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 Author Thread: Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 277 (view)
 
Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:37:09 PM

Yes, a man who takes care of his kids is a REAL man and I do think it is less-than-human to make them and not take care of them.


Have you ever read history? You can find millions of examples of bad men, all of whom are real.


this is a debate forum, is it not?


Indeed it is. Which is why I question why someone uses a word with no meaning, and then when questioned, repeats it capitalized as though that somehow capitalization affects meaning.

You could argue that a man who leaves his kids is "bad", but I guarantee you that he is real.

Unless you are hallucinating schizophrenic, in which case I make no guarantees on the realness of anything you experience.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 267 (view)
 
Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 10/25/2009 12:32:59 PM

Some men are REAL men...others are still stuck in their caves. lol :-)


What does it say about you that you have to deny the very humanity of people who disagree with you?

Guess what? People who don't want to date you, or don't agree with your worldview, are very real too.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 152 (view)
 
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 10/10/2009 2:39:04 PM

I defy anyone to find anything wrong with doing a polka with the neighbours 19 year old kid.


Hi. I'm Chris Hanson. Why don't you have a seat over there?
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 2585 (view)
 
do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/7/2009 8:16:21 PM
I'd think he is a pretty smart guy.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
College education dealbreaker
Posted: 9/7/2009 10:18:53 PM
why does that make me a bad person if I want someone who has attained the same level of education?


That doesn't make you a bad person.

What people are upset about is you thinking anyone without a degree is some brainless lummox while college education provides a person with appreciation for Western Lit.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
College education dealbreaker
Posted: 9/7/2009 10:03:01 PM
I don't have a college degree, yet I've read tons of books, including the Canterbury Tales. I'm an amateur military historian. I have the test scores to join Mensa if I so chose. A degree is nothing more than a piece of paper. That piece of paper doesn't change anything other than earning potential, which you say has nothing to do with it. I've met people with degrees who wouldn't read anything other than what was needed for school and would most certainly rather watch MMA.

Quite simply, if your looking for someone with brains, look for someone with brains. A piece of paper isn't going to tell you anything other than that person can repeat what is said to them.

I think you struck home on the source of the problem in your first post. Elitism.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Beauty In The Eyes of The Beholder
Posted: 8/16/2009 5:26:26 PM

You can't just ask only guys for advice. That's called polarisation and is against POF terms.


Seriously?!?! In the "ASK A GUY" section?
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Honest opinion wanted....
Posted: 8/14/2009 9:31:51 PM
A. You live near an Air Force base, an Army base, and a Coast Guard training center.
B. You live in the South, which has a proportionally higher percentage of people who serve.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
close linked with teen pregnancies
Posted: 8/9/2009 4:01:02 AM

If you want to find a woman without children, then head to North Dakota..... The odds seem stacked in your favor there.


Yes, great odds once you get past the fact that there is 7 women in the state, and judging by their looks, there is a reason they haven't procreated.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Does confidence make a difference???
Posted: 8/8/2009 7:50:59 PM

I am personally not attracted to bigger women so you could be radiating confidence and it really wouldn't make a difference to me.


x2.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Men And Larger Gals
Posted: 8/8/2009 4:16:27 PM

The secret to weight loss is to lose kilograms instead of pounds. If you had lost 39 kilograms instead of pounds you would have lost more than twice the weight. You have to get a scale that reads your weight in metric units. This is the main reason why people in the US are generally heavier than in other parts of the world. We really should have switched to the metric system back in the 70's. The metric system is sexy.


Yeah, but then a girl tells me she is 5'1" and 90, and I'm like "YEAH!!", and then I see her and I'm like "Yeah....."
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 179 (view)
 
Time
Posted: 8/4/2009 7:16:35 AM

Spacetime is usually interpreted with space being three-dimensional and time playing the role of a fourth dimension that is of a different sort than the spatial dimensions.


Note the key phrase, "plays the role of." Time is not a fourth dimension. Space and time are the same thing.


According to certain Euclidean space perceptions, the universe has three dimensions of space (Height, Width, Depth) and one dimension of time.


I think you need to read a bit closer. Euclidean space perceptions are what we now call classical mechanics, which is completely opposite of Relativity. Classical mechanics says time is a forth dimension independent of the physical dimensions. Relativity says space and time are the same thing.


