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Msg: 16 (view)

Do you agree with this? Posted: 9/16/2009 9:22:52 AM
Absolutely disagree. For me, aggressive/assertive women are a huge turn-on. Desperation has many forms, but being proactive about trying to find that special someone and not wanting to wait for a guy to come to her isn't one of them. My $.02

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IF you found yourself interested in a woman whose divorce was pending. . . Posted: 8/24/2009 10:40:08 AM
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. And she was my best friend - it ended horribly (aka its been 7 years after the fact and we don't see or speak to each other). The only way for you to pull this off (a sound, possibly healthy relationship) is for you to wait for her to have a rebound relationship of her own. Hopefully during that time 'separated' becomes 'divorced' (note the past-tense). And THEN, maybe, you'd have a shot. The killer is waiting that long - I wish I would have. My $.02.

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How long before he contacts me again and what to do next? Posted: 8/24/2009 10:32:34 AM
Rebound girl? Sounds like some high school bullcrap. There's no such thing to mature adults. Yeah, whatever. You think 'rebound' relationships don't exsist after high school eh? Oooooookay...

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i swear i just want to be friends Posted: 8/24/2009 10:16:13 AM
Deciding to have kids is a dating issue at the ripe old age of 25, huh? Damn, and I thought I was slow! Out of curosity, would you guys be dating if him caring less if he had kids or not wasn't even an issue?

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Msg: 15 (view)

So whats the real truth?? Posted: 8/19/2009 12:23:08 PM
...And this dear readers is what happens when you're married at 19. You've been warned.

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Love and NO Physical Attraction Posted: 8/11/2009 2:02:15 PM
(Blah, blah, blah - stupid 'too short' message)... Yes. Once.

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Why do people feel the need to stray?? Posted: 7/31/2009 2:53:19 PM
Now I'm sure plenty of broken hearted people are reading this going "THAT'S BLAMING THE VICTIM" and in some scenarios (and possibly yours) that may be the case, but I don't think that's really the case as often as people like to believe. I absolutely hate this "victimized" mentality because it de-emphasizes all of one partner's culpability... QFT. All things being equal (i.e. a cheater being a sex addict, has other "issues", etc.) the reason why someone cheats in an otherwise happy and loving relationship means that the cheater isn't receiving something they need - and therefore seek it somewhere else. Typically (for men) this is sex, but is not limited to that... it could be respect, admiration, etc. If you've never heard of Allison Armstrong - she can explain it FAR better than I. She is God's gift to women for understanding men, in my very humble opinion. http://townhall.com/TalkRadio/Show.aspx?RadioShowID=3&ContentGuid=9ece7cb8-63be-47aa-b2ab-8fda379ecf62 http://townhall.com/TalkRadio/Show.aspx?RadioShowID=3&ContentGuid=d6936ae2-624b-444c-ae50-c820f87e7b92

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Asking and being asked Posted: 7/30/2009 8:00:42 AM
The way I asked was to accompany me to a very specific place/time/event. As with everything in life, its all about the details... Depending on what the "specific place/time/event" you asked them to attend could mean all the difference in their responses to your request one way or the other. For example, "Meet me at the local park at 7pm tomorrow" is very different from say, "Meet me at my best friends wedding reception at 7pm tomorrow".

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Guys would you enjoy this? Posted: 7/29/2009 11:25:02 AM
Hell yeah! Where do I sign up?!

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A female cop. Could you? Posted: 7/24/2009 3:21:12 PM
Oh yeah... Be secure all night, take a cop to bed!

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Worst Date. Ever. Posted: 7/24/2009 9:53:05 AM
Honestly? Kudo's for being as civil and brave as you were. F*cking HILARIOUS - but you get props from me for being a good egg in the worst possible circumstance. Look on the bright side, karma should have your back for another situation in the future...

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Ohh i got a good one this time =D Posted: 7/24/2009 9:14:27 AM
Ahhhhh.... I know EXACTLY what you mean. Been there, done that - and its something we guys like to accuse women of all the time. Typically women take a random (often harmless)fact or other tidbit of information and then throw random variables in their head at it and watch all the outcomes (99% of them bad, like you said). Seriously man, it means your projecting. The fact we all do it to some degree is one thing, and men typically file all those outcomes away, then stand back and look at them in a 'big picture' sort of view. You however, seem to be dwelling on each and every 'bad' outcome not the neutral and detatched logic of possible vs. probable outcomes. If 99% of them are bad then theres one of two things happening. You're either: A) Dwelling on the negative so much that you unconsciously doom a otherwise potentially healthy relationship by sheer force of will by assuming the bad things in your head will come to pass, and by extension, you unknowingly manifest said failure (to which then your internal self says: See! I TOLD you!). Or (I should say or/AND) you are simply not seeing the tree from the forest. Despite the new relationship in your life your ignoring her personality and situation in the here/now for all the crap from the past. Despite being very similar to the old relationship, you're completely ignoring the fact that she is new, different, and honestly completely different (despite SOME similarities) from the past. Ok, my brain hurts now - so much easier to SAY this stuff than type it out and have it try to make sense. LOL - anyways good luck - if you continue to not love the more risque women - please send them my way!

