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katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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I Didnt get to say goodbye to my DADDY Posted: 4/19/2009 2:34:16 AM
Just a small update Dang thank you everyone. And again my heart goes out to everyone that have shared there thoughts and prayers. The holidays were real hard but I did manage to get thru them. My dad is with me every day. See he loved light houses so the ashes that I received i have in a special box and and i have a lighthouse sitting on top of it. And yes I have the lighthouse lit at all times m this helps me to believe that my Dad is still with me. Yes i misss him still and times when I am having car problems I have caught myself picking up the phone calling my Dad (which I always did when he was alive) I can actually chuckle about it right now because I know he is looking down at me shaking his head saying "what have you done to the car this time??? forget to check the oil, forget to put water in it etc etc etc...... This does help me its like I am writing to my Dad and it has made me feel better. Thank you all again... Kathleen

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Losing a loved one to death Posted: 12/4/2008 7:25:49 PM
Sherry, I wish to thank you for such a beautiful poem. I havent been back to this forum for awhile so I do apoligize for taking so long to reply. I hope you dont mind that I have made a copy of it to share with my family. Happy Holidays to you. It is going to be real hard for me but I am going to try

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Losing a loved one to death Posted: 9/28/2008 4:48:40 PM
Beautiful red curls: I know what you have been going thru I just lost my Daddy Aug 2, 2008 unexpectedly. Every day i still think about him...i was having problems with my car and picked up the phone to ask him a couple questions then realized he was gone. Unfortuneatly I have found out a few things about the hospital that he was taken to and right now my tears and sorrow has turned into anger...but that only makes things worse because I think about what the doctors did against my dads' and family wishes...and maybe my Daddy could be alive right now. So every day is like the first day still. I'm not sure when u lost your loved one or how ......but like everyone has said before me take it one day at a time, talk to a support group, have your friends close to you...try not being alone that is when it hits me the hardest ... My prayers go out to you and if you need someone to chat with please feel comfortable in contacting me...maybe we could help each other. God bless you child and your family

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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I Didnt get to say goodbye to my DADDY Posted: 9/8/2008 12:39:23 PM
I want to Thank all that has responded to my forum. After reading them all I will say that I will treasure all the moments/days/hours/weekes/months/and years I was able to spend with my Daddy because some people were not as lucky to have that much time and my heart goes to you all. To any and all that may be reading all the postings please remember ' DONT GO A DAY WITHOUT TELLING THE PEOPLE CLOSE TO YOU HOW MUCH YOU CARE AND THAT YOU LOVE THEM" because you may not get that second chance. 'DADDY I LOVE YOU AND I KNOW YOU ARE RIGHT BY MYSIDE" KATIE

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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I Didnt get to say goodbye to my DADDY Posted: 9/7/2008 7:07:30 PM
Thank you thank you all so very much sharing with me how you all have been able to deal with the loss. Regarding the ashes my mom made the decision that each of us kids are receiving a portion of the ashes so we will have him close by our sides at all time. The last time I spoke to him was that Thursday nite (this all happened Friday morning) and I will always remember how we ending our conversation saying I love you Daddy (something I always had said) I do thank god and I am very grateful that I did have my dad with me for 51 years...but like another one said "I thought parents last forever)" I know wishful thinking. I have found myself being mad at god and asking over and over again why...but i know why :it was his time" 'I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH DADDY. ps I wish i would have written earlier because all your kind words i have read helps me in more ways than i can explain. Thank you all you POF friends Katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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I Didnt get to say goodbye to my DADDY Posted: 9/7/2008 5:56:15 PM
Wow thank you all for everything you have said. I know when i got there and went to talk to him. I held his hand and told him i was there and i swear i saw his swollen eyes flinch meaning he heard me. What a great idea about writing a letter and letting in go in a balloon or burning it. Well he was cremated and that sounds like something i will think about. I was there all the way until the end i could not be in the room when they took him off support. but i knew when it happened because i had a big chill go thru my body. What I didn t mention was my mother , bless her heart they have been married for 59 yrs and she just completed her 2 x around with cancer and my dad was by her side when we almost lost her and she now feels she wasnt there for him....but she knows what happened to him was almost instance death and the drs told us he would be on life support for the rest of his life. Again i thank you all for reading my thoughts and sharing your past (i am sorry for your loses) katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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I Didnt get to say goodbye to my DADDY Posted: 9/7/2008 4:25:49 PM
I have read many forums similar to this but now I can really say I know how they all felt. My question is how did you go on....It has been a month now and it seems like yesterday.... What hurts the most is for the week prior all his kids were at the house except me. They tell me they did not plan it it just happened. If i had been there it would have been a family reunion which had not happened in 25 yrs. My Daddy was rushed to the hospital at 11am for a burst aorta anuism but i didnt get a call until 4:30 so by the time I got on a plane and arrived it was 9pm and he was out of surgery but on life support. I did go and see him and I just hope he knew i was there , c During the next 6 hours Daddy went in for a second surgery to try and stop the bleeding, but his blood would not clog ....so Mama had to make a big disicision and all of kids (5 of us) all new Daddy did not want to be on life support and it was in his will...but it was still hard. I realize my Daddy had a great life..he was 79, raised 5 kids, had one grandchild...and all his kids are doing ok.....but i miss him soo...i could ramble on and on but i wont...i just need support and help on to how i can take that next step of acceptance Anything will be helpful at this point Thanks to all that has read this I LOVE YOU DADDY

