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 Author Thread: not looking for a daddy to my child
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 105 (view)
 
not looking for a daddy to my child
Posted: 10/28/2007 3:00:39 PM
Very well put poison ivy. Too often some think that if they start a relationship with a single parent (be it mom or dad) they will be tossed into being an instant parent to a child they hardly know. That shouldn't be a factor in my opinion until the relationship takes a serious turn. I address men that I have gone out with as friends...and that is all my kids see it as. Yes, I like to do "family" activities with my "friends" if the relationship gets to that point, you have to involve the kids eventually so they can get aquainted, but it all takes time. But for the beginning/get to know you stage I keep my kids out of it...totally...I want/need someone for me.... if it eventually works out to be a family thing great, but if not, that is fine too.....there is really no way to know if it will work if you don't try. Though for some ppl having kids is a show stopper...and who knows they may find it to be a mistake...everyone is different, we just have to find that one person that accepts us for who we are and accept all comes along with it.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 306 (view)
 
Why do men use me??
Posted: 10/28/2007 2:45:55 PM
Good for your Liteinside....I hope life is treating you well.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Passionless Relationship
Posted: 10/28/2007 2:40:05 PM
I would agree that Good Sex is very important in a marriage....everyone needs that physical side.....I don't know that it is a show stopper tho....I was in a 10 yr marriage that had mediocure (sp?) sex, but I didn't use that as an excuse to cheat, deny or leave the marriage. There is more aspects to a marriage than just sex...imho
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Passionless Relationship
Posted: 10/28/2007 2:37:05 PM
Yes, that is exactly what I am saying...there is intimacy with sex, but there is also intimacy without sex....I disagree that they go hand in hand..which is why I stated that they seem to go hand in hand..tho I guess that would depend on your idea of Intimacy itself....in my way of thinking intimacy is a closeness shared between two ppl that isn't shared with anyone else...you can have sex without an emotional bond...but you can't have intimacy without a bond.

I believe that most affairs happen because of a communication breakdown...though I don't know personally since I have never had an affair, tho I have been the one left due to an affair...but an affair happens when one's needs aren't met...if there was a bond (intimacy) within the relationship then there would be communication...staying together takes alot of hard work. We are always changing from our experiences, but is that a reason to give up and go to the next person that makes us feel good inside or turns us on? No, not in my opinion anyway.

I do agree with your analogy to a degree...which comes back to the emotional bond creating an intimacy between two ppl.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 83 (view)
 
not looking for a daddy to my child
Posted: 2/6/2007 8:15:20 AM
Oh I agree with you here. Personally I think that you have to see if you are compatible (sp) as a couple/friends before introducing the children. I feel that the children should not be in the picture unless the relationship takes on a serious note. It's not wise to confuse kids this way.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 81 (view)
 
not looking for a daddy to my child
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:29:30 AM
I have often wondered about this myself. While having the understanding that your kids do have a "father/dad" I also would want the man in my life to accept and love my kids as they were his own. Just as I would if he had children. It only makes sense. It just doesn't make sense that one isn't looking for a father for their children. The man in my life would have to be willing to accept this part of my family. We are a package deal.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/8/2006 6:12:21 PM
OMG! I completely understand where you are coming from. I just kicked out one of these same type of men. I was with him faithfully for 3 1/2 yrs and every time I got to the point I was ready to end it, he would show the sweet, wonderful, caring side of him so that I would doubt my own feelings. I too helped him build not one, but 2 businesses, got him and his son cell phones on my plan...completely supported him for 6 months and on and on it goes...sex was only when he felt like it and only for him...I never was satisfied. I finally started waking up, tolk him he had to move, packed all his stuff and set it on the back porch while he was at his newest victim's house reeling her in. I am still kicking myself for letting him do this to me, but not only that my children as well.

