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justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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why cant we all look at the inner beauty instead of whats on the outside?? Posted: 4/7/2007 11:43:30 PM
whats on the outside is sometimes like a reflection of whats on the inside. maybe not with everyone or everything. people who are relaxed, centered, healthy, happy, look good on the outside, usually because they feel that way inside too. people who are negative, unhealthy, unhappy, usually arnt satisfied with themselves, how they feel, or how other people treat them... if you dont see yourself as good enough or perfect the way you are, how do u expect anyone else to see you like that? some peoples idea of a perfect body or perfect smile is alot different than someone else's idea. if you dont love yourself you cant expect someone else to love you in return for who you are... which is maybe why some people are so judgemental. if people learned to value their own good qualities and stop comparing themselves to other people they would be more satisfied and happier with themselves and probably how other people treat them too. and btw.. I had braces for 5 years and 8 teeth removed to have this perfect smile.. cant really say all the pain and stuff I went through was worth just looking good, but for my current and future health it was, that I have not had any dental problems since and probably wont again for most of my life. same goes with exercising and eating right, isnt always comfortable or pleasureable but for long term benefits its definatly worth the effort and trouble. alot of people who look really good go through alot of effort and money to keep it that way, we arnt all born perfect thats for sure but we can attempt to try, but they should be for your own reasons and benefits not for someone elses.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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Why would an engaged man play you and suddenly not explaine why?? Posted: 3/31/2007 10:03:21 AM
well at least you found out before you wasted too much time thinking and caring about him. He feels the need to add more drama to his life because obviously being in the navy wasnt exciting enough for him. lol. Some guy was talking to me about his girlfriend but still trying to get me interested in him... all the sudden they have been together a while, they are kinda serious or kinda not, or he wants to break up with her or they are still together. Just a bunch of bullshit I dont need in my life especially and sounds like you dont either.... Unforchantly he didnt tell you and ****ed around with your feelings. Some guys makes them feel stronger when they bring someone else down. Move on and find someone new as fast as you can, sitting around worrying about this guy isnt going to benefit you at all.. and anyways at least he got whats coming to him.... having to listen to his fiance cry and get mad at him constantly..... I wish someone would tell this guys girlfriend whats up with him and online girls lol. but I sure as hell dont wanna be the one to have to do it. Last time I told a girl his boyfriend was inviting other chicks out to party hanging out at the mall etc.. He got mad at me and spit on me! Turns out she is cheating on him now and they have broken up again for the 100th time. surprise surprise.. Some people just need to cause drama to feel good about themselves, like they are actually being thought of or play a big part in someones life, even if its a bad thing, thats all they have to hold onto, unforchantly for them thats all.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 207 (view)

Would You Help An Ex In Need? Posted: 3/31/2007 9:42:19 AM
I actually broke up with a guy because all he could talk about was his ex that needed help and rides all the time because she was stranded or going through a hard time in her life or whatever. exs are exs for a reason, and I really dont think its healthy to be around or talk to them if your trying to move on and especially meet someone new. There is alot of history, feelings invovled and it only makes things worse when you are around them, hang out with them or talk to them frequently. No one can be just friends with an ex because they have been in a relationship before, so the history (feelings, experiences) will always be there and that is something that cannot be changed. I have tried to talk to a few of my exs, hang out with them many times, and it only makes things more complicated and stressful. its not worth the trouble. Some people think they are glad because they somehow fixed what was once broken between them, and can still be on good terms.... but it doesnt really benefit anyone in the relationship especially when trying to become invovled with someone new. It may be a nice thought that you can actually still get along, but thats all your doing and no one is really moving on or letting go, and that is a very important thing to learn in life especially invovling people and close realtionships. "change is in the air" I refuse to deal with anyone who cant get over their exs(or so called friends) and especially guys who have girlfriends. People who hang onto their exs have issues with comfort, trust, attension and security. I refuse to deal with any of my exs because although they may seem like their trying to be nice or helpful they still have so many issues and drama with the past they will never forget about.. and that is not a true friend( someone who talks to you to make you jealous, or try to get you back, or just adds more drama to your life because they secretly dont want you to be happy if they arnt) I guess everyone has different qualities they value in a friend and some are healthy, benefical and some just arnt. There are millions of decent people in the world, why need to be friends with an ex? I think more people would be happy, healthier and in need of less need of help if they just learned to let go of certain things and people.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers? Posted: 3/27/2007 11:17:21 PM
because its illegal and could ruin their careers ....... doesnt mean they arnt closet smokers.. alot of people with good careers are on other drugs & medications and alcohol... but that is just obvious... and people dont make as big of deal about it because its more common. there was a time when heroin was legal for pain and medical purposes, but was made illegal because it was so addictive.. funny how ciggarettes so addictive (no medical purposes) and killing so many people yet they are still legal.. but then again maybe thats why they are.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 633 (view)

can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers? Posted: 3/27/2007 10:47:40 PM
some people that dont smoke weed and cant handle it just dont seem to understand that other people can, and be active, working and functionable. some people are just more prone to certain things than others like certain drugs, foods or types of alcohol. I have smoked pot for 7 years off and on mostly.. lol. I dont know if I could be with a guy who didnt smoke pot, but I have before. Its okay. I dont really like ciggarettes at all so that is totally different story. I dont see it as a bad thing unless you have really bad weed. lol. in that case I dont even want to smoke any with ya. lol! time to smoke one now.... oh btw some people get cancer and they have never smoked because its hereditary... and all the patients in the cardiac cath lab getting tests on their hearts because of clogged arteries and heartattacks... they all smoke ciggarettes and some continue to even though they have been told to quit otherwise they will die...