Please do not correct people if you do not know what you are talking about.


No need to get hostile. Especially when I am right.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 174 (view)
 
Time
Posted: 8/4/2009 12:07:05 AM

Time is a dimension and can by nature not be negative.


Time is not a dimension.


Einstein's theory was just that - a theory. A theory can not prove anything.


Of course a theory can't prove anything. Of course, everything in science is a theory. Gravity is a theory.

If Einsteins wasn't right, then GPS wouldn't work. GPS satellites are in less gravity and therefore go faster, by about 16.4 milliseconds per year. The atomic clocks in GPS satelites take this into account. 16.4 milliseconds per year may not sound like a lot, but when you consider that radio signals propagate at the speed of light, 16.4 milliseconds per year equals about 13.5 kilometers per day. Obviously, an error of that magnitude would be obvious. GPS has been in operation almost 30 years and it is still accurate. If you reject Einstein, you shouldn't use GPS, because you'd then have to believe that it is obviously wrong.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 129 (view)
 
guys who like girls with tummies
Posted: 8/3/2009 2:42:05 PM

as for sacrificing animals, its highly recommended in the bible, you know that book your boss looks up to, head of the church of england isnt she, that queen whos a little overweight you lay down your life to protect.


Yes, because it's my job as an American Soldier to protect the Queen of England. It is your ignorance, rather than mine, that is showing. What's funny is that English is "your" language, yet you can't write it on a 6th grade level. Who's the "looser" now?
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 108 (view)
 
guys who like girls with tummies
Posted: 7/29/2009 10:04:59 AM

Look back through history, our ancestors from all over the world carved goddess figure shapes from rocks, they had huge tummies, they were looked upon as beautiful, a blessing of fertility, giver of life. Look at the old masters paintings, women were curvy with tummies, breasts and hips how women should be.


They also believed that you could take evil spirits out of your body with leeches and that if you sacrificed an animal, you could appease the gods and have a good harvest. If they did it in ancient times, it's good enough for us!


I dont think there is any need to be rude, it is possible for people to state their preferences without being hurtful to others.


You say that people should stop being hurtful when people say they don't like women who are fat, but then you have the gall to suggest that there is only one way women should look ("women were curvy with tummies, breasts and hips how women should be.") as though anyone who doesn't meet that standard is a not a woman. We have a word for people who have one standard for themselves and one standard for others.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 99 (view)
 
guys who like girls with tummies
Posted: 7/29/2009 12:44:36 AM

i'm sure the majority of people do not wish to become fat or obese.


That's not the issue; It is whether they are willing to do anything about it.

When I was in basic training 4 years ago, we had a ton of guys who were overweight. Every single one, without exception, lost a great deal of their excess weight. Why? You eat three healthy meals per day and you are working your butt off everyday from sunup to sundown. That's the reason why obesity was never a huge issue before: people worked hard all day. Nowadays, people eat crap, sit at a desk, then go to the gym and walk around the track for half an hour, and then go, "I don't understand why I am gaining weight, I go to the gym."
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 419 (view)
 
What do you think about cougars?
Posted: 7/27/2009 8:55:02 PM

and also cougars that have been stuffed


That reminds me of Naked Gun.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zhyCL-ELRxg

Why can't they make movies like that anymore.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
The Big Bang theory surely is the limit case ?
Posted: 7/25/2009 12:41:26 AM

don't know, but I think we should all be able to agree that there was NEVER a "time" when absolutely NOTHING existed.


There was no "time" before the Big Bang. Time-space did not exist, so therefore there could be no time.


So SOMETHING has always existed, because common sense, and our best scientific minds will tell you, that you can't get something from nothing.


Quantum physics defies all common sense.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
The Big Bang theory surely is the limit case ?
Posted: 7/25/2009 12:35:24 AM

Woe now, the big bang has considerable observational evidence....lol thats funny seeing how it's a theory and far from factual data


Of course it's a theory. Everything in science is a theory. That's how it works. You come up with in idea of how things work, and then you find facts by observing, and then see if those facts match up with your ideas. The Big Bang is a THEORY, and it is backed up by numerous FACTS and OBSERVATIONS.