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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San Jose, Ca anyone....? Posted: 6/9/2008 8:19:43 PM
I agree with you!!!!!!! I know there alot of POF people here in San Jose, Sunnyvale, Cupertino., all over the area. Lets say we get a big get together started. What would people like to see...... just a big picnic at Vasona Park?? you can fish, rent boats small ones, foot paddle boats, etc. It is a nice big park........ I might be able to get a band together to play there. WHAT DOES E1 think?????? Thanks dubtownbaby724 for posting this. Katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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first year without my dad Posted: 12/13/2007 4:58:32 PM
What a beautiful poem...and believe it when everyone says your dad is watching over you. Regarding early detection of cancer........ Well since my mama has been in remmission would have been 5yrs in March 08 my mom last check up found cancer again this time in her lungs. It is in the early stages , however the doctors say she has a 1/3 chance to get thru this. See she is 75 and its her 2nd time thru this. We almost lost her last time and the doctor she has (which is the same as before) told her that this time we all will need a miracle and need her to fight all the way...but at least they found it early and she has that 1/3 of a chance.. My mom did decide to go thru the chemo & radiation for 5 days a week for the next 6 months with the hopes she will live many more years....... The problem is its hard for all of kids & my dad to see her in such pain...please help me understand that it is ok that we feel this way and we all wonder is it really worth the pain she will be going thru.....I am sorry if I havent made much since but I dont know where to turn or who to talk to about the feeling i am going thru.......I guess right now I thank God that she is still alive and just enjoy her everyday regardless of the pain she is going thru it is her decision . katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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lost dad nearly 17 years ago and told mum has cancer today and nearly christmas Posted: 12/13/2007 4:31:50 PM
Daisy, My heart goes out to you. I heard the day after Thanksgiving that my mamas cancer has returned this time in her lungs. We nearly lost her last time but she was in remmission for almost 5yrs, but it came back. Holidays are rough for me anyways and now to know that mama is having to go thru chemo & radiation for 5 days a week for the next 6months kills me. Theres no easy way to tell your son. You didnt mention how old is he? Is he old enough to understand what cancer is and what it does to ones body. I too do not know how I will cope without my mom....the doctor keeps saying this time around is going to be really hard and only 1/3 of the patients come thru it. When you find the way to cope please please pass it on because I do not know where to begin. My prayers go out to you and your mom will be in my prayers every evening and morning katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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What is the nicest thing someone as done for you or that you have done for someone? Posted: 11/11/2007 7:34:25 PM
Since one of my hobbies is arts & crafts, every year for the past 4 yrs ....during the Holdiays I will make wreaths , xmas decorations, etc....... and take them to Senior Citizens homes. Each year it is different homes. The looks I receive from all the folks there even the employees is so gratifying..... See I do not have any family by me and during the Holdiays I am very lonely...but seeing the smiles on everyone faces brings such joy to me..... and helps me get through the holidays.......... so i guess what they all give me is the best thing anyone has done for me I must correct myself... i will say someone that I had only known for maybe 6 months helped me out when I had gotten in with the wrong crowd. To my surprise he was the only one there with what i needed to get me out of a bad situation. He did not need to do it but I will forever be grateful for what he did.....I really do not know where I'd be right now if it wasnt for him....So I wish to take this time to say THANK YOU VERY MUCH...

