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2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 39 (view)

Why Didn't You Get Married When You Had Your Children? Posted: 6/10/2009 12:19:44 AM
GEEEZZZZ... I learned awhile back NOT to ask single mothers that question!! Especially the ones that didn't have their children under "ideal" cirucumstances.... cough cough....MARRIAGE!! Too many kids are being born from one nite stands and casual relationships aka "MESSING AROUND" When will the the MADNESS stop

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 48 (view)

girl date a guy with less educaiton and status, and money Posted: 6/10/2009 12:12:11 AM
Sooooo whaaaatttt????? Guys have dated less attractive women, party gyrls, sluts and baby mamas- and some of them don't mind ( I think they are idiots but that's besides the point) It's good to know that there are SOME women in the 21st century that are NOT hooked on material things and social/economic status and really likes a guy for WHO he is!! WE need more ladies like that....

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 81 (view)

Is a kiss an invitation to have sex? Posted: 6/10/2009 12:07:54 AM
your SHRINK is a JACKASS.....

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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Kiss or no kiss on a first date? Posted: 6/7/2009 3:43:45 PM
If she has NICE FULL Lips and a Big Soft behind....she can kiss me all night...date or no date!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 199 (view)

What are women really looking for? Posted: 6/7/2009 3:21:32 PM
Get back 2 me when u have a real and definitive answer (from WOMEN of course)..other than that...good luck with this thread!! I was gonna say SEX but like I said...get back 2 me with the REAL answer!!!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 80 (view)

Dating exclusively outside your own race? Posted: 6/7/2009 3:17:40 PM
Always HAS and ALWAYS will.... have a deep love and preference for Black Women... I've seen some attractive Hispanic and white gyrls (with big butts actually.ha) BUT I'm just a sucker for "CHOCOLATE"!! like my screen name...2EachHisOwn (or her). I never saw a real reason to "date" out my race or culture!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 117 (view)

men that love big women Posted: 6/7/2009 11:30:24 AM
I like THICK women not BIG women!! The ladies that are "thick" know what I'm talking about

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 227 (view)

You call this Dating? Posted: 6/7/2009 11:21:14 AM
Yep.. hate to say it... but that's DATING today but only now... some MEN are doing what women have been doing for a loooooonnnggg time!! Now the tides have turned and they are getting pissed!! ha ha ha!! Now he's a jerk..douche bag... scumbag and even bitter or jaded but he pulled a fast one (at Pizza Hut of all places...ha)!! Welcome to the wonderful world of "dating" LADIES!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 325 (view)

Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND? Posted: 6/6/2009 9:27:42 PM
nooo but ONE day I hope to have a ONE nite stand

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 292 (view)

What do you girls think about guys with guns? Posted: 6/6/2009 9:26:13 PM
They love BOYS with guns (ask the women that are/were into bad boys and drug dealers.. they will tell u) ha ha ha!! They like a man.. i mean BOY with a lil "swagga" soooo I guess a boy with a gun acting like Yosemite Sam is it for a lot of females today (unless they, the female of course, gets shot, killed or pistol whipped)

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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Why women rule the world. Posted: 6/6/2009 9:22:46 PM
Because they got the vaginas and men will become PLUM idiots and lose all sense of thought control behind it and they (the female) know it!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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I don't get dating, I just don't... so I avoid it. Posted: 6/6/2009 9:18:25 PM
I didn't get it when I was YOUNGER but I got it now- I save DATING for a potential relationship not some "casual" outing!! That will save u a lot of time and energy if u converse with a woman for awhile to see where her head is and then u can decide from there! Too many serial daters out here for me and I don't believe in wasting my time and energy on 'casual' outings anymore. If I'm looking for a relationship- then by all means, I will DATE... if not....stick to MY regularly schedule social programming already in progress!! GOOD LUCK to the fellas out here with these "serial" daters!!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 358 (view)

