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Thread: If I contacted Intimate encountered people
Revilors
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If I contacted Intimate encountered people
Posted: 10/15/2012 11:35:04 AM
Why are you messaging women having not took the time or efffort to even read their profile? Answer........because a handful of "get me by" Miss Right Nows cant possibly hurt along the path of Miss Right.......RIGHT?
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Where is your motivation men?
Posted: 10/14/2012 7:15:22 PM
People write books and publishing houses sign contracts with authors for topics that will SELL. I don't totally discount learning from books, but you can't understand ALL men or ALL women by reading a few books.
You wouldn't buy the book if all it said was "no two people are alike"...would you?
If you want something/someone you need to take part in the process. If I were to be "viewed" by a gal on here...my conclusion is...if they were interested...they would message. I'm not going to bother someone who has ruled me out so much as to not trow an introduction out there.
Besides...the fine line between romantic pursuit and stalking lies within the level of attractiveness the prey holds towards the hunter.
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Messages: Intimate Encounter
Posted: 10/7/2012 6:52:15 PM
The filter in and of itself is a resolution to a longtime problem and in response to overwhelming requests to have it in place. Some of us are looking for a meaningful relationship and prefer to avoid those that will either place their member in any random place....or someone that will allow the placement of random members.
FYI...it is not just a one time accidental messaging of ONE person. You trip the filter when you make it a habit.
And you are being blocked only by those women that don't want you to be messaging them. It's not the site.......it's the members. Perhaps you can talk all of them into removing their filter so you can message them.
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Dating more than one person ?
Posted: 10/7/2012 6:59:40 AM
About the only things you can determine after a couple of dates is
1. Is there physical attraction
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2. Do you want another date to see where it might go
I'd say after a handful of dates and the sealing of the physical deal your reaction would be reasonable. But...most likely she was already committed to the other meetings/dates. Why are you pizzing and moaning over her having choices and apparently (at this time) has chosen to further things with YOU? I hope you met her IRL so she cant follow your threads. She may just go with door number 2.
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Female Friends' Drunk Behavior
Posted: 10/3/2012 6:40:10 PM
Why are you peeling her off anyone?
Plus one. It's a good thing you're willing to drive...it keeps your stock at a "hold" level.
I didn't hear you mention how that poor guy was struggling and screaming for assistance. Maybe I missed that. I remember YOUR behavior back in jr high and high school when a gal attended her first keg party and all of her friends sought out all the drama.
My suggestion is...find yourself some friends that align themselves in the same direction as your moral compass points. Alternatively...find yourself a girlfriend that's a non-grinder. Friendzone...you've elevated past big brother and right on to "who's their daddy" (not in the good way).
You are not obligated to chaperone the party girls.
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Why do men message for intimate encounters, regardless of a woman's profile?
Posted: 9/18/2012 5:46:03 AM
Odds. Odds are that if they ask EVERY woman for sex they'll have a better chance of getting it than if they only ask a couple.
I prefer asking the same woman thousands of times. Odds are...I'll wear her down sooner or later.
Back from Washington!
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messages for intimate encounters
Posted: 9/18/2012 5:43:23 AM
Odds. Odds are that if they ask EVERY woman for sex they'll have a better chance of getting it than if they only ask a couple.
I prefer asking the same woman thousands of times. Odds are...I'll wear her down sooner or later.
Edit:
Oops! Sorry for the road trip...thought this was AAG
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how do you decide to put average, athletic, etc in the profile
Posted: 8/21/2012 6:38:16 PM
Forget about the drop down or check box menus. Choose those that are of your perception of self...have plenty of photo's that show yourself and allow the beholder his/her perspective.
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privacy in a relationship??
Posted: 8/21/2012 4:36:03 PM
There are things that should not be shared if we are talking about absolutes here.
"I'd do him if we weren't dating"
"Her azz is way nicer than yours"
I also don't need to know everything my gal is up to 24/7. If I ask...it's because I'm interested in her...not her whereabouts. My assumption is that she is conducting herself in a manner consistent with our mutual understanding of our relationship.
If her finger poked through the toilet paper...I'd rather she keep that a "secret".
