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michchick

Joined: 11/9/2005

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Why can't I seem to get over him? Posted: 9/15/2008 12:30:17 PM
Hi Im so sorry for your pain. Its been over a year for me and Im still having a hard time getting over my guy that I was with 2years. (check my posts I used to be a mistress) I see his car in town and my heart drops. I wish I could have a quick remedy for your broken heart. I do agree with the other pster I think he had something going on for awhile with someone else. I understand this is something your not going to get over with overnight. Me Im lucky I have alot of goood friends and family that care about me. (Most say I should be over him by now.) I dont think there should be a stime limit ever! I just want you too know u are not alone . Stay busy my problem is Ive had to have a few surgeries, well just had another one. I havent worked in a year hopefully can go back soon. I know its hard going to work your mind spins and spins I didnt go into work a few times. But u have to force yourself. Surround yourself with good friends even when u dont wanna go out make yourself. Dont be a hermit. I know easier said then done. I really wish the best for u and hope u come out of this with flying colors. Take care and best of luck to u!! Karen

michchick

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is there a time limit for getting over a man? Posted: 6/23/2008 6:28:17 AM
It will be a year in August since I got dumped by my lying cheating boyfriend. And it hasnt seemed to gotten any better and seems like it just happened yesterday. My friends say I need to to get over this but its been so hard. I saw him in his corvette yesterday and my heart droppped. I guess it would be easier if I was working and busy but Im sick waiting for surgery. On my good days I try to stay busy but mostly my head just spins thinking of him. I hate myself for it. Yesterday was Sunday and that was our big day together. I did get out for a bit but ended back home have a pity party. Im not looking for sympathy or pity here. Im just trying to moveond thats what my head tells me someone please explain it to my heart. plus we live in a small town Im getting tired of hearing hes been doing anything with legs . I just pray to god that some day it will get easier

michchick

Joined: 11/9/2005

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Still not over my ex!!! Posted: 6/18/2008 10:04:42 AM
Im so sorry for your pain. It will be a year in August for me and my breakup and most times it feels like it just happened yesterday. For me its hard because Ive been sick and not working for awhile now so I sit at home and my mind races most days to where I feel like Im gonna go crazy. I pray u will have an easier time than I. U seem like u have a huge heart . (and yes this guy does sound like a jerk) mine was too. Im lucky my parents live next door to me I have a few close friends. Its important to surround yourself with people. Dont be too much of hermit that seems to be my mistake sometimes. I just want u too know u arent alone and maybe someday u and even maybe me will find someone who truley loves us for us. I prefer it to be a little earlier then maybe me in a wheelchair in the retirement home. lol sorry 45 spinster here! lol U are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless. Karen

michchick

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My post [Closed Thread] Posted: 6/1/2008 9:16:25 AM
My post I was a mistress at Broken Hearts was pulled last week I don understand y. Too many responces? Karen

michchick

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now thats some good advice Posted: 7/20/2006 12:19:43 PM
wow well said new

michchick

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now thats some good advice Posted: 7/19/2006 2:49:39 PM
Lira girl your cool! You dont have to stick up for all the narrow minded people on this site. I know Im a good person and learn from our mistakes. And as for me opening up my legs Blow me *hole! Your a**ead!!

michchick

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now thats some good advice Posted: 7/18/2006 3:10:45 PM
Its ok. And no I am not dating right now. Just a single girl working hard at 2 jobs. Ive got incredible freinds awesome parents and MY DOG LOVES ME! Right now thats all I need and a million dollars wouldnt hurt!! Thanx all for the input.

michchick

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now thats some good advice Posted: 7/18/2006 2:20:11 AM
I agree lira I will and thank you.

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 7/17/2006 2:56:50 PM
Oh yeah Im so friggin picky! Hell yes I live in gomer and gooberland asswhipe!!****ead

michchick

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Alzheimers Posted: 7/16/2006 10:26:49 AM
God bless you! My mom is in the early stages. And it breaks my heart this is one of the reasons I dont go back to the big city and work even though this small town crap drives me crazy. I bought a house right next door to my parents. I have a degree in hotel/rest management. But this winter I got involved in home health care. Im going this fall to become a cna. If you would have told me 10 yeras ago I was getting in the medical field I would have laughed in your face!! But our parents took care of us all of our lives now Im gonna take care of her I love her. I wish u well! God bless Karen

michchick

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is there a postet on me were i can't see telling men iam only a sex oblect and that alone ? Posted: 7/15/2006 12:50:55 PM
I hear you I feel the same way. But I think its the men we are picking, I myself have an awful track record with guys. Hopefully it will get better I wish u luck also! Karen

