Don't you think that any woman who would be upset with you during these difficult times because you can't pay for her parties is not worth being with? That's where the term GOLD DIGGER comes from.....

Sounds like he is buying time. Telling you that three years would be something, means if your with him three years or more then he'll take you seriously.

I didn't actually mean to delete the post, I wanted to add the line that's left at the end, but the time to edit expired before I realized the change...

I do want real feedback and appreciate everyone's candor on this topic - especially sweetness-one - I think she very accurately explains the "mixed signals" I thought I was getting from her.... I have a thick skin, and reading this really helps me to do some serious introspection and gain a new understanding of her mindset and what she was going through...I really only saw things from my perspective, that's why I posted the whole saga - again, this kind of analyzing is something you usually can't gain in one afternoon of sitting with yourself and trying to figure out where things went wrong in a relationship.

You have been on here since March 08... Are you sure you haven't given her your own reasons to not trust you, but she confirmed it with your ex wife, to see if her misgivings of you was true???

It seems to me that your ex GF wanted to see if the things she seen in you was true, and sadly chose to consult your ex to see if your ex wife experienced the same thing..

Not a nice move on your ex gf part, but at the same time do you think having a profile on here, and what ever the fight was about had anything to do with her decision to see if she was with someone that she really couldn't trust???

I don't know you or her, BUT just saying, if you are on a dating site for nearly a year, women can catch on...

As for what does a person expect, ohhh depends on how bad the break up was... With my ex, I am not interested in ruining any of his dates, and am friendly towards them.

Of course I did have a LTR, that he ran out and met someone while I was sick in the hospital... He was crappy to me, his ex gf, his ex wife, so it would not be a surprise that her asking me how great he was wouldn't go totally wonderful... Obviously she had a taste of what he was like, so talking to me would only confirm what she already knew...

Bad break ups say a lot about a person, and I have major suspicion that in the beginning you spared no ill feelings about your ex wife either...

Wrestling? Go best two falls out of three. Let her win one of them, so she can feel superior, then go ahead and win the other two so she doesn't think less of your manliness.

Isn't it the male version of Cosmo? [sorry, i'm not up on all the modern mags]

Oddly enough, given that I am a heavy-duty feminist, it does not offend me. It's more silly. And I wonder why men are so sucked in by a sexy woman on the cover of a men's magazine--do they also offer advice on sex? How about relationships? Do they have quizzes on the subjects? Cuz I think a lot of men need that. But if its akin to the advice that Cosmo gives, um, well, I pass.

But in the panoply of all things anti-feminist, I would say the existence of Maxim is WAYYYY down the "offensive" line.

K, sweetie, looks like you've got your answer! Take her out, have a good time, and try to keep your mouth shut about your ex! Have fun!

Someone in another thread hit the nail on the head when he said "If you were given the opportunity to sit comfortably and wait for people to come to you.. and they actually did.. wouldn't you too get spoiled, unreasonably overdemanding and lazy after awhile?"

Thanks for your advice. whats your favorite come on line?

I dont need to go back to the bank. Do you think its inapropriate to ask her on the phone?

This is good, but more descriptive of the problem. The problem is easy to describe but hard to fix. To the people that replied and missed the point...If it's one of your problems it becomes both of your problems. You cant' share with someone that - hey this bothers me - and the reply be oh now way, it's nothing.

To me, if someone tells you that so and so is a problem or you don't care for something and they think - not it isn't, that's a warning sign missed. Problems not fixed are like, wait, it's more of a shovel the piles while they're still small.

Because for some, "dating" means going on a few dates with you and if the chemistry is there...a longterm relationship down the road. For others, it means dating and sleeping with different ppl.

Just simply state in your profile what you have said to us. You can always put a filter in your profile/restrictions stating a person with "long term" cannot contact you...problem solved!!!