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Should Religious Believers Be Forced To Pay For Private Schools While Non-Believers Get It For Free
Posted: 8/21/2012 3:19:05 PM
I'm sorry....I thought we were having a serious discussion.
I will only touch upon a few of the ridiculous.
I use cash, coins, checks, check and credit cards. Occasionally online payments. IF...I was offended by the word God on currency...I don't have to look at it and nobody is forcing me to recite "In God we trust" when I get my big gulp at the gas station.
You have somehow labeled me among those that are non religious and offended by the word "God". God, Jehova, Buda, Lord, Elohim, El Elyon,El Roi, El Shaddai, Adonai, Yahweh-jireh, Yahweh-rapha, Yahweh-mekoddishkem, Yahweh-shalom, Yahweh-sabaoth, Yahweh-raah, Yahweh-tsidken....I'm sure I left many out. I'm not offended by any of them will accept any legal tender bearing same.
Why is it that only atheism is the religion permitted to be taught in schools? Isn't that in and of itself a form of bigotry?
If atheism is a religion...then I lettered in NOT playing football and played air drums in the marching band.
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Should Religious Believers Be Forced To Pay For Private Schools While Non-Believers Get It For Free
Posted: 8/21/2012 2:45:22 PM
Igor, my post is not ignoring things, it's the opening to a discussion. A specific quote of someone stating that those who want religion in school should pay for their kids to go to private schools, if that is true isn't it fair to say that those who do not want it should also be placed on the same level playing field?
There are venues where people are free to express their religion without prejudice. Some names for them are churches, temples, mosques and so on. There is no shortage...and most do not charge a fee.
An education is mandated and provided by the government. Religion has nothing to do with government and has no place in it. It certainly should not be forced upon anyone. On the other hand...if there was political lobbying or calculus going on in church...I can take my ball home or to another church.
Why is it that those who want their children raised in an environment that coincided with their religious beliefs, regardless of the specific religion, must pay additionally on top of their taxes for that right while those who want no religion of any type in school get to scream it's a violation of their personal constitutional rights, have all semblances of it removed, and not have to pay an extra dime?
Again...everyone has a "choice". If you feel your child needs more of your religion than Church, Sunday School, retreats etc...then that is your "choice" to provide it to them. Take them to the 8:30 and the 11 o-clock service and MAKE them get involved with the church. You can even "choose" to send them to a private religious school. But...every entitlement comes with a cost. I'm not paying for double the homeroom teachers so kids can say Hail Mary for one minute. Save that for the final seconds of the ball game. If kids want to pray at school...they are free to pray at school. It's only meant for one set of ears and need not be public.
Any way you look at this...we are talking about the difference between "forcing" religion (and possibly a specific one) and providing it. We have the right to a religion, our religion or no religion.
Now...do you think they should "pray" from the Bible, the Quran, Torah...or did you have something else in mind for EVERYONE. I would not be cool with someone teaching a religion that contradict or undermines mine. Religion is too diverse to represent everyone in public school. At least not by 3:15 pm.
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Facebook and Pressure
Posted: 8/21/2012 2:31:26 PM
There is only one (good) reason to get married.
Hint???
It has nothing to do with peer pressure, procreation orprecocious stones and metal.
If you want to stay on the high side of the 50%....get married for that ONE reason.
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Should Religious Believers Be Forced To Pay For Private Schools While Non-Believers Get It For Free
Posted: 8/21/2012 2:18:52 PM
Now, my personal stance on this subject is that if a non-believer feels that those who want religion in school says they must pay for private schools to have it, which incidentally is and has been done for decades if not longer, then why can the shoe not be forced onto the other's foot and force them to pay to send their kids to private schools that do not mention religion?
Why don't we let those on public assistance have private hospital rooms with catered meals and a side of liposuction? Because it's being paid for by public funding. We'll give you what we'll give you. If you don't like it...take your business elsewhere.
There are other private schools besides those that are religious. I went (and paid for) a private school that was supported by a religion and had to wear slacks, button down shirt and a tie. Took four years of required theology classes...attended a religious service daily...or at least on those days I was caught in the student center during them...and ate whatever they served for lunch. I knew all of these things before I wrote the check.