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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Dating Intimidation… Posted: 3/27/2007 10:21:43 PM
how will you ever be good enough for someone else if you dont even believe it yourself??? if your not comfortable with who you are then how can you be comfortable with someone else and how can they be comfortable with you? then its time to make some changes I have been intimdated by alot of guys only to find out that they too were a little intimidated by me.. sometimes its hard to tell what a person is really feeling inside.. especially if you dont know each other well. if you cant even talk to someone because you think they are too good for you then you need to do something to boost your own self esteem and feel better about yourself, get to love yourself....... its not neccisary to constantly compare yourself to others, everyone is different and has unique qualities and if someone else doesnt see or value them you dont need them in your life anyways.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 160 (view)

why do guys on here always call u babe and never ur own name!!! Posted: 3/27/2007 9:42:35 PM
lmao,. i swear guys just like to say those things because it turns them on. like were some cute little princess or angel or whatever. I aint a puppy dog.. babe is better than alot of other things like ****! lol. most guys dont remember names so they just message every girl on their list saying "hey baby" and they somehow get these girls to like them... or do they really? I bet im not the only one saying "no I dont want to talk to you on the phone, because this is the first time we have chatted" or "no I dont want to take your virginity away from you" "I dont want to have fun with you tonight" lmao!! its funny how hard some guys will try online. really creepy actually. even the younger ones that do it too! langauge.... not langage.. wheres your dictionary? btw.. us folks over here in canada and the usa speak a little differently, and use alot of different words than the people in england or wherever else.. just like the french in canada is different than in france... imagine that. lmao!

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 43 (view)

Why do some people call and text message someone all day? Posted: 3/27/2007 9:24:31 PM
lol. alot of people text and call each other.. something to do I guess even if they dont know the person that well. most people do it at work maybe they are bored? I have never really liked to talk on the phone alot or text message alot because it takes too long and my cell phone bill is already hudge... There is alot of guys who act like that some are nice some are crazy... but he cant be serious about loving you! lol. any guys who say I love you right away dont really mean it! You havent seen a picture? that is something to worry about. lol. Hes creepy, feels embarrised and probably made up an excuse not to see you because he is already ashamed of himself. There is quite a few of them out there, hopefully he doesnt show up at your house..... thats creepy!

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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Strange noises during nookie Posted: 3/27/2007 8:23:01 PM
that is too funny!! eww what if someone was like coughing etcc. I dont think I could handle that I would definatly be like stop get off of me!! or sneezing? I have super bad alergies and some people would either think thats really nasty or kinda cute.. so its not like I can prevent myself from sneezing!! even though that has never happened to me yet. LMAO! Strange noises? ahha forchantly for me I havent really herd many weird sounds..... Some guys will ask to make sounds, moan or scream or talk dirty or whatever.. maybe he needs to be more specific and she wouldnt make strange noises.. either that or put a pillow in her face... lol.... why not just use some duct tape?

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 76 (view)

All she wants to do is watch porn,have sex ,watch sports and drink beer Posted: 3/27/2007 8:08:26 PM
keyword here.. hooters girl.. what were you expecting her to be a nice housewife kinda girl that you would marry and take home to mom? I dont think this thread is funny at all.. you people have nothing better to do than make up stories about the perfect woman?? and oh wait.. you thought she was perfect at first then you had it and realized you didnt like it after all? "you want what you cant have, thats just too damn bad"

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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Haunted places in the lower mainland Posted: 3/21/2007 3:48:58 PM
Victoria is the most haunted place in British Columbia and the Pacific Northwest because over 5,000 years of native history and a lively parade of events and characters since Fort Victoria was founded in 1843. Bastion Square, Old Town, Chinatown, St. Ann's Academy and the historic waterfront have more hauntings than any other parts of the city. John Adams and his team of professional guides on Victoria's famous ghost tours that explore the narrow alleys, historic courtyards and other spooky places where the echoes of hangings, murders and colourful events can still be heard and where ghosts can make their presence known at any time of the day or night. the top six ghost and graveyard walks in canada http://gocanada.about.com/od/thebestofcanada/tp/ghostwalks.htm I have been to a few places in Victoria... downtown and at the golf course we never seen anything but we did get chased away by a truck.. (maybe dont go there at night by yourselves lol!) Havent seen or really herd anything really but sometimes I think I can feel they are there. After I leave the island I always feel kinda different while back on the mainland.. I have used an ouija board so I would rather not explore too much..

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 78 (view)

What do you find most sexy about the opposite sex? Posted: 3/21/2007 3:28:19 PM
nice eyes and decent confidence can be a good thing but really doesnt compare to a nice set of abs!! just kidding.. mostly voice, additude, arms, shoulders, back, and hair(short only)....

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 126 (view)

Tim's or Starbucks Posted: 3/21/2007 3:02:28 PM
starbucks.. because tim hortons uses coffee(up to 25min old) and powdered chocolate mix for their mochas and starbucks uses expresso shots and more of a real chocolate!

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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Girls Night Out Posted: 3/21/2007 11:41:59 AM
going out with friends there isnt anything wrong with that unless its too frequently... and they spend more time with their friends than you. My ex didnt care if I went to the club with my girl friends some of which were single and in relationships, and my friends boyfriend also wasnt bothered.. because they have went out with us before.. or they ask to come with.... Maybe you should go for a guys night out more often... There is alot of different kinda people at the bar not just guys that hit on girls. I see couples and groups of girls all the time its not a big thing to worry about. I wouldnt really go to the club to meet a guy anyways....You could suggest she goes somewhere else when she hangs out with her friends... because if that is all she does with her friends that is kinda weird...

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 310 (view)

So please tell me...what is it with (some) men that think younger women are better??? Posted: 3/16/2007 4:01:10 PM
I'm told that older men like younger women, because they are stupid as hell and easy to take advantage of. Did I just read that right????? I'm told that older men (especially the ones who like younger women) are stupid as hell and easy to take advantage of, and thats why younger women like them. Either that or we just bring their self confidence back up from all the damage the older women have done...

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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Dealing With A Man Who Needs Space Posted: 3/16/2007 3:19:35 PM
1) Why is he acting like this when it seems like he really has feelings for her? He doesnt know if his feelings are real true or not.. has feelings for someone else. 2) What should she do to keep her sanity but not jeopardize the relationship? Talk to and date other men, go out with the girls, but not completely cut off contact or try forget about him. Take some drugs.. just kidding! Move, leave town, change phone number and meet some new friends. Have a couple drinks and go watch male strippers. lol 3) What is the worst thing she could do in this situation that will drive him further away? Sit around and wait for him, acting like she is desperate or not good enough for him...... he will only start to believe its true too. 4) What is the best thing she could do in this situation that will bring him closer to her? Live her own life which she obviously has...forget about him completely, and concentrate on the possibility of meeting someone new that she could be happier with... Then he will feel like he has space and think hes bored then he'll want to spend time with her again.. Give him space.. and when he comes crawling back, tell him "Sorry, I need space now" Sounds like this guy is into games, emotional head-games especially. He likes the idea of numerous women waiting around for him to do something or make a decision.. Hes self centered and full of himself... unforchantly she is too which is probably why shes so obbsessed anyway... so she probably wont have a difficult time finding another guy who is like him but doesnt need so much space.... Can you say DRAMA? When does the movie come out??????

