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a blast from the past!...any similar experiences? Posted: 7/7/2009 6:34:05 PM
now this is interesting i posted a smackdown before reading after the last post i wrote...all of you diamondgirl2727 and below can at least be respectful even those who do not agree, thanks all of ya guys and gals. im glad there are still people in this world that know if you tease the lions they will bite your hands off. you know who you are ;-)

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What's your deal breaker? (re profiles first glance) Posted: 6/30/2009 12:52:33 AM
**over utilization of emoticons 1.) Requires a certain faith 2.) has 6 pictures and no less than 5 of them are her surrounded by booze while the first one is a shot of her jugs 3.) has the "im looking for someone who is REAL" quote slapped in her biography (wouldn't know what REAL was if it bit you in the ass) 4.) requires applicant to have a car as though that should have any bearing on how much she can love/like a person (heh applicant) 5.) is not my type physically or mentally (dating wise) but yeah that really is it not too unreasonable i think

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Rejection (sorta) because of... Hobbies? Posted: 6/29/2009 2:58:26 PM
Actually i have not gotten into the blacksmithing part of armor crafting but man do i want to! mostly i have just done chainmail and scalemail tailoring. many days spent bending, cutting and forming rings...oi. I know of the gatherings by Craigflower elementary school where the combat practice takes place but i have never seen someone forging armor there. ( i do not go often enough though) Dont fret steve i am not bothered by this lady more or less confused and i thought it would make a good conversation topic No i am not the man in the free credit report commercial :P for all of you wondering what chainmail or scalemail is i will post a picture of my work on my profile tommorow and give you an example if you care to see.

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Rejection (sorta) because of... Hobbies? Posted: 6/29/2009 2:40:25 PM
She said that just right out cold like that? There's either more to the story, or more to the alcohol consumption. Don't take her comment to heart. Swear to whatever god i beleive in that is exactly what happened. you may be right in the alcohol consumption though everyone had 3 beers and a round of margaritas. I was the only one without an alcoholic drink. except for one margarita...i like strawberries :P

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Rejection (sorta) because of... Hobbies? Posted: 6/29/2009 2:34:24 PM
Sometimes. I prefer for a guy to have hobbies different than mine. But if his hobby was raping women and cutting their bodies into little pieces, he wouldn't have a chance. i assure you miss i do not partake in cutting up women after ravaging their vaginas, it's just not very chivalrous and a tad bit on the evil side.

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Rejection (sorta) because of... Hobbies? Posted: 6/29/2009 2:26:38 PM
Well this was a bit strange i was at a friend's place awhile back we were sitting having some drinks and one of the hostesses friends sat next to me. she asked me what i did for a living, how i know her friend, usual banter like that Plenty of fish came up too then she asked what i did for fun... i told her i like to craft armor and i am also a writer. so i get this response "oh...yeah you wouldn't have a chance." Then she went to sit at another end of the table. there was this awkward silence throughout the room and i just raised an eyebrow, looked at my friend and she shrugged her shoulders it was a bit weird because i didnt even ask her out. so my question to ladies is...does a guy's interest really matter to many of ya. Is there something wrong out us Armorers and Writers? something i should be informed about? or did this girl just have a traumatic event at a renaissance fair? O_o

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Introduce Yourself Here.... Posted: 6/29/2009 12:52:48 PM
Hello there i am Warrivar ive been in victoria for the past...8 years i think? yeah 8 years. I came to plenty of fish in 2005 like most people they joined because a friend said it was a good place to go. I have met some very shallow cruel people on here but i have met some truely nice people as well. My interest in this site right now is mostly writing and posting my opinion but i am definately up for meeting people, after all 128954th time is a charm right? hehe jk... so yeah that's my intro :P -Warrivar

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a blast from the past!...any similar experiences? Posted: 6/29/2009 12:06:49 PM
That's encouraging, and as someone else pointed out, the fact that it still bothers you is a good sign. I'm happy to see you're aware, even as you still struggle with anger. I hope you're doing better lately. thanks Key :) Alot of people have the misconception that you can actually eliminate any issue you have. the reality is it never goes away but it will become less and less of a burden as you come to terms with the problem. there will always be that little bit of influence poking at you you will ALWAYS carry it with you. the contents just get lighter.