Why do men do this to women?
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 74 (view)
 
men are from mars......
Posted: 2/14/2006 3:02:11 PM
You know, truthfully I think that alot of times people are mis-matched. There are women that like to be romantic for their man, but want him to make the first moves. I personally would like the man to make the first moves, make me feel special etc etc, and I will do the same for him. I love to show my man how much he means to me with little surprises, but I tend to wonder what is the point when I get taken for granted and the gestures aren't recipricated. Just my 2 cents, but the point is that like not all men are the same, neither are all women. There are some old fashioned women out there that life for the man to take the drivers seat. Keep looking, I am sure you will find one that you are an equal with.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Passionless Relationship
Posted: 2/6/2006 5:06:18 PM
For me passion is more than just sex. I have been in a marriage and a ltr that the sex was very one sided. If there had been at least intimacy between us, it would have possibly lasted. But sex and intimacy seem to go hand in hand whether or not you actually have sex. Sex is so much more than the just the physical side. It's the emotional feelings, the closeness that you have between you that isn't shared with anyone else. If you don't have that, then what is the point in the sex and in the long run, how can the relationship last?
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 39 (view)
 
True love defined
Posted: 2/6/2006 4:55:49 PM
you're right awaitingyu, but the undertone is the same in all cases. Love means guenuinly (sp) caring for and about the other person. Being there always, good times and bad, total commitment. They are someone you can always depend to be there when you are beautiful, happy, joyful, giddy, funny as well as when you are sick, sad, ****y, ugly...etc. Love is knowing that no matter what you say/do they will Always be there.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
someone like your dad
Posted: 2/6/2006 4:47:25 PM
I would love to find a man that is somewhat like my dad, but haven't had much luck so far..lol
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
has anyone had an effect on you even though u never met them?
Posted: 2/6/2006 4:46:11 PM
Yes I have. But like Melissa said, sometimes they just quit talking to you for whatever reason and you find yourself missing their emails. I believe with every person we meet they have an impact on our lives whether good or bad. Cherish the good experiences and let the bad ones slip off into the night. As far as the webcam thing...I agree that it is cool to talk to eachother "face to face" can bring you even closer together, but unfortunately I haven't had any good experiences with the webcams. So I put the cam away until I get to know them through email/chat/phone. But even then you never know, unless you're into that sort of thing. For me there is no satisfaction in cybersex and most cammers are out for only that. Or at least in my experience.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Forums What a great way to learn more about someone
Posted: 12/3/2005 8:57:43 AM
And you are intitled to your opinion. But as the OP stated, you can tell more about what someone is interested in/focused on by the threads they choose to post in..case in point...you chose to read posts in the Sex and Dating Forum and state that you can't see 3 0r 4 friends sitting around over drinks talking about "ass-licking" I beg to differ as I have been involved in simular discussions (not this particular topic) while hanging out with friends...I don't see the relativity of this post.

I do agree with the OP that you can get to know a person through their posts and what topics they choose to post in. There is a freedom of sharing your own experiences and opinions with others and not feel judged as you might otherwise in the "real world" The forums are what you make of them as with anything in life.....Just my opinion.



And you're entitled to your opinion. Personally, I've read threads in the Sex And Dating forum, and I'm pretty sure you and 3 or 4 friends would never sit around over a few drinks and enthusiastically extoll the virtues of, say, "a­ss-licking".

I stand by my opinion.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 98 (view)
 
What do you hate most about being single?
Posted: 12/3/2005 7:54:13 AM
Not having someone to lavish, spoil, write little notes to. Not having someone to come home to at the end of a long day and just simply ask, "How was your day?" No one to listen to your joys, fears, etc or to give you a hug or simply hold you in their arms. And no one to talk about the world today, the kids, politics, life in general with.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Ladies please stop saying......
Posted: 12/3/2005 7:42:49 AM
Thank you Angelstar....you said it better than I could have. You are so right!!! I think we all want mutual respect, compassion, admiration, etc. Everyone needs a shoulder from time to time. Why is it so hard for ppl to care about others instead of being so dang selfish? Why does the Nice Girl/Nice Guy automatically have to mean "body image" ?