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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What happened to the testimonials that were posted [Closed Thread] Posted: 10/24/2007 3:45:30 PM
I hadnt reviewed my profile for awhile and just did today and the testimonials were gone. Does this mean the people that posted them deleted them too? One was from a very close friend....someone that knows what i am going thru with my cancer?

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Are you proud of your age? Posted: 6/26/2007 10:57:22 AM
I just turned 50 this past April and I was scared to death. Now that it has come and gone it doesnt feel any different. The only difference between when I turned 30 and now is I need to realize I cant do everything that I did at 30 although I give it a good try. Actually I believe I look better than I did when I was 30 LOL........ Like everyone may say age is just a number and you do with it what you want to....... I am enjoying life to the fullest and having a fun time doing so.........

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Cold hearted women Posted: 5/16/2007 10:45:53 PM
OP: like one person mentioned the signs should not have anything to do with who the person is. I am an Aries and I can say the same thing about men. I wear my heart on my sleeve and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. So all Aries are not "Cold Hearted" Having these threads are for people like yourself to share thoughts, feelings etc.....and to see what response you would get. Take what we all say anyway you want to i only hope you will find some answers to your question- concerns. Best luck to you and everyone else.....

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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ANY STORIES OF PEOPLE ACTUALLY HOOKING UP FROM THIS SITE? Posted: 4/6/2007 4:12:00 PM
way too many bullshit women on here....that are not single' wow you sure like to bash women dont you? i can honestly say i have met my share of jerks too and it doesnt matter what their occupation is believe it or not the ones that indicate they are top executives of companies have been the worse. ive come to believe the men think just because we woman are on this site is we want a one nite stand.......that is so bullshit .,,, the times i have met for dinner,lunch i have always expected to pay for my own but they insist to pay for it all and then the bomb they want to take you home....... which i would not do and i dont hear from them again......where are the fun, homest, trustworthy men anyways am i on the wrong site? sorry.... to answer the op no hooking up here yet(i have met many that i can say we are friends and will continue being friends ) ...i believe he still may be out there

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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ditching a date without saying goodbye Posted: 4/6/2007 3:57:03 PM
have neverdone that to anyone and i wish i could say it hasnt been done to me. i would say your cousin must not think much about himself to do this and to a family member. cant he get his own dates? like you said dont think you've done anything wrong chalk it up as an experience and always remember not all women are like that. give us good ones a chance we are still out there. good luck in the future.

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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What does it take to keep a women ? Posted: 4/1/2007 2:28:09 PM
OP you are 24 still a young man. Hopefully you have learned that unfortunately there are woman out there that will take complete advantage of a guy like yourself until they can find themselves another "sugar daddy." Like others have said to keep a woman ...be yourself, give her attention when she least expects it, share your thoughts with her, be honest, trustworthy, loving, caring, dont think you need to buy her love you appear to be someone that shouldnt have to do that. Dont let these woman walk all over you, you deserve someone that cares and likes you for who you are not for what you can give them......Good luck.....you'll find her...... kathleen

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Modesto get together Posted: 3/30/2007 4:48:25 PM
Sounds like alot of fun however San Jose is a little too far. Everyone have a great time and let me know how it goes :) katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right? Posted: 3/28/2007 2:02:09 PM
I will need to agree with everyone "Trust your gut feeling" I had one guy lie so much that he forgot what he said the week before and when i conforted him about it he would only twist it around that "I didnt hear him right the week before" well needless to say i do not speak to that person anymore it is as though he disappeared (yes he is on POF) but even if he did contact me I would not reply. good luck everyone in finding who you are looking for.....