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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Roommates/Freinds and Loaning Money Posted: 3/16/2007 1:03:05 PM
whats more important to someone a friend or money? Money doesnt ruin relationships or people unless you let it. Some people their entire world revovles around their money... sad but true. For people who dont have money thats all they think about, and people who have money thats all they think about. Depends if you value material objects more than experience or relationships??????? Lend money to a friend especially if they really need it and cant get it from anywhere else. Dont expect them to pay you back right away. So dont lend money you dont have.... I dont see a problem with it. If it ends up ruining your relationship, just goes to show that person wasnt much a good friend anyways.. they probably were just using you (but your not the only one they do this to, at least you were nice enough to considerate it) I had a friend since elementary school, so about 10 or so years we were friends off and on. We considered ourselves best friends at a few times in our lives. Used to think we could tell each other anything...She was always the type to use people and I wasnt. She tried to turn it around after I hadnt seen her in a long time and say I was the one who used guys etc.. and she had no idea that I had never.. but was just trying to make herself feel better because she had. She wouldnt take me to the bank one day while visiting her in another city, but she would lend me money so I owed her something. We ended up getting into an argument and I telling her she needs to be more greatful for what she has... all she did the entire visit was complain to me about her life and talk to me about mistakes I had made before. She said alot of hurtful things back to me about our entire history... I told her I would pay her the money back.....It was only 80$ but she made it seem like we werent going to be friends again because I never paied her back right away. I told her I dont want to be friends or pay her back now because of her additude and the things she said to me. Funny how when someone isnt useful to someone they remove that person from their lives.. We all need help once and a while though. Some people have an easier time moving on than others.... and not all friendships are meant to be forever, because there is a better one waiting around the corner, we just sometimes miss them because were too busy arguing with that old friend. Some people get friendship confused with their jobs or bussiness. Its hard not to mix the two.. but friendships should be about sharing and giving. If you have nothing to offer someone dont expect to get alot back...if it is love, trust, friendship, money, experience or lessons.... Give and Take, Love and Hate...

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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How do you overcome the pain of losing the one you care about so much? Posted: 3/16/2007 10:05:38 AM
better to loved and lost than never loved at all.. Sometimes I think the same thing.. if he is right for me.. then why arnt we? Life is complicated, unforchantly everything we want to happen doesnt happen at the times we want to, but eventually when we are ready or we deserve it.. So maybe your not meant to be together now, love can push alot of other things away from someones life. In relationships people change alot, sometimes for the good sometimes for the better.. but not everything was meant to happen. If you really are meant to be it will happen in the future.. If you love something,. set it free if it comes back its yours~ Be happy you met such a wonderful man and he was in your life at all, even if it was for a short period of time ... some people never meet someone they think could be their soul mate.. and they end up setteling for someone else who they really dont think satisfies them... So at least he has brought your standards up for what you deserve and desire.. Be greatful for what you have, most of all be greatful for something you once had. Alot of other people arent so lucky or greatful...

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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Spelling and Grammar, does it count? Posted: 3/16/2007 9:54:52 AM
poor spelling is fine.... some people do it on purpose...lol you can always look it up in the dictionary for them. someone who cant speak english properly. DEFINATLY NOT.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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If you had time the money were would you travel to Posted: 3/14/2007 1:51:21 PM
california again.., dominican republic, egypt, greece, germany, jamaica, mexico, .. yes all in that order lol.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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Long Profiles. Like to read em or not? Is yours a long one? Posted: 3/14/2007 1:41:56 PM
alot of people dont have much on their profile, but then you see someone who does it makes you want to write a little more...especially when alot of people ask the same questions over and over again. why not have a little something more shows your not afraid or embarrised of who u are... unless of corse your trying to pretend to be someone else.. lol.... but then again some people are more creative and into writting more so than others..

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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What kind of fish are you? Posted: 3/14/2007 1:36:31 PM
the ogopogo.... lol, or a dolphin.. but those are mamals not fish... so doesnt matter as long as I wouldnt be on a menu or eaten....

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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If you were to date a dog, what type of dog would it be and why ??? Posted: 3/14/2007 1:04:16 PM
lol dogs treat you like family cats treat you like staff.. i never liked cats haha... but this question got really weird once I started thinking about it lol. Would it be the kinda dog I have? Would I date my own dog? No I cant be thinking about something like that because its just weird. My friend and I joke around that our dogs are girlfriend, boyfriend sometimes. Because I have a male Rottweiler /German Shepherd and she has a female Pittbull /Shar Pei. Hes a 1 year and 4 months, but im surprised how much he has grown up from being a whimp when I first got him. So maybe if I had to get another dog I would choose a pittbull boxer or something, is it bad that I think the muts are cuter than purebreads? lol. No golden retreivers for me, when I was a kid one tried to hump my leg when it was a puppy. oh thank god we got my dog neutered....

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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THIEVES...What is wrong with people? my sons dirtbike just got stolen Posted: 3/14/2007 12:42:25 PM
a year ago someone came into my house stole my sister's 500$ electric guitar and my 200$ snowboard pants.. while my computer and tv just sat there.. made me scared they are coming back for more some day... almost makes you not want to buy expensive things because people will just steal them. Never know who u can trust these days.. maybe it was one of your friends sons friends or something... someone who knew him. but then again people in bc seem to go to great lengths to steal things for drug dealers and sell them.. I figure those kinda people will just end up in jail eventually even if your not the one to catch them. I know I used to have a couple girlfriends who liked to steal shit from each other.. makes me wonder what else im really missing like clothes and jewelery that is easier to forget about..

