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Serious Member / Paid Upgrade Thread - Are we a tad spoiled by POF and a bit ungrateful for its serv Posted: 3/18/2009 7:22:14 PM
Yellow dot claims on the sales page. Men can expect on average women making first contact 9x more than before! (This one is shocking)</1> Even more shocking since it couldn't really be tested before this "upgrade" was offered on POF to people for free. Women can expect on average a 40% increase in first contacts. </1> Same comment to this item too as if women need more shirtless wonders contacts them :)

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March 15, 2009 Snowshoeing Pictures Posted: 3/16/2009 11:16:40 PM
Thanks all for a great day in the mountains!

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Serious Member / Paid Upgrade Thread - Are we a tad spoiled by POF and a bit ungrateful for its services? Posted: 3/13/2009 8:25:57 PM
My understanding is that no one that had the "serious member" badge a week ago when they were introduced had paid for the "upgrade". I think it is currently "false advertising" to say these are "serious members" since they didn't have to pay but where offered having the logo on there profile to "fool" others into both noticing their profiles + "fool" some into paying money for the "upgrade". Maybe the next badge will be "really serous members" when the dool out cold hard cash.

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When it comes to flirts, men just don't get it... Posted: 7/16/2008 12:40:18 PM
Another interesting article, this time from the Toronto Star. Interested to hear others thoughts and comments. http://www.thestar.com/living/article/460828 When it comes to flirts, men just don't get it TheStar.com - living - When it comes to flirts, men just don't get it Males miss danger signs while women work on relationship, study finds July 16, 2008 Trish Crawford Living Reporter It's official: Men are oblivious when it comes to the dangers of flirts. Social psychologists at McGill University have discovered that different beliefs between men and women about the power of flirting can hurt committed relationships. Men simply do not see the same danger as women when a flirt strikes, says Prof. John Lydon, lead author of the study in the July issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, published by the American Psychological Association. But there is an almost immediate negative impact on the relationship, researchers discovered in a series of experiments involving 724 heterosexual college students involved in serious relationships. Lydon, a relationship expert, says the team studied flirting because they are surrounded by students as subjects. If they were studying people in their 40s, he says, they'd have looked at problems with in-laws or conflict resolution. In one experiment, a meeting with an "available, attractive alternative" was closely followed by the discovery their partner had done something that irritated them, such as reveal an embarrassing detail to others. The men got angry. The women, however, became more loving and forgiving. According to Lydon, these young women recognized the danger presented by an attractive flirt and worked to shore up the committed relationship they already had. The men didn't have a clue what was going on, he says. "One of the undergraduate males (in the study) asked, `Does this mean men are pigs?' said Lydon, adding that it only means men are self-focused and "not making the connection." In another test, men and women were just asked to visualize meeting a sexy flirt of the opposite sex. The men also failed to connect the dots. When presented with the letters LO(space)AL, men wrote "local" while women chose "loyal." Similarly, BE(space)A(space)E was " became" to men, and "beware" to the women. Lydon says women are just more proactive at saving the relationship, using skills honed over centuries of being warned of the perils of flirtatious men. "Women are just more likely to have guys coming on to them," he says, adding that this kicks in a defensive response, "Oh, I've got to watch out for the relationship." Men, who are considered able to handle themselves in the face of an aggressive female, aren't raised with relationship-saving tricks, says Lydon, adding that it is possible to "train the men up." Simply having men visualize meeting a hot babe and then come up with strategies, such as ignoring her or mentioning their girlfriend, helped the study subjects actively work on keeping their committed relationship safe, he says.

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Page has frozen site not updating itself? Posted: 7/5/2008 7:10:32 AM
You can get a partial refresh if you View you own profile then add yourself as a favourite. It will update when you favourites were last on. That is as far as I have gotten. Still other pages are not refreshing, and IM options do not appear on screen for me.