How many people have actually went on a date using this site? Posted: 6/6/2009 9:11:09 PM
I have dated ZERO women from here and have MET ZERO off here!! I NEVER saw the point of doing sooo... I'm on here for the forums and check my email if I get any. I've gotten a nice amount of messages over a few years (some asking where's my pic?) but I will NEVER post one because I'm not communicating with anyone on here...at least seriously! Thank God for the forums (thats the only real interesting thing on here). I never saw the point of meeting some woman that have met and dated "lots" of men or have been on "lots" of dates, which really sounds like a SERIAL dater to me (don't need them). I'll stick with my social circle outside this "dating" site!! I wonder sometime if people are REALLY looking for a relationship or just a bunch of "casual" dates aka candy store dating-never was my style and never will be!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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Why is the word relationship scare men away? Posted: 5/12/2009 9:59:26 PM
It's NOT the word RELATIONSHIP that scares us away, it's the no "RELATIONS" aka I'm SELLibate (I've done all my screwing and NOW u must WAIT till marriage) that makes us run like cheetahs!!! For real.. some men want a relationship BUT not with just any ole chick off the block! I've heard stories of men getting burned by their EX's and they say the hell with it and then u have some that brushed their shoulders off and kept on moving!! Women today have to understand that a MAN will be in a relationship with a WOMAN he KNOWS not think is relationship matertial aka nice personality, faithful and a funloving person!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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Online dating doesn't work Posted: 5/12/2009 9:51:56 PM
I told people that MESS doesn't work!! It's time to take it back to the OLD school way of meeting people!! This Online dating thing is just a way for the socially challenged, serial daters or the CHEATERS to get their "hook up" or "casual dates!" So many say they are looking for love??? Well.... if there wasn't online dating, how would u find it? I really thank college for allowing me NOT to rely on this type of way of "meeting" people! When Facebook and MySpace came around, college students lost their minds and NOW with all these multiple "dating" sites..GOODNESS!! I hear people on here knock the club/bar/party scene but from I read on these forums and the bad dating experiences THIS clearly isn't better either!! I guess it's just another "avenue" to "MEET and GREET Starbucks style"... i guess!

2EachHisOwn

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Slept with 83 people Posted: 5/12/2009 9:42:20 PM
GOOOD LAAAWWDD!! Is her cooch any good!! DID she go to school? Develop hobbies or interests other than sport ****ING!!?? He is STILL with her??? I know the economy is bad and finding someone DECENT is getting harder but geeezzz... I know he can do BETTER than that? How did he find out? By her or by the people she screwed??? It's not that much LOVE in the world for me to be with a chick like that!! 83 people?? HA HA HA!! Like I said.. is the cooch any good??? Hell... is SHE any good??

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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bad experience? Posted: 5/12/2009 9:33:24 PM
No big deal dude...WOMEN do this stuff a lot and of course they do it because "WE "do it..hmmmmm (more reasons to justify their stupid behavior I guess!?) I hate to say it man but u got played!! Welcome to the 21st century way of "dating" NO longer are the days of u getting to know ONE gyrl (because remember... she has "options" too) I wished she would have told u that before u WASTED ur TIME and MONEY on her! 9 out of 10 she was gonna to hook up with that other guy anyway and was USING u until she got the guy she really wants (and society calls US men playas...ha ha!) If I were u, I leave that TOWN and go somewhere a woman wouldn't mind a relationship!! P.S. I wouldn't call her a SLUT... at least not yet!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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disappointment in the bedroom Posted: 5/12/2009 9:19:25 PM
U do know that MEN get disappointed by ummmm WOMEN in the BED and "HEAD" dept too??? Nothing worse than having a woman built like a BRICKHOUSE and is as stiff as a dead wilderbeest corspe!! Can't kiss or "give" but is always willing to "recieve" like it's X-mas time or sumthing. Women today think having a cute face and a coochie is suffice.......ANNNNNNKKKKK...wrong answer!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 89 (view)

Are most guys only into one night stands? Posted: 5/12/2009 7:08:51 PM
Is that a SERIOUS question??????

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 68 (view)

a guy not being able to get off Posted: 5/12/2009 7:07:03 PM
I seriously think HE wasn't ATTRACTED to u!! He can get off from PORN but not from having sex with u???? I guess those women in the porno flixz must really get him going??? Well..... do like most women would do...dump him!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 110 (view)

cost of dating Posted: 5/12/2009 5:18:06 PM
DATE LESS or NOT at ALL!! I refuse to DATE unless I'm interested in a relationship!! I've NEVER been a big fan of "casual" dating! That's how u weed out those " casual WHINE n DINERS... by NOT doing it :)" Even though dates can be inexpensive in some cases, ur TIME is just as precious!! I went on a few dates to where I wished I would have hit the town clubbing or going to a sporting event with some friends! I've learned my lesson NOW but some guys NEVER learn!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 110 (view)