I mean, if your going to not believe in the Big Bang because it's a THEORY, I guess you'd better not believe in the THEORY of gravity. Then again, considering relgious people, you may well believe in Intelligent Falling.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Confidence attracts..................
Posted: 7/22/2009 12:46:45 PM

Guys who are painfully shy make me nervous, and so I tend to lump them in the friends section.


That doesn't sound very confident to me.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
is he bi?
Posted: 7/21/2009 5:53:31 PM

Guys tend to be straight or gay..at least that is what they said on Oprah!


Oprah said it! It must be true!
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
US Military Forces begin to Withdraw from Iraq...
Posted: 7/19/2009 6:03:59 PM

I thought they just withdrew from the cities but we still had over 100,000 soldiers still in country? And one mega "embassy?"
They handed over the cities, but we are going to stick around "just in case" for a while?


Allied troops are still conducting their own operations outside of the cities, but all operations inside the cities are the responsibility of Iraqi security forces. We are gradually making Iraq more and more responsible for their own security.


I don't really care until Iraq is sovereign again.


Iraqi IS sovereign. That is the entire point of this move. The US has a Status of Forces Agreement with Iraq, which specified that US troops must be out of Iraqi cities by June 30, 2009.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
US Military Forces begin to Withdraw from Iraq...
Posted: 7/19/2009 5:01:14 PM

Will things implode as soon as the troops leave?


We can't know for certain, but thus far Iraqi forces have done a good job in managing the cities by themselves.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
US Military Forces begin to Withdraw from Iraq...
Posted: 7/19/2009 4:42:34 PM

Sometimes, one needs to understand when a mistake is made and cut losses before more are needlessly lost


What? For all intents and purposes we have WON in Iraq. Violence is way, way down. Iraqi citizens are more concerned about their future than about internal security. The Iraqi military is now in charge of Iraqi cities. We are pulling out because we defeated most of the enemy and have rebuilt Iraq to the point that we don't need as much people anymore.

This is a time for celebrating what has been accomplished, and remember those who sacrificed to make it possible.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
What the H*LL is up with all these women jumpin' out of planes!
Posted: 7/19/2009 12:14:47 PM

Enough is enough! I have had it with these motherf*cking snakes on this motherf*cking plane!


I think you should open a window or something.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Anyone else tired of being lumped in with the idiots?
Posted: 7/18/2009 12:57:45 PM

I'm sorry. Just been browsing and commenting on the single parent forum today and getting really frustrated [with seeing so much negativity].



bosoxfaninwa - Why do you insist on bringing your "challenging" personality to bear in the forums and then making it sound like other people are online because they're needy? You're not even dating on here and your posts are prolific, which leads me to believe you spend ALL DAY sharing your opinions with strangers. When negativity comes to mind, it doesn't matter how smart you are, your attitude speaks volumes.


Pot, meet Kettle.

Perhaps, instead of getting upset about negativity, you should search for the root causes thereof. I suspect that the answer would hit closer to home than you prefer.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Benefits of dating a Single mom
Posted: 7/16/2009 11:25:34 PM

Having a child proof house is only a benefit to dating someone if they also have small children.


I'm not so sure. I remember the time I tried to make out with the electrical outlet. Those little plastic things could have come in handy.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Secret location
Posted: 7/14/2009 8:00:04 PM
Yes, we have meetings. You're not invited.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 147 (view)
 
A question for the ladies - Fisting
Posted: 7/8/2009 1:52:19 PM

Fighting on the internet is like competing in the special olympics Even if you win your still retrated.


This post is full of win.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 188 (view)
 
Called a golddigger because I expect a man to buy me a drink?
Posted: 7/5/2009 1:52:34 PM

I would've liked to have dated in the 50's. Going to the drive in or the skating rink, listening to Elvis and Buddy Holly.


And men could hit women and the police would look the other way, women didn't have much in the way of career opportunities, and they weren't much good other than for cooking, cleaning, and making babies. Sure sounds like the good old days, huh?
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 294 (view)
 
Why do men find it so difficult to date single mothers?
Posted: 7/5/2009 10:33:26 AM

I think all men need to ask themselves a question!

What would it have been with out a stepdad?
What if no one wanted my mother because of me?
What if you were the child of a single mother, would you want men to think of you and run?

Oh, and a man really loves you it will be unconditional and he will put up with any drama, kids, good times and bad, and still love you! As, you will also do for him, if you really Love him!