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Bachelors have been hit hard by the credit crunch Posted: 7/3/2008 2:02:11 PM
Wanted to share the attached article and see what the PoF crowd has to say about it all. Full story: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/portal/main.jhtml?xml=/portal/2008/07/03/ftcash103.xml Bachelors have been hit hard by the credit crunch. Stephen Armstrong commiserates with the guys who now can't afford to buy their dates a drink With all the headlines about the credit crisis, collapsing house prices, job losses and the soaring cost of oil and food, it is easy to forget the stratum of society that seems to be the worst-affected - bachelors. The fiscal squeeze is hitting them where it hurts most - in the wallet. Cashtrati Ardour times: if each date costs you £100, you’re going to think twice Cash-strapped Romeos are resorting to all sorts of tricks to keep the costs down, as Sally Taylor, a postgraduate student in Oxford, recently discovered to her horror. "He seemed like a normal guy," she recalls. "We met through friends, went out for a meal; he paid, and it was all very nice, but there was no real spark between us. So, when he called up the next day to ask me out again, I said no. The next day he sent me an invoice for my half of the meal." See full story at http://www.telegraph.co.uk/portal/main.jhtml?xml=/portal/2008/07/03/ftcash103.xml

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A Must Read Guide For Online Dating In Vancouver Posted: 4/16/2008 11:15:15 PM
#16 - Don't post photos of you at the shooting range with a gun. Who wants to date a girl that things this is a positive image to post of herself? Actual you know what, post it. Makes it easier to move past your profile.

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Freemales: Manless women Posted: 4/16/2008 7:04:44 PM
Which makes me laugh since my real last name is Freeman!

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Freemales: Manless women Posted: 4/16/2008 8:04:49 AM
Curious to see what the fish pond things of this.... From today's Globe and Mail Social Studies.... WORD WATCH Freemales: Manless women who are happy to remain so, at least for now. They are a force to be reckoned with in Britain, The Observer says. They are overturning the dated Bridget Jones image of the lonely woman staring despondently at an empty chardonnay bottle. They are too busy living life to the full to make time for "Mr. Mediocre," and the last thing on their minds is "Will I find Mr. Right today?"

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In the news today...playing hard to get pays off? Posted: 4/26/2007 10:12:05 AM
Looking for opinions on this piece from the paper.... http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20070426.wxlsexstudies26/BNStory/lifeFamily/home SLUTS and VERMIN By - SIRI AGRELL From Thursday's Globe and Mail April 26, 2007 at 8:52 AM EST A Montreal male recently had the option of sleeping with a member of the opposite sex whenever he wanted. But he also had another female in his life, one who only occasionally fulfilled his sexual desires. Left in a room with both sexual partners, he found himself instantly drawn to the one who had been playing hard to get. This story will not surprise most women, who have undoubtedly been told - either by peers or pop culture - not to put out too early in a relationship, lest the man lose interest. A male right (right) watches as an over-eager female approaches him through a door in an experiment at Montreal's Concordia University. Researchers discovered the male preferred female rats that weren't readily available to him. But the fact that the Montreal love triangle took place among white lab rats may offer a new level of credence to this piece of sexual lore. Nafissa Ismail, a graduate student at Concordia University's Centre for Studies in Behavioural Neurobiology who recorded the findings, is one of a growing number of researchers whose work attempts to explain human relationships on a biological, neurological or even genetic level. From love at first sight to absence makes the heart grow fonder, almost every romantic cliché now has a scientific rationale. (Full story @ the link above)

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Please don't sleep with me? Posted: 4/17/2007 6:19:28 AM
[u]Sleeping together[/u] Austrian scientists say sharing a bed with someone temporarily reduces men's brain power. When men spend the night with someone their sleep is disturbed, whether they make love or not, and this impairs their mental ability the next day. According to the study, reported in the New Scientist, women who share a bed fare better because they sleep more soundly. Dr. Neil Stanley, a British sleep expert, commented: "Historically, we have never been meant to sleep in the same bed as each other. It is a bizarre thing to do." So what do you think? Wondering what you might say about ths? This is todays question. Mark

