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Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 308 (view)

Single Parents and benefits. Posted: 2/9/2008 4:05:20 AM
But for that woman to have another child if she is on welfare would make me question her motives. Accidents do happen. As for the assistance thing. there is two areas of the `welfare`benefits. Expected to work and not expected to work. So not everyone on assistance is merely making a so called living off of the system. here in Alberta, when a child turns 1 year, the parent is expected to go back to work or school or whatever is needed to get off of the welfare system. And they will try to help you as much as possible. Yes there are people who keep pumping out babies to remain on the system, but who knows what goes on in their heads when the come up with this idea. As for Alberta being debt free...well lets see...major oil here which helps pay down stuff...Welfare does go after deadbeat parents ((and will go out of provience)) to pay their child support and will take the other parent to court to get that money that belongs to the child or children. And guess what, not too often when a court case is won against the deadbeat parent does the person on welfare with the children see that money. It is paid back into the welfare system. The system sees it as repayment to what they have given the parent on assistance. So things do sometimes work out.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 60 (view)

Porn in the house with kids? Posted: 2/9/2008 3:44:16 AM
Personally..I don`t think that porn should be in a house where there is kids... That is just my opinion, and I will raise my kids as I see fit...what other people do is their business, as long as it doesnt interfere with my children. As for the suggestion of locks...sigh I am suprised that no one had mentioned the fact that kids are kids and when they cant get into something, that makes them all the more determined to get into that locked area. So if you `must`have porn in your home...best bet would be to probably hide is somewhere else and keep or away from anything with locks...because no matter what boundaries you teach your child or children...kids will be kids no matter what.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

is this to old? Posted: 1/29/2008 11:26:57 PM
Age difference...well it is kind of creepy, altho I was dating a 24 y/o at 17. But raising and being a teen now is suprisingly different then when I was a teen. From the posts above every one is seeming to upset with the male...well maybe there is more to the story than meets the eye...maybe when they first met she lied about her age. Maybe he did fall in love with her and then she told him her real age...maybe they do genuinely love each other. To forbid her will more than likely cause her to be secretive about anything she does in the future, so I can see moms point, plus forbidding her to see this guy may very well cause her to straight out leave home, in this day and age it is way easier to leave and just disappear until she is legal age. On dads defense...well more often than not...it is a typical father instinct to be upset with this scenario. And maybe he should talk to someone who has dealt with this sort of thing...professional would be better ((they seem to have more of an open mind)). So all in all I would have to agree with a few posts...if the guy isnt mistreating her, and they are happy and everything is going well dont try to forbid it. also agree with the whole get her informed with the use of condoms and pregnancy prevention methods, but what I dont agree with is the we shouldnt be their friends. We obviously have to be their parents ((a choice we made when we had them)) but there is nothing wrong with being a friend as well...I am my boys friend as well as their parent and I have had them come to me many times with some personal problems they were having ((example bullying at school)) and the problem was taken care of. Had I not been their friend as well as a parent...they might have not come to me and spoke out about the problem.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 35 (view)

so cheap that I squeek! Posted: 1/29/2008 11:03:19 PM
Well as for shopping bags in superstore...bring your own, saves .04 cents for each one you use that you would have had to pay for :) Cheap...yup I am so. I shop for my own family, plus I now do my kids schools shopping for the breakfast and snack program and have fully stocked shelves for alot less that I was paying. buying in bulk when on sale helps sometimes even when it isnt on sale too. Example jello puddings were 6.99 at costco got the coupon and saved 2 bux per box. Always look for coupons. another way to be cheap...do a combined grocery trip...if another friend is going to the same place and has enough room for you and your purchases go along and save money on fuel. Meh the way I see it...the less I spend on something just leaves me more to spend on something else :D

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Empathy, Telepapthy etc... Posted: 12/30/2007 2:58:55 AM
Well...All I can say is thank you to those who just described me ((along with themselves)) and I now dont feel like so much a freak anymore. always wondered why didnt like being in crowds in malls or stores and being around alot of people all at once. I guess there is a name for it...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Should A Single Mother Keep Her Bi-Sexual Side In The Closet While Raising Kids? Posted: 12/29/2007 10:55:02 PM
I do agree somewhat with the above poster...but I only personally think it should be kept private until the children are old enough to decide on how they will deal with any backlash that they might receive from so called friends or others. JMO, and good luck with whatever you might choose :)

