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Joined: 11/2/2005

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Any single parents of disabled children?? Posted: 2/13/2009 6:10:08 AM
I am a single mother with 2 Children my youngest son is 5 and has ADHD, this is a very hard job for a parent and learning how to deal with each behavior is even better. I have learned to take advantage of every service out there to help me function, and learn new things. The best thing about my son is his personality his smile and the love that he shows every day, he is a very popular little boy with a lot of friends, and can keep you laughing all day long if you can get past the bad behavior. Sometimes I get really bad looks from people but I fluff it off, these people don't live in my world nor do they see what I go threw on a day to day basis. My son is Medicated and I have to say Thank god for that but when that medication wears all God help us. My belief is you have to love your child you need to give these kids the love they show you and trust me they all have a lot of love to give. Every day is a new experience and every day there is something new. WTG to all of you its a tough job, to look after these kids each and everyone of them have thier own ways and their own personality but for me I wouldn't change anything .

Joined: 11/2/2005

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What do you consider a single parent. Posted: 1/14/2006 3:34:32 PM
I am a single mother of 2 children, One of my kids dads picks him up everyother weekend, my other kids dad doesn't see him at all and hasn't since he was 3 months old. I am his sole provider, the little money that he gives me buys his diapers and puts food on just his table I provide the rest, benefits, dental, christmas the whole nine yards. Sometimes I get so frustrated being a single mom especially to a toddler because they don't stop and there isn't any breaks. But all the time I say thank god I have my kids because soemtimes there is nobody else in th is world but them. My kids are my whole life and as frustrating as it is, I am glad that I have them. I think all single parents should hold there heads high being a single parent is not an easy job but when you look at the out come things were not all that bad after all.

Joined: 11/2/2005

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do men actually exist that date women with kids?? Posted: 1/9/2006 4:22:38 PM
I was woundering that myself, my kids are 14 years apart. I am beginning to think that I am not pretty enough or I don't have the personailty for all this dating stuff. Its pretty lonely here at the bottom of the totam pole. But every has to keep their chin up apparntly mr wright is out there somewhere. Good luck to everyone.

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A HONEST females opinion please!!!!! Posted: 1/9/2006 4:15:55 PM
I am a single mom of 2 kids with 2 differernt dads. One thing I do know as a woman that made a mistake is that I had the proof to back me up that the child was his, and called him on to a purtunity test without question. He pays the support doesn't see his kid but he pays me something. If you are questioning it then you as a person deserve to get the proof that you requested. If she on the other hand was any kind of a woman she would give you the proof and not fight you on it by any means, if she knows that the child is yours there shouldn't be a problem she should just go and get it done. I hope this helps you find your way good luck

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Why do men shy away from an instant family (women already with children)? Posted: 11/16/2005 1:20:06 PM
My stepfather took on all 7 of my mothers children and raised them as they were his own children my mom and stepdad were married for 17 years before he passed away with Cancer they still would be married today if he were still alive. And guys the man will always play second fiddle to the child, weather it be the very first marriage and the very first child or the instant family thing, in any relationship the children will always come first and so they should.

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single mother and pregnant Posted: 11/11/2005 5:08:59 PM
Hey Jenny I can relate to you, 2years ago I had a one night stand that ended up me being pregnanat, I had just split up with my commonlaw spouse of 10 years, I had flipped flopped feelings for about a month about the whole thing, I even shed some tears. Same thing as the guy you were seeing, the babys father didn't want to have anything to do with the child. I went threw the whole pregnancy by myself, and had the child he is now 22 months old now and a little cutie. I have so many compliments on how cute he is and he is very well loved ev en by the people who at one time said that they wanted nothing to do with him. No his dad doesn't have anything to do with him, he does however pay me child support. He never calls never sends a gift. But you know what I don't care, because he is my child and I love him to death there is enough love in my house as I sure there will be in yours to get threw this. When you have your baby and you look in his/her face you will say it was well worth the fight. Its not easy being a single mom but its very rewarding, and in the end I know my kids will respect me. MY babys father will come around and you know what so will yours but you know what when my son asks all the questions that he can't answer he is going to look like the fool not you. Don't have the abortion you are second guessing it, so that means you its meant to be. YOU WiLL be ok girlfriend I am the weekeast person in the world sometimes and I am doing, you can do it to.