where do get your pre-coceived notion of what we woman really want when we say we want a nice guy......im no barbie doll and im not looking for a brad pitt lookalike...i live in the real world buddy and you should too....we mean we want a guy who will treat us right......not belittle us and put us down......a nice guy will open doors for women...actually for anybody...they dont act all macho and pick fights......they are the guys who after weve had a bad day....make us dinner or whatever.....they are there for us.......they do the small things for us....so when you say..nice girl....you mean...what long blonde hair barbie dolls......get out of that fantasy world you live in....being nice is just about being friendly to people and doing small things for them...you buy a coffee for yourself..do you buy one for a co-worker..with no expectations.....thats the kind of stuff about being nice....not being a brad pitt look-alike.......care about others..not just yourself......
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Thoughts on Women and abusive relationships...[PLEASE READ THE DISCLAIMER]
Posted: 12/3/2005 6:23:21 AM
^^^^^^ Hit The Nail Right On The Head..

Sometimes they just need someone...a friend, relative to help them learn that they don't deserve the treatment. It's hard to break the cycle. Especially when the bills pile up, the kids are making it tough and it seems like the world is against them. It takes alot to find the courage and strength to break the cycle and and they need the outside support. Most abused women have been emotionally, spiritually, and physically beaten down to the point they don't feel they can make it solo and when the road gets harder outside the abusive relationship, they go back because it is easier then facing the unknown.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Doormat and the cheater
Posted: 12/3/2005 5:57:35 AM

motherhood is not an instinct


I disagree here....Motherhood is an instinct....but it's not an instinct for ALL Women.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Doormat and the cheater
Posted: 12/3/2005 5:55:21 AM
I so understand where you are coming from here. Been there myself. Hell still am there with the trust issues. Father of my children had some "friends" he met through "work" and as the years wore on (8 yrs) he became less happy in our relationship and was always talking to his "friends" The less happy he became in our home, the more disrespectful, abusive toward me he became. Until finally I had enough and kicked him out. I took him back once only to finally call it quits for good 3 months later. Now he is with the girl from the "friendship".

Then I met someone online about 9 months after the breakup, we were together for 18 months and he just decided one day to move back to mommies with no explaination. We had built a successful business online and I thought we would eventually marry, but nope. He gave up....but when I moved he played the "I don't want you to leave" game.

So in essence I know exactly where you are with the trust issues as I am there as well. But you can't let the past ruin the future. Take your next relationship slow...start out as friends..try not to be in a rush....easier said than done I know, but there are alot of trustworthy people out there....hang in there.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Do people really smoke Occasionally?
Posted: 11/12/2005 6:42:43 AM
That's exactly it for me. As I have recently quit also.....they should have a choice of Trying to Quit or Gave it up....cuz if you are a former smoker and fall off the wagon once in awhile...them to give an honest answer you would be an occassional smoker...and if you put no, but you snuck a smoke in...you could be considered a BSer...
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 41 (view)
 
falling in love is easy, but how do you stay there?
Posted: 11/6/2005 10:14:21 AM
^^^^ Very Well Stated
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 68 (view)
 
I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/6/2005 5:51:11 AM
^^^^^^ Exactly!!!
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 39 (view)
 
falling in love is easy, but how do you stay there?
Posted: 11/6/2005 5:39:20 AM
Great Post Rainbow.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 52 (view)
 
I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 6:18:56 AM
Put it this way.
There are twins, same in every way except income.
1 makes $50,000 a year, the other make $250,000 a year.

Who would she pick?

See, it matters. They don't want to admit it but it does.



If they are 2 different ppl, then they would have different personalities. But I'll bite.....I would be happy with either I personally wouldn't go for one or the other by the amount of the money make. Depends on which one melts my heart. Hell I'd be happy with someone who only made $25,000 a yr. The amount of money doesn't matter as far as I am concerned...just have a JOB and pay YOUR BILLS and I am Happy
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/5/2005 6:04:39 AM
I don't think it's really the money that a successful man has so much as it is the fact that the successful man proves that he is someone that is reliable and dependable. Not a free loader, expecting his woman to support him. Or at least that is my veiw on the situation
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 31 (view)
 
falling in love is easy, but how do you stay there?
Posted: 11/4/2005 8:28:10 AM

What i want to know is how do you stop loving someone?


