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Any way to find + herpes people on this site? Posted: 8/25/2009 9:57:22 PM
First, I think it's awesome for those of you who have it to step up and say so. That said, my step-sister is positive. She wasn't sleeping around or even sexually active when she contracted it. She was 11 years old when she was diagnosed and got it from her mother's ex-husband as a result of being raped. She is married to a wonderful man, has been for ten years now. They are very cautious that he doesn't contract it. I just don't see what the huge Herpes stigma is about. If I met a potential suitor that I felt met the qualities I wanted in a partner, and he disclosed he was HSV positive, would I stop dating him? I would like to think not.

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What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 8/25/2009 8:05:37 PM
I second the poster who said put on a uniform!

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New Term? Posted: 8/15/2009 6:57:54 AM
I love to dance. I am in my 30s and see no reason why I can't go out and let my hair down. I will go to dance clubs on the occasional evening. Though I usually gravitate toward the clubs that are more known for their 30-something crowd. I just can't do the meat market, beer/drink spillin, trying to randomly hook up with every single person in the club air of the popular clubs here. That being said, those women who can keep up with the 20-somethings in their partying - more power to them. I just don't have the energy to do that all that much anymore!

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Can you fall in love with someone on line? Posted: 8/11/2009 7:27:49 AM
I think you can fall in love online. But I also think you can fall in love on a first date. Falling in love is easy... sustaining that love is the more difficult task. Making the deeper connection from being IN love to loving all (or most) things about said person is the trickier part - if that makes sense. Because it totally did in my head.

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Age Boundries Posted: 8/11/2009 7:09:00 AM
This dating thing certainly gets harder as we get older, doesn't it? I don't remember giving age ANY thought in my previous single life. That being said, I did marry a man who was 16 years my senior. We were the same emotional age. Who cares about physical age?? Have any of these 30-something women you've approached actually SAID they perceive you immature due to your lack of a previous marriage, kids and/or a mortgage? Ever think it could be something else? I know I don't expect men in their 30s to have everything together, especially early 30s. (Keep in mind, I haven't looked at your profile. I have no idea how old you are, OP.)

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Over 30 -- What is your biggest turn on Posted: 8/9/2009 2:45:45 PM
Let's see, in the age of internet dating for me it would be: Correct grammar usage The ability to spell (I realize these kind of go together) A sense of humor that one can read A descriptive profile Pictures of his animals will melt my heart every time. If we are strictly talking physically, then it would be shoulders. I have a thing for tall men with nice, strong shoulders. fans self I also tend to notice eyes (of course) and teeth. A nice, sincere smile will just make me melt.

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Why is sex on the first date such a big deal? Posted: 11/13/2008 7:15:57 PM
I personally don't get why men get the wrap for being the ones who enjoy 'test driving' women. I know PLENTY of women who are the ones to mention sex on first dates. I think it's unfair to generalize that it is only men. I have done my fair share of dating and have only ever come across one man who was a bit too pushy. It happens. Is it really fair to men to stereotype? In my opinion, not at all. To me, that is the equivalent of saying that a woman who's having a bad day must be PMSing. Give the guys a break! It kills me to hear women say things like, "all men are pigs and want nothing more than sex" when most of us know perfectly well that is not always the case.

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 11/13/2008 8:57:44 AM
Just imagine it's tapioca... sprung from a penis, lightly salted with a hint of Javex! I do believe you just ruined tapioca for me. I will never look at that the same. LMAO As for calories... I'm sure she has to be kidding. I'm just sure of it. Besides, it's not like you won't be working it off afterwards...

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Why is sex on the first date such a big deal? Posted: 11/13/2008 8:51:20 AM
Well, I can understand that. When I mentioned dates, I had known each of the guys for a while before we ever crossed any lines. Those first dates were after months of getting to know someone in another environment. My ex and I met online. We chatted for a long time before, online and on the phone, before we met in person. He flew up to NC to meet me and sex was the very first thing on our agenda. But by then, I already knew (or thought) I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. If I re-evaluate what everyone else's definition of a first date is, I've only put out on one. (Yay! I'm not a whore after all!) And that ended with a really great friendship... we remain close. I guess it really does depend on personal preference. If the chemistry is right and both want it, I don't see the problem.