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34, Single Male..Seeing your Friends getting married and kids, and you dont even have a girlfriend.. Posted: 11/4/2005 8:53:25 PM
To bad you live in Niagra I would snatch you up in a hurry. Actually i feel like that my self. I have 2 children been married and have lived in a commonlaw relationship for 10 years. I feel because I have a toddler that nobody wants anything to do with me because they don't want to be tied down to a child. Most of my friends are in a relationship or married. I watch them all live in their lives and they are for the most part really happy me on the other hand sometimes feel like an outsider. I to will cheerish whatever comes my way because hopefully it will be my last.

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Why am I still single? Posted: 11/4/2005 3:28:57 PM
I wonder that myself I have been single for 2 years and I come to the conclusion that I just give up on men..

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what can i do bout absent parents Posted: 11/3/2005 6:12:44 AM
I relate I have a 22 month old son which in his life his father has seen him 3 times. I don't take him to court, I don't pursue it. I look at it this way so far my son is a happy go lucky kid he is funny he has a good personality, however he is a toddler. I came to the conclusion when my son was 3 months old that I couldn't force this man to be a father to my child, and that someday he would come around. My last conversation with him was someday it will be to little to late, and that I wouldn't allow my son to him after a certain point. I think that if you talk to your children as they get older and don't lie to them tell them how it is it could maybe work out in the long run. I have no intention of with holding that information from my son, however I am not going to put him in a sitution to be with a person who doesn't want him in the first place. I will let my son know there is two sides to everystory my side and his fathers side. Who knows it may blow up in my face, but we have to do what we have to do to pertect our children. I wouldn't force the issue any longer, I would leave it alone everyone has regrets and your babys father will regret his decsion someday, in about 18 years when your child goes a looking and the horriable questions come popping up, in the end I beleive he will be the one to look like the ass. Keep going it just makes you a better person

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Single mom needs advice on 11yr old Posted: 11/3/2005 6:04:31 AM
You are not a bad mom, patience is a virtue and you are doing a great job, sounds like puberty but he could have adhd problems as well. I have a 16 year old and on the puberty aspect of things I can tell you from about 11 until god knows when they become complete strangers, my son has I am still waiting for him to become human again. If your son is special needs he may be getting picked on, kids are so darn cruel these days they don't care that everything has a consequence. My son hates school as he was picked on and bullied all of his school life, I keep a very close eye on him, he is a good kid but boy he has a bad attuide I believe its from the bullying, I did everything in my power to stop it, however you can't be there every second of the day. Just keep doing what you are doing, look into talking to some Pyhcolists, and keep your chin up, as hard as it is. In the long run this will make you and your son closer later on in life he will respect you for the things you sacrfice for him

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Is it wrong to leave your child in your apartment for 5 minutes to collect your laundry.... Posted: 11/3/2005 5:50:36 AM
If you live in a apartment building why not ask a neighbour you trust to have a eye on the baby while you are getting your laundry, sometimes if you ask someone you trust they will be willing to help you. There is a lot of help for single moms you would be surprised.

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do men actually exist that date women with kids?? Posted: 11/3/2005 5:46:57 AM
I would love to share anthor mans chidren with him if he was willing to except mine, however I have dated a few men young and older who just aren't interested in doing the baby thing I have a 22 month old, I think sometimes that throws men off as they don't want to go threw that stage again. I look at I did it after 15 years so it should be ok for someone else to do it. I am not looking for a father for my kids they allready have a father I am looking for someone to hang out with and have a good time, I just come as a package thats all.

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Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 11/2/2005 4:23:09 PM
I just finished dating a yonger guy, he said he was interested in the family thing and the whole 9 yards however that wasn't the case he was just looking to be with an older woman, when I questioned him on this i became phyco. Imgaine that... no thanks no more younger men for me.

Joined: 11/2/2005

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do men actually exist that date women with kids?? Posted: 11/2/2005 4:12:22 PM
Its good to know that there are men out there that date women with children, I have been single for 2 years I have a 16 year old and a 22 month old, I have met a lot of men out there that are looking for a little bit of fun on the side if you know what I mean, they don't usually show to much compassion for your kids in the end. To bad there isn't any men like that in Barrie

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