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 63 (view)

Good Song to help move on Posted: 3/14/2007 11:48:18 AM
Stand Up -by Adema, album: Unstable (good song for abused woman) Been Gone- Keisha Chante I know its late baby I've been dialing your number all day, got me missin you like crazy You actin like you hate me Yes I know I was wrong I just want you back just say you'll take me It just can't be over You took away your phone calls and visits, I thought that we were closer You're givin me the cold shoulder When I want your warm hugs and kisses Thats what i need the most (CHORUS) Its like Bonnie with no Clyde without you by my side Its like a part of me died away Since you been gone If I spend some time without you thought I'd be okay I can't replace you, I tried, it aint work out that way So tell me where will you go, and tell me who's gonna love you like I do Since you been gone Gone, gone, gone, gone, gone, gone Since you been gone I can't respect your feelings So tell me when you thought about it, did you think of me at all You don't seem to be affected I'm tryin to correct it You shoot me down, how could you watch me fall I make mistakes that don't mean that I don't love you I'll learn to love you more, whatever, just let me know I feel so empty cause you've taken your love out my life I'll keep you happy darling don't let me go (CHORUS) Its like Bonnie with no Clyde without you by my side Its like a part of me died away Since you been gone If I spend some time without you thought I'd be okay I can't replace you, I tried, it aint work out that way So tell me where will you go, and tell me who's gonna love you like I do Since you been gone Gone, gone, gone, gone, gone, gone Since you been gone This time I'll say I love you every time we speak, make you my priority, be your strength when you are weak This time whenever you call me I'll be there, no matter what I'm doin I will come no matter where This time I'll give you all the lovin that I got, say the right things, I don't wanna lose what I got And I don't wanna hurt no more, put your guard down baby open up the door and let me in (CHORUS)

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 154 (view)

A guy who hunts/fishes is it that unappealing? Posted: 3/13/2007 3:15:17 PM
Some women love the outdoors, unforchantly thats where they are..outdoors... not sitting reading profiles and forums on a dating site lol. Well I assume the majority of ones on the computer all day are office types. Unless of corse your one of those people who bring your laptop everywhere... Just dont message any vegitarians..lol! Thank god im not one. I like the outdoors, but thats because my dad used to take me hunting when I was 10 I learned to shoot a 22 rifle. I wore t-shirts and jeans for years, and now I love dresses though even more now and I have a german shep rottweiler... but I grew up with their friends sons too so me and my sister always used to go hiking and camping. Depends where you live.... who you grew up with and were raised around sometimes. If you message a women in BC Canada compared to a women in California USA im sure the interests will change quite a bit. most hunters and fishers I know like to drink and party lol. so maybe thats why you have a harder time finding a women who isnt really into those kinda guys who drink. My aunts my sister my cousins are all women that enjoy the outdoors, camping, sports, maybe not extreme hunting or fishing but once and a while Im sure they would have a good time. There is alot of women into stuff like that.. maybe on other dating sites too..... plenty of fish doesnt really mean real fishers does it? lol.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

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How old is to old Posted: 3/13/2007 2:49:58 PM
Some cool people? There is alot! just kidding. 16 years is alot I think. 10 years can be sometimes. even 2 years. different people get along different. Id say its okay for a 15 year old to date a 20 year old. 17 and 23 is okay... 20 and 28... 21 and 34... 30 and 45... 35 and 55. Would be really weird if my parents divorced and my dad who is 55 started dating a woman thats 28 or 30 something, because my mom is 51 and im 21. it is different for each year older. When I was 13 I wouldnt have gone for a guy who was older than 17. or out of highschool because there is something wrong with that. but when I was 13, these guys who are 28-34 for me now were 20-26 or something back then and now I think thats kinda weird... so it definatly depends on what age someone is for how many years older someone is. When I was 16 I thought 28 was old.. thats 12 years... doesnt seem as much now that im 21. I think 15 years is alot, but you just never know sometimes. some people live more and experience things differently. I wouldnt ever be with someone my dads age that is too (sick) different for me. that is like a trip back in time or something. lol.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

Girl Issues Posted: 3/13/2007 2:21:11 PM
she says she loves you? but then doesnt go out with u when u ask? in 2 months.. she still doesnt know you yet even in 4 months and shes probably just waiting and wants things to be right in her life.. and yours, especially since you told her you were going to arizona. she doesnt know what your going to do next so why should she commit to you so soon or fall for you again? some people end up going out and they are like living together within 4-6 months and already arguing and shit.. then they end up being together for years and always breaking up and getting back together. So since she says she loves you she probably cares alot about you and doesnt want things to be over just as fast as they started so she is trying to make more time for herself to get to know you even if that means not going out with you right away again. She doesnt want to go out with you and like you alot then you be the one to change your mind about her and again say your moving to arizona. maybe she has someone else she likes to and cant decide.. maybe she thinks you have someone else to and thats why you were moving before or looking for a new job. maybe just take things slow, ask her if she ever wants to see u again and go from there. 4months inst a really long time to get to know a person especially to love them... but some people do know right away if they could ever love someone. maybe you need to talk to her more and not just over email.. and if she doesnt talk to you then move on... if you meet again in the future good for you if not you will find someone else ;)

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 57 (view)

My gf wants to know eachother's msn messenger passwords! Posted: 3/13/2007 1:33:38 PM
yeah go ahead and give her your password.. then make up a new email and send it to everyone but her! I know lots of guys do this. heck guys with girlfriends what do they search me out in the crowd and say she looks like she wouldnt care? wtf. I do care. But he says: if we were really in love things would be different.. and I wouldnt have the urge to want to be with or talk to other women. Well at least these guys think somewhere in their hearts someday they could be faithful.... I have given out passwords, to my cell phone my bank account, and its all just trouble. They will use it against you when your most vulnerable. I dont need to know a guys password to know he is trust worthy. I wouldnt want my man hanging out with or talking to other women at all really, but that is because I wouldnt be doing that either. I want him all to myself.. and that could be assumed as crazy to some people, but that is just how I am obbsessive yes, something I have realized and can work on. But that doesnt mean Im going to follow him around or hack into his email account... If someone is so uncomfortable, un-trusting, insecure with themselves that you constantly need to reasure them that you like them and care about them, there is something really wrong with them inside and you probably dont know them as much as you thought you did.. and those are probably the kinda people that dont want anyone especially their significant other to find out about the real them..otherwise they would leave them. Not saying all obbsessive people or untrusting people are insecure or uncomfortable within themselves. Usually if your second guessing someone and dont completely trust them.. because their is something wrong.. that they cant be trusted or you cant.. most people are right about their gut feelings. But alot of people have been hurt in the past and they are only assuring themselves they wont get hurt again.. and thats not a bad thing. But never trusting someone is a bad thing. Rather Loved and Lost then never Loved at all... Trust and Respect is something that needs to be earned I think, shown, and especially given. If its something you havent given someone of corse they arent going to show it back.. Takes time.. if she doesnt trust you over 6 months, over a year will she ever?