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Study: Men misinterpret friendliness from women / women undervalue signs men wants committment Posted: 11/30/2006 7:45:13 PM
From my favourite part of the G&M - Social Studies Mistakes we make ============= "As studies show, and many women will attest, men tend to misinterpret innocent friendliness as a sign that women are sexually interested in them," says The Economist. Dr. Martie Haselton and Dr. David Buss reason that "men who are trying to decide if a woman is interested sexually can err in one of two ways. They can mistakenly believe that she is not interested, in which case they will not bother trying to have sex with her; or they can mistakenly believe she is interested, try and be rejected. From an evolutionary standpoint, trying and being rejected comes at little cost . . . Not trying at all, by contrast, may mean the loss of an opportunity to, among other things, spread one's DNA. There is an opposite bias in women's errors. They tend to undervalue signs that a man is interested in a committed relationship. That, the idea goes, is because a woman who guesses wrongly that a man intends to stick around could end up raising a child alone." Comments?

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BEST SUSHI PLACE IN VAN. Posted: 11/30/2006 7:38:54 PM
Hands down, "The Sushi Bar" on just in from the soth west corner of 4th at Burrard in Kits. The best spicy tuna sashimi, and lots ot other cool rolls - try the Moonlight Roll or the Kamikaze Roll and the gomae! Love it all.

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Quotation on love Posted: 11/29/2006 11:51:24 PM
"Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction." - Antoine de Saint-Exupery Was the one that I was looking for - thank you.

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Leavin on a jet plane... Posted: 11/29/2006 7:32:34 AM
Just happened into the posts and saw your note - wondering if you are willing to share a few details of where you are off to and what this next big step is - curious to know. MDF

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Quotation on love Posted: 11/29/2006 7:29:55 AM
Ok - so there is this great quote that I cannot remember all the bits to... something along the lines of love not being looking into each others eyes and seeing the world but to look out on and together see the same world. Any chance that someone knows the quote or is better at searching online than me to find it. Thanks for the help, Mark

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flying to meet a date? Posted: 11/21/2006 10:10:34 PM
Didn't you just buy into my thread titled first dates should be only 45mins max? Like someone said - if you want to see the city, go to see the city. The date portion should be short, sweet and have a few boundaries. If you want to move to that city, then move and live the life and you will meet someone there. Oh and again - read the Vancouver Sun article one more time MDF

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First date should be 45 min. Posted: 11/21/2006 7:51:32 PM
Taken from the Globe and Mail's Social Studies Section (Nov 21/06) [i}[u]How to date[/u] No first date should ever be more than 45 minutes, contends Connie Merritt, author of Finding Love (Again!). "And it should be in the daylight, no meal, no alcohol. Take a walk in the park or meet for coffee." [u]During that critical 45 minutes, focus on getting answers to five questions:[/u] What do you like to do when you're not working -- do you have a life outside work? Where did you grow up and go to school? Does your family live nearby? What happened to your past relationships? Who are your best friends, and what do you like to do with them? Source: Stamford (Conn.) Advocate When I read this piece this morning. I thought, what would my fellow PoF'er think, especially in the light of yesterday's Vancouver Sun aritcle? How many of you have up and left a date after 15mins? How many of you have gone to the other extreme These question are not limited to just online meetings but in the everyday regular world. Looking forward to some good discussion.

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Valentine's Day bring out the exceptionally strange ones? Posted: 2/7/2006 6:28:45 AM
Anyone else notice that the there is another rush happening. Just like around Christmas and New Years people on a mission have appeared. A few strange emails in the last couple of days, more people than usual trying to IM without emailing before hand, etc, etc. Now I am told my the girls I have met that it is standard for them to be blocking a person or two week but I am wondering if they have seen an up surge in strangeness both at Christmas and in the last few days as "Black Tuesday" gets closer. Have you?

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See if someone in yoru favourites or email is online to IM Posted: 11/14/2005 7:29:19 PM
How I can see if someone is avaiable to IM that appears in my email or in my favourites listing? Mark

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