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samantha44

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Thailand!!?? any advise Posted: 11/22/2009 9:44:43 AM
I was in Thailand several years I liked Phi Phi and Krabi not much for Bangkok...My preferance was Malaysia, if you should get a chance go to a place called Prehentian on the north east side just off of Kota Baru....absolutely beautiful!!!!

samantha44

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What spices go good with what? Posted: 11/22/2009 9:08:24 AM
Funny you should say that about the black pepper and strawberries...one of my favorite deserts is fresh sliced strawberries coated in sambuca topped with fresh black pepper .....to die for!!!! The sweetness from the berries/sambuca and spice from the pepper is oh so good

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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What spices go good with what? Posted: 11/21/2009 8:12:06 PM
Nutmeg is also good with brussel sprouts, cauliflower just and pinch I also put a pinch in my mashed potato as well as my alfredo sauce

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Love and being in love Posted: 11/19/2009 1:08:44 PM
It just tells me she has no idea what love means to her.....first thing is woman can bond with a man she is not in love with, woman do all the time.Woman secrete a hormone called oxytocin (bonding hormone) when they are intimate with a man it is part of our biology....doesn't mean we are in love with just means we have bonded with you, some ( a lot) woman confuse the two .

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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What spices go good with what? Posted: 11/19/2009 1:00:42 PM
Thyme is good in beef dishes, roasts, stews etc....

samantha44

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Was I right? Posted: 11/19/2009 8:13:55 AM
Consensus is YOU screwed up nothing to feel bad about, JUST MAKE IT RIGHT!!! Your actions showed her you were not interested in a exclusive realtionship with her when she layed it on the line with you. You had both had set up a regular communication thing and as soon as she came clean with you about what SHE wanted YOU backed off. She read the writing on the wall took that you weren't interested and here we are. She is not a mind reader as what your intentions were suppose to have meant.....you could have said: " Lisa (insert name here) I think you are a beautiful woman I've really enjoyed spending time with. I've had some bad experiences with woman in the past that say one thing and do another. So let's do this why don't we take a week a think about what it is we both want talk in about a week.....just know this I do really like you". If nothing else if you have opened up some dialogue between the 2 of you. Send Flowers and make the wrong right you may still have a shot. Right now she is posting in another thread saying what a player you are. OP writes: But I'm not impressed by a woman, that loses interest, or moves on so easily. Resilience is important also, so that's why I don't repair it. Buddy this woman doesn't even know you all she has is your actions to go. Its not like you've been dating for months or years where she really knows you. Her experiences with men may not have been that great either, but she is putting herself out there and you just showed her what her biggest fear is.....speak the words and "COMMUNICATE"

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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I am breaking up with BF Today! Had ENOUGH Posted: 11/18/2009 9:14:19 AM
Carmel you seem like a very good deserving woman. Let me ask this of you....would you tolerate any of this treatment from any one of your freinds .....I think not! Why do you allow if from him? Least we forget we teach people how to treat us.... I've been where you are a time or two you may want to google "comittment phobic men" this a truly a state of being for a lot of men these days. I bet in the beginning he made you feel like his queen, did all the things you needed and wanted then as time ticks by the calls become less frequent, perhaps more texting. These types of men love texting because its easier for them to keep an emotional distance. KNOW THIS GIRL...... YOU ARE NOT THE ONE WHO IS GOING TO CHANGE HIM!!!!these men do not change they want a relationship on their terms,they want the control, they're incredibly selfish, they also know right in the beginning that is a short lived relationship usually about 6 months or a little longer they are not planning or even wanting a future. You know in your head you deserve more but your heart tells you something else...I know it sucks. Woman secrete a hormone called "Oxytocin" the bonding hormone that why so many woman can be with men that in their heads they know are not good for them but their hearts tells them something different. Woman are emotionally it is part of our biology....

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Maroni's Sauce and Meatballs Posted: 11/18/2009 8:48:45 AM
I use pork, beef and ground chicken or turkey in my meatballs as well as some dijon mustard, carmelized onions and garlic, fresh parsely, parmasean cheese, salt and pepper liberally, a pinch of nutmeg, fresh parsely, worchestshire sauce, 1 egg, bread crumbs... if I'm just making meatballs to have as a snack from fridge I bake....if using in a pasta sauce I brown in pan then add to sauce and cook.

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Has your Adult ADD ruined/sabotaged relationships? Posted: 11/11/2009 7:16:37 AM
Lots of great info on this subject in this thread.... Does a person with ADD/ADHD know there is something is wrong with them? My friend is the lost sock in the dryer of life can't hold a job, smokes way too much weed, extremely bad eating habits to the point where I'm sure he has candidia from tooooo much sugar......he will treat he body like a garbage dump but won't take perscription medicine even for pain....the things that makes you go hmmmmm. He is hyper-vigilent about recycling and the enviroment, he has mood swings, says in appropriate things, chronically late, not reliable, sleeps a lot, emotionally unavailable, very selfish etc. When we did spend time together you could see glimpses of a really great guy just not often enough. Not sure how I can help or if there is any help for him....

