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guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

Mixed Signals? Posted: 11/9/2009 2:11:41 PM
“Mixed signals...step back and let HIM pursue you. Don't ALLOW him to engage in his continual behaviour if he does pursue you. “ “SET BOUNDARIES...His are NOT ACCEPTABLE!” He did set the boundaries. He’s NOT interested in a committed relationship (like most men his age). If he’s like me, it won’t work. When a woman steps back, she screws herself; I do NOT chase anyone.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Do you ever think about how much time you have left? Posted: 11/9/2009 2:01:59 PM
This is the most intelligent thing I’ve read here in years. Thanks! Sadly, NOBODY on here will agree and this will get deleted. They will all be among those still looking in 10 years and wondering what the hell happened.... The sad reality is that people’s level of maturity regress significantly over 40. This is partially due to the stupid middle life crisis. I’m 44 and it’s never been this hard meeting someone and I gave up years ago. I understand what you say but not much I can do other than accept when I can never meet women my age crazy expectations. Nobody wants a relationship over 40 unless it’s some fairytale... As we know, it only happens in movies. On a positive note; There will be LOTS of singles at the Nursing Home by the time I’m there! Thanks anyways!

guyd42

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is it wrong to want revenge?? Posted: 11/9/2009 1:50:03 PM
is it wrong to want revenge?? I don't know. But it feels ****ing good!

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Do you often feel alienated wherever you go? Posted: 11/9/2009 1:48:26 PM
Why is it that messed up people over breakups come here in search of someone else when they are NOT ready to do so?

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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The one you love has a new love.... Posted: 11/9/2009 1:45:49 PM
“No I am NOT over him, so what?” So what? Why not show respect to those who might contact you not knowing your state of mind? Is it mentioned anywhere in your long profile that you’re not over your ex? Do yourself and everybody else a favour; get OUT of here and come back when you’re ready!

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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my girlfreind left me for a for lesbien Posted: 11/9/2009 1:41:00 PM
"Come on people, you're smarter than to fall for this." Are you sure? If they were, they wouldn't be here in the first place. As for me, I have someone. I'm only here for the forum.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Are disproportionate age ranges requirements a red flag? Posted: 11/9/2009 1:35:05 PM
It’s a matter of stupid middle age crisis that both genders go through. Everybody wants someone younger for the wrong reasons. The funny part is; if we all want someone younger, how in the hell are we supposed to find someone? Aren’t we always too old for anyone? This whole thing is totally retarded.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Empty promises Posted: 11/9/2009 1:31:10 PM
I feel sorry for those men. Years of online dating made me very selfish. After being used so often, I learned to say NO!

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

Msg: 29 (view)

Why lunch or dinner? Posted: 11/9/2009 1:28:03 PM
"Personally I love eating on first dates because it shows me if you have manners or not." And I'm sure the meal is always on your date....

guyd42

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Mixed Signals? Posted: 11/9/2009 1:24:56 PM
OP, you’re 45. If he’s about your age, been though divorce, fighting for kids custody and all that crap..... Like most men our age, he’s likely only looking for friendship from now on.

guyd42

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Any advice would be helpful Posted: 11/9/2009 1:17:20 PM
OP, stay single for a while and get therapy.

guyd42

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Why lunch or dinner? Posted: 11/9/2009 12:12:56 PM
No more Dinner on a first meeting for me. Years of paying when there’s rarely a second meeting convinced me that coffee is best.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Whats it like being single over 30? Posted: 11/9/2009 12:09:30 PM
It’s a simple and boring life at times. I travel the world, do lots of activities but always alone. On the other hand, dating has become a real nightmare so I’m better off alone. “I also wont settle for less. Call me picky, call me shallow, but I have high expectations” This is fine. As long as you understand that in 5 years, you’ll still be here and looking, wondering what the hell is wrong. It’s been 8 years for me....

guyd42

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How do you know when you love yourself? Posted: 10/12/2009 9:43:03 AM
"How do you know when you love yourself?" When your psychiatrist diagnose you with narcissism.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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How do you make life fun again? Posted: 10/12/2009 9:41:39 AM
“My breakup with my bf has taken even that pleasure away from me.” And you’re still here looking for a long-term relationship just so your next breakup will destroy you even more. I guess this is like alcoholism; a chronic disease. I had more than my share and just won’t go there again. I’m not that happy alone but is the happiest I’ll ever be considering how crazy dating has become and how disposible is everyone.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Why This Holy Terror of I Love You? Posted: 10/12/2009 9:33:06 AM
"I don't get it. I really don't. Why do people have such a holy terror of confessing love or finding out they're loved?" Because every time I head it, it was the begining of the end.