Boring Sex Posted: 5/12/2009 5:11:30 PM
Yes... I was thinking about.. "Geez, I bet the club is popping tonite!" Then the killer part is.. she asked me "is this **** good baby?" I was like.. huh? felt like a hippo was riding me and she couldn't really kiss and expect ME to use all my stamina and energy on her??? Please!! I know a lot of guys have witnessed "bad sex" from females but we don't talk about it like they do (though they ALL think their coochies are the bomb..ha ha!) I enjoyed KISSING better at times but ooops.. she couldn't do that either! Women like that makes a man appreciate masturbation even more!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 43 (view)

can friends with benefits ever develop into something more? Posted: 5/12/2009 4:54:13 PM
a resounding...............NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 87 (view)

Ladies stop settling for bootycall status... Posted: 5/12/2009 4:49:53 PM
Well.. there goes my chance at getting some "non committal" AZZ!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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What exactly does hang out mean Posted: 5/3/2009 12:42:46 PM
Whose knows what "hangout" really means today because there is soooo many interpertations of it. I hang out with my male friends- hit the clubs, sport bars or sporting events or watch games at the crib! I don't hangout with females like that- RARELY!! I feel at this point in my life that women KNOW exactly what she wants when sees a guy (or 5-10 mins after meeting him) I'm skeptical of woman that just want to "kick" it, "hangout" or have a "casual date!" I feel now either she wants to: 1. Mess or fool around-WE all know what that 3 letter or 4 letter word is? 2. Be FRIENDS- true (platonic, have each other backs type) friends- NOT social buddies aka "casually dating" or this new cliche': "See where it goes from there" HUH? U knew when u first met me what u wanted-it don't take a "series" of dates for that! I thought MATURE women knew what they wanted! 3. RELATIONSHIP or LONG TERM- Serious dating not casual dating comes into play with this term. She's not seeing 2 or 3 guys at a time. She focus on ONE guy for a change. She's serious minded and REALLY want to get to know the guy! I have a fool proof way to weed out FAKE females now

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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why do men say they will call and then don't? Posted: 5/3/2009 12:13:55 PM
1. Maybe something came up 2. He had other plans 3. Maybe another female caught his attention ( a one with Bigger BOOBS, BUTT or LIPS) perhaps??? 4. Maybe something came up 5. Perhaps he talked to the female and realized she is FULL OF IT and moved on - it happens to even ME at times-ha! 6. BAGAGGE aka "MEN issues"- that will get a MAN running faster than the FLASH everytime!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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Dropped like a hot potato Posted: 5/3/2009 12:05:14 PM
It happens... I've dropped a few females like a hot potato and vice versa. I didn't lose any sleep over it and I'm sure she didn't either. U keep moving on.. I get dropped because I don't move aggresively enough aka "CHASE" the female. U know they love ATTENTION-ha (and they talk about our "egos")

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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Any bbw hypocrites? Posted: 5/3/2009 11:55:21 AM
Yes a lot of BBW are hypocrites- but thank society for that! I like "THICK" women but not sloppy women (which a LOT of BBW think they are). Everyone has their preferences. What happens with BBW being picky is that at one point, they have recieved some "play" from an average or athletic guy and it went to their head so they felt that's what they "deserve." Like who u like- just be willing to take rejection like a NBA player when they guy is not feeling a BBW!

2EachHisOwn

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Does the sexual double standard keep women from having casual sex? Posted: 5/3/2009 12:31:38 AM
NOPE.. there is NO double standard.. Women harp on this issue because they don't want to be called a SLUT or WHORE for doing stuff that men have been called a DOG, MAN WHORE or TRIFILING for decades! Women have been sleeping around but there was a "stigma"! Times have changed and women should be comfortable in their sexuality- just be willing to take the flack that men are STILL taking for exhibiting the same behavior!! Men= it's "sowing his oats" Yeah right- he will get called a DAWG in a heartbeat.. not a "playa" or "stud" like women think we are high fiving each other for banging different chicks- get real! Women are quick to call each other slut or ho! Women= it's sexual freedom or liberation or being "confident" in her sexuality! Sorry ladies but if u sleep around and u get called out, don't get mad at society or men! Take a look at urself. That's the price that comes with "casual sex" Ask the fellas?

2EachHisOwn

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Are pregnant women attractive/sexy? Posted: 5/3/2009 12:20:34 AM
HELL NO.. I can't see myself finding a woman who's carrying ANOTHER man's baby.. sexy???