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 7/9/2006 4:54:09 PM
Wow havent read though all these posts in awhile because I have 2 jobs and no life!! Wow! Interesting! Its so funny that people want me to keep this thread alive! No Im just responding to all the idiotic posts. Acting like they know me after a few posts. Whatever. Too funny. Have a great life and fellow pofs damn you are jerks! Meets me in real life youd love me after 10 minutes. Laters. lol

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 7/4/2006 2:48:46 PM
Its ok everyone is no problem! God bless lira. Take care

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 7/3/2006 3:17:02 PM
omg lira u are so right! and guys dont see this! Hey its sucks Im a a small town among idiots! Sorry Im picky!v But hey grill me to the grind! Im ready! GIVE IT TO ME!! god bless all the gilrsthat feel like me. Im gonna be miserable and alone then misreable the with someone thanx but no thnax! HAPPY 4th! Hey Ill be working in Mackinaw City Mich till 2:30 but be aalone all night enjoy!! ANd dont pity me Never asked for your ****ing PITY!!

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 7/3/2006 2:44:17 PM
Darlin! It ddont give a sshit about other posts. Whatver posts are whatver! qUIT READING into maybe your own insecurities. Stop it with mine! Frankly I dont care! Hey POfs dig in! I dont CARE!!! Laterssssssss

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 7/3/2006 6:41:56 AM
Your wrong just replying to the posts. I could care less about the attention. But thanx for your input anyway.

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 7/2/2006 7:03:00 PM
nah didnt need to did it on my own. Thanx though

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 7/2/2006 2:03:25 PM
hey its ok Im ddoing really good without him!!

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/25/2006 2:39:56 PM
No thats just plain NASTY! ***hole! God Ieven retruned your email. What the hell were u thinking? Hey pofs dump on me as you will!! I can take it all!!

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/22/2006 9:43:52 PM
Thanx so much!!

michchick

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How do you stop hoping? Posted: 6/21/2006 4:42:20 PM
Im so so sorry for your pain. But something doesnt sound quite right. God a great guy that loves me!! But I have no kids. I pray your situation gets better! Noone wants to hurt! God bless and keep us in touch!! Karen

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/21/2006 3:49:00 PM
No he doesnt have children and hes on the outs with his woman. But it doesnt make it right for me! I was lonely its a small area im a city girl among rednecks. Hes a city boy we were just comaptible! I ****ed up FORGIVE ME POFSERS!! EVERYONE HATES ME!! we all make mistakes yes my trackrecord with men is sketchy but hey im not in the metropolis Im in gomer and gooberland ist hard to meets GUYS!! I want a city boy! I SCREWD UP!! Forgive me and quit telling me to seek advice! Damn Im just a lonely girl who made some bad choices!! DAMN

michchick

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Being single sucks!!! Posted: 6/20/2006 2:26:05 PM
No being single does suck! Im in a small town the pickins are slim. But I always have hope. Even though it is hopeless! God bless!

michchick

Joined: 11/9/2005

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/20/2006 2:04:25 PM
Actually im cool I have a great perspective. Thanx to all hes history ! Sorry its been rough but thanx to all your advice bad or good. Hey Im really a good person. "Very grounded belive it or not do not judge me from 3 or 4 posts if you met me in person u would be floored! Take care love to all my fellow pofs!!! Karen

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/20/2006 6:31:43 AM
What call am I suppose to be making? lol

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/19/2006 9:35:28 AM
Like I said I welcome all replys good or bad. TY have a great day!!

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/18/2006 4:57:52 PM
Wow people on pof are really heartless! Dont worry I have tough skin! Wasnt looking to be cuddled!! lol

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/18/2006 4:18:19 PM
Thanx all for your replys! And to all your heartless ***holes BITE ME!! Im not looking for sympathy!!