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Guestlist only party being hosted by Tecate in San Jose on March 29th!!! Posted: 3/23/2007 10:01:25 AM
Hey everyone 6 more days until the party to wish op a Happy Birthday.......... See ya all there.......... kathleen

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Dad has Cancer Posted: 3/20/2007 3:18:55 PM
Kerry i am so glad to hear about your Dad... How is he doing today??? About what that one looser said I think we should hook him up with chemo and radiation for 5 days a week for 6 months and see how he feels then. Cancer is not a laughing matter it can strick anyone at any age......I hope you dont have any kids Mr. cuz id hate to see what you would do if any of them got Cancer....... KERRY MY PRAYS ARE STILL WITH YOU AND YOUR DAD....LET US KNOW HOW HE IS DOING WOULD YOU :) kATHLEEN

katie13

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Guestlist only party being hosted by Tecate in San Jose on March 29th!!! Posted: 3/20/2007 3:00:21 PM
Naktrigger sorry i forgot : Kathleen Duffy see ya there

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Guestlist only party being hosted by Tecate in San Jose on March 29th!!! Posted: 3/19/2007 7:01:50 PM
P>S? Can we celebrate my birthday too its April 9th LOL?

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Guestlist only party being hosted by Tecate in San Jose on March 29th!!! Posted: 3/19/2007 7:00:51 PM
Cali-Firefighter: I hope not i'd like to see some men there too LOL Naktrigger: Please put me on the list........Hope to see alot of people there !!!!!!!!! kathleen

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Courage to Keep Trying Posted: 2/24/2007 10:17:36 PM
Unsure22......... it is ok to have those moments. Like most all the other replies stated its part of life and you made it thru the past relationships and were able to have another.... do not fall for anything less than what you want...that # 1 special prerson is out there. I am going thru the same right now and the past week all id say would be NO MORE...NO MORE....CANT DO IT AGAIN........but for some reason i came to these forms and found this one .......thank you all for writing ...it means alot for us that feel "why go on and try anymore........ **************************** Believe in yourself, Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you can not be sucessful or happy......... ( for everyone)

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Dad has Cancer Posted: 12/1/2006 3:07:50 AM
Flying tiger: Not knowing how long it has been that you found out about your dad having cancer...... someone said it earlier this is the time you should be there for your Dad he needs your love and affection....don't worry about a serious relationship right now. I totally undestand what you are going through...when i was told about my Mom having cancer and having to go to radiation & chemo 5 days a week for 9 months all I could do was think about her and what I could do to help her and releave her of her pain. You didnt mention if your Mom was still with you because if she is she is going to need you also....so I think you are going to be too busy helping your Mom & Dad instead of worrying about a relationship.......there will be time for that........You & your Dad will be in my prayers try to be strong I know it may be hard but do the best you can. This may be the time to seek out your true friends and if they are true friends they will be there if you need someone to lean on...I know mine were and bless them all. (my Mom has been gree of cancer for 3 yrs now) so your Dad will pull thru I have faith.

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Alone for the holidays. Posted: 11/27/2006 5:43:03 PM
Being alone for the Holdays is not fun at all. What gets me is when your friends that all have family are talking about all that they are going to do with their family knowing you have no family close by and they don't see how it may be hurting you. Dont get me wrong i am very happy for them . Then the ones that may wait till the evening of the Holiday and while they go out the door from work they stop and say"oh would you like to come over" nothing worse than the last minute feel sorry thought...i feel if they really wanted me to come over they would have invited me much earlier especially when the holiday is Thanksgiving or Christmas then I probably would accept but not the last minute invite. Am I wrong?????? Last year when i sat around and cried I promised myself that this year i am not going to be alone..........well guess what i am and it is not fun. When i was married many years ago my husband and I always had company during the holidays and they were friends that were alone and everyone had a great time.....i guess what i may be trying to say is....The Holidays really show us who our true friends are.....HAPPY BELated Thanksgiving to everyone and everyone have a VERY MERRY MERRY CHRISTMAS...oh yae and don't forget to hug the person or persons next to you and let them know they are loved just imagine how that person feels after they hear that it may be just what they needed to hear. SO FROM ME TO YOU ALL YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS AND I LOVE YOU ALL ((((((hugs)))))))))) k

