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How do you feel about this? Posted: 11/23/2009 6:55:52 PM
I have been on POF for about a 18 monts now and am kind of gettting tired of doing all the talking and asking questions.It seems to me that most of theguys in here are into this "chemistry thing" and will not be able to handle someone who is real and willing to get to know them first.I quess it is all about sex in here-am I getting the right feeling about this?

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How do you feel about this? Posted: 11/23/2009 6:15:49 PM
You find yourself a nice person on POF.He contacs you and he seems quite your type etc.You send him a letter back and receive one in return again-the problem is that he answeres all your questions but will not ask anything about you-bad fish??I personally find it kind of odd that someone contacs you but will not ask anything personal about you after we have exchanged letters for few times-how do you guys take this?

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Ditching a person that's Bad News Posted: 11/22/2009 7:23:07 AM
You do not get involved wwith what family members have said about him. See if you can pull some public info about him in the clerks office where he moved from.Personally i would just say to him that I am not interested in dating anyone at this time and wish him luck.Leave him alone.

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Mouth Shut or Tattle? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:18:30 PM
Ask your friend..............hmmm ,is April seeing someone else besides you?I bet he will say"why!"Then politely say......just wondering.....-this gives him a reason to think how it would fell if he found out that April was getting around with other guys. I would have a talk with my friend if I knew she was sleeping with multiple partners. AIDS AIDS AIDS

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She doesn't know about his other dating profile Posted: 11/12/2009 8:36:04 AM
No-you have feelings for him!Let him go and stop spying on him.

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What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 11/12/2009 8:28:58 AM
A confident guy -who knows who he is and doesn't need to bragg but mostly doesn't need to put down his date!Wow!!A real GENTLEMAN!

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What to do,What to do? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:44:59 PM
HE IS HOMELESS!A married man would not have you pick him up in front of his apartment!

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Have you ever fallen in love with a sociopath?? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:31:13 PM
Another thing.........they seem to have an urge to tell what "horrible things "others have done to them-they are actually talking about themselves. In a relationship they are out to get you 100%-they steel things from you and make you think that you are grazy. They make up lies about you to people who foolishly believe in them.For excample-if they are abussive they will turn things around on you and start telling to their"friends "that you are actually the one that is abussive.......everything is a cover up.They are perfect "stagers"where they commit the crimes but innocent people get accused for them...seen it done myself .was a victim of such an indevidual ...........satan himself!

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BUSTED! LMAO Posted: 10/12/2009 5:48:27 AM
Well-here it is.It is amazing all the stuff you can find out about a person if you are only willing to take your time and get to know the person first. I have met quite a few a$$holes on this site -is is like buying an used car..you just never know who or what you ended up dealing with. Good for you -you got him busted !

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what's up with this? Posted: 9/22/2009 4:05:23 AM
Chances-thank you for asking.Europe was great-loved it,took millions of pics. Everybody should travel there at least once in the life time. I am going to make you all laugh by telling you the weirdest thing that happened to me on the trip.On the way back(since all the luggage can not be locked )all my underware got stolen ..............go figure!lol

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what's up with this? Posted: 9/22/2009 3:55:30 AM
Soxfan-I am a very good communicator.I can talk to someone from politics to health issues.Nobody has ever felt that I can not keep up with them.Thanks

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what's up with this? Posted: 9/21/2009 10:55:08 AM
GentlemanJim-You said it all-red flag!I thank you-no more to say.

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what's up with this? Posted: 9/21/2009 10:43:07 AM
thanks to all of you guys for your responses.I have communicated with him for 4 monts-he is out of state. Secondly.I wasn't going to bragg about going to Europe to him.............I just explained to him that I was going to be gone for 3 weeks -I could have been going to Cleveland. I am a very regular kind of gal-funny thing was that when he called he was telling me all about his trip to Los Angeles etc.I asked him many questions about the weather there etc......I showed plenty of interest............my point in this was that he did not ask -not one-guestion about me!Not even ..what have you been doing today!!!!!!!!Ouch! Oh well-I think that I'll answer his call one more time and out of curiousity I am going to see if he will ask anything about me whatsoever and then in the end I am going to say that"so nice to hear everything about YOU"- better just let him go.Everyone have a beautiful fall time!