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 52 (view)

Okay, how to get women to notice me offline. Posted: 3/13/2007 12:54:58 PM
"I dont look as good as I do on my good photo's in real life" that is the problem right there. Your underestimating yourself.. maybe really you do look better in life than your in your photos and they dont do u justice to yourself.. (you only see yourself in a mirror with fake expressions and in photos) this negative kinda thinking is probably the only problem you really have when it comes to attracting women. Certain guys in a crowd stand out to me more than others, they arnt usually the ones who are the best looking, have the most money or nicest clothes. Something about them just stands out, and I really think its their personality, their additude, and how they think of themselves... and that is super attractive more so than ones who are wearing nice clothes and took longer to pick something out to wear than me! lol. Going out when you already dont feel good about yourself isnt going to make you feel any better.. Being ugly isnt only on the exterior.. If your constantly critizing yourself, worrying, regretting, and just thinking negetivly like this it will show on the outside. Sometimes whats on the outside is a reflection of what is on the inside. I never used to think I was the prettiest, or even that great looking, I would always be nervous around guys, I never thought I was good enough, that guys were always checking out my friend instead of me. I used to be kinda shy and uptight, and just gernerally unstatisfied with myself. I think people catch onto this and thats why you become even more unattractive. Once I given up trying to look good for everyone else or trying to be something that I wasnt, then I started to change. I wanted to look good for myself not for everyone else.. And I think that confidence is what makes someone more attractive. People think alot of things, so show them what they assume isnt always right. I know its hard, I get it everyday, like I always have to prove my worth to someone, that im not just a bitch because I look kinda pretty. But most guys assume I am. I dont really get alot of people talking to me either. So I figure I just need to make more of an effort to talk to people then. Alot of decent guys on here I dont talk to or reply back to not because they are not good enough for me but just because they havent made an real effort, so I dont either... and its not always that a girl doesnt want to talk to u, its just that maybe she is really busy talking with someone else.. Something to keep in mind. The more the effort you make, the more Im going to think you are worth me making an effort for....... Believing in yourself can be a very powerful thing... So next time you go out, think of all the good things you have to offer, all your best qualities.. just think about how good of a person you really are, instead of just how you look, I bet you will turn more heads, and start to wonder why people are starring at you so much. being confident and comfortable with yourself, makes people want to be around you more... its not fun being around someone who is constantly uncomfortable.. and its usually not hard to tell when they are.. makes other people question themselves too instead of just being your sweet selves. When someone worries alot about themselves it only makes me worry about them too, like what are they hiding? and why are they so uncomfortable? should I be uncomfortable too, like should I have something to worry about.. what kinda person are they really? Im sure your little worries are just that, just little worries.... alot of people turn stupid little things into big things that end up affecting their whole lives.. Find ways to relax and be happy with yourself and other people, especially females will notice.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 29 (view)

Difference...Guys with Sisters... Posted: 3/13/2007 12:18:10 PM
LOL I have thought alot about this question.. finally someone asked it. Yeah there is a hudge difference. I used to think guys with sisters had more additude... especially when it comes to arguements.. seems like they could go on for days. while a guy with no sister was more able to just let go and move on.. instead of bringing up every little thing. Guys with sisters seem also more sensitive.. but will try harder to not be sensitive and try to come off more tough(even though sometimes they arnt) They always have their gaurd up it seems like.. they are always waiting for you to do something or say something and they have been prepared for it for years or something! lol. They are more caring about how we are, but when it comes to reasons why we hurt or are sad, its like they all the sudden put those gaurds back up again and they think they already know.... They think they know more about you right away, and are more judgmental than guys who dont have sisters. Guys without sisters are more open right away, not afraid to tell u something because 'they think' you will use it against them sometime in the future.. They are more exciting, experimental, go out of their way to do more things without being asked... usually stronger and more into competition, maybe they just make more of an effort in general. Guys with sisters seem like they have everything figured out already... all the time.. and its like you cant tell them differently.. and oh they will be prepared for when you try to tell them different. lol. Guys with sisters can be great friends I would imagine, but say something wrong to them and the fight is on. lol. I have dated a few guys that had sisters, and its like everything evovled around them.. just so that everything wouldn evovle around me.. even though thats not what I wanted.. they made sure it wouldnt happen... So I guess they definatly put themselves first because they know how easily it is to be manipulated by a women. But hey I have a sister too, so I know how difficult it can be. Not trying to put you guys with sisters in your place or anything.. but still be a little more open to different kinds of women and girls..... because we are not all like your sisters.. probably nothing alike actually.. even if you think at first we are.. that is just something your sister tricked you into believing at an early age.. and im sure she made u believe alot of things about women in general that arnt really true. lol. okay where's the boys with all the bros at.. me and my sister are waiting.. lol .jk.. leave my younger sister alone! er Ill get my older female cousins on your case too. lol...

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 55 (view)

Ladies what do you want in messages? Posted: 3/13/2007 12:01:45 PM
boring.. I want to get to know you? isnt that why were all on this site? yeah so stating the obvious there isnt anything wrong with that but it is boring. I like it when guys send me jokes or something to laugh about.. hell make fun of me I really dont care.. at least I will have to think up something to say, instead of 'copy and paste' from what I just replied another user... makes me think the guy isnt really interested cuse he cant even think of something interesting to say besides whats up or how u doinn.. im sure joey must have used that line a million times.. and now everyone else uses it X million more..