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Is anyone else dreading the upcoming holidays? Posted: 10/4/2006 10:07:11 PM
The first few years alone was bad. I tried to pretend that I was happy and ok... while all along i was so lonely inside. The one thing I really dont like is when your "friends" at the very last moment while going out the door on Wednesday before Thankgiving and Dec 24th they invite you to come over. There is nothing worse than feeling the invite was a second thought.......If they had really wanted my company during the Holidays they wouldnt have waited to invite me at the last moment. Yes I declined , i found myself lying saying I had plans. However for the past 2 yrs My girlfriend & I have taken turns in cooking the complete Holday spread at our homes not knowing if anyone else would be stoping by, but in case they did there was food.......Besides we had plenty of leftovers. However unfortunately I do find myself still crying ...but that is ok...hopefully one year I will be able to stop the tears....but until then i will enjoy the Holidays to the fullest as though they are my last. Take Care and be good to yourself. Thank you for sharing a good topic> katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met? Posted: 6/12/2006 1:15:55 AM
I say yes......It had happened to me....we too talked almost every nite........I know this may sound strange but there were times that I actually felt his arms around me holding me,,,,and he felt me....the only reason we had not met was do to him living in another state about 3000 miles away.....to make a long story short the feelings were only one sided and the way i found out was after i bought a plane ticket to go and see him (we had been planning this trip for a few weeks) and even before i told him i had the ticket he said he had a friend that he wanted to have as more than a friend.......i was so shocked and hurt all i could do was tell him good luck and best wishes,,,,,,but to tell the truth all i did was cry ALL nite because i truely had fallen for him(i guess he just was saying everything i wanted to hear)....it worked SSB(tazman) you had me going.......so yes i do believe you could fall in love before ever meeting in person.

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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tell me what u guys think Posted: 6/6/2006 8:05:03 PM
OOPS I AM SO SORRY I JUST READ THE FORUM AGAIN ND YOU SAID "TELL ME WHAT U GUYS THINK:" WISH I COULD DELETE IT SO SORRY

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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tell me what u guys think Posted: 6/6/2006 8:03:00 PM
It appears only the guys have responded to your question. Maybe i can say a few words on the womens side of things. #1) I cant believe she would have been so upset just because you took a day off work to work on the house..you seem intellegent enough that unless you could afford it you wouldnt have done it. #2) Calling her names was wrong but admit it we all do it 3) Have you thought maybe she was mad because you'd take a day off work to work on the house and never thought about taking a day off out of the blue just to be with her ...and do something special for her. (i am sure she has been quit busy raising the 3 children while you worked to support the family) 4) Not knowing how old she may be (well it wouldnt matter) maybe she she just wants a little attention from you and by yelling and screaming you listen to her then. In my opionion for whaTever it may be worth have grandma takes the kids for the weekend and surprise your lady and give her 100% of your time. Sit down and talk with each other and try it without yelling. Just assure her that you love her and would never do ANYTHING to cause any financial difficulties. Then run the bath water , put bubbles in it and invite her in with you. Hopefully while the kids are away the two of you could start getting to know each other again. I will say again us women (ill speak for myself) sometimes i raise my voice because i do not think the man is really listening to me .......but if he listened and at least acted interested into what i was saying it would be cool......(most the time Anyways ill stop now sorry for rAMBLING ON but good luck in your relationship. Do not stay together just for the sake of the kids stay together because you love each other and you love your 3 beautiful kids.

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Can you sleep when you are cuddling? Posted: 5/27/2006 7:19:01 PM
Magickman I have to agree with you. I love to cuddle and have my mans around me or my arms around him. Actually falling asleep listening to him breathing, and his body close to mine, and the warth is so soothing. however i will say if the temperature was in the 90 yes the heat then would be a little rough to sleep but it would not have been because i didnt want to be cuddled. your also right in saying there is no right or wrong answer to this forum.......good one though...

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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singledads and the hope of love and respect Posted: 5/23/2006 9:46:48 PM
Since i was unable to have kids if a gentleman has kids its a plus whether he has them full time or part time. When a sencere woman dates a father they must realize and understand that the children comes first all the time and if she doesnt like that she is not the one. i dated a father for 6 yrs and the kids and i got real attached and when we split the kids still kept in touch with me and i even was invited to their high school graduation yrs later and went. i felt honored. There are still woman out here in the world that adore kids and would be honored to be seeing a father that thought they would get along with his kids. I have a question to you OP if you started seeing someone and the kids did not get along with her for one reason or another would you break it off for the kids.....i am just curious. dont stop looking :)

