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corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Should have never remained friends...have now lost that too. Posted: 9/19/2008 9:54:27 PM
my friend...i am not sure exactly why but your post has touched my heart....i once was and still am in a sort of a way standing in your shoes...i know you do not believe it at this time but you will grow stronger with each day....feel free to e-maill me if you need someone to talk to.....

corsetsme

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I think my SO's child may be autistic Posted: 9/15/2008 5:54:30 PM
i have no answers for your situation....i do hope someone on here has some advice that will be helpful to you...as the sister to a mentally challenged sibling i feel your concern...good luck to all of you...

corsetsme

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I Didnt get to say goodbye to my DADDY Posted: 9/7/2008 5:35:39 PM
katie...my friend....what I realize from just reading your post is that you have a wonderful heart....so I am sure your dad knew that as well...he was and is proud of that...when i lost my dad i lost the only mom/dad i had... it was horrible...but time helps....and as far as i know time is the only help....trust me when i say that one day you will be able to think of your dad and actually smile...it is one baby step at a time until your heart feels less like its breaking.

corsetsme

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Should I shave or do women prefer the rugged look? Posted: 7/5/2008 9:19:50 PM
whew-hoo on the stubblies!!!!

corsetsme

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Do you wish the worst for your ex? Posted: 6/8/2008 7:10:29 AM
I guess I wish my ex the best...I just do not want to hear about it....

corsetsme

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If you knew you were going to die Posted: 5/21/2008 5:32:41 PM
I would try to finish my book ....i would tell my sister to mail that CD she is holding until that time ,to a certain someone so they would know how they really affected me.... I would make arrangements for my brother to be taken care of...and I would go talk to a certain little girl to make sure she knows how much she has always meant to me.... I would hope to take as many little mini trips as I could and slow down enough to remember to smile....I would throw all of todays worries aside(that in the end would not mean squat anyway) and I would I would live out the rest of my days feelings blessed for the little things....

corsetsme

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How do we find companionship, with broken hearts Posted: 4/3/2008 6:14:04 PM
what can I add to what the others have already said...i feel as if the responses came from their hearts... my first hushand got killed...even though I was not with him at the time of his death ...i drug a dark cloud with me for years after...somedays even now the pain sneaks up on me and breaks my spirit...but we move on one babystep at a time... i am not sure if broken hearts can be fixed because we are all made up differently but i do believe when the time is right you will encounter someone who your heart will just tell you it is time to take the chance...i do not think there is anything you can do to find true love but i do believe it will find you...hang in there my friend...i wish you the best...

corsetsme

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is there faithful or decent men out there Posted: 3/25/2008 5:52:56 PM
you know OP...I like you have always been cheated on, and to be honest I am not sure why as I consider myself to be a decent, fun person...but I am in agreement with the other responders...it is all about choices and looking back, break my heart though it does...I just made bad ones...so here is to us being wiser for it now...good luck to you...

corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Is it cliche Posted: 3/16/2008 2:54:56 PM
wow...would definitely scores points with me...but then again and I am a hopeless romantic....and have been known to give a single fower to a first date....

corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Blame the spouse for being unfaithful? Posted: 3/10/2008 6:36:10 AM
No freaking way...do I blame myself...what gives anyone the right to completely devastate another person....if I was a "B " they had every opportunity to get their coat and hat and hit the door....there is just no good reason anyone should ever cheat on you...

corsetsme

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what if you knew a man who was using a woman to profit himself Posted: 2/27/2008 6:45:58 PM
SunnyTexas....I am not sure that there is anything "special" worth all that

corsetsme

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what if you knew a man who was using a woman to profit himself Posted: 2/26/2008 5:48:39 PM
I would say somehow someone has met my ex husband and yes I think she should told ,but gently, and she probably will not believe you...

corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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happiness for today Posted: 2/24/2008 7:27:07 AM
so before my thread gets deleted...I want to say thanks to those of you who have responded...your answers were surprising ...i expected more along the lines of if only a certain person would only call me...that is why I posted this under relationships...

corsetsme

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happiness for today Posted: 2/24/2008 6:33:51 AM
i have been thinking...what would it really take to make me happy and feel inner peace...and i find i do not know the answer...so.... if there were one thing that could happen to bring you the most happiness today...what would it be????