If you don't want to dress as a clown and sing show tunes in the hallway...find another school that does not require it. Or...attend one of the many government funded schools offered to you just for being you.
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I just don't understand
Posted: 8/21/2012 1:53:22 PM
What do I do....treat them with love and respect. Well it always seems no matter how much love and respect you give them it is either not enough or they can't handle it.
No way in he11 are you losing out because of "love and respect". I buy that no more than it's because I bought the best cut of meat and it still burned on the grill.
Stop looking a "love and respect" as a quantity or a gift and learn ways to express yourself in a manner that, not only attracts...but also retains interest in what you have to offer.
If you bake the same damn cookies for her as a way to show your love...she's going to become nauseated with you and your cookies. Try Keylime pie for a change.
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What you've learned about online dating after 90 days...
Posted: 8/21/2012 1:37:37 PM
Take a guess as to who found it funny and who found it offensive? I bet you guessed right.
I'm guessing the ones you found desirable found it offensive and those that were not (desirable in your opinion) found you hilarious. Lest those 50 "pearls" be ever present in your profile. Your logic and wisdom would otherwise be in question.
It's amazing that the OP has been able to discern the flaws with the overwhelming majority in terms of THEIR motives and ways of thinking. It made perfectly justifiable sense to his own. "It's not me...it's everyone else that have driven my own lack of success".
I hear you...bro's...I see you...and I feel you.
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What you've learned about online dating after 90 days...
Posted: 8/21/2012 10:38:31 AM
1. Your perspective...a negative one at that. Is she really "unattractive" to you...or the least of the group...from your prospective?
2 Again this is a matter of perspective. What difference does it make when they provide a photo?
3 City girls are looking for azz hats then? Guess I'm a "country" guy...I'm not attracted to vicious beasts.
4 I'll give you that a profile exclusively of animals is odd. It's a good thing you have the ability to ask for a recent photo.
5 Mysterious...public figure...stalker ex husband...whatever the reason. Don't want to give out your number...set up a hotmail account just for such things.
6 Rarely had that issue. But...I've never responded back..."are you really average or are you fat"?
7 I asked Markus to remove the gun to my head so I wouldn't be forced to visit that page.
8 They may have checked your profile out first. Not being mean...but I visit profiles before responding. Maybe they weren't interested enough to respond.
9 Which is why many don't respond.
10 You feel everyone should take a break from faith? OK
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What does cd stand for??
Posted: 7/24/2012 4:46:10 PM
Cd=Franks and Beans
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A Man's Courage
Posted: 7/24/2012 4:31:49 PM
I'd like to believe I'm the kind of person that would protect another at personal peril...turn in a large found cache and always conduct myself with integrity.
Thankfully...I've never had to risk my life (not really) for another. Unfortunately...I've never found a bag of money.
All I can tell you is that I usually put my cart back and inform the teller of over changing me. Beyond that...I really can't tell you what I would do in the face of unusual circumstances. We're going to have to wait and see.
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in need of some serious advice...
Posted: 7/21/2012 8:19:40 AM
But I don't like bang his brains out..
My post was actually basted in sarcasm.
Truth....he's thinking with his other head and is not considering for a moment how this will affect the relationship WHEN he moves on to the next desert in the showcase window.
OP...surely IF there was "relationship" ingredients between the two of you...that cake would have baked years ago. He would love to have his cake and eat it too. Have a slice...if you wish...but know it's homemade without preservatives and comes at a "stiff" price.
Pun.....intended.
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in need of some serious advice...
Posted: 7/21/2012 5:25:27 AM
he simply needs to get laid..bang his brains out and problem is solved..lol..
It can work if you follow the rules....
1 No kissing
2 No phone call the next day
3 Spending the night is optional
Almost worked for Jerry and Elaine.
Looks like your eyes are wide open. Do what you wish. You know you will anyway so having a bunch of strangers validating or invalidating it is just an exercise of futility.
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Is Metal as a turn off?
Posted: 7/15/2012 8:58:44 AM
I have friends that listen to country music. I tolerate it because I like them more than I do my favorite choice of music.