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Believing in santa Posted: 12/29/2007 1:34:32 AM
As my boys get older, soon to be 12, 10 and 7...I am letting the older ones know little by little since they are appearing to no longer believe in Santa, that Santa is someone who gives to those in need or are forgotten and ignored. In early December, we spotted a homeless older man trying and not succeeding very well to walk and push a cart he had just found and had loaded with some plastic tarps and wires he had picked up. So my middle son looked at me and asked what I was thinking...I told him...well we have some things at home that he could use...so he thought and as we drove him telling me to hurry so we didnt lose him, he started to mention things we could bring him. an hour later, we had found him with everything we had brought for him including a heavy winter coat, brand new socks some blankets and food stuffs that my middle son had said that he thought the man would like...and turns out, the gentleman did enjoy them. he was unable to speak but gestures spoke louder than words and my son and I helped him push his cart to a near by church that served dinner to local residents as my roommate drove my van along us. My son started to understand. it was then showed when we bought gifts for 2 special needs classes in their school 1 toy for each child in the classes. My oldest child is in one of these classes, and he helped me wrap and secretly deliver the gifts when the other students were in music class. the tags were signed to childs name from "?". they accused the teachers of both classes and I spoke to them saying well you know your teachers writing, is it the same? awnser was no, then they thought it was me...I said I drive an old minivan so do you think I can afford to get gifts for each child? but my oldest boy was amazed at how happy his friends were by getting a gift. and coming from him...when he looked at me and said mom, that is the best feeling of keeping a secret I have ever had...I then told him that santa does exist in many shapes and forms...and as for the multiple santas in the malls...well someone has to let the real santa know what the good children want for Christmas... there is too much havoc and chaos in the world...let them believe as long as you can let them...innocence is too short lived.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 66 (view)

Help me help my daughter.... Posted: 12/29/2007 1:06:46 AM
Just let her be herself, natural without fuss...she will come unto her own in time. try to avoid the feminine magazines...they focus too much on appearance, be it amounts of makeup or body structure and such. let it come to her when she is ready...she may very well be one of those girls who chooses to not dress up and wear make up.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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When do you put away the xmas stuff.. Posted: 12/29/2007 1:01:38 AM
January 15th mine all come down after orthodox new years.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Mandatory Winter Tires Posted: 12/28/2007 11:21:47 PM
I think that if you have winter or all season tires on the veichle it is helpful...but I also think most of it is driver. I drove all of last winter with pretty much bald tires on my car and not a small car either and no problems no sliding or accidents...this year I have all season tires and still no problem. But I also dont yap on my cell phone while driving, I DONT drive an SUV or 4x4 and think that my veichle is indestructible or that because I drive one of these things I can do whatever and my truck cant get into an accident or slide or anything like that and I drive anywhere from 1000 to 2500 km per month...Last trip up north seen 2 cars and countless amounts of trucks and SUV's in the ditch. Also the whole standard tranny is a great idea...would take alot of people off the road and leave it alot safer for those who do know how to drive.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Estimating Trick or Treaters Posted: 11/4/2007 4:25:07 AM
Wasnt planning on giving out anything this year. Told the kids not to awnser the door, but to get themselves ready to go out trick or treating...but I had bought candy just cuz, good thing too...by the time we left at 6...I had already had about 40 kids, and some of them started as early as 4:30. And go figure, I didnt even have the lights on either. LOL. last year though, we had about 10 max...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Permission required? Posted: 10/23/2007 7:07:56 AM
Well...As I let my kids read the original post...they walked away saying well that is dumb... I asked them should I stop letting them help me decide in what to make for supper? my middle one gave me a weird look and says no. I asked them should I stop letting them make any decisions and do whatever I think is right all of the time, reply "no", I also asked them wether I was their friend or their mom, their reply "both of course", and my kids are far from unhealthy, unhappy and uneducated...But I guess each parent will decide on what to do with their own children...I personally think with my own children, I will continue letting them "help" me with "our" household. And if the day comes I meet a special someone, they will enjoy him as well.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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how do you go about gentley telling someone their dog needs to be put down? Posted: 10/14/2007 3:44:54 PM
It was a good thing you cared as much as you did...He probably suffered alot less and perhaps less than he should have in the first place. He has gone to be where he can be happy and pain free...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Animal Cruelty... Posted: 10/14/2007 10:19:05 AM
OMG...this is absolutely sick..guy is claiming it wasnt any of the animals he picked up??? well maybe get some of the people who lost their pets to these people to come and id them. or maybe ask the 6 who got their pets returned... Absolutely Sickening. People that do stuff like that should be strung up by their toes and used as stick pin cushions...or something like that.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Dad won't give her medication Posted: 10/12/2007 9:50:23 PM
If it affects her health in any way shape or form...you do have a legal leg to stand on...talk to a lawyer and then if need be take it to court...He as her father should be a little more compliant with his daughters medical concerns...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Need Help with Issue Posted: 10/12/2007 9:44:28 PM
Best friend = priceless Camera = replaceable. You weigh out the pros and cons...she did at least offer to fix it.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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pets Posted: 10/12/2007 9:08:45 PM
depending on how long ago the surgery was and what it was for...could be the smell from the vets clinic. could be the territory thing as well,,best bet...seperate them for the time being...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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DUMB QUESTIONS Posted: 10/12/2007 9:04:13 PM
Someone calls you at home and asks where you are.... Umm I am at home,,,you called me... Oh ya another good one...friend of mines sister looks at me and asks me...how old is your 10 year old? and they call me blonde