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 16 (view)

Guys wearing an Argyle Sweater? Posted: 3/13/2007 11:48:53 AM
There is no such thing as GOOD FASHION sense. Yeah maybe something they came up with on tv so these freaks on WHAT NOT TO WEAR can actually make money... but they do help people turn their own style into something a little more decent and up to date.. Fashion is exactly that. fashion. whats in style. wont be next year.. or for years to come again probably. What looks good on someone isnt going to look good on another person. Your style is simply that.. YOURS> SO GOOD FOR YOU for wearing that sweater. A few years ago I always used to wear weird things and people would look at me with a weird expression or a snicker.. thing is.. Now I dress more normal.. people still stare at me.. So sometimes I really dont think its what your wearing.. and some people will just stare at you no matter what cuse they are insecure with themselves and it makes them jealous when people around them are more secure.. its not always they are looking at you bad.. its just that they are looking at you, and sometimes its hard to know what they are thinking.. but they could have just felt uncomfortable with what they have on and laughing about your sweater is a way for them to open up a little instead of being so frigen confined. I swear some people are still wearing clothes they had for 10 years... and are scared to try anything new. I know this because I used to work at Mark's Work Wearhouse.. I seen all kinds of people working in there. I also worked in the mall.. most people arnt really into the latest trends.. but they may find all the sudden their original style or weird clothes are actually coming into style.. LOL.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 42 (view)

Baldness - Fix it or leave it? Posted: 3/13/2007 11:33:50 AM
if your questioning your looks then its time to do something about it before you can't .... some guys look better with shaved heads, some with hair, im sorry balding isnt really sexy but if you have a super personality its not really going to matter... wearing a hat probably only makes it worse my uncle, his son and my grampa all went bald at an eary age i think cuse they always wore hats especially outside, the sun can be good for you hair..... but then again maybe that was to cover up the baldness? thinkening shampoo works wonders for me......

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 32 (view)

Is there a thin line between love and hate? Posted: 2/27/2007 11:37:06 AM
yes I think there is from my experience, and from knowing about other peoples relationships too. one way or another.. love and hate are more so emotions than actions. I think thats why people have such a difficult time with them or they can be two really amazing intense exciting things. some people love to hate, and hate to love others love to love and hate to hate just what keeps the world crazy, excting, beautiful but still so harsh... kinda like a reflection of one another... except one can easily turn into the other...

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 72 (view)

What is the best benefit of a relationship? Posted: 2/27/2007 11:24:55 AM
what kinda relationship do you mean exactly? a committed one is very different from an open one. 3. available for a socail function? so what you only wanna go out with someone because they are available to do thing with you in public? if so do they have to be goodlooking? and then everyone would be oh so jealous of you... is that how u guys think hahaa 1. sexual activity? its not hard to find someone to have sex with even if your not in a relationship. LOL 2. Having someone where who you can be intimate with and confide in ? isnt that what all relationships should have? For me there isnt just one thing in a relationship that is important, i think all the things including love, friendship, trust, sex, how he behaves in public or around my friends are important.. lol.. all the little things that sometimes count .. I wouldnt choose better sex over having someone that I feel like I can talk to and confide in or the other way around

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 41 (view)

Giving up you MSN to your mate Posted: 2/27/2007 11:10:23 AM
if your mate doesnt know your email address that is really weird. Although I have had exs without the internet and they didnt really care that much but would still say things to me assuming I was talking to other guys still. I wasnt talking to other guys anyways and if I was on a site I always changed my single status to not single... I have mostly girlfriends I talk to online or family. I know there are people with many profiles sometimes pretending to be other people and they message them mean things sometimes. lol I have seen it done, but sometimes not so funny to the other person. Same goes for if your in a relationship. Secrectly having a internet life or love outisde of your other relationship is kinda still like cheating unless you have made it clear you want to see or meet other people. I know a few people, wont mention any names though who talk to everyone on their msn all the time and their boyfriend/ girlfriend has no idea how much they actually do talk to them for hours and hours or just a casual email once and a while?? and what kinda pictures do u think are invovled?lol? having your mates email password isnt good either.. because some day they could turn out to be some freak and try to control your life and go into your email and send nasty things to your friends. some people are good at pretending. so yeah msn should be talked about definatly. if i had a boyfriend id wonder who he was talkin to .. lol probably why i want to be single

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

When does it become dating and not a couple of dates Posted: 2/25/2007 7:12:17 PM
some words mean different things to different people.. especially this one.. I think 'dating' could be described as two people seeing each other.. as casually dating. which means going on dates. Not at all really being committed to one another. Yet some other people will use the word dating when talking about someone or before introducing them as "we are dating" but that could mean a number of different things. Maybe some people just use the phrase 'dating' to make themselves feel better instead of describing it as seeing each other or having sex occasionaly... dating has more possibilties for a relationship than someone stating the fact that they only want to see each other or as bed buddies, which is something they would have come to an agreement on. Your pretty much in a relationship or 'going out' if your not seeing anyone else... depending on what you have agreed on and talked about weather or not you are really committed. Cant expect someone else to not see anyone else unless they have told you they wouldnt.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

Question for the ladies here... Posted: 2/23/2007 11:36:20 PM
Your daughter doesnt need counseling she needs a good friend that she can trust, someone that feels close to her and appriciates her..... and that is exactly what she has. GOOD FOR HER>You should be happy for her, that its not just some random guy trying to get into her panties and use her. Being 16 is a very rough age. Was definatly the roughest for me and probably will be true for my life. That is when your trying to figure out who you are.. and for most girls they have no clue yet. The things I thought about, wanted, and did when I was 16 were pretty crazy as for most 16 year old girls. Tell your ex you are both very lucky because she could be going to counceling for drugs or some other extreme problems. My mom also forced me into counceling when I was that age, and I hated myself and her for it. Me and my mom have alot of regrets about that time in my life. We realized we both said and did things that were wrong back then. But everyone makes mistakes and it only brought us closer together for forgiving one another and trying to understand each other. Moms are alot smarter than we realize and they dont always tell you things they let you figure it out on our own.. your daughter might hate her for it now... but your ex probably has good reason for sending her to counceling.. maybe she remembers what its like to be that age too and that she probably isnt only dealing with weather or not she is a lesbian or bisexual. I had a bisexual friend in highschool and she didnt tell us for a couple years that she was interested more in girls. Finally she told us she had a crush on our other close friend... she begged us not to tell her as it was just a crush and she knew she would be freaked out. So we told her and she was freaked out. She didnt like girls at all.. until that is they started talking again eventually. My friend realized how much my other friend really cared for her and it wasnt just a physical attraction. They were both very pretty girls. The non-bisexual one more so blonde. Eventually they started dating and everyone in highschool made a hudge deal out of it, including their parents. So much drama! We never herd the end of it. They fought off and on and got back together for must have been a couple years. Sooner or later the one that was non-bisexual had enough and she went back to dating guys... and still is. My other friend still likes girls to this day and she now has a new girlfriend. She still likes guys but is more satisfied emotionally by other females. I see nothing wrong with it. I myself am not attracted to girls. There is a slight number of women in my life I have even found attractive because of behaviour and personalities. I have only had once experience with another girl and we have been good friends off and on since. It only brings friends closer I think. I dont have any desire to be with another female again as they are not physically satisfying for me. I wouldnt ever have a threesome either. I really love the idea of being the one and only for a man... now if only I could figure out where he is....