guyd42

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I'm an Idiot Posted: 10/11/2009 7:44:52 PM
“this was a week ago” You’re not over your ex and are here looking for a long term relationship? Wow..... are you that desperate for someone? No wonder, I will never take anyone from this site seriously....

guyd42

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what goes wrong? Posted: 10/11/2009 7:41:39 PM
OP, get used to it. This is the way it is now.

guyd42

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Common to feel a little depressed even if Dissolution your Idea? Posted: 10/11/2009 7:38:28 PM
If you’re that unstable emotionally, why in the hell are you here looking for a long term relationship?

guyd42

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Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/11/2009 7:36:34 PM
"a HUGE majority of men, well their intentions are not of a serious" And you think women are more serious?

guyd42

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What is the best way to say you arent interested? Posted: 10/11/2009 7:34:09 PM
What is the best way to say you arent interested? Tell him **** off!

guyd42

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I'm 45 and going back to school at night to finish my Bachelors Posted: 10/11/2009 1:21:07 PM
I completed a Degree in Commerce at 39. I’m still in University part time. School won’t be as hard as finding a good Managerial job after. Expect to make less money than you’re making now for at least the first five years. It’s a steep hill. I had to move to 4 different provinces and many cities before finally starting doing well (even though most my employees make more than me).

guyd42

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perplexed Posted: 10/11/2009 1:15:57 PM
Since you asked; this is his personal life and none of your business.

guyd42

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Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/11/2009 1:13:24 PM
“then they give you there phone number and ask for you to call him/her on the next time you talk to them?” Isn’t it the reason for being here?

guyd42

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Went on a double date with my ex husband last night. Crazy? Posted: 10/11/2009 1:11:10 PM
“ So, thanks for the friendly replies, but I think you should know better than to be judging people before you really know them. Welcome to POF!

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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I gotta get out of this place ... Posted: 10/11/2009 1:06:09 PM
“I have heard it's a fairly common ploy for 1st daters to arrange for a buddy to call you let's say an hour into the date.” Common women practice for those without enough integrity and leadership to explain the reasons why they are not interested. Sad really..... It happened to me countless times. I was lucky, since they stayed for the date. It turned me off however, and I walked out.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Love related Q- is this normal? lol Posted: 10/11/2009 1:02:41 PM
What the hell is “cos” anyway?

guyd42

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Gving up on this whole idea.. Posted: 10/11/2009 1:01:00 PM
"or is this whole thing a bunch of bullcrap??" It is if you take it seriously. This is only adult entertainment. “Same things happens in the "real world" You can’t compare the ”real; world” with online dating...... “Takes time to get things going at first.” Wrong! You receive lots of messages initially when new and it declines to nothing.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Where to meet? Posted: 10/11/2009 12:56:15 PM
"What is the etiquette on this?" The reason is that they have likely been here long enough to know that there is rarely a second date and for those taking online dating seriously, it’s time wasted. They therefore expect women to do “half” the work. This is a good indication of how serious they really are. I feel the same way after being here for 6 years.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Have i lost my girlfriend Posted: 10/11/2009 12:51:48 PM
“now personally i think there is someone else but i may be wrong” Did you meet her online? If so, what do you expect? She’s barely an adult and it’s over! Move on! Btw, if you find women online, you better get used to this!

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Prioritizing your boyfriends/girlfriends over your family Posted: 10/11/2009 12:48:41 PM
My family never gave a shit about me so why would I?

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Can a bad relationship trigger a change in Sexual Orientation? Posted: 10/11/2009 12:47:09 PM
After countless horrible relationships, I did ask myself if I wouldn’t better off gay. I think I would quite honestly. The only thing is, I’ll never be physically attracted to a man.

guyd42

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BUSTED! LMAO Posted: 10/11/2009 12:44:06 PM
“She has been to this ass for 7 years.” “She claims they have a "happy marriage". The only reason there are ***holes like this is because there are stupid women to accept it!