If you figure this out please enlighten us. Suggestions anyone?
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 30 (view)
 
falling in love is easy, but how do you stay there?
Posted: 11/4/2005 8:25:18 AM

I have tried to figure out how they have managed to build relationships that thrived and brought happiness, instead of divorcing or just "sticking it out" in a bad marriage. What they seem to me to have in common is a real commitment to consider the needs of the other person, especially in the little day to day thoughtful things that they do for each other.


You got it when you said "Real Commitment" that is what it takes to keep a marriage together. Communication, Respect, Friendship are also the keys to keeping a marriage together. My parents have been together for 41 yrs and my dad still to this day kisses my mom goodbye, hello...gives here shoulders a squeeze from time to time, etc. And he is not a very affectionate man really. They have their spats and arguements, they drive eachother nuts on a daily basis. But they also respect each other's opinion. I will be up front, my mom is a real B'tch at times, but they have stayed the course. IT's all about the COMMITMENT to one another. You don't see that anymore. It's too easy to just throw in the towel and start over where "the grass may be greener" so we end up with broken families and kids who have no idea what commitment, family, or respect are. So in the end we will see the end of the institution of Marriage if we don't start teaching our children about the Old Fashioned Values and Morals.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Does Anyone Still Believe and Desire To Live Life Like It Was In The Old Days?
Posted: 11/3/2005 4:52:27 PM
psdoffgal

This is exactly my point. I was a stay at home mom and enjoyed every minute of it. The hardest thing for me to do was go back to work after kicking my ex out. I am a firm believer in the stay at home mom. I don't agree with all this new feminism crap. Women were put on this earth to tend to family, households and husbands. The man was meant to be the provider.

I'm sorry but I do disagree with alot that has been said in this post about the "old days" being worse or at least as bad as they are now. There are so many more problems with society as a whole that we didn't have when we were growing up, or our parents. Yes, there were problems and the depression, but you know what, family meant more than it does today. Kids were tended to and not left alone for hours on end, they were disciplined, but mostly they were tought to have Respect for their elders...there is NO Respect with children these days. Haven't you noticed kids killing parents, siblings, etc. I'm sorry but the problems we have today out weigh the problems of yesterday 10 to 1. With there being little to no supervision or guidence and leaving our kids to their own divises how are the kids supposed to learn wrong from right? In the schools, the daycares, babysitters? I'm sorry but I didn't have children just to have someone else raise them. I want the joy of raising and seeing my children grow and learn, not just be a guardian to them. Another problem with society today.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 30 (view)
 
I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money
Posted: 11/2/2005 7:05:46 PM
Nope not true. I have never had money and you know what I like it that way. I don't want a man that will buy my love with Material things. He has to win my heart the old fashioned way :) Dazzling me with the little things instead of showering me with material things.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
30+ This is a must read for women and men
Posted: 11/2/2005 6:57:00 PM
Great Post. And it's all true :) Thanks for Sharing with us.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Playing with my heart strings? or really just waiting?
Posted: 11/2/2005 6:50:01 AM
Hi guys.

I can definatly understand where you are coming from here. I have been going through the exact same thing for the last 3 yrs. While I don't have any answers, I can sympathize with you and say that you aren't alone. POF and the people I have met here have honestly helped me to step back and take a real hard look at what's happening and I have been able to get my heart to let go for the most part. Yes, some days are tough and I wish for days gone by, but more days than not I realize I was just being played and it will never stop as long as I continue to give in to it.

Chemist, you certainly have some good advise. Where were you about 6 months ago? heheee

 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 124 (view)
 
Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 11/2/2005 6:18:52 AM
LA Loba...


You tagged it right there
Two things they are looking for - security and love.