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what's up with this? Posted: 9/21/2009 3:28:55 AM
I started to communicate with this real nice guy.We have communicated for a while now.Three weeks ago I returned back home from a 3 week vacation from Europe. He called ,but I was so surprised that he did not ask me one question about my trip.I didn't hear that "so nice to talk to you again" etc..All the conversations we have is about him.Last time I made a point not to say anything about me but totally concentrated on him...quess what -he talked himself out of a possible relationship. My question to all of you guys is,would you write him a letter telling the reasons why you are not interested in communicatin anymore or would you just plain old english not answer his calls?

Msyesterday

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Justifying Cheating? Posted: 8/30/2009 1:35:54 PM
well,this is what you get if you'll waste all yoour money whhile being married and refuse to see what might happen if things are not going well. I used to call this kind of situation"married yet single"-only the bills are the uniting factour-no more marriage for me!I have retired from that mess !

Msyesterday

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Whats wrong with a single parent woman? Posted: 8/18/2009 3:10:20 PM
And don't forget some of these men in here are only for adoption-they are also looking for "mommie" and would like you to support them!Ouch!

Msyesterday

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FINDING OUT SECRETS Posted: 8/12/2009 3:43:59 AM
Men say a lot of things-look at his actions.Why do yoou think he is still corresponding with other women?The bottom line is -you ain't it!Delete him out of your life. Ask yourself .....why is he still" shopping around".Good thing that you found out now . Why would any man still correspond with other women after making a commitment to be with you?Again-YOU AIN"T IT!Sorry

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Is it really rude to ask a woman her age? Posted: 7/19/2009 7:29:40 PM
When people ask me about my age I am 53 but tell them I am 61!!!!They are always amazed how great I look for my age-just a private joke!Try it sometime.

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Signals? Posted: 7/9/2009 3:04:37 PM
Of course you are confused-he is talking about himself put did not have the nerve to tell you that he was the one who wanted to brake up from you!He has a new GF lined up.sorry

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Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back?? Posted: 7/9/2009 2:26:21 PM
I got myself into a relationship and we decided to to see each other exclusively.We agreed to close our accounts.I did, he didn't he was smart enough to go under "hiding".this was an answer to me that he was still fishing.I deleted him out of my life.

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Boyfriend continues to get on POF behind my back?? Posted: 7/9/2009 6:34:37 AM
If you have a commitment to be together ,personally I would close my account -I got my fish!If he doesn't or goes under "hiding"....he is still looking for better "fish". Why to leave the "back door"open?Just my opinion...........

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Why do we women do this to ourselves? Posted: 7/9/2009 6:26:53 AM
Why do you think that it is SO important to get to know the person FIRST. Guys are quite easy read...when he meets you, listen carefully what he says.if everything seems to turn into sex as he speaks-you are there for his bootycall . Sometimes we women are too desperate to fall in love and we refuse to listen and really take the guy what he is worth.You know what-the guys are well aware of this! they can pretty much tell if a girl is desperate.sorry

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Would you ever consider? Posted: 7/6/2009 4:08:27 AM
That's true but like in everything in life -you need to put in some common sence.Like I said earlier it is the person sitting in the chair that I would be interested in.I am not a person who would not settle for an alcoholic or someone who is using drugs-with the chair or without.Again "the wheels"would not make any difference to me-hell,I may be renting the seat one day myself.

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Would you ever consider? Posted: 7/5/2009 4:23:51 PM
I quess I am blindfolded to some kind of degree since I do not focus on people's colors or disabilities-I am totally focused on the person-believe me or not but we all have dissabilities to a certain degree-some inside ,some out.

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Would you ever consider? Posted: 7/5/2009 2:06:46 PM
I would absolutely consider dating a man in a wheel chair.I had a very close friend who was in a wheelchair..I took him everyplace I went(I was married at that time) People in wheelchairs can be as mean or loving as the rest of us -personally, it depends on the person who is taking that seat. I used to tell my friend in wheelchair that he wasn't any better that the rest of us 'cause he had wheels under him.

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Vagina Size Posted: 7/4/2009 2:14:57 PM
Let's clean this up a little bit-you boys are bad.lol

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Where are the decent men that are looking for more than just sex.... Posted: 7/4/2009 9:57:33 AM
Darling-you are advertizing yourself outside in and not inside out.If I was a man and after reading your profile I would consider you as a very easy target-just wondering if your sexuality is the only asset you have to bring into a relationship........sorry.

