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Joined: 10/26/2005

Msg: 583 (view)

Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 2/23/2007 6:20:21 PM
looks like it's gone doesn't it ... too bad. it was a nice feature and i stood to lose a bundle of money to it..which translates to winning a bundle of money for flower admin or a reasonable facsimile thereof....

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Well, you be the judge--warning. Posted: 12/24/2006 6:36:59 AM
(for message #27) ...as far as #1 goes - on the other hand it may be because it's too hard to keep up or there's too many disruptive people in there. I'm single and that's the excuse I use because for me it happens to be the truth. ...other than your webcam strategy I don't see how emails, IMs etc are really going to tell you much about the person because of reasons #2-#16. I'd much rather meet tete-a-tete sooner than later because nothing beats the 3-D experience for sussing out all these concerns you mentioned. You get the words and body language and most people are astute enough to feel some kind of gut reaction to this and then go with their intuition. That's just me though. Finally, although it may be more pervasive among men on an internet dating site (and honestly I wouldn't personally make that kind of statement without some statistics) it's not like women are immune to some disingenuous behaviors either.

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delete Testimonial button, et al Posted: 12/13/2006 9:33:22 PM
...sounds complicated. You confessed you always had trust issues so these events cause you to doubt your own gut feelings. The gf incident gives you support for trust issues though, it seems.... I know this is a big pond and all, but that particular incident smells 'fishier' than usual. I agree too - I think it would be negligent and the height of carelessness to 'accidentally' delete a testimonial. If that had actually been the case, when asked if he wanted you to write another - your offer of a fix for his carelessness - he could've said 'would you please, thank you' instead of silence...if he'd wanted a fix for his accident. I think you are fishing for reasonable explanations to invalidate your suspicions - evidently you have strong motivations to find such explanations. What are they? Are they strong enough to excuse or overlook 'accidents' and participation in 'setups'?

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If A Man Wants You Posted: 12/7/2006 6:27:12 PM
my first response was "bullseye." I got an error message saying that was too short. So much for brevity.

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Msg: 531 (view)

Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 11/14/2006 2:24:05 PM
msg 538 ... thanks for summing it all up nice and neat. I think you covered it all in one fell swoop. And good sound advice too: "Just Say No" and move on.

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Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/28/2006 9:40:14 AM
I got an email from one lady to whom I sent flowers that arrived well over a week ago (growerflowers delivered on the day as promised). She says she has been changing the water and misting them and they are just as beautiful as when she first got them. I may be going out on a limb but it sounds to me she's really appreciative of the flowers. Lots of times people's actions say way more than their words. She thanked me again (makes three times she has expressed thanks), and if I may surmise, the happiness they have brought her makes it some of the best money I ever spent. And too, it makes me feel good about myself ... that I was able to do something so simple that has brought someone else a little more beauty into her world. Loads of gratitude to Plenty of Fish for a simply ingenious opportunity to express sentiment with more than mere words, and to growerflowers for the beautiful flowers (my lady friend described in glowing terms the beauty of the flower arrangement "Fall Fields." She knew about flowers and plants and was impressed with the grasses included in the arrangement). I think you guys should pat yourselves on the back for a job well done because you've certainly come up with a winner here. Many thanks.

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Msg: 298 (view)

Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/18/2006 11:29:34 AM
yeah, exactly. Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way.

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Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/18/2006 10:26:59 AM
yeah well I wouldn't send flowers to someone with whom I'd not made any contact first, unless I was pretty sure (how?) that she'd be receptive to the "secret admirer" scenario. And for that mystique to work, it has to come from an anonymous sender. Otherwise it's a major gamble as in..how do you know she even likes flowers?...how do you know she's not deathly allergic?...how do you know she'd not rather have something else - or nothing at all -instead? ..et al. The ones I have sent so far have been well received, but these were acquaintances I've made on here that have lasted several months. The flowers were just a token of friendship, another way to say thank you and other unsaid expressions of appreciation for the people they just happen to be. If I did send flowers to a complete stranger, it would be as anonymously as is possible, without any expectations (of acknowledgement or otherwise), implied obligatons, or hopes of reciprocity. In this scenario, the flowers have to be given freely, with absolutely "no strings attached." Anything else invites disappointment.

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Msg: 265 (view)

Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/17/2006 12:35:06 PM
Well, my ladyfriend got her flowers today and she said they were bee-utiful and she was very appreciative and gave me a big big Thank you .... (not once but twice) ..she said it was a thoughtful gesture, and I'm thinking she liked the flowers very much.

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Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/16/2006 4:54:04 PM
Oh ok yeah msgs 182 and 184 were what I had in mind when I posted the secret admirer thing. Flowers are a gift. They are not an investment in someone with the idea that they will pay a dividend in the future, nor are they given with the expectation of receiving something in return. They come with no strings attached, no obligations and no expectations of reciprocity or anything else. A person gives flowers and usually the person who receives them knows why he or she got them, whatever the reason may be. Maybe the sender just likes to send flowers... maybe it's because the receiver is simply a nice person and flowers are a visual "thank you" for just about anything.