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Getting Hurt....and Trusting again....... Posted: 4/27/2006 8:13:39 PM
I wish to say first of all you are never alone: you mentioned it in your post you have the Lord to confide in, and his love is always unconditional. I just wish at time I would believe that but it is told to me over and over again because I too am afraid of being alone......I do not want to die alone or die lonely. I feel I have alot to share with that special someone but I guess you have to give the other person a chance not everyone are as......holes. I have been told that once I have gotten to know someone and feel hey they like and feel the same towards me I open my heart and sole to them just to be tossed aside. After my divorce it took me 5 yrs to love and trust again and along the way I have made many friends but trusting someone needs to be earned and sometimes it hard to tell if they have earned my trust....so i guess thats my question when or how can you really tell if you can trust them...and who can guarantee that we would never get hurt again........ Timpo believe in yourself and know there is that special someone out there that wont hurt or break your heart.

katie13

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crying again... Posted: 4/27/2006 7:37:23 PM
I hate to say it and it will happen again and again unfortunately.....you can get thru it....there are nice men out there (i hope) heeeheeehaaa and they will find you I am not sure whaT YOU HAVE DONE that you have gotten hurt . step back and look at the entire picture you are a beautiful woman and be careful....excuse me for saying this cuz i am a woman i do not see why you are having problems finding the right guy...

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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any one ever lost a loved one to addiction? Posted: 4/25/2006 11:59:04 PM
To ttlove: believe me i do know what you are going through and to this day i still miss my exhusbad and there will always be a part of my heart and love that will always be his.....but you do need to move on. 1st step is to realize you ARE NOT TO BLAME for what he decided to do with his life.2nd know that it wasnt he that did this to you it was the drug that did it. When you love someone as much as you say you loved him dont try to forget him he will always be apart of you and remember you fell in love with the good side of him and we cant blame ourselves if they choose drugs over us..... We have so much love and there is that special person out there waiting to be found to share it with. Keep your head up and every morning when you see yourself in the mirror remind yourself you are a beautiful person and no one or no drug will tell you any different. Stay strong and my prayers are with you... Thanks again for this forum and letting me share my thoughts its been awhile since i thought about my past and its helped me realize why i am where i am today. It has not been easy to say the least ...but i am still here and alive...thanks again everyone...

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Cancer and its negative and positive effects on relationships. Posted: 4/23/2006 9:11:12 PM
My mom was a cancer patient too. I must say my Dad was there 24/7 for her. He would drive her for her chemo & radiation Mon-Friday 90 miles round trip for 6 months. He would be up all night with her when she was getting sick/ when she couldnt make it to the bed he would lay down on the floor by the couch until she went to sleep holding her hand. My dad took over the entire house the cooking,cleaning,washing/shopping etc.. When I finally went home to visit and help (give my dad a rest) I hardly new the woman standing in front of me. She had lost about 80 lbs and she aged 15 yrs. I was so scared but my Dad had the strength for all of us. He told me they have been married for 50+ years and he wasnt going to let this dease take my mom from him. After that it was as though an energy bolt went through me and I knew I needed to be strong not only for my mom but for my dad too. I could tell all of this had put a toll on him too.......I couldn't loose both my parents. Well this was almost three years ago and my mom is in remission (praise the lord) and my dad is back to his same old self (being the boss ha ha). I believ it does take a very strong , person. If the partner leaves during this crisis i dont think its because they dont love the other they just cant handle the pain/the thought of loosing their loved one. Yes i would have been very mad at my dad if he had left but wwhat little i saw of the pain/anger my mom was going through I dont know if i could have dealt with it 24/7 . I hope I am not a bad daughter feeling that way. Thanks for the thread it was great to share my thoughts.