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when I guy says he made love to me Posted: 11/13/2008 7:54:19 AM
I guess it really depends on the guy. I've had guys say both when it was really just sex to me. And it really ended up being just sex to him too. I can't speak for men, only from my experiences. Making love is way different from just sex. Like you, OP, I prefer the word love not be involved until there is some.

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Why is sex on the first date such a big deal? Posted: 11/13/2008 6:31:32 AM
Not alot of men do. Its what most are after. That's incredibly judgemental. I don't think that's what most are after, honestly. It's kind of like the 'all men are jerks' stereotype. I hate that. I have had my fair share of sex on first dates. Almost all of the men I have clicked with right away, I have had sex with them on the first date. To each their own. The only thing I ask from people is this: don't judge me because I'm a ho' and I won't judge you for being a prude. (And since tone cannot be interpreted, I am TOTALLY kidding!)

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 11/13/2008 5:50:48 AM
Why do I want to gag? Not at last poster, but in general. LOL I've only ever given BJs to two men. I swallowed both. The first, I swear to GOD I thought I was going to hurl on his penis. That was the nastiest crap ever. The second, I wasn't prepared for it, so I had no choice. (I think spitting makes it worse.) I have to say, not too bad. What did I learn, boys 'n girls? Every man's different. When I perform oral on another guy, I'll give it a try. After I overload him on chocolate and pineapple.

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All Night Lovemaking! Posted: 11/12/2008 8:29:49 PM
Same here, Eastcoastlipps. With my ex, the longest we ever went was an hour and it was over. And when it was over for him... it was over for me too. shrugs Now that I'm back in the game though, well I'm going to be testing those waters again real soon. And maybe I'll find a man who can keep up this time!

Joined: 10/25/2008

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Why is sex on the first date such a big deal? Posted: 11/12/2008 6:35:10 PM
Maybe I'm just a ho'. That's a great way to start a post, eh? LOL I've had my share of sex on first dates. As a matter of fact, my soon to be ex husband and I had sex on the first date. We were together almost 10 years. I have never had an issue where a guy didn't call after. If the chemistry is right and we both want it, why not? We are, after all, two consenting adults. I see no shame in it at all.

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Why do men like to give women backrubs? Posted: 11/12/2008 12:16:30 PM
Well, for my last sexual encounter, the back rub did it. That was the first time a back rub ever lead anywhere for me. I LOVE a good back rub. I tend to store all of my tension in my neck and shoulders. If it's with the right person and done correctly, it can definitely be the prelude to sex. I also enjoy giving back rubs. I think there is something incredibily intimate about pleasing someone I'm with in a non-sexual way.

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Women kissing after oral sex Posted: 11/12/2008 11:32:12 AM
I don't have a problem with kissing my partner after he's gone down on me. I think it's hot. I've also never had a partner who shied away from kissing me after a BJ. It's all good.

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Sex when the woman is having her period. Posted: 11/10/2008 8:57:55 PM
I have no problem with sex while on my period. I'm usually hornier when good ole Ma' Nature comes a knocking. So... And no soft and gentle crap either. The harder, the better. Though that's generally the case anyway. shrugs I've never been much of a hearts, candles and flowers kinda girl anyway.

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So what do the women think on this Posted: 11/9/2008 2:28:08 PM
I'd retype it in a word processing software (like MS Word) and do a spell/grammar check on it the about me section. You might also want to break it out into paragraphs. It's a bt hard to read jumbled up that way. You might also want to consider removing all of the PS, PSS, etc from the first date section. And the last line, "do women really read this far or are you asleep by now?" could be taken as offensive. Just my opinion. Good luck in your search!