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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do some guys really like a really big AZZ? Posted: 5/3/2009 12:18:43 AM
YES and YES (especially on a black woman BUT a FEW white gyrls have slipped up in the rankings-)

2EachHisOwn

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men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies? Posted: 5/3/2009 12:14:53 AM
RUN!!! goood lawd- 30 **** buddies??? I haven't been with 30 women PERIOD (not even close) but this woman has been with 30 or MORE FB's??? I'm not surprised with this kind of behavior in this day and age.. Women are runnning a tight race with the men when it comes to sexual partners sooo what else new??? I'll have to wonder if she's been tested?? Does her cooch still has some kind of firmness and tightness to it?? Is there anyone trapped in her cooch? Where is her respect??? 4get how many guys she's been with!! I guess her self respect went out the door with the rest of the MEN who didn't look back either

2EachHisOwn

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Men over 30, unmarried no children Posted: 5/3/2009 12:06:21 AM
Nothing is wrong with me and I'm over 30 with NO kids and have never been married! When u add in women new found sexual "freedom" aka SLUTTING, STDS and record number of Paternity cases, some of the smart men have decided to find a DECENT woman first, get married and then have kids.. not MESS around and hope the kid(s) are theirs because he was never really into the woman!! They also want to enjoy their singledom, develop new hobbies and accomplish career goals too before "tying the knot!" Women can be over 30 with NO kids and it's no big deal because times have "changed" but with some men, they have standards and want more than an educated, independent woman: he want a woman with CLASS and CHARACTER (traits that missing today) also (I hope today's "MODERN" woman grasp that concept)

2EachHisOwn

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does a woman's nipples always get hard when turned on? Posted: 5/2/2009 11:56:33 PM
NOOOO...but I love hard nipples

2EachHisOwn

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Msg: 76 (view)

Breast Size [Do guys ever notice the difference?] Posted: 5/2/2009 11:52:58 PM
I NEVER noticed... they all have looked the SAME to me!! yummy

2EachHisOwn

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Msg: 328 (view)

Is kissing a important part of intimacy??? Posted: 5/2/2009 4:59:57 PM
I would be "floored" if I was dating or seeing a woman with beautiful FULL lips but she hate to kiss!! aaaawwwwggghhh. Put a fork in her...she's DONE!! YES... YES.... YES..kissing is a very IMPORTANT part of intimacy.... a woman that hate to kiss or DON'T know how to kiss...nighty night!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 158 (view)

What a Kiss can tell you. Posted: 5/2/2009 4:55:15 PM
That a woman has beautiful soft FULL lips and is sensual with her kisses! Not all women have those kind of skills though most "claim" they do

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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dating choices kids? no kids? Posted: 10/30/2008 10:25:07 PM
By all means....NO KIDS!!!!!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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Single Guys With No Kids Suck!!! Posted: 10/24/2008 4:25:13 PM
WHY THANK YOU!! I hope some of those same BABY MAMA's say the same thing about those trifling BABY DADDIES they had their children with! All HELL would break if us child-LESS guys said that single mothers were "easy" or "unfit" I mean come on... just because some guys don't wanna date BABY MAMA's don't make him any less than the single baby daddies out here! Some single child-LESS guys actually date and in SOME cases..marry a single mother.... maybe the child-LESS guys just want to be careful NOT to make a baby with a tramp, a chic that used to be in to bad boys/thugs/drug dealers or a former party gyrl and may want kids of his OWN some day....there are still men that have that mentality you know

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 109 (view)

Date a single mom, yes...marry a single mom....? Posted: 10/24/2008 3:54:36 PM
NO.. and a double NO..... It would be a waste of TIME for both parties unless they are looking for a "good" time or some "fun." I don't know why some guys even get involved knowing all the potential DRAMA that entails (from the baby daddies or even possibly...the KIDS) I'll take my chances on a Child-LESS woman!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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Guys is this true??.............YESSSS!! Posted: 10/23/2008 5:10:59 PM
YES and understandly sooooo.... even IF I wanted kids.. I would want kids of my OWN ... and not raise someone elses'. It's doesn't make me a slime ball, less of a man, or has low self esteem-- it's called PREFERENCES!! I commend younger, college-aged guys (and even guys in their 30's) that want to experience the feeling of raising their OWN kids.... and nothing is wrong with that!