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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any one ever lost a loved one to addiction? Posted: 4/18/2006 12:18:12 AM
Barnatic you seem like a very strong person and I take my hat off to you for staying strong and getting your children out before it was too late. It proves you not only were thinking about yourself...heres a big ""(((((HUG)))))))) from me. I too went through a similar situation we were together for 11 yrs married the last 4 yrs. We were both reovering addicts and i went to meetings he had to orders of the courts. I felt so good with the other recovering addicts and he didnt like that. Believe me it was so hard , he was my first true love and the hardest thing was to let go. Even today i find myself thinking about him but i keep reminding myself if I would have stayed who knows where i would be right now. Even though he was the one that left I gave him a choice either me or the addiction well you know what he choose. Believe me when he left i felt like going out there again but I didnt and i have been clean and sober for 10 yrs now. Some days are harder than others but i know i made the right choice. You may still think about her she is the childrens mother and one day the children will ask about her. You may want to attend the NA- alon meetings they are wonderful people....even if you only get one lesson out of the meetings it would be worth it. COntinue being the person that you are and your children will be very proud of you and continue believing in yourself. Take ONE DAY AT A TIME ,,, God bless you and keep up the excellent work

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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will I ever trust again Posted: 4/6/2006 12:59:40 PM
14 years is a along time however like everyone before me has said it will come in time. i am having to start all over again myself. The first time around it took a good 4 yrs to feel comfortable enough to trust and open my heart to someone and I truely fell for him and I thought he felt the same way , only to be hurt again... recently..... so reading everyones thoughts on this subject has been great for me too .. hopefully this time it wont take me 4 yrs.....i'm not getting any younger (:). Thanks again "beautywithen" for having this subject on the forum.... Best wish and good luck in the future....he's out there K

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

Msg: 49 (view)

How Can I Tell When a Man is Serious About Me? Posted: 3/8/2006 10:22:51 PM
This was one of the better threads i have read. It was nice to hear alot from the guys out there. I believe all of you were being totally honest. I think if you really read and listen to what the other person is saying you could pretty much tell if they are playing you he calls you at only his convience and when you try to call he usually doesn't answer or if he does and can't talk right then(most the time he wants to control the situation) Thats just been my experience. But i have met someone and right off the bat he did not care to communicate via the email it was too impersonal. We talked for almost 2 hours the first time and we still talk every morning and every evening and get together every other weekend(he has his daughter every other weekend) she knows about me and we will be meeting in a couple months. We want to see where our relationship is going first. No reason to interfere with his time with his daughter she deserves 100% of her fathers time, however she does want to see him with a lady friend. So it really depends on the man and woman you will know from the begining if they are playing, just keep an opened mind. When i met him i wasn't expecting it. Good luck you will find the right one for you he is out there.

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

What makes you respond to an email? Posted: 3/4/2006 2:26:50 PM
about what "jigga w00t" said That is not totally true..........Like i said before I have answered all my emails..it may take me a few hours but I have made quite a few friends thru these sights. I try to open the email ever couple of days and yes i do write back. i have even been lucky enough to meet someone which i am seeing now. So you never know who you might meet and you never will know unless you correspond to them. Good luck jiggaw00t

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Men that brag about money in an attempt to attract woman. Posted: 3/4/2006 2:19:07 PM
Well unfortunately there are still alot of women out there that just want the men with money....and they don't care about anything else.....and there are men out there that totally enjoy just spoiling their women and don't care what others think about them... hey let the two be happy. In my experience i didn't know he had money until after we were married and we went on many trips together but when we got divorced it was thrown up in my face how he paid for everything....hey he knew i didn't make as much as him(he ,made at least 5xs as much money as I) maybe when he had me pay for 1/2 of everthing down to the groceries, i should have known what this guy was all about "himself" but he wanted a woman by his side for company only (you kept your advise and thoughts to yourself). And when i got him a gifts (using my own money what I could save ) it never was good enough he always returned it and got the top of the line of what ever i had gotten (mountainbike/ and all the gear), wake board, boating equipment etc. and no I receieved nothing in the divorce after 10years...i had to start from the very very bottom again(since all my things weren't good enough for him they were thrown out). So if you have money and want to spend it on your special woman or man (women are ricdh too) do so because you want to..... not to see what you will get in return.... and if you do receive something from the other person don't compare the prices what ever happened to "Its the thought that counts"..... sorry for the book,.........i hope there are still rich men & women out there that spend money on their loved one because they want to......period KATIE

katie13

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CA Get Togethers Posted: 2/28/2006 1:53:00 PM
I agree i haven;t seen any for the greater northern california (sacramento - san jose) lets get people together and plan for a big spring / summer party hoe about it all you Californians. WE ARE PARTY PEOPLE aren't we LOL. Lets hear it from everyone WE CAN DO IT. LETS PARTY... Besides i think it would be fun to meet alot of people. I have been lucfky to meet someon thru POF and so far it is going good. But you can't have too many friends.... lets do it...... katie