corsetsme

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Too clingy? Posted: 2/24/2008 5:52:25 AM
run for your life...its been my experiece that this is the first signs of a person with major control issues....

corsetsme

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Anniversaries of a loved one's death Posted: 2/23/2008 6:25:02 AM
I go sit by my dads grave and smoke a cigarette for/with him...and talk to him....i guess it does nothing for him really...but it brings me a sort of peacefulness....after all this time he is still always on my mind....

corsetsme

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Ladies how important are shoes -----Be Honest!!! Posted: 2/22/2008 6:20:07 PM
lol... 85032Luck

corsetsme

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Ladies how important are shoes -----Be Honest!!! Posted: 2/21/2008 5:41:10 PM
this my friend comes from one whose date showed up dressed to the max....excluding those**** green waders yeap...it matters at least to some of us....now if the lugs go with the rest of your dress for the evening...I see no real problem....another story if the rest of your attire is looking jazzy like I bet yours does.....dress to impress...so what...your toes will warm up later....you will not get another chance to make a good first impression

corsetsme

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Relationship endings Posted: 1/31/2008 6:49:22 PM
yes I have...and it hurt so bad...7 years later it still hurts...but it just had to happen...was not a healthy relationship... sadly enough...no one has ever called begging me back

corsetsme

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One night stands?? Posted: 1/31/2008 4:28:04 PM
not judging you...just stating an opinion...first you shut off all contact with him....as in block any future calls...then you sit around and feel bad and lonely...and then imagine how you would feel if it were you who was the wife....I can assure you...you do not begin to hurt like you may have hurt someone else....

corsetsme

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Valentine's Day Posted: 1/31/2008 4:22:03 PM
nope not thinking this will be my lucky year to suddenly find myself , sipping champagne on that bed of rose petals...but I think I will probably go out and get myself a little box of Godiva's just to remind me that I am loved... you guys don't let this holiday get you down.........we are at the start of a brand new year....and please don't settle just so you have a Valentine...

corsetsme

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He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya???? Posted: 1/27/2008 4:40:28 PM
I say she needs to give him a swift kick in the ass........

corsetsme

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Dating a widower...HELP I'm so confused?? Posted: 1/14/2008 7:43:34 PM
the loss of a a spouse is devastating...there are several phases to get through the healing process...a few months after my huband died I felt extreme lonliness and I sought someone to comfort me and get me to a happier place in life...problem was I had not healed enough to really let anyone get close to me...I wanted someone but only at a distance...I do not know for certain about your friend...but I do know that trying to make him closer to you ...will make him push you away....be there for him, but only if you are strong enough to accept the fact that his head nor heart may not be able to love freely at this point...if you cannot do that, for both your sakes ,maybe you should be really great best friends at this time...

corsetsme

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What's your favorite kitchen gadget? Posted: 1/6/2008 4:08:43 PM
microwave.....if I am cooking the dinner bell is always the dinger

corsetsme

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Divorced people stating they are 'widowed'because their ex spouse has died, Posted: 1/2/2008 8:21:42 PM
My question is...how many of you have buried someone >>.sometimes a person is divorced by law but in their hearts they stlll feel very married to the one who died...some of us may have married for life...though the spouse may have only married until someone else came along......

corsetsme

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Opps..unexpected kitchen accidents. Posted: 1/1/2008 4:03:57 PM
in my case the first ooops is that I enter the kitchen...watch out smoke alarm

corsetsme

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Would you rather love and lose or never love at all? Posted: 11/18/2007 8:07:38 PM
leave it to me to have the different opinion...but I would rather never have loved at all...why do people really need to come into your life when you may not be so happy but at least you are not hurting....then here they come...and life is great for a week , a month, a few years, then there you are devastated, and once again picking up the pieces, then history repeats itself...would I ever take the chance again...probably so, I just hope I make better choices next time...

corsetsme

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Should I tell his wife? Posted: 10/1/2007 3:28:49 PM
I hope you tell her but gently...there is not much worse I think that can be done to a person than someone cheat on them....good luck to you though...you will find someone one day that you are not expected to share..