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Ohh i got a good one this time =D Posted: 7/24/2009 8:27:32 AM
Boy, thats a real problem to have... I would HATE dating a suicide girl! Actually, I have a few friends that are Suicide Girls/dancers - and I would love to date them (I'm unfortunetly in the 'friend zone' with all). IMO, I could care less what they do (dance, etc.) as long as they are loyal and come home to me. Whenever I meet someone new, they have 'no history' with me. I could care less what they did in their past as long as moving forward with me we can make something work (obviously there are BIG deal-breakers such as STD's, or not genuinely desiring a monogamous relationship). For me its not an issue that other guys might get to see them nude at a club or on the 'Net - like I said, as long as theres a real relationship/emotion involved and we're obviously 'exclusive' then a job is job, a hobby, whatever. Granted, you're a bit younger - it sounds like you have trust issues from your past relationship(s). I would say stop dating until you can get grounded/centered and can see someone new for who or what they are and not project issues from the past to the here and now. If you do, you're just pre-sabotaging a possibly great relationship and wasting your time. My $.02

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Women with guns, turn-off or turn-on? Posted: 7/22/2009 4:41:49 PM
Schwing.... seriously... women and guns do it for me. If a man cant handle that, I'd say they have issues. BIG issues (and not the good kind).

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What is this guy thinking?! Posted: 7/22/2009 1:01:56 PM
And THIS ladies and gentlemen is why I surf the PoF forums on lunch... Priceless.

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What do you think an appropriate response should be if men keep cancelling dates on you? Posted: 7/22/2009 10:56:12 AM
On a side note... I really, REALLY need to move to Ireland.

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what's your perfect man/woman? Posted: 7/22/2009 9:22:52 AM
Ummmm.... lets see... two words, yup, thats all I need. Angelina Jolie

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How should I go about telling her I like her? Posted: 7/21/2009 3:04:58 PM
Obviously, I'm not a chick - but I speak from experience... and I'm at work and I'm bored. Suffer. I'm going out on a limb here and assuming you're not a loser as other posters may have (correctly or incorrectly) implied. If you're actually concerned with a real relationship and not a meal-ticket, read on. Ok man, this is how things are going to happen. So shut up, sit down, and hang on. 1. Do you love, or are you falling in love with this girl? From what you've posted so far I'd say you're already in love weather you choose to 'face' this fact or not. I guess only you can answer that 100% one way or the another. I stand by my intuition. Moving on... 2. Eventually one of two things is going to happen. You are either: A) Going to wake up one day and realize you are SO so so in love with her that you can't stand the status quo anymore and will have to say something to get it off your chest (will get to that in a bit), or B) While you dwell in silence day-to-day, month-to-month about your feelings in the purgatory that is the 'friend-zone', she is going to meet someone, decide to move away, etc. This will force you to proverbially 'sh1t or get off the pot' and force your hand. 3. When this fork in the road comes you either tell her how you feel or you don't. If you don't, you'll regret it - it might be 'safe' for your heart and feelings at the time - but you'll be having major, major regrets years down the road for not knowing one way the other beacuse you never asked. If you chose to tell her how you feel, accept the fact that regardless of how things move on from that point - you won't be 'just friends' ever again. Is telling her how you feel worth the complete severing of all contact with this person? Now I'm not saying that this will happen - just that you are aware it COULD happen. If you're truely in love, you're screwed - how you feel is comming out, like kicking over a rock in the forest - your pastey-white heart will be in direct sunlight for all the world to see (yeah I know, work with the metaphore here). HOW to tell her is completely in your court. I don't know you or her like you do. When in doubt, 'Ask a Girl'. :) Good Luck! Disclaimer: Who knows, I could be completely talking out of my ass. /shrug

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Guy I was out with caressing woman on other side . . . Posted: 7/20/2009 2:46:53 PM
Whats to reply? Not cool. You're not out of line reacting or thinking as you did. Next!

