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bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better??? Posted: 10/31/2008 7:35:34 PM
It is a creation issues. Men that survive among the ancients had good genes and so they were driven to mate with younger beautiful women with full breasts and lips and symetrical features because those features exemplified health. So an old geezer with his superior sperm socked it to the young sexy women (with large firm breasts) to provide a stronger gene pool and healther clan or tribe. So it is not our fault. This is how we are created. Just like high school. The chicks always went with the jocks. That wasn't right either but thats how the mop flops.

bob144

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Sunsets Posted: 10/21/2008 6:45:15 PM
Thank you ladies, I have learned from you

bob144

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Sunsets Posted: 10/21/2008 5:34:52 PM
I wondered why some of them wear a blind fold

bob144

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Sunsets Posted: 10/21/2008 5:32:34 PM
doing it wrong, just my luck!!

bob144

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Sunsets Posted: 10/21/2008 5:22:59 PM
OK ladies, what is it with sunsets? I live near Lake Michigan and we have beautiful harbors and channels and parks. I like to watch the sunset now and then. But every woman I meet from around here says, "Lets meet at the channel and watch the sun set." Why? What is it about watching the sun set? The only reason I go watch the sun set with a new date is that I think it might be foreplay. Geezzzz.

bob144

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Breaking the cycle of loneliness Posted: 10/20/2008 5:33:32 PM
Yup. Relationships and sex are both very complex. It takes a lot of work. Darn it.

bob144

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Controling, possissive or am I reading to far into this Posted: 10/20/2008 5:31:07 PM
This guy is not going to get better with time like wine, he will rot like old meat. He has to many issues to list. Run girl, run, do not walk, run away from this pile of problems.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Was it just flirting and nothing more? Posted: 10/19/2008 1:42:54 PM
Chatte hit it on the head; Read the title you created. It was flirting and nothing more. If your relationship is rocky then even more reason he would want to stay away, too much turmoil, too much room for drama. Little known fact: People, and men would fall in to that category, like to be with reasonably stable people. Relationships, especially new ones, are rocky and hard enough. If an R is going to work, it's going to take the undivided attention (at least undivided as far as a third person is concerned) of both people . You are not in a position to do that right now. Also your handle says a lot. Sound kind of self centered to me, horray for me and the heck with you and I little ms independant. Its my way or no way.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Was it just flirting and nothing more? Posted: 10/19/2008 1:38:15 PM
You are rationalizing. You screwed up by moving and having a reltiaonship. And what does "Whatnot," mean? Maybe it was the whatnot. Too many whatnots can discourage a guy. If my woman was whatnoting that would be it for me.

bob144

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Was it just flirting and nothing more? Posted: 10/19/2008 1:36:14 PM
He felt betrayed by the relationship you are in. He does not need the aggravation. work on the new dude

bob144

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Im in love and he's not availible what to do?? Posted: 10/19/2008 1:26:40 PM
I didn't get past the first few sentences. This is an old old story. He is a player and you are the played. Run, do not walk, run from this dude.

bob144

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Was he just pretending or is he really sincere? Posted: 10/19/2008 1:23:33 PM
I think he was sincere but maybe he also feels like this is going to result in too many issues for the two of you. I think that would be my response. I could care about you and be concerned and know what a painful and scarring experience that was. For me it would remind me of a relationship in which the woman had been abused by her ex husband. There was too many issues and I became the therapist and not the lover. I can only speak from my own experience and that would be a red flag for me. On the other hand, Grayfield may be right, give him some time.

bob144

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buying your way out of trouble Posted: 10/19/2008 1:16:32 PM
Most men do not know how to listen. We do not understand feelings at all,not our own and certainly not yours. We can be trained to listen and be empathic but it is very difficult. I guess I would suggest you set down and say I know you bought me the necklass because you love me. But what I need now is for you to listen and try to feel what I am feeling. And remember, the guy does not have a clue. I have heard women say, "He should know what I need," or, "He should know what I am feeling." That would be nice but we don't. Ask us about our hobby and we can talk for hours but ask us what we are feeling and the best we might come up with is, "Tired."

bob144

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What does he mean? Trying to read him.... Posted: 10/19/2008 1:09:52 PM
I didn't read the entire thing but my response would be that it is important to remember that men are driving by sex and women are driven by relationships. Men will have a relationship to have sex and women will have sex to have a relationship. He has what he wants, a beautiful sexy woman to have sex with. We men are kind of superficial. Women feel on a very deep level and men cruise along on the surface. He is not taking things slow to keep from getting hurt. That is BS. He is getting free milk so he is not going to buy the cow. Not saying you are a cow. Lets see, he is getting the honey free so he is not going to buy a bee hive. Yeah, thats it.

bob144

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Do you think a woman who wants to be a stay at home wife is a gold digger? Posted: 10/19/2008 1:04:02 PM
If the guy and gal both agree on that it is not gold digging. If you are looking for a guy with enough money to support you like that it is gold digging. But if you are both happy in the arrangement, why not? Get yourself an older guy that is established and successful. Older guys like younger women and will live that way. bb

bob144

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what to do Posted: 10/19/2008 1:00:07 PM
Life and love is full pain, the agony and the extasy. Do what you need for you. He has to suck it up and get over it. Woody Allan says, "Life is full of pain, suffuring, and sorrow. And it is all over with much to quickly."