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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What does it really mean? Posted: 11/9/2009 7:58:41 AM
This is exactly what she means...." She thinks you are really a nice guy but she does not magine herself naked with you".....NO SEXUAL CHEMISTRY!!!! Its not that complicated....it happens to me quite often...meet a nice guy just not sexually excited about him as he is about me.

samantha44

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Right or Wrong? Your Take on This ... Posted: 11/9/2009 7:45:41 AM
I don't see a big deal about being more attracted to Larry. Internet dating is to open up your sphere of people in your life. If Joe didn't do it for you nothing wrong with testing the waters out with Larry. However I think being honest with Joe if you and Larry do hook up is best.....Larry should talk to him about wanting to see you so Joe doesn't feel gilted on some level.

samantha44

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Has your Adult ADD ruined/sabotaged relationships? Posted: 11/9/2009 7:34:29 AM
I dated a guy with ADD, he never admitted that he had this but I knew he did. The way he would slow his brain was by smoking a lot of dope/pot. I'm not saying this is a solution especially in the quantity he smoked, but perhaps now again may take the edge off.

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Moral Dilema Posted: 11/8/2009 11:13:59 AM
Sounds like you and your had an amicable parting...why would he now start to behave this way? Is it possible she doesn't like that the both of you are in touch and she is the one that started the texting to get a reaction from you..... Something to think about!

samantha44

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People are too selfish to become parents.... Posted: 11/6/2009 7:19:02 AM
I have no children and its not because I'm selfish far from it. A lot of people who do have children can be more selfish than the ones that choose not to. Some people choose to have children out of need of wanting them not thinking of what they have to offer that child, can they afford them are they in a healthy relationship with a loving supportive partner. If some people's priority is the material things in life good on them for being honest and not bringing a child into that I would think that is pretty unselfish versus the ones that don't care or think about it.

samantha44

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Have you ever fallen in love with a sociopath?? Posted: 11/5/2009 8:22:15 AM
Sociopath or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) either one stay clear these people have no soul.....check out another thread called "have you ever dated a true narcissist" there is a lot of info there. Yes I have dated one......

samantha44

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Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/5/2009 7:43:21 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^ I so agree!!!!!

samantha44

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Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/4/2009 8:02:28 AM
I like a trimmed or shaven nether region.....its more hygenic and appealing to me. It also tells me he cares about himself like getting regular hair cuts, trimming of toe nails and finger nails, trimming or plucking other stray hairs.....also back hair is a huge turn off and needs to be tended too also.

samantha44

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A Question of Jealousy - Posted: 11/4/2009 7:47:44 AM
There isn't any room in a relationship for jealousy.....if my guy is disrespecting me that is a whole other enchilada in my presence or out of my presence. Some men enjoy the power and control to watch their girl be off balance in a relationship others like to make her feel safe and loved so she knows your eyes are only for her. And some woman just have issues and no amount of security in a relationship will make her feel safe and loved and she will always be emotionally off balance when it comes to other woman....her issue not yours.

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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I Don't Know What to Say? Posted: 11/2/2009 8:06:42 AM
OP the on line dating thing is not for everyone. Finding someone you enjoy who will reciprocate in kind is like finding a needle in a haystack. Typically you will get a lot of rejection so I hope you have a thick skin...be yourself and be interesting with confidence. Good Luck

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Wouldn't it be great... Posted: 10/29/2009 7:10:27 PM
If some people weren't so self-centered...OMG!!! did I dodge a bullet!!!!

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Caught between that rock and hard place Posted: 10/27/2009 7:58:28 AM
Do your thing!!!!!...in the future do not enter into a relationship its selfish to let someone fall in love with you only to pull the plug when you know in your heart your not in a postion to fall in love with her.....you already know the final chapters of your life. Posters can say what they want about this woman about already knowing your future plans.....woman are emotional creatures our emotions are what guide us its the way we are built...the more time you spend with her the more bonded she becomes.

samantha44

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I would like a few opinions on my situation - advice on how to proceed Posted: 10/26/2009 8:17:39 AM
I think she has commitment issues.....you need to heed the advice of the first poster....cut and run long enough for her to make changes serious long lasting changes.

