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mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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outgoing on the computer but scared to death in real world Posted: 8/20/2006 2:28:04 PM
I agree with #2 also. I mean i will admit i am very outgoing on the computer and extremely shy in person, but i dont disappear from someone due to shyness, only if im just not interested or have someone else i have interest in. hes playing games or lost interest..move on..there are many more fish in this pond.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Can Babies get attached? Posted: 7/19/2006 2:34:21 PM
Wow..this is a big one for me. I too was just like you..not really ever thinking that my daughter would gets ome sort of attachment to any man i was seeing. Well it happened..big time. After one month of dating a guy i decided thta it was time he met my daughter. Seeingas how we were pursuuing a long distance relationship I brought my daughter there with me to meet him. We were together for 7 months. And in those 7 months my daughter fell in love with him, and treated him as a father figure. This happened almost right away because of the lack of full time father figure in her life. Long story short, after those 7 months we split, and for months after she asked for him, and whenever we'd take the train she always thought we were going away to see him. It was hard for her, and probably even harder for me to see her like that. Be very wise before allowing ur child to get attached, make sure its for real, and until then keep the meetings to a minimum. Just my opinion.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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What's the Biggest Age Difference? Posted: 5/22/2006 7:27:54 AM
Hmmmm...for me I was 21 when we met...he was 43...we were together almost 7 months. So whats that?....ummm 22 years difference! WOW!!!....What the heck was i thinking??????????

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Have you lost your own identity? Are you really a parent first? Posted: 5/22/2006 7:24:06 AM
Yes you're are right...the role will change when they leave home, but like you said you will always be the parent in some shape or form. My daughter is the basis of every decision i make in my life...and always will be whether she is at home or out on her own...everything i do i need to consider how it is going to affect her in the end. I have not lost my identity, however who i was before my child has changed drastically, and now im the parent version of my former self.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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What would you think???? Posted: 5/21/2006 9:22:12 PM
We generally speak on a several times a day basis...from thursday evening until this evening...he has had this change of plans and hadnt thought of calling me...its not like him...thats what i dont get.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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What would you think???? Posted: 5/21/2006 9:17:16 PM
Well my cell was dead and i actually used a payphone soooo...i didnt dial wrong. Guess theres my answer huh?

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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What would you think???? Posted: 5/21/2006 8:42:09 PM
I been dating a great guy for a few months now...seeing each other on weekends and in the week here and there. This weekend he was supposed to be away. I was out shopping and was missing him...so i decided to call his house to leave a message on his machine to say that. Only someone answered! I think it was him...i was so shocked i hung up without a word. Now is it possible that it wasnt him. He lives alone...who else would that of been? Why did he tell me he was going away if he wasnt? It crossed my mind...maybe he just didnt want to see me...but why not just say that...id understand. Now im thinking...hmmm who did he meet..what did he do that he had to hide from me? Im so used to being lied to by men these are the things that come to my mind right away. I would of never expected this from him, honnestly! What am i supposed to do?:(

mayababy0714

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Older men dating younger women --- does it work?? Posted: 5/20/2006 2:07:42 PM
I am 22...and my ex was 43...we got along amazingly and had so much fun together. We had a lot in common as well...and he could keep up with me like anyone else. Unfortunately because of the long distance relationship we were having...he had issues with keeping it in his pants...lol!!!! Had he had been able to, I think we could've had a long lasting relationship, because that was our only problem really.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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POF PARTY IN MONTREAL MAY 20th Posted: 5/20/2006 11:07:07 AM
hmmm...ur saying "we"...does that mean ur going Nark? Im sure all these guys are wondering ur decision

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Check your childrens play enviroments... Posted: 5/17/2006 4:03:32 PM
Well i do suppose that a child of three years old could overdose on just a drop...thats all it would take i bet...their bodies have no resistance for something like that...and frankly i dont doubt the truth in this for a second. And well even if its not true...the fact that these things do occur is the point of this thread...its a warning so that if this story is true...or even the OP's post...should tell you that this is no place for a child to play.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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POF PARTY MONTREAL MAY 20TH MONTREAL Posted: 5/10/2006 6:22:03 PM
You talk about nice and down to earth....wow...the way you act i hope thats not ur version of it. If ur gonna be such a stuck up hateful mooooooooooo yourself....stay home so the decent people dont have to hear ur big mouth all night.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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POF PARTY MONTREAL MAY 20TH MONTREAL Posted: 5/7/2006 5:25:17 PM
I am not a size zero nor am i a size 20...im a middle woman with zero respect for people like you. Missshwartz...these forums arent for insults...putting people down to make ur sorry self feel better. Its absolutely pathetic that you were that bored you needed to come on here and say stupid snob remarks, because its quite obvious, ur nothing but a snob with brains as much as her waist size. As for everyone else...enjoy ur party!....and all the GREAT faces you may meet there