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Side dish Posted: 10/6/2009 6:48:41 AM
You were not good enough and now you are? Women ALWAYS keep backups. That’s all what you are until a better one comes along. Tell her to f... off and move on.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Still love her! Posted: 10/6/2009 6:46:45 AM
You have “some college”. At 19, why not go back and finish it rather than focus so much on relationships?

guyd42

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How to adjust? Posted: 10/6/2009 6:44:49 AM
“What can I do to help me move on and find happiness?” Hookers and

guyd42

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Dating a Gamer, would you? Posted: 10/6/2009 6:43:31 AM
There are 1000s of gamers here. They play head games!

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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What is the maturity of men 30+? Posted: 10/6/2009 6:40:51 AM
the way i find it: men in their 20s=no clue men in 30s=starting to get a clue men in their 40s=pretty much got it 50s+=lovely gentlemen Being 44, I have to agree with the above. This being said, I won’t have kids and will not get married. If I wasn’t sure in my 30’s, I am now.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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No connection, no chemistry, no passion...but....they're nice? Posted: 10/6/2009 6:36:39 AM
"usually u feel it from the first date ....." Feel what? You don’t even know the person!

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Advice Posted: 10/6/2009 6:35:10 AM
“Is it wrong to be upset if a man that you are dating goes to a female friend of his. and co-worker asking for advice about your relationship .” Women tend to have a chronic tendency to share too much with friends and coworkers. Been there so many times with many ex. I always maintained that this was very respectful to me.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Ahhh Posted: 10/6/2009 6:32:29 AM
“you probably have a bigger chance of meeting the pervs offline than you do on.” Hell no! This place is notorious for being a playground for casual sex seekers. “I think ill stop looking on the computer for now on.” If you wish for something serious, it’s better for you to leave. Online dating is adult entertainment only.

guyd42

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No connection, no chemistry, no passion...but....they're nice? Posted: 10/6/2009 6:24:52 AM
What the hell is “connection” or “chemistry”? Being in lust? You have it right away or you reject that person despite there could be lots of potential and common interests? No wonder dating leads nowhere....

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Do I tell the other guy she's cheating him as well? Posted: 10/6/2009 6:07:37 AM
OP. What the hell do you expect? There’s nothing between you both but an online friendship. Come on, she’s at the other end of the world. Be realistic. Move on and find someone locally where you have a chance to make it work.

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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What to do when someone keeps canceling plans ? Posted: 10/5/2009 11:48:30 AM
What to do when someone keeps canceling plans ? Easy; MOVE ON!

guyd42

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Loser Posted: 10/4/2009 5:46:18 PM
“Im just wondering what kind of guy does that” That’s what you get online! From both genders.

guyd42

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Why do I care? Posted: 10/4/2009 5:42:51 PM
How do you stop feeling like this? Get therapy!

guyd42

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fussy 30 somethings Posted: 10/4/2009 5:38:48 PM
And in 5 years, you’ll still be here and looking wondering what the hell is going on....

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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How's this for a bad first date? Posted: 10/4/2009 12:10:48 PM
“Maybe she felt the "chemistry" and the "sparks" were flying...” Sudden surge of endorphin and serotonin “aka Chemistry” severely affects your judgment and make you do the most stupid things. Just watch Judge Judy. It’s all what it’s about...Also, if you notice, complainants are almost always female on Judge Judy.....

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life! Posted: 10/4/2009 11:46:53 AM
No one is destroying your life but yourself! No one forced you in this relationship. I chose not to get involved romantically after a lifelong of failed attempts and heartbreaks. This is self inflicted wound. It’s normal that you must lick them yourself. You better get used to it. It will only get worse as you get older. You’re 22 and a Phlebotomist. Here’s my suggestion; forget about this dating crap, go back to school and become a Lab Technologist. BCIT offer the program. You can get a leave of absence from your current job and a guaranteed 60,000 job in less than 2 years. At your age, this is a good place to invest your time and energy. Not dating and relationship bullshit.....

guyd42

Joined: 10/13/2008

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How can I stop myself from getting sucked in again? Posted: 10/4/2009 11:36:03 AM
“you don't need jerkoff losers like that in your life, just forget him.” I have to disagree. This is what most women are attracted to. Despite what they say....

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