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Msg: 237 (view)

Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/16/2006 11:53:33 AM
..so the way I imagine this working is, after two people have established some sort of initial contact through here, exchanged a few messages maybe, or even been out on a date or two..THEN perhaps if one or the other or both felt compelled they would send flowers. I don't envision someone sending flowers right off the bat, unless it's one of those random acts of senseless kindness (even then, it would be risky.. the person may be allergic or not even like flowers) ... although as has been intimated in a previous post an anonymous "secret admirer" sort of scenario may have romantic appeal to some senders and receivers (me included). ...

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Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/16/2006 8:20:48 AM
Now I stand to go broke sending flowers to the many beautiful friends I've made on this site. Can't think of a better way to bankrupt myself though. Thank you. I've sent flowers to one woman on this site already and she wrote me back to thank me warmly. Waiting with curiosity now to see in what condition they arrive.

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Msg: 227 (view)

Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers. Posted: 10/16/2006 8:03:31 AM
Yes!!! Great idea!! Wish I'd thought of it. What a neat feature for a dating site and (duh) so obvious it has to be a resounding success (wish I'd thought of it). The flower company stands to make a killing. I've used the feature and I'm waiting for the recipient to tell me what she thinks. I'm curious what condition the flowers arrive in (hopefully not dead). Many thanks.

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First of all ......This party was listed HALLOWEEN PARTY Posted: 10/11/2006 6:17:57 PM
maybe next time then.

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Msg: 113 (view)

Be truthful, guys about this one please Posted: 10/11/2006 12:18:13 PM
Depends. Most of the dates I've been on have been enjoyable experiences, just not something I'd want to repeat for any number of reasons. So when asked, "did you have a good time?" Truthfully I respond yes. "Would you want to go out again?" Well... yes, but not tomorrow or the next day. I like to keep up with what people are doing. So a friendly dinner to catch up on events in our lives is always an option. But I am reluctant to say, "only on a friendly basis" for fear of how that might be taken negatively. So I just say "sure." As far as backing out because I might fall in love with her? no. That's why I am going out with her in the first place. We're trying each other on for size to see if there's the basis for a relationship.

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Why is it Posted: 10/11/2006 11:25:18 AM
"why is it..?" ...ummm... still have feelings for her, maybe? Five years is a long time. People come and go. If she's an "X" no matter how you feel it wouldn't have been any good because evidently it wasn't reciprocal.

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Not ready for a relationship right now Posted: 10/11/2006 11:20:49 AM
Right. "I'm taking a break from dating" .. "not interested in a relationship right now" and "I've just met someone and want to see where it goes" are all euphemisms for "I'm not interested in you." No biggie. We all can't be everyone else's cup o' tea.

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Be Prepared. Be Very Prepared.... Posted: 10/11/2006 11:17:46 AM
At the risk of contributing to what seems to have devolved into a "my favorite books of all time" list... I'd have to say anything by Henry Miller out of his "Rosy Crucifixion" trilogy ("Sexus," "Nexus," or "Plexus") ... Miller seemed to have the blueprint for living a hedonistically realized life: Love long, often, and passionately.

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Halloween Singles Party Oct 7th Posted: 10/8/2006 9:03:02 PM
Dixie I would've been honored to escort you to the party.

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Halloween Party Oct 7th Posted: 10/8/2006 3:33:48 PM
..sounds like it was a lot of fun...at least for some people

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I've just met someone Posted: 5/19/2006 4:39:54 PM
Thanks ... but if it is a nice way of saying "I'm not interested" I think I would rather hear "I'm not interested" than some softly fabricated turndown. Just my preference, of course. Once or twice I could understand. But I hear this often (and I suspect I'm not the only guy who's had these words bandied about his ears), and it makes me wonder...just a little. ;-) ... If it is the truth I must have the worst timing in the world! LOL

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"I've just met someone" Posted: 5/19/2006 4:17:15 PM
Ok ladies, here's another chance to enlighten your male counterparts. Is the "sorry, you seem like a nice guy but I've just met someone and I want to see where it goes" a valid reason for turning down a guy's initial contact...or is it (as I suspect) a nice way of saying "I'm not interested"? If it is a valid response ... does it mean that this particular woman is only a serial dater? ... If so, what's wrong with seeing more than one guy at a time?... (I know - that's a lot of questions). Best wishes.

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Msg: 91 (view)

My Favourite Quotes. Posted: 12/11/2005 10:27:32 AM
Love is the only game where knowing all the rules is no help at all. Love is the only game where you can make all the right moves and still lose.

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Everyone else is doin it....I want a thread too lol Posted: 12/10/2005 9:08:07 PM
"Did I tell you about my vacuum?" she said. The other one keeps sweeping. I'm looking for a baking dish, the last supper. She points in two directions. "Thought it was the bag." In housewares, I look into a mirror, trying to make myself small. The sweeper stops to respond. "So what're you gonna do?" "Guess I'll buy a new one." Three bucks plus tax. Epitaph: 43; divorced; alcoholic; bereft of feeling, verve, imagination; dead-ended. It seemed like the thing to do. Gas. The lasagna didn't turn out so well, either. If not for tedium, we'd all live forever.

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Class action against Yahoo Personals and Match.com for fraud Posted: 11/19/2005 4:40:20 PM
...wouldn't surprise me any. Seems as though I too would receive many emails/winks/flirts right after I dropped the subscription.

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