I believe this is what most women are looking for. I'm not sure of the men, but I would assume that they also dream of the security of knowing their lady will be at home waiting for them at the end of a long day. I could be wrong, but I truely feel that we all really want the same things, but tend to go after it in the wrong way or settle for what we hope might be one day. Therefore we end up unfullfilled and unhappy in our relationship so we drift apart and if there is a lack of communication then its the beginning of the end. Too bad we all can't be mind readers...that would solve so many problems....(wink)
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 34 (view)
 
How many of us
Posted: 11/2/2005 5:24:15 AM
I guess I am fortunate...my 8 yr old doesn't like chocolate (amazing huh) so she give me all her chocolate and her runts (my fav)
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Can You Feel The Love?
Posted: 10/31/2005 3:36:15 AM
As it was said tho, one just has to weed through the posts and ignore the negative posts if they get you down. Unfortunatly it seems that more and more ppl are being negative about live due to their experiences. Hopefully reading the various posts will help with that, but if not, so be it. I choose to look at the Good in all and see the glass as half full instead of half empty as do most of the folks that I have talked to on the site. Maybe lady luck has been on my side, I dunno...after all, I am still pretty new so they may have just not found me....(wink)


For what its worth, I have been around the paid (as a free member, I refuse to pay the outrageous fees) for about a year and by far, this site seems to have more "grown ups" on it than all the others combined. Just my humble opinion.

Keep smilin all....It will be alright :)
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 190 (view)
 
OCT30, POF sadie hawkins day
Posted: 10/30/2005 8:30:23 PM
Country and Squirrly you two crack me up!!! I have been rolling here reading your posts!! Thanks! I really needed a good laugh. You two are great!
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 188 (view)
 
OCT30, POF sadie hawkins day
Posted: 10/30/2005 8:25:40 PM
ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry it took me so long to reply, been an unusually busy day today!!! LOL! Guess I better look at the rules quick and submit my emails....only 32 minutes left....:(




I think my tactic for sadie hawkins day is to
BE SWEET.
hahaha
I know many of you don't think this is within me.....
but for one day.. sunday oct 30th.. I am not gonna
rip any guys azz open verbally... not spit on them...
rag on them... make them feel low... give low blo rude backhanded
remarks, not tell them I hate them all.....
at least for 12 hours because you know I wake up at noon or later
lol
I'm not saying I'll be agreeable... or anything like that
but I will be real civil....
:)
that will be the sadie hawkins dance... for me... like a texas waltz...
and well, will see how it goes...
at least it will be funny because I bet some of them will
just think I'm dumb, try to meet me and have casual sex
ha.. and give me some lame story and ask for pics and
all the hoopla they do and say.... and end up in DUH guy thread ... ugh..... sickening

LOL
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
OCT30, POF sadie hawkins day
Posted: 10/29/2005 4:00:01 PM

If you returned their e-mails only flipped, that would be a one liner.Most men don't say a lot at first.


LMAO Ain't that the truth
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 3:54:35 PM
MMM

I didn't mean to shoot you to pieces it just seemed that you and Rainbow were on opposite sides of the spectrum. Your last post seemed to bring you a little closer to what she was trying to get across. Most of the dating sites have alot of crap on them, you have to weed them out and I think that she is trying to do that by being straight forward. Being hurt, taken advantage of, etc tends to make you build walls. Sometimes you have to look what's behind the wall to understand why they are there in the first place. Who knows, one might just end up being pleasantly surprised.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:56:39 PM
Yes Rainbow_fish I completely get where you are coming from. I am in the same place. It's not about sex, it's about finding someone who is honest, compassionate, caring, loving, attractive, and responsible. I believe they are out there you just have to weed them out.

You aren't alone, I get down, discouraged, and lonely too. This site has really helped with that. Posting in the forums and reading others posts really helps me to not feel so alone.

One thing you have to try and do is let the past be a lesson, but not let it bring you down. There are good men, I really believe that...take things slow...as hard as that can be sometimes.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:49:39 PM
MMM

What I am getting you are coming across as saying is that you want sex before you will consider a relationship. Rainbow Fish is saying the exact opposite...she...like I....wants a relationship before sex. Is that so wrong? I will never understand why men put sex above knowing someone personally first. I guess its the difference between men and women for the most part....for the man sex is purely physical....for the woman....it's emotional. Its a connection..now this isn't true in all cases, but the majority.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Ladies 37 and up
Posted: 10/29/2005 1:17:55 PM
I think the point she is trying to make here is that while yes there is no point in a relationship without sex, it would be nice to have a relationship before talking about sex. I can't remember how many times a guy has jumped to the Sex subject before he knew my name. I have to say though, so far I haven't had that problem on this site, it seems that here ppl are looking for more than just sex, either that or I don't turn them on...which doesn't bother me to be honest. I am a single mom 24/7, I don't get weekends off. This is my only source of adult conversation other than work and while yes I would like to have sex, I would really like someone to be interested in me as a person first not just whats between my legs.