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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No orgasm: dealbreaker? Posted: 10/25/2009 6:38:29 PM
Having an orgasm especially mind blowing and multiplies are not just about foreplay and what your man can do to get you off...its about trust, safety, respect. So if your relationship is not good in other areas it could very well be showing up in the bedroom.....comunication is key! Good Luck I feel bad for woman that are not able to reach climax...its the most happiest place to go...

samantha44

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POF Forums - The Worse Representation of Dating & Daters? Posted: 10/25/2009 8:06:57 AM
Yes to the Op's question....it makes me feel there are a lot of messed up people out there. Hence why I have given up looking for anyone from this site or any others. I've opted to let life take its natural progression what will be will be...if that means being single for the rest of my days so be it rather be single than be in a less than fullfilling relationship.

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Tough question about honesty... Posted: 10/24/2009 7:04:53 AM
Just be honest and tell the her that "its not working for you" and move on! Like the previous poster said no one wants to be strung along.....put your big girl panties on and deal with the task at hand!

samantha44

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How was I so stupid??? Posted: 10/21/2009 8:00:09 AM
Don't be too hard on yourself we've all put ourselves out there in the name of "Love" only for it come back and kick us in th pants. "Live and Learn" when we know better we do better.......I seriously don't know what is happening to the quality of people these days I would also remove this from your profile...it translates "I give too much" I am a very caring,loving,honest, and faithful person. I like to spoil the person I am with. If you capture my heart I will want only you I just would hope you would feel the same. Do a profile review they can be very helpful.:) Good Luck

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Things are changing... Posted: 10/21/2009 7:45:42 AM
It is a sign of the times, people are becoming more and more disconnected. Technology has made it very easy for people not to become personally invested in someone because all they ever do is email, or text. Hearing the other person on the other end of the phone makes them real texting does not. I'm surprised how many people break up through texting ( shakes head). Its very sad!

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Soundtracks? Posted: 10/21/2009 7:27:30 AM
Thanks Revfan I will check it out..... Chuck.... I was actually looking for songs from movies hadn't really thought about the musical Scores.

samantha44

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Wouldn't it be great... Posted: 10/19/2009 7:47:40 AM
Wouldn't it be great if..... people actually thought about how their words/actions effect people in their lives...or even how they effect people in general. Wouldn't it be great if....... some people weren't so "Selfish"

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Soundtracks? Posted: 10/18/2009 7:09:46 AM
Just bought a new Ipod....looking for some new music can anyone suggest some soundtracks that I might like. I just finished downloading "New Moon" (Twighlight series) its really good! I typically like all genres of music nothing metal though and country is a little iffy too.

samantha44

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What do you think of this? Posted: 10/17/2009 7:21:11 AM
I have to ask why you are allowing such bad bevaviour? This does not sound like a very loving or healthy relationship you need to ask why you are in it if you are not getting your needs met and he is disrespectful. Learn to love yourself and believe you are deserving of a good guy that treats you well. If not you will continue to be treated like trash....I could be wrong but somethng tells me your first husband was similiar in the way he treated you! Walt's above poste gave you very good advice.....BANG ON!!!!

samantha44

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Got any good ideas for a theme party ? Posted: 10/16/2009 7:27:46 AM
Something simple is having a "Hat Party" everyone that comes has to be wearing a interesting hat....you could make a stipulation that there is no ball caps allowed. You could aslo have a "Pink Party" where everyone dresses in something "Pink" you can download a song by the "Fabulous Poodles" called "Think Pink" and play it.

samantha44

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Are men over 40 more likely not to commit... Posted: 10/15/2009 9:15:19 AM
Nurse1275...I've wondered the same thing. My experience is that a lot of men are selfish and have relationships are their terms. I'm not looking for marriage (not a believer) however I do believe in comittment and find it very it challenging at this stage of my life.....most men that I've dated have definately been emotionally unavailable and comittment phobic. The only thing I expect is for someone to meet me half way. Its challenging to find the balance of attraction, mental attraction and comittment and I keep beleiving it may happen.

samantha44

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how to start over Posted: 10/15/2009 8:29:40 AM
Why don't you start by being there for your kids and not focussing on having a man in your life....your kids need you more than anything and they did not ask to be in this situation. Be selfless not selfish and be a Mom for awhile until you get your life sorted out.

samantha44

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Favorite Hike? Posted: 10/15/2009 7:47:31 AM
I ended up doing Quarry Rock in Deep Cove it was really pretty. Nothing all that strenuous perfect for what I was looking for since I didn't know the level of fitness of my friend and for the time we ended up getting started. All in all it was a perfect day. I will keep theother hikes in mind for another time.....I actually googled North Shore Hikes it gave a good list.

samantha44

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Favorite Hike? Posted: 10/12/2009 8:42:31 AM
So for all the other hikers out there what is your favorite and why? I usually like one where I can get a bit of stairclimber in at least for a bit (not Grouse Grind) I like ones that have beautiful vistas to look at. Recently I did the Baden Powell up Cypress to Eagles Bluff that was gorgeous, did the Lynn Canyon Loop which was nice but not many scenic look out points, the Diaz Vista is really pretty too. Plan on doing one today any thoughts?