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 34 (view)

Do you pull over for a funeral? Posted: 10/10/2007 9:37:14 PM
I always stop and wait for the procession to do its course...although I have been called a few nasty names for holding up traffic behind me along with horns being honked and the infamous dirty looks LOL...guess they have no respect for the dead, so they probably have less for the living, or vice versa...which ever...I have noticed the past few years though that having the lights turned on while in a procession always helps. sometimes some are slower than others or end up being cut off by someone who isnt in the procession...But I was always taught to let the deceased person have their final time on this earth to be a good one...even if they arent here to see it. As for fire trucks, ambulances, and police cars...if they are screaming up on where I am...darn straight I will stop, pull over, or get the heck out of their way...seeing one families car torn in half by neglecting to follow law was bad enough for this kid

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Radiation and cell phones Posted: 10/10/2007 8:47:38 PM
I think prior radiation exposure causes the ones who suffer from using them are easy to spot...they are the ones as stated with them permanently attached to their ears...and are usually the ones driving while doing so. So yes there is definate change in the brain cells...obviously using the phones has made them quite uncapable to use their common sense. I think people that use cell phones and have them on while driving should invest in a hands free set... OT...I dont think there is alot of fact behind the whole it causes cancer and all sorts of radiation ect ect ect...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Did I make a mistake. Posted: 10/4/2007 11:48:11 AM
*Sigh* She is your ex for a reason...maybe you thought you could get along better after the divorce, but obviously she doesnt think so...if she is going to be a hag about anything that crosses her path, even after you so graciously let her stay with you until she got back on her feet again AND bought her a car?... Kick her ungrateful backside out the door...and tell her to make sure the door knob doesnt hit her in the azz on the way out...Dont wait or you are only going to end up more unhappy than you are now. Good Luck

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Was I wrong? Posted: 10/4/2007 11:25:42 AM
As the above posts said...you were NOT wrong in saying no that it wasnt a wise idea. Obviously you have brains where she is seeming to lack them. As for dates...consider yourself lucky that there wasnt another date :)

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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My 13 yr old son, found out his dad is cheating with the married nieghbor, NEED ADVICE!! Posted: 10/4/2007 11:14:49 AM
Ok now you are really faced with an issue ((religion aside))... Your child doesnt want you to let his dad know that you know due to what the end reaction is going to be. But yet here you are on this end of the stick feeling any discomfort that your child is feeling...What to do? Well one could look at it this way and say...well at least neither of them are doing the "deed" inside where the children are ((in either house)) this is at least showing a little bit of respect towards the children... But on the other hand...your child is not feeling good about this and how his father is acting... Only thing I can suggest, and sadly enough this will have to go against your child's wishes. but Talk to the ex alone and tell him it is like this...we are not together and I dont much care who you do...or how you do it. But we have a child who looks up to you, and knows what you are doing and when you are doing it...he hears when the house alarm goes off even if only for a short time, he hears your car alarm go off, even if only for a second or two. So if you insist on doing this sort of thing...dont turn the alarms on if you plan to do the "deed" that night...because if our son knows what is going on, and as time goes on he may very well lose respect for you, and everything you supposedly stand for...Who else do you think that may know? the neighbor on the other side of you two? how long before perhaps the husband finds out? Explain to your ex that the more that it continues, the more respect your child could lose for him. Or at least something along those lines. Also perhaps tell him that your child didnt want you to talk to him about this...and if he tells you to f*ck off...then tell him obviously it is quite clear where his best intentions lie...and it isnt with your son. Best of Luck to you.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Auto Insurance Broker Posted: 9/29/2007 2:16:44 AM
canadiandirect.com no brokers and you can get a free online quote,,my insurance was almost cut in half and no downpayment