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/18/2006 8:25:24 AM
wonderful words thank you

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/18/2006 8:07:24 AM
I come here for advice not a pity party. Get a life and grow a heart

michchick

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Ready to give up Posted: 6/18/2006 7:03:12 AM
Well where do I start? Ive been friends with a man that lives downstate who owns a bar in my town he travels back in forth. We are compatible in every way he lives with a women downstate and I know its crazy but I try to pretend thats not going on. Eventually I crossed the freindship line and weve been lovers now for a few months. Im not made of stone and I knew eventually Id develop some feelings for this man. No its not love but Im infatuaited yes. I got off work the other night walked in the door there was some girl young enough to be his daughter dancing in front of him he was totally getting off on it. Then they were on the back patio alone in the dark. I took him out in the parking lot and screamed at him then ended up going home with him. I told him if I had not come in he would be going home with her. He said he likes her thinks shes hot but wouldnt hurt me like that. I dont belive him. Its a small town I told him I wasnt coming into the bar that night. I know he took her home last night and its driving me crazy. I cryed so much my girlfreind had to come and give me 2 Xanax to calm down. I feel like such a fool! This man is one of my bestfreinds and I went against my gut feelings and I feel like an idiot here I am hurting again over another man. I cant take much more of this but at the same time I have noone to blame but myself!!

michchick

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Confused Posted: 6/15/2006 5:04:33 PM
God help you sweetie! I hope everything goes as planned. I hate to be the pesamist but the whole thing doesnt sound good. I hope for your sake u get what u want u seem Like u have a big heart "like me" But those are the ones that get burned. Stay in touch and GOD BLESS!!! Karen

michchick

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why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink?? Posted: 5/29/2006 3:49:42 PM
Im sorry I am a city girl living back in a small town. And Im sorry but the bars are the meeting places around here not necesacarily to go out and get drunk its a social thing. Yeah sometimes I hate it but I know sometimes I can just kick back and have a pop (not a beer and shoot the shit!) Sorry thats the way it is in a small comunity! Gomer and Goberland!! Yes I hate it but my parents are verry ill and if it were up to me Id be in Chicago!!! But I have morals and bars are not a bad place. Its a meeting place! Grow up loosen up and get the hell outta the house!! Deadbeat housebums. Meet some people! People in bars arent bad people!!

michchick

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Allow Me To Introsuce Myself....I'm The Guy Your Talking About Posted: 5/29/2006 3:33:00 PM
God I feel for you! Im going through the saame exact thing! I l;oved my b/f to death he deacided he didnt wanna be exclusive but I just found out he has been the past 3 months! ***hole! I met a new guy him and i have beenb close friends for over 7 months hew lives with someone downstate. Yes I cant belive I crossed the line but we are so compatible but he did something last week that made me think maybe should have not crossed this line..it was something outta a movie he scared me bad. And Im noit really sure I still wanna be his freind even though im extremley attracted to him. Im beginning to think im notn worthy and just be alone for awhile. I wish u well! Better then I. Karen

michchick

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So, yew want yer cake n' eat it too!!...how about a muffin? Posted: 5/29/2006 2:40:09 PM
oH plEASE ALL MEN bITE ME!! Im a very nice person very loyal I ha my guys who I seriously fell for and told me he didnt wana to comitt(hes been married twice sshould have been my first red flag.) He told me if he was ever going to be exclusive it would be with me! He imd me 2 days ago said hes been serious wwith someone ffor 3 months he got tired of dating! I loved him so dont give me this men bullshit! Ive been going out wiith someone else a friend! I ccossed the line big mistake! Im gonna be celibate! I dont wanna hurt anymore!!! So screw men! You are all dogs!!!! BITE ME!!! lol

michchick

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Having Him as a Friend or Not At All, which pain is worse?? Posted: 5/28/2006 12:32:22 PM
I feel so bad for you! Im going through a simialr situation. Ive got a guy Ive been best freinds with for 8 months. Well we eventually crossed the line. Now Im not sure Ive done the right thing. Dont get me wrong we are so compatible and I enjoy every moment with him but...he lives with someone downstate and comes up state 3 days a week. I feel like Im going out with a married man. MY g/fs tell me to just ride the wave that when we are together they can tell he really likes me. But last night I got drunk at his bar I left my car there and he drove me home we got in a fight and omg he pulled a gun on me it was something outta a movie. This is to crazy drama drama drama I wish u well girl!!

michchick

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Whats more important.sex,drugs or alcohol? Posted: 5/23/2006 5:12:17 AM
Sex Sex and more Sex!!! 24/7 Baby!!!

michchick

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Ive been used to Posted: 5/10/2006 12:42:50 AM
Yeah it was catty. lol But ive got thick skin thanx for your support! Karen

michchick

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Ive been used to Posted: 5/9/2006 12:20:47 PM
Sorry I never meant to seem stuck on myself im a very nice person with a heart of gold and am sorry if I came across that way I really arent a self centered person just a little frustrated right now.