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Would someone be kind enough... Posted: 11/9/2008 12:40:39 PM
Off to revise! Thanks for the suggestions. I really appreciate it.

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My Profile outta 10...looking for feed back Posted: 11/9/2008 10:40:59 AM
Hi Patrick, First, I love the pictures. The variety shows many sides to you. I think the one you chose as your default shows great character. (Besides, your puppy is adorable!) Second thing I'd recommend is capitalize all of your interests. It makes your profile appear a little cleaner. Just my opinion. I also suggest you copy everything from your profile, paste it into Word or some kind of word processing software and do a spell/grammar check. Again, makes the profile a little cleaner looking and a bit easier to read. I'd also consider narrowing down your goals section. It is great that you are so focused, but you might want to leave some of the stuff you put up for later conversations. I would stick with the basics right now, like learning to play guitar and continuing your education. Your career and financial goals should definitely be kept for later use. I especially like the last 'want' - build a family and live happily ever after. That is, after all, why we are all here right? Good luck with your search! Crystal

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Would someone be kind enough... Posted: 11/9/2008 10:25:19 AM
to please take a look at my profile and let me know what y'all think? I haven't dated in forever. I want to be honest and up front, but I think maybe I'm giving too much information. Thanks! I would really appreciate any feedback.

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Sleeping naked Posted: 11/9/2008 10:05:51 AM
I've been sleeping naked for as long as I can remember. Definitely started in my early teens. I love crawling into freshly laundered bedding after a shower and curling up into the sheets. I have ofen lamented that bed time is my favorite time of day.

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Self-Induced G-Spot Orgasm Posted: 11/9/2008 9:56:12 AM
I searched and searched for my G. For years, it escaped me. After much searching and probing, it was all worth it! It was the BEST orgasm EVER! I was and am lucky enough to hit my G with my two fingers. I have the specially bent vibrator and it's alright. But nothing, NOTHING compares to getting in there and doing it myself. Dave is correct. As much as I'd love to be able to have an all-nighter with myself, one wears me out. It is physically exhausting, without toys. But honestly, the O is much better by hand, that I am okay with the one... and it's nap time for me!

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Is it Fair to Dump Someone That Has Herpes... Posted: 11/9/2008 9:39:46 AM
Is it fair? The only person that can answer that question is the OP's friend. It's up to her what she can and cannot live with. Do I think the guy in question is a tool for not telling her until they were in the middle of intercourse? Absolutely. There is no question about that. I find it incredible that Herpes has such a huge stigma. However, I understand and respect the people who say they couldn't deal with a partner who has it. To each their own, right? One of my good friends has Herpes. She was not promiscuous. She found out when she was 11. She was raped by her step-father. It's a sad, sad world. But she takes care of herself. She is on daily Valtrex for suppression, is careful when she has an outbreak and was ALWAYS up front with potential new partners. She has been married for a few years now and her husband goes for testing twice a year. They have a very active sex life. Because she is empowered with knowledge, her husband remains STD free. Would I dump someone who had Herpes? I have never been presented with this as a potential 'problem', so I can't say. I can say I would be very careful and give it much consideration. If I could see a future with the person, probably not. If it were just a sexual relationship? Well, I can do all of that myself without risk.

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Teased for liking bbw's Posted: 11/9/2008 8:41:11 AM
I don't worry about stigmas about my weight. I am a BBW. I don't act like it. I carry myself and my weight well. I am told constantly by some of the thinner women in my office that I dress well for my size. I know what are my best assets, which I accentuate. It doesn't bother me that some men would prefer not to date me because of my size. We all have our preferences. But I will say this: being overweight makes me look at people for more than physical beauty. I try (though sometimes I don't necessarily succeed) to not judge people based on looks. Sure chemistry and physical attraction is important, but not nearly as important as what's beyond all that. OP, your choice in a woman is no one else's business. As long as you are happy and fulfilled in your relationship and dating experiences, no one else need matter.

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