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 105 (view)

Something i just found out that you may not know Posted: 2/23/2007 11:08:30 PM
lol. thats a total joke... maybe bum raped in jail! Alot of women get raped and also dont report it, because they know someone who has reported it and it didnt do shit all, or they just knew it wouldnt and wasnt worth the trouble.. so that is a hell of alot of trouble to go to having sex with a guy puttin him on date rape and viagra all at the same time.. why dont you just tie him up and take him out to the bush!

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 64 (view)

confessing your lifestyle choice Posted: 2/23/2007 10:20:46 PM
what if you really like oral sex, dont bring it up, and when the moment comes you find out the other person isnt into it? Awkward...yep... and probably the death knoll of any relationship early on. I would not ask someone to change their life to make me happy, just as much as I would not want them to try to change me. Honesty up front is a must in friendships or relationships. Its one thing to lie to someone about your interests and desires and another thing to not tell them. what you dont know wont hurt you Unless your committed to your partner and you cheat on them. People change alot in relationships and what someone didnt like 5 years ago or even 2 months ago is probably really different from what they like now. I know that is true for me. Some things I just couldnt do with certain guys and could with another especially something like fetishes or oral sex. You have to be respectful of the other person and their needs... especially when it comes to certain things.. like I do not need to know... that you did this and that with your ex or other creepy things that are a hudge turn off (something that happened in someones past doesnt always determine who they are or what they want for the future) you dont know you like something until you try it that goes for alot of things and not just sex. Some people havent fully explored their sexuality or desires. If you do really like someone but they arnt into everything you are at first..... maybe they would be willing depending on how much you like each other. Or if you are just fine with how things are for now instead of worrying about weather or not you will be able to fullfill each others desires in the future... a relationship or friendship can still be fun or beneficial.. depending on other similar interests....eventually both partners might eventually be unsatisfied.. but people are unsatisfied in relationships for a number of different reasons and not just sex. (so is your sex lifestyle your entire world or not?) you cant always get what you want some people are just better at accepting that than others.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 52 (view)

Guys and female stuff Posted: 2/23/2007 5:43:34 PM
just dont talk about your yeast infections while im eating pooridge please dont talk about shit while im eating........ i have never even had a yeast or bladder infection thanks.. so i can guaruntee I wont be talking about it over a meal. Although many guys I know seem to have an issue with talking about taking shits or whatever while girls are trying to eat.. I have no problems with eating whatsoever but it sure ruins a good meal even if its just at mcdonalds.. i dont think its right to send guys out shopping unless its things they enjoy shopping for. I used to see women come into Marks Work Wear house 3 times a week trying to exchange pants for their husbands who refused to shop... (lol some cant buy their own pants nevermind groceries, makeup and other female products) unless of course its an emergency. My ex walked all the way to my work for my lunch break and I desperatly needed a tampon at a store of 6-10 female employees no one had any that day... so I sent him all the way back home as I left my bank card. he then walked all the way back to the store and then to my store to give me them... I dont know why that guy never took a bus he prefered to walk? He must have known he was in trouble for all the late nights drinking with his buddies and returning at 4am... but still one day of buying tampons wasnt enough to undoe all the annoying shit he did and said..

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 9 (view)

Is one required to say upfront if they are interested in short term or long term? Posted: 2/22/2007 3:25:17 PM
How do you know if someone wants long term or short term unless they tell you ? So were just supposed to sit around going with the flow playing guessing games? Sometimes when you meet someone they can totally change your outlook on something, what you think and want... if they make that good of impression that is.. most relationships are life changing.... I know all I wanted in the past was a long term relationship, but for someone that didnt want one I was willing to not become obbsessive and stalkerish.. lol.. But now I am not looking for long term (but if the right person came along I might think differently).......and i would like to get to know someone slowly.... that way after a month or two it would ensure that someone actually liked me for my personality instead of just my looks. So timing is everything sometimes.... Going with the flow sometimes means not going for what you want.. and when has going for what you wanted been a bad thing? Unless of course your too worried with what people think of you for you to actually get anything accomplished in life... (insert an "I wish I would have"...here) Take a chance I say.. Shows you are confident, serious, strong.. and can go after what you want (which is a hudge turn on) Im all for being spontantious.. that is when the best things and memories are created.. ask someone out and you just might be surprised that what you thought they would say is totally different from what they actually do say.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 6 (view)

Is one required to say if they are only interested in short term? Posted: 2/22/2007 3:01:18 PM
that was well put smokebreak ^^^^ Although...I dont think it would be a hudge turn off for a guy to ask me if we could ever have a future together.. but I think only after a couple dates I might think its too soon to be asking me to be his girlfriend and commit to him. Maybe after a month of seeing each other is an appropriate time to ask someone out. I think its totally understandable for a guy after a couple dates to ask what I would like or if I would like to be in a relationship in general.. but not neccisarily with him.. A person has a right to know how much and if they like you and weather or not they have a chance of being with you now or possibly in the future for long term or short term... so that way you dont put so much time and energy into thinking about them and liking them if nothing but a one night stand is going to happen... Some people are more open than others and have a easier time communicating their feelings... were not all the same and thats a very important factor in relationships and dealing with people in general... I guess the most important thing is to NOT lead someone on...... giving them the wrong idea and keeping them waiting around for you just incase you cant find anyone better or you are bored one day... it is just messing around with peoples emotions........... and as good as it might feel for your confidence that someone likes you but you wont give them the time of day... it is really immature and self centered... so instead of having this person once liking you and now moving on they will probably end up hating you instead.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 19 (view)

not knowing what to say in bed Posted: 2/21/2007 10:04:26 AM
deep internal concern of being submissive to someone? if you were really concered with being submissive to them and trying to please them then you would ask what they like and eventually find out?? Most guys will let u know what they like if they are dominant... usually will try to get you to make sounds with out having to fake it... by tickeling or something forcing it out of you... I think your putting too much thought into it. Ask him what he likes.. if he wants you to talk dirty or not and be specific. Some guys will just say moan or scream for me, and others will tell you what exact words to say. lol. some guys all they need to hear is a good oh **** me harder.. or a couple moans.. and then some guys dont care what sound your making as long as your enjoying yourself.. i think that is the main thing.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