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Why do We Keep Attracting the Same Kind of Person? Posted: 7/4/2009 5:23:59 AM
Lakecountygal-you are so RIGHT!Great answer!This is actually what I am doing right now .

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Why do We Keep Attracting the Same Kind of Person? Posted: 7/4/2009 5:21:58 AM
When you meet these men do you give yourself ant time to get to know them first? How fast do you find out that these men are workaholics? Next time before you get into one of "these kind of "relationships ask yourself-"how do I fit into his life".It is really up to you what you are willing to put up with.good luck.

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Im getting sick of women lying to me.... Posted: 7/3/2009 6:30:28 PM
Well -same here.This site sure is like a car lot for used cars.....just about everybody who I have met is trying to push their stories -at times I feel like they are for "sale" ,holding a sign"pick me pick me". The bottom line is -take your time ,have nobody rush you.Don't fall for the "chemistry thing"-look for quality.Plain and simple.

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Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night? Posted: 7/2/2009 2:32:46 PM
Once you meet with a guy and he says something sexual about you within the first 5 minutes-he wants sex .plain and simple.ASAP

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How Long after the first meet should you say if your interested in that person or not? Posted: 6/28/2009 4:06:54 PM
If the date goes really well the guy will respond quite fast ,usually the next day.Guys need some "thinking time"so do not disturb him with more messages or e-mails.Guys can not stand a lingy girl.(=desperate)Be patient and just wait.if he doesn't call you by thursday he is about to go on another date with another girl!The weelend dates are very special to guys.Good luck to you.

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Should she have paid for her share of meal ? Posted: 6/28/2009 7:55:41 AM
MrGoodman-the "good old days"are still here-only you you will take your time to look for the kind of people that you are. I am very old fashioned in so many ways, if I was lucky enough to find a man from the old school-I would have considered finding a treasure. It is amazing to me that so many people judge each other by this "chemistry"thing.So many people are too desperate to get into a relationship!! Why so many marriages brake up so quick?Marriage or any other relationship will not survive on chemistry..it is all the other stuff behind that person that will make it or brake it.Good luck!

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What Happened? Posted: 6/28/2009 7:38:19 AM
From a womans point of view-she did not have cancer. She was hanging out with you"all the way"while she was looking for someone else.She didn't care about you in the first place(sorry),she used you as a "filler". I quarantee you felt this at some point.When a woman tells you that "she doesn't share her feelings with anyone",the answer is that she is a phsyco(unable to share)or that she is still looking because you ain't it.

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Should she have paid for her share of meal ? Posted: 6/25/2009 2:33:42 PM
Ok_i have learned from reading all of this bullshit...........next time I'll get invited out I will tell the guy that I will pay for my share of the dinner....ARE YOU ALL HAPPY NOW?I get so sick and tired of this pickering..............I have paid for plenty of dates...........when the bill arrives Ill grap it......I had a great time and that's the end of it....I know who I am ...........if the guy doesn't call or send me a thank you note-Quess what- he lost!!! It is so heart felt if a gentleman pays for the dinner............this tells a lot about the character of the man..................end of story.I come from the old school

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Should she have paid for her share of meal ? Posted: 6/23/2009 3:41:46 PM
This "who pays drama "has to end!Please ,put a posting on your profile if you are not willing to pay for the ladies meals/drinks etc.How can you enjoy your date or pay attention to her if in your mind you are counting nickles and dimes.I have paid for numerous dates...I do not even think about it.If you can not afford to date-don't do it! I usually arrive few minutes early and pay for my own glass of vino -just to make sure that the guy is not out of a nickle because of me.I understand times are hard. If a guy treats me nice on first date....I sure will take him out to a nice restaurant second time around and pay for the bill.If a guy is a real jerk.I make sure I pay for my own drink and walk out.