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Poor new born baby so sad Posted: 9/25/2007 12:58:09 AM
Is the baby a preemie by chance? that might count for the small brain size. as for the bruises...I am under the assumption that it was a natural birth? my middle one came out and his entire head and shoulders were purple. As someone stated...womens pelvic areas dont always work properly. and this will happen...Might I ask though...how do they know the babies brain is small? by the circumference of the head? And as for the family..they need to get their heads out of their backsides and realize there is a special new angel they need to focus on, instead of their own ignorance... Also there doesnt need to be any alchohol or drugs involved for a baby to be deformed...one couple I knew had to abort their child at 7 1/2 months...she went for her first ultrasound and every single organ of the babies was on the outside of its body...And they were super careful about everything she ate or drank and no meds whatsoever while she was pregnant... Sometimes...Nature can be incredibly cruel

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Opinion... Posted: 9/25/2007 12:52:02 AM
I used to think that my child needed me 24/7...but I soon found out different, I was getting worn down from now me time..and my mom used to kick me out of the house to go have coffee or visit or even go to the bar...Just as long as I had me time...I found that once I started doing this...yes I missed my kids, but I also felt alot better the next morning when I woke up and was feeling way better about things...and I was always reachable... I think that your friend should just ignore this remark and continue what she is doing when her kids are with their dad...for heavens sake she carries a cell phone and from the sounds of it...when her kids are away...I dont think that there would even be a chance of the phone running out of battery life... Moms and dads do need adult time...plain and simple...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Boys and puberty Posted: 9/25/2007 12:32:45 AM
Wow I thought you were spying into my house LOL. my oldest will soon be 12 and he hasnt encountered the first zit yet...no interest in girls yet and the uphill battle with the showers and hygiene issues...I am almost thinking...just keep on him about the showers, minor smells of pit stick and taking care of the skin...cuz once those axe and tag smells come in....I fear for you... and I have to go through this 3x Good Luck to you

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Helping an Ex-wife in need. How far is too far?? Posted: 9/21/2007 9:47:01 PM
If you guys divorced 15 years ago, and you still get along...why not let her stay with you for a little while? You have stated that you have no romantic feelings for her any longer. So if someone were to come along in your direction...and they dont understand that you are helping an ex who remarried through a rough time ((another divorce)), then they might not be very caring and are a little insecure perhaps. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a good friend to someone who obviously you get along with after being divorced...too many people dont get along after divorce...But if you are thinking of a certain time frame of letting her be there...maybe just until the divorce is finalized. Good Luck

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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false accusations of child abuse Posted: 9/21/2007 8:57:56 PM
hmm as alot of people have said...document things. and I would ask your daughter if in fact she knows what her dad said to the police. if she does..maybe she should have a talk with the attending officer since they never spoke to her in the first place. Then...get a lawyer...this is crazy how she says she is mad at you...and he says you abuse her? well unless he considers grounding from frivilous things ((computer, ect)) as abuse...law states those are not nesessities of life so doesnt seem like you are abusing her at all... good luck

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 70 (view)

