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Joined: 10/11/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

Are the men on this site really serious about meeting up? Posted: 5/9/2009 6:35:11 PM
Definitely looking to meet up with people. Just rather frustrating when I feel like I'm connecting with someone then they suddenly disappear on me before I get to the meeting stage. Had this happen 2-3 times recently. One hasn't even logged in for 5 weeke :(

Joined: 10/11/2008

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IM turns me ON! Posted: 5/9/2009 6:29:11 PM
I miss it just because I have better luck getting conversation going with someone w/IM as opposed to just sending a message is is rarely replied too.

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Dating non-experiences Posted: 4/11/2009 7:58:08 AM
I have chatted to different people on sites like this. Just cannot seem to get to the "first date" stage. I am not the type to move too quickly in asking for a meeting, but I have had multiple instances where it seems we enjoy talking to each other only to suddenly have the other person disappear after a few days or a week of talking before I can get to the stage of a potential date. One case, yesterday I IM'd someone who I talked to briefly on IM/Messaged a few times. Said she would brb. Not only does she not get back she deletes her profile. Guess I am just getting a bit discouraged.

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Msg: 79 (view)

Responding to emails from people you're not interested in Posted: 4/9/2009 7:04:17 PM
I guess it is just a matter or personal preference. I would appreciate the courtesy, but I understand people get tired of it, dont want to sent the wrong signal, etc. Personally what irrates me more is when I get involved with a chat with someone who seeems like they enjoy talking to you and we talk for a bit only to have to person not repsond to you again next time you try to contact them. I guess it is understandable that one may decide after chatting once that they just are not into that person and someone may not feel like having to say "I am not interested in talking any more".

Joined: 10/11/2008

Msg: 155 (view)

Are there any people left that date one at a time? Posted: 4/9/2009 6:54:40 PM
I would rather date once at a time. I want to take the time to really try to get to know one person. Besides I do not want to have to turn around to the others and suddenly say I am not interested. That said I have no problem with trying to contact multiple women at once until I get to the point of meeting.

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Msg: 255 (view)

Racism in Dating Posted: 4/9/2009 6:51:42 PM
Personally I have no preference. I have no problem trying to contact someone outside my racial makeup. Of course many refer to stay within their race so the odds of getting somewhere are less then they already are.

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I did it - the electronic disappearing act - guilty! Have you ever? Posted: 12/20/2008 10:35:26 AM
I had TWO people do this to me recently. First case (from another site) she just wanted to be friends which was I fine with. Met once, talked on the phone after that. Even our last conversation she said he wanted to do something next week. Never heard anything else from her afterwords. Did not return me call or even reply to the one IM I sent. Second case was on POF, woman certainly seemed to enjoy talking to me over a period of a week or so. Then next day she was gone from POF. Maybe she found someone and deleted her profile (she was gone from my favorites list). Never got to asking for her number or to meet. Makes me wonder "what am I doing wrong"..lol..im not rude, dont ask for meeting/numbers right away, and certainly never mention sex. I understand people just have a change of feelings on someone. Just would be nice to have a chance to develop a relationship, im not in the mood for games.

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Msg: 76 (view)

how many online dates have you had? Posted: 12/20/2008 10:20:54 AM
from this site, none yet. seems like getting that initial converstion going just hasn't worked. Frustrating when you try to focus on contacting those in your area with common interests and get no response. But I am getting used to it. Made (online )friends from other online means, but they never seem to what to actually meet, even after talking for 6 months..bleh.

Joined: 10/11/2008

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How reliable is POF MY MATCHES page? Posted: 11/26/2008 6:11:00 PM
I have started by using the filters then focusing on those within that group with similar interests that I want to talk to. Of course to this point I have yet to get one response to a message/IM (does IM even work, yesterday I recognized someone I already know and talk to as a friend, used the IM and got no response). IMHO its good as a filtering mechanism. Just have to take it from there to decide who to try and contact.

Joined: 10/11/2008

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Does anyone get Burned out~~~~~ Posted: 11/23/2008 6:33:25 PM
Guess I have taken a short term break from this site since I have already tried to contact women that I was interested in in my immediate area and tried to initiate some conversation without any luck. I am not going to bother someone if they dont want to talk, even if I feel we have a lot in common and it just takes time for new users to join that I consider worth the effort to try to contact.

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Would you reject someone because of something in their profile? Posted: 11/10/2008 4:11:56 PM
Think my main issue is I do not write enough information. I tend to talk a bit about what the two of us have in common but do not discuss enough about when I would like to do, etc. That I am not convincing enoguh as to why they should contact me. Guess I have always had a bit of writers block when it comes to whats the best way to introduce yourself.

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Msg: 152 (view)

Would you reject someone because of something in their profile? Posted: 11/8/2008 2:37:42 PM
I find my biggest frustation is even when I find someone whom I feel is a good match I still cant get responses (i.e. right age range, non-smoker, likes, etc.) I limit my messenging to those I feel really make sense for me, but no luck. Getting someone who grabs my attention to be interested enough in me in return has been by biggest problem.

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Msg: 93 (view)

How long should people search on a dating site Posted: 10/26/2008 9:28:42 AM
I ran into the "close by issue" also. As far as the same faces, after a while it does get a bit stale when you keep seeing the same people, some of which you already attempted to contact but had no response. As said above pof needs to be one of many avenues one uses to search for a relationship.

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Msg: 56 (view)

Maintaining Optimism Posted: 10/20/2008 12:09:17 PM
I am willing to give this a few months at least. Yes it is disappointing when your first 6 attempts at contact get no reply. But I understood before I tried this I would need to have patience.

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Msg: 85 (view)

How long should people search on a dating site Posted: 10/19/2008 1:33:08 PM
I am willing to be patient, using this along with other means to meeting people. Even though my initial messages to a few in my area I thought matched up well me elicited no responses, I realize just have to give it time. Speaking of which how long to guys generally have to look or numbers of attempts to they make trying to initiate communication before they get a response?

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Responding to emails from people you're not interested in Posted: 10/16/2008 12:44:56 PM
I actually do not have a problem with not getting a reply if someone is not interested. I do not need to read an email that simply says "not interested". Especially since I am looking more towards dating/long-term, would prefer not to start a conversation with someone who ultimately is not interested in a relationship. Do not feel like getting my hopes up for nothing a bunch of times.

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what is with people on this site...? Posted: 10/14/2008 3:22:25 PM
I agree about the phone numbers right off the bat. I always at least make sure someone wants to talk to me and we get a conversation going between us over days at least before I mention phone numbers. As mentioned above, some people just have a different confort level when it comes to things.

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How far will you drive for a date? Posted: 10/14/2008 3:16:26 PM
I would saw about 1 hour for me. Longer is just to far for me to consider driving on a regular basis.

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Msg: 111 (view)

Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 10/14/2008 3:14:48 PM
Hi. My name is Dan, I am (almost) 32 and do Civil Engineering design. I am single with no kids. Looking for a relationship that starts slow but hopefully builds into something more.

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