Again with the attempted emotional manipulation.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 286 (view)
 
Why do men find it so difficult to date single mothers?
Posted: 7/5/2009 7:44:19 AM

Maybe because some men like to be the center of attn in a new relationship and find it hard to cope with.


Yeah, men wanting to be in a relationship that consists of more than them giving and women taking. Shocking, right?
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Do tall women intiminate men?
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:27:21 PM
Intimidated? No. Attracted? Also no.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 136 (view)
 
Shocked! how can someone be so demoralising!
Posted: 7/1/2009 9:28:12 AM

Most models nowadays seem to have little boyish features.


I've never seen a boy with 34cs.


Come on people,if you didnt like the OP why did you waste your time and energy responding to her post?


If she didn't like what that guy said, why did she bother posting it?


Her point seemed to be, to me anyway,that so many idiots are limiting themselves.


Actually, her point was how "demoralising" it was for a guy to know what he wants and say it outright in his profile and for her to find out that she doesn't meet his standards.

Limiting themselves? Last time I checked, finding that one person is the entire point for most people, so I don't see how a person eliminating the things they don't want would make them an idiot.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
More Repetative Venting?
Posted: 6/30/2009 7:51:47 AM

yeah I already know 85% of guys see kids as "baggage" and that's not only sad but ignorant...


Name-calling, nice.

Perhaps the reason you are on a "bad streak" is because of your obvious anger issues and inability to listen. Or the fact that you want an "intelligent" man, but you can't string together a proper sentence.


and I'm the realest female you'll meet,


Doubtful. There are 3+ billion "real" females on this planet. Being "real" is generally just an excuse for bad behavior, or words to make a person feel better about themselves.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 1241 (view)
 
Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs?
Posted: 6/24/2009 5:32:12 PM

Perhaps its the 5 minutes peace and quiet that men really enjoy?


Oh snap
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Why does he do this? :P
Posted: 6/24/2009 5:26:43 PM
You sound like a real winner. You should go your separate ways. Anything you had going for you is gone, the only thing keeping you together is relationship inertia.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 107 (view)
 
Why do men find it so difficult to date single mothers?
Posted: 6/24/2009 12:59:30 PM

Still never said it didn't. So you are arguing a mute point.


Irony at it's finest.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
dating women in the military
Posted: 6/24/2009 11:09:53 AM
I would never date a woman in the military. I've seen enough to know better.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Why do men find it so difficult to date single mothers?
Posted: 6/23/2009 7:10:15 PM

Ya well you should look in the mirror buddy. Your f**cking ugly. And with that additude you are going to grow old a very lonely man.


Jerk


You have a great "additude" yourself.

Perhaps he is not the only one that needs a mirror.

P.S. I'm still trying to figure out how to fit 2 censored letters are 6 non-censored ones in a 7 letter word.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
daughters, fathers, fat and dating
Posted: 6/17/2009 4:05:51 PM

The question IS actually.... what does a man expect the dating life of his fat mother, sister, daughter to be?


It's not my dating life so it's not my business. I wish more people would take that approach.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
daughters, fathers, fat and dating
Posted: 6/17/2009 3:47:23 PM
Can you NOT answer the ACTUAL question?


There is no actual question, only a assertion in which you are attempting to force everyone into agree to your point of view.


I guess some of us can't read or refuse to address the real issues.


I guess some of us can't avoid ad hominem attacks because they know that their position is based on nothing but pure rhetoric.


Does this just hit home for you or something?


Well, I won't date a fat chick, so I guess so.


Is that why you are calling a reasonable question a rant?


It's not a reasonable question when someone responds to your assertion the obesity is genetic, and someone responds that it most only be American genetics, and you snap at them to stay on subject. You are trying to get people to agree to your point of view by limiting the discussion, probably because you know you'll lose in any real argument.


What's your issue?


My issue is you using the forum to try and shame other people into thinking your way. Everyone is allowed standards to expect, whether it's intelligence, character, appearance, weight, whatever and they don't have to justify to you, me, their mother, their brother, or anyone else.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
daughters, fathers, fat and dating
Posted: 6/17/2009 3:29:31 PM
I guess we can't have any standards nowadays. Someone might get sand in unmentionable places and have to go on a rant in an internet forum.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Real men.....what do you mean when you say that?
Posted: 6/17/2009 2:14:45 AM
Unfortunately, the word real is far too often used in the fora. It's typically used by people who desire people to be something other than what they want them to be and is a shallow attempt to shame them into acting differently. They should make a subset of Godwin's law that says anyone who uses the word "real" in an argument automatically loses.