samantha44

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lost and confused Posted: 10/10/2009 8:56:26 AM
We teach people how to treat us.....he does what he does because you have no boundaries and have allowed his bad behaviour. I in no way condone what this man does because he is imature selfish asshat!!!! You need to get your act together and draw a line in the sand and start making plans to leave this abusive relationship because he is not going to change...they rarely do!

samantha44

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Having the last say..... Posted: 10/9/2009 5:07:14 PM
I think it is all ones delivery...sure if you point fingers and blame that is never a good thing. I've always believed there is only 50% respondsibility he takes 50% I take mine.....you say your peace on last time and let the healing begin .

samantha44

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Having the last say..... Posted: 10/9/2009 2:32:38 PM
I should have titled this more aptly " How do you start to heal from a breakup" ...its not really about having the last say but just getting out some thoughts and feelings....

samantha44

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Having the last say..... Posted: 10/9/2009 10:37:52 AM
Trying to get a consensus here: How many fellow POFers like to clear the air and have the a final say either by way of email or face to face to explain yourself and clear the air when your relationshp has gone awry.....this is usually a person that meant a great deal to do you. I for one always like to express myself usually by way of email ( can aticulate better) to communicate my feelings not in a pointing fingers kinda way but from my heart. Friends have said that the guy is not deserving of hearing my thoughts and feelings I however don't do it for him as much as I do it for myself to help let go and let the healing begin. What do you like to do?

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Apologizing? Posted: 10/8/2009 8:03:18 PM
Thanks for all the responses it was a good read....I think people who are self centered have a difficult time apologizing.

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Apologizing? Posted: 10/8/2009 10:56:31 AM
Do people in general have a difficult time apologizing when they know they have screwed up or done something hurtful? Do people who are generally more sensitive by nature have less difficulty with saying, "I'm sorry"? I personally have no problem apologizing when I know I have screwed up or done something to hurt someone. I'm surprised with people I have met in my life that have such diffuculty stepping up to say, "I'm sorry" why is that do you think. Curious to know what other people experiences are with these two words....

samantha44

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To selective about who we date? Posted: 10/2/2009 8:12:48 AM
I don't think it is being too selective....when you have experienced that so called "Chemistry" before its not easy to settle for anything less. Sure I've had the sexual WOW when it was all about the sex...however it didn't translate out of the bedroom....then I've met guys where I enjoyed chatting with them but was in no way physically attracted ( couldn't get the visually naked thing happening).... I don't think it is too much to ask to want the package because once you have expereinced what it is suppose to feel like its impossible to settle for anything less.

samantha44

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took the wind out of my sails! Posted: 10/2/2009 7:49:35 AM
OH MY!!! you sound like a teenager....its a date for god's sake. Your friends are too gossipy but I guess thats what it is in a small town. I would not disclose any of the info about the date to your so called friend, go onthe date and make your own informed decision not third party.

samantha44

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Why Some Woman Remain Single... Posted: 10/1/2009 8:03:01 AM
Ok guys and gals my friend sent me this link to an actual voice mail a guy left for lady hoping he could get a date......very funny!!!! Guys take note....don't ever do this!!!! Cut and paste into your address bar.... http://melodymaker.posterous.com/the-reason-some-girls-stay-single-very-funny

samantha44

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Contemplating lifetime estrangement from parents? advice Posted: 9/30/2009 7:39:11 AM
I feel for your pain, your childhood was horrible. However if you ever plan to lead a healthy productive life you must find the courage not to be the "Victim" anymore, if that means counciling then thats is what you must do. Unfortunately we can pick our friends but we can't pick our family there are many people out there that have had just as dysfunctional past as yours or worse....the easiest way is to find some forgiveness in your heart not so much for the people that did you wrong but for yourself.... You have your whole life to live and only "YOU" can choose how you want to live it...you can continue being the "VICTIM" (why nothing good happens to you mentality) or you can choose a different path. As far as your parents are concerned you may have to learn to put them in a different place in your life so the toxicity remains at bay. Good Luck to you...

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Life is not fair, or is it? Posted: 9/27/2009 7:30:25 AM
Life is what you make of it.....live it fearlessly and not being a "VICTIM"

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Random fact thought or idea!!... Posted: 9/26/2009 7:34:37 AM
I'm thinking there are a lot of messed up people on this site....

samantha44

Joined: 10/25/2008

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BC Comfort Food....... Posted: 9/22/2009 8:00:34 AM
Grilled cheese, Campbells tomato soup with a dill pickle on the side...mmmmmmm with a tall glass of icy cold milk.

samantha44

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What are you reading? Posted: 9/22/2009 7:58:25 AM
"Fearless Living" by Rhonda Britten" excellent read for everyone.....we all live in fear of something!

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