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a blast from the past!...any similar experiences? Posted: 6/29/2009 12:00:03 PM
sidewinder154 so are you saying that she should be slapped? Yeh... maybe you better go talk to a therapist about your anger problems Yes, yes that is right i really wish she should be slapped....come on It was a metaphor, i like to think that when presented with a mirror of sorts into what the person has done or how they behave through emotional pain that they would somehow realize the folly in themselves. Maybe that is just expecting too much of people, i don't know. and i kinda already did talk to a therapist, that is why i dont throw chairs anymore, i use my words. I feel sorry for hurting Carly, if i did. It is that sense of remorse that separates people who have come to terms with what they are, and meager bullies. Brown Eyed Woman OP...do you know that she recognized you from school before she called you? yes she, called told me her name and where we went to school. Then i recognized her voice and i wish it was a misunderstanding but it was not i was hoping it could have been someone who wanted to get together for a coffee and chat, bury a few hatchets and such but it was just a childish prank call that really hurt actually. I sent her an email after the call asking her if what i said hurt and if she now maybe understands how i felt back then when people hurt me. she never responded.

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a blast from the past!...any similar experiences? Posted: 6/29/2009 2:11:28 AM
Her call was very immature, for starters. But she didn't call to give you a hard time, she called just to tell you that she was "hot now!" WOO-HOO! Just another typical airhead. lol even with her newly aquired figure i wouldnt even hit her with a baseball bat. I love the bleeding heart finger pointers that have come out of the wood work so far as to refer to me as at the same level as her. there is an obvious difference between going out and looking to try and hurt someone and repelling their attack with the same method. it's called standing up for yourself, turning the other cheek works with people who learn their lesson, but if it takes you this freakin long to understand that people do not enjoy being harassed you need a slap across the face.

Joined: 11/6/2005

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a blast from the past!...any similar experiences? Posted: 6/29/2009 1:24:21 AM
Yes actually i did feel like a jerk cause i dug into a wound that im sure is/was much deeper than mine. This call happened a year ago, and of course i still have some anger management issues no one ever comes baggage free, and if people think they are clean of all such skeletons they are kidding themselves. I was more disgusted not at her, but what i became because of people like her. besides why would people even be confused on my stance? if i said i felt sorry for how i treated carly after the call i wouldnt write my retort to be proud of it. Another question for people out there: When you snap at someone out of anger or repressed feelings are you any different than me?

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a blast from the past!...any similar experiences? Posted: 6/29/2009 12:41:06 AM
Well this is a bit strange i havent written about this for awhile but in recent months i found it kind of funny here it goes. In grade school i wasnt the most well adjusted person and i got picked on alot but like most people we grow and mature and move on with our lives. So one day i get a message from someone i cant even remember the profile name but whatever, we talked a bit exchanged numbers and that is when it hit me. The person calling was a girl from one of my old classes in middle school who i havent seen or heard from in years. Well i was a bit shocked and asked her how she was doing after all of these years and what was new in her life, but i get this in a response... "Oh yeah nothing much i just lost so much weight and now im smokin hot, by the way didnt you used to throw chairs when you got angry? god i hope you are not like that now but you are using a dating site to meet women so i doubt you got any better." giggles were heard on the other end. then i just responded back "Carly...that was 13 years ago, but hey while we are focusing on the past maybe since now you are a hottie you can start a gig on a street corner downtown, im sure people will pay more than five dollars like my friend Kyle did back in the da-" then she hung up. It just baffled me that someone would actually spend their time finding people they once knew a long time ago just to phone them and attempt to hurt their feelings. I know i cant be the only one who feels this way but...for cryin out loud 13 years...in that time i out grew my problems and became a whole different person but some people i guess were more sick than myself. after a few weeks passed from that call i actually began to feel sorry for Carly and i hope that she has been able to deal with whatever baggage she had. has anyone else had this experience of people from the past comming back to haunt them on this site? or met any immature stalker types with self-esteem issues? if so please share your tale :P

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How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did? Posted: 6/14/2009 7:44:32 PM
I cannot agree with you more. i just got back from Vietnam i was there teaching English i lived on my own for 9 months in a foreign land, spoke maybe 2-3 sentances of the language got my own job paying 16USD/hour (which over there is the equivalent of a 6 figure income) cooked all my own meals paid all my own bills and it was a total eye opener for me. so many people in the first world do not understand how fortunate they are to be able to live on their own. Take a look at the immigrant families in Canada, the Chinese, Vietnamese, Indian, Eastern European, etc. the majority of them live with their parents because of two reasons 1.) it is financially viable 2.) it's their culture for cryin out loud. Now granted i cant stand my mother most of the time. I live with her at the moment because of reason number 1 and i need to find a job here until my teaching term starts up again in Vietnam. also she has a torn rotator cuff so she cant lift anything heavier than 5 pounds without strain and risking damage. and yes i do pay rent on top of helping her out with heavy lifting and physical tasks im not a deadbeat. I think we in North America can benefit from the family models of our homelands. back there the family is one unit and they are interconnected always looking out for eachother by doing so they preserve thier family name and financial strength as the generations pass. Here...we cant even be bothered to sit at the same table to eat with them. we feel ashamed to ask them for help, and it is deemed embarassing to live under our parent's roof. When i was over there i dated a woman in her late 20's who lived with her parents and they would invite me over for dinner i would share my experiences with them and in turn learn thier customs and table manners it was an interesting experience that i was not used to.