why cats? women love them, why? Posted: 9/11/2007 9:49:13 PM
The old wives tale about cats killing babies...is highly over rated...what it is, is that the cats can smell the milk on the babies breath and will try to stick their heads down into the mouths of the babies...but strangely enough I had cats when I had all of my babies and the cats were more concerned about the amount of noise the babies made and ran for their lives. I love both cats and dogs, and am allergic to em ((developed allergy)), but I refuse to not have cats, an can totally see myself becoming a crazy cat lady as I age. I have cats and a dog...cats are way smarter, they dont chew everything in sight ((yes the dog has chew toys and rawhides and other misc chew things)), they are way cleaner, only use the provided litter boxes. dont sit at the table and beg or get under foot when trying to cook. cats are loyal awesome companions that as they might only want attention when they want it...but it is worthwhile. you never have to worry about them two facing you either LOL. I do have one cat that will come along on the walks with the dog, and is incredibly smart...he prefers to use the toilet or outside for his duties. And my cats are way tidier than the kids are. and their catonalities can be very amusing at times...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Peanut Allergy? Posted: 9/11/2007 9:15:35 PM
Get him in to the medicenter or your own family physician pronto. a really good allergy specialist here in the city is Dr. Lee he did myself and my boys, and since Alberta health care doesnt cover the cost of the allergy testing he is very cheap as well...15 bux. or perhaps your medical coverage will cover the cost. Either which way get him in, and as for the dayhome...it must be tight...they workers are not suppose to have more than 6 children including their own. I would definatly be looking into that one...as one poster said...if they have that many children, how can you be sure they are giving your child adequate care. And it wouldnt be a good idea to give your child any of the three things mentioned above until you have gotten the testing done.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 19 (view)

What would your reason be for not kissing your bf? Posted: 9/9/2007 2:57:46 AM
Maybe she doesn't like saliva....

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Do punk goth skater posers turn you off? Posted: 9/6/2007 9:17:38 PM
Not all people who label themselves hang out with a certain "crowd". I am the only one of my friends who is a metal head. Thus being true to yourself and standing up for what you believe in, not just because everyone else is going one specific way or a certain type of clothing is cool.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Do punk goth skater posers turn you off? Posted: 9/6/2007 8:33:56 PM
I personally find it silly that people would pay x-amount of dollars for certain clothing...have you seen the price of skater clothing??? 80 bux for a tattered and torn hoodie :( Am I turned off by people labeling themselves as a punk or goth or skater or whatever? yes and no...I am a metal head and proud of it. but ones who simply say "i am a punk" or I am goth or emo or something like that, it does p!ss me off since these are actual lifestyles to those who are true to them...not something simply for fashion, or for the sake of trying to be cool, or in or whatever they call it now. JMO

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

Personal hygiene Posted: 9/5/2007 1:06:32 AM
first date...11 never mind a 10...nothing like getting a bad first impression. if someone approaches me in a bar or something and it is crowded, I might go as low as an 8, since people are dancing and sweating (((ewwww))), and stuff like...but for petes sake don't douse yourself in cologne to try to cover up what a shower could easily clean away....brushing the teeth is always a good thing too...But if you just got off work or something like that and have to stop at the store to pick up supper, and the job is a physically demanding one, an perhaps it is very very very hot outside...if you walk up and say hi and have the b*lls to ask me out...then I might accept that, but to show up you had better be at a level of an 11

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Don't want children? Why? Posted: 9/5/2007 12:50:34 AM
Well...I am in my 30's and have 3 kids...but to do it all over again....I wouldnt have kids. At least at this point in life, I wouldnt. there are too many things to deal with concerning the kids that would make me decide against it. Always having to worry about the kids getting in with the wrong crowds and getting themselves into trouble or worse off, killed or seriously maimed. Companies raising the prices of things just because they know you NEED these things for the kids. Trying to raise kids properly when other parents around you dont give a hoot as to what their kids are doing to others or themselves. Seeing people pop out kids just to get money from the government (( I see that one ALOT)) I give kudos to people who choose to not have kids, as there are loads of children brought into this world who didnt ask to be brought into it, that dont have families...if someday you want to have children, and dont mind that it isnt your DNA...Adopt. I also give kudos to those who choose to have children and are raising them to be proper young adults to whom we are handing over our world to.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Just Curious Posted: 9/4/2007 11:25:45 PM
Nope garenteed you arent the only one suffering from kindergarten blues... it still happens to me and my baby just started grade 2 today. some kindergartens will let you come in and do a short visit if you feel really upset...or even let you help out for short periods... my oldest I was a basket case...second one wasnt too bad cuz I had a baby at home...last one..worse case scenario than the first. But then my boys school has been really good about me popping in and checking on them...I also do little chats with their teachers about how they are doing in school as well....so kind of a selfish but not so selfish action on my part...plus the boys like to see mom show up every once in awhile. Good Luck to you