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Having a crisis...my 11 yr old boy wrote a suicide note!! Posted: 5/5/2006 4:08:55 PM
Well im up here in Canada...and maybe our schools are different...but when i was in high school it was a ....3 strikes and ur out policy. First was detention....second suspension...then they were expelled! Mind you...in some cases...they should of been expelled right off the bat. If i were you id talk with school and find out what can be done to prevent this from happening to ur son again...with the little or no consequences the othe kid received. Also to prevent this from becoming any other parents nightmare. Im also sure that there would be many parents who would be very interested in joining you in this.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Having a crisis...my 11 yr old boy wrote a suicide note!! Posted: 5/5/2006 3:29:51 PM
My God...your neighbour is so very wrong. By doing that you'll just be teaching him that you need to have expensive shoes and fancy clothes to fit in and be great. Thats not the case in life and he needs to learn that...and not be blinded or affected by what others think. I myself as a child had ALOT of problems with suicidal thoughts. I used to write notes just like the ones you speak of...but not even really for the purpose that most would think...most of the time anyway. Most times it was my way of escaping and telling just what was going on in my head..and telling just how hurt I was...without having to tell anyone....it was my own kind of diary. He needs counselling...that would be a definate help to him...and the support and the love of both of his parents. He doesnt need anyone to tell him there is something wrong with him...that will just make it worse...dont push for answers...dont push to talk about the subject with him too much...he may close up more. I hope things go well for him...and you...this too shall pass.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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untitled still! Posted: 5/5/2006 3:05:31 PM
Not even sure why im posting this.....ehhhh...why not? flashing lights on friday nights and a high that lasts and lasts. passed around to the lost and found in a life that moves to fast. socialize and spread the lies that people want to hear. justify no alibi's and control them with their fear. they say justice is blind? i say justice is dead, down the old rabbit hole and off with it's head! we worship the cruel we laugh at the kind, choose money and beauty not a beautiful mind. we hate without reason we sin without guilt, and these are the values that society built! the sun will set and the moon will rise so life that is born will one day die. in the end all that we have are the people who loved us, through the good and the bad.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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What Do I Tell The Kids Now??? Posted: 5/1/2006 7:32:36 PM
In August I met someone...really...the first person since my daughters father 1 1/2 years prior to that. He seemed sweet...genuine...loving...and all I could of asked for. A few months into it I brought her there to meet him...she absolutely adored him. He didnt live in the same city...so the weekends following that I would bring my daughter with me. Long story short...he was nothing he appeared to be...and only ended up hurting us every step of the way. Then in February when we ended things...my daughter longed for him...im somewhat lucky...shes only 1 1/2 years old at the time and doesnt quite understand what has happened...just that her new found friend was now gone. I learned my lesson big time...from now on...I need to see seriousness from who im with for quite a while before I ever let my daughter get attached like that again. Instead of bringing her down everytime another man leaves. Needless to say....my daughter will be out of the loop of what mommy does for quite a while to come...and its better that way...to just keep her out of it.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Not enough time for a social life? Posted: 5/1/2006 3:34:12 PM
I absolutely agree that is the reason a lot of us use the net for dating. We dont have all the time in the world to go out in bars or wherever to meet people. But even on the net...its not easy for us...because if you happen to meet someone who doesnt have children, they dont realize how much work a relationship entails when spending time together is so difficult. For me....my biggest problem has been men that just dont get it...they dont understand the fact that i cant just up and go anytime i want to. So in all honnesty a lot of them dont stick around very long before they are fed up.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Accursed Depression! Posted: 4/23/2006 10:17:55 AM
From problems in my childhood ive always had problems with depression. It comes and it goes...but its always lurking and always will be. And because of this problem, I have a tendency of sabotaging anything good that ever comes along in my life. I have issues with self worth...im always under the assumption that everyone is too good for me. Take it as it comes...thats really all you can do...because this isnt something that will ever go away...its something that will always be in the shadows ur whole life. And when it comes to relationships..in any relationship its really only meant to be if they can know things like this about you and still appreciate and love you and respect you in the end.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Trust issues... Posted: 4/23/2006 7:10:44 AM
Im not sitting here saying that im alone in this...not even close...because guaranteed most...if not all of you have been through the same heartbreaks with men and women alike that i have...and some worse im sure. But I figured id give coming here to ask for some advice a shot! Im in a desperate search for some advice on how to get past things that have made me so untrusting in the past. The list is long and some of it very painful...and its costing me my happiness. My heart is a closed book...and my mind is constantly looking for anything to make myself doubt. I make myself believe that every truth is a lie...and no matter how perfect you are...youre just like the rest of them. Am i losing my mind? Does anyone have some stories to share with me on how i could get past pushing men away emotionally like this?