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

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why are people afraid to date single parents.....? Posted: 10/23/2008 4:48:41 PM
No one is "afraid" to date single parents! Some kidless people simply don't want kids, want to experience parenting kids of their OWN (after their married..... perhaps)! Some see another man's/woman's kids as BAGGAGE (simply put)! The child-less person may want to REALLY get to know some one without all the EX-DRAMA that MAY come along!! I don't think many single childless guys are thinking single mothers want them be a "replacement dad" as previously thought- they just don't date them because they think that situation may present......DRAMA!!

2EachHisOwn

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Kids and guys.... Posted: 10/22/2008 5:08:07 PM
Dang... 24 and THREE kids (wooh). I was 24 and almost through with college when I met a young lady (Dean List student about to finish college also, cool and down 2 Earth) BUT.. she had TWO youngins!! I nicely backed out of that situation! We remained friends! No way I was dating a single mother in college (of all places) I won't date one NOW so I know at 24-that was out of the question! Most people that age are just getting out of undergrad (or grad school in some cases) and MOST of them have NO kids! I never knew any one in that age range that dated single parents! Guys with no kids are enjoying their freedom and their "fruits of their labor aka degrees and career potentials" Wife and KIDS come later for most guys that age! FOCUS on your kids (they will need u the most)

2EachHisOwn

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Men who say they don't want another MAN's children Posted: 10/22/2008 4:33:54 PM
WE should be applauded!!

2EachHisOwn

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Pregnant and Dating...now there's my question Posted: 10/22/2008 4:31:36 PM
I wouldn't DATE or MARRY a woman that's pregnant with another MAN's baby!! I would run like a track star! I wouldn't see any reason unless I was desperate or has low self esteem (and I'm faaar from that)! There are 2 many cool, childless, non- pregnant women out here than for me to deal with that! NO WAY JOSE! I think women who are pregnant should concentrate on the baby and making sure the baby is healthy and not focus on dating!

2EachHisOwn

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Not married by 30, will it happen, ever? Posted: 10/16/2008 9:02:15 PM
I may happen but it gets HARDER as u get older (especially if want no kids or wants kids or don't want to deal with a baby daddy(ies) or mommy(ies) or ex husband/wife) Some people are finding TRUE love and getting married later in life but if they have certain standards- it may take longer! Others have decided NOT to get married at all! I just hope people who wanted to get married didn't waste their younger years(20's) partying, whoring, "serial dating" or being in dead end relationships and expected once they hit the BIG 3 0 that it would be easier (cuz it's not)

2EachHisOwn

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Msg: 103 (view)

How did your parents meet? Posted: 10/16/2008 8:31:48 PM
My mom and dad met at a party (good part I guess-- it wasn't a bar or club)! The bad part was-They decided to "mess with each other" instead of marry each other (and this was the late 70's I mind u) and baaaammmm.... (u know the rest) I love them both but I WISHED they would have been MARRIED when they had me... Nevertheless.. I'm glad to be here (they could have aborted me or put me up for adoption BUT thank god they didn't)

2EachHisOwn

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Remember when dating was simple! Posted: 10/16/2008 2:38:05 PM
Dating is different today even more so!! Today... Dating is just as casual as SEX !! Dating used to be a guy and a gyrl going out and having fun and maybe establishing a friendship and possibly a RELATIONSHIP! Now.. it's just an outing or something 'fun' to do with no real implications! Some men and women don't really care for that person and would still go out with them!! Some married people are dating other people (sad if u ask me) and the "dating" sites are making it ooooohh so possible! Some guys are thinking dating is a sham and prefer a **** buddy or a one nite stand. That, in return, are frustrating some women who are looking 4 a LTR. Some women have made dating a joke as (especially when some men are looking for a LTR)

2EachHisOwn

Joined: 10/10/2008

Msg: 497 (view)

How are Men missing out, If they choose not to Date sigle moms Posted: 10/16/2008 2:02:54 PM
That's just it.... we NOT missing out! That's what some people wants US (childless guys) to believe! There are tooo many women (a lot are childless) out here to believe that we are missing out by NOT dating a single mother... Granted there are some cool females that happen to be single mothers BUT I'm going to believe that I'm missing out if I don't date her or she don't date me!

2EachHisOwn

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Single childless guy or Father of kids? Which do women tend to prefer? Posted: 10/16/2008 1:55:45 PM
I guess it depends on the woman! But have noticed where single mothers wanted to date a guy with NO kids (hmmm... I wonder why). At first, I thought that was hypocritical but hey.... their preference! Whatever float their boat!

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