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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Corrupt Child Protection Workers Posted: 9/4/2007 11:19:52 PM
Oh h*ll ya...single low or lower income parents are constantly being called on...well around where I live and where I used to live ((far from higher classed areas)). As I have had extensive run ins with Child protection or child welfare ((which ever you want to call it)), I was informed by the one case worker I did have that they receive many many malicious calls per day, and as wrong as they may be, the agency is still obligated to do an investigation. I got called on while living where I am almost 40 times in a 2 year period. 3 calls were within a time frame that my children were not even here. The do however can be of assistance. My oldest child is special needs and no one would listen to me that there was something wrong with him...finally when CW got involved, I manged to get on the right track to find out if in fact there was anything wrong with him. I was correct in assuming that something was wrong. I probably would have still been fighting to get something done had they not intervened. During the next 11 months of having CW involved...I got called on quite a few more times. Which the CW worker told me about but didnt bother to come and investigate since they had paid for a parent aide to help with my eldest son. and the parent aide would have seen these allegations as if they were true or not. many calls were that my kids had no food ((the parent aide did take me shopping weekly)) and she seen what I spent, another one was about using a restraint hold on my son that the parent aide herself had taught me. another was my blinds were never opened, another my children were never outside ((explain the tans)), and the list goes on. Some friends of mine live in another lower income area, and she wasnt so lucky...her son had clothing, food, and she was an awesome mother to him...an ex roommate was kicked out of her place, because they refused to stop doing drugs in her home...they called and unfortunately her child was taken away due to the ex roommate and her friends saying that everything was true about her being an awful mother. Unfortunately...the children that are abused are rarely taken away, and the ones who shouldnt be usually are...not always though...kind of like a catch 22...these people come into your home and are only given what they are told to go by...so they have to use their own judgements on wether or not the child should go. They unfortunately are only human and do make mistakes too...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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New Coffee Location - Edmonton - Wednesdays - Ongoing Posted: 9/4/2007 10:57:11 PM
Knowing the regs that attend coffee...you just might wanna have some form of an escape route if you are not strong of heart and mind

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 28 (view)

Grey - is it in or out??? Posted: 8/30/2007 9:09:57 AM
Grey hair equals age????? old???? Umm dont tell that to my 11 year old son who has had grey hairs since he was 8. We used to put blonde streaks in his hair until he finally said I look good with my grey hairs mom...so no more dye... Personally...I think grey when it isnt blotted ((for lack of a better word)) is very attractive. for example Sean Connery...he was not good looking at all when he was younger with his dark hair...now that he is older....would have to admit he is much better looking.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

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What is in a name? Posted: 8/30/2007 9:02:32 AM
My oldest boy was named after my deceased brother ((he died at 4 days old))...kind of something special for my mom. I was never suppose to have kids, and always liked the name Damien Jordan. so when I actually found out I was having one, and then on x-mas eve found out it was a boy I changed the first name to Darryll, and then called my mom telling her it was a boy and the name I had picked out. Second boy we have just moved and I was unpacking at 3 am and looked blankly at the stairs and the name Ashton just popped into my head, so Ashton James was that one ((I already knew it was a boy)), and my last one ((another boy)) I figured since he really shouldnt have happened due to measures taken, was some kind of blessing and named him Christian Jonathan...

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 8 (view)

Would you date someone who is pregnant? Posted: 8/30/2007 8:52:25 AM
I dated someone when I was pregnant with my oldest son, and I personally...wouldnt even consider dating when pregnant again...How someone can feel that they would want to date when pregnant is beyond me...but then again that is just my personal opinion...I do agree that there are other things to be done and considered when pregnant.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

A friend's issue Posted: 8/29/2007 12:30:32 AM
Hmmm together for that amount of time, he says he isn't ready to marry, But then decides that now is the time, but keeps telling her no wedding. So now we have a girl who has been with this guy for 12 years, has lost both parents, his family doesn't like her, and he wont marry her. Well isn't that a pretty picture for a low self esteem? After the loss of her mother she changed as a person... but after his loss what did he do? he acted out he chose his own route of dealing with HIS pain through recklessness. People do not always act the same when faced with a loss of a loved one, be it through death or break up, or anything like that. I do think from what I have read, she does truly love him ((or perhaps as much as she is capable of loving someone)), but also perhaps her self esteem was blow to bits in the time they were together. So she leaves on a trip and does something reckless, which she could have been trying to prove something to herself only. I don't condone cheating by any means. but pain makes people do different things. And after 12 years of perhaps her thinking "I am not worthy of being married to him in his or his families eyes" despite loving him or not. Who knows what was going through her head? I think they should sit down and have a talk, just them, no one else, no family from either side, and see what THEY as a COUPLE can come up with. It isn't up to the posters in the forums or either one of their families to decide what they should do. My suggestion is, to only suggest they sit down and discuss their issues between them, and no one else. I wish the best of luck to them both.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