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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He told me he's cheated on gfs in the past Posted: 10/19/2008 12:57:13 PM
yes, once always, and he is telling you want will happen and wants in a way, your permission. He will do it however with our without your permission

bob144

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Several questions about flirty guys? Posted: 10/19/2008 12:55:30 PM
Number 3 and when he is the agressor he feels manly and in controle. When you flirt back he is not in control and runs like a rabbit. He will be this way in bed to. If you came on to him for sex he would run rabbit run.l

bob144

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How to communicate it to him? Posted: 10/19/2008 12:52:32 PM
I am breaking the guy code here so I expect to receive a fine and suspension. But here goes. We guys are kind of stupid. There it is, out in the open. If things seem ok to us we have no idea what else is going on. We don't have a clue. Women talk to us in what we think is code. A code we have never broken. It is important to be very clear. If he runs, well, then he will never be ready. Right now he thinks you are happy with the way things are. So you have to tell him and be very clear. He may need a written contract. Or notes on the fridge. I recommend a book by Dave Barry, "Dave Barry's Guide to Guys." Don't try to manipulate him into it, that is give him clues or hints because we just don't get it. Don't even hear them in fact.

bob144

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Do guys really dig the screamers???? Posted: 10/19/2008 12:46:57 PM
too much to loud is distracting but I do like to know when the feelings are esculating toward orgazm or what i am doing feels really good.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 10/19/2008 12:24:37 PM
wanting a woman to swollow my cums is just gross and self centered.

bob144

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Can't he understand, I don't want him anymore. Posted: 10/19/2008 10:25:12 AM
coming right out and saying it is soooooooo hard to do. We hate to hurt someone and some poeple hate to have that person feel badly toward us. If I ever figure out how to do this without coming right out with it I will write a book, Breaking Up For Dummys, and make a ton of money. I am going to start on that now.

bob144

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18 years of marriage... and now this? Posted: 10/18/2008 7:06:43 PM
so it was ok cause she was looking for emotional connection? It could be suggested that like violence, adulty is never ok. The one thing we do know is that we don't know and will never know the real guts of this.

bob144

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18 years of marriage... and now this? Posted: 10/18/2008 7:02:49 PM
some people can get over it. I couldn't. I think now a year separation might have helped us. After a year of divorce I am not as bitter. I know the feeling. People say, my blood ran cold, and it felt like that to me.

bob144

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What do men REALLY think of bisexual women? Posted: 10/18/2008 3:48:56 PM
It is a turn on for many men. You didn't ask this by my 2 cents is that the two lives must be kept separate. If a bi woman has a guy and a girl and the guy is turned on by it and they share the experience etc someone is going to get hurt. You arfe playing with lives in that case. No good comes from it. Been there. Ouch

bob144

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Have a good life in a breakup e-mail Posted: 10/18/2008 3:39:54 PM
Case by case. No matter how we bring closure to a relationship someone is going to be hurt. There is a series of emotions that follow loss. Loss, pain, anger, guilt, depression. Loss and pain are inevitable. It is how we respond and handle the pain that is important. Some people respond by expressing anger by saying, "Have a good life," or something even less kind. My counsel is to just accept it as their way of dealing with their loss and pain. It is a trait that you may have seen that led you to end the connection. A healthy way, by the way, to deal with loss and pain is not by expressing it, but confessing it. "Ouch that hurt, you are a really wonderful person and I will always treasure our time togheter. I wish you all the best." It is helpful not to make the response goodbye manipulitive but accepting the decision.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Why do men want to finger your behind? Posted: 10/15/2008 12:46:45 PM
I ahve no idea and don't want to know. Gross

bob144

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rough in bedroom equals...? Posted: 10/15/2008 12:42:45 PM
Oh, arm pinning, I love that both on the top and bottom. Anyway, keep enjoying it to the max. The first time he trys to bring it out of the bedroom stop him immedately and say that stays in bed not out here. Or, you could say now, I love how you treat me in bed and how you continue to love and respect me and treat me like a lady outside.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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If you make her cum orally shouldn't she return the favor? Posted: 10/15/2008 12:36:48 PM
some gals like to receive it but don't like to give it. and visa versa. If she don't she don't. But on the other hand, if it is something you like she could do it now and then. If not, cut her off.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Is she interested? How should i ask her out? Posted: 10/15/2008 12:25:23 PM
we never know. sometimes a woman is just really friendly and fun and flirty. But if you don't try you will never know. I would call and just ask her out for coffee or tea or a soft drink. If she says no you won't die. You will be stronger and wiser for the experience. Have an exit plan ready of she does turn you down. Something, like, OK, see you next time I teach there. Have a great day.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Was my decision wrong? Posted: 10/15/2008 12:20:21 PM
evidently. but, nothing ventured nothing gained. It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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How long does it take to know if a new relationship is going to last ? Posted: 10/15/2008 11:31:06 AM
there is no way to know. It lasts as long as it lasts. When there are some flags popping up, when the person seems to draw away, its over.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Too Harsh? Posted: 10/15/2008 11:21:51 AM
Wound a little tight there buddy? Let people be who they are. Seek what they are feeling, needing, doing, where they want to go, what is happening inside of them right now without judging the exterior or their habits. I would not want to kiss a gal that chews but I can be supportive of them. But, that's me. You need to do what you think right.