michchick

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Ive been used to Posted: 5/9/2006 12:16:44 PM
And no I didnt jump inot bed with him weve been freinds for 7 months

michchick

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Ive been used to Posted: 5/9/2006 12:15:17 PM
Lol I rock in bed. ty you very much. Damn its getting nasty in here.

michchick

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Ive been used to Posted: 5/9/2006 11:51:42 AM
Dont worry I did use protection. And dont worry Im not going there. Im kinda skeezed out right now. If you saw this girl you would be too still cant believe he did it.

michchick

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Ive been used to Posted: 5/9/2006 10:44:01 AM
Ive known this guy for about 8 months now we became buddies instantly and had been hanging out quite a bit lately. Hes a new bar owner in my area and hes just so much fun. Well I crossed the line and slept with him and it was great! But now I hear that hes slept withsome ugly short hooch that works at the bar by my house. He doesnt know I know. Im extremely hurt. Yes I have no hold on him but I do feel used and knew something was up when I went to a birthday party and every question I asked him he pretty much ignored me. Right now Im going though so many emotions sadness dissapointment and total disgust. I mean I dont mean to sound snobby but Im an attractive women and this girl is so skanky!! Im bummed that its maybe cost our friendship. But I dont know what to say to him I was a **** on the phone with him yesterday. And feel like such a fool. Some advice please. I dont know how many more times I can handle this. Maybe I was just meant to be alone. But im so lonely! Help advice please.

michchick

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Like a punch in the Gut Posted: 5/2/2006 9:57:23 AM
Wow that guy was a first class jerk. Oh and I love u using twats. lol Me I call everyone hoochies especially guys! lol You are such a pretty girl and Im so sorry for your luck. I havent had very good luck in the men department either. But I always have faith. I trust you will be a little more on your guard men online are cads its so hard to trust. I wish u all the luck in the world sweetie. God bless. Karen

michchick

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Sex every night....good thing, right? Posted: 4/27/2006 3:35:42 PM
24/7 Nympho here!!! YIPPEY!!

michchick

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When Guys Feel Their Girl's Bottoms In Public Posted: 4/27/2006 3:19:36 PM
hey not really gropping your butt but hey Id like my guy to touch my butt makes me think he thinks im sexy and is aware that Im there even if both of us are having conversations with other people. Makes me feel good.

michchick

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Getting Your Heart Broke....And Trusting Again..... Posted: 4/27/2006 3:12:19 PM
im back in the game after beein dumped. But I have to tell you Im extremely on my guard. Im the one that always gets burned in the end. Right now we are buddies. I have so much damn fun with this man. But we just hang out now. Yes he has kissed me but Im really not ready to cross that line.

michchick

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i think i might have been wrong...i wanna die again Posted: 4/26/2006 4:46:15 PM
Sweetie you are nice and Very sweet but its not gonna be good enough! Its gonna take time and not happen over night. It didnt for me. Get busy!! Be with good friends. I know this all sounds so lame!! But you have to overcome this! Its breaks my heart you still making excuses for him. Stop it now and move on with your life! You are sooooooooo YOUNG! Love will find your way again. I promise. Hell Im hoping it finds me too!! Take Care, Karen feel freee to priv im me darlin

michchick

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i think i might have been wrong...i wanna die again Posted: 4/25/2006 12:51:47 PM
Darlin Ive been reading this saga for weeks and its really time to bury this shit and get on with your life!! How much longer do you want to torture yourself? You are worth so much more!! Cut your losses kidnap the cat and move on. This guy is gonna put u in the nut house please cut your losses RIGHT NOW!!! God bless you and I really hope you can be strong enough to do this. Ill be your biggest cheerleader. NOW YOU GO GIRL!!! Karen

michchick

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broken heart .... yeh 4 my dog Posted: 4/22/2006 7:44:24 PM
Wow Id love to come down Under! I hope your doing better Jody. But its been since Jan 2nd for me and I still miss my Snickerspuppy. I just looked out the window my brother put abilone shells around his grave for Easter. (Hes from California) It looks so cool. But my heart is still breaking. I talk about him every day and have 2 pictures in my purse that I carry around. Sorry they are our kids. Im not ready to let go just yet! I like you are still mourning. (I had an aqauaitnece that said I needed to get over this.) Dont anyone give me a time limit! There isnt any!! Ill grive and u too for as long as we wish! God bless. Karen

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