Country music fans...take it easy on me now. Just not my favorite. When they ride in my car or visit my home...they tolerate my choice in music.
If taste in music is a deal breaker...you really didn't have that great a deal.
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What would you do?
Posted: 7/15/2012 8:48:54 AM
GUYS: You dumped a girl and are putting yourself out to date again. What would it make you feel if your ex contacted you out of the blue? What would you do?
If I ended the relationship...it would not have been done lightly. And...without exception...I have found myself at the end of every relationship without conflict, hatred residual feelings or animosity. So...it would be welcomed...if the contact was appropriate in nature...to have them say "hey".
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sleeping with each other
Posted: 7/15/2012 8:41:06 AM
This man is a gentleman and a scholar all rolled into one.
Plus one.
When I was VERY young...I'll admit I've had some real bone headed lines to broach the subject of sex and my desire to do so. It reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where the guy "took it out" on a date with Elaine.
On topic...
After the age of 20 or so...I would say anywhere from the first to third time together. That was time enough to figure out if we were attracted to one another. Beyond that...there is plenty of time to dicover the balance of compatability issues. We're all adults and know what we want.
If you don't want...move along.
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War widowed single mum asking questions to single fathers
Posted: 7/15/2012 8:25:52 AM
I'm sorry for your loss and grateful for his sacrifice.
Having said that...you apparently haven't successfully dealt with what (I could only imagine) is very life changing. The fact that you wear that event upon your sleeve and make it transparent on "first dates" suggests you need some more time and possibly counseling before you make an attempt at a new relationship.
You aren't necessarily "damaged goods"...but most likely not recovered from the damage such a thing would cause anyone. Good luck...and don't be afraid/ashamed to seek assistance. It would be a blow to anyone.
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Suspect being used, what to do?
Posted: 7/15/2012 8:17:49 AM
My gut feeling is that she is trying to avoid being lonely following her failed relationships and is perhaps using me.
Or it's entirely possible she has sewn her oats and is looking for a solid relationship based on friendship, mutual respect and compatibility and figures what she's been looking for was right in front of her. Beings you have not reciprocated in any fashion...she is probably thinking the feelings are one sided.
"Using" implies consumables. Money, food, cars etc... What have you provided her that you did not find mutually beneficial? Certainly not her friendship.
If you have any feelings for her beyond friendship...it's time to sh1t or let the pot go.
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Most Guys Definitely Would.....But what about the women???
Posted: 6/15/2012 10:47:44 PM
I'm not wired that way. If others are....whatever. I would never allow that in a relationship and if I was told I had the freedom to do so...I would assume I wasn't exactly ringing her bell.
Would you do it???
Nope. I'd fix my clapper.
Do you hear bells????
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A Slice of Gold-Digging, Anyone?
Posted: 6/15/2012 10:40:38 PM
The fact that she is attractive supercedes everything.
Only if you are an incredibly wealthy, unattractive elderly man. And I believe, even then, there is not a doubt in either mind that it is simply a long term mutually beneficial "arrangement".
Ugly on the inside
supersedes
EVERYTHING.
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So what's the dill with?/ Is it coming on to strong?
Posted: 6/5/2012 9:14:33 AM
dill=deal
papper=paper
bodyed=bodied
dooshie=douche
somthing=something
weman=women
there=their
you want look good on papper......................well every girl says she want you to be clever when you message her, or somthing to grab her attention................
The above grabbed my attention and completely distracted me from your message.
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Messages maybe not sending
Posted: 5/29/2012 3:46:32 AM
I'm guessing if it shows up in your sent folder it was sent. It should also appear in your message thread. If the icon is the only missing link...I think you're good.
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Messages maybe not sending
Posted: 5/29/2012 3:31:27 AM
On my droid...I've noticed this happening a couple of times but it was human error on my part. When I reply a text box comes up.
1. When I type my reply in portrait...I simply need to click "send".
2. When I type my reply in landscape...I need to click "done" then it takes me to where I need to click "send". It's there when my message goes AWOL. I click "done" thinking I'm done when in fact I need to click "send" also. I close the app and the message has not been sent.