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I am getting used to being SINGLE, which scares hell out of me. Posted: 6/23/2009 3:16:14 PM
Iam So glad I am single now-I have actually retired from being a nurse and a purse! I have always had that someone in my life but NOW my freedom has arrived! I am using and loving my freedom-I can not believe that I can do now things I could not do before.I have always wanted to write a book about my life and NOW am actually sending CDs to moviemakers !!!I am doing things I dreamed about.One of my greatest joys is going out with young guys and having them tell me how they feel about girls across the bar-it is amazing to see how they "read girls". I have wonderful male friends who I go out on town every now and then........ Ok -yes I would get serious about a guy who...................yadayadayada. It is just wonderful to be treated with respect .....al the games are gone.I know who I am.And yes -have "willing great male friends" to put a ring on my finger once I am willing to "settle"...I quess I am a "run-away-bride".Just love it -love it!

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Your Friends Don't Like Him Posted: 6/7/2009 11:05:51 AM
For some odd reason your GF has trashed you to her friends...........they know too much about you ..........she is a very immature woman.

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Does anyone like being alone better? Can you take or leave having a relationship? Posted: 6/5/2009 2:08:21 PM
Same here-I would love to find mail companion-you stay in your place and I stay in mine.Ocassionally we can get together for intamacy ....I will not be able to handle a guy 24/7-I need my space too.Why do I need to wash your underware-I am doing mine as we speak.This dating really sucks........I am one of those girls that when I say....we on....can't get rid of the **stards....they are calling me at every hour and asking me how they fit into my life etc....I am such a burnout when it comes to relationships!The nicect dinners I have had lately are with my gay friends.they never push my puttons!Are there any guys left who could understand this?Mostly I am a "runaway bride".

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Crushin on my coworker but now freaked out! Posted: 5/31/2009 5:24:27 AM
His creepiness is your RED FLAG. Do not get into a relationship with him........he knows you are attracted to him and in his messaging he is telling you that -only sex baby!

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Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why? Posted: 5/31/2009 5:11:38 AM
Question-who is doing all the callng?If it's only you the guy is "polite "and tells you what you want to hear.If he has told you that he want to be "only friends"-he is actually saying-You ain't it.Move on.

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My boyfriend always needs to diss me Posted: 5/26/2009 6:05:19 AM
the problem is not him-it's you!You are letting him treat you like this!Give the looser to someone else and get yourself a real man!

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Women with other men in their pics... Posted: 5/26/2009 5:58:13 AM
For me having these women in the pics it's ok-I just can not understand these pics about motorcycles and cars.........hm I quess I should have pics of shoes and lipstics!

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So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!! Posted: 5/24/2009 2:32:20 PM
Married men-it's the wives who "unread /delete "your mail

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why do men always have to look at other women!! Posted: 5/20/2009 4:01:04 AM
I have been looked at many times by men -I have looked at other men while on date. Everybody looks! Couple of times I have seen men getting slapped over this"looking thing". My thoughts"Man, you got yourself problems-run, run ,run". I also had a date with this one fellow who actually stated to me that he looks but would not appreciate my looking at other men...............see ya!

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how do i get over him? Posted: 5/19/2009 4:13:13 PM
The whole situation is not about you it is about him .....a man will never treat his lady like s..t.You need to think about the bad days and ask yourself what makes you fall in love with loosers.You need to change and have better self respect not to fall in bad relationships!Good luck!

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Doing the right thing...what would you do? Posted: 5/17/2009 7:38:33 PM
Sorry- I understood that you were the father. I would still make the complaint and send the proper authotities to her address. It is a shame that a baby's life is at sake in the arms of his/her own mother. Good luck to you but mostly to the innocent baby.I quess there was a reason why she is your ex-keep it that way.

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Doing the right thing...what would you do? Posted: 5/17/2009 1:04:17 PM
What are you doing with the informer?Forget all about the informer and do what YOU need to do concerning the law.....take care of the baby as a man,call social services asap and \use the informer as your wittness.NOW!

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if you had a child and they were born mentally challenged, would you keep it? Posted: 5/12/2009 11:29:14 AM
Cms2008-thank you for your response.Great answer. When I was preagnat I was told that my child would be born severely handicapped.Also I was told that the child would not live past 22 years. My ex told me immediately that if I would keep the child he would leave.I told him that it's ok -leave and do not look back.He stayed and perfectly normal child was born few months later.She is the joy of my life. Sometimes life turns us upside down... Years ago I had a privilege to care for a handicapped indevidual.He was in a wheelchair.He was the smartest man I have ever met yet the most loving friend.He passed away right in front of my eyes -i was priviledged knowing an angel.