Are women / young ladies reptiles (cold blooded) Posted: 8/29/2007 12:03:15 AM
Yup Lass has it right...we basically have 6 months of winter here, so we gotta soak up that sun on the rocks that have warmed up nicely and use it to our advantage. I much prefer the cold to the warm though.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

Too fat to adopt? (news story comment) Posted: 8/28/2007 6:28:01 PM
This is just wrong...The system lets these "fat" people foster this child for a year ((give or take)), The "fat" father has a job doing physical labor ((which requires physical movement)), and now some judge who thinks he/she knows it all, rips this child whom has been with this family, and more than likely was a healthy happy child who was adjusting to the new family they were given to. Now is back to square one...back in the system, more than likely feeling unwanted, and very unhappy, not to mention the family who had grown to love and treat this child as their own. Some people shouldnt be allowed to adopt...to name a couple...Angelina Jolie ((she jets all over the world doing this and that)) among other things, real stable for those children, and Madonna. well darn, she cusses worse than a trucker, and he kids going to grow up and see that their mom acted like a well..you get the point. This family should be allowed to adopt that child, they were doing no harm to the child, gave a homeless child a loving caring home. as someone said, if an adoptive family had a deaf member, well they shouldnt be allowed to adopt, or if they smoke, drink, ect ect ect ... This guy obviously wants this child back if he is willing to go under the knife just so that he can try to adopt this child into his family and make it whole again. I would definately appeal it. The whole decision was definately not right.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 4 (view)

FRUGAL USES OF FABRIC SOFTENERS Posted: 8/28/2007 3:15:00 PM
One of my friends uses dryer sheets on her heat registers, it catches the dust from going down the vent and makes the house smell nice too.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 5 (view)

Spend Free Week ... Posted: 8/26/2007 9:47:14 AM
Oh man this sounds like an awesome idea...I think I am gonna try it...now just if the van decides to cooperate, I should be all good... Thank you for the awesome idea :D

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 19 (view)

Vista p***off Posted: 8/26/2007 9:33:58 AM
I despise vista, and just got two dell computers with them, as for future shop, Have a friend who bought one from there, along with a printer, computer went pfffttt and they were of no help. Same with her printer. She said never again. I dont mind going to FS if it is for something minor like cd-r's or something like that, but definately not for a system. Sorry to hear about your bad luck with FS Oh ya there is also avast for antivirus, it is free and I haven't had any virus issues in the entire time I have used it.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

Is she for real? Posted: 8/21/2007 9:19:14 PM
Hmm maybe have him go along with her for the next ultra sound, but one never knows, My one g/f was 2 1/2 months preggers and she loooked about 5 mind you it was also twins, and she was the first on either side of the family to give birth to twins...so it is possible she is telling the truth. And with my middle one I looked bigger and father along than I was...mind you I also gained 75 pounds that pregnancy... So my best suggestion would be to go along on a trip to the lab when it comes time for an ultra sound...if she is getting that big that fast, her doctor will want some form of ultra sound done to see if there is something else going on in that belly of hers. Best fo luck to you and your brother both.

Arcane Twilight

Joined: 10/28/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

Parental Advice Needed Posted: 8/21/2007 9:14:05 PM
The bedtime thing can be done different ways, and it seems from above posters, you are not alone. mine used to sleep with me as well, and CAS ((which I assume is along the lines of child welfare)) cant take you kidlet away from you for that. as long as they have their own beds and rooms, the child can continue sleeping with you. he is still a baby for the most part. Mine still occasionally crawl into bed with me and the youngest is 7. I did do what some of the above posters did, with the reading stories in their beds and such, I also as a reward for them sleeping in their own beds would do a weekend camp...they could come camp in moms room on a weekend. As for the potty thing, My youngest used to be like that with the refusing to wipe thing. I used to get him those flushable moist wipes for kids, sometimes when they dont know how to wipe yet, toilet paper will stick to their bums and they dont like the feeling of it. try using the flushable wipe for kids((they seem to enjoy the cool colors on the containers)). might help with the wiping issue. Good Luck

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