bob144

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Does she or dosn't she, that is the question Posted: 10/15/2008 11:16:39 AM
no means no. Accept it at face value. She has some issues going on and beleive me you can't help her with them. Find a healty gal.

bob144

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I hate it when i read these types of subjects.... Posted: 10/15/2008 11:13:44 AM
We think we are great looking all the time. We look in the mirror only so we don't lop off our nose when shaving. But even then don't really look at ourselves. Those guys are self centered that you discribe

bob144

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breaking up is hard to do Posted: 10/15/2008 11:10:39 AM
You are right. It is all that crying and begging and trying to make a deal thing that tares me up.

bob144

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would you be confident enough Posted: 10/15/2008 11:04:15 AM
No. I have no idea what a woman wants in rings, or anything, nothing. Nope, lets shop together.

bob144

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need advice Posted: 10/15/2008 10:42:19 AM
Run, do not walk, run away from this situaition. You are tempted I know. But no good will come of it.

bob144

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How important is being able to talk to her? Posted: 10/15/2008 10:32:49 AM
Women work at a deeper emotional level than men. Many of us live our entire life without sharing deep feelings and in fact, never have deep feelings. We don't have a need to share our deep inner self. We don't even know what an inner self is let along a deep one. Men are not all that interested in being understood. We are interested in someone that is a willing sex partner and either does things with us we like to do or is willing to let us do things we like to do like hunt, fish, play softball, etc without a lot of nagging. Problem is, we are not in touch with our own feelings so it is very hard for us to have empathy for your feelings. So that is why we encourage our women to have a gay male friend or a woman friend to share things like that with.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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why do guys kiss you and then never call?? Posted: 10/15/2008 10:26:35 AM
Could be the conquest. Has this happened once or a bunch of times? Guys are often dating several women. Especially those on sites like this. So they have a main squeeze and they run off for quick dates with other woman, kiss, feel like big men, and run back to momma. If this is a constant problem then there maybe other issues one would need to look at introspectivly as it were. Does the woman come on too strong? Many guys like to be the agressor. Does she seem to needy, like I love you right now lets look at rings.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Would you date a working escort? Posted: 10/15/2008 10:19:45 AM
If this woman really blew my socks off, I mean when I met here and was with her there were hats and horns and fireworks etc. Then yeah, I would try to get her out of the biz, she would have to get out and stay out. If however, in addition to the service she used drugs or alcohol, alcohol to excess, then nope. So for me the substance abuse is worse than the escort work. That substanace abuse just carries too much baggage even in recovery. I am not saying all escorts have substance abuse problems, I am just saying...

bob144

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Dating or not.... Posted: 10/15/2008 10:13:55 AM
I think you should tell him how you feel just to get it off your chest so to speak. But he will not comprehend your feelings because he does not have empathy. Men or more superficial and this guy is right at the surface. It isn't that he is bad or dumb or mean. He just is not in touch with his feelings or your feelings. You were/are a friend with benefits. He is wanting a receptical not a relationship. bb

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Just Why Does This Happen Posted: 10/15/2008 10:05:11 AM
It is not normal. He might be married and and got cold feet. When you are married it is hard to account for your time away. The chatting part might have been exciting but the reality scared the heck out of him.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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breaking up is hard to do Posted: 10/15/2008 10:02:53 AM
OK, so a guy meets a woman and they have a couple dates maybe more, no sex, and she is just nuts about him but for the dude, it isn't what he is looking for and wants to ease out. But she has already told friends and family and radio hosts about this great guy. This guy has two problems. First he really wants to be honest, secondly he does not want to hurt the person. So to keep from hurting her he does not say anything until he is in so deep that he has to say it isn't what he wants. So ladies, if you are on the receiving end, how would you want this expressed. In my profile I ask to hear it right from the sholder. Just tell me. Yeah it hurts like a **** but at least its done with quick but not painless. bb

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Ever notice that women w/o kids are much 'tighter'..down there?? Posted: 10/15/2008 9:55:57 AM
When a guy is hung, down there, then all women are tight. Or so it seems to me.

bob144

Joined: 9/30/2008

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Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs? Posted: 10/15/2008 9:46:36 AM
I don't like blow jobs. Don't like to give oral either

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