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Ortho Evra??? Posted: 4/17/2006 3:20:41 PM
Anyone on here ever been on...or is currently using the Ortho Evra birth control patch?? Stories to share?...good or bad experiences?...is it all it says it is???

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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~ Do You Remember Your First Kiss? ~ Posted: 4/10/2006 5:43:44 PM
Hmmmmm...first kiss ay?....Well i can tell you about my first real kiss. I was probably 14 years old..went to my first real big high school party. An older guy from my same High School...who had a crush on me offered to walk with me home. We got close to my house...and then BAM!!! We both looked at each other and ended pushed up against my neighbours garage door kissing like crazy people. Very passionate...very spontaneous...it actually was nice...we dated a little afterwards...but like all puppy love...it just didnt last:)

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Would you kiss the first time you meet? Posted: 3/16/2006 4:29:49 PM
For me...a kiss on the first date can tell you a lot about the chemistry between 2 people. So i dont see anything wrong with a harmless kiss. I mean mentally chemistry can be there...but if its not also there physically...theres not much hope.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Deep Thr**t Posted: 3/13/2006 5:32:31 PM
Not an easy thing for a woman to master...but tilting ur head back sure helps. And with time...inch by inch..most can become a master deep throater

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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In desperate need of advice Posted: 3/13/2006 11:03:30 AM
Wow..im quite new here and you guys are all really great...wish id thought about asking ur opinions before! I will get it all done...and i will keep you guys updated. Thank you, thank you, thank you..in advance

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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In desperate need of advice Posted: 3/12/2006 5:48:34 PM
Well thank you everyone for some great advice and real words of wisdom Hope that by doing some of the things suggested he finally gets the hint.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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why people don't respond Posted: 3/12/2006 4:33:13 PM
Sometimes people just dont respond because the person sending the email just doiesnt have that unique something they're looking for. Its not necessarily to be rude...or ungrateful to whom ever sent the message. Ive actually received hate mail from someone here because i dint respond to his email. But i just wasnt interested in his profile. Nothing wow'd me ya know.

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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How many 5' women are scared of a 6' over 200lb man? Posted: 3/12/2006 3:40:33 PM
Myself im 5'2"...my daughters..whom mind you im no longer with was 6'3" and well over 200 lbs...maybe even 260 lbs. Im attracted to a man larger then myself...meaning either taller or stronger or heavier..because it kinda gives me a sense of security being with them. Like being my protector or something i guess..lol..stupid huh?

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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69 or seprate oral Posted: 3/12/2006 8:43:00 AM
For me...69..mmm...absolutely amazing!! BUT...........I find it hard to concentrate on giving good oral on him when all i wanna do is moan like crazy..lol

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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In desperate need of advice Posted: 3/12/2006 8:40:48 AM
no..he deleted his profile because of meeting me

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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In desperate need of advice Posted: 3/12/2006 8:04:51 AM
Had my first POF meet with someone. Boy oh boy...help me please. I know the ladies understand this...he was just way toooo nice...ya know sickening nice....feminine nice..lol! Always ..."are you ok"..."im sorry"...."are you ok"...."sorry"...."you seem upset".. Well we had one date...we got along real well, had lots in common and kind of connected i guess. Then we finally kissed towards the end of the night, OMG...such a lack of passion it wasnt even funny...zero attraction on my part. Well i do believe he didnt feel the same as i, because now on his MSN he speaks of me as his girlfriend, talks about marrying me and having kids with me, and has posted my pic as his desktop pic...YIKES!!!!! Im currently avoiding his calls...:(...i dont like to do that..and not chatting with him online either....:( I have never had to break anyones heart before...how do i go about letting him know..that the way hes being is freaking me out like crazy, and that im just not interested...maybe i led him on by continuing the evening after i realized i felt nothing. I dont want to hurt anyone here. Ok im done rambling..lol...HELP ME PLZZ!!!

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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rough sex? Posted: 3/8/2006 5:01:47 PM
Well every woman is different...for myself personally...I like it rough more often then not. I like to feel the extreme passion and intensity it offers. Every now and then a nice and slow session is amazing too but rough is definately my fave. Gimme a hair pull...some gentle smacks on the ass..and shake me up real good:)

mayababy0714

Joined: 10/28/2005

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why.... Posted: 3/5/2006 12:32:54 PM
Well ill tell you...the people we remember the most are the ones that hurt us the most. Ive had a lot of broken hearts, believe me i know how hard it is to let go sometimes, but you just need to find that special someone who will make you realize that whatever feelings you thought you had for this guy, pale in comparison to what really is out there for you.

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