP) was abused as a child. It had an effect on her for sure. We were friends for a long long time before we started dating, and by the time we were intimate, she was very trusting of me. Well early on during sex she told me to hit her. I gave her a firm slap on the booty. This was not what she was asking for. She wanted me to actually seriously punch in her in the face. I refused, and thankfully she never really brought it up again. She also wanted to play out a rape scene. I refused this as well. The day I'm capable of that kind of behavior, is the day I'll lock myself up.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Romance Posted: 7/12/2009 12:06:41 AM
To me romance is going the extra mile in a relationship to show that you appreciate your partner and want them to feel a certain way. It's one thing to come home and your partner has made dinner. People have to eat, it's a nice gesture (I'm not trying to downplay this at all). Romance would be coming home to find your favorite meal in progress, be treated to a back massage to ease the tension while you sip on a nice cold drink. And then dinner is served in an intimate, comfy atmosphere that took some time to setup. That's what it means to me, taking that extra time to be thoughtful and show someone that you really know what makes them feel good, and going to out of your way to make them feel that way.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 6 (view)

Why do guys always 'scratch'? Posted: 7/11/2009 11:52:47 PM
A lil gold bond powder works well. Or, personally use baby powder on my feet, or they get sweaty. It works the same to keep things from getting sticky.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Upset at read/delete, but hostile at negative response too! Posted: 7/11/2009 11:49:01 PM
I would for sure appreciate it more than a read/delete. But honestly I don't really know any of the people I message, so it's not really the end of the world. In fact I saw a very attractive woman that had a great profile. Not only did she not reply, but she removed me from her matches after reading. It crushed my fragile man ego, and I hugged my teddy bear and cried for a night. But now I'm ok.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 13 (view)

panty/thongless in public? Posted: 7/11/2009 8:58:01 PM
I had a few ex's that never wore undies. They said it was it a comfort choice. I would think that undies would be more comfy than jeans without. But I'm not a lady, so I dunno how the whole anatomy and comfort thing works. They did wear underwear when they wore skirts or anything that would allow anyone to see. Was not a sexy/showing off thing as far as I could tell.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

Analyze my current situation with this girl...I'm stumped! Posted: 7/11/2009 8:12:55 PM
Bummer. Sounds like you are suffering for some other guy's screw up. That's not cool. Maybe tell her you understand, but you are not that guy.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

What does it mean... Posted: 7/11/2009 8:02:40 PM
You may get some views from places far away because of your forum posts. I know that when I post in the forums (rarely) I usually get views shortly after from people that probably read the thread and just wanted to see what my profile is like.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

What to do with her stuff Posted: 7/11/2009 4:31:09 PM
Give her the stuff back and move on. Just be done with it. Sorry to hear, if it makes you feel any better, I once got dumped by a girl on New Year's Eve at 3am over voice mail. We had been together 8 years aha. Oh well, life goes on.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

what do i do? Posted: 7/11/2009 4:25:52 PM
Regardless of how you feel, this is not a healthy relationship. Let her go, work on yourself, and at minimum give it a few months before you try again. It sounds more like you are in love with the idea of being in love, not truly in love with her. And all that drama, sounds like a lot of fighting and work for something that goes round n round. Sorry to break it to you man, but it sounds like even if you patch things up, something else is going to go wrong. I wouldn't even worry about dating, sounds like you could use some time to reflect on yourself, and maybe work on some self improvement. That's NEVER a bad thing. And if you guys are destined to be together, you will be. You have all the time in the world for that. It doesn't have to be right now. If you try and force it, it will break, permanently. Let things take their natural course.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

Is my timing wrong? Posted: 7/11/2009 4:03:51 PM
True, but give a him a little credit, he's being honest about it and not hiding it. Although heavy drinking/drug does not strike as me as something that most women are attracted to.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

How do you define chemistry Posted: 7/11/2009 1:25:16 AM
I'm not really interested in talking about her. I'm not going to be yanked around like that, it's unhealthy, so she's out of the picture. I was curious about what people define as chemistry. The situation with her just made me realize that I've never thought of it, and I like to know what makes people tick. And seeing as how it's purely subjective, I understand that every person will give a different answer. Once again, I don't care what's going on in HER head, I want to know what's going on in yours. It's obvious what will happen if I choose to see her again, so I don't see any point in doing so.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 2 (view)

How do you define chemistry Posted: 7/11/2009 12:42:19 AM
I guess the biggest reason I'm asking is that it made me think about what chemistry really means, and what it means to me. So I'm curious how other people think. The males can feel free to chime in at any time.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 1 (view)

How do you define chemistry Posted: 7/11/2009 12:31:25 AM
I know it's subjective, so I just want to hear what a few of you ladies have to say about the subject. The reason I ask is that I met someone a while ago, and we hit it off big time. She decided that we shouldn't date, and we kind of parted ways. Well sure enough we have hooked back up several times, and every time she says things that lead me to believe that this girl is VERY interested in a relationship with me, but every single time, the next day after getting back "together" she says we can't be, and we part ways. But she keeps coming back to me, and I do like her a lot, but at this point I've given up, I'm not a toy. She knows very well that I have pretty serious feelings for her, and that I would like nothing more than to start a relationship with her. So I'm kind of pissed off that she would make out with me or sleep with me, and then break it off like this, only to come back a week later. And I know why it happens, because I let it. The first time we split, it was because she said we had no chemistry, but she keeps coming back. She says she feels extremely comfortable with me, and that she's never felt like this about anyone. Sometimes she jokes about us just moving in together, or growing old together, or just running off and getting married. She says she adores me, and that I'm one of the greatest guy she's ever met. So I'm pretty confused to say the least. So I'm not sure what chemistry means to her, because if I'm so great and she's never felt this way, then what more could I offer? And she doesn't want to be friends, she doesn't think we should see each other at all anymore. So, what does it mean to you?

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

What Does Undecided/Open Really Mean (children)? Posted: 7/11/2009 12:14:27 AM
I know you're looking for responses from the female types, but for me, it means I'm willing to have children if I meet someone that I really think I'd like to have my babies. I'm not out looking for the mother of my unborn child. And having kids isn't super important to what I'm looking for right now.

MimikOctopus

Joined: 9/29/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

best way to approach a girl? Posted: 7/11/2009 12:09:30 AM
Be yourself. If that doesn't work, nothing will, because at the end of day, you are stuck with that. You won't get far being deceptive or trying to charm a girl and tell her what she wants to hear. Say hello, work from there. It's not that hard.

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