The last 2 relationships I have been in one 8 yrs and 3 children, was an abusive loser and the other one 3 yrs was just a loser period. What happened to guys having a job and paying their own way instead of swoozing a woman to do it for them? I understand Rain_bow where you are coming from and I often feel the same way, but you can't lose your faith and trust...you have to keep trying and hope that one day Mr. Right will come into your life.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Does Anyone Still Believe and Desire To Live Life Like It Was In The Old Days?
Posted: 10/27/2005 5:56:38 PM

Yes; most people DO still have VERY strong values. Unfortunately; they all revolve around...you know...

themselves.


This is how I see it also. But why isn't this way? What Changed?
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Does Anyone Still Believe and Desire To Live Life Like It Was In The Old Days?
Posted: 10/27/2005 5:55:18 PM

When I saw this thread I thought it meant like Little House on the Prarie


I was wondering how long it would take someone to make this connection or Ozzie and Harriet....And in a sense I am talking about that way of life, but only in a sense.

I was trying to hit the Values, Respect, Responsibility, Priorities part of that time frame. Not the Stay at Home Mom side of it. As a single mom of 3, that is a long ago dream. Unfortunartly these days that is all it is...a dream. In order to just make the ends meet we have to be a 2 income family....everything has gotten so expensive but the wage has not increased with it, but that is another subject entirely.

I was simply talking about the way the World is today as a whole.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
A serious question to All believers in God.
Posted: 10/27/2005 5:44:36 PM

I should have forgiven those men, as should their victims to recieve salvation. I for one cannot ever do that



In order for you to be at peace with your own soul you will have to find a way to "Forgive" But that doesn't mean the you will ever forget. The experience has changed who you are forever as well as the experiences that followed.

You know I can't even try to imagine what it is like for your squad. As a woman who has been gang raped (I have moved past this so please finish reading and don't feel sorry for me) I know what it's like, and to watch the same happen to any innocent child, not to mention your own and if that weren't enough, seeing your husband shot...OMG!! That would be enough to put anyone over the edge.

You really can find solace the way I believe God would do for you....Remember....YOU were the ones to basically Rescued this Family from Torture and You saved others from going through the same. Even in Biblical Times there was punishment. GOD punishes...but there also needs to be forgiveness. I don't believe that you have to "feel sorry" for doing what needed to be done, but you need to realize in your own heart that you did what "needed" to be done to save others. That is the "Good" You didn't shoot in Malice. You shot in Protection. To protect others. That is a Good Deed. You can't turn Evil into Good, unless they want to change and in order for Good to win over Evil, we have to protect.

As far as God letting it happen.....It states all over the bible and in every Religion that I am aware of.. God never Promised life would be easy. He in fact stressed that there would be much Tribulation. The key is to Persevere when faced with Tribulation.
 unicornfan6
Joined: 10/25/2005
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Does Anyone Still Believe and Desire To Live Life Like It Was In The "Old Days"?
Posted: 10/27/2005 4:15:11 PM
Hi all, I have a question that may have already been addressed, but I have been pondering this for some time now and would like some other opinions.

With the way the World and Society are today I can't help but wonder if anyone longs for "Back When" "The Good Old Days"

What happened to the days that Mom took care of the Dad, the house and the kids (also worked outside the home in some cases) and Dad (Significate Other) Took care of Mom, Discipline, Bills, Cars, Yard, and of course Fix everything that Breaks(lol)?

What Happened to Common Respect, Compassion for Others, Honesty and Most Important Faithfulness? Doesn't anyone have Values anymore? And we wonder why there are so many Divorces, Affairs, Abused or Neglected Kids. Everyone uses everyone any more. No one really seems to care about anyone but themselves. What happened to "The Old Days"?
 
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