Not sure if the iPhone app is the same.
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Is this (taken) girl possibly interested in me?
Posted: 5/28/2012 8:10:46 PM
Taken????? Until she finds greener grass?
It's a lose/lose for you my friend. Either you are mistaken about her "interest" or you are correct and she apparently takes "taken" very lightly. What she does for you she will eventually do to you.
In the words of my very least favorite commentator ever....."bank on it, buddy".
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Toshiba Satelite - no CD recognized
Posted: 5/23/2012 2:31:52 PM
It's an older Toshiba Satelite - maybe 7 years, running Windows XP Media Edition.
Pull the plug from the wall outlet and as the power light slowly begins to dim...tell it to "go towards the light". You've already spent way more time than I would have.
Download the restore disk
or buy one on eBay
then give that a try.Sometime ago I came across a site with all the Toshiba restore disk .I don't remember if it was the Toshiba site.They are quite cheap on eBay.
And then.........what....put the disk in the cd/dvd drive that isn't working??????
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Nipples or No Nipples, That is the Question
Posted: 5/13/2012 8:09:47 AM
I suspect that even for the best intentioned man, the nipples absent look might be something difficult to get past.
Not difficult at all. Probably the biggest attracted to them is that they are an erogenous zone for the ladies. It's a good thing they are not the only one's.
So the question is dual, could you get beyond the whole no nipples thing and also at what point would I spring this on a guy?
At any point prior to him searching for them.
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Totally random messages.
Posted: 5/5/2012 5:26:28 PM
What is going on with people sending messages that have nothing whatsoever to do with anything on your profile?
You have virtually nothing on your profile except your restrictions. That's fine and you have some really nice pictures. Women don't like guys just commenting on their physical appearance.
Give a guy something to work with.
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What does she mean
Posted: 5/5/2012 5:21:15 PM
What does she mean?
It means one foot is still planted firmly upon the Earth.
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How do I put in a subject line on emails?
Posted: 5/5/2012 12:01:45 AM
They don't exist since the threaded messages began.
You'll have to divert your wit to within the body of your message now.
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my conversations
Posted: 5/4/2012 12:33:10 PM
The email "inbox" changed from individual messages to threaded "conversations".
Just the new chosen verbiage as opposed to "message".
Don't sweat it.
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What do you do if..
Posted: 5/4/2012 11:17:29 AM
I would never. If she didn't respond to your email...she is not interested. She certainly wouldn't be interested in a public confrontation.
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Rain Check
Posted: 5/4/2012 11:09:05 AM
I wouldn't draw any conclusions from it. I also would suggest you keep things friendly and not extend another outside of work meeting.
You've shown interest in seeing him socially...that should be clear to him. The ball is in his court IF he is interested. If he is not...there is no reason things should be weird at work. A second invited (turned down) by you would probably make it so.
Enjoy working with him and see if he extends genuine interest.
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HAPPY INTERNATIONAL STAR WARS DAY! May the 4th be with you.
Posted: 5/4/2012 8:31:05 AM
May the 4th be with you.
I was close to certain Mike Tyson started this thread.
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Intimate Encounter Ban
Posted: 5/2/2012 1:29:53 PM
I come back almost a year later and the ban is still on my account.
Yeah...it's pretty much just like the Herpes virus. It's the gift that keeps on giving.
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First Contact ...Men or women?
Posted: 4/29/2012 10:45:36 AM
If a woman has viewed my profile and does not contact me....the one and only assumption I have is that she WAS NOT interested. How do you suppose waiting for him to contact you is working for you?
There are too many needles in the POF haystack to be waiting to be discovered. If you see something...you need to be proactive and write him a message. Be the ball!
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What are realistic expectations when it comes to dating?
Posted: 4/28/2012 11:29:40 AM
Your asking the extremely redundant question "should we settle".
Same answer I've always given. I will never settle or be settle upon.
As to whether or not your standards are reasonable or practical...I can't answer that. You have them...they are yours. Mine are mine. I have found success withing mine. If you are not...you will most likely remain alone.
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So, where are those of you...