corsetsme

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Is it wrong for a woman (married to an alcoholic) to have male friends online? Posted: 9/11/2007 5:48:04 PM
No... I do not think it is wrong to chat with men and make friends. as long as you tell them up front that you are married, and you do not meet them... what is wrong is that you are still with a controlling alcoholic, who by your own admission is having an effect on your kids.... often times we sit and wait for the alcoholic to change back into those people we fell in love with, most often they do not.... I hope you can find the strength and courage to do what ever you must to make a better life for yourself and children.good luck to you.

corsetsme

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When to bring flowers? 1st, 2nd, ... date? Posted: 9/6/2007 7:48:16 PM
whoo-hoo ...all of the above sounds great to me...

corsetsme

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Do I or Don't I Posted: 10/2/2006 6:55:23 PM
leave it to me to be on the flip side of the rest of the response,,,,but I say do Not do it.... you have a child involved here...a child who at the present has access to both parents on what appears to be a semi stable level.....he has become adjusted to his lifestyle... what now???...the two of you hook up for a few weeks, then she splits again because you find you can still not communicate... you were not compatiable then...what is going to make you so now???? When this does not work out for you two.... where is the child then????more confused and torn than he is at the present.... you two are adults ...you made choices...now I think you shoud live with those choices and look out for the little guy. Just my opionion but someone has to stand up for the little people...

corsetsme

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A Few Messages... Then Nothing... What's Going On? Posted: 10/1/2006 5:49:35 PM
Wow...I hate it for you but at least now I know I am not the only one this happens too....It happens to quite often really....someone goes on and on about how special I am, we talk numerous times on the phone, they cannot wait to meet me, then nothing...not another word, no I am sorry, no get lost, they just put me on ignore... I am not sure why but I think maybe we sometimes are a good way to pass the time until someone else comes along for them...look at the bright side...they did us a favor early on, before we might have gotten more involved...Good luck to you...

corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Good books to help mend a broken heart? Posted: 9/29/2006 1:15:49 PM
There is a site out there called lifted hearts...from there you can buy a really great book...and become a member of the site with links to the forum...there are many wonderful people there who have all been where you are....and will help you get through the rough spots...

corsetsme

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what do women think of guys who are really into football? Posted: 9/23/2006 8:38:38 PM
I can sit through most all of them and enjoy every moment...whew-hoo Hogs...

corsetsme

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How many are in relationships made possible by POF, and how long as it been Posted: 9/22/2006 7:03:44 PM
met him here...liked him...found out six weeks later he was a liar and cheater....nope he did not tell me in person...but he did call me to say hi...then... he forgot to turn his phone off and when he told his friends a few seconds later that he wanted to dump me because I live 90 minutes away, and that he had spent the previous night with someone else I heard it all... it just comes so easy for me to pick such winners

corsetsme

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Do you want the world to know what a jerk he is? Posted: 9/18/2006 6:23:08 AM
In a heartbeat....If I could just spare one person the BS lies I fell for I would feel I had someone a huge favor....I can only hope what goes arond comes around for him.

corsetsme

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Would u Still Help your Posted: 9/17/2006 6:29:35 PM
Not a chance in hell...at least not my most recent ex who I actually met right here on this site... There have been a couple of folks in my past who I have parted ways with who I would still do anything I could for...I guess forf me it depends on the terms of the breakup.

corsetsme

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What do we learn from our mistakes? Posted: 9/15/2006 6:05:43 PM
I learned to be even more cautious, to really think I know someone before I get to involved...The problem is do we ever really know someone or just what they let us see.... Then sadly when the new has worn off of us....we get shown what they really are about.

corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Do you believe that what goes around comes around? Posted: 7/5/2006 11:53:19 AM
I want to believe it but unfortunately it hasn't been proven to be true to me...seems the ones who have done me so wrong are out there enjoying the good life while I am still here putting back the pieces to my heart and head...wonfering WTH is wrong with this picture...I do not especially wish for bad things to happen to them but I would feel better knowing that they have had to pay at least a small price for being cads...