Now, if you want to know what defines a good man (as opposed to "real"), read Gen MacArthur's poem "Build Me a Son", and then you can have an idea.

Build me a son, O Lord,
who will be strong enough to know when he is weak,
and brave enough to face him self when he is afraid;
one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat,
and humble and gentle in victory.

Build me a son whose wishbone will not be
where his backbone should be;
a son who will know Thee- and that
to know himself is the foundation stone of knowledge.

Lead him, I pray, not in the path of ease and comfort,
but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge.
Here, let him learn to stand up in the storm;
here, let him team compassion for those who fall.

Build me a son whose heart will be clear, whose goals will be high;
a son who will master himself before he seeks to master other men;
one who will learn to laugh, yet never forget how to weep;
one who will reach into the future, yet never forget the past.

And after all these things are his,
add, I pray, enough of a sense of humor,
so that he may always be serious,
yet never take himself too seriously.

Give him humility, so that he may always remember
the simplicity of true greatness,
the open mind of true wisdom,
the meekness of true strength.

Then I, his father, will dare to whisper,
"I have not lived in vain."

Note that there isn't a damn thing in there about choosing not to date anyone for any reason.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Does having a kid really make that much of a difference?
Posted: 6/16/2009 11:52:18 PM

I'm sick and tired of wasting my time with ***holes who seem interested in me then find out I have a child and just disappear


I think I've found the problem.

Hint: No one owes you anything. Just because they don't want you doesn't make them a**holes.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What's the deal with motorcycles?
Posted: 6/16/2009 6:34:14 PM

So, do guys think women love men with bikes?


They don't think women love men with bikes. They just happen to love bikes,love riding, and potentially share that with someone.

It's not different than any other hobby a man has on his profile, it's just that this hobby has a much more obvious physical appearance.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 164 (view)
 
Ladies, Want to know what happened to all the Nice Guys?
Posted: 6/16/2009 5:31:10 PM

Nice is a human requirement, not a bonus.


Dang, guess I've been doing it wrong this whole time.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 160 (view)
 
Ladies, Want to know what happened to all the Nice Guys?
Posted: 6/16/2009 8:07:00 AM
If your looking for an Intelligent young woman to meet? consider proof reading your profile material.


Well, it's a good thing I'm not looking then. My profile is set to private, so it can only be seen through my forum profile. I just haven't updated my profile to reflect that fact.


There are alot of young troops out there full if P**s and vinager who think that being a thug to woman will attract them to himself


You have obviously misconstrued my post. I was making a joke. You know, those things that are funny? I was going to such an extreme that I was expecting people could see the intended comedy. Obviously, I was mistaken.


even though I was a polished skater, and speed skater at that age a little bit of acting will find you a willing party to hold your hand and attempt to help you.


So, you advocate lying and pretending to be something other than what you are to get a girl? I'm not that desperate.


The best practice of attracting the attention of a good woman is not to profess how " You Roll" , it's more how you exprees yourself in an Intelligent manner that will most likely make a favorable first impression.


I'm not on the forum looking for anyone, so I don't really care what impression I make, first or otherwise.. I'm here to have some fun and rustle some feathers. That's is, after all, how I roll.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 150 (view)
 
Ladies, Want to know what happened to all the Nice Guys?
Posted: 6/15/2009 6:20:31 PM

What guy is going to say "I'm a complete ****ing ***hole and I plan on ****ing you over and treating you like shit forever.....Coffee?"


I will.

That's how I roll.
 TheArmyLife
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 937 (view)
 
Do guys like single moms?
Posted: 6/15/2009 4:11:57 PM

there are so many single moms out there. yeah mature guys dont mind whether or not you have a baby.


Yeah, it's because guys who do care are immature.

It couldn't possibly be because they did a rational, logic evaluation of the pros and cons and came to the conclusion that there are a whole lot of negatives to dating single parents and essentially no positives.

Or maybe you think rational, logic evaluations are immature.
 
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