Posted: 4/28/2012 11:15:21 AM
I'd rather go somewhere completely isolated at 3am and sit by myself staring up at the sky, and to be honest that's actually when I feel the least alone.
Well...there it is...isn't it?
Everyone likes to have SOME "me time". That doesn't make you deeper or special. The difference might be that many of us like you have a little "me time" and with me. I wouldn't want someone to share my "me time" because that would be "our time".
Should she wait in the car while you're pondering....or what?
I've spent many of times "pondering" and star gazing. Or a solemn walk or lakeside sunset. I just don't feel the need to share that and claim I have more depth and perception than anyone else. It's for me and my assumption is that theirs is for them.
If she's staring off into space when she's with me...I'm doing it wrong.
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Is asking for a paternity test viewed by women as a personal insult?
Posted: 4/28/2012 11:00:28 AM
You are basically telling your partner that you are not sure they have been faithful.
Would you be insulted if she told you the same?
My gut reaction is that someone that has unfounded (even if minute) foremost suspicions of infidelity it has stemmed from guilt, insecurity or a long track record of bad choices.
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thedouble standardissue,alive and well...
Posted: 4/28/2012 10:44:57 AM
Made me mad
You have all six strings strung superfluously snug!
There is no "double standard". She told you about her trips. You told her you would tell her about yours "when" you meet and apparently she wasn't not making that same assumption...which is what you did.
Most people don't appreciate it when someone they know (or don't know) makes assumptions that affect our lives. Even something that simple.
You struck the wrong chord!
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Your Matches - How can someone be a match if you don't meet their restrictions.
Posted: 4/28/2012 7:17:14 AM
What you fail to understand is that the magical source code was written by the Oracle whom knows all and understands what we want and need better than we could ever comprehend. Feel the force, Luke and be one with Obi-Wan Kenobi.
Or...it's simply matches you with a member of the opposite sex, approximately of your age within your geographical vicinity.
It's a free site. Which do you imagine is more likely?
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POF vs Paid dating sites – suggested feature improvements?
Posted: 4/25/2012 8:05:30 PM
I couldn't imagine a feature that I would pay for.
I looked into some of those paid sites and got so completely disgusted with claims of being "free" only to find out you couldn't do squat without a credit card.
Possibly...an optional background check feature where you could verify marital status and criminal history. But...that can be done via third party already.
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The MEET ME section is FAIL
Posted: 4/25/2012 7:52:36 PM
I can look at a picture and get a positive feeling, but once reading their profile, that positive feeling can be reversed in the first sentence of their profile.
Then why don't you read their profile before you make your decision? That's what I used to do before I realized nobody else does. The only decision I made based solely on the photo was that of not being attracted to the photo. If I thought I could be...I visited their profile before clicking.
The feature is now meaningless because users have made it so.
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claiming to be single yet isn't
Posted: 4/25/2012 7:34:42 PM
Thankyou women, you all make sense. The majority of men on this post are just showing that they will happily have sex with you, have the 'exclusive' talk, plan holidays with you, stay in your home, yet still claim they are single???
Really? Cause I think one poster argued the semantics of the marital status and almost without exception the opinion is that "single" is a state of mind but there must be at meeting of two minds. And in many cases...for all of us men and women...we have experienced someone who has not been genuine with their intentions or have reneged on their proclamation of fidelity.
I think this has been a bit of an eyeopener as to mens opinions on this...
Again...quote someone on this thread that said it was cool to agree to be in a committed exclusive relationship and then date or sleep around. It's an eyeopener for me that some people have blinders on.
I pity any women
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that get into relationships with guys
/gals
like this! A real man
/woman
tells the truth, respects you, your body and your mind and isn't shagging about when hes
/she's
in a relationship with you.
Ditto....
with appropriate edits
Edit:
I'm not going to pick on you, OP...because many of us have been in your shoes. But....there might be a reason the other woman knew about you. Perhaps her radar was functioning. He could be a master at it...but I'm sure you now see the signs that you missed before. I'll bet you're better equipped now to see the signs. I couldn't imagine not having suspicions raised after two months of him juggling two women. I wish I had that time. Only I'd choose to focus it singularly.
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