corsetsme

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What is the most disgusting experience you've had on a date? Posted: 6/25/2006 4:18:52 PM
Not sure I can top what you ladies said but here goes... My date(my boss) and I were on a riverboat dinner cruise...along with us were several what appeared to be well to do...(snobbish ) couples....so my date starts partaking of the free alcohol, after awhile , and several drinks later they annouce it was time to go to the cabin for the buffet dinner, at which time he rudely pushes others out of his way to be the first in line...only to stumble and knock over the entire buffet table... After they improvised another meal and we were lead back to the deck... they tried to cut him off on the alcohol but finally gave in to shut him up, he then proceeded to talk ugly to anyone who looked his direction.....followed up by him leaning over the railing and shooting other boaters the finger... At the end of the cruise he had to be carried to his car...at which time he promptly passed out leaving me to lug his drunk tail in the house or leave him in a parking lot all night... And the next day we were back at work...him still my boss, but I no longer his date...

corsetsme

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Hard for me to find some one Posted: 6/24/2006 7:29:52 PM
Hi...First off hang in here...some of us are much older than you, and we still have not found "the" one... Then go back and redo the about me part of your profile...try to change it to something will a little more positive input about yourself, a little more upbeat...take the part out about your looks, because you really are a cutie... Then STOP searching for the one...if we set out on a mission to find someone we sometimes settle...and that can be worse than the being alone. Hang in here...your time will come.

corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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how do u move on when a wife finds out Posted: 6/21/2006 6:45:38 AM
Take it from the ex wife of a cheating husband....do you have any idea of the pain you have caused the mans wife....do you have any idea what it takes of us who were cheater on to get past the pain...the way we feel inside...the questions we asked ourselves about did I do something to cause this...when truth is we did nothing and sure as hell do not deserve what has been cast upon us. And your husband...why do you not leave him...does he really deserve what you have done to him...why not let him go before he to has to feel the pain you are inflicting...it is my opinion that you cannot really love him or you would not do this to him.... There is No good reason for adultery... I actually am a very compassionate person but I feel no sorrow for you.... My only hope can be that maybe someone who is considerig cheating will read your post and reconsider what they may be thinking of doing.

corsetsme

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Why are you single? Posted: 6/19/2006 4:47:19 PM
I wonder this all the time...I did make the choice to be single but only after my ex cheated on me...I stay this way because my heart still just hurts too bad to set me up for that kind of pain again...In a perfect world though I must admit I would rather share this life than go it alone...then again...this is not a perfect world.

corsetsme

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Motorcycle Bike Ride...-what would you wear..or what should you wear Posted: 6/14/2006 6:28:14 PM
jeans, tank, boots.....have a blast!!!

corsetsme

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What is your occupation? Do you find you attract a specific type or occupation Posted: 6/14/2006 4:49:52 PM
I am in retail...I seem to attract the unemployed

corsetsme

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What nationality [ethic background] are you? Posted: 6/13/2006 5:48:46 PM
Not at all ashamed of my heritage and the Adai Indians(which I am) are not yet even a federally recognized tribe.... It is not usually the question that botheres me but the tone and implication of the asker....

corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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What nationality [ethic background] are you? Posted: 6/10/2006 6:38:32 PM
Yes I know the feeling...hear it about once a day, especially here in smalltown USA... quote " I can tell you are not American, You are mixed right???What are you mixed with???" sometimes it comes across as a put down, sometimes a pick up,sometimes people are really interested especially in my native heritage, but for the most part it strikes me as pure stupidity.....

corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Slim, Slender, Average, Athletic, Fit....now what??? Posted: 6/6/2006 3:35:21 PM
You know...here is what I really think....love yourself, be proud of the person you know you really are, accept yourself with or without flawas, as the harsh reality is,,,the only one you can really count on is self..... Tonight I had like 22 post from one person...I have no idea who it was as they deleted their profile after mailing me....anyway the person was really ruthless in the things they said about how skinny I am...admittedly it did cause me to whince for a moment...but truth is... I may not know who it is right now...but one day I will meet someone who actually likes me just as I am...and you will as well...

corsetsme

Joined: 10/28/2005

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got decieved Posted: 6/5/2006 5:30:06 PM
And the landlord of the property did not know you live there????

corsetsme

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How is it that a girl says she loves you, but will be with another man Posted: 6/4/2006 5:55:48 PM
You just do it....put her on ignore. no phone calls, buddy plan etc. ....This would be what some of us have come to know as no contact.... When she sees you are not as available she may start to reconsider not having you as a good ole stand by....but if she does not, you will be on your way to moving on and finding the one who "wants" to be with you.

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