Knowledge Vs. Experiance Posted: 2/21/2007 9:26:22 AM
ooh good question! well Id say if you wrote a sex colum or a book or something that It is probably fine you dont have alot of physical experience since you were younger. And most people are just looking for facts in that area and not so much relationship advice.. unless that is what you want to get into. I think if you really want to get into it you could take some other courses that invovle other kinds of relationships too.. and even to get out and date more so you know more about the dating game and not just the sex game, because that also plays an important factor when it comes to sex.. all the little things people deal with in relationships. Not just dating but doing other things that invovle the opposite sex that can make you more comfortable with them... like a day shopping with the ladies, or lunch, or even watching sex and the city.. has helped a few young boyfriends im sure. lol. Spend a day in the life of a woman, and im sure you will eventually be too comfortable with them that you will want to return to your sports, beer and couch any minute. I really dont think knowlege ever out ways experience. There are so many little things we learn along the way we maybe didnt think were important at the time but years down the road we realize how much of an important factor they were in our relationships... and I know that is something I couldnt have learned from a book. But people learn in different ways.. so maybe whats right for you inst right for someone else. You sound like you have alot of information to share with the world and your just a bit confused how to do so. I would say get out there and start experiencing. its never to late to start.. and you might learn something new yourself.. and you probably could help alot of other people realize things along the way too. Knowledge doesnt make mistakes seem worse. People just tend to overreact about it I think. Like they should have known better.....Everyone makes mistakes and thats how we usually learn the best

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 1 (view)

good girls and bad guys??? Posted: 2/21/2007 8:52:46 AM
So what is with these guys that are like late 20's, 30 or 30 something that used to be the trouble makers or still are, are now looking for a 'good girl' like what is this defination of a good girl? someone who will do whatever they want and that is considered being good for them? or a girl who is actually good? good at what?? could you be more specific? like do you mean christian good girl or just gernerally overall a nice caring girl? These guys have pretty much a really brief profile all they are saying is they want a good girl... like maybe you could get a decent girl if you were more specific about your needs and desires in the first place... So have these bad guys really changed for the better and now is why they want a good girl? What makes you guys think you deserve these good girls anyways, and not a bad girl who has gone good? Shouldnt you be looking for a woman? instead of a girl? or are they desperatly trying to find this so called good girl that they can mold into a woman? Any ideas or input on what people consider a 'good girl'? or will any girl ever be good enough for these guys or they are just kidding everyone and themselves? How good is good enough????

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

the power of music Posted: 2/21/2007 1:10:29 AM
Music definatly has the power to be healing, depressing, inspirtational and alot of other things. I change types of music frequently so I dont get stuck in the artists moods. I think it definatly has a way of changing people for the good or bad sometimes. Too much of something is usually never good for someone.. even music sometimes....change seems to be an important factor in most peoples lives. Some of the songs that used to remind me of bad times over the years have changed for me because of what I have learnt, and realized about the past and even what the songs meanings were sometimes too.. I can now listen some of the songs again I used to and I have a good feeling about it as if I created new memories for them or listened to those songs on good days instead of bad days. I also like to go back to places that I have been before where something happened to me that wasnt a good experience.. so then next time I end up at that place I have a different memory and a better feeling about being there. Just feels good to tie up loose ends or whatever, make things right again....

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 52 (view)

Should I warn the new woman? Posted: 2/21/2007 12:33:25 AM
she probably wont believe you even if you tell her Who wouldnt believe acusations like that? She might say she doesnt believe it because she thinks he is worth another chance....maybe she wouldnt believe if the guy told his new girlfriend that his ex was a total psycho and it was really true. I dont think you have the right to tell her. If he wants to open up to someone new and let them in about his past and his previous faults he is trying to overcome from then its his bussiness to say so not yours. If he doesnt want to tell her then that is fine too because he probably is trying to move on, and just because he treated you badley doesnt mean he will treat someone else badley too.. unless he is a psycho stalker murderer type... some guys actually feel guilty even though they may not have the courage to say so...everyone has a concious and feelings.. If he was that mean to you in the past, he was probably mean to other people before you and she will eventually find out by his behaviour or from his friends.. Most men that are abusive or controlling it is not difficult to tell... Most women know that a guy is trouble before he ends up abusing them.. so its not their fault but it was their choice to take and chance and be with someone who shows the warning signs of being controlling or abusive. Maybe he has decided to change his life around, and maybe he is more comptible with someone else as to why your relationship was so harsh. I know this is true for me and my ex. I wouldnt scare his new girlfriend away by saying what happened between us, because that is our bussiness and we have our own reasons for acting in the ways we did. And I know we both dont want to make the same mistakes again.. I know he wants to change and better his life and he deserves a second chance,.. as harsh as he was to me, i still hope one day he can better himself and be happy.. then maybe he wont be so angery or be abusive again. Revenge doesnt benefit anyone in the long run.. is only satisfying for the moment, and doesnt accomplish anything more, because things and lessons can be learned without hate, pain and greif invovled. when you learn to forgive and forget that is the time when you have truely moved on and become a better person, not just for yourself but for others also.

justadreammm

Joined: 11/2/2005

Msg: 41 (view)

Your boyfriend/ girlfriend wants to continue to see ex partners just as friends? Posted: 2/20/2007 10:56:09 PM
yes it bothers me alot probably because i am a scorpio..... i wouldnt want my boyfriend hanging out with other females alot even if they were just friends nevermind used to be intimate.... because there are still feelings invovled and memories about their past that would eventually be thought of or felt again. exs are exs for a reason... some people cant let go of old friends that arent meant to be friends forever, nevermind exs.. to me that says someone has issues with control, regrets, letting go, changing, and moving on... how is someone supposed to change and grow with you in a new relationship if they cant move on from other relationships.. someone is always hanging on to one another because of security, selfesteem, commitment, or jealousy issues....

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