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Do ya think? Posted: 7/17/2009 3:07:39 PM
Hear ye, Hear ye: Babe in the woods comming through! >:)

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Your idea of a nice/se xy outfit . . (guys) Posted: 7/17/2009 3:03:51 PM
When in doubt, as long as its occasion-appropriate (night out, dinner, drinks, etc.) the ubiquitous "little black dress" always works for me... [See specific posted caveats above for eligibility.] :)

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Do women do the same? and with what? Posted: 7/14/2009 8:40:30 AM
Woah. Woah. Woah... There is NOTHING wrong with clevage shots - unless thats all there is to see (i.e. no other pictures of the face, etc.). Any 'man' that laments a clevage shot isn't a man at all. :P WTF? Seriously. If anything a clevage shot (or anything similarly risque) is a perfect indication of comfortability with one's body in my opinion. Can they be tacky and tasteless at times? Sure - but lets not just discount them out-of-hand shall we? Signed, A lover of clevage.

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Have 50's era men become obsolete? Posted: 7/13/2009 1:07:15 PM
The 50's era of men died out when the women's lib movement shut down the Playboy Clubs. Look at the old school James Bond movies with Connery or Moore. Pop culture at its finest. 007's where members of said gentlemen's club - because they were in fact thought of as gentlemen and the "Men" the OP still looks for. A badboy that isn't an ***hole so to speak... Not really an answer, just food for thought by yours truely.

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looks or profile, what attracks you first? Posted: 7/2/2009 3:13:49 PM
Pics, pics, pics... If you all didn't know this already (but SHOULD!) men are visually-oriented creatures - which is why if happily married or otherwise commited we will still always look at other (all) women, its in our genes and biochemistry formed by thousands of years of evolution. That being said, looks alone mean squat when something long-term/permenant is desired. Someone could have the best personality in the world and have the most well-written profile, but there has to be a physical, sexual attraction otherwise personality means nothing - its got to be both sides of the coin (i.e. the complete package). For me, that veeery first initial "Maybe" or "No way" its all about the picture. I check out CL ads as well from time-to-time and don't even bother looking at ads without a picture. I don't know about the rest of you - but I've had a few very promising relationships start on-line (email, phone, etc.) - someone I really click with and vice versa, that came to a crashing stop on the first date (sometimes after months of emails and phone conversations) because they looked NOTHING like the pictures they had posted with their profile (which tend to be taken years ago). I don't consider myself superficial or shallow - I go into any new relationship without a "Laundry List", and without expectations - just hope. To do so would be unrealistic, not to mention completely counterproductive to finding that 'special someone' to share my life with... but I have to be physically attracted to any potential "Mrs. Right" first and foremost! Peace.

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Piercings Posted: 7/1/2009 1:50:15 PM
My Ex had her tongue, a nipple, and her 'hood' pierced (ears go without sayin'). I loved each and every one of them. I have one nipple pierced myself (my only piercing) - and I can testify that they do become more sensitive. (Note to self: Getting nipple pierced in January = bad! Lol) Piercings like tattoo's should be obtained because you want them for yourself and no other reason. That being said, they have sweet sexual side-benefits. :) As to the women that replied previously, they can tell you how more sensitive things become. Its been years since we broke up but for my Ex and I, in my opinion - each piercing was another area of her body to explore and play with - which meant she enjoyed them more as well. :) I especially enjoyed her hood piercing as its weight (vertical bar-bell) was a nice counter acting pendulum to my tongue, it was fun to play with and manipulate which meant I spent even more time going down on her (that I enjoy anyways, piercings or no) and drove her wild. BTW shleyyy87? Unless you wear a thickly padded bra 100% 24-7, your boss can still see your piercings. Obviously I love women with tattoo's and piercings and they turn me on, but I've had girlfriends completely without either (i.e. I could care less as far as my heart's concerned). Its just a manner of artistic expression - but I do have to say its not for everyone (nor do they 'fit' or look good on everyone). To each their own. My $.02

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what does it take to meet a decent woman?? Posted: 11/12/2008 11:47:09 AM
HA! Barbie Doll I do NOT want... and never have. Barbie Dolls seem to have one thing (maybe), and thats looks. But who cares if they don't have a sense of humor or can't hold a conversation about anything more than shopping or celebrity trivia? Yes I'm being sterotypical here, but we are talking about Barbie Dolls after all... Obviously men are more visually inspired, and just as it is for women - phyical attractiveness IS important - but also in the eye of the beholder. Some of my best past-relationships are with women that are anything BUT Barbie Dolls, so I for one have kinda sworn off them - and continue to search for something more Real.

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