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How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did? Posted: 6/8/2008 12:09:15 PM
i havent met anyone with that double standard yet but it does seem rather ridiculous. i live with my mother and i am 24 i will be going to school but i see people who would never date someone because of thier live in situation as incredibly shallow and spoiled. My mother and I are very much intertwined in providing for the house. she is on disability and has a pension comming in but that alone is not enough to pay for the house so i step in and cover the other expenses. we just got new tenants in the basement suite so now we dont need to pay as much into the house but it still takes a good chunk of change. If i were to move out of the house my mother could not afford to keep it. and besides my cats are there and i like my cats. so i take a denial like this somewhat seriously cause being able to live on your own at a young age is a privelage very few people have in the world and is not a very good excuse to not date someone.

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Day before I propose, we break up. . . Posted: 6/7/2008 10:22:48 PM
what she did to you was disgusting. i had my heart broken 500 miles away from anyone i knew, i was told "you are being replaced" those exact words i kid you not. you tried to better yourself and provide more for a relationship and she decides to dump you for someone else. if your pain is anything like what i felt and im guessing it is. it is unforgivable, she lied to your face and could not muster the honor to be honest with you from the begining in my opinion even if she has the body of a porn star, she is beneath excrement and we all reap what we sow. i want you to listen to the following words i have to say friend... what is important is that you overcome this it took me a good four years to get over what happened to me but despite all the times my ex has been dumped or used the ultimate victory is that i have moved on. and no you did not do anything wrong, like i said she took your trust and wiped her arse with it. SHE failed YOU and no one man or woman deserves to be treated as such. and while being aware of all this you be aware of your own actions and do not let the demons of jealousy and anger she has left you with be passed on to others. when you have bested them only then can you truely say you have moved on. the best of luck to you in overcomming this, and if you need someone to talk to feel free to send me a message and vent. -Warrivar

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Re: Why do women post pictures of their breasts in thier profile? Posted: 6/6/2008 4:40:43 PM
Dude she over reacted over you asking a question that in no way (at least that i could see) be interpreted as offensive? well i think we figured out one possible explanation about women who post pictures of thier breasts, Insecurity. As for the main reason i beleive it is just a simple case of wanting attention. i try not to bother with women like that. dont take anything Miss pancake chest says seriously.

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Honestly When Are we Ready To start Again Posted: 8/12/2007 9:06:08 PM
hey its alright ive done it too. i have an ex of 3 years and i would probobly be sick to my stomach to talk to her. the truth is we never really are over anybody there is always one little shred of memory of feeling that will be with us if they are involved with us in this way. My advice is to talk to friends about it, see a therapist and start the next one off slowly friends first you know :P

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Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me? Posted: 3/28/2007 6:55:15 PM
Just because a guy is 'living their dream, passion, interest' doesn't mean they don't also want to have a real relationship with a woman. 100 percent behind ya strat i for example used to work in restaraunts as a dishwasher it was hard work, weak pay, and id get the odd scream fest usually pointed in my direction, well i had it when the chef decided to wave a knife in my face and said "Do you wanna get stabbed?!" when i told him to quit crying because i couldnt get the dishes to him in time. so yeah i went into jewelry making and so far im doing quite well. i am busy alot of the time but i can easily make time for someone special ^^ i usually just make up for lost time with my jewelry by motoring it before time with someone else.

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Am I crazy for falling for a man who's going to be leaving me? Posted: 3/28/2007 6:49:57 PM
see i wish people would just be honest "no im not interested sorry but im flattered ^^" works great. but instead they make up excuses like oh im going on a pilgramige to cancun, off to war, gonna be gone all next...year, or im going on a bike trip around the world. best thing to do dolla is to just bite the bullet, and keep lookin, sides one guy out of...3 billion? a drop in the bucket ^^ and no i dont think your a fool sometimes we get crushes and other people dont feel the same way.

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