katie13

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Messing around with bright individuals Posted: 2/22/2006 11:10:38 PM
OK OK IT WOULD BE A LONG SHOT FOR SOMEONE TO TRACE YOU DOWN....BUT THERE ARE STRANGE ONES OUT THERE AND WOULD DO ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING TO GET TO just be careful thats all sure you can have your fun if by lieing to people and belittleing them is what you call having go for it. You still have time to grow up,,,,,i just hope no one plays you like a fool you'd probably be a little upset,....but maybe not go for it have fun.

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Can you love and hate your family at the same time? Posted: 2/19/2006 9:49:33 PM
Hate is a very strong word. You may have different thoughts on things, the way you live, compared to the way they live, no one every said you had to like it but accept them for who they are. My parents didn;t agree on some of the things i did throughout the years but they never hated me for them they have always been there for me. You appear to be a bright person and just because you don't like something about a relative don't hate them because i am sure they love you just the way you are. Families will always be there for you when everyone else has left. I'm going to go and call my parents see ya bye katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

Msg: 13 (view)

Messing around with bright individuals Posted: 2/19/2006 9:38:01 PM
In response to Young55 i apoligize for assuming anything from this girls' messages. I just think her way of messing with people heads is down right cruel, and sick. And yes there are ways that people can track you down and find out who you are and where you live...... If you don't believe it I am sorry to hear that. Yes it would take alot to track you down but if that person knows computers they can sure do it. Young 55 you strick me as a very intellegent individual so just think about what this girl is doing and she is broadcasting it over the forum don't you think that is a little sick. katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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Messing around with bright individuals Posted: 2/17/2006 1:21:14 AM
All i'd like to add is i agree with chances2btaken. You better watch yourself otherwise we may be reading about you in the newpaper ...."jane Doe found in a ditch. You do not know who you are really talking to and one time the men may not take it so funny like you do. Messing with people minds shows the immaturity in you and you do not belong in a room like this. If you expect to find a nice guy posting something like you did the nice guys will remember .... Be careful out there. later Katie

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

Msg: 10 (view)

What makes you respond to an email? Posted: 2/7/2006 12:59:14 PM
What would you do and say if i told you i'd be in town at the end of this month. By the way how would the weather be at the end of February.

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

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is there something wrong??? Posted: 1/14/2006 6:56:31 PM
Well Califi I am not making judgements on you what i said was based on what you had said in your reply to the original question? You just went off on the guy regarding his typing and now you are throwing in they aren't intellegent if their typing is bad....boy lady you better open up your boundries because if you judge people like that you are in for a surprize. On the other hand,I totally agree with you if I receive an email with just a "heY'' i laugh first then i do reply back "if they couldn't think of anything else to say to me I am not interested. " I like it if they say something that comes out of my profile then at least I know they have read it. Those guys I will respond back with more than a "HEY back to ya" LOL I like the profiles where the guy says " trying to meet someone but it has to be low key I am married" go figure what do those guys think us ladies are stupid. Well I'll speak for myself I I have never ever cheated on a boyfried/husband and I will not be a mistress LOL K back to you Cali

katie13

Joined: 10/30/2005

Msg: 187 (view)

Do women really like to hunt and fish? Posted: 1/14/2006 6:49:42 AM
Now this is my type of conversation..... Fishing shoot i'd be the first one up while camping take the boat out and catch my limit of trout take it back to the campsite make a pot of coffee and have fresh trout for breakfast. This is all before the others even get up. once was fishing up at Rio Vista with 4 guys and I was the only one that pulled in 3 sturgeons only could keep the one that took me 45 minutes to reel in and even had my picture in the Fishery magazine with the 35 ilb 54"(if i remember right) sturgeon that I caught that day. Now when it comes to football try to pull me out of my sweats on sunday morning all the way into the evening and I always made sure I did not work late on Monday nites. The only thing that would pull me away on a Sunday if the weather was so nice that I could not stay inside....then maybe I'd try to find a pub that had outside seating but close enough to see the TV. Hunting i have never gotten into can't shoot a gun. So we are out here you are just not looking in the right places :) K

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